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Dear LIB readers: Would you stay with him if you were me?

From a female LIB reader
What is happening to Karrueche happened to me in November 2014. I found out that the man I have been dating for 4 years has a 22 months old son. This means that he got another woman pregnant while we were together and it was not an unbreak baby because we've never broken up, we hardly even quarrel. I got pregnant early last year but got rid of it because I don't want to have a child outside of marriage. He didn't even tell me, I found out by chance after his cousin asked him how his son was doing. Everyone in his family knew but he kept it hidden from me. I left him in November when I found out but reconciled with him this January but I am still bitter over the experience. Things are not the same between us. One mind keeps telling me to leave him and find someone else. Like Karrueche I'm 26 and his baby mama is 32. What should I do?

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  1. Sure because all men r the same. Chris is a bonus n he has really helped her. Lindaobserve

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    1. It's better u leave him and move on cos u myt never forgive him even long after u marry him and it will affect ur relationship wit d child

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  2. Sure because all men r the same. Chris is a bonus n he has really helped her. Lindaobserve

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  3. Sure because all men r the same.Lindaobserve

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    1. All men are the same dear. It takes only a principled one and also the fear of God to keep them in check. I advise u go with your instincts.

      Lindahrisfashion.blogspot.com

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    2. Abeg is he as rich as chris brown?

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    3. I agree with you @lindafashionblog, the last statement to be specific, it will be better she follows her instinct nobody can force you. It either you stay or you move on with your life. This life is just one so don't allow someone else to poison it for you

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  4. Sure because all men r the same.Lindaobserve

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    1. U this 'lindaobserve' guy, I hate u!!!!! Aarrrggghh!

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    2. Cut d crap abeg... It's not all men that cheat. If u find urself having a cheating guy then u r simply searching in the wrong place! And please ladies, don't settle for a guy that cheats when they are faithful guys out there...

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  5. Sorry to hear that, bt do what is on your mind I can't tell you what to do because you are the one wearing the shoe.

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  6. If you love him..don't leave him

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  7. Girl,u better dump his Ass,he's a Hoe and a leopard can never change its spot...More baby mama or second nd third wife coming (after marriage) he's got no respect for U.

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  8. Wait Karrueche reads LIB too?! Wow!!

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    1. Like seriously. *bbm eyes rolling* did u read the caption or story?

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    2. You need Jesus.

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  9. Happiness is price less! Give urself peace, do d needful

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  10. The stone that one sees coming will hardly blind him. I am 28 and walked away from mine n u r just 26 u feel u getting old? Get out of the kitchen babe, since u don't like the heat! Shuu? Are u a learner?

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  11. That was a joke, talk to him if you like what he has to say then stay with him, if you don't, I would advice you move on!

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  12. Will u please get lost...arrant nonsense.

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  13. That depends on u ϑε̲ãr. If he could hide such a vital info from you, he could hide more.

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  14. Is he still in a romantic relationship with his baby mama? Pls find out more about them.. Dat is d only way u can find out where u are standing.

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  15. he has no respect for u, simple. He doesn't see u in his future that's why he didnt mention it. Run run run

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    1. So true. He's not ur man. He will still not mention it to u if his cousin didn't ask u by chance.... Run 4 ur Life...

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  16. Ppl should rili stop usin pregnancy outsyd marriage as an excuse 4 abortion. If u wntd 2 b Lyk his side chick u wud hav kept d baby. From wea I stand, he neva rili loved u nd u neva rili loved him too. A relationship is Lyk an egg, it is to be nurtured and stand tru trials not fade away ova every little drift. I rest my case

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  17. When he marries his baby mama while you are still dating him, you'll know what to do. Mtchewwww

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  18. My dear you know what is good for you, no body understands you better than you.
    Atleast your case is not that precarious since you both are not married yet. If you feel you can't take it, you better call it quit.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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  19. Leave him alone, start on a fresh page and God will give you someone honest and genuine.
    Marriage is a life long journey that you wouldn't want to start on lies and deceit.

    Take that hold step!

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  20. You broke up with him after finding out but still got back with & you still harbor bitterness on the issue? Sounds like a lot, you are confused biko. Linda take note!

