"I will be 70 and still be single if I do not believe honestly that I have found the right person. We are all on earth as individuals. Some of us will marry; some of us will not. Some of us will have children, some of us will not. So I never judge myself according to other people's standard.
Marriage is such a huge deal and I'm not in a hurry to go there. That's the truth.
If you find maybe two of my ex's, you will find out that I've had proposals. But I turned them down because at the end of the day, you are saying 'I pick this person above everybody else in the
world, till death do us part.' I had better believe that! If I don't believe it, it's not going to happen.
If you find maybe two of my ex's, you will find out that I've had proposals. But I turned them down because at the end of the day, you are saying 'I pick this person above everybody else in the
world, till death do us part.' I had better believe that! If I don't believe it, it's not going to happen.
If I'd wanted to be married 15 times over, I would have. But I won't marry for people, I will marry for me. When I find the person that makes me feel I can do this forever, then I am ready." Bimbo Akintola, 37.
Simple and concise...You don't get married for people...U get marry for yourself. I respect her opinion.
ReplyDeleteTrue! I agree...
DeleteBimbo dear, God will grant your heart desires, amen
ReplyDeleteBimbo you are misleading the single girls o,u are a start and many of them here are nt,make una dey there dey follow bimbo way. If una dey find perfect man it's very easy just look for burial ground perfect men plenty there. Go Marry jor and stop consoling yourselves.
DeleteWisdom. Very wise words.
ReplyDeleteB4 y'all begin 2 talk about being an old maid,I'm 22,intelligent n I understand fully what marriage is abt.
Swthrt, put 'think i' before dt ur understand cos u dont really know until u r married. Its not abt intelligence, u get better @ it with experience
DeleteAt 37? She's still young jare!carry go girl me be ur back, but me don get 3kids sha o!!!
DeleteI do learn 4m peeps xperience 2 tho. I bet it counts...... Howeva,u r ryt. So here goes.....
Delete(Rephrase)...... I think I knw..... (•͡.̮ •͡ )
My lovely BIMBO, just continue to pray, God wil grant u ur hrt desire
ReplyDeleteI pray u find him b4 menopause!#AHO
ReplyDeleteIgnorance.com! Are you aware that there are many pre-menopausal ladies who will never conceive let a lone give birth to a baby? Rushing to marry a man because you're scared your "biological clock" is ticking away, is no guarantee that you will have children esp if it's not in your cards. I think if people could be broad-minded like Bimbo, the rate of depression and other anxiety related ailments will reduce drastically.
DeleteGush u are so ignorant. U really do believe every woman on this earth should pop out a kid SMH. I for one plan to adopt
DeleteHey! hey! hey! Hold ur vile n poison. D guy made sense dear. If u read d entire interview, u'll find dat bimbo said she wud definitely hav a kid with or without marriage cos she luvs kids. If he said he prays 4 d gud man 4 her b4 she hits menopause then I don't see wats so bad abt dat. C'mon dnt get all personal abt dis
DeleteI love Bimbo............she's been true to herself forever. You are a catch girl. Any man that's worth his salt will make you his priority after God. Way to go
ReplyDeleteI love and respect Bimbo Akintola. God bless you.
ReplyDeletemake she take am easy,then be a baby mama,cos if her mum no give birth to her she for see mouth take talk.
ReplyDeleteOh shut up u fool! Were we all put on this earth to reproduce like u? How about the priest and monks who pray for our safety everyday? Were they not birthed. Does God love them less? I hate when people talk foolishly. Kmt!
DeleteI respect that!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATS TO TERRENCE J!!!!!
True talk bimbo, but dats wat they all say'jst like "nike oshinowo" b4 she got married.*wink*
DeleteDis one na okwu nkasi obi.d time when i never got married na so i dey talk bt in my mind i dey say God forbid.i knw marriage is nt d ultimate by its another stage of life dt kps d ball rollin 4 ya.
ReplyDeleteYou go girl!!! Right on point!!! I identify with Bimbo's position and i absolutely agree with her.
ReplyDeleteThe sooner women begin to reason that marriage does not define who you are the better for everybody. There are more married but single and miserable women all over the place all in the name of marriage.
True talk Bimbo. There shouldn't be any compromise when decision for marriage arises.
ReplyDeleteI feel u.Marriage is also a very big deal for me. I pray for my Mr Right every day who am going to be faithful to for the rest of my life.
ReplyDeleteI respect her opinion but the thing is there's no perfect man that ll meet all her requirements n I believe she's not perfect as well. Marriage is for two people who r ready to meet eachother half way.
ReplyDeleteGo girl. Live for yourself and not for other
ReplyDeleteU will soon get to menopause. Stay there!
