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Monday 20 January 2014

'I read blog comments and it depresses me" Halima Abubakar says

The actress admitted in a new interview with The Netng that she reads stories about herself on blogs and the comments make her sad and depresses her.
That’s like physical bullying. Online, they are invisible. I believe if you have a problem with me, you should approach me. But if you go online and comment as anonymous or use a strange name, you are still bringing yourself down. Yes, you would make me feel sad, but the damage will not be permanent, but temporary until I am strong enough not to read those comments again. I am going to say it that I am not one of those actresses that say they don’t read blogs. I do. I have been reading blogs for the past five years or so, but I have never commented. Sometimes I am pushed to insult everybody there and comment under anonymous. But then I tell myself, well, they would always remain anonymous while I stay relevant. And so, I bear most of the insults and try not to be bothered about them. It was not easy. I was depressed for a long time because of things like that. I just felt that people didn’t like me. I didn’t understand how people could still hate me even when I know I am one of the nicest people in Nollywood. Continue...
I am not disrespecting anybody, I am just saying that even if someone has hurt me several times, I will still be nice to the person. People just go ahead and bash me for no reasons. They don’t even know me and they are saying this and that. Before, I will cry and cry and get depressed. But now, I don’t even bother myself anymore. They don’t know what I’m going through and they don’t know my story.

Which of the stories would you say hurt you the most?
Amongst the many, there was one referring to people who patronize a particular hotel on the island with a politician, and my name was the headline of the publication. If you are saying you saw Halima, then you should have proof. I have never visited that hotel called Four Points. I had my premiere at Oriental Hotel. If I wanted to use Four Points I would have. I hate it when the media knowingly writes things that are not true. They know they are lying but they still go ahead to write because of the pull down syndrome. If you are friends of these selected people, they can make their own people hate you. Before you know it, the person will be writing nonsense and gossiping about you. Love is not like that. Just because you don’t love me shouldn’t be an excuse to attack me. You don’t know the things that I go through everyday. I don’t know everybody’s problems but I know mine. So, it is unfair that they will take whatever frustration out on other people for no reason.

146 comments:

  1. Babe.....there is need to develop thick skin.....people will always talk.....

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    1. Eyaaaa pele dear bt dis is wat comes wit being a celeb so d best thing is to develop a thick skin...read if u must read bt dnt let it get to u nd move on....bin able to comment on blogs is jst a way of sayin wats on their minds bout dat person or issue since Dere's no other way. So read d comments nd bone dnt let it get to u...jst kip bin d nice person u are...stay blessed.

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  2. Babe.....there is need to develop thick skin.....people will always talk.....

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  3. Good for you, you need a thick skin if you wanna survive show business. Hilary Obiorah

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  4. Haven't u heard? NEVER read. The comments if nt u will commit suicide. We hv a way of making all ur hardwork meaningless. Our mouth (abi fingers) is/are FOUL! Lol

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  5. Pele..you will be alright...
    Yemiayaba....

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  6. Pele be on gud behavior dat is de many tin don't let dat so call celeb tin get ova ur head period dat is my advice..Steadyman Say So...

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  7. That is the price you pay for being a celeb.....

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  8. Halima I remain your number one fan. They will always hate but pay no heed cos that is their life. Live yours to the fullest my Love. Komi da locancin sa!

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  9. My dear,always bear in mind that no matter how nice u are that everybody will not like u. Haters must be there,so don't allow some useless comments to bother u.

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  10. She will keep on getting depressed cos blogs will always be there



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  11. I think u shld stop surfing thru blogs Halima,cos pple will alwz talk N u won't be able 2 stop dem N dis comments will alwz get 2 u

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  12. Eyaa ndo. The comments are meant to correct your excesses. Take a cue from Rita Dominic, Genevieve Nnaji and Joke Silva. How many times have you read bad comments about them?

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    1. Yimu @Genevieve...Gene dt LIB can tlk down within a second. Wu cant dey deal with?

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  13. Is that why she dey bleach??????

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    1. N dat is ur business how? Is dat why u refused to graduate?

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    2. She's complaining about u n ur friend's hurtful comments....u retard

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    3. Lol @ anon 4:20 n gbenqa u qot me lafin.

