Dear LIB: I'm torn between my husband and my unborn child
From a female LIB reader
I write to you with a broken and confused heart as I do not know which
way to turn to now or which of the decisions I am about to make would be
the best of decisions. I am a first time-to-be mum with a divorced man
who has a 6 year old son. My pregnancy is the first child we are to
have between us but instead of it bringing us joy, its tearing us
apart. Doctors have just diagnosed that my unborn child has a medical
condition that would affect him for a long time and would be financially
demanding for us. My husband says there is no need to discuss it that
its abortion straight otherwise he is out of our marriage but am like
this is my first child. God can still heal my baby. Would it not be
cruel of me to just allow the life of my child be snuffed out because I
dont want to spend money? I'm so confused whether to keep the baby and
forfeit my home or to do as my husband says. Please I need your urgent
advice
Firstly, what are you doing with a divorced man? People like that tend to take rashy decissions without a second thought. To your question, there ιƨ nothing Ɠ♡D cannot do. ßut the question there ιƨ are you ready to give up on your marriage to work out your faith? Lemme sound canal a bit, its a risky deal. Its your choice.
My dear, it's only you that can make the decision..also talk to your Rev/Pastor about it. I had a similar case with my first child; the doctors observed, according to them that my child was going to have down syndrome, they were going to use a pin to take the amniotic fluids what what from my body to confirm their theory, but it was risky; I may have a miscarriage if they do that. I told them to leave me, that I know the God I serve!. The only difference is that my husband stood by me and we kept praying together..day n night, crying out to God. Situations/challenges like this, God uses to draw people close to him. To shorten the story, that same child is 8yrs old and he's the very best amongst his peers, by the grace of God. My dear, search your heart and you'll get your decision.. Goodluck and God bless.
I still wonder y pple pretend to be holy... Wats wrong with saving ur future, saving an innocent child from pains? This is y we don't get better... Would u like to bring a child into this world to suffer, (forget d financial aspect nd ur husband leaving U) wat is d faith of that child? How do u watch his /her inability? (if something goes wrong) how would u feel? Well if u believe in miracle (not that I don't believe bt cases like dis wen u can prevent issues, I doubt) wish u d best...
Is better you save the child and yourself from pains, sickness, sorrow. Do you think is easy to have a medical condition? How would you feel seeing your child a moron (down syndrome)? God will give you another bouncing and happy child. Shalom.
Which power in healing? Ave been married for more dan 6yrs nd tins re nt working out,my husband has choose his alfa priest over I nd my children,he belives so much in dis man dat he controls everythin,tried movn out mayb he wil b bak to his senses but my dear is worst,he never lookd for his kids nor I,he said as far as his alfa is stil dere for him.so my dear pls walk out now befo is too late.Men re EVIL
What do u think is best objectively. Leave sentiment. Pray abt it & b sure wat God is saying. I believe God has given humanity d wisdom 2 know sths earlier so we can prevent it. E.g. if u r carrying an SS child wud u abort in d hope dat it wud change to AA. If u pray, & God says it wont change nko but dat He'll be with u thru d pain..
1st off, dont judge ur husband. Men tend 2 b more objective than sentimental & pessimistic. D latter is if they r not immersed in Christ. Pray 4 God's guidance. I believe strongly in prayers.
My father in heaven. Why re some ppl dum to d hell. God has already sent some1 to tell you dat dis baby will cause you pain and you still want to go ahead. I pity you stupid woman. You better do what is right and don't let dis baby suffer and cause you pain. Mtcheeew linda they re some post you re not suppose to post.
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It seems you are mentally,physically,emotionally and psychologically disturbed. No ur own is frm the village ask ur mother assuming she was told the same thing, would she have aborted u? Abortion is murder either ways!!!!..... And its pple like u that want to lead the future...PLEASE IN GOD'S NAME DO NOT ABORT THAT CHILD. Its a beautiful one. That man got divorced before even if u aborted that child, do u think itl make him stay forever?????? Sister u have a conscience..GET IT RIGHT
It seems you are mentally,physically,emotionally and psychologically disturbed. No ur own is frm the village ask ur mother assuming she was told the same thing, would she have aborted u? Abortion is murder either ways!!!!..... And its pple like u that want to lead the future...PLEASE IN GOD'S NAME DO NOT ABORT THAT CHILD. Its a beautiful one. That man got divorced before even if u aborted that child, do u think itl make him stay forever?????? Sister u have a conscience..GET IT RIGHT
Did you have to insult her? Someone is seeking your advice and the best tou can do is insult her. Do you know what she is going thru? Remember what goes around comes around. Pray you dont find yourself in need of advice and to get insulted instead. Thereis God ohhhh
Sum1 publicised her ordeal in d hope dat advice will be given to her.....dis human being decided to call her a stupid woman...smh 4u...u better sell dat ur pocket galaxy nd use d moni to enroll in adult sch cos u're obviously uneducated!....
Dude, u have an issue oh... I ope u dont find urself in a situation like this or even worse! Why not have some sort of sympathy, instead of helping out, u make it worse by even insulting d person... What goes around comes around dude... Think..
Well I am not an advocates of abortion, but the only time I can advice someone on abortion is if there is health risk involved, so I think it will be wise to listen to ur husband
Lol @ ur comment dear alloy! Waiting on dat worlthless stalker of anonyfool to remind u dat u work in a chemist shop. Dnt mind d fool! He/she's just a fan but can't cum out to admit.
Don't kill ur baby for watever reasons. The curse of blood guilt will be on ur head nd dats means destruction for u besides its a gift from God. Ve faith nd pray about it for ther is notin imposible for God to do. Again think of d consequencies, what if u die or loose ur womb? Half a loaf is better dan non. Dont be a murderer!
Sin is sin....murder or just a teeny tiny white lie (like the one u tell every now n then) Y'all fanatics cn misguide ppl. Cn y'all be real n objective for once! So God dat gave doctors medical knowledge nko, izit for fashion? Abortion whr there is a medical condition is understandable....dnt tk d woman on a guilt trip even b4 d act is done. She's nt doing it illegally so issue of losing womb shud nt arise. U jst sound ignorant, like most fanatics. U read ur scriptures upside down n feed ppl BS! Zealots like u
My dear poster speak positive things everyday, do not abort....d doctor has sd his/her own, God hasn't sd his own cos he is a God of signs n wonders a lot of things within seconds in pples life so y can't urs b like dat! I wnt to encourage u my darling pls dnt abort dat baby cos u wud hv a testimony to gve...Go ahead n rejoice cos God has done it. anytime d doctor says otherwise reject it and declare positive words....that baby strong,healthy,miracle, beautiful,peaceful, will become ur joy, remember to always rejoice so as to gve ur baby a joyful heart.....tk my words n believe in it. God bless u
God has already forbidden abortion..its murder..if u r a good Christian u should know this,...d child dat is considered useless can turn out to be a blessing...v faith and God will heal ur child and make u very happy,just keep praying and trusting in God...pls don't kill d innocent and helpless soul before it is being born...pls do d right thing...God bless
Yeah u will help her pay the medical bills right? Look God don't heal cancer or major heal ness, God gave doctors the brains n ideas to heal us on his behave. This baby will destroy your home. If u leave you husband, u might find a man who don't mind being with a plus 1 woman, but no man will be with a plus 1 with a sick child. Us year heard not your heart.
Just as a home is not a house but a feeling, in that same vein, what's the joy of raising such a child on your own, the financial and emotional comfort of a father such a child will lack and all. Yeah, you can say the baby might be healed in the future but what if he/she remains that way, would you be happy seeing him/her going through pains day in day out? The decision is yours to take though, sometimes we need to put aside emotions and reason things out logically.
My big cousin got pregnant and d doctors told her her unborn child wud ave a medical condition,she said no,she was going to have the boy,now the boy is 5years old,he has Neva said a word before,he has Neva walked before,he murmurs every time....I don't pity her,I pity d boy she had to bring to this world to face such challenges....y do u want Ur child to go thru problems ....in all pray about it
Sister, can u think of any impossibilty wit God. He even makes impossible possible. He gives life n takes it. He's d Alpha n Omega. He's d master scientist n phylosopher. Doctors takes care of d body, but God heal d soul. Sister read Isaiah 43: The lord ur creator said, Do not be afraid, I will save u. But try n be at peace wit God. Pls call Him Elohim, d beginning n d end. Praise Him Highly.
Its quite a precarious situation,owing to the fact I don't support the killing of the holy innocent. If u finally get to abort this baby am sure u'll live with the guilt for a very long time,and the greatest tormentor (conscience) will never let you know peace. In this situation since you're convinced that you are ready to bear this cross,do that which pleases your conscience,so you don't live a life of regret.
Well said Bonario, i and my lived in a country that is known to have best medical service in the world, before the delivery of our first child we were told by the clinic that he may not be that healthy that his blood group belongs to the weak one and our second born will be SS and we need to come back when she is pregnant again in order for them to prevent it. My wife gave birth herself without the CS they projected and my son is almost 3years now sound and healthy than all the kids in his daycare so therefore poster need to pray and leave the rest to God.
Shut up my friend, once she HV new health baby she will thank God forgiving her the courage to abort the unhealthy child. It was God who gave the doctor wisdom to inform u of the babies condition, so u HV this information about the child cos u HV been praying. This is how God works. God use a venue to help not buy miracle
Not as if am supporting abortion anyway but d same tin happened 2 my aunty,she ignored d doctor's advice now she is regreting it everyday cos d baby tied her at home
Judging frm the nigerian economy i dont think one cant have such things on his\her list of priorities but only if yu could ask the doctor what type of sickness the child will be suffering and knw wether is something yu can handle... Well i hope yu already made up ur mind b4 coming here, i just wish God will help yu to make a decision and one yu wouldnt regret in a hurry ok.... Be strong..... . . . ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
your doctor is human, your believe is what matter most here n aborting that child can cost you a lifetime sorrow.if your husband is a man with good heart he shouldn't advice you to terminate it.
A child is a blessing frm God not a curse. Doctors only say wat they see wit their ordinary eye... At d end of d day it depends on ur conscience, and wat ur heart is telling u,go with ur own heart. Believe in God n His miracles. God bless you.
My dear since d unborn child already has health issues,I'll advise u abort it.I agree its not going 2 b easy considering ur attachment 2 d baby but trust tins might get worse than u bargained 4 in future. God will definitely give u anoda healthy baby.all d best. Nwa ikeji make sure u post ma comment oo,dnt use it 4 dinner.
My dear,don't you believe in miracle? you said you do,pls let the foetus be.Chances are he may just end up a healthy baby.You may lose your husband,(afterall he's a divorcee with a 6yr old child) and another may come but how sure are you that when u lose this child,you'll beget another? However,I've seen the anguish and pains an unhealthy child can bring to a family.Believe its not something you'll like to experience coz its very traumatic.Sometimes you'll wish the child dies coz only in death will he find peace.And the expenses is just beyond mention. My advice here is: Terminate the child if you know you don't have financial backing and the heart to withstand the pains of seeing your child undergo cruel heath challenges.Its not easy,but its the best thing to do in the long run.Choose wisely!
Nawaa 4u poster! U wan bring a child in2 dis world 2cum n suffer? Abeg no b money matter, check ur brain! Imagine d trauma n pains d child will hav 2go through
If u have a job to take care of your baby tell your husband you re keeping the pregnancy but if no, you gat to do what your husband want if you want peace of mind in your marrige.
