Please help me sort out this problem. In a family where the husband earns N150,000 every month, and the wife earns N750,000 every month and they both work in the same company, and their kids are lacking parental care, love and discipline, who between them should resign and stay home to take care of the kids?
its base on tribe
ReplyDeletethe man of course......... he shud become a "house husband".
Deletehw can u let go of 600k becos u wanna proof u d head of d home, huh????????
None of them. It's not about the salary...They should both work out how to spend more time with their kids. And since they can afford it, a Nanny or help shouldn't be off the options.
DeleteLinda its nt adviseable for a man to be idle and it is d woman's responsibility to mane the home front. However in this case they shld both work bt create time for their children durin weekends n public holidays while dey get a corporate nanny to take kia of d children durin d week. D children shld also be taken to their grandparents so dey can feel d parental luv n affection. Wen they av gotten sufficient funds to carry out a business one person wit a gud business IQ shld resign n pursue d business which wil fetch him/her d time to parent their children. Wisdom is applicable to direct.
DeleteAnno 10.4am u HV alot of brain,u'r a very intelligent person I admire your wisdom, u HV answerd d question if Linda will see that.
DeleteWell, it happened to us! I had a job in financial services, earning roughly less Dan 400k, my wife was earning over a million a month. One us had to resign it was me without thinking. If u married, it's family income rather Dan individual incomes, some Pple say men r getting lazy, d truth it has nothing to do with dat @ all, in d office environment, Pple work wit brains nt muscles, so a woman cld be smarter Dan a man, n do way better. Well, for abt 1 year, I tried to get back on my feet after I resigned, didn't get a job, so I started a business supplying diesel (my wife funded it) I expanded it to roughly over 20 tankers. Money from d business is 10times more dat wot my wife earns. And this year she resigned to join me! Dats it, it was hard first (bruised pride) but God helped "us"
DeleteSimple the father
ReplyDeleteThe partner with the lower income
ReplyDeleteSimple "the father"
ReplyDeleteBest tin izz if u av a granny bring her over to hlp u train d kids while u guys are away
DeleteLol d man shuld stay @ home nd tkia of d kds,
ReplyDeleteLinda and her stupid feminist pieces! Stupid people actually get their thinking influenced by pro-feminist stance Linda takes in all her article...and a mad man'll be wondering why she single. This is both unrealistic and BULLSHIT. Even without a disparity in income, isn't the consensus that women should work and not become house wives as per gender equality and the fact that every woman has a lot to contribute to society than to become a housewife so why should this article suggest that one partner leave their jobs, a cheeky jab at the fact that the man earns less. In times like this I pity females that get carried away with the feminist trend and not allow wisdom direct their wits. Being fulfilled in all facets of life would mean wisdom is operational in your life
Delete*you know who a word they say is good enough for?*
@anonymous 9.24am, I stopped reading all other comments after yours. You nailed it, gbam! Any other comment is irrelevant after yours.
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Anonymous 9:21am why is it paining you? And how is it unrealistic for a woman to earn more than a man? And you just had to bring linda being single into it. It's idiots like you that expect a Woman to go through shit in the name of marriage
DeleteThe father
ReplyDeleteHmmm... Well..they could both save up enough to start a business depending how well they understand each other.. Most men don't like it when their wives are in charge but its something that can be worked out between the couple at least for the sake of the children...
ReplyDeleteSensible
DeleteStale!Such does not exist,is just ur imagination. You can't even earn 150 anywhere in this country not to talk of 750k.Also what qualification does she has to earn that much and the husband does not have. SO ITS STALE!!!
ReplyDeleteSee dis one? If u knw how much most pple earn ur mouth go fall(media,telecommunications, oil etc)... Poverty mentality
DeleteYou are very wrong bruh!! People are earning much more than that. Wake up mehn. Don't get left behind
DeleteAre u sure u live in Nigeria? U can't earn 150k in this country, let alone 750k? Lol..u need to get exposed so u don't end up living and dying in penury!
DeleteIgnorance
DeleteDodo, if she's a full staff in an oil company and her husband is a contract staff, dat's what they'll most likely earn mthly
DeleteWake up.....