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    4. @gbenga shut up and u dis halima abi wetin dey call u sef why won't have enemies? Cos u jt created new set of enemies what do u mean by I have never bn to dat hotel call four point? as if u can afford it tomao d owner of d hotel wil see U and insult u next thing dat will come out of ur mouth is bt am a nice person, my dear watch what u say

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    5. Common quenncy,she ve never bin there is that a prob,did she say anytin bad abt the hotel,she was only trying to prove a point.O chim ooo

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  14. Lol... i feel u dear.. d insults i got frm lindas giveaway post till deprezsez me...imagin sumbdy callin me a wretched goat ???chai !jst ignor dem !

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    1. So 4 ur mind u be celeb...ode

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    2. Godwin u b fool I swear

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    3. Buhabuhabuhahaakikikikikwakwakwaaaaa. Choi! Libers go kill me and Linda with laughter. Bia Godwin is mkpi, bonario don put spit for your mouth!

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  15. Eyaa sorry dear. One fin u must kn is dat dis bloqqers thriveon concocted lies dey spew coz of patronaqe. I luv ur word dey will always b anonymous while u remain relevant. Learn 2 iqnore n develop a thick skin. Remember, until ur talked abt, u r nobody.

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  16. My dear u r a celebrity,dats d price u pay for being a public figure.

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  17. ehyaaa pele, she must be a frequent lib reader..lol libers cn use comment to end some ppl's career bt i love dem still.. abu sorry o

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  18. It's the price of fame, whether you do or you no do, all join!

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  19. That is stardom for you.
    As a celebrity, you enjoy the advantages and learn to deal with the disadvantages.

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  20. Dont mind those lowlife anonymous. Te bitterness in their life is oo much. They are all frustrated. Move on jare

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  21. Eeeya. But you still have so many people who loves u that includes me.

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  22. Advice: don't listen to what people gotta say about you be yourself #bright bravo#

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  23. I feel for her... U just have to be strong dear... U are a celebrity and those are the disadvantages of bin a celeb.. Don't let that bring u down! Be who u are and appreciate urself... Xoxo

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  24. wow it is real you can make money online http://2cashsite.com/?id=121261

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  25. abeg madam take a seat.i used to love u for ur bring humble n free with every one until u blocked me on twitter for no reason since then I stopped being a fan.

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    1. And here u are lamentin and u will continue lamenting

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  26. yes....many of us pass comment and judge others as if we are perfect and better then them

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  27. Eyaaa pele...brace up girl it hurt mor wen u dot acept critic.EBY

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  28. That is why you should not allow it get to you. And the anonymous bashing you will keep remaining anonymous. Oh well, that's the price you pay for fame. Beware of frenemies around you too

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  29. its called showbiz so sulk it up!

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  30. Paradoxically, im a girl u cn neither tangle wit nor tk 4 granted. I'm latently lucid, legal and lethal. I hate it wen ppl comment or say things abt me dat I didn't do. Im sorry Halima, I understand how u feel

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    1. Who did you say you are again?

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    2. Kunaka..... supu....

      You're latently lucid, legal and lethal.

      Ana eme nu....

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  31. Halima dnt mind them jor, u fine.

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  32. Eyah, Pele Halima note that not everybody will say good thing about you.

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  33. Thanks God people are talkin about u and that makes u a star,so many people want this but dunno how to start......u cant blame bloggers or whatever they also have to eat......and for we liber's we catch fun with this and also we makes u guy more popular

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  34. Halima dear am not ur fan but i feel ur pain just grow a thick skin discipline urself not to read blogs again bikooooo we still need u around here.

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  35. N she's ryt o ,even if u're d most beautiful n richest gal in dey world, people will still talk n insult u, dats y there is dis thing call patient, Haters u're on ur own.

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  36. Halima don't mind bunch of haters. I still love u. God knows how to reward everyone of us.

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  37. hmmm......Halima so you're one of the nicest person in Nollywood??? let's do the talking ourselves !! you dont need to blow your trumpet! @ the pple writing about you..... you should be use to such by now na!

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    1. I wonder o. What's she feeling like sef?mcheew

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    2. I wonder o. What's she feeling like sef?mcheew

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    3. U ar very stupid ajanaku.aja lo mo je enu e.who no u? Bitch

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    4. Idiot. Like some one u will never be till death

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    5. @anonymous3:20 and 4:25 na una go still hide name call her names na u are acting like u are innocent stupid people hissssss

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  39. Don't mind dem.na so lyf b

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  40. Well my dar dt mind.always do wat ever u knw is right

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  41. Eehyah.. Depression is the new pity. Cyber bullying is bad.. All i can say is develop a thick skin.Like u said, they will remain anonymous while u remain "relevant". I'm out.

