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Friday 6 May 2016

Young mother of two allegedly beaten to death by her husband this morning at their home in Egbeda

Ronke Bewaji Shonde (pictured above) was allegedly beaten to death by her husband this morning May 6th at their home at Tiemo Crescent off Awori street in Egbeda Lagos. According to family friend who reached out to LIB, Ronke and her husband had a fight in the early hours of this morning at their home while their kids were sleeping. One neighbour later said he heard the noise coming from their flat early this morning but didn't think it was something horrific going on in the home.


Around 7am, the couple's nanny came to the house to resume work only to find the house locked and no one was opening the door. She tried to call her madam but her phone was switched off. She peeped through the window only to find the couple's 6 and 4 year old kids crying and saying they couldn't wake their mum up. By this time, neighbours had also gathered and they forcefully opened the door to find Ronke's lifeless body on the floor, blood gushing from her head.

The husband, Lekan Shonde, was nowhere to be found. Ronke's phone was also missing. He'd locked the kids with their dead mum in the house and took off with her phones.

Her body has since been deposited at the mortuary. She was in her mid-30s.

According to family friends, Ronke suffered domestic violence in her husband's hands for many years but refused to leave the marriage. Sad it took her losing her life for this to end. Quite sad!

Ladies, please say no to domestic violence. Please. No marriage is worth your life!

163 comments:

  1. Omg.. that man is a beast in human flesh, they should fetch him and make sure he wrath in jail!



    ~glo rule your world~ cos I do•

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    1. Domestic violence is on the rampage, we need to do something about it. #RespectAWoman.

      #LIB ADDICT#

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    2. PARENTAL ADVISORY
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      Linda I would av loved this ur advocacy if u said dsame abt d man dat was stabbed in d neck by the wife.......

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    3. Bad News! Poor kids.

      May her soul RIP

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    4. What nonsense! The man is an animal

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    5. And they would lick your feat for you to marry them
      RIP young lady
      I just wonder if this is a man thing
      Remember lindas post of an old man that used his walkn stick to beat his old wife

      Miss Freeborn!!

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    6. When will women battering stop??? May God save us

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    7. Yes-ooo! Even if na woman dey pursue you, run for your life. Irreplaceable.

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    8. Yes-ooo! Even if na woman dey pursue you, run for your life. Irreplaceable.

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  2. No marriage is worth your life ooo

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  3. Babe mama 2surrrreee!!!! This thing called marriage na death trap in sort! Insult me o! Go on ...na my choice o! Everybody live in peace biko

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  4. Babe mama 2surrrreee!!!! This thing called marriage na death trap in sort! Insult me o! Go on ...na my choice o! Everybody live in peace biko. Rip Ronke

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  5. Joyous babe,Linda ikeji first cousin6 May 2016 at 21:25

    Oh my goodness,why what went wrong?aww some men are so wicked,this brought tears to my face.may her soul rip.and I pray they caught d man where ever he is.too sad

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  6. Yes no marriage is worth your life, most Nigerian men are stupid and useless

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    1. If use the word "most" Nigerian men" that means u must be stupid to attract stupid pple to ur life, also ur dad, brothers must be inclusive of the stupid Nigerian men. u need to go back to school and learn the use of English.

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    2. You can join the seminary

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  7. Marriage!!!!! Run once he hits you.

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    1. And run once she provokes you

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    2. No amount of provocation, be you man or woman, should lead to physical violence. You are not animals, women who fight at the drop of a hat, men who beat at simple words are cowardly, mentally unstable animals and should be kept in asylums for the criminally insane. Where they are to be sedated and used for pharmaceutical experiments, to enhance and prolong the life of regular humans .

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  8. U stay in a bad marriage for kids. Hoping that things will get better. But violence is a slippery slope. It never get better, only ends in one way.

    May she rest in peace.

