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Saturday 20 December 2014

I prayed and wept in search of a husband’ – newly married Ibinabo Fberesima

In a new interview with ThisdayLive, newly married Ibinabo Fiberisima said she'd prayer and cried to find a man of her husband. The mother of three, who has never been married, also spoke about her relationship with ex, Fred Amata.
What’s the secret behind your beauty? 
Wow. I know am blossoming but that is what happens when you are in love. I have found my soul mate, my friend, my brother and that’s why I am glowing.

How did you feel when you noticed you are crazy about him?
Well, it’s not that I suddenly found that love. The love has been there and we have been best of friends since our school days at University of Ibadan and when we met again years after, we remained best of friends. His kids and mine have always been wondering how both of us can be this close, almost like a brother and a sister. I think the kids planned it; they were like why don’t you two just get married and we started thinking. After a while, we felt this is God telling us its time and that’s it.
Can you share the experience of how he proposed to you?
(Laughs) He is an Igbo man oh! I think the kids planned it more than we did. That’s how it is because the day he asked me, my kids were calling. His kids too were calling and they were all abroad while we were in Nigeria. So everybody was eager to know my reply. His kids were like, ‘Daddy, have you asked her?’ My own kids too were also calling to say, ‘Mummy, hope you said yes?’ (Laughs.) It was a beautiful moment and everybody was happy.
What drives you crazy about him?
He looks after a woman very well. He adores me and he is a family-oriented person. He loves his family. He loves us totally and he is very committed to his work. He encourages me a lot in what I do and we pray a lot. We have the fear of God which is paramount in our relationship. I think we are heading in the right direction and of course, with my kind of lifestyle and the kind of work I do, every man will withdraw. But no, he is always there, giving me the strength, support and ideas to improve on what I am doing. So, I really do admire him.
You have tried to settle down several times in the past, why did the efforts fail?
I believe God wanted a better man for me that is why my past relationships failed. Besides, my previous relationship did not work because I was not patient enough. I tried my best to make it work. I prayed severally and I wept. I even went the extra mile just to make it work, but I never knew God had a better plan for me. I did all I could to have a man I can call my own but God knows best and his reason are unquestionable. Until I found my man, I have never enjoyed my relationships. Marriage to me is supposed to be enjoyed not endured. That is the major reason why I am settling down with someone that understands me properly. My man is very romantic and caring. That is what I asked from God and he gave it to me.
How is your relationship with Fred Amata, the father of your kid?
I can never ignore Fred. He is my daughter’s father and a wonderful friend. I will never disrespect him. Even if I am with a man, I must always walk up to him and greet him. Some people wouldn’t do that. I have seen people who got separated and divorced and they don’t speak to each other in public. I will never do that. Even if we had quarreled before the event, I would still walk up to him and greet him. He is still my true friend.
Is Fred Amata in support of your marriage?
Yes! Fred is aware of my marriage plans. He is not an enemy. Since marriage did not work out for the two of us. He gave me is support. He is very happy about it and I know he will continue to wish me well because we are still good friends. Fred is my daughter’s father. Yes, he knows about my marriage. He supports my marriage.
Will he attend your wedding?
Of course, yes! I have sent an invitation to him and I know he will come. But one thing you must know is that whether he is coming or not, the truth is Ibinabo is finally hooked for life.
So, what is your advice for those ladies that have given up on getting married?
They should place their hope in God. Remember, God’s time is the best. No woman should feel the pressure to get married. Marriage should not be by force or a do-or-die affair for any ladies –especially for those considered being over-aged. If your marriage is not working, move on because God has a better plan for you. If you are still searching keep praying to God. One day, he will hear your cry. Marriage is a good thing and good comes to those that believe it. Marriage should not be so much about looking at each other but looking in the same direction together. Always remember the positive things that brought you together and then to concentrate on positive goals to achieve as a couple. Marriage is not always 50/50. Some days you will wake up and may have to give 90 per cent and your spouse will give 10 per cent. Other days you may wake up and give 25 per cent and your husband will have to put in the 75 per cent. If you want to keep your marriage long-lasting and successful, be flexible in your attitudes. You should be willing to create balance in your life, and be open to change. My observation is that all the cute, unique things that made your spouse wonderful in the beginning are going to be the things that get on your nerves later. Try to focus on the positive. If you look for negative qualities in someone you are sure to find them.

