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Monday 31 March 2014

'There was no violence or infidelity involved in my marriage' - Joseph Benjamin

Actor Joseph Benjamin was a guest on Rubbin Minds yesterday Sunday March 30th where he opened up about his divorce. When the host, Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, asked him if he was finally divorced, the father of two said he was 'working on it.'

Ebuka also took him up on rumours of violence and infidelity being the reason for his separation, Benjamin said it wasn't true. What he said below...
"A lot was misconstrued and I will not hold anyone responsible for it because everyone is entitled to their opinion and for me I believe that when you embark on a journey like that, it is something that, it requires the two people involved to have a certain form of understanding. Let me go a bit spiritual with you here, the Bible says can two work if they do not agree? So there should be some form of agreement. Continue...
You guys should have this certain joint that kind of links you up together and if to an extent its not there and one feels that there is a need for you to like maybe, move on, lets be matured about this, let things go in a very calm and subtle manner. So that's basically it. I would say that (this is on a bid to being very particular of what I say) because that is how it was misconstrued. So for me that is what informed the decision and I would say because I am on national television that there was no form of violence. There was no report of infidelity. She is an amazing person, I give her that credit, I would always say that because I am not one who would talk down any human being" he said.

95 comments:

  1. I hope you're now happy miss Linda. You can take over, take over aaaah Aaah. Till you are consumed by nothing nothing else but him. Pardon my blaabs. Miss L

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    1. Sm1 plz tell dis nigga to stfu!
      Liar.
      His face iS bent just like his "D"
      Leme categoricaly tel u that he cheated on his wife!
      Hez a bad boi, so sleek with words, sleeps with onli hot girls.
      Ahhh josephhhh. Carry on with your lies.
      From day 1 he always acted like he was never married until smm1 exposed him. Weldone.
      Karma is a bitchh

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    2. 'Seph?? April 2010-Nov 2011 was what exactly?? Don't go on National Tv and tell lies.. o have pictures,voice notes,videos,mails, name it! Your level of hypocrisy is astonishing.
      Now, she's an amazing person right? What happened to all you came to me complaining about? You even denied being married when we first met so please, hush!

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    3. Church agbasala!Guy ur sins don dey find u out oh!

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    4. Woman take it easy oooo! Lolzzzz!!! JB don scatter people heart. Men!!! I never knew this guy was ever married.

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  2. Na WA o! Celebrities with their constant life of divorce, is that what being a celebrity is all about? Is that the price one pays for being a celebrity? nothing seem to be stable in ones life?


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  3. y will u marry and later say u dnt agree? i diagreed wit these lies, chidi chikere did same and now u!!!! Actors and their many bluffs. Go and tell those lies 2 pigs

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  4. If she is an amazing person why suddenly yu just stop loving her and wanted to divorce her after giving yu two kids...... This guy never talk true but na there business shah.....
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  5. She is an amazing person,so why are you working on your divorce?is it part of the marriage?

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    1. Ms Chi-chi why "Lonely Mum"? What happened to Ʊя Hubby?

      Well Mr Benjamin, if it has nothing to do with Infidelity then I think you should have a rethink.

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  7. Hmm and I ask what could be worse than infidelity that you guys can't just settle it? Too much divorce this days ridicules the institution of marriage.we keeep copying the whites,even the bad ones!

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  8. May none of this divorce shit happen to me abeg..... After two pikin i go dey reason divorce, say i dey craze or wetin.....
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    1. Lindy... U always publish this guy's comments but I have never seen mine.... Even when he says rubbish... Are u on a partiality level?? Lindy

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  9. Mtcheeewwww... y cnt u wrk it outb na una sabi o...

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  10. I quite see reasons with him.
    You need to be in his shoe to judge him,when it comes to issues like this people tend to be sentimental and judgemental especially when the marriage in question has produced kids.
    Many marriages can only be likened to hellfire. I can't live with a nagging wife,that's the easiest route to a man's grave

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Murrafucker, now you don't want to sound judgemental nor sentimental, but you were busy lashing out on tchidi chikere, stupid orangutan. Idiots like you that haven't married before are always the first insult a fellow man and ask why he left his marriage. Wait until you marry then you will understand how evil ,annoying and demonic some women can be. You are still doing bf and gf that's why you don't know how annoying and shameless some wives can be. You don't have sense at all you bonario. Ibu ewu awusa.

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  11. U didnt know 2 cannot walk togeda except Dε̲γ̲ agree wen U married her. Couples shud stop tinking A̶̲̥̅bou̲̅t themselves alone nd tink A̶̲̥̅bou̲̅t †ђξ children. Why nt W̶̲̅oяk on †ђξ marriage instead ☀f divorce.

