Dear LIB readers - My boss is making me uncomfortable
From a female LIB reader
I am a corps member serving in Yenagoa. I have a work problem and it's with my immediate boss. He calls me "baby" or "my baby" or "my darling". He uses my name and surname as his password. He rubs my shoulders and looks at me in a lecherous way. When he started offering me money, I refused but he covered up and said he gives me because of the amount of workload I carry and that I shouldn't refuse again when he does. He offers me lifts and I refuse with the excuse that I have somewhere else to go, not home. But the shocker is that recently, he told me he is falling in love with me and that I shouldn't be scared. Continue...
I truly don't understand what that means and how I should go about it. Should I really be scared? Should I keep away from him? I will be done in June so I still have a couple of months to be in the office. What should I do? And yes, he is married with children. I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money.
Bayelsa ppl & infidelity. It's not only common among their men folk. Please quietly remind him that he is married & ur conscience bla bla bla. Don't say u don't love him. Use ur tact.
Thank God u already know wat is good for u. There is no point shying away frm d truth ok. Let him knw u hv a guy u want to marry and u hv promised never to cheat on him. Period.....
Thank God u already know wat is good for u. There is no point shying away frm d truth ok. Let him knw u hv a guy u want to marry and u hv promised never to cheat on him. Period.....
my dear I guess u are batch C, u still have sone little time with that ungrateful boss if urs. so pls report this yo ur LI n if possible he should change ur PPA n that will b the end of it.
These are everyday challenges for some of us. There are mature ways to handle it. Be nice, be polite and stall until you're done. There's really nothing much he can do to you.
Its just for a couple of months not like ur a permanent staff u can ignore him but if he continues to pest u more u can report him to ur ZI or LGI. #Charles#
U obviously sound like a sensible female. Seems to me u already know what to do. Put him in his place politely,Sit him down n make him understand d disadvantages of having an affair with him point out all d negative things u can imagine that might happen if he still doesn't listen then u should be convinced d devil is using him to tempt you, conquer your temptation.
It's a pity cos most men like to frustrate girls all in d name of money, my dear just be praying n be avoiding him June is around d corner u pack ur tins n leave or beta still u leave his office.
Don't stay back after office hour with him. So that he won't rape u. Similar thing happen to one married woman. His boss delayed him with extra work in the office. While the woman was busy his boss brought her a coffee like Mr nice man, but there was drug in the coffee. The rest is history. Be careful.
Dis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
Dis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
Kindly tell him in a polite manner that you don't want to be his girlfriend. Make him see reasons too like he is married with kids. Then pray about it as well.
Dis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
Don't stay back after office hour with him. So that he won't rape u. Similar thing happen to one married woman. His boss delayed him with extra work in the office. While the woman was busy his boss brought her a coffee like Mr nice man, but there was drug in the coffee. The rest is history. Be careful.
Dis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
YEA... I LIKE UR GUT NNE. NO MIND THE MAN NI, HIM WAN CHOP U CHURKY. JUST USE UR CAFA DEY FOLLOW THE MAN. BUT E BE LIKE SAY U DEY SEDUCE THE MAN O, THE WAY I DEY SEE TINS IN SPIRIT ABT U.
These type of situation might have been brought up by you. In a situation where you wear tight skirts and arm less clothes. Then you should know the result. But if you have presented your self as a pure Christian or Pure Muslim or even just dressing properly. You might have never falling to this mess.
just tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
First and foremost,u will hv to be prayerful. secondly,if ur one that like wearing revealing outfits then u hv to adjust. Thirdly my dear,u will have to b very smart in ur dealings wit him. Tell him ur not interested and mean it. UR BLESSED.
just tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
My dear.stay true to your principles. Just tell him you aren't interests as politely as you can but above all, take the situation to God in prayer ask Him to take control. You will be fine
just tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
My dear, u better learn to BE YOURSELF. Some of this bosses are nothing but beast. I resigned from my job months back because of a womanizing married boss like urs, I was intimidated cos I refused, so I had to resign quietly. I would have advised u walk away, but u can endure it pending how ur strength carries u. These are some of the things ladies face secretly in the office and some bad friends will even tell u, babe, u are lucky o, u better grab it. The choice is urs dear. It is well o.
Don't listen to him. He's just looking for fresh meat to devour, that's how most bayelsa men are, very promiscuous! You should respectfully state it to him that you are not interested but just be ready for the consequences. All these bosses like to do things like these especially to corpers. Your own is even better in some ways. In my time, it was my hod that was disturbing me and telling me she loves me. She even use to touch my boobs and legs that year. Stupid people. Just tell him as it is but prepare yourself for the consequences atleast it's not a forever thing, come June and u will be out
mchewwww. this one is looking for how to get money from linda. If you want to be part of her self made campaign just ask! Whats all this long story for? If you don't want, tell the man you don't want and don't come here to disturb us. As if you are the first girl to be toasted by her boss or it's a new thing. kmft!!!
Now that you are into it, you know this would not be easy for you, but you set your standard as from now, change your style of living and also pray that God removes his lustful eyes from You.
Hustle on Ur own u be Linda?, now back to the matter keep away as far as possible as u can from him cos once u fall in is hard for u to get out, if i'm lieying ask sisi Caro, above all the Lord is Ur strength. #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#
you are indeed a special lady, my God will see you through, and i have prayed for you. try preaching the word of God/Repentance to him, and dress in a proper way also. i promise you, that you will never see that storm anymore. Remain blessed.
hmmm.some men ar dog...ur boss cant even respect the fact that he is married..my dear better stay clear from him and maintain the distance till the period u will be passin out..and dnt date a married man bcus when u get married u wunt like another woman to do d same to u.
threaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
threaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
threaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
It is a tough one.take things to God in prayers.And boldly tell your boss you are not interested in going out with him.Never give in to his advances no matter Wat!God bless.
Then stay away,married men have their wives already in the house,he will only use u and get satisfied,u are young and should not allow these married men that are not appreciative of their wife and kids destroy your future ...once u start living that life u won't come out of it So shine your eyes
Finally, we hear of someone that still has some morals. I'm happy to hear your stance on this issue with your boss. My advice to you is, document it, every time he makes inappropriate advances towards you. Most importantly, secretly record him making such advances, once or twice. That way, you will have evidence when he denies (because you know he will). I wish you the best of luck.
my dear you better continue to respect yourself and distance yourself from that man.
I also serverd in yenagoa years back and i can assure you that his attitude is typical of the average yenagoa man. and be rest assured you are not the only one he is approaching like that. beware!