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    1. Now those kids are scarred for life!! Being locked up with their mothers dead body and trying to wake her..... no child should be exposed to domestic violence!! Why can't people see its also a bad thing!!

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    2. What if this was the first fight they ever had since marriage and things just went wrong that night?? Dont understand why people are already presuming he was beating her everyday

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    3. Did u even read dis story at all...didn't u see where dey said she has been suffering from domestic violence but refused to leave d home...abi u read am upside down?

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    4. I'm nt sure u read d story. He has no excuse of beating her @ all,talk more 2 d point of bleeding 2 death

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    5. And who gave the information?? The little children or the neigbours that sleep in the same bed with them??

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  9. Exactly Linda. No marriage is indeed worth your life. Domestic violence should be discarded in all entirety. I don't just get it why men would lay his hands on a woman. She's your helpmate for crying out loud, she's supposed to be cared for and not beaten. If she provokes you, you walk away. We know what women can behave sometimes, but just walk away and do not be provoked to beat her.


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    1. Help meet not, help mate very good point there

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  10. No marriage is worth one's life, but our society today label women who says no to domestic violence by walking away as failures.

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    1. Thank u my dear. It is d same society that ll crucify the woman n call her all sorts of names if she decides to take a walk from violent marriage,especially her fellow women. That is d main reason most women stay in bad n violent marriages bcos they fear they can't handle stigmatization n condemnation from society

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    2. Well ssid

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    3. But,its all abt d woman's life,who cares what d society says.
      If she looses her life in d process, who will be d loser,her family or his family.

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    4. To hell with stigmatization.I used to be a victim of domestic violence but had to move on cos I still av a lot to achieve in life. Let d society say whatever they like,they re not in my shoes

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    5. It s a big lie. No one condenms women for leaving a violent man

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    6. HONEY EVARIST ARE U LIVING IN MARS CAUSE SOME PPL SAID WOMEN ARE FROM MARS WHILE MEN FROM VENUS OR VICE VERSA..SINCE THEY TOO DIFFERENT...ARE U HUMAN FROM ANOTHER PLANET.PL GROW UP..IT IS TRUE THAT SOME WOMEN SELL THEIR DIGNITY TO MEN JUST CAUSE THEY WANT TO ACHIEVE SOMETHING UNREALISTIC I THE END IT IS DISASTER.THEY FORGET THAT LIFE HAS NO DUPLICATE.ONL WITH SINGLENESS CAN ONE ACHIEVE COMPLETION IT IS WHERE THE EMBODIMENT OF A PERSON IS NOT IN THE OTHER ENITIY WE ARE SEPERATE ENTITIES LET US ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT AND STOP CUTTING CORNERS ON THIS TOPIC.PPL ARE OT BIOLOGICALLY PROGRRAMMED FOR THIS OUTSIDE THEIR HOMES EXCEPT THE ONES U UPHOLD HUMANITY IN THEIER HEARTS.LET PPL CALL U NAMES..U NEED TO KEEP LIVING.WOMEN ARE ENEMIES OF THEIR OWN GENDER.STAND UPTO HELP YOUR KIND NOT JUST THE MALE GENDER.TELL THE TRUTH.RESPECT A WOMAN LIKE YOU .

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  11. I hope ladies would learn from dis. No marriage is worth losing one's life over. Linda take note!

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  12. OMG, look how pretty she was.

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  13. Some women are just plain stupid. (I'm a married woman). Just because you want to bear 'Mrs', you refuse to leave a psycho wretch of a man who beats you. Is it because you don't have money that you refuse to leave him or is it the sex? Since she refused to leave him, he has kuku killed her for the children.