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  42. Who is she??? Who ever she is, she just made the situation worse. Swthrt, u should have just shutup.

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    1. You self shutup, who kwn u too...elenu of african!!

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  43. People most talk talk..so u most get power to collect al plenty talk..no kill ursef babe.

    C.E.O

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    1. C.E.O of all gbagaun writers.

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    2. Wu is dis Ajanaku sef? Before she resemble The lords chosen member

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  44. Pls tell all d haterz of our time. Don't mind em boo. But d truth is, if people don't talk about u, then u ain't popular yet. Leave em to keep publishing false stories, they are only making u popular, that's y I love ma linda ikeji blog. She gives u real facts.

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  45. Heya! I feel ur pain Halimah, Linda u pple shld Biko free this lady now! If u like dnt post my comment.

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  46. Watin she de open body up nd down 4 dis age!!! Marketer..

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    1. She's better dan most of y'all dt criticize her and quite frankly she's judged wrongly. I've really loved u halima,still do,you'r one of d best few dere is.

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  47. Girl pls stop reading pple comment 4 they ar either fristratd abt dere lives and dont kno hw 2 handle their own situation, so they turn on innocent ple like you. Wipe ur tears and move on.

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  48. Eeya, sorry, just stop reading comments cuz you will see what you dnt want to see, pple will always talk and they won't always be in your favour

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  49. Eeeyaaaah pele. first to comment

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  50. People dont hate u cos of ur acting rather cos of ur mode of dressing and the impression u craete

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  51. As long as ur a celebrity, ppl will always talk. It comes wit d title, u shuld just get used to it. U shuld see d direct msg on most celebrities instagram pages which they even see always. Very very annoying.
    Just manage......
    It will not pass

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  52. I loved where she said "just because u don't love shouldn't be an excuse to attack me" very true ..... I read some comments here and I wonder how some pple sleep at night with so much hate . however, Halima, I can only pray and hope u ignore cos cyber bullying wont stop .... its actually here to stay ... God help us!

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  53. Halima Dear, dont mind them baby, as long as God is blessing u, they dont exist, the more they pull u down, the more God elevates u.

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  54. Nne Pls don't mind dem, if dey don't talk abt u like dis, u won't be popular and known dear. So be happy dat d media helps in promoting u by rubbishing ur image dear. Take care and have a nice day. Stop crying and smile 4 d media.

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  55. D way U act is nt nice 2 me look @ u nw u re bleaching y? I don't just like ur way mtcheeeeeeeew

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    1. Ewu wot wit u and bleaching..itz available in plenty stores,u can buy one 4 urself buu oops I 4got,no mata hw many times u bleach u wil stil remain so black dat itz hard 4 pipo to c u

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  56. Canceling GEJ visit 2 canada It has noting 2 do GEJ nd nigeria people canada Gov. Nd the rest countrys supporting Gay wherever u re go 2 hell turnder will fire u evil people accident will kill d remaining of Gay nd lesbians people Amen... Hmmm Oyiiboo, na wa for u ooooooo!

    U asked us to wear coat under hot sun, we did! U said we should speak ur language, we obediently dump ours! U asked us to tie a rope round our necks like goats, we obeyed! U said our ladies should wear dead people's hair instead of the natural ones God gave to them, they obeyed. U said we should marry just one woman in the midst plenty damsels, we reluctantly obeyed! U said our decent girls should wear catapults instead of the conventional pants, they obeyed! Now u want our men to sleep with fellow men AND women with fellow women so that God would visit us like Sodom! Nd gomorah Oyinbo, we say tufiakwa! If u like keep your aids &supports. As Nigerians we say NO to GAY nd lesbianism relationships/Marriage
    Let me say it again canada USA. Nd d rest countrys people who support Gay both badoo of toronto, christy fischer. they should go 2 hell turnder will fire u people if u do nt repaint accident will kill d remaining Gay nd lesbian people wherever u re Amen.. the Bible hv said it u should nt resist devil...

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    1. Tani eleyi? Where u fall from? Planet I dnt exist?

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    2. Tani eleyi? Where u fall from? Planet I dnt exist?

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  57. Sista Halima eya sorri o, take heart, such is life.

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  58. Halima Dear, dont mind them baby, as long as God is blessing u, they dont exist, the more they pull u down, the more God elevates u.

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  59. What I'll just say is Expect the BEST. Prepare for the WORST. Forget what others THINK.