ReplyDeleteLol.....#dassorait
ReplyDeleteLmao! Another woman suffering from 'right man' syndrome. I don't get some of this women ooo, dem dey make 'right man" 4 factory? A real woman can transform any Tom, Dick or Harry into d 'right-man'.....
ReplyDeleteI am about to divorce my husband and he is not a wicked man but we are incompatible. Her wise words are 7 years late anyone who marries for people will dance to the tune. NEVER AGAIN!
ReplyDeleteConsole yourself. Next!!!
ReplyDelete**** pick up phone to call Ajah market to see if the news of Bimbo Akintolas gamophobia has affected the price of garri there*****
ReplyDeleteSo true ma!
ReplyDeleteCouldn't be said any better
It's not a do or die affair
I respect her opinion...well said!
ReplyDeleteYippee my comment came 2nd on post. Oh yes am excited . Lin lin I love u much
ReplyDeleteI respect her opinion on this. However' nothing in life is perfect and so you make good whatever you have. Also waiting till 70 when everything has gone south already is another thing entirely b'cos the product has already gone pass its sell by date. My worry is the msg this is sending to the young ones as per how they view life.
ReplyDeleteShe should close her mouth and hide her face in shame... She has failed to get a man for her and all she can say is the right one, maybe and certainly she is that one that is not right.. Girls should grow up and act well,,, even u Linda, u need to gather ur act together, other wise u be like her... i like u so take my advice and get a man for urself
ReplyDeleteBabes No Right Man Anywhere Okay? you make you marriage work.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is hard work ...
God bless you. A huge encouragement to all of us single sisters. Lots of love..xo
ReplyDeleteu would live long mam, i totally concur with u
ReplyDeleteYou GO GIRL!!!!
ReplyDeleteYour life your choice and i respect your view .
ReplyDeleteLindan I don't care if you don't post my comment, the most important thing is that you read it.
ReplyDeleteI love bimbo's words:u don't marry for people#gbam#
ReplyDeleteBravo! I respect n applaud u 4 being urself kind of a hard tin 2 find tis days. Not like our comment matter but let d will of God Almighty b d ultimate. All d best though
ReplyDeleteI respect her opinion, there's no reason committing yourself into a marriage because of the society and not for yourself.
ReplyDeleteThat's one of the best decisions a woman can take. Many have married for the wrong reasons and are either divorced or are just *enduring* the relationship. God will give your heart's desire, continue to trust him.
ReplyDeleteI love the fact that she is true to herself. Marriage is not something u jump into,it doesn't matter how old you are and besides its not compulsory for people 2 get married.
ReplyDeleteI love the fact that she is true to herself. Marriage is not something u jump into,it doesn't matter how old you are and besides its not compulsory for people 2 get married.
ReplyDeleteYou are on your own Bimbo
ReplyDeleteI like dat jare,don't marry for pple o.A lot of ladies marry for pple n divorce immediately,no hurry in life.
ReplyDeleteU can see what 9ja is turning into. When a lady will openly say she has ex's and be proud of having being in numerous relationships. If ur Mum talks like that wount u be ashamed of her. I pity some Nigerian women.
ReplyDeleteHello My Sweet Linda,
ReplyDeleteBimbo, there is no Perfect Man, you just have to try to make your Man perfect. Y O L O, you only live once, and it wont be nice if you don't have kids.
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Hmm...truth is her words r true and wise! But God won't come down and show u d man. Besides rejecting d "proposals" u had,on what basis? U could date them but can't marry them?
ReplyDeleteU can see what 9ja is turning into. When a lady will openly say she has ex's and be proud of having being in numerous relationships. If ur Mum talks like that wount u be ashamed of her. I pity some Nigerian women.
ReplyDeleteBiological clock is ticking fast, no go waste ur entire life philosophising! All d best though. *amrra*
ReplyDeleteShe's not sincere.
ReplyDeletewords of wisdom
ReplyDeletebut why waste your time dating someone when know you cannot already see them as a future partner.remmeber you are also someones EX
ReplyDeleteEeerrmm if u find the ideal man at 70, then u guys are only gonna be married for 2 yrs copz death will be knocking so whats the point.
ReplyDeleteI swear she recently said in an interview that theres nothing like an ideal man, so why does she want 1
she obviously has an ulterior motive.
i believe in the miss independent thing but theres a limit to it like theres a limit too everything.
she needs o be realistic, if these men she claims she dated have almost proposed to her nd she declined, tht meanss they were in a serious relationship. why would u b in a serious relationship wiv a man that isnt ur ideal man, or hw is it possible 4 u 2 date sum1 u have nuffin in common wiv or do not luv.
when u love sum1 u mke dem ur priority.... am guessing shes never been in love den.
i see this as a lame excuse, every1 around me knowss am d miss independent nd dont wish 2 gt marrie. but 4 dis woman i dont understand!