U have to be really strong and know that with God everything is possible. Who knows wat will happen to U in the process of abortion....LIFE IS SACRED!!!
Ehmm!!! its quiet a heap of thought. Bt i beg that i do nt be misunderstnd in my suggestions.Firstly,u dd nt indicate the age of yur pregnancy though ur solicitation hasn't anything 2 do w it;Av gotten an xperience of TCS baby(treacher collins syndrome)or JPS (jean-pierre syndrome)..I wld suggest yu diagonise these two infirmities.Ask their causes,u realise medical research had no clue. Ask for medical suggestion==They advise for abortion in early detection..Its all online.Take time & go through all.Av nt suggested anything bt what yu will online search. And i hereby suggest yu thnk deep & weigh so much options & take yur decision.GOOD LUCK
It is wonderful to have a child but when you know the consequences of having this child, it is better you kindly abort the baby as the baby may eventually give in to the diagnosed illness. God will give you another one.
Bia Mrs dear Libers, we have treated a similar case like this before, pls nigeria is in a state of chaos, dnt disturb us,just find d post and take d advice from there and u linda take ur time
I would advice you not to mind the doctors, I read a similar story on daily mail yesterday and with a happy ending. You can read it there too then you know doctors are not God. Just read the article on daily mail.com, better still Linda try posting that story it is so encouraging.
Dear poster so sorry to hear about ur predicament, i honestly do not know what to tell u or how to go about advising you..However i would say that this is d wrongest place to bring this kind of sensitive issue to.. LIB readers will end up judging and abusing and deviate from d issue at hand..If u want matured advice send a mail to Bella naija the readers are more sensitive and matured, for here na gossip and amebo full..and yes I come here too for d gossip too...but I rarely ever comment.
U are sick in d head,did u see anybody insultin her? U are just pained dat LIB is better dan Bella naija,why come here if u think bella naija readers are more matured dan us, owk u came here 4 gossip n amebo? Bella naija does d same ,so stick 2 bella naija n leave us in peace here...we ♡ d wey we interact here..n it's fun.....Libers are d best deal with dat....
Believe God! He is d one dat does great n unseacrhable mavelous things wit out number, by His wounds ur baby is healed even in d womb. Is there any thing too hard 4 Him? He took our infirmities n bare our sickness, it's His word it can never be broken....dnt abort ur baby, ur husband will com bck begging by d time u will deliver dat baby healthy. Whose report do u believe? Look 4 bible believing church attend n always make sure u take d Holy communion, make some prolific declarations ova ur baby then u will see God in action. Call upon Him in d days of trouble He will answer.......d Lord is ur strength madam! Amen
My dear, I don't know how to say this, but it depends on the kind of medical conditions and how far gone you are with d pregnancy... if it's really bad, like a terminal illness that will still take the child's life, pls terminate the pregnancy, God will give you other babies. what's the point in bringing a child to this world to suffer? It's not easy but be wise dear. God will see you through... I'm married and I know what it means to raise kids, it's not easy. Talk less of a kid with a condition... just pray and ask God for guidance... it is well with you
let me be honest..we all know children are a gift but if i were to give an advice.. go ahead with the abortion because that's the best case scenario.. not because of anything but because the child will still feel uncomfortable due to d sickness..just saying..
You are confused! Something must be wrong with you. Instead of you to thank God for medical intervention like this... Don't bring a child to this world to suffer
Dnt try 2 abort d baby coz heaven wil b angry @u. God cn change any condition nd doctor or husband is no God.do u kw if tz dat child dat wil lift d family 2 greater level wen he growz up?fink bfr u act woman.
This is a tough decision bt it has to be made. If it were me, I honestly don't know What I would do bt my suggestion to you is to remove it, not just to save ur marriage bt to save that child The pain of being difigured, and possibly rejected by the father and the public
So instead of spending money buying him clothes and shopping u want to be going from one doctor to another and den become a lifetime carer 2ur child and become wornout,while ur hubby cheats on u with different women and ofcos would always av his first healthy son with him making him proud abi?#goodluckwithurselfishness....spend d money o on hospital bill,doctors appointment,adult diapers etc...God made doctors for a reason#shikena
Go for further tests in other places and if they give the same result,abort the baby.you'll have others IJN. Take heart! + your husband should be more supportive and not defensive
If u abort which for me is not a good thing , make sure he ends up marrying you because it's your 1st pregnancy and d man that impregnated you should be ur husband or you encounter problems in life , that's because pregnancy is spiritual , am a pastor and don't allow people to deceive you especially those that aborted , left d person that impregnated them for someone else and are feeling guilty only for them say nonsense to you . If he lives you after aborting for him , then a curse will follow him but if you live him you will have yourself to blame in the future when bad luck starts to play a major role in your life . God has his reasons why you got pregnant , don't make a mistake, most people don't know this because the devil is on earth to deceive
Do not abort this child,God wont give you somthing that he knows you cant deal with,you cant just kill this child,many are looking for and they dont have and now you have one just because of a sickness your so called insensitive husband wants you to go for an abortion and he has a child of his own,he is just selfish.... Go give birth to this child
Sally p said I really can't say I understand how you feel...but what I can tell u is who's report would u blf? That of d doctor or the report of God abt your baby? Even thou ur faith be as little as a muster seed,that's all it takes.
My dear, that is how women think, but surely, more babies will come as d Lord liveth. What if u eventually have a still birth and loose ur home at the same time. Think well. i'm sure ur hubby loves you. It is well.
Please, dnt be ignorant, let the baby go....have u walked by a ward with ppl struggling for their lives, I see that everyday n trust me hun, dats not the life you want for ur baby. It WILL be heartbreaking wen ur baby cries to u for help n u cnt help him/her. Ur young, u still hav sufficient eggs waiting to b fertilized. BE SMART!!
My dear, what urgent advice do you need? Do u want to bring a child into the world to suffer? Think of what that child will pass through, its not about the expenses alone
Dis is hard o. Buh if giving birth to d child will make his own life hard den no need. If hez going to be a laughing stock all tru his life then no need... Dnt bring him to suffer.Buh if u realy think u are financialy stable enof to manage him, ur free.Wud hav like to know d type of illment self. Buh jst try n talk wit Ur hobby o
Honey, Do you think doctors r stupid?! Mschew, over 8yrs experience b4 we meet ppl, trying 2 help d world n ppl like u still wnt 2 open deir eyes n bring pain into d world. Ppl r dying of Cancer....serious problems! N ur confused abt having a very necessary abortion. How do u think the lady dat has to have her ovaries removed Cuz of cancer feels abt her situation, or the woman dat has to have BOTH breasts removed 2 save her life. So my dear, wipe ur tears n do wat needs to be done. You'll b alrite. Your man will support u. Ur ovaries n his sperm r still active I suppose.
I'm glad you realize that this baby is a human being with as much right to live as anyone else. God has entrusted his or her life into your hands. His knows why he gave him/her to you, medical condition and all. If you abort this baby, you'll pobably spend the rest of your life in perpetual guilt. Keep your baby. You and your husband can always sort yourselves out. Besides, who's tell that his son won't become diagnosed with cancer or multiple sclerosis someday (God forbid), but will he order that he be killed. I think you should ask him this. Good luck.
So all the sperm dat people waste giving heads r also children na, they shud hav equal rites to live....sigh, my dear, take the baby out n save it a lot of pain.
To save yourself so much agony in the future, pls go for the abortion. Though painful, it is a bitter but better option for u. Why bring a child to the world to make him/her suffer. What if the medical condition proves incurable? D good Lord will provide another baby for u IJN. A stich in time..................
God sees abortion as Murder. Refrain from even contemplating and please God, your husband comes 2nd after GOD. Tim Tebow is an example of a child that was told to be aborted. God bless you
I believe in prayers, but it would be more cruel if you bring that child to suffer in this cruel world. My advice: if you have the financial means and ur willing to let ur marriage go, keep the baby. If you cannot take care of the child and would rely on financial help which could put ur husband in a burden, let it go. But then again, it depends on the type of ailment ur unborn child has.
MY DEAR U ARE IN A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION BUT BEFORE I GIVE U MY HONEST OPINION I WOULD LIKE U TO ASK UR SELF SOME QUESTIONS.. 1) HOW STRONG IS UR FAITH IN GOD.. COS I BELIEVE THAT WITH GOD ALL TINS ARE POSSIBLE 2) WHAT WAS YOUR DOCTORS ADVICE WHEN HE TOLD U OF UR UNBORN CHILDS SITUATION. 3) ARE U BEING OBJECTIVE IN THIS SITUATION OR EMOTIONAL 4)WOULD U RATHER GO THROUGH FEW MONTHS OF GRIEF BY ABORTING THIS BABY , OR U WUD RATHER GO THRU YEARS OF GRIEF,BURDEN N SADNESS. 5)WOULD U BE ABLE TO COPE ALONE WITH A SICK CHILD AS A SINGLE MOM. 6) WUD U BE ABLE TO AFFORD THE COST OF HEALTH MAINTENANCE FOR THIS BABY ALONE. 7) HOW HAPPY WOULD THIS CHILD BE GROWING UP AND KNOWING THAT HE IS DIFFERENT FROM HIS MATES.. OR HE CANNOT DO WHAT HIS MATES R DOING
WHAT WILL I DO IF I WAS IN UR SHOES....OUT OF EMOTIONS AND JOY OF BECOMING A FIRST TYM MOM I WUD WANT TO KEEP THE BABY,BUT HAVING ANSWERED THE QUESTIONS ABOVE I SEE IT WUD BE THE MOST UNWISE TIN I WUD DO TO WANT TO KEEP THIS BABY..
THE GOD THAT GAVE THIS ONE TO U WILL GIVE U ANODA, THAT IS FREE FROM SICKNESS AND DISEASE..
MY DEAR SISTER REASON WITH UR HEAD AND NOT UR HEART.. I WOULD BE PRAYING FOR U..
Madama, dis is ur first child, would u rada start ur marriage wif pity? My sister, more children will still come, do away wif It now dat it is not a living.
If you are overseas (USA or UK), you can have the baby and seek government support and money. If you are in Naija or another African country, have an abortion.
Being a parent is HARD WORK. You don't want to be a single parent with a child with poor health. That would be twice the work.
You may think you can bear the burden of taking care of your child's needs, but given you have never been a parent, it can be very very tough. If you ask first time mothers who are single parents, they will tell you the road is tough, hard, demanding, and can be very lonely.
Look my friend, there are very little examples of God healing anyone with a congenital disease in the history of the world. Listen to your husband. The situation is not much different from a spontaneous miscarriage. You are about to saddle yourself with a long life of pain. It was God that created the technology used to detect the abnormality. Be wise!