Delete@John Beach..pls don't b myopic in ur thinKing. Pple earn more than dt as salary in a month. Deputy manager in banks earn abt 800k a month. Entry level in oil producing coys earn abt 1.5m monthly so wake up. As per ur question Linda , d husband shd b happy to resign without being told.
DeleteIgnorant fool!
Delete@ John beach. U re suffering from a very great ignorance! Pls do not comment on a post you ve got no idea on. Mr. Primitive!
DeleteJohn hurt much? Awww. It should be the husband. no unecesary ego were there's love n respect but my take is u both keep ur jobs n spare some time ur kids. Both of u had them ----C21
DeleteThe fact that u can never work and get 150k is ur problem and it doesnt men someone else can't.there are jobs that pays over a millon naira.So shut up and get to d point here....
DeletePoor u? U think nobody earns 750k? Cared to find out how much d oil coys, mid-level of telecoms n banks pay? Wake up darling...people r earning way more
DeleteWho told you people don't earn 150k in this country? Na wah ooooooo.
DeleteLearner!
DeleteLie... my uncle who's a bank manager in GTB earn 11m yearly so wat the fuck r u saying.... bt as for my tot over this issue... if I was the man here,i won't quite... bcos if u do dat ur wife start looking down on u... accepting dat really means selling of ur rite as a husband.... so I say a big no to dat.... it's better dey employ a nanny or a relates to stay with the kids... than for the man to quite n loss his rite.
DeleteVia BlackBerry z10
What r u saying? U shld keep ur ignorant thoughts to urself
DeleteWho said so not cos u don't earn it does not mean others are not,so don't say wat u r not sure of.
DeleteBoyyyyy!!! You are soooo... I dunno what word to qualify ur brain without insulting you!
DeleteWhat do you mean by there's nowhere you can earn 150k per month? That's how Much most normal companies pay their staff for starters! 750k? That's a little under what some oil companies pay!
If the wife is a PhD holder and the man is an ordinary degree holder, do you think they'd be paid same?
Please, think before you write next time!
It's all about their priorities... if they want to live big, man quits... if they don't mind the little things in life, lol, then the woman quits!
May God Heal ur thoughts n mind. Amen
DeleteAre u kidding me? @ u can't even earn 150 in this country not to talk of 750...like wat village in the country do u live in? Pls get informed my dear!!
DeletePeople earn millions in a mnth in dis country. I no a lot of peeps who dose earn mega bucks. Back to the gist d dad shuld resign.
Delete@john beach in this country u earn more than that so is possible a
DeleteIgnorant is what you are so you need education. Thousands of people in Nigeria earn these figures and more. Is 150k too much? That's like the average professional salary my dear. Please believe in yourself, you can also earn this much.
DeleteI bu ewu....see ur mumu write up. People earn 5mil talk more of 150k. And for you to say anywhere in this country means you jas graduated from sec sch. You'll know things about salaries wif time.
DeleteJohn,u are a village mumu.shut ur mouth if you don't know what to say
DeleteJohn beach if you know nothing about qualifications,companies and how their salary scales are just be quiet. You must not comment saying its stale otherwise you make your own life stale
DeleteAre u a learner or what? Shut up if ur not enlightened. In the bank you can earn the two incomes.
DeleteMy dear it exists ooo.. kai pple evn earn 2m monthly. . Lyk seriously wer do u stay in naija dat pple dnt earn 150k in ur area
DeleteMaga, how dumb can u be. Pls leave that your cocoon village. How can u say nobody earns 150k in this country. Afo dikwa gi na imi there
DeleteU obviously dont av a job dats why ur spitting rubbish.fool like u.idiat.moron.hu says u cant earn 750.wen ur mates dey earn 1M nd above,u dey here dey talk like a lost foolish non ambitious moron.
DeletePls shut ur trap if u dnt knw wat u saying..i bet u uneducated..d r so many telecommunications n oil companies dat pay pple up to 750k or more..so close ur mouf
Delete1.) Do u know the meaning of stale? 2.) 750k na money? Your own don done o! So u don't know people are earning far much more! It's like the Okoye guy said Poverty na bastard!