    I hope that guy dies a horrible death. I pray they find him and hang him till he dies. All men beating their wives, I pray God in his infinite mercies makes you meet a man outside who will beat and maim/cripples you. Coward wretched men. I am so angry. Why do women do these to themselves? Stay in an abusive marriage?!!! ARGHHHHHHH

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  14. The bible says fleeee, flee from every appearance of the devil,and she refused to flee

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  15. How mean can d man be? Those kids might never recover from d trauma


    ...merited happiness

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  16. Linda i am sitting on our veranda as i type this.i came out here to get some fresh air.for the past 1hour i have had to turn my head to see where the shouts of agony are coming from.

    A lady has been screaming in a flat behind our house.I thinkbher husband is beating her.This is not the first time but today's own is just too much.i could hear the sound of his whip as it connected with this woman's body and how she screamed after each lash.

    I am sitting here and wondering wht so i do?why won't she flee for her life?i am igbo living in abia and. this woman is yoruba.

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    1. 9;33 abeg face ur work oooo! If she wan die there, na she sabi

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    2. Pls don't just mind your business I beg u in d name of God try and save a life by calling on the police or any of dis agencies on Human trafficking/domestic violence.
      God will surely reward you.

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    3. Anon 9.33...if you interfer, when she settles with her hubby, you become a home breaker. That's how it always happens. When she's ready, she'll seek help.

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    4. No!!! You must help her. Where in Abia are you? You could call the social welfare people and plead anonymity. If she dies, you would regret that you didn't help her. I'm a lawyer.I can help you.

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    5. Nooo!!! You must help her. Tomorrow you would regret not doing something if anything happens to her. Report to the social welfare people. Which part of Abia are you at? I can help you.

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    6. Nooo!!! You must help her. Tomorrow you would regret not doing something if anything happens to her. Report to the social welfare people. Which part of Abia are you at? I can help you.

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    7. God bless I gentie... 11:40 u r a learner

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    8. Please do not ignore, what's the location and where? Call the police. Though, I'm not in naija, I'd raise people to go to her in less than 10minutes max. #shecould beyoursisspringtoactionNOW#

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    9. Get off your ass and do something before it's too late.
      Call the police. Tell her relatives. Go there and make sure she's ok.Do something rather than sitting on your behind and calling Linda

      The society in Nigeria is sick

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    10. Mayb na im dick im de use lash am and she is screaming for more

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  17. Awwww.... So Sad.... RIP Ronke... #LindaIkeji'sExBoyfriend

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  18. Chai! yoruba when will u stop shedding blood??? Just when mofos??? Rip

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    1. You are insane for making such comment,like your tride don't share blood,bigot.

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    2. Like the useless men from your tribe don't beat their wives,fool.

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    3. I know him putting tribe to dis is bad buh i wont lie it's common on yoruba men nd d annoying part is dat d families side with d man.most of my frnds dat suffer dis domestic violence stuff re married to yoruba men nd it's sad how I see dem suffering nd dem they see nothing to it

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    4. I am youruba as well and there is no point living in denial, a high percentage of Yoruba men are physically and mentally abusive. It's the culture.

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    5. so no other tribe beats their wives? Abeg keep your tribalism in your pocket in a thread like this

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    6. HAHAHAHAHA!STOP THE JOKE VIOLENCE OF ANY KIND IS BAD

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  19. So, so sad. I wonder why dis kind of things should happen. Someone u loved and got married to? No reason what so ever for dis type of horrific scene.

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  20. Pls don't tell me this is real!....I know dis lady very well....Ronke u can't be dead

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  21. Sad. May her Soul rest in peace

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  22. You better be sure about this news linda after calling a potential innocent man's name. This is why you are always getting in trouble so

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    1. The wife's family that sent it to her will bear the brunt of the trouble if it's fake. She was on her own and they sent her the info with photos.

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  23. So sad. Those kids are motherless now. Its that worst thing to grow without a mother. To think their father killed their mum,hmmm.