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  12. Divorce is not always the best option. It is a tearing apart and it is has terrible effects on the children involved.
    Read on Dear Pastor, how do I cast down negative imaginations and resist bad thoughts in relationships, marriage and life?

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  13. If she is amazing y divorce her

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  14. What happened to the joints that initially linked you two up together ? You are a cheat and infidel. Bottom line

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  15. Mr Benjamin, if u r really matured as I ought u to be, then man up n make things up with that lady instead of spoiling those kid'slife.

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  16. Hmmmmmmm na wahaa oo for all ds actors ad actresses oo,una doh make una do una work well ooo,doh oo

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  17. Benjamin, you have the courage to quote the scripture, when you were an ordinary choir master with no job, your wife stood by you, because you now have little change, she is no good any more,,,the chain you used in flogging her out is what you will also use in flogging the other....

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    1. Tell him o!that woman is very nice woman,who stood by him n made him wot he is today!!!!,no wonder he hardly comes to church this days because he knows wot he's about to do...like I always say n still say it some men think from their anus....God is watching u.

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    2. House on the rock people!thats the way their "marriedmen"behave!hian...beware

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  18. Bro aah me like u alot. I wish u can settle wit her, i never knew u were married 4 real only 2 hear dat u are filing 4 a divorce? E get as e be na, remba ur movie wit Nse Ekpe Etim #Mr N Mrs pls bro tink again. D devil u know is beta dan d angel u've not seen

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  19. Plss Benjamine,why don't u just fix it up with her,4 d love of God n d kids plssss...... Try n rekindle d spark,its not good to divorce n its not in d bible dat u quoted,biko O nna try inugo?

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  20. U are a big fool. U are working on a divorce but can't work on url marriage. People are no longer ashamed of divorce.

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  21. No one. Is perfect... Being matured is d key 2 enjoying life

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  22. Goodluck in yOur divorce journey http://wildentertainment.blogspot.com

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  23. Joseph is nice looking actor i admire. Pray to God so your marriage can work. If two can work togeda to make a divorce two can still work togeda to make a marriage work. Joseph, Joseph, Joseph, how many times did i call you.

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  24. *In Oshiomole's voice...........Go and Marry*

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  25. Joseph slow down, slown down let me talk to you. Divorce not an option. Seek God the author of marriage

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  26. With that his deformed or left sided mouth.....gerrout jare ....or u want to be sleeping around....ode....i just dislike d guy....mtsheww

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  27. ...and you're just realizing your differences after dropping two? Guy stop deceiving yourself. Celebrity lifestyle is really rubbish boo.

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  28. Am so sad about dis development.

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  29. Am so sad about dis development.

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  30. " She is an amazing person, I give her that credit, I would always say that because I am not one who would talk down any human being". Contradictory and expository. She is nt an amazing woman bt d reason u don't wana say is bcos u ar nt d type dat wld talk down any human being. U already did Bro. Meanwhile...am single and wouldn't mind a hook up. U ve always been my CRUSH **wink**
    $$k@y$$

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  31. The people who suffer most in a divorce are the kids, unfortunately.

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  32. "She is an amazing person, I give her that credit, I would always say that because I am not one who would talk down any human being". Contradictory and Expository. U wld say dat cos u ar nt d type dat wld talk down a human being. U already did Bro. Meanwhile... I'm single and wldnt mind a hook-up. U ve always been my CRUSH **wink**
    $$k@y$$

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    1. If she's really dat amazing,Y d divorce?pls tell us another lie like Irreconcilable differences and I will believe u.

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  33. Try & repair ur marriage. Getting another woman is to divide ur kingdom which u will hate when aged.

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  34. If she was so amazing why divorce her?

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  35. Go ahead, is ur life bro. You see and u know wat we don't about ur married life. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

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  36. And whatever happened to the vow; for better or worse? .
    He was the same one playing happy family some months ago. E no go better for the person wey don put asunder this couple tht God joined together.
    smh for some people.... Marriage is literally for better or worse. You just have to make your home's foundation in Christ Jesus, thts all..everything will definitely work out.


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  37. Abeg! Take several seats back, she is an amazing person , so amazing that you can't stand being married. mtchewww.

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  38. Good for you. God forbid I ever have to divorce or move on from my husband, I'll do it with the uttermost respect and Love. Enough of the bitter divorces...