Be there getting 5mins of fame on LIB, better run for your life before someone has enough reason to take something from you that you don't want to give. All these 'things' he's doing here and there that you're accepting/tolerating will appear as a green light to the shameless thing one day ooooo! Hear me child, either RUN or STAND YOUR GROUND! The latter option means you put your foot down, define boundaries and let your NO be a resounding NO, even @ the instance of the slightest offer/gift/wink/pat-on-the-back (or bum *wink)/or bloody 'good morning' sef! My dear you have been warned!
I don't understand the reason for d post..its not even a problem..so why send it to linda? u know wat to do just continue to do it and keep quiet................................#KingOfKings #6God
Then LIB is not the right place to report/seek advice...I believe you were giving orientation in camp regarding dis kind of issues, and i believe you know the best place to report this issue is with you area inspector/zonal cordinator. We are always told to be the first to report this kind of cases to NYSC before your employer turns against you and report you, with lies that you never could imagine. Go to NYSC not LIB.
sweetness pls try and find a way to get evidence of wat u r saying ( a concrete one dat u can always pull up anytime.)den walk up to him in the most confident manner and tell him dat u r not dat kinda girl.. if he insists, resign. and go straight to NYSC!!!!! He's not the first and will definitely not be d last........
Please do not concur to his demands. You have nothing to gain but heartbreak. Remain your decent self and if possible, try to start looking elsewhr for a job because your refusal may lead to sack. Seek God's face
Just keep him at bay till June. Its service and you will leave anyway do not give in to his advances its probably how he treats female corpers so you won't be the first or the last. Let your business with him end at work do not follow him anywhere for a sit out. While I was serving too one of my ogas said he was taking me out before I could say jack robinson we were in a hotel when I refused to go in with him, he took me back home and never bothered me again. Finally do not be rude to him just act like you don't know his game.
My dear, be very afraid. June is too far. Raping you is not above him and when he does that he will tell people that you were the one that seduced him into an affair and the reason for you you shouting rape is because you want to set him up. Nigerians will happily believe him and you will turn into the 'Slut of the Town'. So many girls have gone through this, that is why they are ashamed to report when they are raped and they keep quiet. Better start protecting yourself NOW. Secretly record your conversations with him,audio and video, if possible. If you have a friend that is a lawyer, preferably not in Yenagoa, ask for legal advice. In handling him directly you must take care that you don't offend his ego or he can start to victimise you. Take EVERY opportunity to avoid him and don't be bothered about how it will look to others in the office. Infact, don't hide that you are uncomfortable in his presence. If he brings up a project that would involve you working closely with him, fall sick ooo, even if it means giving yourself running stomach if the office needs medical report. I wish you God's Protection and Wisdom to handle your boss. Whatever you do do not underestimate the situation.
Can understand your fear, mine was my L.I, it wasn't funny but my dear u have to bear the annoying attentions and passes he makes at u until u pass out.U dnt have to go out with him
You are not a baby,talk to him politely,tell him you would have date him but he is a married,u should know things to tell him,haba! U are a youth coPer,a full grown woman
Tell him politely that u r not interested and stick to ur decision. Watch d way u dress to d office. Don't answer unnecessary calls while in office nd giv him reasons to beliv u hv mny guys in ur life. Perform ur duties diligently. Pray.
hian,ar u a baby?hw old ar u?aint u above 20?dat is very normal abeg deal wit it,didnt u pass 2ru univ or u went 2 a private skul dat lecturers dnt make advances on deir students,haaa the kind of advances i passed 2ru 4rm my lectures are d truth,urs is even very easy bcos u nt expectin any favour 4rm him so treat him as u want,warn him jor,had it been u expectin a job favour 4rm him wud hav told u 2 play cool until u get wot u want!
dis is nt an issue o shuo,its nt like he wud b a Long time boss,abeg diss him,preach 2 him and let him knw u an advocate against a cheatin spouse,dat has alwayz bn d pattern i usually use o doh it doesnt stop dem bt atleast av made my intentns known indirectly
You will rather be self made abi, cos dis 1 u r saying u don't understand wat he meant wen he said he is falling in love with u already, u r a corper na, so which part of love don't you understand, pls date him if u want 2, dis no news. Park well. #happyweds
In ur mind now.......... lol. baby girl keep posting him ok if that doesn't work then politely explain to him y u can't date him n if he's still adamant then give him d public assignment.....hehehe.
Dont you have a boyfriend? Well, make him buy you lunch for 1week(bring it to the office for you) spend time chatting with him, introduce him, dont tell him whu, he migjt voilet to wanna fight.
If u don't believe in using ur body to get what u want then that's your answer. You just said he is married, so what is there to consider? Hey dear, don't bother your head about this if truly you stand for decency.
To me it's as simple as talk to him, let him know you don't like the attention and stay clear. Avoid situations that could lead to such. And most importantly be firm. You could tell him your hooked if he insists....
This is serious n tricky cos u might take an action and he will start giving u hell in the office. First of all, pray and then always act official in every way u can and if he persists; go and tell him that u wouldn't want anything from him that is intimate. Stop collecting any form of gifts too
This is serious n tricky cos u might take an action and he will start giving u hell in the office. First of all, pray and then always act official in every way u can and if he persists; go and tell him that u wouldn't want anything from him that is intimate. Stop collecting any form of gifts too
Say a big no! But be nice about it, you can tell him you're born again and saving yourself for your husband and he should not push it. It's youth service, not a lifetime job. And no one ever gets a reference from their youth service posting.
You needed no angle to tell u what to do. Keep resisting him and let him know you are a child of God. Tell him You can't trade your body for pleasure and @ d end perish in hell . Must importantly keep praying for him to repent and retrace his steps.
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Dis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"... Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"... D next time he makes u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn to maintain his bounds.
My dear do not mind him oh! He's a useless man, tell him to go and take care of his family that u re not his tap. Don't let him touch u again, If he called u his baby again. Shout on him to beware of u or else u will tell his wife... Nigerians wake-up my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th!
Sis I feel ur pain Just try avoid him Be polite to him and reject his advance with courtesy He can't do anything to u So don't be scared Even if he threatens Keep evidence like sms, recorded converstion etc you can use to report him. And if he messes up or threatens you, you report to ur state coordinator or ur zonal inspector they will not take it lightly with him. So don be scared he can't do anything to u except u go and see him in a private place
he doesnt love you as he said. do not give ur body to that fool. people like him are everywhere. he would use u and dump u. dont give in. let him know that u are not type of a woman.
please i will advice you to leave is office for him, by the way he is married. God will open a way for you. i promise you his going to use you and dump you.
