I need your advice. I am a 21year old girl and I am in love with a 59year old white man. I am scared of accepting his marriage proposal because of what people might say. But I truly love him. What should I do, should I follow my heart?
Saturday 17 November 2012
Dear LIB readers: I am in love with an older white man
Marry his son, shikena
ReplyDeleteShade Okoya things..go to her and tel her to advice you.. Well,I'm 23 and am dating someone who is 23 yrs older..i never clock the 23 sef, and i love him so much.. Buh 21/59 c'mon gurl arugbo ojo ni yen mhen!
DeleteTruth is dat you don't love the man. You just want to use him as an escape route from whatever is wrong with your life, probably poverty. It happened to me too, common an old mane is nothing to write home about, especially a white man.
DeleteBabe U don't ds guy, U re in lust. Wen u re older, ur eyes ll open.
DeleteLinda I sent u a mail concerning d little gal hus hands were boiled n u hvnt responded. Pls I'm waiting
DeleteNothing wrong with interracial marriage but the age difference is too wide.....ng owerri
ReplyDeleteLol. You won't be the first. Abraham Celebrated his son's first birthday at 100 yrs. So, you are not alone on dat. Remember one thing though -You may not feel in love all of the time OK?
DeleteIf that is u and him in d pic above then u r good to go cos u 2 look like u r so in love and he looks strong too. Wish u all d best. Would love to be at d wedding. Me need me some rich white guy ;)
Delete@. Eya #you may not feel in love all the time#....nice one.....ng owerri
DeleteHw can it be them in d pix?r u new to the blog??lol..its just to gv u an image idea
DeleteIf you actually love him as you claim, you wouldn't need anybody's advice before accepting his proposal.
ReplyDeleteFollow ur heart dear,if u live ur life based on wat pple will say,u'll NEVA move 4ward in life.
ReplyDeleteI dnt think u r in luv dear,wht happend 2 all d young men out der?pls follow ur mind nt ur hrt.
ReplyDeleteSo, your silver Jubilee will be celebrated when he is 84 right? Issorait, follow your smart heart!
DeleteWetin this Eya dey talk, u just dey talk upside down Abeg shut up
DeleteAt 21, what exactly do you know about LOVE! You'd better be careful and not be a wife to someone your Parle will be calling bros for your husband.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, the world is going bonkers. And if I may ask sef, na wetin una 2 get in common apart say you wan use am get foreign pali? Hiss
Babe, is not bad if u truly love the Man. People will always talk either good or bad. Just follow ur heart. From Sivie Kosi.
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart but don't cheat on him if he cant f..k you well. They are very good at licking sha.
ReplyDeleteLol@licking sha. How u take knw dat one if uve nt done one b4. Chai
DeleteY.K. Harry, is that you?
DeleteNo, na Tom, Dick senior bros......
DeleteExamine yourself very well and be truthful to yourself. Do you really love him? Or is it something he has that you love? Just know you are the one that's going to live in the marriage. Best of luck. Meanwhile check out all the great stuff we have at tippytop.blogspot.co.uk
ReplyDeleteGirl open ur eyes well,dat man is damn too old for u.did't u knw pple wil say somtin b4 u started datin him?though follow ur heart do nt listen to pple.
ReplyDeleteFollow my heart....look 4 ur set...pls think abt ur sexual life jor
ReplyDeleteYes u shud follow ur heart. Not what people will think.
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart.
ReplyDeletejust do wot ur mind tells you to do,but be prepare of the world cos you will hear many things
ReplyDeleteFollow ur heart yahoo girl. Where u meet the man ? U won comot for 9ja abi? Ok oooooo
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart.
ReplyDeleteFollow your head. Only you can decide
ReplyDeleteAsk urself do u luv him jst bcos he is a white man? Cos am pretty sure u cnt luv a black of dat age, bt if u are convinced of ur luv dem age is nt a subtitute go ahead n follow ur hrt gudluck
ReplyDeleteYou love his money.
ReplyDeleteYou are unloved with his money. Think twice.
ReplyDeleteInlove*
ReplyDeleteU must b mad
ReplyDeleteAin't no shame girl do your thing*wink* me sef de look 4 a rich white man wey I go date or marry perhaps.na dem better pass...if d guy get cool friends,abeg,hook me up,help a sister out.*rotfl*
ReplyDeleteCongratulations o! How she wan take hook you up as you don forget to write your name?
