Dear LIB readers; Is it OK for my ex boyfriend to date my sister?
From a female LIB reader
I dated my ex to the point he asked to marry me, but when we went
for genotype tests, we both tested AS. and that was where the whole
relationship came to a stop. We tried to wave it aside, but it was not
possible, considering the future. We never had sex while in the relationship but we kissed and we felt strongly for each other.
We have moved on, or would I say, I have moved on, cos am dating now, but he is not dating yet. My ex is so nice and am asking him to start a relationship with my sister and see if it will go far, since we didn't have sex. Please I would wanna seek Libers opinion on this. Is it weird?
Unless God wants them 2geda,u will defintely sleep with him once or more,if he marries your sister.....U guys didn't break up,cos u felt u were not meant to be 2geda,or cos issues arose,u guys were prefectly ok,u broke up cos of medical issues,so d feelings u guys have for each oda,is still very much intact,and being close to him,won't help matters at all....if u ask me,let him go completely...let him marry som1 else...pray about it shaa,God might have a different opinion...Thanks
If you are truly cool with it then carry on! That's your business to handle if it starts affecting you later on emotionally. And why do you have to be the one to suggest a woman to him? Let him find a woman himself!
awwwwww! so lovely of him. goes to show how much he loved you. plz let him marry your sister. from the picture of him you painted here he seems a very gud guy.
I think you might end up having feelings again for him if he dates your sister and it eventually leads to marriage. Considering that you'll be seeing him more often. The feelings might just spark up agin
100% supported. You are drawing what will be an ugly loVe triangle in future. Allow him find a girl of his choice. He's doesn't have to end up with som1 from your family.
Hmmmmmmm,I dnt knw sha! But she's ur sis...hence,u will surley keep seeing her with him n all...Dnt knw weather its just me but. Dnt reali like being around someone I have shared smtin with especially when we went our seperate ways cussa natural disaster............
its vry weird bt if u cn live wit u goin 2 pay ur sis a visit in d nearest future nd nt bodad bout bumpin into ur ex evry nw nd den,kul......bt hu on earth trys 2 hook up her sis wit her ex?rily weird
My dear u said u hav moved on, has d guy moved on? U said u guys felt strongly for each other hw sure r u that d feelings are nt still there. What u r trying to do is to close to home n very risky I would say find him smone outside ur family
my dear, the question is do u want to push ur 6ta to a relationship she is not into? or do u think it can work for u? my advice to u is dnt push ur 6ta bcos u think ur ex is a nice guy, remember neva trust guys they will always fail.
Wow,don't force ur sister on him,let him t ahead and date someone else & be happy. Even though u didn't have sexual intercourse with him,I find it STRANGE that you would even ask him to date your sister. I'm just saying though.
when there is an understanding in any situation, i believe the situation will definitely have no or little problem, though it totally depends on your sister whether she loves him and vice versa.
yes dear its very weird and you shouldn't encourage such. just wish him well and allow him to move on with his gentle heart and don't encourage ur lil sister to get involved in such .
yes dear its very weird and you shouldn't encourage such. just wish him well and allow him to move on with his gentle heart and don't encourage ur lil sister to get involved in such .
I don't think it is healthy for you. There are always feelings once you have had a relationship with someone. Your ex should look for a girl outside and leave your sister alone.
Well I really don't see a big deal in that, it depends on what u personally feel abt it, but don't u think u might still end up seeing each other if he remains in ur family, pls give it a proper thot so that it all doesn't backfire.
I think it's wrong for you to choose for him.Becos he is so nice doesn't mean you shld match him wit ur sister.if you really want to help him,pray abt it and tell God to give him his divine partner.don't be surprised if it might even be you. Chidinma.
Personally, I don't think it's a good idea. Yes they had a lovely relationship it was good while it lasted and that should be it. There's no need for u to drag ur sister and him into such torture. If u love him so much u shouldn't be suggesting this. I knew two sisters who something similar happened in their family and bliv me they don't see eye to eye. Best advice let things be just as they are......
Allow the young man to go, that it worked for both of u except for genotype doesn't mean ur sister is the successor. He is not an inheritance. He might not really be in love with ur sister. This might not end up well. Be wise and allow faith to take its course. Just pray for him to meet someone Good. #datsall
Not a big deal,but u kw we can't predict wat if he start dating ur sis nd he still feel sometin 4 u ' as u said felt strongly 4 eachoder'don't u think ders gonna b a problem with dat ....!
I dnt tink its gonna b ok,cos d feelings wil definately b dere...regardless of d fact dat u moved on....let him date sum1 dat is nt a close relation to u...i hop u undastand
Very very weird,did it once & it backfired on me.Was in form 5 and I told my exboyfriend(no sex too) to pretend as if he's my sister's boyfriend cos I was not free to introduce him as mine & he started loving her for real & I was so jealous,if not for d timely intervention of our mum,so pls think about it very well
if there is understanding and love, its no big deal. But are you sure, you will not be tempted to grow up the feels again and probably want to test him and see what you have missed? and this might hurt your little sis for a long time.
If the older sister has really moved on and forgotten the feelings she one shared with the guy, its no problem cos there will be no reason for her to get jealous or have secret affair with the guy who knows if he ended up marrying her sister. Actually, its a two way thing its not totally good nor bad but i'll not advice her to make this kinda move....it might destroy her family relationship with her sis, its not just about now.