Dis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"... Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"... D next time he mak u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn how to control wht is in btw his legs.
Dis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"... Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"... D next time he mak u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn how to control wht is in btw his legs.
I think you should just set the boundary clearer this time till you finish from there since you have just a couple of months left. And how the man is understanding enough.
I appreciate the fact dat u hav. Sense of value! Ur boss is jst bin pushy, but u can't quit! All u hav 2 do is 2 avoid him, mak sure u dnt giv him a reason 2 continue his advances, by telling him 2 stop. Be subtle about it tho. I pray u finish witout any trouble wat so eva, sum guys ar jst so psychologiacally unstable and dnt knw hw 2 control dia emotions! So I'll warn u nt 2 be wit him in a lonely place, lyk a hotel , his house or even @ the office. He might lykly try 2 force him self on u, or even do a lot worse. Which u all the best.
My dear do not mind him oh! He's a useless man, tell him to go and take care of his family that u re not his tap. Don't let him touch u again, If he called u his baby again. Shout on him to beware of u or else u will tell his wife... Nigerians wake-up my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th!
I served in bayelsa as well and to be honest with you every female corper i know then was asked out by a married bayelsa man. they don't care even their wives know. just keep posting him. and as for the money he will continue giving you that's their nature when it comes to girls.
Is good u are resisting him already. Your boss is a useless married man and should be treated with cold shoulders. Keep avoiding him cos June is around d corner. Also try and be polite to him
harrassment in the workplace is common in naija. no mind the old fool! i would look elsewhere if i were you. that stuff is a serious offense in america o. them no fit try am. even ordinary passing remark is considered harrasment in a certain context
To me it's as simple as talk to him, let him know you don't like the attention and stay clear. Avoid situations that could lead to such. And most importantly be firm. You could tell him your hooked if he insists....
Men!!!! Do we always have to allow the pendulum between our legs think for us? "My Dear" if you are sincerely not game with his intentions, I'd suggest you try to start recording your conversations with him even as you stay put to your "NO". If he persists warn him sternly to stop. Na corper you be so he can't really do much; if he decides to victimize you, remember the recordings you and make your report to the appropriate authorities viz your state coordinator and and higher boss to your "Oga"....
Just Say "nothing personal sir, but I am not interested in having relationships with married men in general and with you in particular".
He may become hostile to you but as you are only there for another few months I think you will be okay.
Also -and I'm not saying you led him on- but if someone is saying they are in love you maybe you have been too receptive to their advances. There are not so subtle ways of giving him the message. For example you shouldn't let him give you shoulder rubs if you have no interest in him
He's your immediate boss, so, avoiding him is out because you report to him. Since you are leaving in June, I will advise you not to be hostile and disrespectful but politely reject his advances. If you haven't been talking about his family with him before, this is the right time to start. Whenever he's trying to raise the issue, in your response, talk about his wife and kids. Asking him to tell you about them, if possible, ask personal questions but not too personal just to dissuade him. Tell him you will like to meet his wife and kids in order to tell them how good he has been to you. You can even suggest taking them to dinner or lunch. I'm sure he wouldn't want that. If you do this well, I'm sure he will back-off unless he doesn't respect and love his family. God will guide you.
lolest...He calls me "baby" or "my baby" or "my darling". He uses my name and surname as his password. i beg use wisdom and pretend you would like to retain your position after service thereby not putting him in a rust to hit you b4 June. its how they behave...
Just continue to pray, dats men for Ʊ, dats why most of us (ladies) dat don't wanna use wat we av to get wat we want are into biz, or at home after NYSC.. My dear naa only God fit help us, cos even to achieve ur dream abt ur biz, Ʊ still need capital and would love to work for some years to raise money, but all these hungry looking old men that chases anything in skirt won't let 1 be... God dey o
It is very simple. You already said he is married with kids so there is no point my dear. The truth is he is not in love with u, he only wants 2 sleep with and that's it. He won't push his family out because of you. You already said you don't believe in using your body to get what you want, then stick to it and don't let it bother you cos dis is not an issue. Personally, l hate girls that date married men. I hope this helps.
well..you shouldn't be scared. you have to face the situation squarely. since he is ur direct boss you have to be very diplomatic when dealing with him,for instance you shouldn't insult him whatsoever and you should definitely not give in on any account. just dress professionally and work professionally, don't give room for any unnecessary talks.
You have to be very careful and scared of him. He doesn't love U but just want to taste it and if U allow him since U don't want anything to do with him. U might end up regreting it.
Come out straight with him, tell him everything Ur not buyin from his story and actions, and see his reaction. Hoping he woudldn't do anything funny till June is risky, some men are evil.
Nne, if he is making you uncomfortable,,,,, please devise a method of making him uncomfortable too. Nonsense. These shameless men will not respect themselves.
My dear, everything depend on the individual... if you know yourself, you can overpower the situation.
Note: Your appearance/attitude speak louder than your voice.
Look at yourself again, how do you dress that makes him to address you that way? Is Christ in you shown as light?
ADVICE: Dress corporately, go to your office along with your bible in your hand bag, during break time, start reading your bible with some songs of worship, when your boss come start discussing bible with him.
I will talk to you again, if you will share your next experience after this exercise.
You don't believe in using your body to get what you want, you think it's disgusting, you'll rather hustle on your own and make your money. You already know what's right, so advise do you now want ?
I Love You already Girl. The Lord is your muscle.Keep rejecting his advances and stand firm in what you believe. He will later use you as a good example when you are finally done with your NYSC. Please don't give up and pray fervently about this that the Lord will blind him where you are. All the best.
Complain to his superior, if he doesn't have one! Then tell him pop and plain that you are not interested and that you are in a serious relationship. I hope that works, but men like that, nothing really throws them off except space. Can you afford to leave the job?
dont fall or that rubbish love, if u start it now it wont stop again. you can either stay dere or go to your LGI to complain and dey will change ur ppa for u
Hmm. The English is too much na. You no need plenty English to tell a man that I am not interested. Take a transfer to another office. It is simple. Work your way out of the office. You know what to do my dear. You cant say you dont know what to do. Girls are good at the game.
Be turnin down his appointments and also wateva he gives to u outside ur salary dnt collect it from him, by so doin he will understand dat u are nt interested.