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  60. People should learn and stop insulting stars cus i know if u given an opportunity,una go definitely do worse. Go get a life pple and stop hating. Leave them to live their lives or beta still go act or sing sef.

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  61. ℓ̊ feel ur pain Halima but you're exposing yourself 2 more insults by doing this. If people don't talk about U̶̲̥̅̊ then U̶̲̥̅̊'re nobody. U̶̲̥̅̊ can't force people 2 like U̶̲̥̅̊. To say U̶̲̥̅̊'re one of d nicest in nollywood isn't going 2 change people's opinion about U̶̲̥̅̊. These things are supposed 2 make U̶̲̥̅̊ stronger. ℓ̊ like ur personality but come on, U̶̲̥̅̊ don't need this.

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  62. SOrry o I know I am one of those people... but if you are nice we don't see it all we see are pics of you either showing your ass or cleavage or car or one of those things. so the comments you read are inline with what you show about you.

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  63. Sorrry, dear, it's just one of the prices you need to pay when you are famous. The insults will keep coming as long as you making more money.

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  64. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm SPEECHLEZZ!!!!!!!!

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  65. Linda u hear lol,but all those people commenting under annoymous dis message is for u,this people are human's too,if some1 acuses u of what u don't know about will u be happy?it's touching nt or stories are tro,so many celeb coment under annoymous just to bring their Colleagues down.

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  66. sorry dear, but the insults can't stop. It's just the prices you need to pay when you are famous.

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  67. This is deep.staight from the heart.Thick skin is all u nid 2stay focused coz hateful comments n false info by bloggers hv come 2stay.stay lifted!

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  68. So true. I knw a friend who has met her. She is really a nice person. It is well Halima. Xx

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  69. Halima Dear, dont mind them baby, as long as God is blessing u, they dont exist, the more they pull u down, the more God elevates u.

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  70. Eya sori, but why's her ass like dat, it like a table

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  71. Don't mind dem sweety....pple will always hate no matter wat u do...Ur backside is not looking bad tho *bulge on ma boxers*

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  72. I think she is very right. You don't just blab about people to get attention to yourself !!!! There's more to life than that..

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  73. Nmtchew sometimes people just dislike a particular person not for any reason but because they just don't they don't need to know you so and truth be told........i don't like you and your movies....well i don't even care to watch

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  74. Eyaah! I feel her pains.people were jst mean.every body dat stay under anonymous to do evil tins ll remain der forever.

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  75. Dont allow it darling! You re hawt! Haters back off!!!

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  76. Funny enough your so called friends are the ones hiding under anonymous to write rubbish about you.Your co actress. I have witness one. And I want to really ask a question. Does the producers or directors of nigeria movies encourage these actresses to lighten up their skin? Cus I watched a movied this girl was dark and I saw another one she was so light. I don't really get it.you girls don't get paid well cus of your dark complextion? Curiousity//.net

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  77. You are alwaz half naked and u dont wanna b depressed? naaaa it doesnt wrk lik dt. lool

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    1. Kill her na and prepare rice wit he meat. U dat covered up. Wit cheap satin who knw u? Abeg carry ur coloured skin move

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  78. eyaa my dear people most talk oo.wether online or not.just be strong

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  79. Its better you dont read, hard as it seems

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  80. my dear, i like you, but if you don't want to develop HBP, then stop reading comments,if people like Beyonce and Kim have been reading comments, they would have commited suicide. Beyonce said, she only reads the article but not the comments because she know they are hateful comments. you better develop thick skin in order to survive in the entertainment industry, am sure your close friends also comment under annonymous.

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  81. I really like u Halima Abubakar.. its well, just brace urself and remember God love u the most. u r a very nice person dat I believe. takia of u

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  82. Well, i will commend you, at least you are honest and admitted reading our comments :) Most of them say they don't read our comments but we all know it is a big lie! :)

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  83. Halima u don't no wat's making u depressed.. Check urself, u r suffering rm low self esteem.. Nobody can make u feel bad unless u choose 2b depressed.. Dat's y i luv linda she don't complain good or bad she approve our comments.. Halima go check ya self. Diz comment is approved! ₹*vv*₹

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  84. I luv u Halima! a bunch of other people luv u also, so forget d haters

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  85. Please Halima, do not loose your sleep because of haters. Be strong and do what you got to do to make you happy

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  86. My dear,always bear in mind that no matter how nice u are that everybody will not like u. Haters must be there,so don't allow some useless comments to bother u..dats a price 2 pay 4. Bein a celeb...pele.