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ReplyDeleteThat is a FACT! And I respect your decision.
ReplyDeleteAn inspiration to all spinsters who have tried in vain to marry :)
ReplyDeletetrue, but no man will marry you once your eggs expire
ReplyDeleteI guess she would have met the right man for the download liar people like this act strong in public but cries behind the closed door for a hushand. Smokey be real
ReplyDeleteTrue talk...No rush @ all
ReplyDeleteBimbo in as much as respect your views I still want to add that we can never have a perfect marriage. Marriage is like a school you learn through. The perfect man for you may not be for God.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask Most people who went through divorce/single parents they will tell you they once believed they married their perfect match. Anybody who is waiting fr a PERFECT match will end up breaking up bcos you will easily pin point out his or her imperfection and that will lead to breaking up. Find a nice and God fearing man that will be true to you and himself . Good luck .
@anon 1.05 she can adopt if she wants, and she can also freeze her eggs now and get pregnant via artificial insemination even after menopause so ur argument holds no water in this present age. children shd not be main factor of getting married
ReplyDeleteAs long as you are not tidying anybody sha. I'll be praying for you.
ReplyDeletegbam!
ReplyDeleteBut you are ready to commit fornication ?? and when they propose to you, you then realize his not the one for you. i get o. i just hope as u remain single do not fornicate..............
ReplyDeletelol! Let her keep waiting for the perfect man from heaven to come before making a decision to marry.
ReplyDeleteClap for yourself ma..enjoy ur old age.
ReplyDeleteYes girl, I do not fault you
ReplyDeletei understand her!
ReplyDeleteits not easy to get married if you beleive in the sanctity of marriage.
some men just propose because they want to or they feel it is time and if they are lucky,it maybe to a girl that just wants to get married too or one that wants to take on a project!
life is hard,too many important decisions to make, wish i was an Angel... :-)
The woman has sense kai! she just nailed it. I love her spirit jare. Marriage is not everything. And this goes for some LIB readers who always pressurize my Linda. I wish all the single ladies who always feel bad about their mate getting married read these wise words.
ReplyDeleteAunty Bimbo o,so will you continue to oil and grease your engines without getting married.
ReplyDelete(in God's way,that is left sacred for the married).
So if you haven't found the right person,stop oiling your engines.
In my opinion, she wants freedom and doesn't want any man to cut that short.Happy enjoyment then.
marry mE...m quite younger tho..*wink..
ReplyDeleteMakes sense!
ReplyDeleteI should print out her words and frame it up.... Excellent!!!!
ReplyDeletetrue talk
ReplyDeleteVery true Bimbo. Most marriages end up this days cos most pple marry 4 the wrong reasons. This marriage of a thing sef isn't a do or die thing irisint by force.
ReplyDeleteShe is visionary of the highest kind. God bless and support her.
ReplyDeleteGood talk! That's my girl!
ReplyDeletesuch a refreshing perspective!!
ReplyDeletePls who conducted the interview? What for? She's not the first and won't be the last, why the unnecessary attention? I love this lady ,all the same, but know lady should feel fly in spinsterhood abeg!!! If u no get am for husband-head, abeg go wash ur head for bar beach.
ReplyDeleteU are a big fool!!! Marriage no be do or die affair abeg.....if u do not meet that man worth the rest of your life then enjoy life single abeg.....very typical african mentalty...
DeleteWell said,no one should feel fly in spinsterhood cos evn bible said a man would leave his parents to marry!
DeleteSpoken like a true marine spirited desperado! A woman shld feel FLY 1st of all dat she's alive! 2ndly dat she's woman enof n independent 2 hold her own weda or not a man comes along! Na pple like u go remain 4 house wia man dey use u as punching bag all to maintain d "mrs" title and get ur dependent 2 round meals r of agidi jollof! U fit even contemplate d otapiapia route wen d abuser decides 2 dump u like a used tampon! A woman shld v a happy life going on so wen a man comes along it will be a beautiful addition n not d long awaited "happy pill" sm women sef! Okay if man nor come make she start 2 run 4rm church 2 shrine? Hehehe! Then wen d man come she go start to run from shrine to church abi? Look! Life is too short to killover bcos husband neva come! Or maybe she fit share your own with u bcos u seem 2 be d I must marry dis year by fire-type.
DeleteHmm! I Think she's Scared ...Nice Get-away speech tho.....
ReplyDeleteI 100% agree!