DeleteLmao- really how wld you be hooked up?
DeleteCheap gal! See as ur ass is suffering from inferiority complex... Cheap slut.
DeleteWell I can't really see love in what you are saying. I think it's his money that you like.
ReplyDeleteOk naw... Play time
ReplyDeleteOkay let's do It this way.. Let's take away his wealth cos I know he gat money.. Do you still love him now? You're just a gold digger. Admit it Which love.. Just say ur inlove with his money.. Meanwhile you're 21 and am in need of a girl @ that age. I really don't have money right about now, but I have prospects. Lemme finish my MSc first . Think about it. ;)
ReplyDeleteLaff wan tear ma bombbom. Haba..
DeleteYe ye dey smell! I dated a young guy when I was her age.he had no moni and I shared what I had with him as students and corpers. He got a job soon after nysc and married a lady in d bank where he works. When our friends asked what caused this he tols them he needs to "move up in life" and d bank staff had d dough. I didn't get a job till 3yrs after and guess what? I am in a bank now. Young gs don't appreciate so let ha go to someone that will spoil her with moni!
DeletePls marry him. Its ur choice and its ur life.
ReplyDeleteI am in this exact position. Pls we need you advice
ReplyDeletePls marry him. Its ur choice and its ur life.
ReplyDeletemy dear you love him bcos he is caring and can take good care of u and pamper u and all...which is every womans dream.....am sure dats why u really love him....but my dear....think about the future....and children...and ur still too young to marry so give him space and you two can be good frends
ReplyDeletelolz Linda soon u'll run out of pictures for dis ur advices.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I'll advice u go with ur heart,once it's with sincerety of purpose. As for what people will say,definitely people will always have something to say whether u do gud or u do bad.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
"people will always have something to say whether u do gud or u do bad". Hmm, BONARIO already speaking like Linda Ikeji :)
DeleteI love ur sense of humour. U just always have a way of chipping in sometin sarcastic. Plus u are on the intelligent side.keep it up
DeleteMy tot exactly wen I saw the post after Linda had previously approved it as a comment on a post, guess she was still sorting for pictures then! Thank God for google Images lol Bona you rock abeg!
DeleteBonario, always has the best comments! One luv bruv, all the way from Uk.
DeleteBonario, always has the best comments! One luv bruv, all the way from Uk.
DeleteBona get fans o
DeleteAbeg sombody should buy bona another phone. This Nokia 3310 don try.
DeleteIf you're thinking of what people will say, then you're not ready to get married. The fact is people will always run their mouths. Abeg, prayerfully follow your heart ojare.
ReplyDeleteNeva embark on ani journey without ur brain.wen u mak ur hrt d driver nd ur brain d passenger accident is inevitable.take note.
ReplyDeletei surre say u b igbo gal cus a typical yoruba gal no go even consider am,,, d guy pass ur consideration point by far and evn if u like am, u just have 2 sacrifice somtins 4 d sake of integrity,,, except mayb u didnt any b4
ReplyDeletefee ee me has spoken
U r so pathetic... Tribalistic fool...wats bringing ibo or yoruba into dis talk...who no sabi say na yoruba pple be d highest "Aristocrats"??? I'm sure its just envy that is doing U! Anuohia like u! Ewu Ijebuode..
DeleteAnon12:26 ha ha 'it's just envy that is doing u' na wah o oyinbo repete. Anon10:15 I be Yoruba but a beg not start that one here, u be illiterate or what mumu y u want turn d thing to tribal war whereas na interracial marriage, age and money wey dey talk here
DeleteFollow the money as usual.
ReplyDeleteU must have seen sumtin wrong before
ReplyDeleteSending dis ţŏ LIB. Don't be
Deceived.
My thoughts exactly! Honey, dat u feel d need to ask n probably get approval...dat's a massive red flag. In a matter of years u guys may be sexually incompatible, can u sacrifice quality sex on d altar on this "love" u say u feel?
DeleteTHank u.you've spoken well
DeleteThe first thing I'll say is if you are both genuinely happy together then follow your heart. Being best friends in a marriage is a key factor to its longevity. I know folks will say he's old enough to be your father bla bla bla! but no one should put you down due to vast age difference. There are millions of people married to people in the same age band or slight age difference but guess what they live miserable lives and am sure you've heard so many stories. For an older man like that, one of the benefits is he won't look elsewhere and you will have his true love. I am not saying that age means he can't let you down but 9 of 10 times older people like that do keep it real. As long as you are not there for material inheritance in the hope that he'll die soon. I wish you all the best. You will fail if you listen to people.