DeleteWhat part of the country are you in? Branch managers of banks earn about #1m a month o
DeleteAnother dumb lib person.stay there bitching ok?the least earning person in my house is my brother who just started work after his nysc.and he takes home about 220k after tax.dummy
DeleteSpeak for yourself o... its either you need to upgrade your cv or just change the organization in which you work. Hian!!! What an orientation. :(
DeleteSee dis ode, do u live under a rock?
DeleteIgnoramus
DeleteJohn beach get some exposure and come out of your village.
DeleteWhy wud you say pple don't earn dt much, 750k per month is even small sef
DeleteDo u knw hw much some ops head @ bank earns? FIRS or NIMASA? Jst bcz ur salary is 90k or below doesn't apply 2 ol Nigerians
DeleteBee gurl
You must have your head in the sand. Be jonesing where people are earning 2m as monthly salary.
DeletePls im a female doctor post nysc earning 172k as take home,so what do u mean by u cant earn 150kin this country???Dont feel ur circumstance applies to others,thank u
DeleteThe man.....in the long run 150k won't be enuf for d household expenses and savings.....anyways b/w d two of dem sha.....mizlinda, heard one of the girls' hostel in uniben was on fire earlier on....biko check.....
ReplyDeleteLol.and where did u get dt news?plz its false.Linda dnt waste ur tym on dis ooooo
DeleteNo one should resign, make out time for the kids
ReplyDeleteSupported! !!
DeleteThe man should be the house-husband, while he negotiates with the wife on how the chores will be handled amicably for love of a united and stable family.
ReplyDeleteThere are lots of men being house-husbands in London and it works well for the family.
Ego and pride should be put aside whilst God's love and wisdom must reign if a stable family is to be attained..
The real issue is not how much they earn or who should resign, rather, it is: Are they one team? If one, then as the man, I will resign to commence a service-delivery business, seeking the how-to first with our combined resources and effort as we build up our children's values.
ReplyDeleteBest answer so far! Very apt!
DeleteNone of them!the husband would lose his self esteem stayin home wit d kids.d wife aint an option too hehe
ReplyDeleteThe real issue is not how much they earn or who should resign, rather, it is: Are they one team? If one, then as the man, I will resign to commence a service-delivery business, seeking the how-to first with our combined resources and effort as we build up our children's values.
ReplyDeleteOh boy, guy resign ooo. 600k no be beans. Linlin u stil dey answer dis kind question? Nawaa oo
ReplyDeleteThe one with the lesser pay should fuck off.
ReplyDeleteOya critics, start to hammer yourselves!! #tongueout#
Shooo! Please let's leave that man superiority shit and face facts!! Obviously the man should leave his job and get a shop. Food first b4 ego oo
ReplyDeleteThe man naw. Unless he can find another job that pays just as much or more than what his wife is earning, he should please swallow his pride and stay at home, or start a business, while the wife works.
ReplyDeleteNa papa joo!
ReplyDeleteNa papa joo!
ReplyDeleteAh!!! This is complicated oh
ReplyDeleteThis is very tough and wisdom is needed here. Base on tradition, is the right of woman to take care of the home, while the man work so the man can't resign. but the woman is financially good. so I will suggest a nanny.
ReplyDeleteWisdom and understanding is most important at this point
Children need parental love, not nanny love
DeleteStupid question get a good nanny to permanently stay in ur house n take care of d kids.do u xpect ur hub to sit at home n babysit? Fool
ReplyDeleteCorrect yarn....I c na only u get sense here!
DeleteYou are the fool,watch ur own children in d hands of a nanny suffer parental care and turn out spoiled
DeleteYou are the fool,watch ur own children in d hands of a nanny suffer parental care and turn out spoiled
DeleteWhere is the like button so I can click that ? This is one sane person on here for now . Linda. U need to upgrade . Put a like button on here
DeleteMothers part is need most paul so u can hv time for the other girls,hang out look fly and bring only 60k from d 150k home saying times r hard. That is rotten pride,allow your wife stay at work while u start up a business.
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ReplyDelete#overthemoon
Let the husband stay home nah. Plenty of time for him to take care of the kid and still have time for a side chick.