ReplyDeleteTrue talk Miss Bimbo. Marriage isn't a do or die tin. Dnt marry cos pple r doin it oooo. Oma baby
ReplyDeleteUntil people begin to understand exactly what marriage is,then they will know that it is not an institution to be joked with. Many our young mates today have come to see marriage as an achievement, same way the see owning a blackberry,Brazilian hair etc....So shallow. These days being engaged or married is what our ladies use to differentiate the 'Doing wells and the not doing wells'.....WRONG!
ReplyDeleteWhat every man and woman should be looking out for in all honesty, is the happiest, most valued, and most respected relationship to ever be in, and not one that is dictated by the pressures of society, family and friends.
With due respect, sometimes I feel some of us need to travel just so our perspective can broaden, thereby inducing a paradigm shift in the way we view the world and most importantly the way we perceive our fellow human beings . We get caught up in our little world so much that we fail to realize there's so much more . Mao Tse-Tung quote sums it up pretty well: 'We think too small. Like the frog at the bottom of the well. He thinks the sky is only as big as the top of the well. If he surfaced, he would have an entirely different view'
Folks believe me, the world is like a book, those who do not travel read but a page, and to quote again from MARK TWAIN, 'Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime'.
There is more to life than Marry Marry Marry everyday.
Bimbo, I have great respect for you. Your statement is full of wisdom and it touched me. You are a talented, smart, kind, aware, dripping swagu and of course, out-of-this-world sexy.
Believe me, somebody is alive today because of your status. When it is time, as it is written, the power of the universe will direct your course.
Stay beautiful always.
Kilode? Y d epistle?
DeleteKilode? Y d epistle?
DeleteNice one!
DeleteCouldn't have said it any better. I've been married for about 4 yrs and I tell you, if i didn't marry my husband Im absolutely certain I would still be single. Marriage is not a joke, you go into it for yourself and no one else. Exposure to other cultures helps a whole lot, you learn to see things differently. Anyway, love Bimbo as an actress but appreciate her more for being true to herself.
Deleteso true.we single girls should think about this. selah
ReplyDeleteexactly...single ladies who r not married yet, should not be pressured into marriage...(i love her way of thinking)
ReplyDeleteI wish I could imbibe her belief....am 31 n freeking out!...huuu
ReplyDeleteAm 25 n freaking out,not evn in a relationship,whew!
DeleteI am 21 and freaking out.
Deletei respect more dan i hav done just frm ur comments today.bimbo ur a very unique queen and i luv ur guts! go girl,niky
ReplyDeleteMy dear i agree wit u
ReplyDeletei concur! however, im getting married next year cuz ive found my better half, but i wish bimbo all the best in life. She's one of the best actors we have in Naija. Gbam!
ReplyDeleteI hope you don't sleep with married men as you wait?
ReplyDeleteso on point. nuff respect Bimbo!!!
ReplyDeleteI used to think like this oh. Then I fell in love and threw caution to the wind... Imagine the shock I got when I realized that my husband had never been in love with me and it was only a marriage of convenience for him.
ReplyDeleteMy question is what happens when you wait for so long and then marry someone who does not love you back or shares the same vision with you? Is it still worth the wait?
God bless you Bimbo, my mum's name sake. To me, you are the best actress in nigeria after Joke Silva. I'm 26 but you should see how stressed am becoming over my single status especially with the constant IVs from family friend's daughters my age plus the remarks from "well meaning " family and friends. Honestly , its disheartening for good girls like my self( not trying to be boastful) to remain single while the bad girls get married to the decent guys. I pray that God grants you , your heart desires , mine and that of all the single females .Linda inclusive. Amin. Pls post this oh!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, DO NOT feel pressured. I know what u mean (I was considered a good girl too, hope I still am lol) I got married at 29 to the perfect man for me. Be patient and careful, marriage is never to be rushed into no matter how many comments or I.Vs u get. I was never in a hurry, Infact I had made up my mind that I will be single for a long time when I reunited with my ex(long story). You get the gist sha,take ur time enjoy life, develope yourself, u'll meet HIM when u least expect.
Deletehahahahaha, see this one oh..
DeleteAre u advertisin urself here? *smh* then why not wear sign post on ur neck inscribed #i need husband# he will soon find u out dearie
I totally agree with U miss BIMBO. I admire ur courage 2 stay single but i still think that most atimes our past has alot 2 do with our future . Be wise & seek GOD's face 4 no man/woman is an Island includding U.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u dear sis,i respect u a whole lot,God will give u a man that will take care of you and adore u
ReplyDeleteAm surprised all of u are now supporting her, hypocrites! Tomorrow when u see a pic of Linda or genny y'all will be screaming "go and marry" not taking a time out to ask ursef or think cld there be a reason for this person to remain single up till date?dat they did not state their intention/reasons open like bimbo did here now doesn't mean there isn't any reason. I hope some shallow minded ppl dat think "marriage is d ultimate or highest achievement for a woman in life" will have a rethink based on this note. Well said bimbo,I respect ur opinion and have a lot of respect for u.