ReplyDeletePls how and where did u meet ths man, u need to give us more than this, 59 is too old fr u but if u love him, its ur life@ d end of the day.
ReplyDeleteInstead of preparing for a better future you are busy falling in love with a 59 year old whiteman, you are just suffering from youthful exuberances. Get over it and let the old man rest in peace. Your mates are busy changing lives for better out there! Join the league.
ReplyDeleteWell said.... Thumbs up
Deletedon't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing. Is he a good man, a kind man? Does he love you? Then since you too love am, marry am.
ReplyDeleteHe must be giving you a lot of attention. Do you plan on having kids? There is nothing wrong with your baby celebrating a one yr birthday organized by his 62 yr old Father. Congrats dear!
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha lolz
Delete@Eya ,jst STFU !! U ve commented enuf ! Hian !
DeleteWhy have u given over four comments on the same issue ! Oro yi Abi imi?
DeleteGirl mind your business afterall it's not your life ! Many girls are married to young guys still trouble everyday ! People are free to be with who they choose, what about Biance & Ojukwu, Sade & okoya! Moreover , am sure u not married urself so shift!
Why have u given over four comments on the same issue ! Oro yi Abi imi?
DeleteGirl mind your business afterall it's not your life ! Many girls are married to young guys still trouble everyday ! People are free to be with who they choose, what about Biance & Ojukwu, Sade & okoya! Moreover , am sure u not married urself so shift!
Don't tink dis can ever be discribed as love...
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, linda where did you get that picture? Lool, u just had to dig for a picture portraying the situation. To the girl, why don't u wait for like two years and see if you still feel the same way, cos to be honest, what is a 21yr old girl doing with a man of 59, u want to start packing shit by the time you are 35 abi?
ReplyDeletekilode !!! She can hire a nurse or maid to do dat nah, my dear marry d rich white OLD man joor, after all people marry for all sorts of reasons not necessarily for love *winks*
DeleteAnon10:25 pls tell me Bianca Ojukwu pack shit? I guess not
DeleteYou are in luv with the old white man because of poverty not cos u luv him! Smh
ReplyDeleteChukwu aju! Am 25 and am still scared to introduce ma 40 year old bf to my family! Issorai :)
ReplyDeleteI tell u oo. Me too I dey: 24 by 42 *sweatin*
DeleteNigerians are the most baised human beings in the world if it was a Nigerian man that's 59 years old she said she's in love with all of you will cricify her that she wants to marry a grand father because its a white man you all are saying follow your heart and marry him.slavery is still in our blood its a pity. We Africans need to Change our mentality whites are not God. There's nothing wrong with interracial marriage but I bet if he wasn't a white man her family won't allow her to marry him but because his white they even go to church to do thanks giving.
ReplyDeleteI agree!!!
DeleteSo trueeeeeeeee! Hi five best comment ever!!!
Deletewatch a movie called "TRUST" it might enlighten you
ReplyDeleteThis older man shd be ashamed of himself.21yr old gal u r too young for ds thg u r about 2 get into. Expand urself see d world and let's see if 3yrs frm now u ll still be in 'love'. That's my take except u do have a plan B for ds relatnship thingy
ReplyDeleteThe equation is definitely not balanced. It tilts to ur favour now cos of his social status and the perks that come wit it. You probably won't get LIBers cracking this one if he were some poor 59 year old without money n possibly contacts.
ReplyDeleteLove is sometimes not enuf. In this instance , you are berra off leaving Love at backseat n letting ur head take the wheels.
Next, pls !!!
Trueeee dat! GBAM!
DeleteVery well said !
DeleteIn Love abi u be runz girl? Abeg shift!
ReplyDeleteOk,21 is abit too young to start thinking of your marriage. If you are trying to get out of Naija?then cool! You might not find this guy attractive anymore, the minute you leave the country,you might find him boring, nasty habits you might not like, might not be as rich as you think he is or you might realized they are better suitors. I'm not saying there are no attractive and sophiscated older men out there, they are. But at 21,I think you are short handling yourself unless ofcourse you just want to get out of naija, then go for it. If not live and enjoy your life, you are too young. The world has got to so much to offer, experience it!
