Dear LIB readers: Pastors advised my wife to quit our marriage
From a male LIB reader
My name is Ehis. I'm from Edo State. I'm 35 years of age. I met this lady, a River State indigene, who is 33 years now, a
policewoman (Corporal) and Kalabari by tribe in March 2005, while we
were still in higher institution. We dated from that time till we got
married in 2011, I didn't doubt her love for me at all. She has given
birth to two girls for me, ages 7, which she gave birth to while we
were still dating and the little girl is 2. Towards the end of last year,
she started behaving funny. I'll ask her what the problem is, she will
tell me that she doesn't know what is making her angry. January this year,
before I came back from work, she just packed her things and left. Continue...
I have
begged her and even called a meeting of both families, even pastors and
people she respects have spoken to her, but she vehemently refused, saying that she has made up her mind, that pastors have been telling her that I'm
not her husband and that if she leaves me, her real husband will come. She
refused to tell me what I did to her. I almost died that period she
left. She has rented a house for herself and she doesn't even
ask after the kids, neither does she pick my calls. Now this is the 8th
month. Where do I start from? I need advice!
@funminista, u must b a goa a big Foolish 1, ode, smelling thing. Back to the matter. Oga I need to hear from ur wify, but if really u didn't do anything wrong, pls just move on, ok bye.
@Funminista,Sssshhhh...dnt say rubbish. He was deeply hurt by the behavior of his supposed wife. If you were in his shoes, how would you have felt ? Mr Ehis,sorry about you plight. You've already made the mistake, now you have to deal with it. Work hard and care for your children. The Lord is your strength!
U must be a bastard and ur generation must be also for saying Edo men are always stupid, Linda why will u approve such comment.... Funmi ur papa nor well...smiling now..
Abioooo! Mr. Man, count the pieces of your life and move on. Nobody is indispensable. As she said she's looking for her real husband, you also look for your real wife. Focus on yourself and your kids and count yourself lucky that she quietly moved out and is not causing any wahala. Our God works in mysterious ways. By the way, don't let me hear you say u almost died because of a woman, life is too short for that rubbish!
Why would you generalize all Edo men as stupid, I believe you have a very low IQ to have even taught of that, talk more of writing it here as a comment.
ur name sound as stupid as u are.am sure an Edo man has broken ur heart b4.he has 2 kids wit her so y wont he feel it. u disgusting tribalistic faggot.
You Funmi are also very stupid sha for making this comment. Stop acting like you haven't had your heart broken before. And if you haven't, it's probably because your ass is too ugly anyway for any man to want to have any relationship with you. Idiot!!!
St valentine died for love, Romeo died for love and so many other good men.........Love is not an emotional luxury designed for women only.. Pray you find a man dt can love you don't hard so u wnt hv the ample time to poison the mind of a man dt loves another woman in dt manner. #cheEzyjayne
For good 8months no words or message from her.....hmmm!!! Mr Ehis is so clear that she has moved on and I believe you should do same too. She's obviously tired of the marriage so let her be and take care of your little angels.
Maybe her people didn't want her to marry an Edo and filled her head with all sorts over the years and she just finally succumbed. Also, hope you're been a good husband to her; because it would make her decision to leave easier if you're also a difficult husband. Can't imagine how or why someone would leave her kids though. That must have been some serious brainwashing.
Whoa! I feel ur pain brother, she must be fucking someone out there, if her only reason for leaving was cos the pastors told her u ain't her husband, secondly hope u don't just sit at home while she runs the home, still check urself well.....
tell us ur side of the story what were u doing that was getting her pissed. if she really loves u she wont care abt anyone's spiritual opinons. what was her dont's u made do's. RELAX AND RECALL. A CHANGE AWAITS U.
Hian wonders shall never end. My dear brother first of all sue those fucking pastors then find out which of them is fucking ur wife and by the grace of God is wife will be back. For the sake of ur kids, don't stop trying
Haaa my brother na so devil take style truncate your hustle o! It is time to seek the face of God. Repent of your sins, accept Jesus into your life and ask God for the return of your wife. It is well with you in Jesus name.
Hian wonders shall never end. My dear brother first of all sue those fucking pastors then find out which of them is fucking ur wife and by the grace of God your wife will be back. For the sake of ur kids, don't stop trying
She's gone, she moved on. U shld do the same. It's nt easy bh u ain't got no choice bro. Focus on bringin up ur kids...and get a new woman wen it's ryt fr u. Ur kids re ur priority nw, work hard, give them Dd best life possible.
There's something fishy there bro! Seek God's face on this and nullify every marriage breaker..really don't know how to explain to you here but go to God in prayers so that the scales in her eyes will fall out.. Pls Our lord is not an author of confusion 1 cor 14:33. BishopDammy#
1.MY ADVISE IS THAT BE PATIENT WHICH GOD HAS ALREADY BLESSED YOU WITH. 2. KEEP PRAYING FOR HER, IT COULD BE A SPIRITUAL PROBLEM AND IT MIGHT TAKE QUITE SOME TIME FOR HER TO COME OUT OF IT. 3. SINCE YOU LOVE HER , YOU CAN SOME STRONG BELIEVERS I YOUR CHURCH TO JOIN YOU IN PRAYERS . 4. FINALLY ASK GOD TO TAKE CONTROL OVER THE SITUATION AND BY HIS GRACE IT WILL BE RESOLVED
No God fearing pastor will tell a married woman to leave her matrimonial home coz of that excuse she gave except if you're not her 1st husband(Case of Jesus and the woman at the well).Its either your wife lied to you or her pastor is fake.I advice you to meet her family and get an appropriate explanation.If she's still adamant,then let her go.God knows you've tried.