Honestly, I dunno what to think......I kinda agree with princess sha. It takes maturity and God's grace o! You said "strong feelings".....you guys WERE really serious. If you can be sincere to yourself then its fine......just make sure you're sincere to yourself for future sake..........Wish you well
My dear its not a big deal. My ex is now married to my junior sis. We dated for 2 years, had sex, did everything two adults in love does. Things changed when he proposed to me and I went into prayer for the success of the marriage, becos this time its a serious bussiness. Lo and behold all the revelations I had was bad. Yes I have that gift. In each of the revelations I see two of us facing a different direction or doing things differently. I told him and becos he knows that I have that gift, he listened and we seperated peacefully. I got married to my husband after one year and some months. Now he is married to my junior sis and evry one is very happy.
If he dates/marries ur sister, der is d possibility dt u guys wil 1 day cont frm wer u stopped n even go further cos since d feelings r stil der, somthg wil def spark it up. U knw dt's 'cheating', 'incest'... Avin him as part of ur family is nt good, let him date som1 else.
i dont think its a gud idea cos u loved ur ex 2 d point of wanting 2 marry him. even though right now u think u dont feel anything for him, jealousy might set it if u c him and ur sis 2geda. they mite even get married.....do u think u can handle that?
u are a very good person and I evny ur courage, it cool as I see not in wrong, only few people will accept day.u d kind of lady dat will allow ur husband marry second wife,babe I commend u
I personally find it rather awkward that you're trying to match-make your Ex and your sister...Just outta curiosity,did you ever truelly love this guy? Are you sure paradventure the relationship leads to marriage,you'll be okay waking up everyday knowing your Ex is the father of your Nephews and Nieces? Wether or not you guys had sex,true Love is hard to die just like that...But oh well,if all three of you are okay with it,who am i to suggest otherwise?All the best :)
u are a very good person and I evny ur courage, it cool as I see not in wrong, only few people will accept that.u d kind of lady dat will allow ur husband marry second wife,babe I commend u
thats the dumbest thing i've ever heard! did ur sister ask you to pimp her out? nd why r u trying to set him up with someone else anyway? ugh! pple think of the silliest things sometimes
Hmmm! Trust me, it's crazy when u av to let go of someone so special to you. Buh in dis case my dear, take d courage to let go cos as much as u love him, u shouldn't be around him and der is no way he'll be wt ur sister without u being around him. I guess u know wah dat implies? So I suggest u should let him go his separate way cos wt d look of things, it actually shows u still love him. So my dear, der is no point. Hope I made a little sense. Wish u d very best.
I don't think it should happen....don't think about now,cos it sounds cool,think about the next 10 to 15 years,what will happen.Am talking from experience.
my dear to me i will just say u don't encourage him to do such coz you guys still feel for each other,and if that happens,your blood sister might not have d hundred percent trust for you guys coz whenever she sees both of you discussing,she will feel you guys are still deing for each other.
Do ur sister love ur ex? What u look out for in a man might not be what ur sis. Look out for. For me I can't date my sisters ex, I feel is not proper(my opinion)
Do ur sister love ur ex? What u look out for in a man might not be what ur sis. Look out for. For me I can't date my sisters ex, I feel is not proper(my opinion)
Its somow o..if dey meet somwhere and decide to date each other,no qualms..But me introducing dem to each other is a NO..Not cos of jealosuy..but my sister can't like all d tyns I like..and other reasons sha
Hope ur serious wen u say u have moved on?Cos if u haven't,u wud probably screw him wen his married to ur sis...By d way,did u seek ur sister's consent?Is she game?Cos if ur doing dis solely,babe u have a motive...
It depends on ur kinda person,u knw perceptions defers.....nothing wrong about it provided u can let go of what u had with ur X n move on wit ur life and wish dem well!!!!@rexo6
I think u are too greedy my dear. U dnt wanna leave the guy be. Believe me, uld be sneaking through d back to go fuck dis guy soon even if he's with ur sister.
My dear, if you so love and trust your sister go ahead. But let me tell you a life story about 2 sisters. The elder sister was approached by a man that she refused. Unknown to the two ladies, the man went to the younger sister who accepted him. When the relationship progressed and became serious for marriage, the older sister told the younger one of the man's interest in her and how she played him down. The sister went ahead and they got married. After the marriage, the older sister became an arch enemy to her younger sister though she is also married. So, think twice and think of the future. Love they say is blind. It cannot see the future.
My dear, as human beings, you will one day feel cheated especially if your marriage is not as good as your sister's or if there is any problem you will think of him. So, let sleeping dogs lie.ok!
It is, if you're the one suggesting it. If your Ex and sister did develop a thing for themselves and by themselves I'm totally good with that. After all love conquers all and can happen to anybody.
what makes u think he ll love ur sister the way he love u? If he wanted ur sister he would hv gone for her directly,maybe God is using dat test u both had to self u which u dnt knw if God actually wanted him in ur family u both would nt hv been As so do nt drive ur sister into de scene n let it be the way it is for everyday brings it own glory so i blive ur sister ll surely hv her own man
plz do not make this terrible mistake. I repeat, don't do it. talking from experience. Can't say much here, but heed my word don't do it. God bless u n give u d courage.
It's so weird abeg! Like someone said, you might end up regretting it, if your marriage is not as good as your sisters. Plus honestly, feelings have a way of reigniting especially in close proximity. So for the betterment of everybody, let him go.
It's so weird abeg! Like someone said, you might end up regretting it, if your marriage is not as good as your sisters. Plus honestly, feelings have a way of reigniting especially in close proximity. So for the betterment of everybody, let him go.
Y do I feel u'r at d verge of makin crious blunder? Jealousy n disrespct wil alws set at point as tym goes on.rmbr we hurt d most frm ppl we luv.beware
This is the weirdest thing i have heard anyone say. Why would i hook up my ex with my sister. This is just plain weird. If you say friend, we can say okay, but sister? mba o.