ReplyDeleteLinda go and do your research again.Bimbo is not 37 o. she is in her 40s
ReplyDeleteWhen she is 70, lonely and no children or grand children, her eye go shine. am not sayin she should marry the wrong man though.
ReplyDeleteWarri Girl
So then what are you saying ?
Deleteok!
ReplyDeletei love u bimbo and so does my hubby LOL...well said my dear....i know the one who deserves you is coming....
ReplyDeleteI respect ur decision....best of luck dearie
ReplyDeleteI love bimbo like mad,great intelligent actress.Don't marry yeye to prove rubbish.but meanwhile,my bimbo is not 37.she was born in 1973. So lin lin get ur facts right.we went to sch togeda n we no dey use football age.
ReplyDeleteI like this babe...very sensible!!!
ReplyDeleteTrue.
ReplyDeleteWait till you find that person you want spend evryday with.
It's a huge decision. A huge step.
You make sense!
ReplyDelete@ anonymous 1:06pm you argument is quite stupid and pointless.
ReplyDeletewho wants to marry a 37 year old woman?? Im sure one of the guys u turned down was meant for u..u r past it now
ReplyDeleteVery Good Advise that most Nigerians ladies should look to.I am personnaly taken with this. Nice One Bimbo !!At heavens Gate it will only be you standing at the pearly gates .God have Mercy if it is because of MAN u no enter.........
ReplyDeleteKeep them coming.........
ReplyDelete@ anon 1:05 read your bible again it says that he will find her not the other way around.Simple teachings wey God put for the Bible we dey even read am the wrong way around. Na wah Oh.
ReplyDeleteTrue
ReplyDeleteI dey fear the tin too walahi,buh let's continue 2 pray & God will do his thing.Amen.
ReplyDeleteI am so impressed at her words
ReplyDeleteHmmm... speechless but shocked you would even be thinkn that you would get that old before someone puts a ring on it. wink wink.
ReplyDeletei need someone like u bi...to marri
ReplyDeleteall the single girls coming out to comment i see...lmao
ReplyDeletepls my dear sister, there is no mr perfect, and there is no mrs perfect either.i want u to understand something that marriage is not a matter of choice , i.e if i like i can marry, and if i like i will not marry.if you are alive and you decide not to get marry then you have not fufil the purpose of the lord in your life.marriag is fufilling a compulsory thing that God has odain.if your mother and your father refuse to marry, how will be in an existence? How will you be who you are today? Is just like when you plant a seed and the seed refuse to reproduce another seed, how will you feel?
ReplyDeleteI read all d comments n evry1 tried by supporting her decision. If anybody luvs bimbo as d star she is, I think it wud b me cos I think she's one of d most stealthly sexy nigerian women celebrities. D honest truth is how many of all of us are in a r-ship or married 2 d man of dia ideals n dreams? We all had 2 make a lil compromise along d way. 4 sum ur dealing with a man wit a poor language or verbal skill, 4 sum its just lack of finances, 4 odas ur tryin 2 pull him 2 God,4 sum its his looks, odas r dealing wit hygiene issues probably cos ur d cat n he's d dog, there's a whole list of dis tins mannerisms n habits alike. Its not just d way u saw it wen u we're a teenage gurl. It doesn't mean u must bend all d way till u break over. I dnt hav a problem if a person chooses 2 remain single all dia life, its just dat we shud place our expectations of ppl as close 2 reality as possible bcos wen ppl love us its not bcos we r perfect- dey simply chose 2 look byond d container n search out d content. In cases of true love. Bimbo I wish u all d best in all u do. I just pray dat ur patient wait 4 d right man will pay off in d long run,
DeleteCompulsory? Fool, read ur bible, dnt make comments based on ur delusioned intuition. Was Jesus married? Paul nko? Revd fathers n nuns? Its grace. Read ur bible. Paul said its grace. Its good if u can but its better to be married n enjoy sex than claim celibacy n mess arnd
DeleteWORD!!! I love and respect Bimbo Akintola.
ReplyDeletekeep smoking babe... you could find another smoker too. #justkidding
ReplyDeleteWell Said!
ReplyDeletewise girl marriage is not a do or die affair neither is it a visa to heaven...very wise girl i totally agree with you
ReplyDeleteYou go girl. On a serious note. if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
ReplyDeleteWORD!
ReplyDeleteJust strolling by...........