ReplyDeleteLol @side chick.
DeleteDere are cooperate maids all over,be dere askin nonsense question even if d man earns 10k n u 1mil he is d head n shuld neva sit in d house,wat nonsense
ReplyDeleteChauvinistic Pig!!!
DeleteSo it's a nanny that would raise your kids? I don't blame u! Thats why we have loads of insolent, nonsensical kids running around!
I'm sure a nanny raised you!!!
So the family should be poor because the woman wants to massage the ego of the head. All these traditions are the reason africa has watched the rest of the world leave us behind
DeleteThis is very silly
ReplyDeleteand a complecated question to ask.
Infact am confused
D wife ofcourse..not even money can take d place of a wife..itz hard I knw,but that's Y ur a woman and ur meant to Mek painful sacrifices if not for anytin,for d sake of ur kids
ReplyDeleteYou're so daft. Painful sacrifice? You mean on the woman's part or on the children's part? Because if she quits and that big chunk of income ceases for the family, everybody will suffer that loss; and when I say everybody, I mean the husband, the wife and the kids. So while you're there thinking of sacrificing the woman's pain, you're stupidly sacrificing the whole family's well being by being egocentric.
DeleteUr too dumb. Ego will kill u if u don't watch it...
DeleteEasier said than done,its 750 wifey,will your husband make that sacrifice for you? Rather from his 150 he will give to those girls he is sleeping with.
DeleteInfact u must b mad
DeleteSimple d man
ReplyDeleteNon...let d guy not bring any male ego joo...dey shuld try nd sought tins out...
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Mumu, which answer have you given now?
Deleteoh my God I can't answer this linda
ReplyDeleteBia Linda u don start oo
ReplyDeleteThe mother should resign cos mother's part of the parental care is needed most by the kids. Gbam!
ReplyDeleteWhat is the parental care all about without the money. The fact remains that without enough money, even a perfect mother can't do more than she can.
DeleteWit dat ur baracuda nose . shattap dere
DeleteI agree with u,d man shud b in charge of putting food on d table while d woman shud b a supporting force to d husband and d kids
DeleteFool, mother should resign indeed.... So both cannot work out a suitable arrangement? Typical male chauvinist bullshit.... Leave 750 for 150 is foolishness at its peak, even God go vex at the stupidity..... They just have to work as a team. Man should look for another job....
DeleteNon!! Get a nanny,or close family member to come take kai of em,money is really important !! If its really necessary a parent shud resign,den d dad shud,750,000-150,00=?? Do d maths n tank me later
ReplyDeleteTo be frank with u,if I were to be in d woman's shoes i wont quit my job,becos its that same money I would use in taking care of my children,150,naira is actually nothing,whn everyting is so expensive, abeg,it only depends on d type of parental care u talking about,cos sending ur kid to a gud schl, clothing dem with d best clothes,giving em everytin they want,dats still called parental care and love to me o.Non shuld quit their jobs,instead if u talking about love and discipline,they shuld be more devoted in dat aspect,rather than quit.
ReplyDeletePapa, please stay at home. Gbam!!
ReplyDeletesee gobe
ReplyDeletefather
BORN TO SHINE!!!
Who says the father can't provide adequate parental care?. Is he handicap physically? Leprosy do am?
ReplyDeleteThank you o! There are a lot of daddies out there but not that many fathers. When a high percentage of the country think it's only a mother's duty to nurture the kids and all the father needs to do is provide material things. No wonder the country is the way it is. What happened to fathers loving their children the right way, being in every part of their lives, first word, first step, being able to care for them when they are sick etc. it's so sad the way Nigerian fathers relate with their young children from afar. I have seen a man go and beg his neighbour to allow his wife come and help take care of his kids for a week because his wife just gave birth, she was still in the hospital and he either didn't know how to take care of the other kids or he thought it wasn't a man's job to wake them, bath them etc. he had to call on another man's wife to take care of his flesh and blood...... Very very sad indeed
DeleteThe husband should resign and stay with the children. He should please do online courses to improve himself and later find a better paying job that he has academic qualifications for. The wife should please, please appreciate the husband and still respect him because it is hardworking raising and caring for children. This sounds like a long story but it is my sincere opinion.