Well, I can't really advice but something of sort happened to me. I "dated" a girl once and we "broke" up but a while later, the younger sister and I hooked up. The relationship was so serious. I was ready to marry her as she waaay virtuous than the elder one and she didn't mind. The problem was there was carnal relationship in both cases as those were times of ignorance but mid way into the younger one's relationship, God came in for she and I. A very popular pastor I dare say "broke" us up for funny reasons... It was extremely painful but I fear what anonymous @7.28 said and remember, sex was a part of both. In your case, it seems safer. I'm HAPPILY married now so maybe the "pastor" did us a favour.
See world people!if ur sis had hookd up with him after u ended things,this same u will call her names.Now u want to sacrifice her on d alter of ur selfishness,its soooo wrong.She has her taste too,so wake up and grow up,it's over,let him go.
its totally weird, i think thats an excuse for the guy to still be around u. If not stopped now it could lead to something bad in the future ,probably wen u re vulnerable nd he cant help himself which will then eventually lead to an abomination.
Well dat is no news, in Warri here I have seen an elder sister snatch a junior sister's boyfriend and married him because she was prettier than her junior sister,Now linda ask people if this good for their own opinion? She even told the guy to make up his mind, if he is interested in marrying her or her sister. Now,how will that junior sister see her elder sister and husband? Comments please.
ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?! Is this a joke or what? Ok. My dear please, bring them together. In 2 years you'll be coming back to LIB to ask if it is wrong for you to be jealous that they are married or whether it is wrong that you still have feelings for him. Nonsense. Why will you come and set your own backyard on fire? Nigerians tire me. Personally, I think you subconsciously want him around you because you don't want anyone else to have him. All this caring and goodness you appear to be radiating na wash whether or not you realise it
hmmm..i tink dis is a stupid selfishness..pardon ma xpresn buh daz just d trut for me. She may b ur 6ta buh u guys r diff...u wer d one hu was diply n lov..nt her...do u nt knw dat dia's d tendency dat d sex u neva had...u may end up havn it cos u guyz r havn a suspended luv xplosn? Ur 6ta u definatly blame u if anytin goes wrong...jus x u may end up envyin her if d rel btw dem blosoms. Come to think of it...u may nt hav had an outryt sex buh obviously u had serios romances n u want ur 6ta to b romancd n slept by same man.. My dear...he's nt d only 9ice man out dia...n rmemba...ur 6ta has a ryt to chois wich obviosly may nt b dat guy. He's a 9ice guy...dah was to u...nt her...wak up to reality...ur dcisn is a very selfish one n x for me...it is nt only weird buh outrageous
Well u not d one to decide for him like he is some hopeless person,if he sees he can go with your sis no problem but I jes hope everyfeeling u have for him has died down otherwise there will be fire on the mountain,like jealously n all dat it musnt be ur sis..........*sighs*
what the hell are you thinking.... who ever thinks of that? pls don't try it. the dude hasn't moved on cos he still loves you. so wats the assurance that you guys wont fall for each other in the long run.... pls from a sincere heart, that's so not a good option.
Like transfer of ownership?C'mon!don't destroy yourself,see,u'll regret it if u do!let your sister find love elsewhere,let him find love outside ur circle.LatinoPINKY.
YES, it is weird. If you're imposing the relationship, why? Are you trying to keep him in the family or what? For what reasons? Anyway, let it all happen naturally. You'll figure it out soon.
which kind useless woman you be self..do you want to destroy your sister's life...mind your business..your sister should not and never date that guy...only if you want the guy to end up sleeping with both of you and people will class you sisters as useless sisters...SIMPLE....you don't know tomorrow you might end up sleeping with him....so stop looking at just today...
C'mon gurl__dnt b pathetic,u re jes feelin bad dat u ve moved on nd he hasn't nd if u gv ur sista 2 him trust me,he wil cheat on ur sista wit u.FULL STOP
That sex you guys didn't have it will surely happen one day and to stop it will become a problem. ..the best solution is to let him go ..his a man nd u said nice so he will eventually find another Woman..dnt put ur self in a life long complicated situation which might end both marriages
Hemmmmmm, am speechless don't just know wat to say coz am into d same predicament right now, been dating my girl for d past 6 years and got to know dat we both having d AS genotypes in june 2011, have tried different means to end d affairs but to no avail, as for your case I think dat will b a huge risk not worth taking coz u guys still have affection for each other and somthing can still happen, pls just let him B while u too do dame.
dont dare!!!! chance are that in future u'll remember the reasons why u fell in love with him in d first place, most especially if he's treating ur sis right and spoiling her. jealousy may set in.......there are other fishes in the ocean, why must it be the one u've tasted. she'll find another. odikwa serious matter oo. biko
HELLLL NO!!!LOBATAN LELE YI O... SOMEONE YOU ONCE HAD FEELINGS FOR WHAT MAKES YOU THINK ITHE DEVIL WON'T CREEP UP SOMETIME IN THE FUTURE. JOKING RIGHT?
Its not really healthy because the attraction between the two of of you is still there. You didnt sleep with him yet but if he still hangs around one day it will happen, then your sister will show you BH.
it's wrong if u instigate there unionism, what u dont fight/work for u cant value, will be gr8 u let the guy scout for himslf except he develop a natural feeling/likeness/ love for ur Sister. cos wat work perfectly for u & him might not work perfectly for him & ur sister.
SORRY GIRL IS NOT ADVICEABLE IF YOU REALLY LOVE THIS GUY LET HIM LOOK ELSE WHERE OR IF YOU MUST HELP LET IT BE OUT OF YOUR FAMILY BECAUSE ONE DAY WHEN YOU MEET AGAIN THIS FEELING WILL SURELY BURST UP
To me, I think where there's understanding and love, its no big deal.princess priceless
ReplyDeleteYes, its weird
DeleteIts depressing really....