Lol @ funminista, make Edo men no catch u. But bros u almost die? U done fuck up u no even talk like real Benin guy. Thank GOD say she no kill u go marry another person. Move on jor if u like when she come back beging mumu agree
Haba dan Allah disi ur Fastor is nt ril man op God pa wallahi if wot u say is factual! Do U knw hw many sins he's bout to comit? 1, tryna convert dy nebors wife 2, tryna put asundr, 3 tryna comit adultry dats if he's nt done all.#26247c63
@funmiinista: you are VERY stupid! I am not from Edo state but that comment was very stupid! VERY OH! when a man loves too much it is a problem, when he doesn't, it still is! come on!!! Dude move on, the woman is obviously sick in the head to heed the words of a home wrecker. move on. Cos she obviously is. And all of you going to Pastors to seek advice, remember they are only human!
@Hilary Obiorah I expected more from you.it is no-brainer that Funmi made an immature statement but calling her names is not just right. What I think she deserves from a matured mind like yours is Correction.
funmi or wat dey call you so as matured and old as you look such a dumb statement can come out from your empty skull, if Edo men are stupid what are YORUBA men then? numb skull1!!!!!!
Some1 way richer dan u (am guessing her lover b4 u guys met) is back in her life. See ursef nw as a single parent nd try moving on I knw its nt easy bu u ve 2 b strong 4 ur kids
As someone that married a kalabari woman, i can tell u that majority of their women are not wife materials. They so much believe in money. I am dead sure that u aren't very rich cos if u are, a kalabari woman will never leave u.
O Boy you too MUMU! lol. Another man collect wife from your hand you come dey cry? lol. MOVE ON! She is too busy enjoying that dick to even remember your sorry ass. Sorry dear, i had to be blunt so you get the message.
Na d pastor wen tell your wife say make she leave you na im dey fuck am wellemly. Dem don use juju blind her eyes leave her marriage. By d time she opens her eyes and see say no other husbands dey anywhere, its too late. Bros waka & go take good care of ur beautiful daughters!!! Forget ur wife
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I think u suld reasonably as her yourself truthfully what u have done to offend her. There are 2 sides to a story. Check urself, have u been good to her, cos it's strange for a sane woman to flee without her kids o. Usually there is never a smoke without fire.
Lol funny shit, broke ass nigga, or should i say lazy ass nigga, never u run after women, chase ur paper fool, go make money wimp and u will realise she aint ur wife either cus u will have other beautiful women running after u
Find out the pastors who told her you are not her husband if they are real men of God.how come she did not discuss it with u first before she made her decision to leave...I think you love your wife more than she loves you be strong keep on talking to her pray to God about it maybe she will change her mind for her kids sake that's if is meant to be.
Brother...I.feel ur pain.am deeply sorry. U just have to move on..life goes on.u cant just kill ur self cos of woman..Pray n seek for God interventions if u are meant to be ok.
Find out which pastor said that to her,tail her and find out her new friends....if she lift you becos of a man,den 4get her but if she lift you becos of her church or pastor or religious sake.....den it's a spiritual problem..her pastor is taken in advantage of her.......more importantly,control ur emotions and take care of ur gals
1 the thing that cud make her behave like dah is definitely nt from u cus u guys hv dated long 4 her to leave based on a fault comin from u cus she has knwn u 4 long 2. Does she hv anytin she wishes in u to hv dah u know of buh u dnt hv it and she always make mention of it,fink abt dah 3 wah kind of frriend does she associate wid#clubin type,shopin type, 4 how is ur relationship wid her so called pastor. 5 did her family fully support u pple's union 6 do u nag a lot 7 do u listen or pay attention to her cus u sound work orientated Answer dis questions if u got a pass mark then give her sumtym,by tellin her u wud always be her friend n ure der 4 her weneva she needs u buh,,, if u fail most of my questions jux move on no hope, exam starts now 30mins and no expo#calculator is not allowed.
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How can pastor tell ur wife to leave u that u are not her real husband?maybe she is tired of the marriage.Did u even ask her who the pastor is?communication is very important in any relationship,don't assume all is well when ur partner is probably dying In silence.Try to reach out to her and take everything to God in prayer.
I WISH I AM IN YOUR SHOES. I WILL LET HER GO AND TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS, THANK GOD YOU HAVE TO KIDS YOUR PROBLEM SHOULD BE FOCUSED ON HOW TO BRING THOSE INNOCENT KIDS UP. LIFE GOES ON
Well if she insist on not coming back,move on and take care of your kids,don't bother calling her again,even if anyone told her you are not her husband definately your own woman is sumwre out dre too,plus you can talk to your mum to help you with the kids,and neva stop praying,if u keep giving yoursef headache over a woman who is so ova u,man u wil die and she would still marry sumone else!Lauhrex
No, don't quit your marriage, something is wrong somewhere, people don't just wake up one morning and leave their spouse cos som1 said stuff and much more some supposed pastors! Try n get to the bottom of it all, ask God to open your eyes and show you the way to let you into what has been keeping you in the dark about your wive's issue, do remember there are innocent children in the middle of all these, above all, do not give up, no condition is permanent!!!!!!!!
The man is the foundation of the home, while we have not heard the whole story i will ask you to repent and seek God's face as the door has been opened for the devil to dance in your home. There is power in prayer so use it.
You're a very big fool... don't beg anybody to marry you.... If you don't have chics around you chat me to give you one. Just one night with her you ell regret getting married to your so caldera wife.... CALL ME LIB 1
You shouldn’t come to LIB with this bullshit you are a grown ass man act like it; your wife left you because of whoever? Fuck it, suck it up and move the fuck on…don’t start acting like a bloody baby, let your kids do that, I don’t care whose fault it is that she left but if any woman can walk out on her kids, mehnnn dawg read between the bloody line mate, she doesn’t give a toss about you or the kids and please do DNA to confirm the kids are yours first then proceed to find someone that actually loves you for YOU...
