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Wednesday, 25 September 2013

Dear LIB readers: I've had sex with 4 men, is that too much for an 18 year old?

From a female LIB reader
I am 18 years old and in my second year in a private university. I started having sex when I turned 16 after leaving secondary school and I have had four sexual partners so far. I dated 2 of the boys while the other 2 were just flings. Recently I confided in a friend the number of men I've been with and I later saw text exchanges between her and another mutual friend of ours laughing at me and criticizing me. They called me all sorts of names including wayward and loose. I've been with only four men, is that too much for a girl my age? I thought it was the norm so why are my friends condemning me and passing the info around?
Four sexual partners at 18? That's waaaay too much! My opinion. What do you guys think?

619 comments:

  1. My dear its too much. And women stop telling yre friends everything

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  2. 4 men at 18, dats a lot gal

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  3. Talk from your experience...wetin be your own view

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  4. na wa ooo, its kinda much sha, recently got talking to a guy and he asked how many guys i ve been and i said 5, i am 33 for Gods sake, is 5 too much for a lady my age? lols

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  5. Kwaaaaaaks!!!lol!well,it is kinda too much.dts like 4 men in 2yrs since u started at 16.ok dts much my dear.u need to pipe down cos,'e dey show 4 body'.try dating som1 responsible.like som1 dt is 29 n probably has seen it all.don't be giving out urself to all ds chewing gum teenage boys(18-25,yup,still teenagers to me).they re jst in it to get it!be careful.n pls stop telling ur frnds every sordid detail abt ur personal life.they will use it against u.I learnt my lesson the hard way.keep it to urself!*Ty*

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  6. 1 is even too much, I will soon turn 22 and I have had 3 and I feel like a whore.

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  7. It depends on how you are doing it, be wise and be careful my dear, no rushing ok.

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  8. You tried though, but at this rate u might end up sleeping with 15 men before marriage

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  9. That is too much for you

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  10. Ewo! Eyin omode isinyi sha.....She shld av nt ad sex in d 1st place... D truth z dt no guy wld date u w/o havin sex wt u once he noes u're not a virgin......18 yrs in 200 level!!! Chai, I'm 19 yrs in my final yr, n I'm proud to say i'm still a virgin. I'm nt advising u to lie, but if u're goin to date sum1 else, don't bother lettn d dude noe wheda u're a virgin or not, unless he's a respectable trustworthy person....dts all oo....odabo!

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  11. speechless, thats how i feel inside.

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  12. LIB is a wrong place to get reasonable advice! Meet a counsellor or a spiritual leader!

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  13. Haaaa ti e ba e!!!

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  14. I think you should be sure about the next guy cos at this rate it can quickly become 20 at age 20,but don't listen to ur friends for some girls digit can start a small country

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  15. am sure she is a babcock student... very stupid girls.. well i love stupid girls hehehehehehehehehehe

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  16. Shes an adult,@ 18 i believe she knws her right frm wrong,if shes convinced dt her sexual partners are way too much then she shd try n take it easy. She shd just keep protectg herself cos no matter wot we say here,she might nt be deterred. May God hv mercy on her soul!

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  17. I honestly support linda. You are wayy too young for such but it is not too late to change and turn a new leaf.

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  18. I think its too much 4 a girl u age,by d time u're 21 hw many would av slept wit..I'm 21 nd m still keeping my virginity even tho most of my friends dt we tot of doin same. Are no longer virgin.if u continue dt way only God knws hw many guys u'll av slept wit b4 u get married..

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  19. Continue so at least by 36 u would have slept with 72 men.....hisssss..I wish I knew who u were I would just SLAP u for just coming here to ask such !!!

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  20. No continue.ur improving.I was so afraid of sex when I was 16yrs till 22yrs.dis world don spoil finish

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  21. Hey Girl.Its Bad to even engage in premarital sex.Pls abstain cos more sexual partners would spell doom for U wen U r married cos u might find it difficult settling wt one man since U've been exposed to different sexual experiences.

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  22. This is way too much for her age if she had 4 men at 18yrs what number will they b at 30yrs?