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  21. personally, l wont be caught in such situation-ship,
    BUT; if he is sincere about marrying u ,u might consider him otherwise take a long walk,
    any decision u take; think about d future and not d present...

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  22. You broke up with him after finding out but still got back with & you still harbor bitterness on the issue? Sounds like a lot, you are confused biko. Linda take note!

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  23. You broke up with him after finding out but still got back with & you still harbor bitterness on the issue? Sounds like a lot, you are confused biko. Linda take note!

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  24. Become another baby MaMa for him

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  25. You broke up with him after finding out but still got back with & you still harbor bitterness on the issue? Sounds like a lot, you are confused biko. Linda take note!

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  26. He has no respect for you. You are so not in his future trust me. ask him his plans for marriage, if he has none for you let him go dear. time wasters.

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  27. God and sleep idiot

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  28. Thank God you are stil very young. You know certainly that he is not for you. break up without further delay, zip up, give your life to Jesus and seek God for the man meant for you. i'm a man and I can tell you you are the one over pricing that relationship

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  29. Leave like karrueche nd if karrueche comes back, then u can also come back. lol

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    1. Rofl.... You killed it. Hehehehehehehehe. Nice comment

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    2. Funny as hell.

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    3. As in eh...I woke up from my sleep to see it...I was just laffin....abi oh chil if Ka ruche comes back...u too go back

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  30. So pathetic ur story is...
    U mean u killed innocent child and here u r talking abt breaking up wit a man dat kept his own child frm u. If I were d man I wil b d one dat wil break up wit u for aborting d pregnancy.

    Just lik d saying "fire calling kettle black" dat is wht u r. Go and ask for forgiveness frm God dat is my advice 4u.

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  31. LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HE CAN KILL U.

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  32. Yu just hv to move on with ur life, coz if he can do dat to yu den i doubt he's d right one for yu... Do not continue to suffer coz yu luv him, den dat ain't luv n like yu said its not bn dsame, it linger on for long probably forever... Thr's plenty of options out thr for yu, besides yu ar still very young.. But if yu wanna continue, den i wish yu well..

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  33. like Karueeche to, break up with him on twitter make sure u give him a mention on the tweet cos he isnt famous to hear d news outside.

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  34. I will not Deceive you! If you continue with the Relationship he will still do the same thing after Marriage. The Right man will still come on Your way. If he is the Right Man for you, He will never do such a thing. So Run for your dear Life so that you will not Crying in Marriage. http://tinyurl.com/mmdfa4w

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  35. Trust loyalty n honesty is very important in every relationship so if u don't have these virtues in yours, u better get out of it...... Don't be blindly stupid in love

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    1. Low as 40k,lol! Like d type lib reader sent to Linda dat has a nokia battery! Yea right @ 40k dem tif am?

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  37. DO WAT UR MYN TELS U IS RYT....TOMJERRYSWIT

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  38. DO WAT UR MYN TELS U IS RYT....TOMJERRYSWIT

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  39. You shouldn't have returned! How on earth could a man hid such from ur babe? I know its difficult but come girl, He will do it again! And for ur information, he is STILL seeing his baby mama, and for four years you have been dating! No proposal? he went to impregnate another lady? and you are still there because of love? what love is that? u better leave his ass cos he will soon marry the baby mama and you will be KICKED out! afterall you have no baby yet! Leave before its too late dear.

    @gr8akin

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  40. Ewooooo....confuse ga dimakwa (in nkoli's voice ).....
    My dear check ur love faculty to see if u still hav any for him to last u tru a lifetime. ...cus u sure would be needing it to survive d post marital brouhaha. ..

    second., make sure he is gonna marry u and make it glaring dat d baby mama isn't gonna be an intrusion later ....

    Pray finally ...........den ur mind must tell u wat to do therof.....

    Ka onye nwe anyi gozie okwua

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  41. If he could hide such a vital info from u then, there might be more where that came from. It all depends on u sha. But pls stop aborting for a man whom υ̲̣̥r̲̅ uncertain of his future with u.

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  42. What are u waiting for to leave him for gud. Unless u re ready to handle d baby mama drama

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  43. It's break baby, not unbreak baby.

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  44. Dealdey is carrying out a promo today guys. iPhone 5 for as low as N40,000. Just go to www.dealdey.com and keep refreshing. Starts by 11:30. Don't dull.

