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Dear LIB readers: Where's the best place to meet single, available men in Lagos?

From a female LIB reader:
Can you ask your male readers the best places and ways to meet single available men?
I last went on a decent date like 4 years ago & after returning to Nigeria from my postgrad it's been a major struggle getting to meet handsome, inspiring cool guys. Men who like outdoor sports, hiking & camping, the beach swimming or building their own kitchen cabinets. I work in the middle of a financial and IT hub on the island with numerous banks and telecom offices around, I see some good looking guys occasionally when I go out to lunch but that's where it ends. With most of my friends not in the country and others married & busy with their families, having a girls night out is like pulling tooth from the very few available female friends I have got left. I have lately been getting the wrong attention from men I don't like even though I tried keeping them as platonic friends which never works out, till I realized I have not being proactive in choosing the men that approach me but yet I keep complaining and I want to change all that. Please help
at 6/09/2013 03:53:00 pm

261 comments:

  1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 15:56

    First to comment????#d.

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:27

      The only place to meet men is lagos weddings, go to weddings for 6 months. Constant, u shall be approached by at least 25

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    2. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:32

      I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ dat your advice ?try α̲̅πϑ grow up little 1

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    3. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:37

      Yo bitches, I'm the first. *throws confetti*
      Back to the post, babe attend a wedding or something. #d

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    4. Unknown9 June 2013 at 16:54

      Now you didn't even drop a link as to how you can be reached. My uncle got back to Nigeria not quite long and complained about the few girls he went out on a date with. He said it's either they demand too much money, or bring their girls along, or demand more than what they can eat from the menu. He desires to meet someone who doesn't have these mentalities. Reach me via juliedaknight_008@yahoo.com and I'd link you guys up.

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    5. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:17

      What comment did u make that u're shouting first to comment.

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    6. MRS AHDAISY JAYDE JIDEONWO9 June 2013 at 18:08

      What a question
      I met my husband a virgin and in a holy place too
      Poster I hope ure still a virgin
      If ure not I advise u to rededicate ur life and shun sex till u find d man
      U sound too desperate
      I got married @ 20 and am sure ure in ur late 30s
      I wish u what u wish urself

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    7. Wale Hearts9 June 2013 at 18:16

      Whoop whoop! Let's pop Ribena for this achievement. Lol.

      How to Make your own natural exfoilating scrub at home

      See the list of Nigerian celebrities who own a Bentley

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    8. June9 June 2013 at 18:26

      (((Buys Pop-corn & Two bottles of Viju Milk)))

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    9. Gbabe9 June 2013 at 19:58

      For you to be in this type of a dilemma, it means you ain't pretty! I get more than 5 toasters everyday, from bus drivers to checkers on the train.

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    10. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 21:19

      My sis, there's no single available men, everyone is boo'ed up..na yamayama dey available, cos the good ones are taken..So snatch someone's boyfriend or husband to be todayyyyy..lmao..

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    11. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 21:38

      "Men who like outdoor sports, hiking & camping, the beach swimming or building their own kitchen cabinets"
      This one na american movie oo..lol The guys in this country are as dry as panla fish, no romantic blood in their veins, and na only beer parlour dem sabi..so snatch those good ones you see around todayyy! Lmao

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    12. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 21:45

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    13. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:27

      u can meet them on 2go... There r a lot of single guys there if u don't mind.

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    14. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 23:39

      You see Linda, I don't understand why you refuse to post my comment here..oga gan o. My sis, no single available guys, they good ones are all taken, so snatch someone's boyfriend or ----- todayyy..Lol

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  2. Meest Me9 June 2013 at 15:58

    ok...Nigerian men? do outdoor sports, hiking & camping, the beach swimming or building their own kitchen cabinets? I don't think so...yea, maybe a few of wat u listed, bt they are 2 busy workin 4 their money.My dear, i think u are living in d world u built 4 urself while overseas...Wakey wakey....! Naija guys no dey do such o...

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    1. hhb9 June 2013 at 16:47

      "hiking & camping, the beach swimming or building their own kitchen cabinets" LMAO!!!this had me in stitches! Hiking and camping? Oh sister, you're too funny!

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    2. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:55

      Lol. Of course they hike, from Isolo to mushin in bathroom slippers, I see them all the time. Camping nko? Of course under Awolowo round about bbqing Suya. My dear lib lady in distress you are looking for men readily available. They just may not be Yankee jjc like you. Lol. Totally unrealistic....carry go jor.

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    3. ugo9 June 2013 at 17:24

      Correct

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    4. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:53

      Naaah, I think she's just bn honest wt herself. I do n love most of the things on her list but here's the thing, girls like these will prolly judge me just by looking at me n categorise me as not her type. So it will appear she hasn't met who she wants even after months of bn pals.
      I think she shd befriend those she has zoned and hope she finds one dt loves d things she likes. It tks time n openness

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    5. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:57

      You took d words out of my mouth.The babe dey Jones!

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    6. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:03

      You took d words out of my mouth.The babe dey Jones!