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  23. Depends on how many times u slept wt dem..nd d more u switch boyfriends d more sexual partners u have..I'd encourage u to stick with 1 man..if he is crious or don't date nd don't do flings! Moreso pple r too quick to judge nd dts y I don't talk much to ma friends..if u cnt help wt a way out, just STFU!!! @xclucivexter

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  24. Depends on how many times u slept wt dem..nd d more u switch boyfriends d more sexual partners u have..I'd encourage u to stick with 1 man..if he is crious or don't date nd don't do flings! Moreso pple r too quick to judge nd dts y I don't talk much to ma friends..if u cnt help wt a way out, just STFU!!! @xclucivexter

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  25. My dear go ahead until dey get to 100 guys at the age of 22 b4 u realise dat its bad... R u a baby ni?? Mtchewwwww

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  26. am sure she is a babcock student. loads of very stupid girls dere... well i love stupid girls tho hehehehehehe

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  27. My girlfriend is a virgin and she's 28 years old. This kind of story makes me appreciate her the more. SADE I love you wherever you are......................

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  28. Its way too much. At least U aren't married yet. If am to advice, stay away from sex. Its not a most to have sex. Jesus loves U.

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  29. Its too much and she shud quit

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  30. In nigeria it's too much for an 18 year old Oooooo....

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  31. Linda y r u rushing to update without reading tru?oya correct yasef.if u like eat my comment

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  32. Dts way too far bitch...tk it slow,ur on a fast lane

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  33. 4 men at 18.... i can't particularly say that it's too much especially in this age and days where sex is a norm. I started having sex at 17, at 18 I had done abt 3 men as I recall, I'm currently in my early 20's and I've slept with over 22 men. No I'm not a prostitute and I'm not cheap either . So it just depends and there are many women like this around, although they will never admit it

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  34. Well the answer depends on how society views it. Social 'norms' could vary. Health-wise, I must say there are more disadvantages compared to its advantages. People are mostly going to judge and condemn you but my advice to you is to be mentally strong and try to make that four your maximum at 25. If you can ;).

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  35. He whose without sin let him be the first to cast the stone *smiles* well me aint judging or condemning you girl but I'd rather prefer you stick to one ok. And as for those your friends mocking you hmmmmmmmm believe you me they are even worst than you *Nohardfeelingsthough*

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  36. Way too much..? Dose of 11,12,13 n 15,have lost count of how many dey'v had n she's 18 wif just 4 n its way too much..lol..let's all be guarded.!!!

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  37. Yea four men at age 18 is bad bt not that bad for them to call her names. For her to talk to her frnd it shows she need help. What will they do to a girl of 15 that have slept with more than 10 guys & had two abortions. U don't laugh at such situations, u advice & pray with her.

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  38. Its ur world...its ur choices n decisions.....if u feel bad abt urself, its U to blame...so live ur World...No matter what u do pple wud always criticize

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  39. Wooooow pls take it easy STI everywer... I blame the men cos you were too young.

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  40. Way 2 much, girls of nowadaysssss its only God dat can help us in dis country everythin is goin wrong

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  41. Hmm! Jst be careful with ur cookie u knw... Try a rshp 4luv nt d sex of course guys wud alwys wash u, d rsn u shd be wise @ds point of ur life to avoid mistakes...
    See d movie: think like a man, act like a lady!
    Guys luv girls who'v gt standards.
    ~D great anonymous!

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  43. 4 sexual partners @18??? Datz too much for u kid....

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  44. My dear!das ur life u re living so u answer ur question.

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  45. Its not wrong dear..Keep it up. Cheers

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  46. One,two or more I guess it's the same thing,not to start at all's better.

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  47. This world eh nawa o...buh its nt too late 2 repent dear

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  48. Its quite much my dear. Were u disvirgined at 16 or 14?. How many guys wld it b if u clock 20? Then u must Av lost count if u av plans of getting married at 25. Pls try stick to a man.

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  49. four sexual partners in two years @ 18 yrs is too much. I hope you protect yourself each time you have sex sha!

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  50. Why is linda acting like she hasn't had more then 30 lol.. 4 is alright jor. Her friends will probably end up having more than 50 before they marry

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  51. Girl it is too much for ur age. First to comment. Linda post my text000

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  52. Its way too much dear,
    I am 27, I have dated 5 guys and slept with 2 including my husband.
    Do the math, the rate ure going, u might sleep with all UT class mate and more.
    My advice: slow down, concentrate on finishing school with the best grade possible. Leave guy/sex matter for now.