Your message says it all "you guys were dating off and on" what the fuck kind of relationship is that, I think you knew what you were getting into you just decided to be ignorant about it.
I'm not trying to chastise you brav just trying to open your eyes. I know we are not suppose to kick a brother when he is down but you need to wake the fuck up this ain’t no Mills and Boon.
@juliet 10.56am he need to sue you first for advising him to go back to a woman that has no love for him.... Small brain like you. Guy live your life and move on. LIB 1..
Dis story sounds one sided, a woman don't just go looking for prophesy, u must have done something or changed dat made her get angry at u... Find d root cause of d p and handle d matter in house
For an average Nigerian pastor dt is chaluvnistc in nature to hv advised ur wife to leave you, then you must have been a "mighty asshole"..... There is sthin u are nt telling us,when u are ready to spill all- we might actually proffer useful advice...... #cheEZyjayne
I've heard abt a lot of women walking out. So this is why? Nigerian women are stupid and gullible. Every fucking thing is pastor said pastor said. Is YOUR PASTOR GOD? I won't be surprised if she stays single and even bitter for life when she finds out this is really her one. And to give up her kids like that is disgusting. Bros pray to God and God only and start from there. Everything else will fall into place.
@funminista or whatever your name is, you are a dog. Your entire generation, your father and whoever you will marry is stupid. If u dont have any advice for him, why not go and wash. You this stinking thing.fool.
Sorry man. Here is my thought. If you have been battering her like is now the custom of many men in Nigeria or cheating, then i would say she deserve the freedom. But if you have been a good husband and friend to the best of your ability and she still leaves then there is probably no pastor telling her anything. She is probably involved with some one. Here is what i think you should do if you are willing to forgive her. Pray for her everyday could be two minutes or 5 minutes. This prayer time should concentrated on declaring blessings on her. Pray for her welfare, pray for her safety, pray for a better life for her in love. If you do this for a week or two the following should happen.
1. She will come back, either to open up to you or be with you.
2. You will be free of this heavy heart that is affecting you.
If number 1 above don't happen, number two is FIXED AND CERTAIN. You will have your peace. MOVE ON AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR DAUGHTERS. U WILL HAVE A BETTER WIFE. GOOD LUCK.
Please leave the Pastors out of this! We cant continue to act stupid and then blame our stupidity on what some Pastors said. I'd advise you pray about this and ask God for help. She could be under some influence or manipulation but trust God, HE is able to sort you out. Stop calling for pity party! God to God!!! Go to Him on your knees, lay it all before Him and HE'll sort you out!
oga calmdown and thik about ur life....a confused woman is nt worth dying for, if she loves you she wouldnt av left.....so my dear open ur eyes to the reality of life. shez gone and move on!!!
Hm wat a funny story a married woman at dat..well she has anodr luver..the best u can do is take care of ur kids nd continue praying mayb she will cum to her senses..nd dnt remarry yet for the sake of ur kids
You have to hold the bull by the horn and command the situation yourself, you have to find a place to pray like a mad man, and destroy everyone that destroy your happiness
My heart breaks for you but don't give up on your marriage. I know somebody who can help you. She's a trained Psychologist and Counsellor, Havard trained gynaecologist and above all an ANNOINTED and ordained minister of the gospel. She has helped many others in far worse off situations. She is Dr. Yolanda N. George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa. Reach her on Facebook. It is well with your family.
My heart breaks for you but don't give up on your marriage. I know somebody who can help you. She's a trained Psychologist and Counsellor, Havard trained gynaecologist and above all, an ANNOINTED and ordained minister of the gospel. She has helped many others in far worse off situations. She is Dr. Yolanda N. George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa. Reach her on Facebook or 080 9911 1919. It is well with your family. - AE.
Until you guy's divorce officially in a court,she's still your wife so I suggest you sue those pastors to court for trying to damage your marriage my man.
Truth be told, i read some of the dumbest comments and stories on here but i might as well indulge y'all. First of all, if truly it's been 8months and you haven't heard from your wife and you still have the time to come to linda ikeji and post such a dumb story then i think you are even more stupid than your wife. Secondly, do you need a soothsayer to tell you she's already fucking someone else? like seriously??? Women can't be understood, coupled with this generation of dumb asses posing themselves as wife material. Thirdly, you need to look for a fine as woman who'll fuck your brains to the point where the memory of your wife wouldn't even exist.. I only pity the children because they are the ones that are gonna suffer it but hey, you can limit the sufferings of those kids with hard work and paying attention to them. Your woman is obviously fucking someone else and you should forget about her, when the person who she is fucking gets tired of her i'm sure he'll probably dump her ass like the trash on a Thursday.. They say pussy is outside, virgina is at home..
Now this is my own, I don't give a rat's ass what you did to your wife or what transpired between you guys but for her to up and leave her 2 and 7 year old ladies means she has some undiagnosed mental issues and I'm seriously thinking on the line of chronic bipolar disorder! Now why I don't really blame you again is that for her to leave her kids with you, indicates that you are not that horrible as a person because deep down she knows you will be able to do a good job of raising them alone.So in other words,what I'm trying to say to you Mr Ehis is FUCKEN take your mind of the damned mistake you married as wife!