DeleteIts all bout love
DeleteVery wEird...
DeleteUnless God wants them 2geda,u will defintely sleep with him once or more,if he marries your sister.....U guys didn't break up,cos u felt u were not meant to be 2geda,or cos issues arose,u guys were prefectly ok,u broke up cos of medical issues,so d feelings u guys have for each oda,is still very much intact,and being close to him,won't help matters at all....if u ask me,let him go completely...let him marry som1 else...pray about it shaa,God might have a different opinion...Thanks
DeleteIs kinda weird because you can't authorize him to start relationship with your sister. What if she the love is not there as much as you. Just free him as both of you have moved on.
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yes you should... If it's God's will for them to be together.
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Please don't go there... It may boomerang.
DeleteI'm sure u are joking right? Marry ur sister bawo.....
ReplyDeleteTo me, he there's understanding and love, its no big deal
ReplyDeleteNt al dat gud!
ReplyDeleteIf you are truly cool with it then carry on! That's your business to handle if it starts affecting you later on emotionally. And why do you have to be the one to suggest a woman to him? Let him find a woman himself!
ReplyDelete*for him
Deleteawwwwww! so lovely of him.
ReplyDeletegoes to show how much he loved you.
plz let him marry your sister. from the picture of him you painted here he seems a very gud guy.
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DeleteThere's nothing wrong with that.. Since you are the one hooking them together..
ReplyDeleteBunny..
I think you might end up having feelings again for him if he dates your sister and it eventually leads to marriage. Considering that you'll be seeing him more often. The feelings might just spark up agin
ReplyDelete100% supported. You are drawing what will be an ugly loVe triangle in future. Allow him find a girl of his choice. He's doesn't have to end up with som1 from your family.
DeleteIf its God's will you can't stop it... So let God's will be Done.
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You have made up your mind obviously so I don't get the question. Well follow your heart.
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is nt really bad if there is luv n understanding.
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ReplyDeleteI'm telling!! What a retarded question... When they fall in love u will go behind ur sisters back and fuck that man!! Ogbanje
DeleteYou stay behind your device typing trash always! Like I don't just get you. Man, Its time you go get a job!!!
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DeleteHmmmmmmm,I dnt knw sha! But she's ur sis...hence,u will surley keep seeing her with him n all...Dnt knw weather its just me but. Dnt reali like being around someone I have shared smtin with especially when we went our seperate ways cussa natural disaster............
ReplyDeleteNatural disaster indeed...lwkmd oh
DeleteIt has to do with mindset of individual involved,to me, l ll allow it flow.so babe I appreciate ur view.
ReplyDeleteooh hw cute u ar so sweet
ReplyDeleteits vry weird bt if u cn live wit u goin 2 pay ur sis a visit in d nearest future nd nt bodad bout bumpin into ur ex evry nw nd den,kul......bt hu on earth trys 2 hook up her sis wit her ex?rily weird
ReplyDeleteI seruzly agree with you
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DeleteGo for it. Not a big deal
ReplyDeleteNo it is wrong.
ReplyDeletehmmm....he is ur EX ohh..i dont knw bout dis one!
ReplyDeleteFor me there is nothing wrong wit dat since u guys didnt have sex y dating n like u said his a nice guy!
ReplyDeleteI see nothing weird here!
My dear u said u hav moved on, has d guy moved on? U said u guys felt strongly for each other hw sure r u that d feelings are nt still there. What u r trying to do is to close to home n very risky I would say find him smone outside ur family
ReplyDeletemy dear, the question is do u want to push ur 6ta to a relationship she is not into? or do u think it can work for u?
ReplyDeletemy advice to u is dnt push ur 6ta bcos u think ur ex is a nice guy, remember neva trust guys they will always fail.
Sure he can
ReplyDeleteNo! Recipe for disaster!!
ReplyDeleteSure he can
ReplyDeleteNot weirD at all dearie
ReplyDeleteAs long as u won't get jealous in future its ok, but before search ur heart very well to be sure dat is what u want.
ReplyDeleteWow,don't force ur sister on him,let him t ahead and date someone else & be happy. Even though u didn't have sexual intercourse with him,I find it STRANGE that you would even ask him to date your sister. I'm just saying though.
ReplyDeletewhen there is an understanding in any situation, i believe the situation will definitely have no or little problem, though it totally depends on your sister whether she loves him and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteNot weird to me ooooo
ReplyDeleteSince u never had sex.i see notin wrong in it#Linda 4 once post my comment nau#
ReplyDeleteSince u never had sex.i see notin wrong in it#Linda 4 once post my comment nau#
ReplyDeleteIts a ÅŠO̶̷̩̥̊͡ ÅŠO̶̷̩̥̊͡ 4 M̶̲̥̅ƹ .
ReplyDeleteIf There s understanding bt s ganna be eazy,but pray 4 God direction in ur life
ReplyDeleteOf course some men marry 2 sisters with mutual understanding
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ReplyDeleteU just cracked me up. Lool
Deleteyes dear its very weird and you shouldn't encourage such. just wish him well and allow him to move on with his gentle heart and don't encourage ur lil sister to get involved in such .
ReplyDeleteyes dear its very weird and you shouldn't encourage such. just wish him well and allow him to move on with his gentle heart and don't encourage ur lil sister to get involved in such .
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is healthy for you. There are always feelings once you have had a relationship with someone. Your ex should look for a girl outside and leave your sister alone.