119 comments:

  1. She prayed and swept and finally God answered her.....testimony time..... Hallelujah somebody!! Amen sister!

    •••GUTS OVER FEAR•••

    •••QUEENMAYA•••

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    1. Beautiful lady like u and your searching For husband?? Congratulations

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    2. Where my tear ducts at? I better get up to crying, shey na until I carry banner for head d guy go locate me! Oya na God I don embark on d crying and praying for husband project!

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    3. Linda you see there is hope for you. Just stop being a crooked human being. Stop it! And thank me later...

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    4. Swept ko? It's wept and u can thank me now

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  2. God bless ur union dear
    I pray it work out well for u two
    Keep ur marriage outa d media

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  3. MR EDDY said.
    Eya. That good you've finally found one. I pray ur Union lasts longer than anaconda.
    ^
    ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~

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  4. And He answered you. Search and you will find

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  5. And He answered you. Search and you will find

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  6. eyaa! at last, God answered you! his time is the best..he will remember Linda soon..her man is on the way..very close.so,linda be ready,it is your turn...


    #GodblessNigeria

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  7. She had faith n it is good. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com

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  8. She had faith n it is good. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com

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  9. IkejiLinda am Also Praying Nd Crying 4 U2

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  10. This her hubby is cute oh...HML dear

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  11. Thank God for her and please make sure no matter what you stay with him . CHI.

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  12. >>>>> she is really crazy about him, I hope this marriage last cos this guy, hmmmm him face no be here.... <<<<<

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  13. Good advice...... may God bless ur union.

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  14. Praise God for ur life

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  15. Am happy 4 her bt Linda ur English sumtimes sef... Employ me abegy

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  16. Awwww.... I'm so happy for her.

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  17. lol, na so husband important? wow am proud am a future hubby oooooo!

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    1. A wife is equally as important

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  18. Hml....wishin you all the best

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  19. Lovely interview. I don't subscribe to marriage because Nigerian men lie a lot and they cheat like animals. However, if you are going to get married, be strong enough to remember that your happiness is important too. You can't have a man disrespecting you and you still stay.
    The moment you feel you have had enough, you need to call it quits with your man. God will gift you with YOUR perfect man.
    Marriage is not By force. Women, try and be happy more.
    XX

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    1. You can't just generalize. There are a lot of good men out there. Be good and you'll get the person you truly deserve.

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  20. Will you guys born more?


    @lwkmd_naija

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  21. Nice one! She's an intelligent woman

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  22. Well spoken..
    Wishing her the best in the institution of marriage.

    *My R1.50c comment*

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  23. God has perfect timing for his children.

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  24. Patience is a virtue jare .. Happy married life.

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  25. Wow, i wonder at her excitement. Some of us will never knw wat it means to desperately wait on God for a husband. Papa God, imela.

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  26. True talk my lady am so happy for you dear God will continue to bless your new home in jesus name Amen.

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  27. She looks happy,wishin her sweet home!!!! osuagwuangelica@gmail.com

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  28. She looks happy,wishin her sweet home!!!! osuagwuangelica@gmail.com

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  29. Linda this is definitely not you blogging today. Too many mistakes and funny stories. Sigh*

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  30. Those children are very funny but its nice to have a good kids

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  31. ITS ALL GOOD....THANK GOD FOR THE END RESULT

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  32. And I prayed that God will do it for me too in jesus name Amen ooooo.

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  33. Crying for a man is a bit much. No wonder she looks more exhuberant than the guy in the wedding pics. She was desperate. It's mathetically impossible for every woman to marry given that they outnumber men in every society. Women have to get used to being happy single because marriage will not happen for some no matter how much they want it.

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    1. .....except they allow the men take me than one

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  34. I tap into your blessing...you still found your soul mate even with kids....Amen...

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  35. Anty IB is truly in love. May God bless ur union. It will last 4ever IJN. Amen

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  36. No woman no cry...thank God for her.