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  24. Now she's not alive to tell de story rest in peace

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  25. End time husband.
    No marriage is worth your life@all.
    What did the baby mama did to him that he will beat her to death?no matter any thing
    Where are the brain washed Africans that thinks that marriage is every thing not knowing that marriage is a journey of happiness and sadness.
    Am sure that his now okay by killing his baby mama why?what is this world turning in yoruba lands
    Mr man you can run but u can't hide.
    Please police and soldiersshoild do some thing immediately because this man need to suffer pains before they tow him inside lions death.
    May her soul never rest in peace.













    #sad indeed

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    1. You are a pathetic mother fucker with horrible command of English. Pls go back to school.

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    2. You need to focus more on your use of english,better still get a brighter grammar textbook instead of you focusing on bringing other tribes down.Mofo

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  26. Oh God what is this again why are the men becoming monsters? She should have left him nau see how he just wasted her life.He will be caught soon and must suffer for this. May God console her family , RIP .

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  27. This is so sad RIP to the dead.

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  28. Women can b annoying at times sha. It's y we men need to control our temperature

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    1. From the post and d pix of d dead lady I feel the man must have pushed her in annoyance.After which she hit her on the tiled floor when he realised she was dead he ran away.

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  29. This is very said pls say no to domestic violence no relationship is worth your life a man that hit u once will definitely do it again

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  30. Ladies please learn from this. You shouldn't listen to those who tell you to weather the storm and comply with biblical principles. Life has no duplicate!

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    1. I am nt in support of domestic violence though but d same bible says u should talk to each other with gentlness... No mad man or woman will fight u when u respond calmly

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    2. I am nt in support of domestic violence though but d same bible says u should talk to each other with gentlness... No mad man or woman will fight u when u respond calmly

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  31. Oh poor kids. They will hate their father forever n find it hard to forget d image of their mother lying there, especially d 6year old. RIP lady . indeed no marriage is worth it.

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  32. Seriously in 2016 women have still not learned!this hurts like she was my sister. People are still trying to reconcile my sister to her violently abusive husband. People save the lives of your daughter, sister friend before her blood is on your hands via yeyecious reconciliation. This is despicable. Rip lady.

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  33. Hmmm mm speechless Rip!i just pity those kids

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  34. I wish som ladies wil learn frm dis. Rip

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  35. Men are wicked ooo

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  36. Yoruba men make the worst husbands ever..Tiwa and now this, sheesh. RIP woman

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    1. And igbo men make the worst criminals

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  37. Stories like this upsets me it gets me mad.ladies please you do not need to stay in a marriage till the man kills you or distroys your vital body part. Please run for your life!
    You don't want to leave your kids? The moment you die won't they survive somehow? U can leave d marriage n still conrct with your kids
    What will people say? The moment He blinds or break yor legs ,d same people will ask why you refuse to run
    before 6 month he will bring in another woman.
    yes it is good to love genuinely but not stupidly.
    This is sad may her soul rest in peace

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  38. At all, no marriage is worth one's life. Rip to her

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  39. "No marriage is worth your life" I expect ladies of Linda's calibre to say that. You shall be granted your request.

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    1. You are an idiot!! All women whether small or big should heed to Linda's advise. Men like you kill their wives. There isn't any for better for worse. Stupid men you got in naija.

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    2. @annoymous10:11pm U must b a very stupid person nd I suspect u re a woman beater as well nd if u re a woman u must b a stupid one.linda is right "no marriage is worth ones life" u want som1 stay in a marriage dat she is suffering everyday.so now dat Ronke is dead lemme ask u is she still married now?if she hv divorced his crazy ass she wud still b married now

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    3. I feel so sorry for the kids but the way some of you are insulting each other Na wa o. Can't some of you be civil.

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  40. It's a pity! Hopefully other women will learn from her experience

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  41. Hmmm it is well. Marriage nowadays is sometime else may God save us from deadly men.

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  42. Soo sad! May her soul rest in peace

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  43. she's bn suffering from domestic violence before now???
    why didn't they report the case to the police .
    i hope the man is apprehended and get to face justice for wht he has done.


