Hmm..I just need to comment even though my opinion does not count ...how old is this first time woman and what disability does the unborn baby have? Is it fair to bring an innocent child to d world that will suffer? Sometimes whether you have money or not will not be enough... Abort the child now...save yourself from a life of worry..save your child from a life a suffering...save your marriage from bitterness even before you start.. Yes it is sad to loose an unborn baby but I tell you it is worse to see a child suffer and then eventually loses the child... Goodluck
@ Anonymous 12:13AM. I gather you are a male doctor, because your level of insensitivity is unbelievable. The two scenarios you gave are irrelevant when in this case the individual in question is making a decision on another life and not herself. Please be more empathic in your dealings with individuals, always try to put them in your shoes (or that of your father, mother, sister, brother, cousins etc). To the lady in question, if I were in your shoes I know I would not abort my baby because I just cannot take another human being's life let alone my own child, but it is your decision to make. I think you should follow your heart.
Una weldone o all the don't abort caucus! Have you guys ever witnessed the long term pain and suffering raising a deformed child can bring on? Have you considered the enormity of the challenge a couple will face if they have to provide life long care and support for a challenged child? It literarily stops your life in a manner of speaking. @ poster: please don't think about yourself alone. That's totally selfish. Think about your man also. And consider what the fate of that child will be when he's growing up amongst his/her peers.
I was in the same situation 5yrs ago!! Didn't listen 2 the docs or my husband as a result I suffered alone with the child didn't sleep we'll for five yrs husband no longer with me .i can't forget the torture and pain I went thru be wise.
@anonymous 11.17pm , what d hell do you mean by that comment ur a bloody bastard !!!! May The Lord visit upon ur own child ur rough life . Pathetic creature .
dont be selfish, its not about yourself nor ur marriage(husband) u have to do which is logical here. bringing a terminal ill child to this world is no crime or sin but if the child would have the chance for his own decision i bet he/she wont want to live in such condition. although there r stories of miracles but God gave us the chance to make decisions and todo what is called "survival of the fittest"
dont be selfish, its not about yourself nor ur marriage(husband) u have to do which is logical here. bringing a terminal ill child to this world is no crime or sin but if the child would have the chance for his own decision i bet he/she wont want to live in such condition. although there r stories of miracles but God gave us the chance to make decisions and todo what is called "survival of the fittest"
You have to fully understand the gravity of the situation here. Mental disorder is not physical disability. Your baby practically will not be human. And can you bear that? Unless you have wholesome faith to change the situation. Can you leave with the burden? Please be wise and don't be selfish.
@sir Alpachino, its really hard to bliv trolls like u still exist! U are a pathetic cyber-goat Ode. She only seek advice not for you to practice your "moronly " and sense-defied grammar on her...Oloshi sumbody.
To you babes, we all believe in miracle, seek advice of professionals please, some ppl wont understand your state of dilemma. God be with you
My candid advice is for u to go on ur kneels pray to God 4 forgiveness and abort it and stop bein sentimental,My reasons 1) hw would u feel if u give birth to the baby and u see ur baby probably growin up in pains and cursing u for givin birth to him or her av seen cases like dat,dat is if the medical condition is sickle cell or any other medical condition 2) I knw if d doctor says u might die if u give birth to the baby and d option they give u is to abort d baby I knw u ll sharply abort d baby,so pls pity d unborn child and don't bring it forth to d world to probably suffer 3)doctors are d angels God sent to d world to help us health wise so if d doctor av seen dat the baby might cause u pain seein him or her go thru pains everyday , its better u abort the baby,God made it possible 4 u in d first place to get pregnant of dis one,he ll make it possible to b pregnant of anoda baby that ll be healthy,so do the needful and stop being too sentimental
Haaaaa, ma sister I beg u in d name of God almighty,,all dis ppl acting holy ll not be there when d trouble starts,,,am a medical doctor,,,dey claim holy bt we ave their details,,,ask any of dem if they were in ur shoes what wld dey ave done(though easier said dan done),,pls dis is not a sin,,and if its a sin, God is merciful enough 2 4give u,,prenatal diagnosis can save a family 4rm a lifetime agony n trouble,if u re in doubt, u can ask anywoman wt sickle cell kid(s)
I wish God would speak to us directly on what we should do,but our conscience a help mate! The society,finances and pain to go through..Talk to God about it,life so unfair
In my candid opinion (notice how I sed "my opinion"...b4 una chop me raw), if u really love dis child as u claim,u will remove d baby...consider all d pain d baby will go through,both mentally,physically nd emotionally....u might be there by his/her side,but trust me being there can never mean d same thing as being d victim....help dis child now!...God will give you somany other healthy ones....
My dear d Lord is ur strenght,he will heal ur baby and make ur marriage a happy one. I went thru d same ordeal in 2010 but thank God I'm victorious now.Prayer is d key, I was told at my 12wks routine check that my baby at markers for down syndrome,it was a turbulent time for me, I carried d pregnancy with fear faith and strong belief in God.I did all d research in dis world, I prayed so hard and I thank God for his mercies.when my son was handed over to me, the dr said mam, u have a very healthy baby weighing almost 9lbs.a mother's instinct is always right, if u r convinced within u that God has taken control pls leave d pregnancy.and do so many research for ur peace of mind and knowledge
I think you should listen to ur husband my dear.. There is no need 2 bring a child to this world to suffer.. Ur a young woman God will give u another child.. Be wise
Pls Ma Sis,go 2 GOD with an open mind.Make sure U ask HIM 4 His Mind(Perfect)Will concerning U NOT even d unborn Baby Ok?Ask Him 2 Guide U tru dis season of Ur confussion!Finally,Ur Confessions during Ur Confussion Concludes/Decides Ur d Out come of Ur Condition!My Prayer and d Prayers of the Saints are with U Ok!GOD Bless U real Good!
I am a mum and i have a friend with a baby that has mental issues. Its is a difficult thing. U dont know the extent of the damage. Its not just about spending money, its emotionally, physically, psychologically daunting. the child will even hate him/herself. Worst if its a girl, there ll be self esteem issues
i think you are lucky to even be able to know this right now. I will not bring a child into this world that will face such segregation and pain. You are not doing this for your husband but for your child.
Let that baby go. others will come. Believe me, you may think you can handle it but cant. in the long run, you may loose more than just a husband. No man will come into your life while you have a mentally unstable child. your friends will run away and you'll invest all your time and energy on that baby
You are now lamenting because you are now married.What led you to marry a married man as a young lady? Your hands are not clean.You must face the challenges of taking someone else's husband.Search yourself,have you not committed abortion before? You have tampered with your womb.However,I suggest you don't abort this,God can perform a miracle,depending on your new relationship with God.
Abortion is murder.wat if u abort n remain unfruitful?God decides d fertilization,He's d giver of life.wts d guarantee dt u wil take in agn?r u a christian?nt a carnal one behave lyk unbeliever.if u r den,trust u wil d authority in christ to move any mountain even if dat faith is as tiny as a mustard seed.speak Gods word(His words r spirit n life)to dat unborn,he wil respond.even inanimate tins respond to His word.if ur faith is nt strong enuf to deal wit dis,c a true man of God.I suggest pastor Mike Onyali of Dominion city portharcourt. Tink abt dis.wt hapens wen u abort dis preg n neva take in,wt happens to d marriage?wil he be wit u til death do u part?Dnt take away dt gift of God jst to save ur marriage.pray
There is nothing difficult for God to do, do not stain your hand with the blood of your unborn child. The bible is against murder, be it born or unborn. take the matter to God in prayers, HE can change your husband's mind and at the same time heal your baby. what if it's a wrong diagnoses. God can do ANYTHING!
What is always wrong with our women nowadays! A man divorced his former wife, whom she had a boy for just bcos of u and u think u will be happy in dat relationship. Am sorry. U beta seek God face to know what's is wrong
People here are too religious! If you keep the baby and the condition ties u down at home with the baby, remember to bring him/her to LIB reader for them to NURSE. Goodluck!
If you are a Christian, in GENESIS 25 vs23 The Lord said to Rebekah "Two nations are in thy womb" and she conceived twins.. As for you, a nation is in thy womb.. Why do you want to destroy a whole nation!!! Jabez was a child of sorrow, but his destiny was made straight, his coast enlarged and was even more honorable than his brethren.. DO NOT ABORT IT..
What if you abort this one and the next one comes out the same, will you keep on aborting? I would advice you keep the pregnancy as we will join you in prayers that God almighty heals your baby and sustain your marriage because there is nothing He can not do. God will see your through.....
I don't think abortion is the best option cos its a sin. what if u lose ur life or womb in the process? believe me u will never feel complete if u abort ur pregnancy and the marriage u are trying to save will eventually pack up because u will never be able to forgive ur husband. PLEASE KEEP THE BABY. God help u dear
Be wise! use your HEAD not your HEART! That child will curse you if you bring it into this world to suffer. Normal children have enough pressure already.......
What is the health condition we talking about? And whose report is that? Earthly doctors right? My sister , friends and fellow readers , scan , test, medical diagnoses are not 100% sure! Try other doctors, pray and also consult doctors of all doctors Jesus for His solution.. He 'll answer. Do everything possible in prayers. This is to avoid killing innocent healthy child. May the peace of God be with you..
well i dont know if am d last comment but reason to d word of God the doctors are not God they only say what they read i mean papers go in spirits tell your God you want to show the doctors they are not God and you want your child to be healthy before you know it the report will be changed and you will be another case study for good
The Bible says we don't have a high priest who is not touched by the feelings of our infirmity. He knows how we feel and he will not tempt us more dan we can handle. Its time for u to pray sweetheart, place ur cards on d table and ask God to take charge. If d child is indeed going to cause pain God can make u have a miscarriage naturally. Av seen it happen a lot of times. But never be d one to initiate an abortion, u don't have a right to. If God makes u have d child, its because u can take care of him and he'll be okay. So trust in God and go to him in prayers. It is well.
maybe am wrong but let me ask do u want to have a child that will blame u for his or her health issues?? i watched child wiv the SS thing once on TV her parents were interviewed and they said they knew she was gonna b SS and the Doctor ad told them to take it out but they insisted o having the child and now that she is bore she spends more days in the Hospital dan she does at home and wen the girl was asked how she feels about it she blamed her parents for bringin her to this world to suffer cuz the pain was to much for her. God will giv you more children am not sayin God can heal your baby but some things are avoidable.
now is the time to start praying. Call upon God day and night. Remind him of his promises. Make a vow and fulfil it when He does it for u. Just pray and pray and pray.
its not an easy decision to make as a christian, you have to ask for the face of God. Bcos bringing a child dat u dont know wat kind of health suituation is a very big Risk to u and the Child.
don't abort d babe, don't listing to what people are saying they are not God, abortion is murder, first, do you even pray to know what the marriage will be before going into it? if no, that is the mistake you have done. secondly, that is doctor's diagnosis, why don't you pray and see what God will do i.e if u believe he is the maker of your unborn child. our spare parts are with him...pls dnt abort ooo.
First of all, the man you're scared of losing if you keep the baby is not your husband cos he's married before and sorry to say you're wasting your time and life also, you're committing sin with him. 2nd of all abortion is not an option no matter what cos God forbids it so keep your baby and if the man wants to go let him. I know its not easy but try pray and have faith
I hate it wen Men threaten dere wives with a divorce. Cant u logically talk ur wife into seeing it 4rm ur point of view & making her understand without necessarily threatening her.
AND WHO IS DAT ANONYMOUS FOOL SAYING SHE HAS LIVED A ROUGH LIFE & DATZ D REASON 4 HER CONDITION.(CAN PEOPLE BE DIS FOOLISH & INSENSITIVE 2 OTHERS PLIGHT?