ReplyDeleteNaaahh!!!,,its perfectly o.k as far he is a Correct dude
ReplyDeleteno big deal geh, as far no sex was conceded during ur tenure....
ReplyDeleteWell I really don't see a big deal in that, it depends on what u personally feel abt it, but don't u think u might still end up seeing each other if he remains in ur family, pls give it a proper thot so that it all doesn't backfire.
ReplyDeleteI think it's wrong for you to choose for him.Becos he is so nice doesn't mean you shld match him wit ur sister.if you really want to help him,pray abt it and tell God to give him his divine partner.don't be surprised if it might even be you.
ReplyDeleteChidinma.
that's extremely strange. if your sister is fine with it, and your ex is fine with it and you're absolutely moved on then i guess.
ReplyDeleteI think its not a much of a bigger deal since u guys hvnt had sex bf n u ar the one giving him the approval!!
ReplyDeleteyou did the best for yourself..
ReplyDeletePersonally, I don't think it's a good idea. Yes they had a lovely relationship it was good while it lasted and that should be it. There's no need for u to drag ur sister and him into such torture. If u love him so much u shouldn't be suggesting this. I knew two sisters who something similar happened in their family and bliv me they don't see eye to eye. Best advice let things be just as they are......
ReplyDeleteAllow the young man to go, that it worked for both of u except for genotype doesn't mean ur sister is the successor. He is not an inheritance. He might not really be in love with ur sister. This might not end up well. Be wise and allow faith to take its course. Just pray for him to meet someone Good. #datsall
ReplyDeleteYES!! It is! Like you don't mess with my ex,you being family or Friend. Really weird.
ReplyDeleteNot a big deal,but u kw we can't predict wat if he start dating ur sis nd he still feel sometin 4 u ' as u said felt strongly 4 eachoder'don't u think ders gonna b a problem with dat ....!
ReplyDeletei dont think its a good idea but if u can cope with it nd u r sure u dont have any feelings for d guy again
ReplyDeleteYES! Like u don't mess with a gal's ex, be u sister or friend. Freakng weird.
ReplyDeleteif u can cope with it then its not a big deal, u shd understand dt we are all human
ReplyDeleteNo big deal dear. Who knows...u groomed him 4 ur sister!
ReplyDeleteI dnt tink its gonna b ok,cos d feelings wil definately b dere...regardless of d fact dat u moved on....let him date sum1 dat is nt a close relation to u...i hop u undastand
ReplyDeleteVery very weird,did it once & it backfired on me.Was in form 5 and I told my exboyfriend(no sex too) to pretend as if he's my sister's boyfriend cos I was not free to introduce him as mine & he started loving her for real & I was so jealous,if not for d timely intervention of our mum,so pls think about it very well
ReplyDeleteWhat won't I see on LIB, lol
ReplyDeleteif there is understanding and love, its no big deal. But are you sure, you will not be tempted to grow up the feels again and probably want to test him and see what you have missed? and this might hurt your little sis for a long time.
ReplyDeleteItz really nt a big of a deal,bt d questn nw is does ur ex has any feelinngs for ur Sis
ReplyDeleteIts okay by me. ...
ReplyDeleteBy you? Are you the 'ex' ni? Mstewww
DeleteHmmm sounds strange
ReplyDeleteIf the older sister has really moved on and forgotten the feelings she one shared with the guy, its no problem cos there will be no reason for her to get jealous or have secret affair with the guy who knows if he ended up marrying her sister.
ReplyDeleteActually, its a two way thing its not totally good nor bad but i'll not advice her to make this kinda move....it might destroy her family relationship with her sis, its not just about now.
Dangerous oo, since u guys r no longer gonna have kids 2geda, u mite end up sleeping with your sisters husband oo.. Lol
ReplyDeleteIts ok, so longs as ur sis and ur ex re ok wit it... Gudluck
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I dunno what to think......I kinda agree with princess sha. It takes maturity and God's grace o! You said "strong feelings".....you guys WERE really serious. If you can be sincere to yourself then its fine......just make sure you're sincere to yourself for future sake..........Wish you well
ReplyDeleteseriously I don't think its weird since he didn't hve sex Ψĩ†̥Ñ’ you plus you are d 1 giving them a go in d relationship..so I think its cool!
ReplyDeleteIs he the only person out there??! Nd is ur sister desperate for a relationship?...personally I just feel its weird, there are other good guys
ReplyDeleteIts a strange request but since u r fine wit it, carry on. Hope u two won't commit adultery with eachother in future
ReplyDeleteMy dear its not a big deal. My ex is now married to my junior sis. We dated for 2 years, had sex, did everything two adults in love does. Things changed when he proposed to me and I went into prayer for the success of the marriage, becos this time its a serious bussiness. Lo and behold all the revelations I had was bad.
ReplyDeleteYes I have that gift. In each of the revelations I see two of us facing a different direction or doing things differently. I told him and becos he knows that I have that gift, he listened and we seperated peacefully. I got married to my husband after one year and some months. Now he is married to my junior sis and evry one is very happy.
Hell no,it will not end well....
ReplyDeleteFor me it a total NO
DeleteFOR WHTEVER REASONS PLS JUST DOAWAY WITH D RELATIONSHIP
ReplyDeletehe should look some where else must it be ur sister?iru palapala wo niyen
ReplyDeleteI don't see anytin wrong with it, since dere was no sex involved. No big deal!!! Angelicevans
ReplyDeleteOh honey. It's wierd. Very wierd.
ReplyDeleteIt's cool
ReplyDeleteNothing is impossible. If they are in love and you're good with it! Why not?