    SCARFACE

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  44. Nawa ooooh not by force to stay married, now that she is gone who will take care of the innocent children?

    Www.bolatitoblog.com

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  45. I'm short of words! RIP Ronke!

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  46. Sooo full of life. Rest in peace ronke

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  47. Omg men are beast,God I tank u 4 Wht u did 4 I and my dota.rip ronke

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  48. If only some women wil just listen, an abusive man who cannot cntrl his temper and wuld hurt u so badly wuld endup killing u some day
    Divorce isnt as shameful as death dt wuld leave ur kids at d mercy of a strange woman.

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  49. No no!!!so sad!!!she use to be my neighbor in Ebgeda,Mr lekan is hardly around,her mum and sister visit regularly,she use to work @ GTB..she basically takes care of the kids alone!!she is playful and full of life!!so sad!!!

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  50. Nigerian people will you learn?????????
    next thing you people will be preaching for Tiwa to go back to her husband as if marriage is life or death. Now that this woman has been beaten to death shebi all the people that kept encouraging her to stay in such marriage will gather at her funeral and eat rice then move on with their lives.NIGERIAN PEOPLE PLEASE PLEASE MARRIAGE IS NOT BY FORCE AND STOP STIGMATIZING PEOPLE THAT LEAVE WHEN ITS TOO MUCH TO BEAR.
    her soul RIP

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  51. Goodness,that man shud b caught and burnt alive.He is a beast in human flesh.I just hate hateful men.Kilode?????Eh which kin talk lead 2 ds kin tng Ehen????.Very fine nd got lady.

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  52. So sad! I hope the evil man is caught up with.. Had the victim known, she would have quit the marriage earlier..
    May her soul Rip


    Na me talk am!


    Long Live Lib!!

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  53. LADIES AND MEN SHOULD KNOW WHO THEY ARE GETTING MARRIED TO. DON'T RUSH INTO MARRIAGE CAUSE YOU OF AGE. KNOW YOUR MAN AND YOUR WOMAN. MOST OF THIS NEW GENERATION COUPLES GET TO MEET ONLINE, AND WHAT MOST GIRLS CARE ABOUT IS THAT HE IS RICH AND READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND SOME MEN CARE ABOUT HER GOOD LOOKS. DON'T SAY YES TO HIM IF YOU DON'T KNOW HIM, DON'T DECIEVE YOURSELF OF BEING IN LOVE WHEN ALL YOU SEE IS MATERIAL THINGS. I PRAY GOD BLESS OUR BRIAN.

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  54. I swear no man will try such horrible act wth me...l will cut off his manhood whalai! kai! What a pity...marriage is not by force l don't get it why sum woman keep dying in men's hand...cos marriage is a endurance abi?...God forbid i can't bear dis type...instead a man will kill me l swear will kill him nd moran him for 1yr den get into another men or better say...stay own my own..there is no in the bible dat said if yuh didn't marry won't mk heaven "No"..so why are we rushing into marriage nd dat's why sum useless men re takin advantage of us...Goodnight woman! I wish u heaven ok...


    ....CYNTHIA commenting from my TOYOTA 2014

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  55. Useless African the animal should be hang

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  56. Pervert feminist, i was not suprised when you linked with gender issues. "Pls ladies, no marriage is worth your life indeed" when women killed, burnt or pour acid on their husbands, did u remember to care about life?