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    7. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 21:25

      When they are not working nko? They hang out too, I say no single responsible dude se! Those ones you see at private beaches,those who play golf are married men o jare.. And dem dey leave their wife for house carry girlfriends go..snatch person own todayyyyy.. Nobody sholud insult me oo ehnnn!
      Hahahahah!

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    8. Unknown9 June 2013 at 23:09

      Anon 4:55, you are wicked.. You really got me in stitches..

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    9. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 23:43

      Anonymous, it's funny to you right? I tell am oo, na american movie I dey see this one wey she dey talk..lol..Maybe she don watch their movies too much..cos na only beer parlour naija guys sabi oo..lol

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    10. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 03:35

      She's definitely coming for urs #badt advice (vickie)

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  3. BLOGLORD (MVBM)9 June 2013 at 15:59

    hmnnn...let me hear from the men and advice my lil cousins same. hehehhehe.

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    1. PowehNg9 June 2013 at 17:38

      Funny you....
      Boredom is something else, try any of this places: churches, clubs, soccer viewing centers,.....and probably on linda's blog or Unilag's gate

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  4. BONARIO NNAGS9 June 2013 at 16:00

    u go fear question,I pray u don't fall prey to kidnappers.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Sweetest Honey9 June 2013 at 17:33

      Go Yaba Left! *RollingEyes*

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    2. Sweetest Honey9 June 2013 at 17:37

      Go Yaba Left! *RollingEyes*

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    3. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:46

      Hahahahahhahaha, oboi no be small kidnappers, shey na dating site format ds gurl they drop for here, my dear go and register on match.com

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  5. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:02

    Call charlez B. He will help u.

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    1. ammy9 June 2013 at 17:02

      I met my husband in d banking hall when I went 2 transact some business.So my dear u can meet ur man anywhere once it is God's time.

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  6. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:03

    Wait for jesus
    •Estrano Lala

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  7. jimmy9 June 2013 at 16:05

    just call 08185063488. i need a good wife, as in urgently. serious

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:45

      Yeah....u need a rich wife...obviously.

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    2. I REPLY9 June 2013 at 17:04

      I hope dis not ur real number, cus u go get calls taya 2day, especially pple dat wud add u on 2go, u mite be forced 2 change ur number soon sorry o marrier

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    3. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:31

      Jimmy how desperate can you get. Na you wey be the main kidnapper

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    4. Mrs. bloglord9 June 2013 at 20:07

      This here is extreme thirst!! It shows signs of struggle bro! Signs of struggle indeed. In answer to the above,my dear,there's no sarcastic answer,I'll just be straight with you. Forget the mall. Airports work once in a while. That fakeness at shoprite or wherever it is you go to,forget it,men hate that. Well at least if I'm a guy I'd be repulsed.don't spend for a man,no real man wants that. Make sure u laff genuienly..no carry face for mall tho,*ur luck mite be different* if I'm a man,I think I'll be attracted to a fine girl at the mall,decently dressed and kind (to the clerk,waiter,ticket girl or just the next person on the line)

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    5. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:42

      See this broda Jimmy o..na why you come display your no like this? Ashewo, onijekuje, wonbiliki wobia, gbewiri, arobo yoh...y'all know me but I wnt display my name.. Yay! I'm having fun..

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    6. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:44

      See this broda Jimmy o..na why you come display your no like this? Ashewo, onijekuje, wonbiliki wobia, gbewiri, arobo yoh...y'all know me but I wnt display my name.. Yay! I'm having fun..

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  8. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:11

    My dear eventually when you get the one u think he is good they will always put up some good dramer!make yourself happy and put your trust in God to provide you with a good man(ie 30%) as most of them is same same.
    I just cried out my eyes this afternoon coz of my BF only for him to turn out trying to play smart with me.
    Crazy world and Men

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:01

      I'm sorry. I couldn't help, but to keep silence.

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    2. semillia9 June 2013 at 18:23

      U have to build ur own man cos there is no already made single guy at there.don't be deceive.most sucessful men out there,there is always a girl behind it.I think a hard working guy,God fearing and an ittelegent guy will do

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    3. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 03:39

      True talk (vickie)

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  9. ★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★9 June 2013 at 16:14

    Clubs!! Maybe weddings too.

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  10. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:15

    Go stand for oshodi or Allen,u go see husband

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  11. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:17

    Church

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  12. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:21

    Lady! Ur criteria too much na. U go fear list anyway just becareful sha on ur quest

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  13. bibbz9 June 2013 at 16:21

    Go to nice dance clubs.. Polo club...boat club, The Place at Lekki. Or go to the bar at 4points..Beehive lekki. Try Get arena. If I hear say u no see man wey fine... Except if dem dey follow u from ur village. :)

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    1. I REPLY9 June 2013 at 17:09

      Bibbz u know all dis places na wa market dey move 4 u well well o...

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    2. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:21

      Wicked soul.does re d worst places to meet normal guys.

      *runaway 4rm TJ SARO! Sha

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    3. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:03

      She's looking for a hubby material not all dos aristos and players @ Polo and boat clubs.Those people you just listed are the most unserious set of men in Lagos.They like undergraduates dt has lots of friends for their club mates.They don't want nothing serious,they only want to get inbtw ur legs,put u in a cab n prob never remember your name again.