ReplyDeleteI have been in your shoes and yes I did love him but that love will one day clear from your eyes. He is wiser and older. I am getting a divorce now and looking to re marry but peeps know me so I don't wanna say too much..... I leave u with this link.
ReplyDeleteI do not doubt that you love him but I have no doubt you will grow up and that love will varnish.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2209738/Never-marry-older-man-Youll-end-childless-sex-starved-cutting-toenails-Bride-husband-22-years-older-confesses-relationship.html
Take the money n contacts outta the equation and if there is still Love, then go ahead.
ReplyDeleteAbeg foolow ur mind no be heart na him money Ʊ love na wetin Ʊ see be dat Ʊ jst never knw bt marry am sha make Ʊ 4 help ur family. Bianca nd ojukwu now she dey regret wetin she do
ReplyDeleteDear dnt follow ur hrt,use ur brain. U r young n beautiful but u ve 2 think of ur future n acchieve in ur Academic purusit. So plz think well,u can make him 2 be ur frnd.
ReplyDeleteLOVE DON'T EXIST HERE,YOU ONLY LOVE HIS MONEY AND HIS PERSONALITY,AM SURE YOU HAVE A FATHER WHO IS AT THE SAME AGE WITH THE MAN,WILL YOU MARRY HIM IF HE IS A NIGERIAN WITH THAT AGE? NO...SO GIRL WITHDRAW FROM SUCH COMMITMENT,IF AM YOUR BROTHER ,I WILL DISOWN YOU....
ReplyDeleteGirl. Go get his life insurance.cos we all no that you are not in love with him.you'r in love with what you will get 4r him.
ReplyDeleteI doubt very much, you will love in 3years, of you were older I would say go for it but you are too young. Don't mixed with caring and being in with love up. Why do you continue dating and getting to know know each other and put the marriage matter on hold. You have to try and understand his motives too, is he an older guy that has lived his life and he is now scared of being alone now wants to settle down and have kids. He might have his own selfish motives and they might be a reason he choose someone as young as you. Take your time to get to know him. Unless you just want to change your situation. Yes, you might be caring towards each other, but ask yourself honestly are you in love with him? Will you still find him attractive in 5 years? At that age your taste in men,style,even movies change so rapidly because you are still discovering yourself
ReplyDeleteEnjoy that process, the down side of marrying him is that he knows that and he would try and mould you to be the type of woman he wants you to be and you realize that you might end up resenting him. Don't rush take your time.
Omo ole. If the man is poor u will never give him a chance in ur life. What goes around comes around. In ur 40s u will be paying tom boys money for sex. ode Love ko love Ni. OSI o Da Ni ile pako.
ReplyDeleteI guess the man is licking u every time he sees u because at his age he can't shagg u very well.
Now I need your sincere advice,my name is Halima,I'm a student in the university,I'm 22 years old.I have a bf whom I love so much,tho' he is a SSCE holder.we are in love with each other. The problem however is,he wants us to settle down...but I'm so scared of introducing this man to my parents,because of his level of education.he speaks and write good english.he is 34yrs old...now he feels I'm toying with his emotion because I haven't taken him home.he wants us to do d registry thingy and proper marriage.I'm really scared.dunno how my dad will take it.I LOVE this man
ReplyDeletePls think very well n b really sure its love cos dts d only thing dt can keep u going wen challenges like u havg 2 tk care of him at old age, wen u wld just b abt 2 start ur life, him nt able 2 satisfy u in bed n ur chidren nt going 2 hv a dad 4 2 long set in.
ReplyDeleteMy dear follow ur heart. Pple will tell u wat 2 do, evrytin depends on u o. I 1ce dated an older guy. We were on 4 a very long time. It wuz gud while it lasted. I love him n he loved me 2. But I wuznt redi 2 settle dwn.
ReplyDeleteThe age difference is alarming,kindda hard to believe its all for love. Goodluck though.