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  57. I don't know why women don't love theirself or their kids all in d name of being a married woman.i have like 2 female frnds who are under dis same domestic violence shit nd day by day year by year they refuse to leave giving me dat shity excuse dat "he will change" "he is not a bad person I provoke him somtimes" "I can't take care of d kids on my own" they end up giving silly excuse on why they can't leave.endangering d live of their kids nd theirs.even if dis women survive dis they don't know d kind of shit they hv done to their kids life their daughter will grow up thinking it's normal for a man to beat her nd d son will grow up tinkin it's normal for a man to hit a woman.so bad dis women don't know d damage they cus when they stay in abusive marriage.again our community is not helpful even if one of this women get up nd leave most ppl will condemn her for leaving her husband.white ppl brought out dis for better or worst shit buh we re d ones dieing to uphold it

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  58. I still wonder why people stay in a life-threatening marriage! Didn't they read their Bible or seek counsel from their pastors? Kolaq

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  59. Esther Dangana7 May 2016 at 07:38

    This marriage thing is not a do or die affair. Look at it, she is gone leaving her two lovely children behind. Marriage is to be enjoyed not endure. Please ladies don't wait for your corpse to be drag out of the house, use your two legs and go,no man is worth dying for. RIP.

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  60. some bad neighbours are always good eye-witnesses.Yesterday i read about a man who murdered his wife after a heated argument in the middle of the night.well later dt day in the morning ''neigbours ''went to peep through their window to find the woman dead and her two kids crying .they forced the door open and so on.My problem is with d neighbours just as i blame the man too.The police need to start arresting these bloddy eye-witnesses as well as these husbands/wives murderers too.How can u hear ur neihbour quarelling and didnt even boder to try to findout wts going on and resolve their issues nor did u even call d police for a domestic nusiance in ur area.U herd ur neighbour quareling and u didnt try to stop dem either by physically trying to resolve them or calling for help.Judges in Nigeria should learn to du dia work properly by asking witness a very simple question''WHAT DID U DO TO TRY TO STOP D SITUATION''?AS for lindaikeji i find ur message of fear to women disturbing.weneva a wife murders her husbnad like d case of that judiciary worker who stab her husband u dont advice d male folks about ''no marriage is worth ur life'' but wen d reverse is d case,u begin to advice women in something uve neva gotten urself involved in before.Marriage is not a bad thing.Marriage is beautiful with its complexity and its not a skool for only biologically mature people ,its for d mentally mature minds.So stop advicing people wrongly cus even those who have had sucessfull marrieages like Joke silver and olu jacobs, omotola kehinde n her husbnd have disputes in their marriages too but they have managed it with roboots maturity dat it doesnt seem to be there anyways.When people r arguing,they r in a very vulnerable state.and sometimes it has to take the intervention of a third party to difuse d tension.so stop making tired xcuses that marriage is d cause of this woman's life cus she would have been single and still be killed by her bf.so shut d hell up if u dnt know anything about Marriage.

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    1. It is because it is women that behave as if marriage is a do or die affair. And it is mostly women that suffer in marriage

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  61. Is not only in yoruba Land,is everywhere. But don't allow your husband kill you in d name of marriage

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  62. Kudos to western world law,if u beat your wife once you rotten in jail ,nigeria law is not favourable to we women.RIP

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  63. Kudos to western world law,if u beat your wife once you rotten in jail ,nigeria law is not favourable to we women.RIP

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  64. Nawa ooooo.. pls women speak up and let's put an end to this domestic violence......

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  65. Looking at those family picture. Shows there was once joy,but the enemy turned it sour,
    She persevere till date,
    U even have work,dt means u can be ok with this man,he beat u once he will do it again,
    Why on earth will a man beat his own wife,with such lovely children,
    My heart bleeds,rest on sister,
    Women pls if u can't bear it,by leave and move on

    A BROKEN MARRIAGE IS FAR BETTER TO A LOST LIFE,
    U fear ur children will suffer or hate of u can go with them,
    Leave dt for future,they will understand,
    Live and don't die pleasing MAN, ABEG

    Rip sister

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  66. No reason is enuf to die in marriage, ur children will understand, run for ur dear life to tell the story,my heart bleeds, Rip sister