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    4. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 21:43

      Person go knw say you don tail for the game..Iyalaya runz girl..lol

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    5. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:30

      Lollers of LIFE!!!!
      TJ: He's everywhere u never Der!!!!!!!!!!!! I die overturn

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  14. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:22

    Some of those whom you think the wrong ones you meet might make the best hubbies ever. U r lukin for d handsome, tall n well to do in d pocket physically. Luk beyond, wen u. See d one who adores u, u will know n if such a one have got some level of 'capacity' n moreso strivin; u too must realise that it can only get beta with such person. Luk for a handsome heart not jus luks.Besides, u too should strive to possess beauty on d inside not jus ur luks; dnt ask for wot u can't offer.

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:46

      Best comment ever....... :)

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    2. Makeover by T.E.J.U9 June 2013 at 18:04

      Anon 4.22 ... You just made the perfect sense,so true,lol, u shud write a book.....by d way, met one from lib,like he stalkd from ere...and didnt give up till it started,it was good,but ended shortly, fink he messed up... i messed up tho...#sips ribena.

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    3. Anna9 June 2013 at 20:45

      @Anonymous 4:22pm, u'v said it all

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    4. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 06:04

      Gbam! No more commet anonymous 4:22 as said it all .

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  15. bbdatouch9 June 2013 at 16:23

    Players i hate guyz

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  16. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:24

    voodoo bar, eleguishi beach

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:57

      Shes not looking for small touts abeg

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  17. Unknown9 June 2013 at 16:24

    Well am so much available ...... 100% single...also looking for a cool place to meet a good looking lady.. Ready for a serious relationship.. NOTE #OLOSHO KEEP OFF....

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:53

      Do you build your own kitchen cabinets tho?

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  18. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:26

    Come to think of it ngr men don't do outdoors,dey do indoors(sex,sex,sex)if dey want outdoors dey call dia guyz...assholes,better go bk go do anoda degree.

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  19. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:27

    Redemption Camp. Come to church

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  20. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:28

    This same question came from a female colleague who just relocated to NG from UK. I think there are a few options. Lagos (esp VI, Ikoyi, Ikeja) Clubs are almost a sure bet when you do the right things, lounges such as Ziggies in Magodo, private beaches like Elegushi, Oniru, game centres like paintball game centre in Ogba, and a few other options. You need to present yourself the right way - You need to be flexible enough to look single and approachable, if a guy offers to buy you a drink, take the offer. Some guys are shy. If he asks a waiter or waitress to help drop his call card with you, take it and smile. Best wishes

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    1. Oluwadamilola9 June 2013 at 23:51

      You crazy??? Elegushi? oniru? You are not serious oo..very local places, where cat and dog go dey parry with you, dey follow you dey dance sef..

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  21. Unknown9 June 2013 at 16:29

    Just focus on your goals and dreams, the right man will find you.. Men can be very funny, once they realise you are kinda desperate, they take you for granted.. Act as if you're not bothered about your single status and you will see them swarm to you..

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  22. Ifyboy272b31209 June 2013 at 16:29

    Be who you are and where u want to be.....the right person will come looking for you...but u have to believe in your faith.

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  23. Unknown9 June 2013 at 16:30

    Come to ma church....lols

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  24. pallychuma9 June 2013 at 16:32

    kα̲̅γ̲̣̣̥ nah keep searching Ɣ☺ΰ‎​ go find...no go carry urlife do beta thing dey dia dey find ppl wey no dey find Ɣ☺ΰ‎​.

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  25. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:33

    In this part of the world,the men would rather settle for a woman who make them happy and can take care of their home.I have come to the realisation that no one is perfect and as such those things U crave might actually not suffice else U want a fake person.Dearie go for one who thinks of U as beautiful and adorable.

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  26. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:33

    Weddings, restaurants mayb.
    ~D great anonymous!

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  27. Queen Bee9 June 2013 at 16:35

    Depends on where u can afford to keep going patiently and the type of man u want to meet.else there are men everywhere eg agege busstop,under bridge,newspaper stand,township staduims, beer and ganga joints etc etc
    Tank u

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  28. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:38

    So tired of the dating game. Not α fan of short guys but due to bringing my criteria down, I dated them and after some months I get tired of the relationships due to their drama, obsessive attitude, immature men with no hrt(can't imagine seein α snake in my bf room, and he couldn't kill it but pushed me forward to), stingy guys who wants be to give them gifts. I am an indoor person, fun loving, christian,friendly and nice woman. I have α moderately good job, 27 this year and I need α serious guy to build my world with who will love and adore me for who I am. I don't mind trying dating again but can be stressful.

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:59

      Fuck! LMAO *wailing* he sent you to kill snake! And here I was thinking I have suffered in the relationship market. My dear it is well. Looool

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    2. LBM10 June 2013 at 00:45

      Well there are two things involved...either u r strong or u r ugly..