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  45. My dear I have issue with men with babymama
    Is always as if you're competing with someone
    Even though he doesn't have anything with his babymama
    If you're not comfortable then leave
    I will advice you leave sef because you won't trust him again
    Assuming he had the baby before you started dating him
    Then you can stay

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  46. my dear sis pls run for ur life. In as much as he kept t frm u he has alot he has bin keepin form u. Beside four yrs s nt one yr. He s not ur man.

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  47. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Yu are a big fool for aborting an innocent child and karrueche never aborted any kid so yu are not like karrueche in any way...
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  48. I think you should give him a chance, because we are humans and we make mistakes even when we don't mean too. my question is, what makes you feel the next person you meet wont also do something worse.

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  49. dump his ass hard!

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  50. What shed u do? Keep fucking him, don't stop fucking him...ode

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  51. i wont stay, i hate a relationship that is build on lies...but i will forgive him and move on.


    :::::::::::::QUEENMAYA::::::::::::::::

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  52. Leave him with his baby mama, someone better will come knocking one day

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  53. You are not karraeche, her world is not like yours; Do what's best for you abeg!


    OKORO UPGRADED**

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  54. Do you plan to spend the future with him?
    Please visit rellaidiovo.blogspot.com

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  55. It's Your call. Just follow Your heart and Your instincts.


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  56. if i were you,i'll leave his sorry ass

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  57. Did U really make up your mind to accept him back? Don't deceive yourself as a good decision is based on knowledge and not numbers. Make up ur mind.

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  58. Girl,u found out from someone else so my advice is take a walk. your man isn't trustworthy. you don't know how many other babymamas he has.So call off the relationship.
    A broken relationship is far better than a broken marriage. Since u can't trust him,there is no way marriage with him wld work.

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  59. RUN WOMAN RUN!!!!! UNLESS OF COURSE U ARE READY FOR BABY MAMA DRAMA FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

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  60. lool dumb question..keep comparing ur relationship with karra's relationshit..Don't trust such a man cos one day he will introduce his wife to u..u don't know him

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  61. You must be a fool. You are 26, dating and sleeping with a man without using your head to think. Love is what you call it. If a man got another person pregnant while still dating, that means you are just a dating material and the pregnant woman is a wife. Your parent told you, but you thought you are wiser than them. More women will still give him more children. Sorry o DATER

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  62. Ask GOD for forgiveness for aborting a baby. Forgive him if u still love him bcos the Devil u know is better than the Angel u did not know

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  63. Leave. You are too young for baggage.

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  64. ask google wt u will do..........fortune

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  65. Sincerely speaking a lot of men are doing it now, my cousin discovered her husband of ten years has a year old son with another woman, she found out by chance. My dear don't leave him but know at the back of your mind that he can still and might do it AGAIN

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  66. Sincerely speaking a lot of men are doing it now, my cousin discovered her husband of ten years has a year old son with another woman, she found out by chance. My dear don't leave him but know at the back of your mind that he can still and might do it AGAIN

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  67. Sincerely speaking a lot of men are doing it now, my cousin discovered her husband of ten years has a year old son with another woman, she found out by chance. My dear don't leave him but know at the back of your mind that he can still and might do it AGAIN

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  68. I would leave because you're not over it. Women who choose to remain in relationships with men who's majorly betrayed them should stay if they can whole heartedly forgive. If they can't, they move on.

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  69. He's dishonest. I couldn't live with the dishonesty.

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  70. Sincerely speaking a lot of men are doing it now, my cousin discovered her husband of ten years has a year old son with another woman, she found out by chance. My dear don't leave him but know at the back of your mind that he can still and might do it AGAIN

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  71. Please take it from me you are too young for this type of drama, how could he have kept the cheating, conception and birth of a baby away from you? this sort of man can do ANYTHING, you deserve better and dont let anyone tell you you are old enough to marry so you should agree, too many babes are taking nonsense from men just so they can be married but in the long run will you be happy? think about your sanity and the years ahead of you.....

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  72. My dear just leave him for good he doesn't deserve u for any reason. Ur just his sex mate dat is d bitter truth.