ReplyDeleteOf course the father. The income difference is too vast. Then again, there's a stigma against stay-at-home dads so I think it's best if both work.
ReplyDeleteThe last time I checked. God made made the man to be in charge.. So figure it out..
ReplyDeleteSo if he takes care of the kids, he's no longer on charge? Your thinking is very backward my friend!
DeleteFoolish comment, when people have no points in an argument they turn to God and religion as an escape route
DeleteThe woman should set up a good biz that will yield income for d family and the same time give her time for her family.after that she can resign the man should never become a house husband.men needs respect.
ReplyDeleteMumu comment. na so Dem dey just set up business?
DeleteThe man. I'm not forfeiting my and my kids' comfortable life for his ego.
ReplyDeleteSIMPLE! the father will stay home and at the end of each month the wife will transfer N600k directly into his account. Balanced.
ReplyDeleteFunniest comment ever. Lol
DeleteIt needs wisdom 4 d 2 of them esp d wife 2 decide. They shd think of their kids
ReplyDeleteThe wife,it is nt d duty of the wife to take care of the family on any grounds.they sud use wot they have to start up a business.am sure it wud ve taken them sum yrs b4 figuring they ve a family problem n am also sure they had plans on their salaries all those yrs.they can live fine...
ReplyDeleteThe wife should stay home.....Pls we should be objective in our comments
ReplyDeleteShut up objective to where? Is there any law that says only women provide parental care? Besides dnt even understand when they say lack parental care, it's very vague.... Don't they go to work and come back? It's foolishness for the woman to resign cos of stupid male ego....even if he resigns it's not permanent and he should get something doing on the side.... Of course the woman has to continue to give him respect as the head of the home.....
Deleteguy stay home and take kia of your family.
ReplyDeleteThe father definitely
ReplyDeleteHahaha. I don't like question like this o. Ms Linda , you have a way of putting people in tight corners. Truth be told, the man shlould resign.
ReplyDeleteEveryone that says the mother should resign, even though you see the $600,000 difference in their salaries (which will negatively affect their standard of living) is a big idiot. It happens all the time in American homes. The man should quit & be a stay at home dad for the children. If he ends up finding a better paying job, then switch places with your wife.
ReplyDeleteA man is supposed to provide for his family. No doubt about it. The man can't stay at home doing all the house chores and the woman coming late at night from work and saying "darling, what did you prepare for this evening". It is demeaning! For salary structure. The difference isnt dat much. It depends on how you value money. But remember that the kids will act later in future on the training they get now.
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Is depends on their understanding,is suppose to be the mother but looking @ their salary is the husband but in some cases the man will refuse becos they the type of insult they will get from they wife if they depend on their wife while some men will gladly do that...everytin depends on the understanding of the man n the type of woman the wife is.
ReplyDeleteNo one needs to resign! The woman, if she loves her family, should cut down her hours and work part-time. Even 50-75% part-time will still bring her a good salary (still higher than her hubby's!). I am sure she is of immense value to the company for the salary discrepancy to be so huge.... They'll be happy to keep her in her part-time role rather than lose her completely!
ReplyDeleteSilentknight
They could always find another alternatives..
ReplyDeleteD man ofcourse...forget sentiments Nigerians,be realistic fr once!
ReplyDeleteThe woman should resign,forgetting the fact that she ends big it is her duty as a mother to take good care of her children.
ReplyDeleteBoth of them can resign.......if u ask me further question peren!
ReplyDeleteI suggest LIBers pray God for a better understanding of his word then read Proverbs 31...
ReplyDeleteThats the only mgbo I can suggest for this question.
Non they cud get a baby sitter becos if the man should stay at home them it means even with d little he earned b4 he felt less of a man then wat do u think will happen wen he seats home all day then, then second the woman can resign becos it mean a lot of funds will be lost that can be used to keep the home going so in my view get a baby sitter or get one or both ur mums to come stay over
ReplyDeleteThe mom should be care to the kid than prefer to work.