I would have have waited for both sides of the story but as a woman myself who loves her kids,leaving those children just killed my usual vibe for being an unbiased judge. Again you can't be that wretched because it's been 8mnths since she exited your life and you and your little ladies are still surviving no matter how hard. From what I can decipher, you have been dating a mentally ill woman,whose mentally instability has exponentially progressed over the years and has finally reached its threshold therefore taking a toll on her and making her act irrationally.
PRAY to God for peace of mind and for the ability to be a good father and mother to those ladies.Trust me this would pass.I must tell you this my opinion is that of a human being and it's God's that matters.Seek him now but in the interim, act like she never existed!
Now this is my own, I don't give a rat's ass what you did to your wife or what transpired between you guys but for her to up and leave her 2 and 7 year old ladies means she has some undiagnosed mental issues and I'm seriously thinking on the line of chronic bipolar disorder! Now why I don't really blame you again is that for her to leave her kids with you, indicates that you are not that horrible as a person because deep down she knows you will be able to do a good job of raising them alone.So in other words,what I'm trying to say to you Mr Ehis is FUCKEN take your mind of the damned mistake you married as wife!
I would have have waited for both sides of the story but as a woman myself who loves her kids,leaving those children just killed my usual vibe for being an unbiased judge. Again you can't be that wretched because it's been 8mnths since she exited your life and you and your little ladies are still surviving no matter how hard. From what I can decipher, you have been dating a mentally ill woman,whose mentally instability has exponentially progressed over the years and has finally reached its threshold therefore taking a toll on her and making her act irrationally.
PRAY to God for peace of mind and for the ability to be a good father and mother to those ladies.Trust me this would pass.I must tell you this my opinion is that of a human being and it's God's that matters.Seek him now but in the interim, act like she never existed!
I'm new to this cos I don't usually bother with comments. I must say I'm very surprised! Do Nigerians really talk like this? I thought filthy language was an afro-american malaise! ! People, please, emulate something goood.
@fumugation, sorry FUNMINISTA......behave urself o! it took courage for dis man to say his problem to total strangers. pls dnt insult him. Mr E, i rily cant say anytin, cos the story is not complete. I pray the lord to grant u wisdom on the next step to take.
Edo men are always stupid sha...how can u almost die becos of a woman
ReplyDeleteShut up , c u name lyk a fruit juice confused being, dirty slot go gt a life sum1 asking 4 help u r busy insulting , #crap..
Delete@funminista, u must b a goa a big Foolish 1, ode, smelling thing. Back to the matter. Oga I need to hear from ur wify, but if really u didn't do anything wrong, pls just move on, ok bye.
DeleteYou are very stupid. Your father is stupid. Idiot tribalistic bigot!
DeleteU don't expect him to be okay with her leaving after all those years nau. Ko Le easy. Be fair
Delete@Funminista,Sssshhhh...dnt say rubbish.
DeleteHe was deeply hurt by the behavior of his supposed wife. If you were in his shoes, how would you have felt ?
Mr Ehis,sorry about you plight. You've already made the mistake, now you have to deal with it.
Work hard and care for your children. The Lord is your strength!
mind ur words lady!
DeleteU must be a bastard and ur generation must be also for saying Edo men are always stupid, Linda why will u approve such comment.... Funmi ur papa nor well...smiling now..
DeleteAbioooo! Mr. Man, count the pieces of your life and move on. Nobody is indispensable. As she said she's looking for her real husband, you also look for your real wife. Focus on yourself and your kids and count yourself lucky that she quietly moved out and is not causing any wahala. Our God works in mysterious ways. By the way, don't let me hear you say u almost died because of a woman, life is too short for that rubbish!
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Why would you generalize all Edo men as stupid, I believe you have a very low IQ to have even taught of that, talk more of writing it here as a comment.
Deleteur name sound as stupid as u are.am sure an Edo man has broken ur heart b4.he has 2 kids wit her so y wont he feel it. u disgusting tribalistic faggot.
DeleteWot do u know about Edo men. Jackass
Deletelol! Girl you wicked sha,the guy is pained here instead make you give am your piece of advice u dey there they curse.pity him nah.
DeletePrayer is what you need dear. Marriage was ordained by God and only Him can sort you and your family out ok? S
DeleteYou Funmi are also very stupid sha for making this comment. Stop acting like you haven't had your heart broken before. And if you haven't, it's probably because your ass is too ugly anyway for any man to want to have any relationship with you. Idiot!!!
DeleteU re a stupid fool
DeleteU must be crazy for that comment and am 100% sure u are a real maga for an edo guy.... bloody hater
Deletewhat an insensitive comment fumni both to the young man and to all the Edo people. . be nice my dear
DeleteSt valentine died for love, Romeo died for love and so many other good men.........Love is not an emotional luxury designed for women only.. Pray you find a man dt can love you don't hard so u wnt hv the ample time to poison the mind of a man dt loves another woman in dt manner. #cheEzyjayne
DeleteFor good 8months no words or message from her.....hmmm!!! Mr Ehis is so clear that she has moved on and I believe you should do same too. She's obviously tired of the marriage so let her be and take care of your little angels.
DeleteFunmi is an example of omo ale jati jati,omo lasan,ikeji aja!
DeleteMove on oga! She has a lover already. Hope I'm first to drop a comment?
ReplyDeleteMr ehis! Juss try and forget her cause she doesn't worth ur love! God will give u anoda woman dat will stick wit u forever
DeleteUr inlove with a confused lady,4get her and move on
ReplyDeleteMaybe her people didn't want her to marry an Edo and filled her head with all sorts over the years and she just finally succumbed. Also, hope you're been a good husband to her; because it would make her decision to leave easier if you're also a difficult husband. Can't imagine how or why someone would leave her kids though. That must have been some serious brainwashing.