Well u already knw de answer and de way forward,. Say NO to Aristo!.. And hope u are not indirectly seeking linda help asap her petproject!.. Well me too,. I did rather be self made!..#teamchris
You already have your answers. My dear na so them be ooo. When you leave, they'll move over to the next Corper. All those Bayelsa men. It's just in them to be promiscuous. I know this cos am a Bayelsan and I served in Yenagoa. Just continue doing your job and never you compromise. It's of no gain. Success.
I understand you. My boss during my nysc wanted to bully me into sleeping with him. I had a passive reaction and indifference towards him and tried avoiding him. I dunno if this will help but u have to be careful so he doesn't cause problems at ur passing out.
Hmmmm. Nne biko flee for ur life. Don't ever try giving in. Just be careful and keep avoiding him like u ve started already. Before u knw it, u will round up. Goodluck
Am not and will never support any single girl to put asunder in her fellow woman's joy......since you rather hustle than sell yourself cheap then make the man understand you have no interest in his offer...if he persist then go back to your secretariat and explain to situation to you L.I....
I served in Bayelsa state too, i realized that bayelsa men love women so much especially corp members and their love for women is not platonic. They can even empty their account for a lady just to have her on bed. The funny part of it is that they dont use protection. Their general language is "condom no sweet ehhh. LOLZ
So why bring the matter here? 4 advice? Abeg ur old enuf to make a decision and call it final....ezigbo mmadu ka chinchi! Next plzzzzz!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYES U HAVE SAID IT ALL, hustle on ur own n make ur money, dnt destroy ur future.
ReplyDeleteBayelsa ppl & infidelity. It's not only common among their men folk. Please quietly remind him that he is married & ur conscience bla bla bla. Don't say u don't love him. Use ur tact.
ReplyDeleteThank God u already know wat is good for u. There is no point shying away frm d truth ok. Let him knw u hv a guy u want to marry and u hv promised never to cheat on him. Period.....
ReplyDeleteThank God u already know wat is good for u. There is no point shying away frm d truth ok. Let him knw u hv a guy u want to marry and u hv promised never to cheat on him. Period.....
ReplyDeletemy dear I guess u are batch C, u still have sone little time with that ungrateful boss if urs. so pls report this yo ur LI n if possible he should change ur PPA n that will b the end of it.
ReplyDeleteThese are everyday challenges for some of us. There are mature ways to handle it. Be nice, be polite and stall until you're done. There's really nothing much he can do to you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm,if he is single den gv em a chance.... I tire abeg
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ReplyDeleteNext time u see him, punch him in d face. I'm giving u that authority
ReplyDeleteBetter if you let him know you're not comfortable with his advances now
ReplyDeleteIts just for a couple of months not like ur a permanent staff u can ignore him but if he continues to pest u more u can report him to ur ZI or LGI.
ReplyDelete#Charles#
Report to your zonal coordinator now! Nysc should be able to help you.... Stupid man
ReplyDeleteKindly tell him in a polite manner that u don't want to be his girlfriend. Make him see reasons why it won't work. Also, put in prayers too.
ReplyDeleteDon't give in just keep enduring...
ReplyDeleteCorper if he's married,don't accept his relationship
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U obviously sound like a sensible female. Seems to me u already know what to do. Put him in his place politely,Sit him down n make him understand d disadvantages of having an affair with him point out all d negative things u can imagine that might happen if he still doesn't listen then u should be convinced d devil is using him to tempt you, conquer your temptation.
ReplyDeleteU ask LIB readers for help, but u already gave the solution to the wahala at d end of d gist..
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity cos most men like to frustrate girls all in d name of money, my dear just be praying n be avoiding him June is around d corner u pack ur tins n leave or beta still u leave his office.
ReplyDeleteDon't stay back after office hour with him. So that he won't rape u. Similar thing happen to one married woman. His boss delayed him with extra work in the office. While the woman was busy his boss brought her a coffee like Mr nice man, but there was drug in the coffee. The rest is history. Be careful.
ReplyDeleteDis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteDis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteKindly tell him in a polite manner that you don't want to be his girlfriend. Make him see reasons too like he is married with kids. Then pray about it as well.
ReplyDeleteDis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteSince you have answered the question yourself... Why still asking? Abeg Linda post a better confused person Jare..
ReplyDeleteDon't stay back after office hour with him. So that he won't rape u. Similar thing happen to one married woman. His boss delayed him with extra work in the office. While the woman was busy his boss brought her a coffee like Mr nice man, but there was drug in the coffee. The rest is history. Be careful.
ReplyDeleteDis one being btw d devil & d deep blue sea. First help yourself by d way you dress plus you can also form SU anytime you are in d ofix. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteDo everytin possible to stay away frm him dear,
ReplyDelete#########LIB MY BADT HABIT##########
Since u av just a few month left just continue playin d game u av been playing since or u talk 2 ur boss abt it,sumtimes speaking up helps
ReplyDeleteKindly tell him in polite manner that you ain't interested. Make him see reasons too like he's married... Then put in prayers as well
ReplyDeletePut him in prayer dear
ReplyDeleteHe is not in his sences
YEA... I LIKE UR GUT NNE. NO MIND THE MAN NI, HIM WAN CHOP U CHURKY. JUST USE UR CAFA DEY FOLLOW THE MAN. BUT E BE LIKE SAY U DEY SEDUCE THE MAN O, THE WAY I DEY SEE TINS IN SPIRIT ABT U.
ReplyDeleteThese type of situation might have been brought up by you. In a situation where you wear tight skirts and arm less clothes. Then you should know the result. But if you have presented your self as a pure Christian or Pure Muslim or even just dressing properly. You might have never falling to this mess.
ReplyDeleteLinda say it....pls linda contact her, na ur ambassador be that.....yeye man, u for cut em amou.....he diat..
ReplyDeleteThe gods are wise biko
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My dear, am also having the same problem. All u have to do is to keep to ur word, never allow him talk u into doing wat u don't want.
ReplyDeletejust tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
First and foremost,u will hv to be prayerful. secondly,if ur one that like wearing revealing outfits then u hv to adjust. Thirdly my dear,u will have to b very smart in ur dealings wit him. Tell him ur not interested and mean it. UR BLESSED.