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  67. Looking at those family picture. Shows there was once joy,but the enemy turned it sour,
    She persevere till date,
    U even have work,dt means u can be ok with this man,he beat u once he will do it again,
    Why on earth will a man beat his own wife,with such lovely children,
    My heart bleeds,rest on sister,
    Women pls if u can't bear it,by leave and move on

    A BROKEN MARRIAGE IS FAR BETTER TO A LOST LIFE,
    U fear ur children will suffer or hate of u can go with them,
    Leave dt for future,they will understand,
    Live and don't die pleasing MAN, ABEG

    Rip sister

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  68. Linda, leaving an abusive relationship/marriage isn't just the solution. Use ur platform to draw attention to the Stigmatization and discrimination the Nigerian Society places on Divorced women and Other wemen who wanna opt out of their marriages.

    My friend who recently left her abusive husband is not in good terms with her own mother and sisters Cus she refused to 'manage' the situation and stay married. Worse yet, it was so difficult finding a new accommodation Cus most Landlords don't rent houses to single or divorced ladies. Just sad!

    The Emotional fear of this overrides the logical reasoning of most women. They rather stay, suffer the pains and stife and for their children. They forget no child is happy seeing both parents in a bad marriage.

    U have considerable influence in our society. Pls use it well.

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    1. U see dats wia d problem is "our mentality nd d society as a whole...if d family thinks she can control/manage d man nd she does dat till she loose her life wu do we blame....One thing abt dis wife beater is its in dia blood

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  69. I wonder how a mother is going to lose two children within 9months, Mercy lost her brother last year July in an accident, now this one is just too much a pain to pacify...life can be meaningless without Jesus,infact life is lifeless without him...hw can a man do such to a woman he once loved....I started a story filled with fictions and factuals...full of fantacies and realities because i have unanswered unrhetoric question...the title of my story is "WHY DOES LOVE TRAVEL?"

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  70. Temitope, very gud and descent prayer from you...while dating, u may not notice DT he can beat u. Only God can save us.

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  71. How long will ladies keep on tolerating abuse and violence against them all in the name of love or marriage? No one knows the full story though, but another life is lost.

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  72. dont get into a fight with anyone dont infuriate whomsoever you are arguing with be it a driver tout husband or wife this is a domestic accident caused by anger remain sane at all times despite the anger

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  73. I know this lady. She used to work with GTBank - Broad Street branch back then. OMG !!!

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  74. Please Linda show the killer's picture in case we find him or know someone related to him ! Please.

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  75. No marriage is worth dying for. Women, train your girl child to be self sufficient financially and emotionally. Train your boys to mature into men who are emotionally balanced and have respect for women.
    Questions on relationship issues might not have a right or wrong answer, but there are wrong or right actions in relationship.
    A right action is never stay in the same house with a wife or husband who raised their hands on you the first time. If you stay that day you will stay till death. If however you move away that night till their 'eye clear' maybe you will live to tell the tale someday.
    Every reason or excuse becomes foolishness once you are dead.
    Unfortunately the society made up of neighbors, friends, mothers, fathers,brothers, sisters etc are no great help.
    You are warned severally not to bring a third party into your domestic affairs, the same society will ask 'who did she tell?' Neighbors will hear shouts from the next flat and will not go over to find out what the rukus is about. We all wait until it's too late either to save the marriage or the life. Even if the home is charmed, a caring neighbor can help break the spell. But do we care enough?
    In this case, there are no firm eye witnesses who can put the man in the scene and corroborate his presence with time of death. A good lawyer can get him off the hook. Eventually, he will be left with no one pressing charges.
    O ma se O. Ronke you allowed this.

    Until women say no to violence of any sort in their marriages we are likely to keep on reading such tales.
    Any other issue can be managed in marriage but not violence,you stay at your own risk.

    He who has ears let him/her hear.....