ReplyDeleteU most me igbo gal
ReplyDeleteI think ''Linda'' is just putting on this topic to make his little money from us.. But anyway, am her fan & still remain her fan. And if its true. My advice 2 her is ''Not to follow her heart'' cos d heart deceives, being dat we r imperfect. D bible does say so Jere 10;23. And even if she decides to marry him, how many does she think she will live with him before she becomes a widow lookin @ the years.. Life's very short u knw.. Am jst sayin.. (Whistle)
ReplyDeleteShe will remarry, don't worry
DeleteMarry him, nothing do u. Older men are caring
ReplyDeleteBabe.. You are not inlove @ all trust me... Don't accept, leave the affair to end in dating, you will regret eva marrying him that's for sure... You are too young to him. Even though you will b cheating on him, you will still be regreting your life. Tell you parents or brothers make them for give you better slap when go arrange your head. You nor wise??? Hisss
ReplyDelete59 minus 21 equal to 38. Girl my advise to u is to leave the man bcos he is far more older than u. D man dey enjoy fresh blood.
ReplyDeletemarry him no....are you not an adult?
ReplyDeleteU r a greedy pig n he is a Pervert!
ReplyDeleteKapish
U r a greedy pig n he is a Pervert!
ReplyDeleteKapish
You will be dealing with racial/cultural differences as well as age differences. As long as you are prepared for this then you are good to go.
ReplyDeleteIf you are unsure why not give it a few more years? You are still young and if in a few years you still love him then go ahead...if not you can get on with your life without the stigma of divorce.
T.T.F
Well said!
Deleteforget about what people will say, people will always say , think of what God will say for he has the final say, the say of other in your life is not as important as the say of God in your life, you are the architect of your destiny but God is the designer of the plan to accomplish that destiny ,follow your heart if it is right , for nothing right can be wrong.We would always reap the consequences of our actions, pray and wait on God , he may actually be your soulmate , only God knows,He may be the first person you lead to Christ only God knows, Do you love this man for who he is or for what he has?,the age gap is very wide but you never know if he is actually your true soulmate until you have peace in your mind about him,God bless you.
ReplyDeleteI AM YET TO SEE A BLACK GIRL WHO DOESNT 'LOVE' A WHITE MAN SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH.
ReplyDeleteWHAT IS LOVE WITHOUT PERKS??? SOCIAL, ECONOMICAL, ETC ETC
I cannot believe some people are Actually advising her to marry him...how pathetic. If she was your sister would you advice her to marry the man?
ReplyDeleteif u'r in luv wt him, u wont ask 4 our opinion.....well,babe go to school $ stop chasing dollar in d name of love
ReplyDelete59-21= 38yrs difference. This one na old kpomo naa. Abi na playboy mansion tinz we de see so? Issorait.
ReplyDeleteIf you are scared , there is fear and fear and love are never good friends.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind what people might say because your action is independent on you. If you love him dearly, then go for him. Seems older people are caring and you will have more respect for him.
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DeleteMy dear I think u are too young for this. Think well cos I'm married to a whiteman too although his much younger,all that gliters are not gold.
ReplyDelete@Eya, why are u like this?... Gv the girl straight advice.. See as u resemble sugar mummy self..... Anyways, to all those with similar issues, the heart is where the issues of life dwell and ur heart is nt enough to lead u tru life, that's where ur head and mind which is ur thought comes in..... Not everything starts come bt it all depends how u can run the race and change it in the course of time.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry I might sound bias... But its the truth... "Do not marry Him"... It's unfair to marry some1 of dat age... Medically & all round...
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I tink u shd follow ur heart....if u truly love him...older men r carin and more devotional...all dis young guys r lukin 4 sex evriwer...
ReplyDeleteWhat do you call Love ! how can you say you are 21yrs and in love with a 59yrs old man who is old enough to be your father ? what a SHAME!how will you say that to your mates and pals or cos he is a white man? pls my dear don,t be deceive by the useless and full of lies he keep telling you about him self and his country. trust me if you do you will regret it.it is not curse! there are better men out there than old white man, well is left for you but am saying this cos i live here in overseas and it pains me when i see young girls going for old white men, pls for what value added?
ReplyDeleteBut u Nigerians why must it be every white man to u that is rich there re some black men that re richer than some white pple so it may not be abt d money but on d other hand ur just 21 n ave ur whole life ahead of u give a deeper tot to ur decision n do d right thing for u..
ReplyDeleteabeg get married to the man ,people will always talk wether good or bad,i bet u let someone put them in your position right now,if they will not grab him in a wink.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you call Love ! how can you say you are 21yrs and in love with a 59yrs old man who is old enough to be your father ? what a SHAME!how will you say that to your mates and pals or cos he is a white man? pls my dear don,t be deceive by the useless and full of lies he keep telling you about him self and his country. trust me if you do you will regret it.it is not curse! there are better men out there than old white man, well is left for you but am saying this cos i live here in overseas and it pains me when i see young girls going for old white men, pls for what value added?