ReplyDeletejust tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
I feel elated reading this from a girl.. Maintain ur principle and stay focus..God dey
ReplyDeleteMy dear.stay true to your principles. Just tell him you aren't interests as politely as you can but above all, take the situation to God in prayer ask Him to take control. You will be fine
ReplyDeletejust tell him plainly you are not interested,when he comes to forcing you give him a treat to disgrace him,Remember that's not your permanent job,so be wise,hope my little piece of advice can help.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
My dear just keep ur self don't fall to his trick God will see u through
ReplyDeleteSince you know u can hustle on your own,so why are u asking questions again?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u better learn to BE YOURSELF. Some of this bosses are nothing but beast. I resigned from my job months back because of a womanizing married boss like urs, I was intimidated cos I refused, so I had to resign quietly. I would have advised u walk away, but u can endure it pending how ur strength carries u. These are some of the things ladies face secretly in the office and some bad friends will even tell u, babe, u are lucky o, u better grab it. The choice is urs dear. It is well o.
ReplyDeletewhen next he comes kick him on his fat Ass and his protruding pot belly,you here??
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
You don't have LGI ni? Don't gan report. Be asking us what you should do. Your PPA can still be changed.
ReplyDeletewhen next he comes kick him on his fat Ass and his protruding pot belly,you here??
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
Don't listen to him. He's just looking for fresh meat to devour, that's how most bayelsa men are, very promiscuous! You should respectfully state it to him that you are not interested but just be ready for the consequences. All these bosses like to do things like these especially to corpers. Your own is even better in some ways. In my time, it was my hod that was disturbing me and telling me she loves me. She even use to touch my boobs and legs that year. Stupid people. Just tell him as it is but prepare yourself for the consequences atleast it's not a forever thing, come June and u will be out
ReplyDeletewhen next he comes kick him on his fat Ass and his protruding pot belly,you here??
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
mchewwww. this one is looking for how to get money from linda. If you want to be part of her self made campaign just ask! Whats all this long story for? If you don't want, tell the man you don't want and don't come here to disturb us. As if you are the first girl to be toasted by her boss or it's a new thing. kmft!!!
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Now that you are into it, you know this would not be easy for you, but you set your standard as from now, change your style of living and also pray that God removes his lustful eyes from You.
ReplyDeleteHustle on Ur own u be Linda?, now back to the matter keep away as far as possible as u can from him cos once u fall in is hard for u to get out, if i'm lieying ask sisi Caro, above all the Lord is Ur strength. #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#
ReplyDeleteThat is not gonna end well dear,avoid trouble o,that's my advice
ReplyDeleteSo just give him space and continue giving him more excuses till June. ..If u make him have his way, u wld be just one of those girls. .
ReplyDeletethreaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
Go and report him to your LGI so they. Can change your. PPA! What rubbish?
ReplyDeletethreaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
you are indeed a special lady, my God will see you through, and i have prayed for you. try preaching the word of God/Repentance to him, and dress in a proper way also. i promise you, that you will never see that storm anymore.
ReplyDeleteRemain blessed.
Good girl, just keep it up and tell him you now have a boyfriend if you haven't already told him that and that you don't believe in cheating.
ReplyDeleteTell him u live 4 JESUS not 4 Sex God will help u....
ReplyDeleteReport to your LGI for reposting...Or are you or are you enjoying the work?
ReplyDeletehmmm.some men ar dog...ur boss cant even respect the fact that he is married..my dear better stay clear from him and maintain the distance till the period u will be passin out..and dnt date a married man bcus when u get married u wunt like another woman to do d same to u.
ReplyDeletethreaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
threaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
threaten him to tell his wife,or give him a hot slap to bring back his senses,I know its an HAUSA MAN THAT WILL BE BEHAVING SO,ALWAYS DYING FOR IGBO GIRLS,always living their hooded wives for decent ladies,my dear run for your life.
ReplyDelete#Linda's give away
It is a tough one.take things to God in prayers.And boldly tell your boss you are not interested in going out with him.Never give in to his advances no matter Wat!God bless.
ReplyDeleteLet him hit it...pity him!
ReplyDeleteIts better you be careful and do your tin
ReplyDelete#GodisGreat
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he is married.... kip making up excuses xo as not to go out wit him.....
ReplyDeleteThen stay away,married men have their wives already in the house,he will only use u and get satisfied,u are young and should not allow these married men that are not appreciative of their wife and kids destroy your future ...once u start living that life u won't come out of it So shine your eyes
ReplyDeleteFinally, we hear of someone that still has some morals. I'm happy to hear your stance on this issue with your boss. My advice to you is, document it, every time he makes inappropriate advances towards you. Most importantly, secretly record him making such advances, once or twice. That way, you will have evidence when he denies (because you know he will). I wish you the best of luck.
ReplyDeletePray ur way out my dear. Dnt let d devil come around
ReplyDeleteExactly like this dem take collect my babe when she go do NYSC, in fact, this NYSC should be scrapped!
ReplyDeleteTell ur boss dat u r nt intrested.
ReplyDeleteU have said it all nah
ReplyDeleteStart dressing like Deeper Life church women. No makeup and only over-sized clothes
ReplyDeleteMove on because when he have gotten when he wants he will back down, he won't trade his wife for you.
ReplyDeletemy dear you better continue to respect yourself and distance yourself from that man.
ReplyDeleteI also serverd in yenagoa years back and i can assure you that his attitude is typical of the average yenagoa man. and be rest assured you are not the only one he is approaching like that. beware!
a word is enough for the wise.
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ReplyDeleterun run run my Lady
Be there getting 5mins of fame on LIB, better run for your life before someone has enough reason to take something from you that you don't want to give. All these 'things' he's doing here and there that you're accepting/tolerating will appear as a green light to the shameless thing one day ooooo! Hear me child, either RUN or STAND YOUR GROUND! The latter option means you put your foot down, define boundaries and let your NO be a resounding NO, even @ the instance of the slightest offer/gift/wink/pat-on-the-back (or bum *wink)/or bloody 'good morning' sef! My dear you have been warned!
ReplyDeleteStory story.... My question is are u still a virgin??? Aye nseru jor. Gba fun oga e!
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I feel ur pain darl,pray over it and commit him to the hands of God,he just wants to use u,Men!hmm#SMH
ReplyDeletelet go off him
ReplyDeleteI don't understand the reason for d post..its not even a problem..so why send it to linda? u know wat to do just continue to do it and keep quiet................................#KingOfKings #6God
ReplyDeleteHide your face!!! Why are you telling us???
ReplyDeleteHeheheehe dts wat de all say eventually dem go de drop d guy nyash on d side.... u knw sabi hw u tk get d job b4?
ReplyDeleteSo y ar u seeking advice if u dnt wanna leave, if u can't beat dem u join dem. Find smwia else n serve bt its nt gonna b easy for u tho
ReplyDeleteThen LIB is not the right place to report/seek advice...I believe you were giving orientation in camp regarding dis kind of issues, and i believe you know the best place to report this issue is with you area inspector/zonal cordinator. We are always told to be the first to report this kind of cases to NYSC before your employer turns against you and report you, with lies that you never could imagine. Go to NYSC not LIB.