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  29. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:42

    Lol bonario biko. Which one is kidnap again? Lmsao. Ehn and you neglected to mention your age.

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  30. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:43

    Weddings, classes, church, clubs your estate or area go for a stroll once in a while if you drive yourself but, beware of kidnappers, ritualists, scammers and MARRIED MEN. But the best way is through mutual friends its safer and u know who u r dealing with.

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  31. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:43

    Ermmm...Swthrt u cld become a lesbian like moi..naija guy suck anyway and only a real woman cn give u evrytin u want.d dudes r jes busy chasin pussy to b concerned abt marriage..plus all d gud ones are taken and d ones left r eida hopeless or gay like uti..so be a lesbo and b hapi.luv u Linda.

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:01

      14 is a number, kiri kiri is not yanki prison. Behave.

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  32. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:44

    it's not easy my dear, just be careful for real.

    i tell u 90% of Lagos guys are hooked up.

    trust me i know exactly what i am talking about,

    so the best place for me if you are in Lagos o...
    Redeem church and Baptist church.

    you will surely find a better man there.
    any guy u meet for club na complete we re....

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  33. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:45

    Gal friend, like they say; '' time is money''. All naija men don't play with time... At the same time some workout time too, logon to social cummunity u meet some cool dude... Try and be young at heart, the secret of actraction...

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  34. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:47

    Wat about Abuja, mesef d find dem wella. Fnks 4 ur replies.

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  35. Oby Azike9 June 2013 at 16:47

    would be interesting to hear from the men

    obyazike.blogspot.co.uk

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  36. /229 June 2013 at 16:49

    Wow! God help ur search. The guys are everywhere, only u ain't looking right, or u looking for "physical value". Either way, take it easy and have a great life (with or without d guys). Cheers!!

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  37. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:51

    In all tings put ur trust and hope in God and above all be at the right place where u knw u can connect wit God at all tymes

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  38. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:53

    Adversity makes a man wise, not rich. If you wish good advice, consult an old man.

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  39. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:53

    For a guy I equally have same problem as well..returning back to Nigeria after working/schooling abroad its difficult finding intelligent girls that could hold a decent conversation. Most are "runs" girls, very myopic girls who think being exposed is wearing designer labels and the like or "not-take-me-to mama- type..very diFficult finding enterprising females in naija
    WeLl...I have met a few that were not bad though...

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    1. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:58

      You have not met me that's y u are saying all dis,never left the shores of naija but I know u can't stand my intelligence.AMA

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  40. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:53

    Another lady walking around with a checklist from God knows where. Who goes hiking and camping in naija these days? First get the correct checklist from the bible and use it to examine the men that are giving you attention...you don't know what God has in store for you.

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  41. IkwerreBoy9 June 2013 at 16:56

    sowi not in Nigeria, but what will be easy for you to get are those guys that will take you to club and spend more than 300k a night that's if you are pretty you know what I'm saying, afta the party na sex o! next day it is over if you are good and pretty maybe they will be happy to have you around for a month after that it is officially over. Then you can turn their sex slave they call you when they feel like shekina. Welcome back to Nigeria. Hike, climbing good dinner date sowi dear you won't see that. stop day dreaming.

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  42. MYRAYA SAYS9 June 2013 at 16:57

    Well,,,I also need to know cos am also in ur shoes... Am very pretty but single for a long time now *sighs*.. Libers pls answer truthfully...
    MYRAYA

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  43. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 16:57

    i no even need read am, a good man can be found any where.. you just have to be a good girl and the right dude will come by.

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  44. Unknown9 June 2013 at 17:05

    for wia u wan see nigerian man dat can fill in those gaps? If u don see lemme know ooooo

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  45. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:13

    Ds ur list long sha. I wish u goodluck and plus patience.

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  46. pallychuma9 June 2013 at 17:20

    They don talk say Ɣ☺ΰ‎​ dey use comment they do juju...still Ɣ☺ΰ‎​ don't want to change...juju woman if Ɣ☺ΰ‎​ like no post I don't care.

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  47. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:20

    I had to stop and comment on this..lol. My dear girl, you just described a white dude. Even me sef wey dey Yankee still, i have never met a black man talkless of a naija guy who does all that and for what, unless they only date white girls. I'm just saying. You done miss road o!! Please where in naija is there a group of pple hiking, na #kokowalk runs? with all the problems we have just to make a daily commute, na inside bush u wan waka stroll..lol.
    Why don't you just date a carpenter? his work requires him to be in the sun (outdoors guy), and he can build cabinets..see at least some of your requirements are met :). Hiking indeed!! Cabinet builder ko!!hahaha

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  48. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:28

    I could do a dissertation on this. But let me keep it short. You are obviously living in Lala land. I'm very sure you're fat, coz Naija guys like nice things. And if you were that great, someone would have snapped you up. So the first thing is to lose some weighty and pull yourself together...

    Then you're probably one of those girls that thinks u should be dating Boris kodjoe who also happens to make kitchen cabinets( like, what in Tarnation are u on about??? Kitchen cabinets?). I'm here to tell u that ur sadly mistaken. No one gives a damn where u went to school and what phD u might hold. In fact, it might work against u. So hide that info.