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  76. RIP Ronke.... so so sad

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  77. I have also been a victim of this, my ex husband will beat me infront of my 4yrs old daughter and my 3momth old son then, he will even go to our pastor to report me after beating me, everyone keep saying d woman builds her home on a solid rock and all sort, his parent will always come to settle fights 4x in a week.... I almost lost my life and I had to walk away 2yrs after God gave me my own husband dat took me with my kids and am happily married now with a daughter for him.. .. If I had listen to pls advice it's obvious I will be dead by now and a different story will be told to my dear children..... Hmmm Rip range it's late thou... May God keep ur children safe

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  78. I am yoruba too.....they are abusive ,,,,they are known for reducing their wives to nothing mentally......May God save us.

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  79. Wow,very sad story,you wouldn't blame her for not leaving,as the saying goes In marriage once you are in,you are in,no matter wat you have to be patient n tolerant for betting some men are beasts in human form

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  80. It is quite unfortunate that people particularly women refuse to grow some brain call in domestic abuse...keep waiting unto death! Some people just have a death wish! Is self preservation not the first law of nature..well save a marriage when you are already dying!!!RIP ma'am

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  81. Can we hear from the man first before we start cursing him? There are many women out there who beat up their Hubbies on a regular, spill their blood, pour them acids..etc. Of course when we hear such we tend to laugh at the man going through this or term him a "weak" man and forget he is going through an abuse in his marriage. If you are a man or a woman who constantly abuse your partner emotionally or physically please STOP it. If you are a man or woman facing such in your home may God give you the grace to take the right decision that will help/save you. RIP Temitope.

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  82. The man is a bastard to kill the woman and some women you to cost third dead because marriage and a shame that all her friends have married and parents disturbing forget about them and live your life

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  83. Before marrying a man,check for his level of emotional and psychological maturity.This is important because immaturity esp emotional immaturity cannot do any marriage any good.When a man cannot handle anger,cannot control his temper and when angry, he boils and becomes violent over trivialities or slight provocations, such a man is not suitable for marriage.In marriage,there are many upsets that require emotional stability and control to handle else immature reactions to the upsets will result to abuses and eventual disintegration of the union.Emotional maturity is a requirement for marriage but many ladies overlook this,focusing on age maturity, physique maturity and financial maturity.If a man is emotionally immature, before marriage you will know if U are diligent in observation but premarital sex is the problem that blinds the ladies from seeing these realities.When they see it, they ignore it because premarital sex which creates a false bond has beclouded their reasoning faculty and makes them think love is blind.A man that will be violent in marriage already has the seed in him,planted in him and can be discovered by a woman who is diligent in observation during the courtship though the man may try to hide this weakness.

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  84. So sad Ronke, may your soul rest in peace.
    I know this beautiful lady from teens and hearing the new I went to her home to confirm the story and behold I saw her corps wrapped in blood.

    A concerned neighbour at the scene blamed the matter on one of Ronke's female friends still working with GTB. That the lady always feeds Ronke's hobby with information on financial transactions in the deceased Bank account. And that 90% of the causes of their quarrel and fighting is centered on money. The murderer ran away with the wifes' ATMs. I hope GTB will deactivate the deceased bank account. Poor lady, she is the bread winner in her home, the illiterate hobby who works as a loader in one of the Oil depot just feasts on her.

    There are so many Ronke(s) sitting on time bombs. My advise to sisters out there is to watch-out for men that feasts on there wives.

    Rest in peace my sister.


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  85. Please let's note here. If you are in a physically abusive relationship please stay out of harms way. We are not talking about divorce. If your house is on fire you run out and from a safe distance try to put it out so is a violent relationship. Stay at a safe distance and pray for deliverance for the violent spouse.
    Also note dear sisters these men are people's brothers and sons and nephews etc. If you know your sister in law or daughter in law is being pummelled you are the best person to put a stop to this . There is also the mental emotional or psychological abuse.to you the runs girls going about breaking homes and causing men to behave badly to their families every drug has expiration date heavy nemesis will soon catch up with you and you will suffer much worse. # ediblecatering

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