ReplyDeletesweetness pls try and find a way to get evidence of wat u r saying ( a concrete one dat u can always pull up anytime.)den walk up to him in the most confident manner and tell him dat u r not dat kinda girl.. if he insists, resign. and go straight to NYSC!!!!! He's not the first and will definitely not be d last........
ReplyDeleteno reply my comment. e no concern u
ur boss is nt in luv wit u, rada in lost wit u
ReplyDeletePlease do not concur to his demands. You have nothing to gain but heartbreak. Remain your decent self and if possible, try to start looking elsewhr for a job because your refusal may lead to sack. Seek God's face
ReplyDeleteThe story sounds fake, especially when you said "I truly don't understand what that means".
ReplyDeleteJust keep him at bay till June. Its service and you will leave anyway do not give in to his advances its probably how he treats female corpers so you won't be the first or the last. Let your business with him end at work do not follow him anywhere for a sit out. While I was serving too one of my ogas said he was taking me out before I could say jack robinson we were in a hotel when I refused to go in with him, he took me back home and never bothered me again. Finally do not be rude to him just act like you don't know his game.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. A married man? Please put him in his place.
ReplyDeleteTell him bluntly that u ain't interested @ll he isn't forcing you to luv him
ReplyDeleteMy dear, be very afraid. June is too far. Raping you is not above him and when he does that he will tell people that you were the one that seduced him into an affair and the reason for you you shouting rape is because you want to set him up. Nigerians will happily believe him and you will turn into the 'Slut of the Town'. So many girls have gone through this, that is why they are ashamed to report when they are raped and they keep quiet.
ReplyDeleteBetter start protecting yourself NOW. Secretly record your conversations with him,audio and video, if possible. If you have a friend that is a lawyer, preferably not in Yenagoa, ask for legal advice. In handling him directly you must take care that you don't offend his ego or he can start to victimise you. Take EVERY opportunity to avoid him and don't be bothered about how it will look to others in the office. Infact, don't hide that you are uncomfortable in his presence. If he brings up a project that would involve you working closely with him, fall sick ooo, even if it means giving yourself running stomach if the office needs medical report.
I wish you God's Protection and Wisdom to handle your boss. Whatever you do do not underestimate the situation.
writing all this and posting it makes no sense to me since u already figured it out
ReplyDeleteGood!so pls play it cool until u leave continue to give him excuses until service is over.Best of luck
ReplyDeleteCan understand your fear, mine was my L.I, it wasn't funny but my dear u have to bear the annoying attentions and passes he makes at u until u pass out.U dnt have to go out with him
ReplyDeleteGood. And God will bless your hustle dear!! Try reporting him to a higher and trustworthy female boss, but pray first ooo
ReplyDeleteRun for your life dear
ReplyDeleteHmmmm dnt say yes and dnt say no. Use "I will think abt it" card until it's June
ReplyDeleteReport to your LGI
ReplyDeleteYou are not a baby,talk to him politely,tell him you would have date him but he is a married,u should know things to tell him,haba! U are a youth coPer,a full grown woman
ReplyDeletekeep resisting him but in a friendly way...you are almost out of there. God will see you through
ReplyDeleteTell him politely that u r not interested and stick to ur decision. Watch d way u dress to d office. Don't answer unnecessary calls while in office nd giv him reasons to beliv u hv mny guys in ur life. Perform ur duties diligently. Pray.
ReplyDeleteReport to your LGI
ReplyDeletehian,ar u a baby?hw old ar u?aint u above 20?dat is very normal abeg deal wit it,didnt u pass 2ru univ or u went 2 a private skul dat lecturers dnt make advances on deir students,haaa the kind of advances i passed 2ru 4rm my lectures are d truth,urs is even very easy bcos u nt expectin any favour 4rm him so treat him as u want,warn him jor,had it been u expectin a job favour 4rm him wud hav told u 2 play cool until u get wot u want!
ReplyDeletedis is nt an issue o shuo,its nt like he wud b a Long time boss,abeg diss him,preach 2 him and let him knw u an advocate against a cheatin spouse,dat has alwayz bn d pattern i usually use o doh it doesnt stop dem bt atleast av made my intentns known indirectly
You will rather be self made abi, cos dis 1 u r saying u don't understand wat he meant wen he said he is falling in love with u already, u r a corper na, so which part of love don't you understand, pls date him if u want 2, dis no news. Park well. #happyweds
ReplyDeleteTry as much as possible 2kip away from him cos his name is TROUBLE!
ReplyDeleteRUN for your LIFE!!!
ReplyDeleteKeep avoiding him ...wait u can't avoid him lol don't give heed to him....you've been able to scale through all this wile...
ReplyDeleteIn ur mind now.......... lol. baby girl keep posting him ok if that doesn't work then politely explain to him y u can't date him n if he's still adamant then give him d public assignment.....hehehe.
ReplyDeleteDont you have a boyfriend? Well, make him buy you lunch for 1week(bring it to the office for you) spend time chatting with him, introduce him, dont tell him whu, he migjt voilet to wanna fight.
ReplyDeleteGet in touch with me girl..and I'll give u the correct way to handle such a nuisance of a man.
ReplyDeleteJune to far o.... By then, you fit don dey 4 months pregnant. Run!
ReplyDeletewisdom of the knowledgeable is in the noble of his mind.
ReplyDeleteIf u don't believe in using ur body to get what u want then that's your answer. You just said he is married, so what is there to consider? Hey dear, don't bother your head about this if truly you stand for decency.
ReplyDeleteGo report to ur NYSC zonal office and request for a new PPA....oppression of corpers by their employers is not tolerated inNYSC
ReplyDeleteTo me it's as simple as talk to him, let him know you don't like the attention and stay clear. Avoid situations that could lead to such. And most importantly be firm. You could tell him your hooked if he insists....
ReplyDeleteThis is serious n tricky cos u might take an action and he will start giving u hell in the office. First of all, pray and then always act official in every way u can and if he persists; go and tell him that u wouldn't want anything from him that is intimate. Stop collecting any form of gifts too
ReplyDeleteThis is serious n tricky cos u might take an action and he will start giving u hell in the office. First of all, pray and then always act official in every way u can and if he persists; go and tell him that u wouldn't want anything from him that is intimate. Stop collecting any form of gifts too
ReplyDeleteWell ... you have come to the right place! I think what you need is Linda's money ..." i would rather be self made" ..lol
ReplyDeleteIt's a simple matter nau. It's not a do or die affair. Simply tell him you are not interested
ReplyDeleteSay a big no! But be nice about it, you can tell him you're born again and saving yourself for your husband and he should not push it. It's youth service, not a lifetime job. And no one ever gets a reference from their youth service posting.
