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"Destructive, offensive" SA businessman slammed over "Why Nigerian men always take your women" advice

Reacting to the SA businessman, Gayton McKenzie's take on love, relationships and why Nigerian men always take their women, Economic Freedom Fighters (EFF) national spokesperson Mbuyiseni Ndlozi said the advice is offensive and demeaning to women.

As previously reported by LIB, Patriotic Alliance (PA) leader, McKenzie had advised South African men to get their finances in order if they wanted to keep their women. He further urged them to look up to Nigerian men who worked hard and, ultimately, won women’s hearts.




"Poems don't buy Louboutins" he added

In a series of tweets, Ndlozi slammed the PA leader, who is an outspoken critic of EFF leader Julius Malema, saying every progressive man should find McKenzie’s argument “distasteful” as it mobilised men to view women as “idlers looking for blessers”.
"Why should we always see women as attained by cash? Because in essence, for such men, it represents their own inferiority and masculine injury," he said.

Ndlozi says he refuses to be identified with McKenzie’s philosophy on love, which “demeans” women and expresses the true roots of violence against them.
The argument is further rooted in a destructive patriarchal attitude which often serves as basis of an entitlement men have on women.

"Basically, it means extending the brothel from buying of sex to also buying love. Even sex workers dispute that love can be bought or sold," he said.
This philosophy shows the worst form of sickness that believes in money buying love, according to Ndlozi.
McKenzie’s take on love, he says, also has xenophobic undertones, “destructive masculinity and patriarchy” and is offensive to women and relationships.
Furthermore, it shows that though McKenzie is out of prison, his mind remains there, with Ndlozi calling it “the destructive masculinity prison of misogyny.

In fact, it was his obsession with money and the philosophy that one will not be loved if he does not have money that put McKenzie in prison in the first place, says Ndlozi. "Now all black men must take this advice, believe love is for sale! Will they not end up in prison like he did? No! Blacks got better to do!"

Source: Mbuyiseni Ndlozi/ The Citizen

24 comments:

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    1. But he only spoke the truth. Linda take note!

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    2. I am a Zimbabwe woman and i live in SA. To be honest, Nigerian men are caring. Let's forget about the money aspect. Sometimes, when i travel, my Nigerian boyfriend will come and pick me up from the park or train station which my Ex-SA boyfriend has never done. There was a time he gave me his car to drive back home and stayed back to fix my car that got spoilt on the high way. He said that it is dangerous for a lady to be alone on that road at that hour. He drove down to meet me there, he gave me his flashy car and he stayed back to fix my little car and drove it back to my house after fixing it. Then he took his car and went back to his house. This has nothing to do with cash but care. Just show a little care and respect to an SA woman and you will win her heart. It is not all about money. Nigerian men are also very good in bed. They know how to handle a woman in bed and they are not selfish in bed like most SA men.

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    3. A typical SA man will never go out of his way to help you but even if a Nigerian man does not have money, he will show you love, care and support. This is what counts and it's not all about money. So this SA freedom fighter doesnt know what he is talking about. He should shut the F up!

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  2. It's interesting how we are good at avoiding facts. Do we not all know that women follow money like bitches? why lie about it? And that many bitches do not want to work for money? Even if linda is a hyper-feminist, atleast she works for her money. Something lots of bitches do not want to do. Most of bitches go to school to get a paper degree in stupid disciplines like sociology, HR, english, etc. Notice how vast majority of them they stay away science and engineering fields. Then later, they come out and cry about wage gap, when they initially set a low standard for themselves, as they always do.

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  3. Though protective but on point.

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  4. He's right tho. My foreign friends always ask me why our men spend so much on our women.. and why our girls prefer pot bellied men. Well, here's my take. If the owner of this blog had depended on men for monetary resources all her life, she wouldn't have engineered this amazing platform. Its a thing of mentality. That's why 90% of girls in Abuja refuse to do anything else other than runs. Its affecting my icharity business as well (as 90% of my clients are guys). Most girls detest the idea of working hard. Honestly, I'm scared to marry from this country. I need a like minded hustler like me. F*#k that opposite attract sh#t.

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    1. @baba for the broad d world has gone pass where ur caurse or disciplne in skool determines wat u do or become in life.pls learn to give constructive criticism rather than being abusive to women. If every body shld run to d science related feilds mind u correspondence like linda and the likes would not pop up.

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  5. This 1 should be there speaking plenty english...no go hustle wella

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  6. Economic freedom fighter shut ur mouth S.A men are selfish with their little dicks.They don't know how to love or satisfy their women .And their ladies are blessed with big baka.kenya men too are lazy

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  7. Nigerian men been giving these guys master's thesis... Lol #SorryGuys

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  8. Jahajajjajajjajajajjajja,una no go kill me.

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  9. Lolol......good lord. Well, I work for my money, I don't know about the rest of them ladies though. Hehehehehe


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  10. HAHA
    -D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

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  11. Do u noticed most commentators on dis issues ar males? Bitches be shying away, d truth is majority of females don't lov if a guy is broke, men cn still lov broke ass ladies. So much for gender equality

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  12. I'm a Nigerian living in S.A, only in S.A you will see a woman dating a man for 3 years and he hasn't given her R100 before.. all they do is to drink 4litres of coke a day, this also makes their performance poor on bed..
    S.A girls are sweet and beautiful. Because of the love we show them, this makes them very easy for us, I most pick a wife here

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  13. I'm a Nigerian with a SA citizen.. abeg make Naija guys dey spend small small.. the men are angry that their women don't follow them, cos they are too wicked, stingy and weak.
    Thumbs up to all Naija guys in SA, we are killing it.. cos of my Swag, I done even mistakenly go chop all my girlfriend relatives.. and I never plan to stop, cos they keep coming to have a taste

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  14. its not only in SA.... its all over

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  15. It is clear that some Nigerian ladies have predestined minds of not doing anything after graduating from school. It worries when a lot of female graduates end up in kitchens out of laziness.What is the essence of wasting your time in school when all you want is the Kitchen. Again ladies don't know that by depending solely on their men makes them the only bread winners of their families. As a lady find something to do so that life will not become a hell the moment your husband accidentally leaves this world. AS FOR NIGERIAN MEN SPENDING THEIR MONEY ON SOUTH AFRICAN WOMEN'S BIG BUM BUM, you will regret it. Ladies borrow a leaf from Lindaikeji

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    1. And for men that their wives assist to pay bills by getting a job and working, please also assist your wives in domestic chores since they are also sharing your primary responsibility of working and bringing money home to put food on the table

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