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  73. Relationships r just d extension of marriage. If he cheated to dat extent b4, he Ll do it again. So if u don't mind, u can go ahead. But if not, run 4 ur life

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  74. Whatever karrueche does...lol

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  75. U beta Dnt compare ursef wit karrueche,she dey Yankee u dey naija..u are 26 theres still time to move on.

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  76. Wow!!! How sad!!! Men just can't seem 2 keep their eggplant in one place.... My advice is, if d guy has truly asked 4 ur forgiveness and you feel he is sincere about it, let it go and be happy......but if u have really not 4given him, as ur mind keeps coming back 2 d issue, let the relationship rest dear.

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  77. MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.


    Follow ur heart dear.
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    ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~

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  78. Ode u better walk d hell out of his life!! Are u stupid to even tink abt it? Ur comparing urself wit karrueche werey

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  79. You are talking about not having a child outside wedlock yet you have unprotected sex.....now you are beefing the girlfriend who valued her child and had it......am sure he probably has more kids outside. Am also sure he loves that child more than he can ever love you....doh...

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  80. Hmmmm, well, if it were me, I wld leave him and neva return, esp if he neva tried 2 stop me 4rm havin an abortion... Sm guys can act so low sha, nawa....

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  81. If u know u want PEACE and no BABYMAMA DRAMA later in life, just leave his black shiny ass.

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  82. LINDA DON COME WITH ALL THIS SCRIPT WRITERS.. ABEGI!!!

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  83. (1)You Going back to him
    (2) Aborting the pregnancy was a great mistake ; reason is because nw that u back with him ad u get pregnant again dz 22month old child will b an excuse for him saying is not bold enuff to tak responsibilty of ur Unborn Child .
    (3) Don't be surprise he might end up marrying his baba mama. Its nt how far but how well. *d oda lady has A Son*
    (4) You also gat ur own Fault ; for u not to knw dat ur man gat a babi outside.
    (5) Plz move on with ur life cz such a man doesn't truly luv u. Ad he will keep using U.For him to keep such a Big tin away 4rm u.

    Am not judging u dear; but sincerly I feel ur pain

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  84. Craze dey ur head. Like karrueche I am 26, his baby mama is 32 lol gan sit down

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  85. hmmmmmmmmmm
    Baby mama things. Guys are not smiling
    Better to quit if you can't keep it together or keep hating on him and the son. The fact is that he has a son. Now ask yourself can i live with this forever. (has he proposed) if there is no future plans and whatnot, well you may become the babymama no 2.

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  86. (1)You Going back to him
    (2) Aborting the pregnancy was a great mistake ; reason is because nw that u back with him ad u get pregnant again dz 22month old child will b an excuse for him saying is not bold enuff to tak responsibilty of ur Unborn Child .
    (3) Don't be surprise he might end up marrying his baba mama. Its nt how far but how well. *d oda lady has A Son*
    (4) You also gat ur own Fault ; for u not to knw dat ur man gat a babi outside.
    (5) Plz move on with ur life cz such a man doesn't truly luv u. Ad he will keep using U.For him to keep such a Big tin away 4rm u.

    Am not judging u dear; but sincerly I feel ur pain

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  87. pick up ur racing shoes nd run. 4yrs aint 4days if he cud sleep wit sumone behind ur back gt her preggy nd still hide it from u dias no way he wont end up doin it again wen u gt married to him. buh u cn stick wit him nd face d baby mama drama wen it eventually starts. be wise. LYK I SAID EARLIER PICK UP UR RACING SHOE ND RUN.

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  88. Hmmmmmm oya LIBers over to you

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  89. I think u should ask him to marry u if not u should go ur separate ways b4 it's too late dear.

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  90. I think u should ask him to marry u if not u should go ur separate ways b4 it's too late dear.

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  91. Naturally men r nt faithful breeds.u hv d shot 2mk either 2stay nor lev.if d guy is nt married 2d baby mama u jst hv 4giv him n mov on if u truly luv him

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  92. Swtheart dis s not enuf reason to leave him.u r lucky u found out ds early .wat if u were dos ladies that found out wen der husbnds were laid to rest.someone comes out that he needs to see d dads corpse b4 anythg.wat will u do?he even included him in his will -lol.unless u dnt love him anymore.but if u do.hold him tight.cos if u do.desperate baby mama go enter

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  93. My dear, i understand perfectly, you better walk out NOW. Don't start putting into consideration the 4 years you've spent with him. it's time to move on, it's gonna be hard, but trust me you can. You just need to be determined, focused & distract yourself with work or something. Remember: pray for wisdom and apply it.