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  37. Women are COW....u wept bcos u need a man....u need to be hanged

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    1. Shameless he-goat!!!may ur daughters weep and die cos of men

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  38. Women are COW....u wept bcos u need a man....u need to be hanged

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  39. I pray that ur marriage be blissful

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  40. She'd prayer and cried. Lol linda check ur work o

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  41. Got a strong feelin ibi is a good woman who has been with player dudes. Hope this Troll don't mess her up. Congrats once again

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  42. Good for her.
    $.
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    @Mr Endowed via iyke

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  43. Lindodo, find out what her prayer points were. It might help some ladies!!!

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  44. My observation is that all the cute, unique
    things that made your spouse wonderful in the beginning are going to be the things that get on your nerves later. #WORD! ladies please take note. HML ....via 79BBA6DD

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  45. Na wao!!! This her search for husband was really serious o! We thank God she finally found one if not I wonder what would have happened eventually... IB enjoy o!!!

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    1. Rubbish,U are giving men Egos for no reason,cried and pray for a man.Is men so scare? You should be praying for ur marriage to work for the future than to be here Giving heart attack to single ladies

      BIG BROTHER SAYS SO

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  46. Shut up Rosie, no one needs to hear this campaign. HML and stay away from Cognac.

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  47. IB e doooonnnnn do na,enjoy ur marriage nd stop talkin. Wish una well.

    ~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~

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  48. So his married too? Asi kwam



    Amakadarlyn@yahoo.com

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  49. whether he is coming or not ibinabo is finally hooked. me like the answered .

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  50. Now u got one, stay wit him


    Shaniquapatty@gmail.com

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  51. Linda dis particular marriage news don do.Abeg

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  52. Eeya thank God she has finally seen someone

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  53. Tank God she's finally happily married...

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  54. Tank God she's finally happily married...

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  55. Wishn her a happily married lyf

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  56. Linda don't give up yours is coming up soon

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  57. Na waa oh... so it's her first marriage and people we're saying she's being with 3 men. Pepper people! Am happy for her jare may God bless her marriage. God punish devil.

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  58. Hmmmmm binabo we hear you and are really happy for you...But Hope in about 5 -10 years from now you'll be singing the same song#All the best

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  59. Now God don answer ur prayer.

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  60. Congratulations New Mrs... God has never failed!

    May God give you both the wisdom to run your home,IJN, Amen

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  61. M so happy for u dear..May God continue to bless ur new home..

    **Vanchizzy**

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  62. I thank God for his mercies upon u dear

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  63. Thank God for her and wish a blissful married life

    #Omoh

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  64. She cried and prayed for her man to come.. God answers prayer. Happy married life ibinabo.

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  65. Ibinabo is amazingly beautiful and she is quite blunt. I wish her all the good things associated with marriage and I pray she remains hooked forever.

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  66. Aww. She's do in love. Marrying Ď…̲̣̥r̲̅ best friend is always d best. Someone who knows u more than u know urself. Congrats to her. God will definitely bless her union.

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  67. The bottom line is that you re happy, I pray God will sustain ur marriage

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  68. wishing her the best

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  69. IB i love you but stop talking about your marriage so he doesn't think he is doing you a favour.

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  70. Thank God for you. please God answer linda too

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  71. Linda is next in line. We LIBers are waiting to share in ur joy

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  72. What a touching story. Congratulations.

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  73. They both have lovely & unique eyes. They have plenty kids already, should they decide to have kids ---their combination will be great as in they will make babies with great looks.

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  74. Na so i go dey read urz in d nearest future, Lindy!

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  75. I'm so happy for her. May God keep her home

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  76. I can see you really bent on making it work.Please be prayerful always and hold him tight,make sure you sent him to church, weekly activities etc. Never rely on your beauty to hold a man down because at a certain stage in marriage, beauty becomes repulsive to them. All these old man youngie that likes to live single bachelor life.

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  77. Happy for her. Much respect to Fred

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  78. Nice one ibi. Lots of maturity. I had the same situation. Best friends with my ex who never married me. He even came to my wedding. We just are best friends and we maintain a high mutual respect for each other.

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  79. Linda's man is here already..*wink..wink*. Prayer answered.

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  80. Ibinabo,you are a shameless woman.Why did you have children without waiting to get married?it is obvious that you cant control your pussy.you are not a role model to younger girs.

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  81. Happy for you, congratulations once more

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  82. Is that why your husband did not pack his John Thomas well?

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  83. Im Happy for you. Its always good to marry someone who will make a good companion.

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  84. ok...ooo but I thought she was married before....

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