My dear, first off, I wld advice u visit another hospital & run d same test. Cuz somtimes (with apologies 2 doctors) dey really do see somfin else wen its actually another ailment.*FACT* Dough I do not advocate 4 an abortion, But plz if ur kid is really at risk of not being a normal child, kindly do dat kid a favour. *Trust me u just might regret it. 2ndly if ur faith can carry on. My dear carry on.
You did not create that child in the first place, God has placed that child in your womb and he alone knows why he has that condition. If you love God and your child more than your husband then go ahead and keep the baby because you don`t know if that is the child that will bring you to the world and make you achieve all you have ever dreamt of. Also it might be for the power of GOD to be manifested that the child is coming to earth. So think wisely, if you kill the child you will still face the torture physically and emotionally for the rest of your life and if you keep him it might be tough at first but GOD will take control. Which ever way, do no man has the right to take the life of another, even worse an unborn baby. Lastly, our doctors and their diagnosis can not be trusted.
Its amazing how so called christians talk lyk unbelievers,like ders no God or he's helpless.I undastd ur prob madam buh trust me ders no situation dat can't be changed.Agreed,dats d Doctors report,wts God's report?whr do u stand?lemme tel u a story.a lady was preg and d baby was witout diaphragm so der was no possibility 4him to survive afta birth.witout diaphragm,a child cnt breathe n suck breast.those in d medical field undastd beta. So dey prayd n blivd God4a miracle.d day she delivered,d baby was brought to ha n as d doctor was remindin dem abt d child's conditn,d baby grabbed d mums breast n startd suckin.d doctors were shocked so dey carid d baby 4 an xray checkup n behold,d diaphragm was der.dey didn't undastd it. Madam,let ur faith come alive @dis point in tym.speak to dt child n stand ur ground.like I said earlier,if ur faith is nt strong enuf to handle dis,c a true man of God.Abortion isn't d way out,wt if u abort n take in n anoda issue comes up,wil u abort it 2?4 hw long?exercise ur dominion in christ wit jst a mustard seed faith n dis mountain wil shift
This is not just about you and your feelings, or about the money. This is also about the unborn child. There is already enough suffering in this world to bring a disabled child into it. The child will never live a full life and will be sick all through. I think abortion is right; but don't do it because your 'fiance' said it. In fact I advice you to leave him because this shows that in future, if a situation seems a little difficult for him, he will leave you. He is not a supportive man and it is a bad idea to marry such a person.
Our generation with their little faith sha. how dare you take a life. God raised d dead, so wat is dat ill health. moreover God has d power to stop dat child from coming into this world if He so chooses, else d healing will be to d glory of Gods name. Trust in Gods wisdom.
God says fear not,for I am wit u,He also says dere is nothin impossible for me to do,just trust in him,speak positively to d baby u r carrying,ask for His healing power,pray without ceasin,d bible says even wiv faith as lil as a mustard seed even mountains will move,but above all let Gods will be done.if ur man isn't willing to stand by u tru dis den let him walk away.if he can create a single hair or teeth of a child den he can stand his ground!God forbid sometin terrible happens to his 6yr old son nd he becomes a liabilty wud he snuff d life outta him cos of dat?
a lady in my church shared her testimony o. Her daughter is about 2 years old now and perfect by God's grace. while she was pregs, the doctor told her all sorts of things. the doctor said the daughter had some kinda helth problem..one of those ones that to pronounce the name of the health challenge is even a problem. u noe, all dese scientific names. the baby is almost two now as i mntiond earlier and the child has no symptom of the health problem. the woman researched about the health issue online and she saw all the symptoms, her baby has none of the symptoms. pls dont conform to the standards of this world. the standards of God will never change. it is really tough to have a child with issues but only trust God wholeheartedly. have the kind of faith that cannot be shaken. That baby is blessed and the blood of Jesus will blood out every hand writing of the enemy in the child's life in the name of Jesus i pray. All is well.
I've read this story before and that was months ago. But I think then, it was the guy who narrated the story. However, am sorry to say this bit why being a child into this already sinful, hard world to suffer? Cos with what you've said, the child might be ill every other day. And to make matter worse, you'd be spending a lot of money. Are you financially buoyant to cope with the expenses? God forbid o, what if the child now eventually dies after spending so much? God will bless you with Another. Weigh your options well. God be with you. Nobody should cuss me out here, else whatever negative thing you say will be your portion n not mine. I just aired my own opinion. So don't dare!!!!!
It's sad seeing everyone so wordly and so heartless. Why abort a child that GOD has blessed you with. That Child is for GOD not for you. He just put you there as A guardian. GOD has healed someone's blood type before my eyes. That's your first child. A gift from GOD. Why reject the blessing. He said in the bible. Don't murder. If you're a true christian. You know you'll have to carry your cross. Maybe that's your cross. How deep is your love for yourself. How deep is the love your husband has for you. If GOD has given you that child. He will surely provide. Why be faithless ?? If you read Luke. You'll see that most people were saved from situations because of their faith. Practice simple faith. Love unconditionally. Help will surely come. Please don't take that child away. Love him/her despite it. I pray we all please GOD in the things we do. The world is getting so dark but our light most shine.
Most Pple are saying she should take the baby out just because of a sickness,so all other children born into the world wth other sickness,they should go kill themselves shey,pple dont just understand that this is a child not a toy and it is wrong to abort and by the way there is no human that does not come with a Package
See them hypocrites. Did u guys not abuse the mother of the 2faced baby for not aborting? Now u r telling this onreto keep the baby. Will u be there to take care of the baby with her? My dear do ur mind. Just be sure cos na only u go suffer/ endure the consequences. Anyone u choose goodluck!!!
This will be my first time commenting on this blog, i am doing cos of the sensitive nature of this question. I am an Emergency Nurse, from a medical standpoint, i will advice you to have a medical evacuation,because i v seen mothers given birth to babies they wish they have terminated. consequences of keeping the pregnancy and having the baby will be quite enormous,not just financial(which is the least),but the emotional ,physical and psychological torture on both yourself and the baby will be much. my candid advice is to have a medical evacuation ,and in no time you will take in again. Thanks.
I believe our God is still in d business of doing miracles. Abortion is a Sin no mata why it is done#my opinion tho# So my advice,since ur husband is threatening to leave,ask him 2 wait til d baby is born and if anytin is wrong wit d baby he can leave. Meanwhile ,go 2 God in prayer,ask God 4 4givness of wateva sin u hv commited, ask him 2 do his will. If d baby wil come into d world 2 suffer he sud take d baby himself,but if not he sud turn tins around. Tel him d doctor has spoken but u await his decision dat ur marriage depends on it. I believe if u say dis prayer sincerely he wil definitely hear and do his will.
please whatever you are doing.... dont suffer the unborn child because not only will you spend money, the baby will pass through pains... But if ur faith is strong, then go ahead and pray so that ur next checkup will show positive signs
TRUST ME. THAT CHILD WILL BE A NORMAL CHILD IF ONLY YOU BELIEVE YOU BELIEVE. Every GOOD and perfect gift cometh from Above. Take no drugs to harm d child. FUCK those doctors report, they can go wack shit if they like. ONLY BELIEVE GOD
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ReplyDeletePls dear if dat child ur carrying is an anonymous! Pls abort!
DeletePls dear if dat child ur carrying is an anonymous! Pls abort!
DeleteFirstly, what are you doing with a divorced man? People like that tend to take rashy decissions without a second thought. To your question, there ιƨ nothing Ɠ♡D cannot do. ßut the question there ιƨ are you ready to give up on your marriage to work out your faith? Lemme sound canal a bit, its a risky deal. Its your choice.
DeleteHoney, please remove d baby. Heaven is a better place than earth. If you bring him to earth, not only u and ur hubby will suffer but d child will.
DeleteMy dear, it's only you that can make the decision..also talk to your Rev/Pastor about it.
DeleteI had a similar case with my first child; the doctors observed, according to them that my child was going to have down syndrome, they were going to use a pin to take the amniotic fluids what what from my body to confirm their theory, but it was risky; I may have a miscarriage if they do that. I told them to leave me, that I know the God I serve!.
The only difference is that my husband stood by me and we kept praying together..day n night, crying out to God.
Situations/challenges like this, God uses to draw people close to him.
To shorten the story, that same child is 8yrs old and he's the very best amongst his peers, by the grace of God.
My dear, search your heart and you'll get your decision.. Goodluck and God bless.
I still wonder y pple pretend to be holy... Wats wrong with saving ur future, saving an innocent child from pains? This is y we don't get better... Would u like to bring a child into this world to suffer, (forget d financial aspect nd ur husband leaving U) wat is d faith of that child? How do u watch his /her inability? (if something goes wrong) how would u feel? Well if u believe in miracle (not that I don't believe bt cases like dis wen u can prevent issues, I doubt) wish u d best...
DeleteI see u av a strong faith in God buh since u married a divorced man who has a 6yrs old child with a former wife. U shud av prepared for battle now.
DeleteIs better you save the child and yourself from pains, sickness, sorrow. Do you think is easy to have a medical condition? How would you feel seeing your child a moron (down syndrome)?
DeleteGod will give you another bouncing and happy child.
Shalom.
there is healing power
ReplyDeleteWhich power in healing? Ave been married for more dan 6yrs nd tins re nt working out,my husband has choose his alfa priest over I nd my children,he belives so much in dis man dat he controls everythin,tried movn out mayb he wil b bak to his senses but my dear is worst,he never lookd for his kids nor I,he said as far as his alfa is stil dere for him.so my dear pls walk out now befo is too late.Men re EVIL
Deletewat do u want to do?
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ReplyDeleteDear LIB Reader u need to see another crazy nude of. Maheeda....hit my name to see
What do u think is best objectively. Leave sentiment.
ReplyDeletePray abt it & b sure wat God is saying.
I believe God has given humanity d wisdom 2 know sths earlier so we can prevent it.
E.g. if u r carrying an SS child wud u abort in d hope dat it wud change to AA.
If u pray, & God says it wont change nko but dat He'll be with u thru d pain..
It's a tough call
I totally agree with u
Deletee go beta as it goes...nature will turn around
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Deep down you know what to do.be wise.
ReplyDelete1st off, dont judge ur husband. Men tend 2 b more objective than sentimental & pessimistic. D latter is if they r not immersed in Christ.
ReplyDeletePray 4 God's guidance. I believe strongly in prayers.
This is a tough... but even this shall pass.
My father in heaven. Why re some ppl dum to d hell. God has already sent some1 to tell you dat dis baby will cause you pain and you still want to go ahead. I pity you stupid woman. You better do what is right and don't let dis baby suffer and cause you pain. Mtcheeew linda they re some post you re not suppose to post.