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  87. U no bi human being,so people go alway talk about u 4 sure . But if u want make them stop go kill ur self. Mr_ Melvin- say so

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  88. Sorry ooO but I don't think it shld bother you.

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  89. Foolish girl, y are u acting like a saint? If dey said u were at four point u were dere noni. Who doesn't know all u actresses who run after men to exchange your body for cloths and shoes. I can dig one of ur horrible romance with femi awofeso . Married man with kids and so many I don't wanna mention. Pls dnt try to seek pity from pole dats d price u pay for being a celeb .

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  90. @swaggs isimeme abeg go bk to skool biko wat re u sayin??? Fish brain!!

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  91. Continue be yourself and stop thinking or depress about what pple are saying, mind u, u are a celeb, it will not stop them from Talking about u.ligaligali ko kan e, ohun to ba wu won ni kan so. Big up pls.

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  92. Go and get a normal day job then. Get over yourself and just be confident and secure in your choices no matter what we anonymous say. They just words.

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  93. Halima do not worry about people's bad mouth and hate words. I like u and ur acting even tho I havnt seen u in person. And I agree with some pple who said 'it comes wit being a celeb'. Maybe try not to read blogs about urself. It sure can be depressing. Good luck.

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  94. I love u harlina

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  95. Haba Halima! You're taking this abit too personal and you speak like someone with very low self esteem. Why are you rubbing your being the nicest in nollywood and all that on our face? Like you're actually trying so hard to be nice. Are you begging people to like you? Please be yourself! If you're truely a nice and lovable person,people will love you effortlessly.although cerrtainly not all,but a greater percentage

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  96. Haba Halima! You're taking this abit too personal and you speak like someone with very low self esteem. Why are you rubbing your being the nicest in nollywood and all that on our face? Like you're actually trying so hard to be nice. Are you begging people to like you? Please be yourself! If you're truely a nice and lovable person,people will love you effortlessly.although cerrtainly not all,but a greater percentage

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  97. Celebrity is a tin dat comes wit fame and pain, tot u alrdy knew dat by. Now u enjoy d fame part nw is d pain part u jes hv 2deal wit. We are humans n we cnt change d way certain pple tink us or stop dem 4rm tokin. .

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  98. Allah will not change the condition of people until they change what is in themselves . Surat AR Raad 13 : 11 Quran

    Maybe when you repent and cover yourself things may change

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  99. Sorry about that Halima. Go and sleep, you will be alright with our comments by the time you are awake. ..Nonsense ,as if she's the only acrtress that gets negative comment.

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  100. If people don't talk about you then you are nothing just leave your life on and don't mind the comments

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  101. The price u pay 4 being a celeb but keep ya head up tho

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  102. Heeeya sowie,.......... Linda u don come wit dis ur scaring theme again*faint*
    *adefunke*

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  103. @halima, dahz naija 4 u, dey will olwayz say rubbish abt celebrities xpecially bloggers buh i no my linda is not among d pple dat say rubbish....most of d pple dat comment on diz blogs r kids dey jux say waheva dey lyk....nd if u wanna kip moving jux shun! Ol doz rubbish dey r saying dahz wat it takes to be a celebrity in naija....sori dear....#naija..[not saying]...few say so *via federal government*...

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  104. Absolute trash!local champion feeling like a celeb!nicest person in nollywood indeed! Who told u dat?puleez get a life!

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  105. all u haters hiding under anonymous 2 insult pple, pls dnt kill Halima d way u pple killed Goldie with ur hateful comments

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  106. I'LL STOP INSULTING HER WHEN SHE STOPS TAKING PICTURES OF HER BUTTOCKS AND POSTING IT ONLINE LIKE A PROSTITUTE/RUNZ GIRL

    I DONT LIKE TONTO TOO. THIS HER NEW STRTEGY CANT DECEIVE ME . FUCK EMM BOTH

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  107. @GODWIN.....U got me laffing. Hahahaha. So u see, Do unto others as u wld hv dem do unto u.

    Eya Halima......Kpele ooooo.
    Firstly, U just cant stop d hateful comments. Develop a thick skin just like u said.
    Secondly portray positive/mature pictures of urself online, not negative ones....
    NOTE: Everybody CANNOT like u

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  108. take a que from Toke Makinwa,she actually loves been written about,it has given her undeserved fame and its working for her. no talent but popular#kim kardashian tinz#

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