    Go out, smile, lose weight, shut up, and get back to me whenit works...



    You're welcome,

    Mama Ifu


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  49. James9 June 2013 at 17:35

    Girl, your criteria of an husband in Nigeria is unreal. Most qualities you mentioned are characteristics of white men or black men with western leanings. Please slow your roll.

    There are still good hard working men around but you have to stop chasing shadows and face reality. You are still heavy with youthful infatuations. Wake up!!!

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  50. Ady9 June 2013 at 17:36

    My dear u better pray to God to help u find ur man instead of all these ur long list,before u fall into d hands of preys o

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  51. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:40

    I think the best things is to go to God in prayer...have been dating this guy since my 1st year in the University while he was in his finals hoping that before I graduate he will be working and stuffs,he's now 37 am telling you no job and av finished for d past 3years also nothing too,am 28 already..and am hoping he'll get something doing to no avail he's just driving a bus that help pple to carry thr stuffs n can only feed his mouth with it..am also tired of waiting I just hope the grass will be greener on the other side..I just pray so...P.S--sorry to disturb u with my boring life...

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  52. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:44

    ℓ☺ℓ Bonario am sorry to say but that was one dumb comment you posted Lmao•••To the Girl you're probably in the wrong country because very few Nigerian Men engage in those activities you listed ℓ☺ℓ

    PRETTY GIRL

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  53. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:47

    Bia linda where do u get ur pictures from? u have pictures for every story dats nice :)

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  54. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:50

    Good question. You can find available men in Lagos in these places;Alaba,Idumota,Computer village,Yaba,Trade Fair complex and Iddo.Move from shop to shop as if you wan buy market till you see your Mr.Right then you become a regular visitor in his shop where you spend hours pretending to buy his goods after which you express your feelings. Best of luck.

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    1. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 08:22

      And did she tel u its a trader she wants?

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  55. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:53

    Try dem oyibo men wey be expatriate's dem go marry you fast to get dem Naija green, white, green card when u Don marry finish both of una go enjoy all these things u want. even to ride Crocodile na oyibo like these kin entertainment

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  56. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:53

    Allen...Husbands dey there on the regs!

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  57. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:54

    Alice it think u go like return to fantasy land o...make u chase rabbit enter hole again....do outdoor sports (go stadium), hiking & camping( invalid), the beach swimming ( weed smokers) or building their own kitchen cabinets( highly invalid)...no vex a bird at hand..u know d rest

    Royalnaire

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  58. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:58

    Pls send ur number and a message to my email, i know just where u'll find dat man. Adesuwa.ogbemudia@yahoo.com. God bless u

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  59. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 17:59

    U can meet a man in nightclub, supermarket, sports club, church, wedding, Lagos traffic, mama-put joint, fast-food eatery, mechanic's workshop etc...the list goes on. Naija men do not hike nor camp nor build kitchen cabinet. This is Africa, not Overseas!!! Look for a guy dat has character over looks, tho going for a gorilla-looking man ain't good! Anyway, don't make it a habit of looking for love. Live your life and let it come naturally! And beware of falling into the trap of dating married men as many do not wear their rings.

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  60. southern fried9 June 2013 at 18:01

    Clearly u dnt fit her criteria. Just say so and pass the mic.

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  61. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:02

    This bonario na mofo! Lmao. Kidnapper bawo.lOL

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  62. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:02

    All this pl3nty work hmmm... guess u r a reality tv instructor and hey ... whats the winners take home prize ... hike ko camp ni #mstchewww

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  63. 9jadeltapikin...9 June 2013 at 18:04

    Naijadeltapikin... Come Τ̅☺ ma village agoloma ma lovely state balyesa make U̶̲̥̅̊ come meet rich young α̲̅πϑ handsome oil whiskey guys. =))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º‎​=))

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  64. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:09

    No need looking, just snatch a man from a nearby woman.
    The woman you snatched the man from has already done the looking for you. Oloshi Oloriburuku. Who want to marry ashawo like you.

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    1. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 08:20

      Hahan Olopa ewo ni ti epe?

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  65. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:18

    Try the church, don't just attend, join a department.cinemas too especially weekends there are bound to be cool Guys.thank me later.*wink

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  66. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:23

    I don't know how old u are,but if u are u ur 20's, pls call 08179647812 I also work in VI let's have lunch.

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  67. Unknown9 June 2013 at 18:29

    Hmmmmm, firstly ur wish list is much, did u say hiking ?, dats reli a wish, nigerian men don't hve time for dat, where to find men ????? Men are errwhere, its just to get a man, not perfect, cuz dere's no perfect man, its now left for u to mould him to wat or whom u want him to b, a lady has d power to make or break ha r/ship.

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  68. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:30

    Hon....dey don't exist.....looked my self.....

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  69. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:36

    My dear, just av d faith in God am sure He will def direct your own life partner to you and my advise to you is to reduce ur terms n conditions frm d list na, it takes two to tango. If u see d one who suit you then you can groom ursef to any kinda sport you like.
    God is in control of every situation.
    Michael says so.