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  94. is ur boifriend chris brown....
    i believe he is loaded ......
    anyway ur comment will be visible after approval
    anti linda take note.....

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  95. is ur boifriend chris brown....
    i believe he is loaded ......
    anyway ur comment will be visible after approval
    anti linda take note.....

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  96. Sorry oo... may God save us all.

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  97. Forget and leave him like yesterday. One thing most of us fail to realise is that "polygamy is hell" and as my mum says "there is no holiness in a polygamous home". Save yourself the future stress of running to one baba or pastor, the stress of breaking, binding and casting the devil. The sane woman on the street would ask, "na wetin you wan born for am".

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  98. My dear sis u ar still young 2 put ur self in relationshit!ev I were u dou is not easy but d best thing is 4 u 2 lock up!god nvr closes a door without opening anoder 1!just take d courage nd see wat happens!

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  99. I no no wetin 2 talk 4 dis one.

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  100. You women ask too many questions like seriously too many you ask dating a guy who had already giving birthday to another woman what else sweet move on that it let it go #ISKABASAYSO#

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  101. Linda you no wan come sokoto make I use my donkey penis way sweet pas kunu,bulala you ko

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  102. Key into d life of Annie idibia.if u leave u might not meet a man dat loves u as much as he does.afterall 2 face had 5 b4 marrying Annie whom he has been dating 4 a long damn tym

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  103. My dear at 26 you shld be able to make decisions on you own.

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  104. Key into d life of Annie idibia.if u leave u might not meet a man dat loves u as much as he does.afterall 2 face had 5 b4 marrying Annie whom he has been dating 4 a long damn tym

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  105. U know what to do, walk away, if u stay u will never trust him and u will not find happiness.God bless

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  106. onye na way ya o. find your way

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  107. Keep waiting upon Man,instead of u waiting upon the Lord! The next one u will hear is dat his been married to his baby mama for 5 yrs...LEARNER.....@. we reconcile dis january.....

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  108. Truth is there is no right or wrong answer but none of us are in ur situation. But my advice is to seek the answer within ur self, sometimes we already know what needs to be done we just don't hv the courage for that. Weigh all ur options. Can u leave with it in d long run? Or will it always plague u. Do u wanna marry him, or are staying with him till someone comes along. Ask your self this questions, their in lies ur answers. Goodluck boo boo kitty.

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  109. Dey dere make pants they wear u.........



    Better run......run like mad.




    If u stay with him...he will repeat it again....u can't stand baby drama wahala







    @Galore

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  110. ...... when will Single Ladies Ever learn to Zip up before Marriage?......

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  111. My dear baby mamma headache no be here believe me it's hell..
    Hv been down dt lane n bk.

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  112. Plz leave him!

    Auntylindagoddaughter

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  113. I will advice u to leave him and u will get better person,u're still young and dt think were're u going to start from cos dats d problem of most ladies.

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  114. Leave him.Once a cheater,always a cheater

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  115. Be as stupid as karunchi and take him back..........Abi wetin you wan hear again msheww

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  116. As difficult as it may sound, leave him! He is a serial cheat and liar. He will not marry you, he would rather marry his baby mama, that is, if they are not already married. If he wanted you he would have to told you to keep the pregnancy and 26 years is no longer a kid, make best use of your time now before you hit 35 yrs and your options will be slim

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  117. Leave him.There is no guaranty that he will not have another girlfriend when you 2 get married.A stich in time saves nine.

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  118. Please leave, the relationship can't ever be the same and you know it.

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  119. Leave him. You are still young with your whole life ahead of you. The crux of the matter is not that he has a baby but he cheated on you. He even put you at the risk of infection by not using protection with someone else. Thank God you are not married yet. He is a cheater who will never change.

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  120. Are u still asking? pls move in with him and become a free wife or betterstill continue aborting for him. you are a very big fooooool.
    My friend pag ur bag, ur mind, spirit soul and body and disappear from d relationship with the speed of light.