ReplyDelete....................life is all abt compromise and marriage is not abt one individual but two. Still waiting for the right man to show up at her age? Issokay...............guess she has decided to remain single all her life
ReplyDeleteLinda you left out the part where she talked about children...she said she is already taking care of some or has some children under her care etc can't remember the rest read it on another blog...that has always been my stand motherhood is not about getting pregnant and having a baby but the true test of motherhood is taking care of this baby and bringing it up
ReplyDeleteIt is only a very smart,exposed and intelligent lady that can give this kind of answer.Somebody who is not afraid to to question the norm,who dare to be different,who doesn't follow the crowd.
ReplyDeleteBimbo,I admire you a lot.
just take it easy my dear, once a woman has miss the opportunity of marriage they will start being diplomatic about there comment. your already old and only old men will be asking for ur **************. so if u like remain single till the end. just say the truth of ur youthful story and stop deceiving others.
ReplyDeleteWho cares, it is your life and yours alone!
ReplyDeleteTrue words. Not worth it for one to get married cos of family/pple pressures, which is common in Nigeria esapecially in our Yoruba land. I wish u the best in ur chosing.
ReplyDeleteDireDayo
Rita says,...Most people only see the naughty side of Bimbo but I would leave my daughter with her anyday and be rest assured that she will do right by her always. we have been friends for almost 13years and I tell you no friend can be as loyal as Bimbo nor more considerate. She really would have married long ago but like she said she wants that little extra and I couldnt agree more.
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ReplyDeleteI so much respect your opinion about marriage...marriage is for better for worse and that means your whole heart must accept the man in question. God will surely grant you your heart desires soon.
ReplyDeleteShe is so on point!
ReplyDeleteI love Bimbo's approach to the issue of marriage. It's also clear that she is quite enlightened. Marriage can be hell and even a death trap if rushed in and for the wrong reasons. It's a pity that our society equates success, especially for women, with marriage,kids, wealth etc. I'm not saying these are not important, they are but they shouldn't define a woman! Take it from me, it is better to remain single, happy(yeah some single ladies don't need a man to make them happy), sane and ALIVE at 70yrs than married, sad, depressed and treading the thin line btw sanity n insanity or worse dead at 35! Marriage can be a heavenly experience as the Lord intented it or as horrible as staring into an already cocked AK-47 assault riffle! I wish Bimbo the best of lucky in life and Love.
ReplyDeleteNicely said Bimbo, but if u dnt see de rite man, try & hav α baby for urself cuz u won't be as strong as u're now 4ever, u will need someone, ur blood to take gud care of u wen u're old & weak. Marriage is not de inn-tin, happiness & peace of mind is. I wish u all de best Senior babe, kissesssssss
ReplyDeleteCOME MARRY ME OOOO
ReplyDeleteGood talk. More women should think like this.
ReplyDeletewho cares is ur life, how old re u now probably you've missed the Mr right, or may you re waiting for a second chance good luck!
ReplyDeleteI totally disagree cos she's 37! Dis perfect picture tht. She has is already what is wrong with her. No man is perfect. I doubt if dere ll b any single old enuf man tht fits her criteria tht would b single if not that he has one issue or d other. Stop decieving urself! U need company! People who are married r not mediocre!
ReplyDeleteNice 1,for the first time in a long while, pple can actually make nice honest comments.
ReplyDeletethere is a flaw in her argument. Even when you meet a person that you feel it will be forever, is no guarantee that it will be forever. Some things in life are about reason to some extent,then faith takes over. If you are waiting for a 100% assurance that your marriage will work before you enter,then you will wait forever.
ReplyDeleteLinda you have deliberately refused to post or omitted some of the comments which would give a balance to this whole debate. Women should stop deceiving themselves and face reality. Please let's learn from the western world particularly, Britain what single mums issue have caused in the society.
ReplyDeletewell... I respect bimbo and also her decisions... Buh my advice goes 2 u odinary ladies dis woman is a star and dat givs her an edge ... Men will defintely regardless of her age... If u decide 2 follow her steps hmmmmmm ... U r on ur own oo... I've seen unmarried aged women and i swear i pity 4 em...ey look rejected lonely and outcasted i wont wish dat 4 any gal i like ooo... Am not sayin u should'nt wait 4 d ryt man ... Am only sayin there is no such tin as mr perfect ... We r only human.. marriage is a test of so man
ReplyDeletey tins ... Love , tolerance, understanding, sacrifice ... Marriage i a challenge we dont run from challenge we face em ... Bcos only wit challenges com promotions
plz Bimbo and co suppoters should console thwmselves well well eeeh.plz search for her complete interview in one of the blogs where she stated that some her ex's has propose but she turned it down because they r not the type of men she desires.in same time she says theres no perfect man and she is also open to marry any guy that makes her happy.{smh)......i am warning u people to be mindful of what u support cos u r indirectly claiming it.God help una.