ReplyDeleteI know say na God get life oo, and kuma anything can happen to anybody at anytime, but babe, are that in a hurry to become a widow that soon? Well I guess u r certainly going to become a very rich young widow at that! Another sugamomsy in the making! Oshi!
ReplyDeleteMy dear please marry him cos there's nothing u do in this world that will b OK with the WORLD..if its his money carry go and chop it,if na LOVE my dear please feel free cos even if u marry a guy that is abt 2-3yrs or more older than u u might not even be happy..please feel free to marry him who knows u might even be wiser than a 30yr old girl..I wish u LUCK jare..
ReplyDeleteInterracial marriage obasanjo daughter did it and she is happy, *you might as well be*! Age difference Bianca Ojukwu did it and she was happy while it last* you might as well be*! So follow ur heart and it might as well turn out good
ReplyDeleteMake u no misunderstand me Ok. A man can never be too old o, but you are just 21. You may grow out of that love later, so, to avoid breaking your family, think seriously about yourself and your future kids before you leap Ok.
ReplyDeleteFool!
ReplyDeleteMy sister just listen to your heart. People will always talk,laugh,abuse you and say whatever they like but dont mind them. Some are in marriage with younger guys and they dont live in peace,the men beats them up and doesnt respect them as wives but most whites dont do that. I know you will have peace of mind there cos marriage is all about peace of mind,love,care,understanding,doing things together, but here its the other way,they hit and make life miserable for their wives. So dont listen to people,let them talk talk cos people will not mind their business and i know they wish to be in your shoes,to meet that kind of man.
ReplyDeleteU're in love now abi? Ok ohhhhh, hp u'll still b inluv wen u start lifting him up and down d bed wen he's 2 old to do dat by himself. Look! U're nt inluv with him bt is money. Shikina.
ReplyDeleteYou ain't serious at all. can you marry a 56 years old nigerian man?
ReplyDeleteOlder mem may be caring but they cheat a lot! Yep,talking from experience. Tell him to strip naked for u,if u love all the wrinkles & flabby d**k,go for it babes. I gat ur bak*wink*
ReplyDeleteThe only older man i love for real & so want to marry is ibb. Dat man gives me the hots anytime i see him on tv. . Lawd,have mercy!
ReplyDeleter u kidding me? i'm 21 nd dt dude is older than my dad! what u marrying someone who ur dad has to call 'sir'...a tad awkward don't u think?!
ReplyDeleteyou are obv bored
ReplyDeleteGirl, forget about all the other advises you are getting on this post, and take it from someone who was in the same situation some years ago. I met this older white guy who was so sweet tongued, claimed to love me, wanted me to even move in with him, have his babies, told me he would take care of my education and all...he was very convincing, but I had to think twice. Trust me he got worse by the day, they only get worse by the day. He became controlling, would even stalk me, and because I was so young, he even tried to treat me like a baby, as if I had no mind of my own. You will hate yourself down the road when he becomes way older. You are way too young for this man, unless you have ulterior motives. Kindly tell him no, and move on with your life ok.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure reading all your comments even made her more confused..LOOL
ReplyDeleteHe's older than your dad!!!
ReplyDeletemarry him biko, all those yeye black men with ugly white girls nko. marry and settle.
ReplyDeleteMarryhim not send us invites
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls tell us is the money.see A̶̲̥̅♏ tired of poverty my dear.if U̶̲̥̅̊ no wat is good,U̶̲̥̅̊ can used that man t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ help out your future ad some family needs.ad then,U̶̲̥̅̊ go back t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ school ad think of something better.U̶̲̥̅̊ don't just look at now now,just because he is giving U̶̲̥̅̊ money or maybe he has buy you a car.after marriage is another big education U̶̲̥̅̊ never gradute from Oo°˚˚˚ so pls think well my dear. God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ A̶̲̥̅♏ christabel
ReplyDeletePls follow ur heart,z
ReplyDeleteMarry the old man if u want but know this....u will wake up one morning & want to strangle him (dat usually happens to couples right?). Oyinbos don't take lightly to cheating o! Nuttin is perfect sha...don't forget 'life insurance' while u r @ it *wink*
ReplyDeleteIf you wait till you get peoples' approval you will live an unfulfilled life
ReplyDeleteI feel you cos I once had a crush on a former white colleague abt the same age...crazy crazy world
ReplyDelete@ 21? My dear u don't love him you love his money. #Infatuation
ReplyDeleteIs like ur heart is after his money but use ur brain. #wishkindyeyelove
ReplyDeleteGet ready to stock up viagra to meet up with the sexual appetite which begets your age group. Make e no go get heart attack die for your neck sey e de satisfy u, nne m. Think am well.