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It seems you are mentally,physically,emotionally and psychologically disturbed. No ur own is frm the village ask ur mother assuming she was told the same thing, would she have aborted u? Abortion is murder either ways!!!!..... And its pple like u that want to lead the future...PLEASE IN GOD'S NAME DO NOT ABORT THAT CHILD. Its a beautiful one. That man got divorced before even if u aborted that child, do u think itl make him stay forever?????? Sister u have a conscience..GET IT RIGHT
DeleteIt seems you are mentally,physically,emotionally and psychologically disturbed. No ur own is frm the village ask ur mother assuming she was told the same thing, would she have aborted u? Abortion is murder either ways!!!!..... And its pple like u that want to lead the future...PLEASE IN GOD'S NAME DO NOT ABORT THAT CHILD. Its a beautiful one. That man got divorced before even if u aborted that child, do u think itl make him stay forever?????? Sister u have a conscience..GET IT RIGHT
DeleteDid you have to insult her? Someone is seeking your advice and the best tou can do is insult her. Do you know what she is going thru? Remember what goes around comes around. Pray you dont find yourself in need of advice and to get insulted instead. Thereis God ohhhh
Deletemost u call names to air your view? And mind u, the Dr is not GOD
DeleteSum1 publicised her ordeal in d hope dat advice will be given to her.....dis human being decided to call her a stupid woman...smh 4u...u better sell dat ur pocket galaxy nd use d moni to enroll in adult sch cos u're obviously uneducated!....
DeleteOl boy, no worry. Samsung no go give yoy phone.
DeleteDude, u have an issue oh... I ope u dont find urself in a situation like this or even worse! Why not have some sort of sympathy, instead of helping out, u make it worse by even insulting d person... What goes around comes around dude... Think..
DeleteLovely comment sire...bt I take God beg u, comot dat signing out line abeg, cos u go 2 old o b4 samsung give u anything. Kpele enh?
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Sir Alpachino u are just very fooliish. Do u know how inconsistent some Dr's can be?
DeleteYou are an insensitive jerk! She is in pain, if u can't give her your opinion without insulting her, the shut up!
DeleteOMG I wonder why you talk like a retard. In fact you are a retard! Fool!!!
DeleteDid u have to call her stupid to air ur view? Please try and learn how to comment on issues without being rude.
DeleteAm not sure you are sane... probably sent this from a psychiatrist hospital... get well soon Sir Alpachino
DeleteWell I am not an advocates of abortion, but the only time I can advice someone on abortion is if there is health risk involved, so I think it will be wise to listen to ur husband
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Lol @ ur comment dear alloy! Waiting on dat worlthless stalker of anonyfool to remind u dat u work in a chemist shop. Dnt mind d fool! He/she's just a fan but can't cum out to admit.
DeleteDon't kill ur baby for watever reasons. The curse of blood guilt will be on ur head nd dats means destruction for u besides its a gift from God. Ve faith nd pray about it for ther is notin imposible for God to do. Again think of d consequencies, what if u die or loose ur womb? Half a loaf is better dan non. Dont be a murderer!
ReplyDeleteSin is sin....murder or just a teeny tiny white lie (like the one u tell every now n then) Y'all fanatics cn misguide ppl. Cn y'all be real n objective for once! So God dat gave doctors medical knowledge nko, izit for fashion? Abortion whr there is a medical condition is understandable....dnt tk d woman on a guilt trip even b4 d act is done. She's nt doing it illegally so issue of losing womb shud nt arise. U jst sound ignorant, like most fanatics. U read ur scriptures upside down n feed ppl BS! Zealots like u
DeleteMy dear poster speak positive things everyday, do not abort....d doctor has sd his/her own, God hasn't sd his own cos he is a God of signs n wonders a lot of things within seconds in pples life so y can't urs b like dat! I wnt to encourage u my darling pls dnt abort dat baby cos u wud hv a testimony to gve...Go ahead n rejoice cos God has done it. anytime d doctor says otherwise reject it and declare positive words....that baby strong,healthy,miracle, beautiful,peaceful, will become ur joy, remember to always rejoice so as to gve ur baby a joyful heart.....tk my words n believe in it. God bless u
DeleteAbortion straight away nothing bad will happen to her. The point is d baby feels no pain in d process.
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DeleteGod has already forbidden abortion..its murder..if u r a good Christian u should know this,...d child dat is considered useless can turn out to be a blessing...v faith and God will heal ur child and make u very happy,just keep praying and trusting in God...pls don't kill d innocent and helpless soul before it is being born...pls do d right thing...God bless
ReplyDeleteU say God forbides abortn. Is it biblical? Where?
DeleteYeah u will help her pay the medical bills right? Look God don't heal cancer or major heal ness, God gave doctors the brains n ideas to heal us on his behave. This baby will destroy your home. If u leave you husband, u might find a man who don't mind being with a plus 1 woman, but no man will be with a plus 1 with a sick child. Us year heard not your heart.
DeleteJust as a home is not a house but a feeling, in that same vein, what's the joy of raising such a child on your own, the financial and emotional comfort of a father such a child will lack and all. Yeah, you can say the baby might be healed in the future but what if he/she remains that way, would you be happy seeing him/her going through pains day in day out? The decision is yours to take though, sometimes we need to put aside emotions and reason things out logically.
ReplyDeleteFucking pessimist!!!!....are they not children in orphanage homes?? Growing up without fathers??? Are u mad or just being unreasonably dull!!..?
DeleteMy big cousin got pregnant and d doctors told her her unborn child wud ave a medical condition,she said no,she was going to have the boy,now the boy is 5years old,he has Neva said a word before,he has Neva walked before,he murmurs every time....I don't pity her,I pity d boy she had to bring to this world to face such challenges....y do u want Ur child to go thru problems ....in all pray about it
ReplyDeleteSister, can u think of any impossibilty wit God. He even makes impossible possible. He gives life n takes it. He's d Alpha n Omega. He's d master scientist n phylosopher. Doctors takes care of d body, but God heal d soul. Sister read Isaiah 43: The lord ur creator said, Do not be afraid, I will save u. But try n be at peace wit God. Pls call Him Elohim, d beginning n d end.
DeletePraise Him Highly.
Its quite a precarious situation,owing to the fact I don't support the killing of the holy innocent.
ReplyDeleteIf u finally get to abort this baby am sure u'll live with the guilt for a very long time,and the greatest tormentor (conscience) will never let you know peace.
In this situation since you're convinced that you are ready to bear this cross,do that which pleases your conscience,so you don't live a life of regret.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
Bonario. You are wise.
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Well said Bonario, i and my lived in a country that is known to have best medical service in the world, before the delivery of our first child we were told by the clinic that he may not be that healthy that his blood group belongs to the weak one and our second born will be SS and we need to come back when she is pregnant again in order for them to prevent it. My wife gave birth herself without the CS they projected and my son is almost 3years now sound and healthy than all the kids in his daycare so therefore poster need to pray and leave the rest to God.
DeleteShut up my friend, once she HV new health baby she will thank God forgiving her the courage to abort the unhealthy child. It was God who gave the doctor wisdom to inform u of the babies condition, so u HV this information about the child cos u HV been praying. This is how God works. God use a venue to help not buy miracle
DeleteNot as if am supporting abortion anyway but d same tin happened 2 my aunty,she ignored d doctor's advice now she is regreting it everyday cos d baby tied her at home
ReplyDeleteOmg!! Like literarilly? Such strength... d baby tied her/his own mum? Lool..
Deleteyou must really have a lot of money..
ReplyDeleteAwww, actually i dnt knw what to say
ReplyDeletebut i'll advice you go for the abortion ..... God is ur strength
Judging frm the nigerian economy i dont think one cant have such things on his\her list of priorities but only if yu could ask the doctor what type of sickness the child will be suffering and knw wether is something yu can handle... Well i hope yu already made up ur mind b4 coming here, i just wish God will help yu to make a decision and one yu wouldnt regret in a hurry ok.... Be strong.....
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God's law still outweighs that of man.Do not murder.Keep his law and he will surprise you
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment.
DeleteBest comment ever.Simple, short and straight to the point. Good one Cutie G.
DeleteGod bless you cute G and Bonario,you guys are indeed filled with wisdom.
DeleteKeep your baby my dear.
ReplyDeleteDnt abort d baby makana onwero ihe chukwu na ama emenwu inugo?
ReplyDeleteyour doctor is human, your believe is what matter most here n aborting that child can cost you a lifetime sorrow.if your husband is a man with good heart he shouldn't advice you to terminate it.
ReplyDeletePlease keep the baby. God can heal the child, keep hoping and praying.
ReplyDeleteA true Nigerian keep hoping n u we will HV 24 hrs electric tomorrow. No mind am o, leave her with her hopes. Hope will not pay his hospital billsa
DeleteA child is a blessing frm God not a curse. Doctors only say wat they see wit their ordinary eye... At d end of d day it depends on ur conscience, and wat ur heart is telling u,go with ur own heart. Believe in God n His miracles. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear since d unborn child already has health issues,I'll advise u abort it.I agree its not going 2 b easy considering ur attachment 2 d baby but trust tins might get worse than u bargained 4 in future. God will definitely give u anoda healthy baby.all d best. Nwa ikeji make sure u post ma comment oo,dnt use it 4 dinner.
ReplyDeleteI believe God can heal him, just have faith and pray #bright bravo#
ReplyDeleteMy dear,don't you believe in miracle? you said you do,pls let the foetus be.Chances are he may just end up a healthy baby.You may lose your husband,(afterall he's a divorcee with a 6yr old child) and another may come but how sure are you that when u lose this child,you'll beget another?
ReplyDeleteHowever,I've seen the anguish and pains an unhealthy child can bring to a family.Believe its not something you'll like to experience coz its very traumatic.Sometimes you'll wish the child dies coz only in death will he find peace.And the expenses is just beyond mention.
My advice here is: Terminate the child if you know you don't have financial backing and the heart to withstand the pains of seeing your child undergo cruel heath challenges.Its not easy,but its the best thing to do in the long run.Choose wisely!
Ouch!!! This is a serious matter..... Speechless dunno wat to say*God will sort u out
ReplyDeleteNawaa 4u poster! U wan bring a child in2 dis world 2cum n suffer? Abeg no b money matter, check ur brain! Imagine d trauma n pains d child will hav 2go through
ReplyDeleteIf u have a job to take care of your baby tell your husband you re keeping the pregnancy but if no, you gat to do what your husband want if you want peace of mind in your marrige.
ReplyDeleteU have to be really strong and know that with God everything is possible. Who knows wat will happen to U in the process of abortion....LIFE IS SACRED!!!
ReplyDeleteUr bobo has asked us the same question too. U can read pple's comment on that post. Linda weldone o marriage counsellor
ReplyDeleteEhmm!!! its quiet a heap of thought. Bt i beg that i do nt be misunderstnd in my suggestions.Firstly,u dd nt indicate the age of yur pregnancy though ur solicitation hasn't anything 2 do w it;Av gotten an xperience of TCS baby(treacher collins syndrome)or JPS (jean-pierre syndrome)..I wld suggest yu diagonise these two infirmities.Ask their causes,u realise medical research had no clue. Ask for medical suggestion==They advise for abortion in early detection..Its all online.Take time & go through all.Av nt suggested anything bt what yu will online search. And i hereby suggest yu thnk deep & weigh so much options & take yur decision.GOOD LUCK
ReplyDeleteGod is the master healer.pls allow d innocent soul in2 the world.
ReplyDeleteAbortion is murder . I'm not judging you, i'm just telling you that, that unborn child already has a destiny, don't take that away.
ReplyDeleteIt is wonderful to have a child but when you know the consequences of having this child, it is better you kindly abort the baby as the baby may eventually give in to the diagnosed illness. God will give you another one.