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  70. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:38

    The question was where can she meet single men in lagos, so if u dnt have any answer for her why are u commenting....those of u talking about her list wetin be ur own concern #nawa ooo

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  71. Unknown9 June 2013 at 18:41

    so sorry for your search there ain't such guys in Nigeria manye

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  72. Unknown9 June 2013 at 18:42

    hit me up maybe i can spend lil time with you am not in a naija anyways

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  73. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:47

    Yeah right! Sorry dear good looks dont do it these days. Your beauty should radiate from inside and come to think of it what can you offer this guy. Anyway i have met a couple of your type and guess what they dont even know how to switch on a kettle!
    A postgrad doesnt mean jack and just pray you dont gather dust on the shelf, just get off your high horse and good luck. mgbeke.

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  74. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:47

    My sister e reach to ask question! I think u should leave the island and try remote areas on the mainland cos most of d guys on the island r pursuing bigger things and don't have time for stray babes! U can also try dating sites too some of them r effective! Goodluck in ur search!

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  75. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:57

    MY dear ...all the so called correct guys you see are MARRIED. these days unlike in the past the young married men are the ones all over the place toasting ladies shamelessly..even in the clubs, and boat club..very sad

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  76. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:57

    Church

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  77. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 18:57

    Church
    Baby face

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  78. NecFix9 June 2013 at 18:58

    My dear, you can start by getting off your high horse & being a bit more realistic. Your choice of a man is what I call 'Delusions Of Grandeur'. "...men who build 'eir own kitchen cabinets..." really? Only a CARPENTER can do that for u in here (& I'm sure u don't want to end up with one :)). This is Lagos not Newyork. Lots of ladies have lost their soul mates to 'friend-zoning'. I'm not saying you should settle for less; All I'm saying is you can continue to stay classy, but keep it a bit simple.

    SIMPLICITY IS THE ULTIMATE FORM OF SOPHISTICATION.

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  79. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 19:21

    Me self I dey look for husband. My people don give up on me.

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  80. Joan9 June 2013 at 19:21

    Are u for real?? I'm not the LIB poster oo bt I'm calling u asap. U'd better be serious cos I need a husband material too #bigsmile#

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  81. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 19:30

    Parties especially weddings. Madam ur criteria na helele o, what U shud think of is a God fearing and handworking man. Forget abt all dis handsome and bla bla so dat U won't keep meeting players and unserious men. Ur dressing also matters a lot hope u don't wear over revealing clothes

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  82. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 19:43

    If u ask me na who I go ask. Lemme knw wen u find ur answer. Desperately searching too.lol

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  83. Paulo9 June 2013 at 19:43

    The lady asked a very good question. More importantly, it is kind of question that most ladies are TOO proud to ask. So (Guys), give her credit for being honest. To your question, there are single available men everywhere, the question is not where to find them but how to identify them. Let me give you a tip as guy. If you want to meet such guys, whenever you go out, try to dress down a bit. From what you said, you've been getting the wrong attention from men. You must be showing off too much of that part of your body that is valuable. The less obvious it is to them, the more likely you are to meet someone wonderful. If he cant see such and he doesn't come to you, then he is not the one. Guys look for something every woman they cross, if that thing is not there or it fades away with time, so will the guy. If you are look for that special guy, you must give him a reason to stay with. And it must not be because of your wonderful body. Rather it should be because you are a wonderful people. With this open approach, You will definitely meet someone after your own heart. Someone who would make your Sun shine, even at night, someone who would make you feel like the world revolves around you and lastly someone who will always remember to whisper these three words, before you get up in the morning and before you go to bed at night, (I LOVE YOU).

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  84. Emeka Facts9 June 2013 at 19:48

    Go to shoprite in the evening. Wait there and you will see single,handsome,hanging n good looking rich or poor guys trooping in.
    @emekanews.

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  85. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 19:55

    Seriously, I'll like to read some serious answers because I am wondering too o.

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  86. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 19:56

    Follow me on twitter @obianeli I have a surprise for you young lady.

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  87. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:00

    hey bae..>>>>WAKE UP!!!!nigerian men dont do such.... buh me sef dey find oh incase you see ...abeg contact me

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  88. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:06

    Dear LIB reader, please email Jesus(grinning).

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  89. Unknown9 June 2013 at 20:13

    Exquisite Bars are cool.. The beach aint bad, weddings too are nice, golf club,go swimming, polo clubs. Don't be surprised about shopping mall also. Try those out!!!

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  90. Unknown9 June 2013 at 20:14

    u cant get a humble husband @ d club, and u aim too high, dt may nt be d mind of God 4 u. Go 2 God 4 husband

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  91. ms k9 June 2013 at 20:14

    My dear just pack ur bags nd go back to where u came from....fairytale guys aint available here , btw u're so selfish too, how can u want all dis qualities in one man? Is he jesus kwanu? Better drop some or remain single.

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  92. Unknown9 June 2013 at 20:17

    Golf club, Polo club, Beach, Pools, nice bars and shopping malls! Try those out

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  93. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:24

    Come to my church.