    K

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  53. I guess she wants to catch up with your likes linda...lol

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  54. You have been with "only" four men! At 18? Ride on! 4 is two small.

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  55. Linda pls tell her to six more guys making ten ashewo kobo kobo

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  56. No one is allowed to have more than 1 sex partner sef........girl u carry weight o

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  57. ANYTHING OTHER THAN ABSTINENCE IS TOO MUCH

    IF YOU RE NOT KEEPING GODS LAW THEN DO AS YOU PLEASE AND STOP ASKING HUMAN BEINGS FOR THEIR OPINION WHEN GOD HAS ALREADY GIVEN YOU HIS REGARDING THE MATTER

    100 men or 4 men.........same thing in Gods eyes

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  58. ah! too much darl, by 30 u could be ranking 15Dicks.Jez......better stop or stick to a dick.

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  59. 4 different men in 2years?? sister i hail ooo!!!! that means by the time you are 30, you'd have already done 28 men!!! kudos

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  60. Not only too much, but also not right with God. The bible says...to him that knows what is right and doesn't do same, it's a sin. I'm sure u know it's immoral...but u need approval 4m pple. God's intention for sex was in the context of marriage and not otherwise.

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  61. You have been with "only" four men! At 18? Ride on! 4 is two small.

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  62. My dear girl, you have had too much sexual partners for your age. Are you thinking of STD'S at all? and its true, what your friends say, that you are a bit loose etc. Maybe you were never taught by your mum and older ones. It is good to keep your self for that special man.
    If the guys who you have slept with happen to meet and discuss their escapades would you be happy to be the topic of discussion? or imagine that you were going to get married and your fiancé is the brother or cousin of one of the guys you have slept with, would you be happy? you will have too many things hanging around your neck.

    Keep yourself, you have a life time ahead of you, its not all about sex. What if you get pregnant, you will then think of abortion isn't it? All these stress can be avoided by keeping yourself.
    Besides, your body was not meant to be defiled by every tom dick and harry. Give some respect to your body.

    Your body is meant to be the temple of the Living God. Give your life to Christ and God will help you.
    Think about HIV, its not written on anyone's face, think about abortion you don't want that now. Enjoy life in the most simple way without letting it get complicated for you.
    Linda pls post my comment. This young girl needs a good advice.

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  63. You have been with "only" four men! At 18? Ride on! 4 is two small.

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  64. My dear dts bad enuf, now jt zip up till u walk up the aisle... It pays! Its for own good!!

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  65. Well, four sexual partners is much for that short period of time and at your age..but who am I to judge you? My advice to you is; you're still very young and have a long way to go, try to control it or better stil,one sexual partner is enough and as for your friends, be careful about how u share things with them...if you have an older female sibling,I feel she should be the right person you share stuffs with and that's if you can't share with your mum..takia and be careful

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  66. Otuocha!
    Rihanna must be jealous of your record.
    But why haven't I met you.*wink*

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  67. Nawa oooo! So u dis small geh sef don dey do eeh,umm,haa, issh, ianh, shaa,shhh.....SMH 4u. This life don spoil o. Well, my own advice 4u be say make u keep on FUCKING.... IDIOT OF A GHE!! Dat ur private, sorry public part go soon expire... Mumu like u... Get a life girl, stdy hard, help ur parents and above all give ur life to christ. Okpari!!

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  68. Linda dats nt much biko,pls b truthful oh aunty linda @ 18 am sure u wud hav done plenty.....*disappeared*

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  69. No Child, that's way too small. You know when its enough by the time you contact the HIV virus. Besides, you are way too stupid for your age. Note: see if you can contact Afrocandy. She can put your talent to better use. Ode!

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  70. Wow!!!! Dats too much. All u nid to do is 2 controll urslf

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  71. haba....take it easy babe...shoooo

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  72. mathematically you can calculate for yourself. At 18 slept with 4 men at 54 let's say 12 men (if not more, because the more you grow the more variety you seek). From this little analogy, what do you think? Or can you boldly tell your fiancé the numbers of men you've slept with when you truly ready to settle down. Is your name "ANIMASHAUN"? (a generous giver).