ReplyDeleteLinda where is my comment dt started wit"dis one na okwu nkasi obi"i don look for am i no see am.please find it n post it for me.i beg u
ReplyDeleteAs much as I like what Bimbo has said about marriage,I strongly advise she takes it easy on smoking so she can live upto "seventy" and beyond. I believe she should clean up her personal life and try to be a more responsible person. Love her acting skill,one of the best Nigerian actresses
ReplyDeleteI honestly think many of the people who insist on others marrying are just ppl who are looking for others to share the misery with them.
ReplyDeleteIf you are happily married and fulfilled in your life it should not matter what someone elses opinion is.
She made a knockout point. At the end of the day we are all on earth as individuals. No matter how much family, children, or friends you have the life you are living is truly a solitary experience. Nobody feels anything that is happening in you. Honour your indiviudality, and stick to you guts and what you believe in. If more of us were not easily led by the masses our lives would be 100%happier.
Bimbo love, i understand u but there is still need for u to get married especially now u are within the reproductive age. Life hv thought me dat there is no perfect person (man/woman),even u Bimbo. You are d one dat will build ur marriage to ur taste. Pray for God to give u ur suitor as soon as possible and may God bless ur marriage with children. Husband is d crown of every woman. LOL
ReplyDelete'Waiting for the perfect man'.It is well with you sha, but have you considered the convent?Just asking
ReplyDeleteNO MATTER HOW TIME U SPEND CONVINCIN URSELF OTHERWISE, NO NORMAL LADY SINGLE AT 30 YRS CAN EVER BE TRULY HAPPY. DO U KNW WAT IT MEANS TO BE LONELY? IT MEAN THERE REALLY IS NO ONE TO GO HOME TO MOST TIMES, NO ONE TO REALY CALL URS NO MATTER HOW MUCH TROUBLE THEY GIVE U, NO MATTER THEIR FAULTS.
ReplyDeleteBIMBO THO I WILL ALWAYS ADMIRE HER, SHOULD STOP CONSOLIN HERSELF COS SHE HAS MISSED THE ONE SHE CLAIMS SHE IS WAITIN FOR.
COME TO TINK OF IT, IF NO MAN HAS QUALIFIED TO BE UR MR RITE tiL NOW, DONT U THINK THE PROBLEM IS U?
Is she waiting for an Angel from heaven before getting married????....we humans are not perfect,if she wants to get married to perfect man she GO WAIT TIRE OO.
ReplyDeleteAm not saying she should rush into a bad marriage but u can't b single and sleeping with different men and expect God to bless you with the right man!
Its good to see someone sensible unlike ur ex-mbgn that married anoda woman's hubby. I love anty bimbo's. view buh then a perfect person is a faux. Abi are u perfect? We all have to be prayerful not to miss our imperfect man. There is no need to give urself bp over this matter but be open. Take an extra step of allowing men meet u&fall in love with ur beautiful person. I'm just 22 and getting married in wks. Looking forward to d ups, not excited abt d dwns but then dts marriage.
ReplyDeleteI disagree wit what she said about meeting the perfect guy, no one is perfect,in marriage u need tolerance. Both of you r from different baground u hv to learn about each other, each day dat passes. With dis attitude of hers she will be lonely all her life.friends pls give her d right advice
ReplyDeleteStories that touch the bone marrow..you ladies should keep deceiving yourselves eya..mtcheeew..defense mechanisms...nonsense
ReplyDeletebimbo akintota 2me is a confused babe.
ReplyDeletehow can anyone get perfection in any living soul. life realistically is all about compromises.
when mr perfect comes your way and 5years down the road he loses some of those perfection, do you bail?
Hmmm, Interesting! Being aware and enlightened is no longer important in today's world, but it's a SINE QUA NON! I completely agree and share with Bimbo's intelligent point of view. I thought that was quite insightful. It will be quite interesting to hear more objective and intelligent views on this topic.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a beautiful thing.It's something everybody desires.Unfortunately,not everyone will marry or remain married. Some have died along the way, some will die and some will not make it.That is just life.
The reason for getting married is a choice that only you have to make...Shamefully fear and societal pressure had pushed a lot of us into marriages that deed inside our heart, we aren't happy and wished it never happened.You just have nothing to prove. Focus on yourself, build a decent career or life and quit waiting or depending on a man / woman to complete you.If he comes, good, if eh doesn't,life goes on.
Everybody is amazed at her comment...you know why? Because she's smart and for those who complained about her smoking habit,she's not ignorant of the health implications. So keep your advise to yourself and come up with an objective / intelligent view to counter her own views.