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  94. Tony9 June 2013 at 20:25

    inda....i am suspecting u...sure say no be u dey find husband? anyway, reach me on tonionlineweb@gmail.com

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  95. Unknown9 June 2013 at 20:32

    At the market

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  96. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:37

    Call Teejay on 07060625035.

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  97. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:40

    Hmmmm a lot of such cute, cool and outgoing guyz you have eyez on are mainly players cos dey are hot and you know wat follows. But dat shouldn't keep u frm going after wat u want. So try the nice clubs and hangout places on the island and u will smile soon. I really could have suggested a crew at the boat club but those guyz are crocodiles ready to devour any sweet tin. Except u are ready 4 such games.

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  98. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:43

    Come to Kenya! Husbands for dayzzzzzzz

    Kenyan Babe

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  99. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:45

    Babes pls marry a white man cuz dey are d ones with dis qualities....buh babes dis ur criteria sha *smh* 4 am ooo!

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  100. Sid9 June 2013 at 20:48

    Baby, ur conditions are too much...until u cut down on it and realise Nigerian Men are not interested in most of all u listed; then u go tey for market o...and besides, stop paying too much attention to Tall, dark and handsome...they rarely come!

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  101. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:51

    Hope as u de look for fine guy eh hope say u no resemble monkey cos u ugly babes can sabi over aim high where una ugly mugs no reach, if u b 2 go oshodi quietly and free us from dis big grammar u fit go uk from ajegunle come de form home carpentry for us here taaaaaaah!!!!

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  102. Unknown9 June 2013 at 20:51

    Yaba

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  103. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 20:52

    Hope as u de look for fine guy eh hope say u no resemble monkey cos u ugly babes can sabi over aim high where una ugly mugs no reach, if u b 2 go oshodi quietly and free us from dis big grammar u fit go uk from ajegunle come de form home carpentry for us here taaaaaaah!!!!

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  104. pulch9 June 2013 at 20:52

    @ a Wedding ceremony

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  105. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:00

    D house of god

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  106. Her Excellency9 June 2013 at 21:02

    Dem yapa for Adeniji bus/stp, just tak dat Oluwole str arnd closing hour u wil see dem sitting on a long chair gisting n waiting for prospective wife material. Btw dey ve all d qualities u mentioned o xcept for kudi, owo, ego. Gudluck wit ur search

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  107. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:02

    May b γφυ shud b in church evry sunday....u might find 1 dere**wink*

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  108. diidy239 June 2013 at 21:03

    Madonna is 52,her bf is 28
    Jennifer lopez is 42, her bf is 26
    Mariah carrey is 45,her husband is 32
    Wait. Ur bf is stil in d womb comin

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  109. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:04

    Lady, women like you are just plain wasting your time. What's with the long list of requirements. How many nigerian men do you know that do hiking or camping. There is no decent forest for camping. Please get a life and find a man around you that is acceptable without all those things.

    I'm single but dont think will date women like you. You are all the type with a wedge between your legs.

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  110. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:05

    U will fall into d wrong hands if u r not careful. d world is not what it used to be its full of blood thirsty pple in Gods time he will make all things beautiful for u.

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  111. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:07

    If you are a christain..attend a church like Day star or Convenant Christain centre and get active in church activities..i sure bet with time you would meet your match...it wld take time but descent guys attend those churches...

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  112. Unknown9 June 2013 at 21:11

    I have a guy that owns a bicycle he live by our village stream he swims like fish, he is a carpenter so you won't worry about kitchen cabinet and about camping he is a ring leader with scripture union.... Perfectly made Fø̲̣̣я̅ you if you say no please go back to sleep cos such man is not here in nigeria...men here that have that kinda time are lazy gigolo

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  113. True talk9 June 2013 at 21:17

    Ghetto my sister,there u will see strong,handsome and hardworkin guys with potentials.....guys dat do outdoor sports are guys d dere father has enough money to give dem 4 extra play nd my wit d way naija is..our economy no advice any1 2 dey do outdoor sport(play)..na pple wey their economy gud all those activities good for...or berra still wait for d 2nd cumin of JESUS...linda wadup??

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  114. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:18

    There's not really a certain place u can meet guys.The day I met my husband I was on a bike and he was driving pass and he followed the bike till I dropped so he could talk to me. Things like meeting men just happens. It's destiny.

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  115. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:22

    Kal 07068865511 dis guy,he is rili hot.he also lik ur point of view

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  116. Unknown9 June 2013 at 21:24

    Idiot. I am sure the problem is her attitude.

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  117. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:30

    08032106797

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  118. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:42

    Nawa o see list,building kitchen cabinets,u 4 tell us u are looking 4 a carpenter lmao.

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  119. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 21:46

    My dear, Church and weddings are about the safest places you can go without it looking like you're putting yourself our there for sale.
    The other places like clubs, beaches, hang out spots, etc are not suitable for you to go alone. You would send the wrong signal and trust me, good guys get uneasy with Chicks they meet at clubs and the likes.