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  73. You have been with "only" four men! At 18? Ride on! 4 is too small. Continue....

    The world is a crazy place! 18yrs asking this? Issorai

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  74. choi....abeg calm down ooooo

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  75. Way,way too much my dear. Slow down. Abeg you are still only a baby,there's NO hurry.

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  76. 18years old???my opinion,i think its too much...You should not just go around sleeping with men.Where is your dignity as a woman?

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  77. 4 is too much for ur age dear. At wat age did u then become sexually active...at 14 or 16? Wat wld be d count wen u clock 20? Am sure u wld Av lost count wen u turn 25 n dts if u are nt still married. Pls my dear stick to a man cz HIV is real. U wldnt like ur female child to tell d same story.

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  78. she is a state pussy in the making.....well datz how it's in Nigeria....but some still dey form virgins
    kachi joel

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  79. Hey 4guys for an 18yrs old is toooo much... Buh derz always tym to change swty. Itz neva too late

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  80. No way! When I was ur age I already had 20. Just keep up the good work, u'll soon enter Guinness book of record. What is this world turning into? Its people like you that's making yerima to insult women. If they ask u to get married now u'll say u r too young but u are not too young to have sex. I wonder how premarital sex has now become a normal thing. If u were my sibling I would've flogged d hell out of u so that u'll know u r in Africa!

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  81. My dear, give your life to Christ and stay celibate. Its not too late

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  82. My dear @ 18 U̶̲̥̅̊ arnt even supposed 2av eva had sex........U̶̲̥̅̊r emotion is still evrywhre cz U̶̲̥̅̊ are pweety young and I'll say naïve. All U̶̲̥̅̊r supposed 2do is face ur studies, yea! buh av fun in d process, enjoy being young learn from ppls mistakes. @ dis stage of ur life U̶̲̥̅̊ keep friends not intimate relationship........now U̶̲̥̅̊ won't knw ur strenght cz U̶̲̥̅̊'ll be needy and end up doing things 4d wrong reasons. A norm shouldn't define U̶̲̥̅̊, set ur standard and make it ur norm.

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  83. Pls Try And Get just one partner datsall

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  84. Way way waaaay too much,haba!!!she's jst an adult...take it easy o,dere's no hurry in life.Lilybabe

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  85. Okay now uve had 4 , u cant turn back d hands of time but make d future beta . sooo try nd not count ur toes nd fingers b4 u get 2 20. so u dnt feel worse .

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  86. Mehn !!! 18? Nd 4 sexual partners??Dats much dear..if u continue like dis hw many will u get wen u get to 25 yrs...jst saying my opinion....

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  87. Biko mechie onu who u de ask,u be small pickin?I must ask syndrome.mechite ike gi biko

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  88. The Disciplinarian25 September 2013 at 17:02

    Uhn uhn its nt Ï„̅☺Æ¡̴̴̴̴̴͡ much u hear? Infact its Ï„̅☺Æ¡̴̴̴̴̴͡ small for a start! Mtscheeeeew!

    Oniranu omo jati jati! By the time ur grave yard go turn 100 ft deep wen u'v spent anoda 18 yrs of ur life den u go no how far! *Rolling Eyes*

    HIV knocking already!!!!!!

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  89. Haba! Lin lin she is just preparing a good sexual resume.lol

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  90. APOTI OKO, Miss OKODUNI, Miss EPONBAMIDELE, Miss OKOTIE, Miss OKOTIBATEMIJE, Miss KORO'PON ...ati bebe lo.....Girl you need to slow down. There's no gain in jumping on every dick. You will wither away faster than a flower does.

    OKOrious baby!

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  91. I think it is not too much gal,don't mind ur frnds,most of dem av lost count

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  92. No jare, infact it is too small, u should have had like 10....then u are on point. #wink#

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  93. well, some girls under 18 nowadays are already on their 5th or 6th, so i am not surprised at hers.

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  94. lindiway dis one pass too much, at 18,u should be ashamed of urslef if u reach 20 nko?