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  39. She is Amazing human being !so why not fix your home ... What is happening in our movie industry self. Can't you guyz pratice what you preach?

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  40. see this mumu quoting bible. so u can freely disjoint what u originally joined with God? marriage is not a business venture or a bet. once u are in, u only hope and pray that it works, and if it doesnt work, u are therefor free to walk away, but you must remain unmarried.

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  41. No,Ben.Pls dnt divorce no matter what..Not for your wife's sake but for your children.They need there mother..You guys can work whatever problems out..Plssss,Not like I knw your wife but I jst hate divorce.It shldnt be the last resort..

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  42. Please who watched Joseph Benjamin's
    Mr and Mrs --- shet mehn its becoming a reality in his life choi
    be careful of what you act

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  43. When you finally divorce her, go to CNN.. I still don't understand why people will for any reason discuss their relationships or marriages. Find a way and dulge that question that's what a matured mind would do

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  44. So she's left her wife Joselyn Dumas. Right?

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  45. Hmm, i hear you, i am sure one lady is some where waiting quietly , no smoke with out fire, if you are a woman beater you will still beat your new wife.

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  46. Who cares, take the divorce paper to bank and cash money, i tire 4 all dis calebs. Hmmm

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  47. Why these many divorces these days,if u don't love each other enough then why marry and divource tomorrow,

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  48. Bro Benji! Bcos u got a Ph.D In English language no mean say u get right bambooze us with grammar,all this talk no be here. Go reconcile biko.

    -TheRealMotherfucker

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  49. Wow. This cute guy. How very sad!!!

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  50. I kinda agree with him, when its not working out then move on

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  51. Am fed up wit dis celebs,u hammer and u realize ur wife is'nt gud enuf 4 u,anyway is ur life do whatever pleases you.

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  52. Am from a broken home nd I hv cum to realize dat parents dat divorce hv no love 4 their kids.hw can u luk ur innocent kinds a move away frm dem,wot sort of rest of mind will u hv wifout dem.

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  53. even you? chai smh

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  54. Y did u want to divorce her wen she is an amazing person..its unfair...

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  55. Joseph is very stupid. Because he don chop small money he wan leave his wife for one ashawo/gold digger

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  56. He ɪ̣̝̇ș ''working on it" that ɪ̣̝̇ș his cut of tea. He z tired of that pussy so let him try another pussy. Mtcheeew!

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  57. Oh no! Benjamin why?I didn't say u shud divorce ur wife. I only said I L♥√ع u n u luk cute.

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  58. Na wa ! Were you dreaming when you got married ? Now the spark is gone?#eyesrollingandwondering#

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  59. A lil more trial, a lil more talk, a lil more understanding might make it work. If infidelity and violence isn't the problem here, then what congent reason might make divorce an option
    That same bible states "Fornication" as the only ground for divorce . Of which one can still forgive the other.

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  60. This guy is an idiot.so the reason y he said she is an amazing person is becos he can't talk down on anyone and not because she really is.Nigerian women are really taking shit from guys.we need to step up,we are in a new era.the same bible says only infertility allows u divorce ur spouse.pls people look before u leap so as to avoid guys like Joseph Benjamin and Tchidi Chikere.

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    1. Don't quote what u don't knw. It's infidelity and not infertility. Thank me later.

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  61. She's an amazinf person and u want to divorce her abi?

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  62. Y all dis divorce?, am tired of men this days o, d most annoying part will stil praise their patner ie, she is nice, she a wonderful person, if she is, then y divorcing her?. Pls men and women should be mature b4 they enter into marriage, I mean having a matured mind 2 deal with issues that comes up in marriage. If u divorce ur wife?, how are I sure that u would not divorce d second wife?.

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  63. Bt Benjamin we knw dt it has bin ur wife feeding u all this while, why do u now wnt to leave her...na wa 4 all dis annoying celebs sef..actors una own na divorce, actresses na husband snatchers!!! choi

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  64. Shame on u joseph....ode!

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  65. "Divorcing n husband snatching wood"! Dts nw nollywood's new name..chai ,unstable ppl..evn u 2..y bother with marriage wen u knw u won't stay in it 4 long?? #Ebrainy#

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  66. Please no child should be raised in a home where the parents can not stand each other. When people say o let us stay for the children, you are doing your kids a disservice. Usually, Daddy is keeping all sorts of mistresses and has no time to even devote to the children. Mum is bitter and daily her heart is turning to stone. This is how more than half of the kids in Naija grew up and you wonder why our homes are not strong. We did not grow up seeing a good model. That's why you hear a young man say, as long as I am providing (and these days they don't even do that...sorry). If you can't model true marriage to your kids (even with the hassles involved), then please let the rule of adultery put you assunder. If you are pummeling your wife, and she wants to leave please let her. All the wife beaters I have met are products of wife beaters. Patch patch does nothing but wreck havoc on your kids psyche. Just say we are staying together because the woman does not have the financial strength to raise the kids alone, or she does not want to be a Ms again, but please do not attribute staying in a dysfunctional setting as a means to raise the kids wholesomely.