ReplyDeleteWon't advice on such cos it is a dangerous play
ReplyDeleteIf he dates/marries ur sister, der is d possibility dt u guys wil 1 day cont frm wer u stopped n even go further cos since d feelings r stil der, somthg wil def spark it up. U knw dt's 'cheating', 'incest'... Avin him as part of ur family is nt good, let him date som1 else.
ReplyDeleteFollow ur heart
ReplyDeleteAs long as sex wasn't involved, then no biggie!
ReplyDeleteits kul
ReplyDeleteMy dear be careful of u wish for sis ok
ReplyDeletei dont think its a gud idea cos u loved ur ex 2 d point of wanting 2 marry him. even though right now u think u dont feel anything for him, jealousy might set it if u c him and ur sis 2geda. they mite even get married.....do u think u can handle that?
ReplyDeleteYh...I dnt think itz a big deal..esp if d parties involved can handle d awkward moments...I can't cuz am nt dat emotionally strong....Chiamaka
ReplyDeleteu are a very good person and I evny ur courage, it cool as I see not in wrong, only few people will accept day.u d kind of lady dat will allow ur husband marry second wife,babe I commend u
ReplyDeleteI personally find it rather awkward that you're trying to match-make your Ex and your sister...Just outta curiosity,did you ever truelly love this guy? Are you sure paradventure the relationship leads to marriage,you'll be okay waking up everyday knowing your Ex is the father of your Nephews and Nieces? Wether or not you guys had sex,true Love is hard to die just like that...But oh well,if all three of you are okay with it,who am i to suggest otherwise?All the best :)
ReplyDeletePRETTY GIRL
You cray
ReplyDeleteIts no biggie.. U 2 hav gone separate ways,considerin d fact dat u2 broke up on reasonable terms n no hard feelins,y nt? Its okk *ONYX GODWIN*
ReplyDeleteu are a very good person and I evny ur courage, it cool as I see not in wrong, only few people will accept that.u d kind of lady dat will allow ur husband marry second wife,babe I commend u
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong wif it, if u re comfortable wif it.
ReplyDeletebt after dey start datin hope u wount kiss him again?
ReplyDeletethats the dumbest thing i've ever heard! did ur sister ask you to pimp her out? nd why r u trying to set him up with someone else anyway? ugh! pple think of the silliest things sometimes
ReplyDeleteHmmm! Trust me, it's crazy when u av to let go of someone so special to you. Buh in dis case my dear, take d courage to let go cos as much as u love him, u shouldn't be around him and der is no way he'll be wt ur sister without u being around him. I guess u know wah dat implies? So I suggest u should let him go his separate way cos wt d look of things, it actually shows u still love him. So my dear, der is no point. Hope I made a little sense. Wish u d very best.
ReplyDeleteIt depends if d parties involved accept and hope d sis won't end up being jealous at d end.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it should happen....don't think about now,cos it sounds cool,think about the next 10 to 15 years,what will happen.Am talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteWierd yes,buh ur sis cn date d guy only if she lvs him sinz u guys vnt had sex.No big deal dear ol gud
ReplyDeleteyou want to keep in around so u can fuck him later, u still love him n cant stand the thought of another woman having him. let him go dont be selfish.
ReplyDeleteWeird to me......can't allow it. ZODIAC
ReplyDeletemy dear to me i will just say u don't encourage him to do such coz you guys still feel for each other,and if that happens,your blood sister might not have d hundred percent trust for you guys coz whenever she sees both of you discussing,she will feel you guys are still deing for each other.
ReplyDeleteDo ur sister love ur ex? What u look out for in a man might not be what ur sis. Look out for. For me I can't date my sisters ex, I feel is not proper(my opinion)
ReplyDeleted most important tin is love,,
ReplyDeleteif dere i love no big deal in it.......
If Yew ask me, na who I go ask???????????
ReplyDeleteDo ur sister love ur ex? What u look out for in a man might not be what ur sis. Look out for. For me I can't date my sisters ex, I feel is not proper(my opinion)
ReplyDeleteIts somow o..if dey meet somwhere and decide to date each other,no qualms..But me introducing dem to each other is a NO..Not cos of jealosuy..but my sister can't like all d tyns I like..and other reasons sha
ReplyDeleteJealousy will always set in! Frm ur write up I see u still hv feelings for him wic I'd nature, but in future I see u making out wit him sexually
ReplyDeleteNO
ReplyDeleteNO
ReplyDeleteHope ur serious wen u say u have moved on?Cos if u haven't,u wud probably screw him wen his married to ur sis...By d way,did u seek ur sister's consent?Is she game?Cos if ur doing dis solely,babe u have a motive...
ReplyDeleteThis is Super weird. You're just looking for an excuse to keep seeing your ex.
ReplyDeleteOf cos! It will still come back to hunt you don't try it biko. CM.
ReplyDeleteWhich kine talk be dis? Its totally wrong!
ReplyDeleteIt depends on ur kinda person,u knw perceptions defers.....nothing wrong about it provided u can let go of what u had with ur X n move on wit ur life and wish dem well!!!!@rexo6
ReplyDeleteIts a very gud ideal,if he loves her let them go ahead.nt weird atall my dear.
ReplyDeleteI tink u guys shld consult a medical doc 4 counseln on hw to crux wile vn kids mayb it wil go a long way in helpn u guys nt to v ss
ReplyDeleteSince there was no sex in d r/ship,let him go ahead wit ur sister,nothing spoil.
ReplyDeleteI think u are too greedy my dear. U dnt wanna leave the guy be. Believe me, uld be sneaking through d back to go fuck dis guy soon even if he's with ur sister.