ReplyDeletethink really hard, are u sure u want this?am asking o u know they age quickly,there might be great difference from what u see now in five years time, I mean am not discriminating,haters hold Ur peace
ReplyDeleteIf dat ur pics then u dnt luk 21 but all I will say is marry his money after he,s gone, you for his son or better still his grandson
ReplyDeleteLinda,I believe there is somthing your heart is tellin you,follow that thing and stop looking for advice.people will poison your mind if you look for advice.Have you forgotten that in life,weda you do good or bad people MUST talk?so follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteAll d men wey dey 4 dis earth na 59 years man u want just bcus na whitee if na yoruba man wey dey 59 u 4 gree marri am?na money b ur pros go joor. 21 wan marri 59,u don do d calculation?59-21:38,u b donkey
ReplyDeleteby the time u come back from honeymoon, he is bedridden
ReplyDeletehe is old enough to be your father.
ReplyDeleteall of u saying "follow your hearrt"
ReplyDeletehave u counted the number of people who follow their heart and end up going astray?
babe as you're doing "follow your heart" I'd advise u to take your brains with you
The Truth here is most people saying you should marry a 59year old allow emotion to judge within while overlooking the facts. Assuming you marry him now, have you considered what your marriage will be like in 10 years time, you will be 30 while he will be 70 years. Tell yourself the truth will you be happy with a 70Year old Man. People make mistake because they were not advised properly. I simply suggest you should overlook anything that has to do with Marriage, you can be a good friend to him period.
ReplyDeletemy dear white ,black,pink,yellow,all na same,oyibo sabi show love,the question is what is your own reason for falling in love,if u re genuine and he is follow ur heart,most of the people advising u hia will jump at the offer without even her parents consent!wish u well with ur decisions,the truth of the matter is the final decision lies in your hands as you will be the one wearing the shoes.wish u well
ReplyDeleteMy opinion.... "Getting married at age 21 is like leaving the club by 9pm". But then again, its only my opinion!
ReplyDeleteBaby,i honestly dnt believe u . Maybe there is sometin ur leting us knw. Is it becos is whity?search ur mind.al d best .
ReplyDeleteWell dear my advice, u are on your way to JAIL cos u want to commit MURDER abi, u 21 won climb on top 51 abi na wetin be that age, how will the man survive... U better go and read your books nauty little gold, silver digging thing but bronze, unwilling digging thing... U are after d money jooo....
ReplyDeleteI'm 19yrs old,m turning 20 dis mth,I'm still a virgin,never had a bf b4 ,but I trust God I II get married to a man that really loves me n he will b d 1 2 disvirgin me #cool story ,Yeah :D.
ReplyDeleteMy candid opinion s dat God knows best,go 2 him he has d answer to that question
Go with ur heart..... Age is just a number as far as the love is mutual then wot r u waiting for? I understand u r worried bout what ppl will say-trust me, give "people" max 6 months and they will get tired of talking or another gist will distract them. We should learn to follow our hearts...... I know about 4 Young marriages that hv crashed dis yr -all of them had d couples age diff btw 5&11Yrs and of course they r all Nigerian marriages but they hv all crashed! There's no formula and guarantee in dis marriage thing! Just go in! play ur wifely role and leave d rest to God!
ReplyDeleteMarry him if u want to b a widow @ an early age.I read one newspaper,even Bianca said she won't advice her daughter to marry an old man.
ReplyDeleteWTF????!!!! What in God's name placed a 21 year old in the path of a 60 year old male? Im no go perform and marriage without sex - na you sabi.
ReplyDeleteU nor get parents abi what do u think oyibo man is? If u want moni nd he get moni go ahead but u no say something is not right. Yeye.
ReplyDeleteYou are a gold digger,,,,I will only advice u ...if there is proof that the man is poor.