DeleteI advise you just move on nd take care of ur kids..she has made a mistake,jst 4get her
DeleteHmmm...God will bring you both together again if its meant to be.Be strong
ReplyDeleteWhoa! I feel ur pain brother, she must be fucking someone out there, if her only reason for leaving was cos the pastors told her u ain't her husband, secondly hope u don't just sit at home while she runs the home, still check urself well.....
ReplyDeletequeenreigneth@gmail.com
Exactly my thought
Deletetell us ur side of the story what were u doing that was getting her pissed.
ReplyDeleteif she really loves u she wont care abt anyone's spiritual opinons.
what was her dont's u made do's.
RELAX AND RECALL.
A CHANGE AWAITS U.
He wasnt eating her arse and pussy like a real man should. Eat out that arse, she aint going nowhere.
DeleteHe wasnt eating her arse and pussy like a real man should. Eat out that arse, she aint going nowhere.
Deletei wan hear from ur WIVE too
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Some stories on here are just so annoying. At 35 u still don't know how to handle such case? Then why did u marry?? Mtchewwww ..
ReplyDeleteYou that you know how to handle it, why don't you tell him?
DeleteHian wonders shall never end. My dear brother first of all sue those fucking pastors then find out which of them is fucking ur wife and by the grace of God is wife will be back. For the sake of ur kids, don't stop trying
ReplyDeleteHaaa my brother na so devil take style truncate your hustle o! It is time to seek the face of God. Repent of your sins, accept Jesus into your life and ask God for the return of your wife. It is well with you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteHian wonders shall never end. My dear brother first of all sue those fucking pastors then find out which of them is fucking ur wife and by the grace of God your wife will be back. For the sake of ur kids, don't stop trying
ReplyDeleteJuliet you can express ur opinion without using these kinda words. Pls talk like a lady!
DeleteYh.... I think you should quit the marriage...buh again we are just outsiders....its your call to make
ReplyDeletePls leave her n let her be,wen a man or woman neglects her blood then d demonic possession of d individual is at its peak.
ReplyDeleteMiss Funminista, u will jst open ur mouth and say nonsense, wat has Edo pple got to do with this? Pls think b4 commenting. Dumb ass!
ReplyDeleteShe's gone, she moved on. U shld do the same. It's nt easy bh u ain't got no choice bro. Focus on bringin up ur kids...and get a new woman wen it's ryt fr u. Ur kids re ur priority nw, work hard, give them Dd best life possible.
ReplyDeleteThere's something fishy there bro! Seek God's face on this and nullify every marriage breaker..really don't know how to explain to you here but go to God in prayers so that the scales in her eyes will fall out.. Pls Our lord is not an author of confusion 1 cor 14:33. BishopDammy#
ReplyDeleteShe never tell u d truth, I bet u she is hiding somtin. Somone now spoils her than u do.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Na this type of thing dey fear me to marry i swear.......
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
And to hell with any bae that think i will die cuz of her
ReplyDeleteMr man plz call it "A stepping stone"
1.MY ADVISE IS THAT BE PATIENT WHICH GOD HAS ALREADY BLESSED YOU WITH.
ReplyDelete2. KEEP PRAYING FOR HER, IT COULD BE A SPIRITUAL PROBLEM AND IT MIGHT TAKE QUITE SOME TIME FOR HER TO COME OUT OF IT.
3. SINCE YOU LOVE HER , YOU CAN SOME STRONG BELIEVERS I YOUR CHURCH TO JOIN YOU IN PRAYERS .
4. FINALLY ASK GOD TO TAKE CONTROL OVER THE SITUATION AND BY HIS GRACE IT WILL BE RESOLVED
This guy is not telling us the real story.
ReplyDeleteNawa ooo. (Linda's Man)
ReplyDeleteNo God fearing pastor will tell a married woman to leave her matrimonial home coz of that excuse she gave except if you're not her 1st husband(Case of Jesus and the woman at the well).Its either your wife lied to you or her pastor is fake.I advice you to meet her family and get an appropriate explanation.If she's still adamant,then let her go.God knows you've tried.
ReplyDeleteLol @ funminista, make Edo men no catch u. But bros u almost die? U done fuck up u no even talk like real Benin guy. Thank GOD say she no kill u go marry another person. Move on jor if u like when she come back beging mumu agree
ReplyDeleteMove on..its clear u married a hoe...........................#KingOfKings
ReplyDeleteHaba dan Allah disi ur Fastor is nt ril man op God pa wallahi if wot u say is factual! Do U knw hw many sins he's bout to comit? 1, tryna convert dy nebors wife 2, tryna put asundr, 3 tryna comit adultry dats if he's nt done all.#26247c63
ReplyDelete@funmiinista: you are VERY stupid! I am not from Edo state but that comment was very stupid! VERY OH! when a man loves too much it is a problem, when he doesn't, it still is! come on!!! Dude move on, the woman is obviously sick in the head to heed the words of a home wrecker. move on. Cos she obviously is. And all of you going to Pastors to seek advice, remember they are only human!
ReplyDelete@Hilary Obiorah I expected more from you.it is no-brainer that Funmi made an immature statement but calling her names is not just right. What I think she deserves from a matured mind like yours is Correction.
Deletefunmi or wat dey call you so as matured and old as you look such a dumb statement can come out from your empty skull, if Edo men are stupid what are YORUBA men then? numb skull1!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSome1 way richer dan u (am guessing her lover b4 u guys met) is back in her life. See ursef nw as a single parent nd try moving on I knw its nt easy bu u ve 2 b strong 4 ur kids
ReplyDeleteForget about her and continue with your life ma bro. God will give you anoda good and faithful wife. Am sure those pastors are fucking her.