ReplyDeleteNo....dats crazy
ReplyDeleteNo....dats crazy
ReplyDeleteMy dear, if you so love and trust your sister go ahead. But let me tell you a life story about 2 sisters. The elder sister was approached by a man that she refused. Unknown to the two ladies, the man went to the younger sister who accepted him. When the relationship progressed and became serious for marriage, the older sister told the younger one of the man's interest in her and how she played him down. The sister went ahead and they got married. After the marriage, the older sister became an arch enemy to her younger sister though she is also married. So, think twice and think of the future. Love they say is blind. It cannot see the future.
ReplyDeleteYay!!! Linda posted my comment:D
ReplyDeleteThat's disgusting and totally unfair to your sister.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, as human beings, you will one day feel cheated especially if your marriage is not as good as your sister's or if there is any problem you will think of him. So, let sleeping dogs lie.ok!
ReplyDeleteIs weird o. Hw come ur sis is nt AS. Cos i n my siblings r all same genotype. #awaymatchtins#
ReplyDeleteMumu anon 7:45pm, abeg do not come and display ur ignorance here... best if you shut up and make google your friend
DeleteIt is, if you're the one suggesting it. If your Ex and sister did develop a thing for themselves and by themselves I'm totally good with that. After all love conquers all and can happen to anybody.
ReplyDeleteU will definitely feel very uncomfortable with whole idea later,trust me petty jealousy will set...its a NO for me.
ReplyDeleteIT IS A NONO..EVEN GOOD FRIENDS IS BAD ENOUGH
ReplyDeletewhat makes u think he ll love ur sister the way he love u? If he wanted ur sister he would hv gone for her directly,maybe God is using dat test u both had to self u which u dnt knw if God actually wanted him in ur family u both would nt hv been As so do nt drive ur sister into de scene n let it be the way it is for everyday brings it own glory so i blive ur sister ll surely hv her own man
ReplyDeleteplz do not make this terrible mistake. I repeat, don't do it. talking from experience. Can't say much here, but heed my word don't do it. God bless u n give u d courage.
ReplyDeleteif they like eachother..its worth a try
ReplyDeleteIt's so weird abeg! Like someone said, you might end up regretting it, if your marriage is not as good as your sisters. Plus honestly, feelings have a way of reigniting especially in close proximity. So for the betterment of everybody, let him go.
ReplyDeleteIt's so weird abeg! Like someone said, you might end up regretting it, if your marriage is not as good as your sisters. Plus honestly, feelings have a way of reigniting especially in close proximity. So for the betterment of everybody, let him go.
ReplyDeleteY do I feel u'r at d verge of makin crious blunder? Jealousy n disrespct wil alws set at point as tym goes on.rmbr we hurt d most frm ppl we luv.beware
ReplyDeleteThis is the weirdest thing i have heard anyone say. Why would i hook up my ex with my sister. This is just plain weird. If you say friend, we can say okay, but sister? mba o.
ReplyDeleteIt is alrite, keep it in the family or him
ReplyDeleteMy dear this is not fair at all ooo.. dont do it......
ReplyDeleteIts should be dea choice nt urs...if dey fill 4 each Other den let d whole tin began
ReplyDeleteMiss Nomic
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ReplyDeleteWell, I can't really advice but something of sort happened to me. I "dated" a girl once and we "broke" up but a while later, the younger sister and I hooked up. The relationship was so serious. I was ready to marry her as she waaay virtuous than the elder one and she didn't mind. The problem was there was carnal relationship in both cases as those were times of ignorance but mid way into the younger one's relationship, God came in for she and I. A very popular pastor I dare say "broke" us up for funny reasons... It was extremely painful but I fear what anonymous @7.28 said and remember, sex was a part of both. In your case, it seems safer. I'm HAPPILY married now so maybe the "pastor" did us a favour.
ReplyDeleteSee world people!if ur sis had hookd up with him after u ended things,this same u will call her names.Now u want to sacrifice her on d alter of ur selfishness,its soooo wrong.She has her taste too,so wake up and grow up,it's over,let him go.
ReplyDeleteits totally weird, i think thats an excuse for the guy to still be around u. If not stopped now it could lead to something bad in the future ,probably wen u re vulnerable nd he cant help himself which will then eventually lead to an abomination.
ReplyDeleteWell dat is no news, in Warri here I have seen an elder sister snatch a junior sister's boyfriend and married him because she was prettier than her junior sister,Now linda ask people if this good for their own opinion? She even told the guy to make up his mind, if he is interested in marrying her or her sister. Now,how will that junior sister see her elder sister and husband? Comments please.
ReplyDeletePls don't try because u will for eva regrate it take it or leav it
ReplyDeleteARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?! Is this a joke or what? Ok. My dear please, bring them together. In 2 years you'll be coming back to LIB to ask if it is wrong for you to be jealous that they are married or whether it is wrong that you still have feelings for him. Nonsense. Why will you come and set your own backyard on fire? Nigerians tire me. Personally, I think you subconsciously want him around you because you don't want anyone else to have him. All this caring and goodness you appear to be radiating na wash whether or not you realise it
ReplyDeletehmmm..i tink dis is a stupid selfishness..pardon ma xpresn buh daz just d trut for me. She may b ur 6ta buh u guys r diff...u wer d one hu was diply n lov..nt her...do u nt knw dat dia's d tendency dat d sex u neva had...u may end up havn it cos u guyz r havn a suspended luv xplosn? Ur 6ta u definatly blame u if anytin goes wrong...jus x u may end up envyin her if d rel btw dem blosoms. Come to think of it...u may nt hav had an outryt sex buh obviously u had serios romances n u want ur 6ta to b romancd n slept by same man.. My dear...he's nt d only 9ice man out dia...n rmemba...ur 6ta has a ryt to chois wich obviosly may nt b dat guy. He's a 9ice guy...dah was to u...nt her...wak up to reality...ur dcisn is a very selfish one n x for me...it is nt only weird buh outrageous
ReplyDeleteWhat u saying? Little wonder they say Nigerian graduates can't make good sentences.try writing in good tenses so this style won't affect you in future
DeleteAs William Shakespear would say: "As u like it"
ReplyDeleteEh yaaa,so touching I think u should make it plus ur mum.onye araa
ReplyDeleteYou will jealous as time goes, please think twice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWell u not d one to decide for him like he is some hopeless person,if he sees he can go with your sis no problem but I jes hope everyfeeling u have for him has died down otherwise there will be fire on the mountain,like jealously n all dat it musnt be ur sis..........*sighs*
ReplyDeletewhat the hell are you thinking.... who ever thinks of that? pls don't try it. the dude hasn't moved on cos he still loves you. so wats the assurance that you guys wont fall for each other in the long run.... pls from a sincere heart, that's so not a good option.