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  95. Dats Oti Poju! Haaaaaaaaaaaaa! Dats way too Bad Dear! 4 ***ual Partner nt 1!! Its tooooooooo Much ooooo! 18??! Jooooooor oooooo

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  96. FOUR @ 18 BABE E TOO MUCH NA ABBA .WATIN, NA DIS LIFE WE MEET AM OH.KAI NA WA OH

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  97. Let the girl enjoy her life... as long as she's playing safe. First to comment

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  98. You just need to caim down thats all. Remember, me lady, it is not compulsory to have a man at your age. Forget your hypocritic friends saying rubbish about you. Just move one with caution from now henceforth

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  99. No ma dear it evn 2 small idiot..............kip yaself n abstain frm sex read ya book u hear...........lily am I ist 2 coment oya send Ðœ̣̣̥̇̊Ñ”̲̣̣ d card

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  100. Well d deed has been done,u can't change it and dnt let yourself down bcos of anybody or creature ,just thread carefully dis time wit good limits

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  101. No dear,its ok ur carryin capacity is absolute,so u ar of a rare kind & u av power on ur thighs.Stay protected meanwhile.
    Libers,pls click on my name “EBELE“ above leta enjoy dz packages.

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  103. Am 24 n dats d same no of men av ad...even I consider dat 'too many'. So for 18! Dats so not it.

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  104. going by that rate, shw wud have slept with 8 guys in 4 yrs by d time she turns 20. thats bad if ur trying to have a relationship. If shes not trying to have a relationship, then thats not a bad statistic! ff at fodukes

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  105. 16-18.. You bi dog?. Four different guys for your age is wrong. How many will u have before 25?. WRONG.

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  106. LINDA e be like say u sef start early..at 18 a gel shld be a virgin biko.

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  107. Btw 16 n 18 u av had it wit 4 men, if u r not married at 25, ow many will u b counting. Seriously calm down n pick a man wen u r ready. My opinion sho o

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  108. THATS QUITE A LOT. i am 20 i havent had sex yet but i have been fingered and i already feel like a slut cause none of the relationships i had made any sense. u should tone it down doe. cause im sure the relationships u had didnt make sense either. wait for someone who really loves u. thats what im doing now

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  109. No its not to much ..see your head @ 18 b4 u reach 25 it might b 40 and it might not b to much still

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  110. Lol!!! Babe!!! Just four??!most pple hav had mor dan that!! Dnt bother u self biko!am sure others wud criticize and insult u!! I had way mor dan dat wen I was ur age!!!!Jst ignor dem! Am surprised linda is sayin 4 is too much!! With d kinda news,pics u update on ur blog, u hav no moral justification 2 say its 2 much!did u just realise teens read ur blog?? Wen u stop bombardin us wit "lady gaga poses nude","rihanna's sexy outfit",den u can criticise! *ONYX GODWIN*

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  111. I am 23,and I have had 1 partner,and here u are at 18 asking if 4 is too much?u do the math..highly disappointed cos I have a lil sister who is 18 and if u were her,smh,my goodness..

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  112. Na u sabi,D advise u give urself,is d best for u

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  113. My dear, it's way too early to have such figure counting @ 18 and trust me u will count more. Not a course but the truth. Advise you take a break and be strict with your emotions. God will guide you.

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  114. I'm 19 and have had sex with more than 50men.I dnt like the fact that I sleep with these men but because I dnt have anybody to take care of me,my father died when I was 5 and ever since then life has been so unfair to me so pls pray for me dat God should have mercy on me and send me a helper or husband cause I'm tired of this kind of life.God bless u all richl

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  115. Nop is not too much cos life continue maybe u shud boost ur degree.

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  116. We'll,considering d age @ wch u strtd avn sex,let's assume its 2 guys in a year,my dear its nt 2 much

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  117. haaa,my sister u hve just started oooo.but the secret about sex is when u sleep with 10men,u must say is 1.dont tell anybody apart from ur real sister the real number of partners u have or had.

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  118. Linda, biko stop deceiving us with pics of fine girls. As we read the story, we go dey imagine say na d girl wey lie down dia dey talk. I'm sure the fucking girl with 4 partners at 18 is ugly. This behavior is common with ugly gehs. hehehehe

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  119. Its way tooooo much girl 4 ur age. Stop 4 now, ur 5th shld be ur last now, if possible do d next act on ur wedding night. Girls don't value their body anymore.

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  120. Damn too much for ur age.

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  121. It,s nothing joor go to my village uromi in edo state and see 15 16yrs girl doing fuckin competition.