ReplyDeleteLife goes on..with or without her!
ReplyDeleteAs someone that married a kalabari woman, i can tell u that majority of their women are not wife materials. They so much believe in money. I am dead sure that u aren't very rich cos if u are, a kalabari woman will never leave u.
ReplyDeleteO Boy you too MUMU! lol. Another man collect wife from your hand you come dey cry? lol. MOVE ON! She is too busy enjoying that dick to even remember your sorry ass. Sorry dear, i had to be blunt so you get the message.
ReplyDeleteNa d pastor wen tell your wife say make she leave you na im dey fuck am wellemly. Dem don use juju blind her eyes leave her marriage. By d time she opens her eyes and see say no other husbands dey anywhere, its too late. Bros waka & go take good care of ur beautiful daughters!!! Forget ur wife
ReplyDeleteFunminista don't be stupid...say NO to stupidity. You don't have to insult all men just because of this. Its either you give an advice or you don't!
ReplyDeleteGood we are third parties so make the call ..but I say let her be and wait for the real husband
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm,its really difficult for an outsider to give advice on marriage issues,but the only advice i have got for you is to take it God in prayers,there you will receive strenght and wisdom on what to do.....
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I think u suld reasonably as her yourself truthfully what u have done to offend her. There are 2 sides to a story. Check urself, have u been good to her, cos it's strange for a sane woman to flee without her kids o. Usually there is never a smoke without fire.
ReplyDeleteShe is a fool all dis fake pastors dam she fall mugu buh I no bliv u almost die lols Benin man ?(still tinking ) move on oga marydanladi180@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteLol funny shit, broke ass nigga, or should i say lazy ass nigga, never u run after women, chase ur paper fool, go make money wimp and u will realise she aint ur wife either cus u will have other beautiful women running after u
ReplyDeleteWe haven't heard d full story yet. This doesn't add up,hw can she up n leave like that?hmm........
ReplyDeleteWell don't be surprise when the pastor ends up being the God sent man for her...coz have seen dis happen to my frnd. where she took advice from a pastor to lev her fiancé only for the pastor to end up marrying her and dumped her after 1 child...my advice for u is that u Shld just move with ur life
ReplyDeleteFind out the pastors who told her you are not her husband if they are real men of God.how come she did not discuss it with u first before she made her decision to leave...I think you love your wife more than she loves you be strong keep on talking to her pray to God about it maybe she will change her mind for her kids sake that's if is meant to be.
ReplyDeleteSo glaring she has another man,so dont bother your self continue with your life,God will provide your own wife too ...Shalom
ReplyDeleteSure u nid prayers,go back to God,
ReplyDeleteForget her and forge ahead
ReplyDelete#####################################GOD punish###############devil
She is dating dat pastor
ReplyDeleteBrother...I.feel ur pain.am deeply sorry. U just have to move on..life goes on.u cant just kill ur self cos of woman..Pray n seek for God interventions if u are meant to be ok.
ReplyDeleteShe has another man. Just investigate and catch her red-handed. It will be easier to move on then
ReplyDeleteFind out which pastor said that to her,tail her and find out her new friends....if she lift you becos of a man,den 4get her but if she lift you becos of her church or pastor or religious sake.....den it's a spiritual problem..her pastor is taken in advantage of her.......more importantly,control ur emotions and take care of ur gals
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ReplyDelete1 the thing that cud make her behave like dah is definitely nt from u cus u guys hv dated long 4 her to leave based on a fault comin from u cus she has knwn u 4 long
ReplyDelete2. Does she hv anytin she wishes in u to hv dah u know of buh u dnt hv it and she always make mention of it,fink abt dah
3 wah kind of frriend does she associate wid#clubin type,shopin type,
4 how is ur relationship wid her so called pastor.
5 did her family fully support u pple's union
6 do u nag a lot
7 do u listen or pay attention to her cus u sound work orientated
Answer dis questions if u got a pass mark then give her sumtym,by tellin her u wud always be her friend n ure der 4 her weneva she needs u buh,,, if u fail most of my questions jux move on no hope, exam starts now 30mins and no expo#calculator is not allowed.
Most police women are neva a wife material abeg free her bros there is some1 replacing U̶̲̥̅̊ already enh biko move on. Modupe
ReplyDeleteD woman is probably confused.
ReplyDeletePLEASE MY BELOVED BROTHER YOU HAVE TO GO TO T.B JOSHUA SCOAN FOR PRAYERS(DELIVERANCE) OR YOU CAN START BY WATCHING THERE TV EMMANUEL TV ON THE SATELLITE OR INTERNET (EMMANUEL.TV) ITS A 24 HOURS CHANEL AND YOU WILL SEE SO MANY SIMILAR AND MORE BROKEN MARRIAGE SITUATIONS BEING RECONCILED. IN EVERY SITUATION GOD HAS SOMETHING TO SAY...EMMANUEL
ReplyDeletemy friend this is a STORY FOR THE GODS.....u almost died abi...what if u died?do u think GOD will be happy with you?
ReplyDeleteYou swore for better for worse, so just take care of ur kids, and pray to God to intervene
ReplyDeleteYou are 35 and you still want someone to help you with decision making, hmmm Oga you need to man up.
ReplyDeleteShe has a lover. Investigate and make peace with yourself
ReplyDeleteHow can pastor tell ur wife to leave u that u are not her real husband?maybe she is tired of the marriage.Did u even ask her who the pastor is?communication is very important in any relationship,don't assume all is well when ur partner is probably dying In silence.Try to reach out to her and take everything to God in prayer.