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  67. Try n fix your marriage pls,divorce is not the answer not afta two kids.Tanks

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  68. I hope Joseph Benjamin sees this, Such! Such! a shame… Marriage is for better or worse Sir, think back to when you loved her sooo much, youve seen “finer” and “better” women now you are tired??? you were a bloody conductor with noooo money and she was still with you regardless, Most pple think that when the “spark” is no longer there they can no longer deal with the marriage but truth is, the spark always! always! wares-out.. This generation just walks away from everything!!! sad, weak, unintelligent, always blowing things out of proportion, forming deep generation *shame!

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    1. U are right about the spark. It always fades. It's left to the two to keep it together. Marriage is not for the weak Sir.

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  69. Am so sad with this divorce thing every time

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  70. It's like going on a journey and you take the wrong turn. Rather than turn around, you continue in the wrong track, praying and hoping you get to your desired destination. Unfortunately, you end up wherever you end up because you are afraid of what people will say blah blah blah. Those who want to get to their "desired" destination will turn around and go back to start again. That is what life is all about.

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  71. Children are more damaged in marriages where the spouses have no love, respect and regard for each other because parents are the first examples of what life should be for a child. When children grow up where there is no love, trust, respect or regard for the closest person to them, what kind of adult will they grow up to be. Do we now wonder why we are ALL the ways we are?

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  72. it just a pity, that's all I can say!

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  73. So y did u file for divorce if she's amazing

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  74. I dont know you very well JB but in MY OPINION you guys need to go back to the drawing board and find a way to resolve your issues.
    Running from her to possibly marry someone else in the future will not make your problems go away.
    Sleeping with different women while telling lies will not make the fundamental issues go away.
    You think you can be all lovey dovey 24/7??? Then youre immature and didnt know what marriage was about when you entered.
    For all the men out there, including the single ones who think sticking their penis into every available vagina is cool, flirting with women is cool or think theyre having the time of their life, think again!
    You have your own problems and each time you lay down with another woman you pick up some of her baggages. Think!
    I dont know why celebrities think that after theyve made some small change, able to buy a brand new car, take a lady out for dinner and their name be recognised in town for all the wrong reasons, feel that theyve made it in this life.
    We have male whores just as we do female ones.
    You celebrities really make me sick. To be honest, I think theres a curse amongst nigerian celebs. And instead of all of you to be wise and chase God in regards your relationships, noooo. You all believe in what will be will be. Immitate good things for crying out loud.
    I wish I could list some celebs here but from, actors to actresses to singers to producers, you all have issues.
    JB, youre going to suffer greatly for this move. Remember, on judgement day you shall be asked about this relationship.

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  75. Why is everyone making it seem as if divorce is reserved for celebrities. The rest of the lay world is busy divorcing too. The only difference is that because of a celebrity's public presence, their issues become known to all and sundry. If both parties do not make up their minds to make a thing work, it won't no matter what the other party says or what we say. If he wants to make things work and she doesn't or vice versa, how will it? These kinds of decisions aren't easy to make for anyone involved, so I have nothing to say except good luck to them.

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  76. Bros if u said she's an amazing person then why leaving her tho do u think there's a r/ship that is so perfect ans is NO there's not all R/ships n marriages are being managed its all about understanding although I'm nt married yet but I have to chip in dis if u love her then bring her back I dunno why u actors/actresses can't stay ina marriage for so long except few ppl

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  77. Joseph, i ve read through and i see a lot of people begging u not to divorce and some saying how ur wife has stood by u. I don't knw ur wife and i only see u on TV, i wnt to join them to beg u, drop ur pride, ego or whatever. Sit for a moment and think abt ur life and that of ur children critically, think abt where u started from and where u hope to be in future. Remeber its God that has kept u alive and has also given u the power to make wealth. Think abt d fact that u wrong him everyday, he still loves u and he still forgives u. Why then ll u now refuse to forgive ur wife and love her the way christ loves u? I like u so much! Am ur biggest fan. I never knew u were married though but u broke my heart when i just read the headline. Pls ve a rethink.

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