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  122. Ha my dear just4 men and you are bothered its nothing continue you have your life ahead of you you are just 18 years don't mind your friends they are slackers my advise to u is increase the numbers of men that have sampled you.
    for an 18 years old girl u are in your prime bustling with strength and vitality you can do 10 men for your age so put in more vigor, idiot when u catch Aids or a deadly viral infection you will know that at 18 you should bury your head in your academics and go to fellowship to know more about your heanvly father oloshi stupid thing kip screwing around and defiling your body you will get wats coming to you ashewo
    (Linda i just told this idiot the truth any body that feels dat am too harsh should go jump in to the lake promiscuity and immorality is destroying this nation)

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  123. No it's not too much. Infact, you are running late compared to some people I know.

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  124. ahn ahn....only four @ 18 and you're crying?? u dey learn work na..go meet girls way younger than u are mk dem tell u wetin de sup..even dos still in secondary skul will b laughing at dis,calling u small pikin.

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  125. Honestly, I know people that have done worse, so don't beat ur self up about it ok? And btw, that doesn't mean u did a good thing, you just have to try and be better. Reputation is everything. Guard it jealously. I'm 18 too, but I only had sex this year, once and it was ith my bf of about 4years (highschool love) you should b patient and wait 4 d right person. If you're horny, masturbate ok? My candid opinion

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  126. Only four? i think say u wan say 20, ashewo ten ten naira

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  127. Please my dear its toomuch...aren't you scared of STD?Na your health sure pass o,please reduce it and btw don't you have a bf you're faithful to?or is it that you can't stay with one guy?

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  128. Not all you are still a learner more flings would set your life on the right path.

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  129. (230EEBAA)my advice would be, before you make any decision, u need to first identify why you always hook up with these guys, is it just for sex or its an addiction or you just having fun with your life which is very risky. as a guy that i am, id say its much tho, but you can still stop it. As for ur frnds, people do that a lot, we all have skeletons in out cupboard, im sure what they do close doors is much worse.

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  130. SomewhereOnlyWeKnow25 September 2013 at 17:14

    Started having sex @16, by 18 has had 4 partners. Averaging 2 partners a year. At this rate by the time she is 26, she will have had 20 partners.....
    At 18 you really have no business having sex or having multiple partners under your belt. Close you legs and hold out until you are married! Its never too late to change. Good luck, there is hope for you.

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  131. My dear, it is tooooo much oh! Ha!

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  132. That's way too much for an 18years old girl.

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  133. That's a lot for som1 of ur age my dear, but shit happens, just reduce ur flings or stick to one guy! Multiple sexual partners causes a lot of things am sure u know about! So darling be strong!!!

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  134. yaawgawh!!!....abeg y'aago l'ona make i pass..... if those ones chop all d royal part finish, na bone u wan serve ur future husbandoh ? mama lin, warn dat girlie wella!!!

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  135. That's too much for you. At your age,you should be very close to God ,aim high with your career and not sleeping around with men.You are a pretty girl you have to use your time wisely and be serious with your dreams. Those men I tell u do not love you. Why don't you work for God for him to direct you wisely.

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  136. You don't have to sleep with every man you date or have a fling with. I suggest you read Steve Harvey's book "act like a woman, think like a man".

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  137. 1st to comment
    4 in 2yrs and at 18, dats within normal range joor

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  138. U dated 2 boys n d oda 2was jst flings.......u tut it was d Norm,.....what Norms,what planet r u frm? Bfor u get to 25 only GOD nos hw many flings n Norms u will hv!.........beginin of Wasted Generations!

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  139. You think it's a norm???? Before u get to 30 yrs, ur hole will be as wide as a big pot!

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  140. fuckin way too much na..wat hapen to kepin urself of stayin wit 1 patner...pls change ur ways b4 its too late...

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  141. Dear dat is too much at dat age nd ur friends dat ar laughin at u jst ave in mind dat u ar better than dem, bt really dat is too much.

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  142. Dear dat is too much at dat age nd ur friends dat ar laughin at u jst ave in mind dat u ar better than dem, bt really dat is too much.