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  121. Hmmmmm Gud people of LIB, Wat is ur take, just passing

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  122. Take a walk. Except you are ready for baby mama drama then you can stay. Don't short change yourself, you are still young trust me. I pray for God's healing. Take care.

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  123. Bia nwa leave him


    Linda bear that in mind!!!

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  124. anuofia ask me another?!! regardless of what any1 says here ,in ur heart of hearts u know what u want ,so quit fooling urself ..in short if u wanna know what to do take a cue from karrueche decison & keep it permanent! #sideeye

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  125. Do wat Karrauchee Did or u do wat Annie Idibia did choose one madam.

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  126. anuofia ask me another?!! regardless of what any1 says here ,in ur heart of hearts u know what u want ,so quit fooling urself ..in short if u wanna know what to do take a cue from karrueche decison & keep it permanent! #sideeye

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  127. Do wat Karrauchee Did or u do wat Annie Idibia did choose one madam. Which eva way,ope it suits u bsides u even av celebrity mentors to look up to.if dat one no do u,ask Gaabrille Union too.am out

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  128. If U're bitter roll out. Besides if he his this from U for close to 2 yrs. What else is he hiding

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  129. It may be convenient to, and logical for you to be comparing your peculiar situation. But what is most healthy for you to do, is to assess yours independently of Kar's decision. Do you love him? Can you deal with the reality, both in the present and in the future? There's only one collective that can be of utmost help here: your instinct, spirit, and heart. Listen to their leadings, and you wont go wrong.

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  130. Are u still asking? pls move in with him and become a free wife or betterstill continue aborting for him. you are a very big fooooool.
    My friend pag ur bag, ur mind, spirit soul and body and disappear from d relationship with the speed of light.

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  131. Social studies tot me something called 'Nuclear Family" My dear run as fast as you can. You are only 26 not 96. You have a bright and happy future ahead hence don't settle for less.

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  132. Nne eh...wat u nid to decipher is where ur r/ship is going.If it's not taking u to d altar,hmmm...cos u're not getting any younger

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  133. Berra hang with the devil u knw dear, esp after 4yrz mmh....Amicable

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  134. Its up to you to decided no one can decide for you what you wnt. like you said, there is no more trust btw you two and you will always feel bitter and betrayed over what happened.so if things arent the same anymore, just let go but if you think you can stay with him and tolerate his excess fine. thats my 5kobe opinion

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  135. Do your mind no one can tell u wat to do.

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  136. Leave him dear. He's not right for you.

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  137. Do whatever you like, it is your personal problem.

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  138. Just walk away, cos he may be hiding a lot from you.. And if u find out it may b 2late fr u to opt out

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  139. Just ask Karrueche naw. haba!

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  140. He kept dat huge secret 4rm u 4 almost 2yrs n u claim 2 love him? My dear, r u a learner? Kindly pack d remaining pieces of ur life n take a long run cos he dat can keep such info 4rm u n non of his family can call u 2 tell u abt it, den u r notin 2 dem bt a side chick. U can't endure a relationshp n still endure marriage no, marriage is a long term agreement dat is meant 2 b enjoyed wt tolerance of each oda. Pls quit d relationshp 4 d sake of ur life n ur unborn children. N d guy's mum n sis wl see dis babe n still relate wt r n call r iyawo wa wt a big smile? Chai, awon iyako bornvita, may God punish dem all

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  141. You're still ask? my friend dump his useless cheating ass abeg.

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  142. This has been my problem with guys like this, 'keeping it real', why couldn't he just let her know about the baby instead of her finding out the way she did, trust me their are lots more she's yet to know about him... Leave him for good please!

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  143. Leave him please!

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  144. Girl you Re too young for such drama! You can do better dear. Run

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  145. U know him better.......For him not to tell U about d baby is wrong.....but U know him better....


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  146. For the sake of the child you aborted, Leave Him!!!!!!!!!

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  147. you 26, 2 young 4 al dis shit..leave him n go start ur lif wit sum1 beta

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  148. madam linda,i sent you a story via your email.kindly look into it.

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  149. He who is without sin shld cast the first stone, u aint better my dear, u are both same, he might even be better, if u aint happy in the relationship wat r u still doing there? he sinned against God and u by cheating on u and the result of the sin he was man enough to keep recognizing it as a bundle of joy, but wat did u do? u killed urs, my dear, the first thing u shld do is make ur peace with ur Creator before u begin to think of staying or leaving.