ReplyDeleteU ve posted dis shit bf! Abeg park well
ReplyDelete@Chi, I love ur contribution. Both of dem shuld reach a compromise, and start a business dat'd make both or one of dem closer to d kids and yet be a person of worth.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all this story is obviously made up. If u choose to marry a woman that earns more than u do obviously u av become somewhat of a slave to ur marriage I know this cos av seen this happen to a couple of dudes I know.Going with the question its only reasonable the man resigns then go back to the drawing board n figure out a business u can start n grow on something that gives you the time to attend to your childrens needs at all costs. The kids start getting used to their father more than their mother buttom line it takes prayer and wisdom to overcome this sort situation.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, if I'm in the man's shoes, me n my wife will discuss and open up a business then I will quit, business will allow me do school runs n stuff.
ReplyDeleteRubbish,even d husband earn 30k it will be ok for d family so d wify should stay @ home nutin like d father be d head of family,they are people out dea earning 20k. Buh is ok for dea family.
ReplyDeleteYou people sayin the man should resign. Just because u are chauvnists. Its wisdom needed.If the man resigns, I bet that marriage will not stand d test of time.After sumtime no mata how d woman loves the man she would end up disrespectiong the man, and u knw what happens next.the man shud start a biz on d size and hopefuly it matures to more than 150k per month or even more.To say the man to not contribute again to the marriage by resigning is sucidal.and also where are d grandmothers or they could use a nanny for a while.
ReplyDeleteThe husband
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If the man work hard enuf hw will get there. But its preferrable his wife resign and take care of the house.
ReplyDeleteThe fucking father should stick his ass back@ home
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errrm why should one resign??dnt paremnts work together and still ahve time?
ReplyDeletethey should find out time
Let the woman resign and take care of her kids. What is the joy of a woman who is wealthy but have children that lacked motherly care? ...... For the love of money is the root of all evil.
ReplyDeleteThe main issue here is that the kids aren't getting enough parental care. Then who is in the best position to provide that care. Most commentators are focusing on money without critical evaluating the implication of asking a man to resign because he earns lesser than the wife in the long run. This is Nigeria and NOT UK or US. We all know that men usually get raw deals where the woman is the breadwinner. It is also too risky for the two of them to work in the same company. They should sit down and see things beyond the 750k and 150k. Evaluate all options but the man must stay on his job.
ReplyDeleteOga find something else to do. But do not turn baby setter
ReplyDeletethe answer is simple they should employ a nanny
ReplyDelete@paul so u want d mother 2 resign lie lie 600k na beans abi non of dem should resign dey should make time 4 dem no matter wat or go togo go luk 4 better ous maid
ReplyDeleteI have been here and it is not funny. If the man stops with time the marriage will take a beating, they have to fight to make it work
ReplyDeleteIt is the womans call but it is hard to let go of so much money and go thru so much suffering. let the man endeavour to earn more
Wisdom is needed. Men n dir ego. Instead d man shld look 4 anoda job dat isn't tym consumin. N d wife shld make out family tym. Just sayin...D Curious1
ReplyDeleteIt is the woman that should resign of course. Man is not meant to stay @ home even without taking care of d kids nor doing house chores. Mine for an example.
ReplyDeleteI am a civil engineer structures precisely and for almost 3 months now that av not goten a contract I know how my wife has been frustrating me @ home simply because she goes out in the morning and return in d evening.
Women has this kind of believe that if they are richer than you, therefore they have the right to take any decision @ home without the man's consent.
So my own take on the matter is for the woman to work for a while and quit the job.
It's simple. Hire a good nanny!
ReplyDeleteAbeg jor, d father should resign and assist with anoda proper money earning venture dat cud spare him time for the kids while the woman makes dat stable income from d company. We shud be rational.
ReplyDeleteHmm ds lyk a yoruba movie I watchd d tn ended up in divorce..my dear workn people stl take care of their kids both of shuld get a nanny nd make out tym to care for ur kids..if u ar her waitn for him to resign na divorce uar both headn too or him easily get anodr side stay at home mum who will teach him hw to train kids nd suck her p***y..also if d man resign in near future d woman wnt value or respect him again wen her frnds strt telin her hw great their husband is u no women nd their febble mind
ReplyDeleteSome folks here agrees that the husband should stay home and if he eventually does,he will get criticized,some would even use the term "he's not a man" he's been controlled by his wife" it best the man seeks employment elsewhere except he's not qualified enough and if he's not it best he apply's for a professional course so that he can boost his resume.
