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Monday, 2 November 2015

“I did it because I didn't have a choice" Story of a Self-Made woman

They say the secret of men, or in this case a woman, is in their stories. Read Chinwe's story and see if you can share yours too… 
"I had thought that being a graduate would mean all my worries were over, but to my surprise it was as though jobs were running from me. Just when I was about to give up, an old friend recommended me for a job; to replace her colleague who was going on leave. I was hungry to make it, and determined to prove to people that I could be something after all. My employers saw it in me - the career drive that can send an innocent lady to do anything possible - and that’s how I felt.


Now it dawns on me that although I had risen in my career, I feel like I've fallen so low. 
I didn’t have a choice- it was either that… or nothing. “You have to go the extra mile to get more out of life”, my boss used to tell me. Other times he would say “sacrifices are part of business… prove to me you are worthy of this promotion; that you can do anything, no matter what it takes, to get what you want.”

He never cared about the repercussions as he saw us as tools that can be sent out and used all because of an extra client in his pocket. I simply couldn’t see it, as I was blinded by pressure and the desire to prove myself.  Sometimes I would return home with tears in my eyes, unable to let people know what I went through to get to where I was. That’s how my life has been. I had to grow, I had to be relevant, I had to do it because I didn’t have a choice.”

That’s all she said before she was overcome with tears- you wouldn’t need a soothsayer to tell you sexual harassment is more prevalent than you can possibly imagine. Chinwe’s story echoes the experiences of several others who are taken advantage of at work just because they are women and are desperate.

This why the SBA Group is organising a conference titled Sexual Harassment in Sales; seeking to answer the question - “Is the Nigerian Business Environments Conducive for Nigerian Female Professionals? 
With renowned Keynote Speaker FolukeDaramola, who is a top filmmaker and activist and founder of 'Passion Against Rape in Africa' (PARA), a PAN World Global rape foundation aimed at fighting rape in Africa andPanellists carefully selected from the professional and business sectors, the conference would be one of it’s kind.

The conference is planned as a forum for discussions with professional women, providing them a platform to interact and share their experiences and survival tactics in a very demanding world. Another objective is to provide support for vulnerable female professionals. It would be an excellent networking opportunity for all delegates. 
Participation fee is NGN10,000 (Ten Thousand Naira). 

If you’re ready to join the cause, let’s hear your story and contribution… Don’t underestimate what it can do!
Contact
SegunAkande: 07036695005
Joseph Edgar 08051000195
Twitter: @Shconference
Facebook: Sexual Harassment Conference

31 comments:

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  2. Okay!! Women will rule soon!

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  3. Hokay na

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    That vuvuzela P guy

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  4. I respect women who inspite of all odds, made something good out of their lives.














    #TeamBlessed#

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  5. Ok cool,Aunty Linda,what's stoping me from commenting since morning. TIMILEYIN BLESSING

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  6. Thank d Lord dat my comments r going thru now for hav b experiening difficult wit sending my comments.

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  7. Linda. September giveaway winners.

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  8. Everyone in Nigeria is exploring every possible means to exploit unsuspecting Nigerians. Everybody want to organize workshop, everybody want to do seminar and all is money. Fleecing unemployed citizen to add to their woes, every nook and cranny of the country is full of fraud and corruption.

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  9. Why regret something you had to do willingly and it is not like anyone is blaming you for what you did? Some ladies are already very promiscuous ever before graduating from schools. Sad to say that these days most young ladies I have come across do not even believe in love. You must pay them for even asking them for a dinner date and it is cash on hand before sex. So who is interested in these crocodile tears when today's. Women believe men are nothing but bags of money and ATM cashpoints!!!

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  10. Whos harassing who now? Programs like this should be free charging women for things they already know does'nt speak well of such organisations...

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    1. True. It should be free. I am really happy to hear about this. Sexual harassment is really too much in Nigeria

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    2. Asin Ehh, just what I was about to write. Is it the low earning sales rep that has to hustle clients and do the unthinkable that would be able to cough out #10k just to hear other people's stories?? If its not free and intended to educate the ladies out there that they shouldn't sell their bodies, then I don't understand why anyone should be attending this "conference"

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  11. Royal priesthood must you aadd this to your comment?

    Your I too know too much.

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  12. Royal priesthood must you aadd this to your comment?

    Your I too know too much.

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  13. It's a sad world
    One one hand these women could leave these jobs right?
    But on the other hand - the economy is really bad and man must survive
    I feel sorry for every woman out there who had to choose between being used as sexual objects and their jobs.

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  14. It's a sad world
    One one hand these women could leave these jobs right?
    But on the other hand - the economy is really bad and man must survive
    I feel sorry for every woman out there who had to choose between being used as sexual objects and their jobs.

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  15. That's nice...truly inspiring

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  16. I will survive this hard time, if she can, I can also. I'm inspired!

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