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  150. if you love him, stay!! especially if he is remorseful about hiding it, it may be difficult but if you consider what he has for you true love, stay!

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  151. I'll suggest you leave. Not because he has a child outside but because he kept it hidden from you for 22 Months. What's marriage without trust??? Now you have a lot to loose cause you've already had an abortion for him but then, you deserve better. Close your legs from now on and do the right thing.

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  152. It's happened to me...but I left him. I was also pregnant at the time and he honestly wanted me. There's something called logical reasoning which needs to be applied especially for lifetime decisions. He can never be faithful and the babymama drama will continue even in marriage. There's already an issue with trust, so depending on how you value marriage I think you should know you're not headed in the right direction. I was 30 when it happened but you don't get desperate for anything especially a big time MTF. I wish that your confusion ends. Peace

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  154. Oluchi Obiozor5 March 2015 at 14:05

    Waka go joor. he does not deserve you

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  155. Look babe the fact he has a son with another woman does not mean he is married to her, maybe u are his ideal wife material u never can tell. Take tuface and Annie for example he had other kids with other ladies yet he settled down with Annie so if I were u I will work toward the relationship.

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  156. Better take a walk...cos from the look of things...this guy doesn't love u as much for him to hide things like this from u. I advise u take a walk cos there are about a million guys outside there

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  157. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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  158. Just leave him... you won't die.
    Try seeing marriage/relationships a secondary thing and you will find peace.

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  159. i just find it hard to believe this story...sounds like it is made up

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  160. If u really love him and u are sure he will get married to u, u can stay

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  161. But he's not Chris Brown. So stick to him or leave him.... You know what? I don't care

    @e_songzz

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  162. PLEASE LET HIM GO COS HE WILL STILL DO MORE...N HE WILL HAVE CONFIDENCE COS HE NOS UR AFRAID TO LEAVE COS OF UR AGE...FORGET O...RAIT NAU, ur d one sticking to someone elses husband cos yoruba pple will say...he dt has d child...has d husband...so pray n i bliv God will bring ur faithful man...n repent too o..jesus is coming soon u dey do abortion...God forgive us all

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  163. My dear, d advice I can give Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ is to leave him... No need of staying cos of the bitter feeling. Dnt ever return, Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ r still young a better man will come. Dnt be so desperate

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  164. You're still there because you want to be there so eal with it.

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  165. Life is just too complicated in dis generation.mtcheeeeeew tinz fall apart.

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  166. Booo I don't know wat to say to you but u are d one feeling d pain u should decide wat u need now shit happens and if I tell u leave u wouldn't if I say stay u say u not sure can't help u if 4years doesn't mean anything to him u are in a wrong relationship life goes on sometimes couples get divorced not d end of d world why still in pain if u can't stand d heat u get out of the kitchen my friend also 7years or 8years her man also fathered a child while she was in another country but after so many years she saw she couldn't find anyone like him she went back cos she forgave him but time is essential to know wat u want

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  167. nigerian karuche . u and ur man r alike . he kept that big secret and u too aborted and kept such a big secret. u r no better than him so marry him and decieve urselves. pls dont go and look for a good man to now decieve. u have ur type naija karuche . so marry him

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  168. The pregnancy yo. Had for him did he persuade you to abort it on the ground that he's not ready.....if yes babe leave the bastard but if no stay with him cos you were the one dat choose 2 abort d baby he dint tell you to abort it so don't be bittered som1 has a child 4 him......but he's a asshole while fcuking you he's still fcukin som1 outside.......Most Men are GOAT

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  169. chai, Karrueche is now a case study as a lot of people are drawing reference from her case. My dear, you were with this guy, he cheated on you, had a 22 months old without you knowing and you are asking us what to do. you better look for your running shoes and leave ASAP. if you decide to stay, then get ready for more shockers, am sure that's not the only person he cheated with, he might even have another love child somewhere else. your life does not depend on a man

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  170. Okay oh, leave nah if unhappy

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  171. Leave him alone, all guys are not the same, when you call them dogs you will surely be meeting dogs. God will provide you with a better option.

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