ReplyDeleteThe question is so typically Nigeria. When a couple is working and it affects the welfare of the kids, whether they work in the same business place or not, the partner with the less take home gives up his/her job to stay at home and do the proper parenting. They dont need opinion pool to know what to do. It's only in Nigeria, you see people ask such stupid questions. Contrary to popular belief, it's not the place of the woman only to be a stay at home parent. Here, we see it as a taboo for a man to be a stay at home parent. We should note that it's not about the parents, it's about the kids and with the high standard of living, it's only natural for the partner with less take home to be the stay at home and shouldn't be something about losing pride.
ReplyDeleteLet them employ a nanny
ReplyDeleteMost tyms pple work to get busy not even becoz of d earn. So both shld continue to work yl dey get a nanny for a kids. Coz omoh, if dat man stays @ home to take care of d kids, he will v time to cheat on d wife yld woman is busy forming breadwinner nd d marriage wnt last.
ReplyDeletePlz pple shld be real, der is no place a woman is happy to stay @ home yl d man provides for everything let alone d oda way round unles is a lazy woman.
it surpose to be the wife nomatter her income...but mainly it depend on the number of boys or girls they have, if the number of girls is higher then it should be the lady but if its the population of boys that is higher......simple the father need to stay back, parental care is not something to joke with.....if you dnt train your child well it must surely give u a bad result
ReplyDeleteI observed that mother can train a girl better and the same thing with father to his son
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Stale...d father Ω̴̩̩̩̥α
ReplyDeleteNone of dem shld resign. . Dey shld make out tym for deir kids.. or d husband shld open up a buz cos he can evn earn mor dan dat nd stil av tym for the family
ReplyDeleteFirst of all "lol"....non of them need to resign, the wife needs to reschedule her programs which would enable her come back home early and take of her children, mom's care is very important.
ReplyDeleteDey do not av 2 resign.Dey just av 2 create free tyms 2b home nd manage tym-offs btw demselves... For d woman 2 earn dt much,she's in a higher position,dt mins she should b able to leave work or create free times easily.... If dey can't do dis,get a Good Godly househelp/nanny
ReplyDelete*****its Yeancah****
THE MOTHER......BUT THE MAN ALSO NEEDS TO HELP HER BY COMING HOME STRAIGHT AFTER WORK EVERYDAY
ReplyDeleteHusband sharply.
ReplyDelete@John Beach, you must be living inside Ifo in ogun state for you not know that people earn as much as that in this country. Some people earn as much as 1m, 2m even 3m monthly.
ReplyDeleteThe hubby should. Or they should get help and make time out for the kids
ReplyDeleteIf u ask me, na who I go ask? D matter wey u dey see so,..............
ReplyDeleteI'm sure they can afford a nanny or a help.
ReplyDeleteThis can't happen bt if it does, the woman shld resign cos it's her duty to take care of the family while d man provides. The man can't take the woman's place and vice versa. Besides in this country,its a lot easier for woman to get job than men,so i'd suggest d woman resigns.
In a single line, d man shld resign
ReplyDeleteAll these ladies saying the man should resign, u will still be the 1st to abuse and insult the man of being lazy, its not easy to tell a man to resign and stay at home to take care of d kids, even if its applicable in d western world, our norms n values re not d same with there's, as long as d couples re in nigeria its not gonna be easy 4 a man to stay at home and be doing houz choirs, its not pride nor ego,but its not always applicable in our society, for me,it will have psychological and emotional effect on the man later, if d man must resign, he must set up a good business, in order not to loose his value, bcos no matter hw much they luv themselves, once d woman bcoms d bread winner in d family, d music will change oo, bcos woman will always be woman, from Everistus Chikezirim
ReplyDeleteLOGICALLY AND SENSIBLY, THE WOMAN SHOUDL KEEP ON WORKING AND THE MAN SHOULD GET A BETTER JOB.