ReplyDeletefollow your heart
ReplyDeleteplease how rich is he biko?cos the love of a 59year old man without cash is different from one with cash o!if u wan chop frog chop the one with egg oh!if it was real love u wont consider what people will say!
ReplyDeleteWhy are my age mates always so confused? 1-you're too young for marriage. 2-he's too damn old. 3-The fact that you put this question out means that you're not even mature enough for marriage. You do not need a man to complete you. I think you should refuse the proposal and focus on improving yourself and your life and when the time is right, the right man for you would come along. Hand your life over to Jesus Christ and focus on doing his will and I promise you won't be disappointed. You still have your whole life in front of you and a lot of time to grow and enjoy your youth before even considering marriage. Just put God first in all that you do and when the right man for you comes along, he'll let you know, you'll be a 100% certain and you wouldn't pose silly questions on a blog.
ReplyDeleteAnon 10:15 what has her tribe got to do with anything? You've started! And why can she only be igbo or yoruba? *hiss*
ReplyDeletemake sure its for love coz you cant get paper anymore! they changed them rules QUICK!!
ReplyDeletewho are you tryng to fool
ReplyDeleteYOURSELF???
She watched that movie with funke akindele - white hunters
ReplyDeletehaaaa werey re ooo!!! o fe fe oyinbo tori owo. u go just old befre your time.
ReplyDelete38 years hmmmmmm all d best dear.
ReplyDeleteYes dear. Follow your heart. Love believes all thing s, hopes all things and endures all things. Love conquers all. I think you would be fine:)
ReplyDeleteyou dont any advice again coz u accepted him already in ur heart.when u kw quite sumbody is older than u n u said u love him.
ReplyDeletei kw this is all bcos of money.God save you ooo
you dont any advice again coz u accepted him already in ur heart.when u kw quite sumbody is older than u n u said u love him.
ReplyDeletei kw this is all bcos of money.God save you ooo
Lol my own case is better am 22 inlove with 49yrs old
ReplyDeletethis girl is just slyly advertising the fact that she will be a rich widow at 26. she'll now come to naija and be forming big geh. EWU like you.
ReplyDeleteNo one placed the question. Where is this white man's wife?
ReplyDeleteYou need time, because you need to really know what you feel for this man, is it love, is it sympathy, is it because he spoils me. you need to ask yourself and be sincere with yourself. Money aint love, but can bring about Frustration, where you might wish all this money should go and let me be Happy. Think it through. you are still young to Differenciate Love, Sex, Marriage and Infatuation.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is you are already sleeping with him! becareful of these white men. They I know they are good in satisfying little girls like you but they always end up leaving. So fuck him and enjoy him, get enough money from him but please, I beg you, dont marry him.
ReplyDeleteI can understand, u no wan suffer at all you just want to do BJ for him, birth his children and do shopping round the world. my friend stop deceiving yourself you only love his money. but really if you feel he would take care of you the way you want and dream why not but make sure you relocate to his country sha o cos if stay in naija na mockery go make you go hang yourself. Kai 21yrs and 59yrs am sure you met on internet, you be yahoo girl. If you are the type that dont send marry him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, there is nothing wrong with that love. If u think or u no he will give u happiness n b like your father, brother, husband what else re u looking 4 in a man? Pls go ahead and marry him.
ReplyDeletemy sis, its up to you. If u can live up to the Judgment. the truth is that people will judge you wrongly for the rest of your life but if dts what you want, i wish you all the best in life.
ReplyDeleteU are nothing but thief, gluton and vagabon
ReplyDeleteits your life do what you think is best love doesnt watch skin colour or age.. age isnt nothing but numbers..
ReplyDeleteyou guys r so narrow minded not every white old man is rich u guys dnt know the financial status of the man or the girl maybe the girl is rich and the man is not
#think outside of the box
its your life do what you think is best love doesnt watch skin colour or age.. age isnt nothing but numbers..
ReplyDeleteyou guys r so narrow minded not every white old man is rich u guys dnt know the financial status of the man or the girl maybe the girl is rich and the man is not
#think outside of the box
Sorry, but I think there's something wrong with this guy - 59 year old white man wanting a serious ro
ReplyDeleteSomething is wrong with this guy. A 59 year old white man wanting to have a serious romantic relationship with a 21 year old black girl - that just ain't right. If he was a young white man in his twenties I would say go for it! But, this old geezer needs his head examined - he's nuts.
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