ReplyDeleteI WISH I AM IN YOUR SHOES. I WILL LET HER GO AND TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS, THANK GOD YOU HAVE TO KIDS YOUR PROBLEM SHOULD BE FOCUSED ON HOW TO BRING THOSE INNOCENT KIDS UP. LIFE GOES ON
ReplyDeleteWell if she insist on not coming back,move on and take care of your kids,don't bother calling her again,even if anyone told her you are not her husband definately your own woman is sumwre out dre too,plus you can talk to your mum to help you with the kids,and neva stop praying,if u keep giving yoursef headache over a woman who is so ova u,man u wil die and she would still marry sumone else!Lauhrex
ReplyDeleteNo, don't quit your marriage, something is wrong somewhere, people don't just wake up one morning and leave their spouse cos som1 said stuff and much more some supposed pastors! Try n get to the bottom of it all, ask God to open your eyes and show you the way to let you into what has been keeping you in the dark about your wive's issue, do remember there are innocent children in the middle of all these, above all, do not give up, no condition is permanent!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletepray harder, God might change her heart to come back
ReplyDeleteI wil advice u 2 wait 4 ha coz she dnt no wat she's doing
ReplyDeleteMove on wiff ur life I bet she wil regret her actions#shollymama#
ReplyDeleteThe man is the foundation of the home, while we have not heard the whole story i will ask you to repent and seek God's face as the door has been opened for the devil to dance in your home. There is power in prayer so use it.
ReplyDeleteYou're a very big fool... don't beg anybody to marry you.... If you don't have chics around you chat me to give you one. Just one night with her you ell regret getting married to your so caldera wife....
ReplyDeleteCALL ME LIB 1
8 months and you still havn"t moved on. She even left the kids which means you don"t have to worry about them. Please move on abeg. good riddance.
ReplyDeleteHey Dawg,
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn’t come to LIB with this bullshit you are a grown ass man act like it; your wife left you because of whoever? Fuck it, suck it up and move the fuck on…don’t start acting like a bloody baby, let your kids do that, I don’t care whose fault it is that she left but if any woman can walk out on her kids, mehnnn dawg read between the bloody line mate, she doesn’t give a toss about you or the kids and please do DNA to confirm the kids are yours first then proceed to find someone that actually loves you for YOU...
Your message says it all "you guys were dating off and on" what the fuck kind of relationship is that, I think you knew what you were getting into you just decided to be ignorant about it.
I'm not trying to chastise you brav just trying to open your eyes. I know we are not suppose to kick a brother when he is down but you need to wake the fuck up this ain’t no Mills and Boon.
@juliet 10.56am he need to sue you first for advising him to go back to a woman that has no love for him.... Small brain like you. Guy live your life and move on. LIB 1..
ReplyDeleteForget her
ReplyDeleteCould good dick be the cause?
ReplyDeleteDis story sounds one sided, a woman don't just go looking for prophesy, u must have done something or changed dat made her get angry at u... Find d root cause of d p and handle d matter in house
ReplyDeleteFor an average Nigerian pastor dt is chaluvnistc in nature to hv advised ur wife to leave you, then you must have been a "mighty asshole"..... There is sthin u are nt telling us,when u are ready to spill all- we might actually proffer useful advice...... #cheEZyjayne
ReplyDeleteI've heard abt a lot of women walking out. So this is why? Nigerian women are stupid and gullible. Every fucking thing is pastor said pastor said. Is YOUR PASTOR GOD? I won't be surprised if she stays single and even bitter for life when she finds out this is really her one. And to give up her kids like that is disgusting. Bros pray to God and God only and start from there. Everything else will fall into place.
ReplyDeleteWetin you do to your wife?
ReplyDelete@funminista or whatever your name is, you are a dog. Your entire generation, your father and whoever you will marry is stupid. If u dont have any advice for him, why not go and wash. You this stinking thing.fool.
ReplyDeleteBrother u have to move on
ReplyDeleteSorry man. Here is my thought. If you have been battering her like is now the custom of many men in Nigeria or cheating, then i would say she deserve the freedom. But if you have been a good husband and friend to the best of your ability and she still leaves then there is probably no pastor telling her anything. She is probably involved with some one. Here is what i think you should do if you are willing to forgive her. Pray for her everyday could be two minutes or 5 minutes. This prayer time should concentrated on declaring blessings on her. Pray for her welfare, pray for her safety, pray for a better life for her in love. If you do this for a week or two the following should happen.
ReplyDelete1. She will come back, either to open up to you or be with you.
2. You will be free of this heavy heart that is affecting you.
If number 1 above don't happen, number two is FIXED AND CERTAIN. You will have your peace. MOVE ON AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR DAUGHTERS. U WILL HAVE A BETTER WIFE. GOOD LUCK.
Please leave the Pastors out of this! We cant continue to act stupid and then blame our stupidity on what some Pastors said. I'd advise you pray about this and ask God for help. She could be under some influence or manipulation but trust God, HE is able to sort you out. Stop calling for pity party! God to God!!! Go to Him on your knees, lay it all before Him and HE'll sort you out!
ReplyDeleteWhtGOD has join 2gather let no being put apart.
ReplyDeleteoga calmdown and thik about ur life....a confused woman is nt worth dying for, if she loves you she wouldnt av left.....so my dear open ur eyes to the reality of life. shez gone and move on!!!
ReplyDeleteU marry policewoman nd u tink say u marry wife ? Oga ontop dan de work on her
ReplyDeleteMove on ...she is screwing some rich oil tycoon. You deserve to be happy.
ReplyDeleteHm wat a funny story a married woman at dat..well she has anodr luver..the best u can do is take care of ur kids nd continue praying mayb she will cum to her senses..nd dnt remarry yet for the sake of ur kids
ReplyDeleteDon't worry soon she and the pastor will invite you to their wedding!u no know noting.