ReplyDeleteUve lived a rough life for such conditions to happen to your child. Pray to God 4 advice for d wisdom of God is supreme while dat of man is bleak
ReplyDeleteYou are just an idiot. Is that the best you can come up with? Judge and jury. Olodo
DeleteAbortion is a sin. God is the healer with prayers the condition can change for good. I pray God have his way in ur home.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby. He might be your last
ReplyDeleteJus pray to God.
ReplyDeleteNo doubt...u have to removed that child if dat is wat ur husband wants...no matter wat,no doubt he is still ur husband
ReplyDeleteBia Mrs dear Libers, we have treated a similar case like this before, pls nigeria is in a state of chaos, dnt disturb us,just find d post and take d advice from there and u linda take ur time
ReplyDeleteLwkmd....
DeleteLoooool!! I feel u jare! can't fit to shout!!
DeleteI would advice you not to mind the doctors, I read a similar story on daily mail yesterday and with a happy ending. You can read it there too then you know doctors are not God. Just read the article on daily mail.com, better still Linda try posting that story it is so encouraging.
ReplyDeleteAbort d babe straight.....no 2nd thought oo.
ReplyDeleteDear poster so sorry to hear about ur predicament, i honestly do not know what to tell u or how to go about advising you..However i would say that this is d wrongest place to bring this kind of sensitive issue to.. LIB readers will end up judging and abusing and deviate from d issue at hand..If u want matured advice send a mail to Bella naija the readers are more sensitive and matured, for here na gossip and amebo full..and yes I come here too for d gossip too...but I rarely ever comment.
ReplyDeleteU are sick in d head,did u see anybody insultin her? U are just pained dat LIB is better dan Bella naija,why come here if u think bella naija readers are more matured dan us, owk u came here 4 gossip n amebo? Bella naija does d same ,so stick 2 bella naija n leave us in peace here...we ♡ d wey we interact here..n it's fun.....Libers are d best deal with dat....
DeleteBelieve God! He is d one dat does great n unseacrhable mavelous things wit out number, by His wounds ur baby is healed even in d womb. Is there any thing too hard 4 Him? He took our infirmities n bare our sickness, it's His word it can never be broken....dnt abort ur baby, ur husband will com bck begging by d time u will deliver dat baby healthy. Whose report do u believe? Look 4 bible believing church attend n always make sure u take d Holy communion, make some prolific declarations ova ur baby then u will see God in action. Call upon Him in d days of trouble He will answer.......d Lord is ur strength madam! Amen
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! This a hard one, but my dear if u have d moni and can cope keep d baby! *zara*
ReplyDeleteSomething cant be more dilematic... Its a pity. May God teach u wat to do. But I cant advise any1 to kill a child (Born or unborn)
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I don't know how to say this, but it depends on the kind of medical conditions and how far gone you are with d pregnancy... if it's really bad, like a terminal illness that will still take the child's life, pls terminate the pregnancy, God will give you other babies. what's the point in bringing a child to this world to suffer? It's not easy but be wise dear. God will see you through... I'm married and I know what it means to raise kids, it's not easy. Talk less of a kid with a condition... just pray and ask God for guidance... it is well with you
ReplyDeletelet me be honest..we all know children are a gift but if i were to give an advice.. go ahead with the abortion because that's the best case scenario.. not because of anything but because the child will still feel uncomfortable due to d sickness..just saying..
ReplyDeleteYou are confused! Something must be wrong with you. Instead of you to thank God for medical intervention like this... Don't bring a child to this world to suffer
ReplyDeleteDnt try 2 abort d baby coz heaven wil b angry @u. God cn change any condition nd doctor or husband is no God.do u kw if tz dat child dat wil lift d family 2 greater level wen he growz up?fink bfr u act woman.
ReplyDeleteDo not take chances my friend. Wisdom is d principal thing.
ReplyDeleteDo not take chances my friend. Wisdom is d principal thing.
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough decision bt it has to be made. If it were me, I honestly don't know What I would do bt my suggestion to you is to remove it, not just to save ur marriage bt to save that child The pain of being difigured, and possibly rejected by the father and the public
ReplyDeleteDo not take chances my friend. Wisdom is d principal thing.
ReplyDeleteKneel down in prayer let God direct u
ReplyDeleteSo instead of spending money buying him clothes and shopping u want to be going from one doctor to another and den become a lifetime carer 2ur child and become wornout,while ur hubby cheats on u with different women and ofcos would always av his first healthy son with him making him proud abi?#goodluckwithurselfishness....spend d money o on hospital bill,doctors appointment,adult diapers etc...God made doctors for a reason#shikena
ReplyDeleteHiannnnnn.....and dat is how dis one re-wrote anoda person's future.....ndi fortune teller!
DeleteGo for further tests in other places and if they give the same result,abort the baby.you'll have others IJN. Take heart! + your husband should be more supportive and not defensive
ReplyDeleteIf u abort which for me is not a good thing , make sure he ends up marrying you because it's your 1st pregnancy and d man that impregnated you should be ur husband or you encounter problems in life , that's because pregnancy is spiritual , am a pastor and don't allow people to deceive you especially those that aborted , left d person that impregnated them for someone else and are feeling guilty only for them say nonsense to you . If he lives you after aborting for him , then a curse will follow him but if you live him you will have yourself to blame in the future when bad luck starts to play a major role in your life . God has his reasons why you got pregnant , don't make a mistake, most people don't know this because the devil is on earth to deceive
ReplyDeleteFake pastor!
Deleteget an abortion. it's not fair to the child to come into the world and be filled with pains. the doctors have warned you
ReplyDeleteDo not abort this child,God wont give you somthing that he knows you cant deal with,you cant just kill this child,many are looking for and they dont have and now you have one just because of a sickness your so called insensitive husband wants you to go for an abortion and he has a child of his own,he is just selfish.... Go give birth to this child
ReplyDeleteSally p said I really can't say I understand how you feel...but what I can tell u is who's report would u blf? That of d doctor or the report of God abt your baby? Even thou ur faith be as little as a muster seed,that's all it takes.
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart or is it that you want us to share in your sin?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, that is how women think, but surely, more babies will come as d Lord liveth. What if u eventually have a still birth and loose ur home at the same time. Think well. i'm sure ur hubby loves you. It is well.
ReplyDeleteComot am sharp sharp
ReplyDeleteKEEP THE BABY. YOUR HUSBAND OR HUSBAND TO BE IS A PIG. THE END
ReplyDeletePlease, dnt be ignorant, let the baby go....have u walked by a ward with ppl struggling for their lives, I see that everyday n trust me hun, dats not the life you want for ur baby. It WILL be heartbreaking wen ur baby cries to u for help n u cnt help him/her. Ur young, u still hav sufficient eggs waiting to b fertilized. BE SMART!!
ReplyDeleteAbort it, another will come
ReplyDeleteMy dear, what urgent advice do you need? Do u want to bring a child into the world to suffer? Think of what that child will pass through, its not about the expenses alone
ReplyDeleteYawn............. Didn't read dat, jus passing
ReplyDeletePray about it sister nd seek GOOD counsel from happily married couples- wiv kids!! All d best!
ReplyDeleteDis is hard o. Buh if giving birth to d child will make his own life hard den no need. If hez going to be a laughing stock all tru his life then no need... Dnt bring him to suffer.Buh if u realy think u are financialy stable enof to manage him, ur free.Wud hav like to know d type of illment self. Buh jst try n talk wit Ur hobby o
ReplyDeleteHoney, Do you think doctors r stupid?! Mschew, over 8yrs experience b4 we meet ppl, trying 2 help d world n ppl like u still wnt 2 open deir eyes n bring pain into d world. Ppl r dying of Cancer....serious problems! N ur confused abt having a very necessary abortion. How do u think the lady dat has to have her ovaries removed Cuz of cancer feels abt her situation, or the woman dat has to have BOTH breasts removed 2 save her life. So my dear, wipe ur tears n do wat needs to be done. You'll b alrite. Your man will support u. Ur ovaries n his sperm r still active I suppose.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you realize that this baby is a human being with as much right to live as anyone else. God has entrusted his or her life into your hands. His knows why he gave him/her to you, medical condition and all. If you abort this baby, you'll pobably spend the rest of your life in perpetual guilt. Keep your baby. You and your husband can always sort yourselves out. Besides, who's tell that his son won't become diagnosed with cancer or multiple sclerosis someday (God forbid), but will he order that he be killed. I think you should ask him this. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteGoogle Steve Hawkins and Thank me later. The man is a pig leave him
ReplyDeleteSo all the sperm dat people waste giving heads r also children na, they shud hav equal rites to live....sigh, my dear, take the baby out n save it a lot of pain.
ReplyDeleteDo you really want to bring a child to this world to suffer? Think dear!
ReplyDeleteTo save yourself so much agony in the future, pls go for the abortion. Though painful, it is a bitter but better option for u. Why bring a child to the world to make him/her suffer. What if the medical condition proves incurable? D good Lord will provide another baby for u IJN. A stich in time..................
ReplyDeleteHmmm. .....This is the toughest Jamb question ever.....#stillthinking#
ReplyDeletePlease if its something that you can stil terminate,pls do because there's no point bringing a child into the world to suffer.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby and leave the rest to God
ReplyDeleteGod sees abortion as Murder. Refrain from even contemplating and please God, your husband comes 2nd after GOD. Tim Tebow is an example of a child that was told to be aborted. God bless you
ReplyDeleteI believe in prayers, but it would be more cruel if you bring that child to suffer in this cruel world. My advice: if you have the financial means and ur willing to let ur marriage go, keep the baby. If you cannot take care of the child and would rely on financial help which could put ur husband in a burden, let it go. But then again, it depends on the type of ailment ur unborn child has.
ReplyDeleteMY DEAR U ARE IN A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION BUT BEFORE I GIVE U MY HONEST OPINION I WOULD LIKE U TO ASK UR SELF SOME QUESTIONS..
ReplyDelete1) HOW STRONG IS UR FAITH IN GOD.. COS I BELIEVE THAT WITH GOD ALL TINS ARE POSSIBLE
2) WHAT WAS YOUR DOCTORS ADVICE WHEN HE TOLD U OF UR UNBORN CHILDS SITUATION.
3) ARE U BEING OBJECTIVE IN THIS SITUATION OR EMOTIONAL
4)WOULD U RATHER GO THROUGH FEW MONTHS OF GRIEF BY ABORTING THIS BABY , OR U WUD RATHER GO THRU YEARS OF GRIEF,BURDEN N SADNESS.
5)WOULD U BE ABLE TO COPE ALONE WITH A SICK CHILD AS A SINGLE MOM.
6) WUD U BE ABLE TO AFFORD THE COST OF HEALTH MAINTENANCE FOR THIS BABY ALONE.
7) HOW HAPPY WOULD THIS CHILD BE GROWING UP AND KNOWING THAT HE IS DIFFERENT FROM HIS MATES.. OR HE CANNOT DO WHAT HIS MATES R DOING
WHAT WILL I DO IF I WAS IN UR SHOES....OUT OF EMOTIONS AND JOY OF BECOMING A FIRST TYM MOM I WUD WANT TO KEEP THE BABY,BUT HAVING ANSWERED THE QUESTIONS ABOVE I SEE IT WUD BE THE MOST UNWISE TIN I WUD DO TO WANT TO KEEP THIS BABY..