ReplyDeleteReport to ur LI
ReplyDeleteYou needed no angle to tell u what to do. Keep resisting him and let him know you are a child of God. Tell him You can't trade your body for pleasure and @ d end perish in hell . Must importantly keep praying for him to repent and retrace his steps.
ReplyDeleteIf You Do Not Know What To Do, Just TELL I'D RATHER BE SELF MADE PERIOD!! Thnak You..
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Hmmmmmmm,
ReplyDeleteDis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"...
Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"...
D next time he makes u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn to maintain his bounds.
Speak to him nd tell him how you feel
ReplyDeleteThen stay the hell away from him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear do not mind him oh! He's a useless man, tell him to go and take care of his family that u re not his tap. Don't let him touch u again, If he called u his baby again. Shout on him to beware of u or else u will tell his wife... Nigerians wake-up my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th!
ReplyDeleteSis I feel ur pain
ReplyDeleteJust try avoid him
Be polite to him and reject his advance with courtesy
He can't do anything to u
So don't be scared
Even if he threatens
Keep evidence like sms, recorded converstion etc you can use to report him. And if he messes up or threatens you, you report to ur state coordinator or ur zonal inspector they will not take it lightly with him.
So don be scared he can't do anything to u except u go and see him in a private place
he doesnt love you as he said. do not give ur body to that fool. people like him are everywhere. he would use u and dump u. dont give in. let him know that u are not type of a woman.
ReplyDeletebe strong. pls dont give in.
please i will advice you to leave is office for him, by the way he is married. God will open a way for you. i promise you his going to use you and dump you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm,
ReplyDeleteDis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"...
Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"...
D next time he mak u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn how to control wht is in btw his legs.
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Hmmmmmmm,
ReplyDeleteDis babe must b a "repentant runs babe"...
Good for u, u already made ur decision wht else do u seek.
Frm ur words "I don't believe in using my body to get "what I want". Infact, I think it's disgusting. I'd rather hustle on my own and make my own money". Wht else do u want to hear dat u hav not stated.
Pls "park well"...
D next time he mak u "uncomfortable" u mak him "uncomfortable" too. Then he wil learn how to control wht is in btw his legs.
I think you should just set the boundary clearer this time till you finish from there since you have just a couple of months left. And how the man is understanding enough.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the fact dat u hav. Sense of value! Ur boss is jst bin pushy, but u can't quit! All u hav 2 do is 2 avoid him, mak sure u dnt giv him a reason 2 continue his advances, by telling him 2 stop. Be subtle about it tho. I pray u finish witout any trouble wat so eva, sum guys ar jst so psychologiacally unstable and dnt knw hw 2 control dia emotions! So I'll warn u nt 2 be wit him in a lonely place, lyk a hotel , his house or even @ the office. He might lykly try 2 force him self on u, or even do a lot worse. Which u all the best.
ReplyDeleteMy dear do not mind him oh! He's a useless man, tell him to go and take care of his family that u re not his tap. Don't let him touch u again, If he called u his baby again. Shout on him to beware of u or else u will tell his wife... Nigerians wake-up my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th!
ReplyDeleteI served in bayelsa as well and to be honest with you every female corper i know then was asked out by a married bayelsa man. they don't care even their wives know. just keep posting him. and as for the money he will continue giving you that's their nature when it comes to girls.
ReplyDeleteIs good u are resisting him already. Your boss is a useless married man and should be treated with cold shoulders. Keep avoiding him cos June is around d corner. Also try and be polite to him
ReplyDeleteAll This bosses sef
ReplyDeleteThe story got rotten when you said he ws married. Rebuke the devil and he will flee. U r a smart girl...do the right thing!!!
ReplyDeleteits happens to alot of people. but re u a leaner?
ReplyDeleteYoung woman, jst face what took u to bayelsa and leave. U deserve better, your own man not another woman's man. Plz don't mess ur future.
ReplyDeleteharrassment in the workplace is common in naija. no mind the old fool! i would look elsewhere if i were you. that stuff is a serious offense in america o. them no fit try am. even ordinary passing remark is considered harrasment in a certain context
ReplyDeletePlease let this boss of yours know your stand about his advances! if you don't want tell him point and blank. I tell you nothing will happen.
ReplyDeleteAvoid him as much as u can.
ReplyDeleteMR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.
ReplyDeletePlease stay away from him.
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ReplyDeletePlease let this boss of yours know your stand about his advances! if you don't want tell him point and blank. I tell you nothing will happen.
ReplyDeleteOde.. go and tell ur local govt inspector n stop acting like u posted urself there.. karuwa!
ReplyDeleteU too make him uncomfortable by doin uncomfortable things
ReplyDeleteTo me it's as simple as talk to him, let him know you don't like the attention and stay clear. Avoid situations that could lead to such. And most importantly be firm. You could tell him your hooked if he insists....
ReplyDeleteYou are matured enough to know what you want and what you don't want.
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Men!!!! Do we always have to allow the pendulum between our legs think for us? "My Dear" if you are sincerely not game with his intentions, I'd suggest you try to start recording your conversations with him even as you stay put to your "NO". If he persists warn him sternly to stop. Na corper you be so he can't really do much; if he decides to victimize you, remember the recordings you and make your report to the appropriate authorities viz your state coordinator and and higher boss to your "Oga"....
ReplyDeleteJust Say "nothing personal sir, but I am not interested in having relationships with married men in general and with you in particular".
ReplyDeleteHe may become hostile to you but as you are only there for another few months I think you will be okay.
Also -and I'm not saying you led him on- but if someone is saying they are in love you maybe you have been too receptive to their advances. There are not so subtle ways of giving him the message. For example you shouldn't let him give you shoulder rubs if you have no interest in him
Same thing happening to me,babe follow your instinct,don't do what will jeopardize your future,I like your decision.
ReplyDeleteHe's your immediate boss, so, avoiding him is out because you report to him. Since you are leaving in June, I will advise you not to be hostile and disrespectful but politely reject his advances.