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All na story to me...to be realistic the man should resign cos if u look at d family d woman is technically taking care of it...when they live in lekki and dere children study in the best schools wit good cars do u actually think d man is taking care of the family cos she earns 5times more than he does so d moment she stopped say goodbye to ikoyi and fancy school and welcome to oshodi cos that what the husband can actually afford....but in the real sense they could be able to come to an understanding on aw to rise there kids....Babe PLS don't leave ur job employment is fucking hard in Nigeria and when u stop husband will remember u r not economically and can't manage wat he brings home....abeg wetin go happen at the end of the day to d marriage
ReplyDeleteWhen he get a better job that pays a gud amount of money like 500000 then the wife can quit
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ReplyDeleteWhat kind of question is this? Is parenting inversely related to parenting? Can money be a substitute for good parenting? A horde of people would scream that it is the woman's duty to take of the children. Another horde would scream that he who earns less should resign.
ReplyDeleteI would look at it differently. Let the couple work out something that would enable them bring up responsible children
All these ladies saying the man should resign, u will still be the 1st to abuse and insult the man of being lazy, its not easy to tell a man to resign and stay at home to take care of d kids, even if its applicable in d western world, our norms n values re not d same with there's, as long as d couples re in nigeria its not gonna be easy 4 a man to stay at home and be doing houz choirs, its not pride nor ego,but its not always applicable in our society, for me,it will have psychological and emotional effect on the man later, if d man must resign, he must set up a good business, in order not to loose his value, bcos no matter hw much they luv themselves, once d woman bcoms d bread winner in d family, d music will change oo, bcos woman will always be woman, from Everistus Chikezirim
ReplyDeleteTo me, this is not an issue.
ReplyDeletefirstly, both the man and the woman should set their priority right. this will enable them know what is the most important thing. if money is the most important thing , the the man should resign and if the the joy of the family( father mother children) is the most important thing then the woman should resign for the betterment of the children, their is greatness greater than the one they have in the tomorrow of their children and the family at large. we all believe that women do best in talking care of children. In conclusion, Either of them can resign but it has to do with their understanding and priority. THANK YOU.
Foolish pride. Resign outright & let your wife make the money while you look for a job that can allow you time for the kids.
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ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense ! What are the respecting young women in Africa thinking these days ? Yeah he earns lower but lets be realistic which man commenting here would do it ? That's why boko haram are doing what they are doing !
ReplyDeleteSince love is what binds dem, d father can humbly resign but the mother must not take her hands off the deck totally. She be very careful 2 avoid anytin datg wl cause the father 2 feel inferior.
ReplyDeleteHow can one say there are no companies where people are not paid N150,000 not to talk of N750 000 in Nigeria. Hey wake up, my boss is paid N1.2m monthly okay. So saying it's not possible, it's not true.
ReplyDeleteHian! Whc kind Q b dis na? Don't they knw ders smthn called a nanny?? Ok let's say der wasn't, then d husband should resign no two ways abt it
ReplyDeleteD husband should leave d job of course while I pay him N150,000 k as monthly salary
ReplyDeletethe man shud. d wife is earning 5x dan him. money isnt evrything, bt its a necessity.
ReplyDeleteThe husband should leave the job with love so the that wife can bring more fortune to liberate the family. That's my opinion anyway.
ReplyDeleteIt goes without saying. The man should resign . But madam MUST continue to respect ova at the TOP.
ReplyDeleteLet's be realistic here, u mean d man should stay at home, in d morning he'll wake up prepare breakfast? Bath d kids? Take them to sch? Then come back n go to d mkt to pick foodstuff? Lol, In d afternoon he'll go n pick them frm sch? Come back n prepare dinner? Chineke, so this is una thoughts for us? some women are wicked ooo, thankGod women are not God.
ReplyDeleteyou dont have to resign to take care of your kids. like seriously?? all you gotta do is work less and and not stay in the office 24/7. apparently it's left to the couple to decide who works less
ReplyDeletethe man shld quit since he earns low, lol
ReplyDeleteThe man of course, he should resign abeg
ReplyDeleteresign ke.
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