THE GOD THAT GAVE THIS ONE TO U WILL GIVE U ANODA, THAT IS FREE FROM SICKNESS AND DISEASE..
MY DEAR SISTER REASON WITH UR HEAD AND NOT UR HEART.. I WOULD BE PRAYING FOR U..
Madama, dis is ur first child, would u rada start ur marriage wif pity? My sister, more children will still come, do away wif It now dat it is not a living.
ReplyDeleteIf you are overseas (USA or UK), you can have the baby and seek government support and money. If you are in Naija or another African country, have an abortion.
ReplyDeleteBeing a parent is HARD WORK. You don't want to be a single parent with a child with poor health. That would be twice the work.
You may think you can bear the burden of taking care of your child's needs, but given you have never been a parent, it can be very very tough. If you ask first time mothers who are single parents, they will tell you the road is tough, hard, demanding, and can be very lonely.
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Look my friend, there are very little examples of God healing anyone with a congenital disease in the history of the world. Listen to your husband. The situation is not much different from a spontaneous miscarriage. You are about to saddle yourself with a long life of pain. It was God that created the technology used to detect the abnormality. Be wise!
ReplyDeleteHmm..I just need to comment even though my opinion does not count ...how old is this first time woman and what disability does the unborn baby have?
ReplyDeleteIs it fair to bring an innocent child to d world that will suffer? Sometimes whether you have money or not will not be enough...
Abort the child now...save yourself from a life of worry..save your child from a life a suffering...save your marriage from bitterness even before you start..
Yes it is sad to loose an unborn baby but I tell you it is worse to see a child suffer and then eventually loses the child...
Goodluck
ds pregnant woman fell dwn @ 1 point n tym.u must av kausd damage 2 ur baby.THOU SHALL NOT KILL.
ReplyDelete@ Anonymous 12:13AM. I gather you are a male doctor, because your level of insensitivity is unbelievable. The two scenarios you gave are irrelevant when in this case the individual in question is making a decision on another life and not herself. Please be more empathic in your dealings with individuals, always try to put them in your shoes (or that of your father, mother, sister, brother, cousins etc). To the lady in question, if I were in your shoes I know I would not abort my baby because I just cannot take another human being's life let alone my own child, but it is your decision to make. I think you should follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteUna weldone o all the don't abort caucus! Have you guys ever witnessed the long term pain and suffering raising a deformed child can bring on? Have you considered the enormity of the challenge a couple will face if they have to provide life long care and support for a challenged child? It literarily stops your life in a manner of speaking. @ poster: please don't think about yourself alone. That's totally selfish. Think about your man also. And consider what the fate of that child will be when he's growing up amongst his/her peers.
ReplyDeleteU knw wat, just follow ur mind so dat wen d problem or fault comes up, u won't blame anyone
ReplyDeleteI was in the same situation 5yrs ago!! Didn't listen 2 the docs or my husband as a result I suffered alone with the child didn't sleep we'll for five yrs husband no longer with me .i can't forget the torture and pain I went thru be wise.
ReplyDeletePlease pray and ask God for guidance he will surely show u d way
ReplyDelete@anonymous 11.17pm , what d hell do you mean by that comment ur a bloody bastard !!!! May The Lord visit upon ur own child ur rough life . Pathetic creature .
ReplyDeletedont be selfish, its not about yourself nor ur marriage(husband) u have to do which is logical here. bringing a terminal ill child to this world is no crime or sin but if the child would have the chance for his own decision i bet he/she wont want to live in such condition. although there r stories of miracles but God gave us the chance to make decisions and todo what is called "survival of the fittest"
ReplyDeletedont be selfish, its not about yourself nor ur marriage(husband) u have to do which is logical here. bringing a terminal ill child to this world is no crime or sin but if the child would have the chance for his own decision i bet he/she wont want to live in such condition. although there r stories of miracles but God gave us the chance to make decisions and todo what is called "survival of the fittest"
ReplyDeleteYou have to fully understand the gravity of the situation here. Mental disorder is not physical disability. Your baby practically will not be human. And can you bear that? Unless you have wholesome faith to change the situation. Can you leave with the burden? Please be wise and don't be selfish.
ReplyDelete@sir Alpachino, its really hard to bliv trolls like u still exist! U are a pathetic cyber-goat Ode. She only seek advice not for you to practice your "moronly " and sense-defied grammar on her...Oloshi sumbody.
ReplyDeleteTo you babes, we all believe in miracle, seek advice of professionals please, some ppl wont understand your state of dilemma. God be with you
My candid advice is for u to go on ur kneels pray to God 4 forgiveness and abort it and stop bein sentimental,My reasons 1) hw would u feel if u give birth to the baby and u see ur baby probably growin up in pains and cursing u for givin birth to him or her av seen cases like dat,dat is if the medical condition is sickle cell or any other medical condition 2) I knw if d doctor says u might die if u give birth to the baby and d option they give u is to abort d baby I knw u ll sharply abort d baby,so pls pity d unborn child and don't bring it forth to d world to probably suffer 3)doctors are d angels God sent to d world to help us health wise so if d doctor av seen dat the baby might cause u pain seein him or her go thru pains everyday , its better u abort the baby,God made it possible 4 u in d first place to get pregnant of dis one,he ll make it possible to b pregnant of anoda baby that ll be healthy,so do the needful and stop being too sentimental
ReplyDeletewow,dis is tough,bt dnt let a man make you do wat u wud regret for lyf,just ask for GOD'S grace
ReplyDeleteHaaaaa, ma sister I beg u in d name of God almighty,,all dis ppl acting holy ll not be there when d trouble starts,,,am a medical doctor,,,dey claim holy bt we ave their details,,,ask any of dem if they were in ur shoes what wld dey ave done(though easier said dan done),,pls dis is not a sin,,and if its a sin, God is merciful enough 2 4give u,,prenatal diagnosis can save a family 4rm a lifetime agony n trouble,if u re in doubt, u can ask anywoman wt sickle cell kid(s)
ReplyDeleteThat child will be a blessing, keep the child our God is a miracle worker.
ReplyDeleteInstead of bring a child into this World to suffer,I think listening to ur hubby is the best thing to do n of course pray over it.
ReplyDeleteI wish God would speak to us directly on what we should do,but our conscience a help mate! The society,finances and pain to go through..Talk to God about it,life so unfair
ReplyDeleteIn my candid opinion (notice how I sed "my opinion"...b4 una chop me raw), if u really love dis child as u claim,u will remove d baby...consider all d pain d baby will go through,both mentally,physically nd emotionally....u might be there by his/her side,but trust me being there can never mean d same thing as being d victim....help dis child now!...God will give you somany other healthy ones....
ReplyDeleteMy dear d Lord is ur strenght,he will heal ur baby and make ur marriage a happy one. I went thru d same ordeal in 2010 but thank God I'm victorious now.Prayer is d key, I was told at my 12wks routine check that my baby at markers for down syndrome,it was a turbulent time for me, I carried d pregnancy with fear faith and strong belief in God.I did all d research in dis world, I prayed so hard and I thank God for his mercies.when my son was handed over to me, the dr said mam, u have a very healthy baby weighing almost 9lbs.a mother's instinct is always right, if u r convinced within u that God has taken control pls leave d pregnancy.and do so many research for ur peace of mind and knowledge
ReplyDeleteI think you should listen to ur husband my dear.. There is no need 2 bring a child to this world to suffer.. Ur a young woman God will give u another child.. Be wise
ReplyDeletePls Ma Sis,go 2 GOD with an open mind.Make sure U ask HIM 4 His Mind(Perfect)Will concerning U NOT even d unborn Baby Ok?Ask Him 2 Guide U tru dis season of Ur confussion!Finally,Ur Confessions during Ur Confussion Concludes/Decides Ur d Out come of Ur Condition!My Prayer and d Prayers of the Saints are with U Ok!GOD Bless U real Good!
ReplyDeleteI am a mum and i have a friend with a baby that has mental issues. Its is a difficult thing. U dont know the extent of the damage. Its not just about spending money, its emotionally, physically, psychologically daunting. the child will even hate him/herself. Worst if its a girl, there ll be self esteem issues
ReplyDeletei think you are lucky to even be able to know this right now. I will not bring a child into this world that will face such segregation and pain. You are not doing this for your husband but for your child.
Let that baby go. others will come. Believe me, you may think you can handle it but cant. in the long run, you may loose more than just a husband. No man will come into your life while you have a mentally unstable child. your friends will run away and you'll invest all your time and energy on that baby
Think about this and may God guide you
You are now lamenting because you are now married.What led you to marry a married man as a young lady? Your hands are not clean.You must face the challenges of taking someone else's husband.Search yourself,have you not committed abortion before? You have tampered with your womb.However,I suggest you don't abort this,God can perform a miracle,depending on your new relationship with God.
ReplyDeleteWhich report wil u bliv? God's or doctor's report? Abortion is a sin, dnt even tink abt it. But wit faith my dear, notin is impossible.
ReplyDeleteAbortion is murder.wat if u abort n remain unfruitful?God decides d fertilization,He's d giver of life.wts d guarantee dt u wil take in agn?r u a christian?nt a carnal one behave lyk unbeliever.if u r den,trust u wil d authority in christ to move any mountain even if dat faith is as tiny as a mustard seed.speak Gods word(His words r spirit n life)to dat unborn,he wil respond.even inanimate tins respond to His word.if ur faith is nt strong enuf to deal wit dis,c a true man of God.I suggest pastor Mike Onyali of Dominion city portharcourt.
ReplyDeleteTink abt dis.wt hapens wen u abort dis preg n neva take in,wt happens to d marriage?wil he be wit u til death do u part?Dnt take away dt gift of God jst to save ur marriage.pray
Seek God face first stay hold there is purpose for every condition,don't question God,He is capable of all, thank remain bless
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing difficult for God to do, do not stain your hand with the blood of your unborn child. The bible is against murder, be it born or unborn. take the matter to God in prayers, HE can change your husband's mind and at the same time heal your baby. what if it's a wrong diagnoses. God can do ANYTHING!
ReplyDeleteWhat is always wrong with our women nowadays! A man divorced his former wife, whom she had a boy for just bcos of u and u think u will be happy in dat relationship. Am sorry. U beta seek God face to know what's is wrong
ReplyDeletePeople here are too religious! If you keep the baby and the condition ties u down at home with the baby, remember to bring him/her to LIB reader for them to NURSE. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteIf you are a Christian, in GENESIS 25 vs23 The Lord said to Rebekah "Two nations are in thy womb" and she conceived twins.. As for you, a nation is in thy womb.. Why do you want to destroy a whole nation!!! Jabez was a child of sorrow, but his destiny was made straight, his coast enlarged and was even more honorable than his brethren.. DO NOT ABORT IT..
ReplyDeleteWhat if you abort this one and the next one comes out the same, will you keep on aborting? I would advice you keep the pregnancy as we will join you in prayers that God almighty heals your baby and sustain your marriage because there is nothing He can not do. God will see your through.....
ReplyDeletepls get rid of the baby to avoid any future inconvenience
ReplyDeleteI don't think abortion is the best option cos its a sin. what if u lose ur life or womb in the process? believe me u will never feel complete if u abort ur pregnancy and the marriage u are trying to save will eventually pack up because u will never be able to forgive ur husband. PLEASE KEEP THE BABY. God help u dear
ReplyDeletelet ur faithless husband go, God will make you baby straight. don't terminate it, i reiterate don't terminate d baby
ReplyDeleteBe wise! use your HEAD not your HEART!