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  143. It is too early, u are already en-messed in an habit u are too young for wc may be difficult for u to control. Stop it, BEFORE IT DESTROYS U

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  144. Errr...Linda, she sent you the message for advice not criticism. I'm not sure I like ur response.
    My two cents: Dear, I understand where you are right now, how you feel and not even knowing how to stop. We have all been addicted to something we found difficult to get out of. You started too early and that's why its no longer difficult to have many sexual partners. You don't want this to continue my dear girl it could be fatal, you have to resolve in your heart to stop. You can do this alone. Ask Jesus to be the Lord of your life and seek spiritual guidance. Some1 you can trust. Please. Get out now. You can. You are not alone. I'll pray with you.
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  145. My dear pple will always say trash abt u,weda u are doing d ryt tin or not,but sleeping wit 4 guys @ ur age is 2 much switie.jst concentrate on ur studies

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  146. haba! habatically. 18? By d time u are 24 u would hit 20. Den u carry da remainin chaff to d lucky man.p***sically.

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  147. Is too much oh.Am 24 just graduated frm the university n I have gotten sex with three people dated d two n currently dating one now n I don't intend to go further. These three is even much.

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  148. Am speechless...*lips sealed*

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  149. Sex who u like @ any numba it no ones bizz,its nat a lawful offence

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  150. wait...o! did she say she's in a private uni?? so on top all d strict rules n policies in most of these private unis,una still dey straff unaself..mtchww na una sabi.

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  151. I usually don't comment but I am this time cause this seems like my story with the exemption of telling friends.
    I am 25 now and engaged by the way. but at 16-19.........my hormones were crazy, I could not control my feelings......At 18 in my opinion 4 guys is still reasonable compared to other girls that we have out there......you only have to keep working on your emotions and body reaction......I conquered mine by masturbating most times , so that even when am with a boy I like I won't have the urge to have sex until I was really sure it was going to be a long term relationship. Good luck dear.
    P.S ......Be your own best friend ....you would have no problems.

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  152. Keep it up my dear, the more the merrier! Make sure you get a world record for sleeping with the most men in your short life. No greater achievement than this

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  153. Talk to your pastor or imam.. whichever suits you!!!!!!!!!

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  154. I won't condemn u but for a. Gal of ur age, my dear its not too much rather is it decent if u continue like ds u mite end up avin countless sex partners. I tink u shld control urself

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  155. Firstly who cares what people do these days (trust me there are girls your age who've had more)... Saying this to say im not judging but I THINK 4 is too much.

    Secondly, I guess we'r all still learning. Guess you thought you were confiding in a true friend, now you know to keep your business to yourself.

    Thirdly, don't mind those b*tch*s... im sure they've done worse, either with sexual partners or other things, they're just trying to make themselves feel good by emphasizing your mistakes.

    Fourthly, take solace in the quote:"Dont judge me because you sin differently from me". You'll be alright.

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  156. my dear, you have not started, 4 four men at 18 is a joke compared to some people that will come here to criticise you cos at 15, their cunt is wide enough for a trailer to do reverse parking. so cheer up, you're still finding yourself. shit happens.

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  157. My darling...yes 4men for an 18year old is way too much... take a decision now to stop sleeping with every1 u date... don't mind ur friends calling u names behind ur back... they are definitely worse!... but stay calm when it comes to dating and sleeping with the people u date...

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  158. Keep it up my dear, the more the merrier! Make sure you get a world record for sleeping with the most men in your short life. No greater achievement than this

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  159. Ah! That's too much oo...

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  160. Not enough sef...ngwa!!!! Ride on my sister!!!!

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  161. Hehehe! My dear ask your parents they ll give u the right answer. Thats what happen when you try to follow the norm. All these parents think taking their children to xtian universities will help them....smh. Having a smart,independent and reasonable child is the best i tell you. I grew up with my mum and i started living alone at the age of 16. I got disvirgined at the age of 21 and i am 23. At the age of 17 a rich man promised me a car and millions of money to disvirgin me buh i disagreed. I cant evn list the names of politicians and influential men dat were chasing me at the time. I didnt succumb and i am happy bcos i still talk to these men and they all respect me and do a lot for me. My dear you need to discipline yourself. Having sex with all these uselesss boiz dat v nuffin to offer is not the way to go. That doesnt make you a big girl. You are more respected whn u walk into a room full of guys and they all tell each other not to even waste their time cos you wont answer them. I am 23 and i v had sex with jst 2 guys. Most guys look at me and respect me i tell u. Cos they know me buh they can never say i v had sex with this guy or that guy. For your information i am a beautiful girl

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  162. Ode like you..... Your mates are there counting 15 men at 16. Your are busy talking about JUST 4. Idiot, SHAME no dey catch you... You better hurry up and sleep with more men.
    All this useless yoruba women that are forming virgins, you better start learning from the ibos and start counting in upwards of three digits.