ReplyDeleteYou have to hold the bull by the horn and command the situation yourself, you have to find a place to pray like a mad man, and destroy everyone that destroy your happiness
ReplyDeleteMy heart breaks for you but don't give up on your marriage. I know somebody who can help you. She's a trained Psychologist and Counsellor, Havard trained gynaecologist and above all an ANNOINTED and ordained minister of the gospel.
ReplyDeleteShe has helped many others in far worse off situations. She is Dr. Yolanda N. George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa. Reach her on Facebook. It is well with your family.
My heart breaks for you but don't give up on your marriage. I know somebody who can help you. She's a trained Psychologist and Counsellor, Havard trained gynaecologist and above all, an ANNOINTED and ordained minister of the gospel.
ReplyDeleteShe has helped many others in far worse off situations. She is Dr. Yolanda N. George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa. Reach her on Facebook or 080 9911 1919. It is well with your family. - AE.
Until you guy's divorce officially in a court,she's still your wife so I suggest you sue those pastors to court for trying to damage your marriage my man.
ReplyDeleteplease do you graduate from a higher institution and become a "Corporal"?.....
ReplyDeletePlease move on with your life, get someone to be taking care of the children. As times goes on, things will fall in place. Just be prayerful.
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Mr. Ehis, what do you do for a living? I asked bcos you told us your wife is a police office but didn't tell us what you do for a living.
ReplyDeleteWhere you abussive to her? Edo men are brutalizers and cheaters.
My advise is for you to take care of your children and move on.
If only we can hear from your wife because there are two sides to a coin.
Truth be told, i read some of the dumbest comments and stories on here but i might as well indulge y'all. First of all, if truly it's been 8months and you haven't heard from your wife and you still have the time to come to linda ikeji and post such a dumb story then i think you are even more stupid than your wife. Secondly, do you need a soothsayer to tell you she's already fucking someone else? like seriously??? Women can't be understood, coupled with this generation of dumb asses posing themselves as wife material. Thirdly, you need to look for a fine as woman who'll fuck your brains to the point where the memory of your wife wouldn't even exist.. I only pity the children because they are the ones that are gonna suffer it but hey, you can limit the sufferings of those kids with hard work and paying attention to them. Your woman is obviously fucking someone else and you should forget about her, when the person who she is fucking gets tired of her i'm sure he'll probably dump her ass like the trash on a Thursday.. They say pussy is outside, virgina is at home..
ReplyDeleteNow this is my own, I don't give a rat's ass what you did to your wife or what transpired between you guys but for her to up and leave her 2 and 7 year old ladies means she has some undiagnosed mental issues and I'm seriously thinking on the line of chronic bipolar disorder! Now why I don't really blame you again is that for her to leave her kids with you, indicates that you are not that horrible as a person because deep down she knows you will be able to do a good job of raising them alone.So in other words,what I'm trying to say to you Mr Ehis is FUCKEN take your mind of the damned mistake you married as wife!
ReplyDeleteI would have have waited for both sides of the story but as a woman myself who loves her kids,leaving those children just killed my usual vibe for being an unbiased judge. Again you can't be that wretched because it's been 8mnths since she exited your life and you and your little ladies are still surviving no matter how hard. From what I can decipher, you have been dating a mentally ill woman,whose mentally instability has exponentially progressed over the years and has finally reached its threshold therefore taking a toll on her and making her act irrationally.
PRAY to God for peace of mind and for the ability to be a good father and mother to those ladies.Trust me this would pass.I must tell you this my opinion is that of a human being and it's God's that matters.Seek him now but in the interim, act like she never existed!
Now this is my own, I don't give a rat's ass what you did to your wife or what transpired between you guys but for her to up and leave her 2 and 7 year old ladies means she has some undiagnosed mental issues and I'm seriously thinking on the line of chronic bipolar disorder! Now why I don't really blame you again is that for her to leave her kids with you, indicates that you are not that horrible as a person because deep down she knows you will be able to do a good job of raising them alone.So in other words,what I'm trying to say to you Mr Ehis is FUCKEN take your mind of the damned mistake you married as wife!
ReplyDeleteI would have have waited for both sides of the story but as a woman myself who loves her kids,leaving those children just killed my usual vibe for being an unbiased judge. Again you can't be that wretched because it's been 8mnths since she exited your life and you and your little ladies are still surviving no matter how hard. From what I can decipher, you have been dating a mentally ill woman,whose mentally instability has exponentially progressed over the years and has finally reached its threshold therefore taking a toll on her and making her act irrationally.
PRAY to God for peace of mind and for the ability to be a good father and mother to those ladies.Trust me this would pass.I must tell you this my opinion is that of a human being and it's God's that matters.Seek him now but in the interim, act like she never existed!
Tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth...and maybe you can get good advice
ReplyDeleteI'm new to this cos I don't usually bother with comments. I must say I'm very surprised!
ReplyDeleteDo Nigerians really talk like this?
I thought filthy language was an afro-american malaise! !
People, please, emulate something goood.
She is running things with a pastor. He visits in the dead of the night.
ReplyDeletemove on mr man
ReplyDeleteu be edo guy
Dis guy is funny, y would u keep a woman uve nt married legally in ur house nd except her nt to leave wen she wants to. U be mumu...
ReplyDelete@fumugation, sorry FUNMINISTA......behave urself o! it took courage for dis man to say his problem to total strangers. pls dnt insult him. Mr E, i rily cant say anytin, cos the story is not complete. I pray the lord to grant u wisdom on the next step to take.
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