ReplyDeleteLike transfer of ownership?C'mon!don't destroy yourself,see,u'll regret it if u do!let your sister find love elsewhere,let him find love outside ur circle.LatinoPINKY.
ReplyDeleteyes it is totally weird ur sis and ex is totally wrng u mite nt knw it nw but u wud fil betrayd in future.
ReplyDeleteYES, it is weird.
ReplyDeleteIf you're imposing the relationship, why? Are you trying to keep him in the family or what? For what reasons?
Anyway, let it all happen naturally. You'll figure it out soon.
This is weird as hell. Your sister must be a real bitch to start such an inappropriate relationship with your ex. Put her in her damn place!!
ReplyDeleteThis is weird as hell. Your sister must be a real bitch to start such an inappropriate relationship with your ex. Put her in her damn place!!
ReplyDeletewonderful, its nice anyway, just that after dumping your sister like he dumped you, your mum could be the next victim.
ReplyDeletewhich kind useless woman you be self..do you want to destroy your sister's life...mind your business..your sister should not and never date that guy...only if you want the guy to end up sleeping with both of you and people will class you sisters as useless sisters...SIMPLE....you don't know tomorrow you might end up sleeping with him....so stop looking at just today...
ReplyDeleteC'mon gurl__dnt b pathetic,u re jes feelin bad dat u ve moved on nd he hasn't nd if u gv ur sista 2 him trust me,he wil cheat on ur sista wit u.FULL STOP
ReplyDeleteGoing by what you said, yes from me.
ReplyDeleteThat sex you guys didn't have it will surely happen one day and to stop it will become a problem. ..the best solution is to let him go ..his a man nd u said nice so he will eventually find another Woman..dnt put ur self in a life long complicated situation which might end both marriages
ReplyDeleteHELL NO!!! You broke up with him, so did your family and friends. He should look elsewhere.
ReplyDeleteHemmmmmm, am speechless don't just know wat to say coz am into d same predicament right now, been dating my girl for d past 6 years and got to know dat we both having d AS genotypes in june 2011, have tried different means to end d affairs but to no avail, as for your case I think dat will b a huge risk not worth taking coz u guys still have affection for each other and somthing can still happen, pls just let him B while u too do dame.
ReplyDeletedont dare!!!! chance are that in future u'll remember the reasons why u fell in love with him in d first place, most especially if he's treating ur sis right and spoiling her. jealousy may set in.......there are other fishes in the ocean, why must it be the one u've tasted. she'll find another. odikwa serious matter oo. biko
ReplyDeleteHELLLL NO!!!LOBATAN LELE YI O... SOMEONE YOU ONCE HAD FEELINGS FOR WHAT MAKES YOU THINK ITHE DEVIL WON'T CREEP UP SOMETIME IN THE FUTURE. JOKING RIGHT?
ReplyDeleteTO me, its not all dat gud,we shoulnt forget d place of culture here as it is not all about sex buh more to it.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you wont wish for him to be yours after they've gone far... 'Old flames die hard'... Please don't push it....
ReplyDeleteIts not really healthy because the attraction between the two of of you is still there. You didnt sleep with him yet but if he still hangs around one day it will happen, then your sister will show you BH.
ReplyDeleteDon't help God.
ReplyDeleteI think u should let d guy b, cos in future u might b ur own sister‘s enemy.
ReplyDeleteit's wrong if u instigate there unionism, what u dont fight/work for u cant value, will be gr8 u let the guy scout for himslf except he develop a natural feeling/likeness/ love for ur Sister. cos wat work perfectly for u & him might not work perfectly for him & ur sister.
ReplyDeletePLS LET US FACE THE FACT HERE,BOTH OF YOU HAVE SOMETIN STRONG FOR EACHODA,DATING YOUR SIS IS A NO NO AREA.LET DA GUY GO LOOK FOR HIS WIFEY ELSEWHERE.
ReplyDeleteSORRY GIRL IS NOT ADVICEABLE IF YOU REALLY LOVE THIS GUY LET HIM LOOK ELSE WHERE OR IF YOU MUST HELP LET IT BE OUT OF YOUR FAMILY BECAUSE ONE DAY WHEN YOU MEET AGAIN THIS FEELING WILL SURELY BURST UP
ReplyDeleteIt will work perfectly. I married my wife after I had dated her sister, without ever having sex with her.
ReplyDeleteSounds like an intro for a movie that will end badly...
ReplyDeleteCOOL
ReplyDeleteAre u kidding? Feelns don't die like dat dear....I think it's weird to suggest such
ReplyDeleteMiracle can happen, if u stil luv him pray n ask God to change it to AA n u can go bk to ur man. There is nothing in possible 4 God u knw.
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