    Doggy

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  163. well i aint blaming yu sha ooo...for the fact dat yu are in sch and yu didnt av anybody to guide yu on relationship ish...i made d same mistake too...i slept wif guys about 3X my age 5 of dem before i bkame 19yrs old nao am wiser nao am kipin ma pussy close yu can do d same...am just 20 and am in final year ma Education comes first


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  164. Well,i dnt wanna pass judgemental statements...but when i was 18,also in 200 level,i neva had sex n my bf then was able 2 understand n respect my wish..i schooled in a federal university tho. In ur case,i wudn't condemn u bc evn girls in sec.sch are worse. The world is going nuts.

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  165. oh Linda pls spare me with your judgment like seriously... sometimes theses things just happen. not saying its good but its not as bad as you juts painted it. IN MA OWN OPINION. if u like dont put this comment

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  166. It's too much!!

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  167. First to comment..*wear fake rayban nd walks away*

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  168. U are on your way to 1000 men my dear.........at 18 was still in-love with 1 freaking guy who later broke my heart at 24..........my point....... take it easy before it not your friends who get to criticize u but u.

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  169. Na, that's not much, majority of those your friends have slept with like 20, yet they are not complaining. Just keep it up!!!! F*ck more pricks!!! Congrates!

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  170. You're a dog!!!!!

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  171. 4 an 18 year old gurl????? its damn much bt am sure u r nt alone in it.......

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  172. At 18 its way too much...don't allow them get to you but then give yourself a break for 5years....
    Me at 28 I am presently I have dated 3 and presently at the 4 which I earnestly pray should be my last with marriage. God have mercy on me please.

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  173. In my opinion. It's not a lot. #justsaying

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  174. Well, since you're doing 2 a year, by 30 your body count will be at least 26! Your vjay will be a canal!

    Sister, You aren't even 21 yet. Do you know what #IndustryPussy is?

    How is fornication normal? Does you mother know this your trend? Child, You need Jesus. Close your thin legs abeg. !

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  175. Hey dear, don't cry over spilled milk, ur 1st NO NO is to tell dis ur so called friend cos she won't tell u how many she has. For a guy, no biggy cos its a mans world but for u, if u can't. Make guy nub 4 as ur last, then guy nub 5 as ur last. Its not ganna. Be easy but with God, it wld be.
    Linda pls post n 1st to comment.
    Genie

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  176. It should be "4 sexual partners in 2 years"? By 30 u would have grossed at least 35 partners, as the progression increases with time, not to talk of the multiple STDs u would be carrying and transmitting, plus believe it or not, u exchange evil spirits with each of ur Partners, at the end u start feeling worthless, countless abortions, cos no protection is 100% safe...... My dear abstinence is possible, very practicable and in ur best interest. Not to talk of how u complicate ur life with ill luck and demonic traits from the multiple sex partners of ur own sex partners

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  177. No 4 guys is 2 small make dem 20 guys' please'. Tanks

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  178. No body can judge you...just get your acts right..thats all

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  179. Please don't condemn the young lady,i believe she did what she has done out of ignorance,she needs to be counseled

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  180. Sum ppl hv had only 1 partner in a lifetym and u'v had 4 @ 18! Too much dear, pls b celibate till u'r much older & even married. Trust me, it doesn't kill or hurt. My humble opinion dou

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  181. daz tu much darlin u'v got to tak ur tym and knw wat u want..it may only apear to b d 'norm' but gurl, daz immorality.. U're to young to hav xperienced four dicks already

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  182. My dear... you really dont need our opinion. You feel its too much for 18 that's what matters. No one has the right to judge you. Its between you and God. Talk to him about it.... repent and move on with life

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  183. Bia Linda. Please stick to the reason we read ur blog in the 1st place. What's this one?

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