ReplyDeleteIf you haven't been talking about his family with him before, this is the right time to start. Whenever he's trying to raise the issue, in your response, talk about his wife and kids. Asking him to tell you about them, if possible, ask personal questions but not too personal just to dissuade him. Tell him you will like to meet his wife and kids in order to tell them how good he has been to you. You can even suggest taking them to dinner or lunch. I'm sure he wouldn't want that. If you do this well, I'm sure he will back-off unless he doesn't respect and love his family. God will guide you.
Why ask questions if you already know what you want any and don't want ???
ReplyDeletelolest...He calls me "baby" or "my baby" or "my darling". He uses my name and surname as his password. i beg use wisdom and pretend you would like to retain your position after service thereby not putting him in a rust to hit you b4 June. its how they behave...
ReplyDeleteJust continue to pray, dats men for Ʊ, dats why most of us (ladies) dat don't wanna use wat we av to get wat we want are into biz, or at home after NYSC.. My dear naa only God fit help us, cos even to achieve ur dream abt ur biz, Ʊ still need capital and would love to work for some years to raise money, but all these hungry looking old men that chases anything in skirt won't let 1 be... God dey o
ReplyDeleteHmmm Linda is like she need part of that money u sharing
ReplyDeleteStay away from the dude. Do your job & avoid the man and if it gets outta hand, leave
ReplyDeleteIt is very simple. You already said he is married with kids so there is no point my dear. The truth is he is not in love with u, he only wants 2 sleep with and that's it. He won't push his family out because of you. You already said you don't believe in using your body to get what you want, then stick to it and don't let it bother you cos dis is not an issue. Personally, l hate girls that date married men. I hope this helps.
ReplyDeletewell..you shouldn't be scared. you have to face the situation squarely. since he is ur direct boss you have to be very diplomatic when dealing with him,for instance you shouldn't insult him whatsoever and you should definitely not give in on any account. just dress professionally and work professionally, don't give room for any unnecessary talks.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be very careful and scared of him. He doesn't love U but just want to taste it and if U allow him since U don't want anything to do with him. U might end up regreting it.
ReplyDeleteCome out straight with him, tell him everything Ur not buyin from his story and actions, and see his reaction. Hoping he woudldn't do anything funny till June is risky, some men are evil.
Nne, if he is making you uncomfortable,,,,, please devise a method of making him uncomfortable too. Nonsense. These shameless men will not respect themselves.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, everything depend on the individual... if you know yourself, you can overpower the situation.
ReplyDeleteNote: Your appearance/attitude speak louder than your voice.
Look at yourself again, how do you dress that makes him to address you that way? Is Christ in you shown as light?
ADVICE: Dress corporately, go to your office along with your bible in your hand bag, during break time, start reading your bible with some songs of worship, when your boss come start discussing bible with him.
I will talk to you again, if you will share your next experience after this exercise.
Bless you.
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You don't believe in using your body to get what you want, you think it's disgusting, you'll rather hustle on your own and make your money. You already know what's right, so advise do you now want ?
ReplyDeleteI Love You already Girl. The Lord is your muscle.Keep rejecting his advances and stand firm in what you believe. He will later use you as a good example when you are finally done with your NYSC. Please don't give up and pray fervently about this that the Lord will blind him where you are.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
Complain to his superior, if he doesn't have one! Then tell him pop and plain that you are not interested and that you are in a serious relationship. I hope that works, but men like that, nothing really throws them off except space. Can you afford to leave the job?
ReplyDeleteTell him to back off. He's ur Boss not ur God! www.ikeani.blogspot.com
ReplyDeletedont fall or that rubbish love, if u start it now it wont stop again. you can either stay dere or go to your LGI to complain and dey will change ur ppa for u
ReplyDeleteHmm. The English is too much na. You no need plenty English to tell a man that I am not interested. Take a transfer to another office. It is simple. Work your way out of the office. You know what to do my dear. You cant say you dont know what to do. Girls are good at the game.
ReplyDeleteHmm beta pikin, you'v already decided nah why are yhu still askn us ?
ReplyDeletena so dem dey do jst find evryway 2 avoid him. falling in love ko falling out of love in na so dem dey fall mtcheww anofiaaa
ReplyDeleteBe turnin down his appointments and also wateva he gives to u outside ur salary dnt collect it from him, by so doin he will understand dat u are nt interested.
ReplyDeleteWell u already knw de answer and de way forward,. Say NO to Aristo!.. And hope u are not indirectly seeking linda help asap her petproject!.. Well me too,. I did rather be self made!..#teamchris
ReplyDeleteyea....U shud be scared....and try avoiding him.....Be hostile.....be strict........nd see how dat works.....
ReplyDeleteMoye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB.....
You already have your answers.
ReplyDeleteMy dear na so them be ooo. When you leave, they'll move over to the next Corper. All those Bayelsa men. It's just in them to be promiscuous.
I know this cos am a Bayelsan and I served in Yenagoa.
Just continue doing your job and never you compromise. It's of no gain.
Success.
I understand you. My boss during my nysc wanted to bully me into sleeping with him. I had a passive reaction and indifference towards him and tried avoiding him. I dunno if this will help but u have to be careful so he doesn't cause problems at ur passing out.
ReplyDeleteIf u can transfer pls do.......
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Nne biko flee for ur life. Don't ever try giving in. Just be careful and keep avoiding him like u ve started already. Before u knw it, u will round up. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteAm not and will never support any single girl to put asunder in her fellow woman's joy......since you rather hustle than sell yourself cheap then make the man understand you have no interest in his offer...if he persist then go back to your secretariat and explain to situation to you L.I....
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Good decision..........don't use ur body, husstle and make ur own money!
ReplyDeleteBaby gurl dnt b dcvd,he does nt luv yu he jes wanna pop d cookie....
ReplyDeleteIf u don't need it u change ur PPA
ReplyDeleteThen resign
ReplyDeleteHmmm! Men will forever be goats
ReplyDeleteMy sister just be more careful around him. And try to refuse gifts and offers from him...**may God help and strengthen u in this **
ReplyDelete#Abbytohxoft
nye nye nye, when time reach now you'll be on your back with your legs up.
ReplyDeleteWe know your type. Mother Theresa
I served in Bayelsa state too, i realized that bayelsa men love women so much especially corp members and their love for women is not platonic. They can even empty their account for a lady just to have her on bed. The funny part of it is that they dont use protection. Their general language is "condom no sweet ehhh. LOLZ
ReplyDeleteOUT OF EXPERIENCE.
Young lady keep your integrity! Can as well sit him down explain to him your position on the matter God will soften his mind to let you be! Good luck.
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