ReplyDeleteThat child will curse you if you bring it into this world to suffer.
Normal children have enough pressure already.......
Pls text me your husband contact God is God in all ratification
ReplyDeleteWhat is the health condition we talking about? And whose report is that? Earthly doctors right? My sister , friends and fellow readers , scan , test, medical diagnoses are not 100% sure! Try other doctors, pray and also consult doctors of all doctors Jesus for His solution.. He 'll answer. Do everything possible in prayers. This is to avoid killing innocent healthy child. May the peace of God be with you..
ReplyDeletewell i dont know if am d last comment but reason to d word of God the doctors are not God they only say what they read i mean papers go in spirits tell your God you want to show the doctors they are not God and you want your child to be healthy before you know it the report will be changed and you will be another case study for good
ReplyDeleteThe Bible says we don't have a high priest who is not touched by the feelings of our infirmity. He knows how we feel and he will not tempt us more dan we can handle. Its time for u to pray sweetheart, place ur cards on d table and ask God to take charge. If d child is indeed going to cause pain God can make u have a miscarriage naturally. Av seen it happen a lot of times. But never be d one to initiate an abortion, u don't have a right to. If God makes u have d child, its because u can take care of him and he'll be okay. So trust in God and go to him in prayers. It is well.
ReplyDeleteYou better don't abort the baby bcos another problem will surely come ur way pray for forgiveness things will b normal if u believe
ReplyDeletemaybe am wrong but let me ask do u want to have a child that will blame u for his or her health issues?? i watched child wiv the SS thing once on TV her parents were interviewed and they said they knew she was gonna b SS and the Doctor ad told them to take it out but they insisted o having the child and now that she is bore she spends more days in the Hospital dan she does at home and wen the girl was asked how she feels about it she blamed her parents for bringin her to this world to suffer cuz the pain was to much for her. God will giv you more children am not sayin God can heal your baby but some things are avoidable.
ReplyDeletenow is the time to start praying. Call upon God day and night. Remind him of his promises. Make a vow and fulfil it when He does it for u. Just pray and pray and pray.
ReplyDeleteits not an easy decision to make as a christian, you have to ask for the face of God. Bcos bringing a child dat u dont know wat kind of health suituation is a very big Risk to u and the Child.
ReplyDeletedon't abort d babe, don't listing to what people are saying they are not God, abortion is murder, first, do you even pray to know what the marriage will be before going into it? if no, that is the mistake you have done. secondly, that is doctor's diagnosis, why don't you pray and see what God will do i.e if u believe he is the maker of your unborn child. our spare parts are with him...pls dnt abort ooo.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, the man you're scared of losing if you keep the baby is not your husband cos he's married before and sorry to say you're wasting your time and life also, you're committing sin with him. 2nd of all abortion is not an option no matter what cos God forbids it so keep your baby and if the man wants to go let him. I know its not easy but try pray and have faith
ReplyDeleteI hate it wen Men threaten dere wives with a divorce.
ReplyDeleteCant u logically talk ur wife into seeing it 4rm ur point of view & making her understand without necessarily threatening her.
AND WHO IS DAT ANONYMOUS FOOL SAYING SHE HAS LIVED A ROUGH LIFE & DATZ D REASON 4 HER CONDITION.(CAN PEOPLE BE DIS FOOLISH & INSENSITIVE 2 OTHERS PLIGHT?
My dear, first off, I wld advice u visit another hospital & run d same test. Cuz somtimes (with apologies 2 doctors) dey really do see somfin else wen its actually another ailment.*FACT*
Dough I do not advocate 4 an abortion, But plz if ur kid is really at risk of not being a normal child, kindly do dat kid a favour. *Trust me u just might regret it. 2ndly if ur faith can carry on. My dear carry on.
You did not create that child in the first place, God has placed that child in your womb and he alone knows why he has that condition. If you love God and your child more than your husband then go ahead and keep the baby because you don`t know if that is the child that will bring you to the world and make you achieve all you have ever dreamt of. Also it might be for the power of GOD to be manifested that the child is coming to earth. So think wisely, if you kill the child you will still face the torture physically and emotionally for the rest of your life and if you keep him it might be tough at first but GOD will take control. Which ever way, do no man has the right to take the life of another, even worse an unborn baby. Lastly, our doctors and their diagnosis can not be trusted.
ReplyDeleteLike u said u belive God can heal ur baby,surrender all to God,don't kill ur baby
ReplyDeleteIts amazing how so called christians talk lyk unbelievers,like ders no God or he's helpless.I undastd ur prob madam buh trust me ders no situation dat can't be changed.Agreed,dats d Doctors report,wts God's report?whr do u stand?lemme tel u a story.a lady was preg and d baby was witout diaphragm so der was no possibility 4him to survive afta birth.witout diaphragm,a child cnt breathe n suck breast.those in d medical field undastd beta. So dey prayd n blivd God4a miracle.d day she delivered,d baby was brought to ha n as d doctor was remindin dem abt d child's conditn,d baby grabbed d mums breast n startd suckin.d doctors were shocked so dey carid d baby 4 an xray checkup n behold,d diaphragm was der.dey didn't undastd it. Madam,let ur faith come alive @dis point in tym.speak to dt child n stand ur ground.like I said earlier,if ur faith is nt strong enuf to handle dis,c a true man of God.Abortion isn't d way out,wt if u abort n take in n anoda issue comes up,wil u abort it 2?4 hw long?exercise ur dominion in christ wit jst a mustard seed faith n dis mountain wil shift
ReplyDeleteThis is not just about you and your feelings, or about the money. This is also about the unborn child. There is already enough suffering in this world to bring a disabled child into it. The child will never live a full life and will be sick all through. I think abortion is right; but don't do it because your 'fiance' said it. In fact I advice you to leave him because this shows that in future, if a situation seems a little difficult for him, he will leave you. He is not a supportive man and it is a bad idea to marry such a person.
ReplyDeleteOur generation with their little faith sha. how dare you take a life. God raised d dead, so wat is dat ill health. moreover God has d power to stop dat child from coming into this world if He so chooses, else d healing will be to d glory of Gods name. Trust in Gods wisdom.
ReplyDeleteHow sure are you that your second baby won't have the same illness,God can't give you a cross you can't carry.don't do it
ReplyDeleteGod says fear not,for I am wit u,He also says dere is nothin impossible for me to do,just trust in him,speak positively to d baby u r carrying,ask for His healing power,pray without ceasin,d bible says even wiv faith as lil as a mustard seed even mountains will move,but above all let Gods will be done.if ur man isn't willing to stand by u tru dis den let him walk away.if he can create a single hair or teeth of a child den he can stand his ground!God forbid sometin terrible happens to his 6yr old son nd he becomes a liabilty wud he snuff d life outta him cos of dat?
ReplyDeletea lady in my church shared her testimony o. Her daughter is about 2 years old now and perfect by God's grace. while she was pregs, the doctor told her all sorts of things. the doctor said the daughter had some kinda helth problem..one of those ones that to pronounce the name of the health challenge is even a problem. u noe, all dese scientific names. the baby is almost two now as i mntiond earlier and the child has no symptom of the health problem. the woman researched about the health issue online and she saw all the symptoms, her baby has none of the symptoms. pls dont conform to the standards of this world. the standards of God will never change. it is really tough to have a child with issues but only trust God wholeheartedly. have the kind of faith that cannot be shaken. That baby is blessed and the blood of Jesus will blood out every hand writing of the enemy in the child's life in the name of Jesus i pray. All is well.
ReplyDeleteI've read this story before and that was months ago. But I think then, it was the guy who narrated the story. However, am sorry to say this bit why being a child into this already sinful, hard world to suffer? Cos with what you've said, the child might be ill every other day. And to make matter worse, you'd be spending a lot of money. Are you financially buoyant to cope with the expenses? God forbid o, what if the child now eventually dies after spending so much? God will bless you with Another. Weigh your options well. God be with you. Nobody should cuss me out here, else whatever negative thing you say will be your portion n not mine. I just aired my own opinion. So don't dare!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDoctors r no God, only God kws exactly wat is in d womb n hw to heal it... Pray to God...
ReplyDeleteIt's sad seeing everyone so wordly and so heartless. Why abort a child that GOD has blessed you with. That Child is for GOD not for you. He just put you there as A guardian. GOD has healed someone's blood type before my eyes. That's your first child. A gift from GOD. Why reject the blessing. He said in the bible. Don't murder. If you're a true christian. You know you'll have to carry your cross. Maybe that's your cross. How deep is your love for yourself. How deep is the love your husband has for you. If GOD has given you that child. He will surely provide. Why be faithless ?? If you read Luke. You'll see that most people were saved from situations because of their faith. Practice simple faith. Love unconditionally. Help will surely come. Please don't take that child away. Love him/her despite it. I pray we all please GOD in the things we do. The world is getting so dark but our light most shine.
ReplyDeleteMost Pple are saying she should take the baby out just because of a sickness,so all other children born into the world wth other sickness,they should go kill themselves shey,pple dont just understand that this is a child not a toy and it is wrong to abort and by the way there is no human that does not come with a Package
ReplyDeleteThis alpachino is just a hopeless illiterate using a cheap device to yarn arrant nonsense
ReplyDeleteSee them hypocrites. Did u guys not abuse the mother of the 2faced baby for not aborting? Now u r telling this onreto keep the baby. Will u be there to take care of the baby with her? My dear do ur mind. Just be sure cos na only u go suffer/ endure the consequences. Anyone u choose goodluck!!!
ReplyDeleteThis will be my first time commenting on this blog, i am doing cos of the sensitive nature of this question. I am an Emergency Nurse, from a medical standpoint, i will advice you to have a medical evacuation,because i v seen mothers given birth to babies they wish they have terminated. consequences of keeping the pregnancy and having the baby will be quite enormous,not just financial(which is the least),but the emotional ,physical and psychological torture on both yourself and the baby will be much. my candid advice is to have a medical evacuation ,and in no time you will take in again. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteI believe our God is still in d business of doing miracles. Abortion is a Sin no mata why it is done#my opinion tho# So my advice,since ur husband is threatening to leave,ask him 2 wait til d baby is born and if anytin is wrong wit d baby he can leave. Meanwhile ,go 2 God in prayer,ask God 4 4givness of wateva sin u hv commited, ask him 2 do his will. If d baby wil come into d world 2 suffer he sud take d baby himself,but if not he sud turn tins around. Tel him d doctor has spoken but u await his decision dat ur marriage depends on it. I believe if u say dis prayer sincerely he wil definitely hear and do his will.
ReplyDeleteplease whatever you are doing.... dont suffer the unborn child because not only will you spend money, the baby will pass through pains... But if ur faith is strong, then go ahead and pray so that ur next checkup will show positive signs
ReplyDeleteTRUST ME. THAT CHILD WILL BE A NORMAL CHILD IF ONLY YOU BELIEVE YOU BELIEVE. Every GOOD and perfect gift cometh from Above. Take no drugs to harm d child. FUCK those doctors report, they can go wack shit if they like. ONLY BELIEVE GOD
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