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  120. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:20

    I know just the right person for you. His number is 07037445145

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  121. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:32

    Women are women's biggest enemies in this life! I totally understand where this lady is coming from, and men are suffering from the same dilemma!

    Whatever you do, just stay away from clubs and a lot of nightlife for the most part.

    Position yourself properly, Go out to public places during the day (especially on the weekends), go hang out in bars, cafes and similar type public places where you can see and be seen.

    Attend events, weddings, fashion shows & anything unorthodox. You can even join a gym or so, anywhere you know guys go to and can be relaxed.

    Whatever you do, think outside the box and I wish you good luck ;)

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  122. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:52

    lolling at comments:) LIBers una too much. ati camping ati hiking

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  123. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 22:59

    Honestly come to ibadan,dere re still very intelligent,enterprising,Godly girls lyk me........just free yur mind, be polite nd nice to everi1,yu never know who is who.God hlp yu search though.

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  124. Adeagbo Kabir9 June 2013 at 23:03

    My sister, firstly, you need to know what exactly you are looking for in a man. Don't be too choosy, becos it not possible for you to find a perfect man (as you want). All those issue of hiking, playing outdoor game or what have you, drop them aside. It's not common in man, here in Nigeria. Nonetheless, you can always 'blend' your man to doing them later. However, there is no particular place to go and hunt for men (let's be frank). You can meet him anyway at anytime. Just make sure you are modest in your dressing, talking, eating, drinking and so on, anywhere you find yourself. Your appearance and attitude matter most. You can capture a good man's heart at first sight if you look modesty and of good manners. No man wan marry most of the long-throat and ill-mannered ladies flocking around town. Make sure you distinguish yourself among the 'fake' ladies, in no time your mr right will come.

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  125. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:33

    IF YOU ARE A DEVOTED CHRISTIAN, PLS, TRUST GOD AND HOPE FOR ONE TO COME FROM AMONG THE DEVOTEES OF YOUR FAITH. BUT, IF NOT SO, THEN THINK OF WHAT IS UPPERMOST IN YOUR HEART FOR THIS LIFE. YOU WILL BE ABLE TO KNOW WHERE TO MEET MEN OF LIKE MIND. ABOVE ALL, TRY TO BE ORDINARY FRIENDS FIRST, AND THEN TAKE IT FORM THERE

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  126. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:34

    The best places are usually at the mall,in the banking hall,at a supermarket,weddings,church(tread carefully).But the bottom line is you have to have a routine that makes you touch each of these places at least once a week, i can guarantee you that someone will notice you.

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  127. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:34

    Also in the process of relocating to naija ...Drop an email at segunresearch@gmail.com and lets start from there



    Ciao ......

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  128. waplegend9 June 2013 at 23:35

    linda i tink u shuld start a datin site guess it will answer d problems of ur lib readers

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  129. Anonymous9 June 2013 at 23:52

    u sound desperate...and people like u end up with the wrong man...patience pains BUT it pays..the men who go to places like that arent the most inspiring

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  130. veeon9 June 2013 at 23:57

    lmao bonario dont kill me abeg..

    Uhm.. bars, weddings.. but babygirl are you able to attract?

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  131. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 00:34

    Like sum1 mentioned.......run 4 ur life wen u hear T J SARO..........

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  132. Unknown10 June 2013 at 00:57

    Y should I be hiking and camping when my mate re busy make cool money and wat d fuck is my biz with d kitchen cabinet if u say these things to my face I swear I will slap u live outdoor.

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  133. Prachi Thakur10 June 2013 at 03:53

    I'm curious for your next post. Excellent post. Keep writing such kind of information on your blog. I'm amazed, I have to admit. Seldom do I come across a blog that's both equally educative and interesting, and let me tell you, you've hit the nail on the head. The issue is an issue that not enough folks are speaking intelligently about. I am very happy I stumbled across this in my hunt for something relating to this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Wishing you best of luck..

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  134. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 04:03

    Church

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  135. Unknown10 June 2013 at 06:48

    I am available...we are always available even in marriage hahahahahaah...hate us like us...finally U̶̲̥̅̊ will end up wanting us...life goes on

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  136. Bunmi10 June 2013 at 06:55

    Let your married friends know you are looking, they'll be happy to introduce you

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  137. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 07:27

    HIT ME UP.
    I WILL GIVE YOU LITTLE SIKINIKI WEY U GO RUB FOR YOUR EYES WITH TRIPLE INCANTATION IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. THEN THE NEXT DAY WALK UP TO ANY GUY YOU FANCY, SHAKE HIS HAND AND TICKLE HIS PALM WITH YOUR MIDDLE FINGER 2x AND HE IS YOURS FOREVER.

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  138. Unknown10 June 2013 at 07:57

    well, i would say weddings! there a lot of cool guys around and most of them just dont like when a girl start showing off by not responding.... if a guy walks up to u @ a nice wedding " nice wedding" dont turn the offer down. And there are times u meet good guys randomly, like tru friends en co. 230EEBAA, i am available too. # Big Smile. but start with friendship

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  139. Anonymous10 June 2013 at 08:33

    Go to ojuelegba under bridge

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