Only a timid man will run away from a smart lady that is in control of her life.....And you see such timid men in Nigeria.
They just can't stand smart and independent ladies.
Shame on all of you that think that marriage is be it all.
Am a man by the way and I respect this chic's level of intelligence.Whatever personal problems she may have,is none of my business.
This just goes to reinforce her point - marry for yourself and for no one else. There are comments here about how she shouldn't feel comfortable in spinsterhood. Meanwhile in the other post about Naeto C's ex brother-in-law someone made a comment about women being desperate to marry. *HISS*
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing like a right man or woman..you mould them or you mould youself into that right man and woman!!
ReplyDeleteI love and respect Bimbo a lot but then i dont agree totally with her view.Its good to be confident and know what you want in life but its bad to be fastidious (difficult to please,excessively particular etc).Some spinsers and bachelors have a long list which any potential spouse must pass through before they can consider them marriageble,most times this list is unrealistic as no human being is perfect.I know becos i have some of them as relatives and friends.
ReplyDeletei hope she is being honest with herself... anyways, love her always. single or no single,its her life.
ReplyDeleteMarriage sure is a good thing when you have the same goals. I love bimbo and to me she could not have been more accurate. I have been married for 6 years now and besides my kids the worst mistake of my life. Im constantly unhappy and it seems it is an emotional roller coaster. This again was someone I dated for a long time from university. I thought I married a friend and lover but it has been one woman or the other. Even older ones, but please don't get me wrong, marriage is a wonderful thing when you meet your soul mate and a good man. Pray and pray always. May God see us through this.
ReplyDeleteI admire you right from u early acting days,but I won't support this comment of yours...we live 90% of our lives on what & how people feel.If not alot of persons would want to take of their clothes on a hot sunny day in the street,but they don't cos people will think they are insane
ReplyDeleteI believe in an honest marriage because it's a beautiful gift. There is more to life than chasing women/men.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, we get so focused on achieving our goals and making dreams come true, that we forget about the greatest gifts which are found in honest marriages, relationships, family, friends and loved ones. I don't know about you, but I sure don't want to lose the moon while counting the stars!
Bimbo and every other single lady/man out there, you don't need to waste time trying to prove yourself to everyone. Those who get what you are about--> those who took the time to know you are the ones you should focus your attention on. Those who don't, more often than not already had their minds made up beforehand anyway ...so why fret?
And to all the single ladies and guys out there who believe in marriage and sincerely long for it, just know that the Lord didn't bring you this far to leave you. May HE be gracious to you and bless you and make His face shine upon you. And if you haven't found your partner yet, keep LOOKING. Don't SETTLE, for you will know when you find him/her. And just like every great relationships/marriages, it just gets better and better as the years roll by.
And finally,When you meet him/her, you would never be tired of him/her even if you are with him/her all day long. In fact you will grow to like your partner a little more every day. You will be enthralled by your partner's beauty, mesmerized by her/his charisma and spellbound by his/her affection. The right one will be to you, all that a woman/man should be......'The best part of your everyday'.
So Keep Looking, Don't settle, until you find Him/Her.
EDDY, God Bless you.
ReplyDeleteBIMBO, God bless you.
I once met a woman who almost convinced me there was nothing to having kids and it was not necessary until i found out (infact it was God that wanted me to find out) that she could not have kids at all! And so she resolved to say that kids were not important to her.
What else do i expect her to say at 40-something. Just because she says that this is her reason does that make it true?
Is she fornicating up and down?
How many married men has she had affairs with?
Even if she is a virgin sef, is she really happy? Alone or otherwise?
What is her health status?
if she speaks the truth Kudos.
But please just because money is not everything doesnt mean i wont work hard to make some cash>
Make up your own minds ppl.
Only God can be trusted in this end times.
On Point!!
ReplyDeletecome marry me
ReplyDeleteOne thing u pple supporting her is that a man in d family is d roof over his family. U can talk to a single lady d way u lik, or even a widow. But once u hear that d woman is married n d husband is alive, u dear not, no mata how short or tall d man is, urgl, poor, handicAp, a man is still am. Se. Na man dey luk 4woman or na woman dey look 4man.na she want marry man. Her set don pass. She no no say women plenty? Those men dat she turn down done marry n wit kids living fine. Girls b careful. No let sumbody miserable life run una down. Well sha na pple were life don tire dey try pull odas down
ReplyDeleteif only girls had her mentality...
ReplyDeletebest of luck sis.
ReplyDeleteWELL SAID BIMBO!
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ReplyDelete@Black Knight, I totally agree with you. To the point where I really don't think it's advisable to marry someone born and completely bred in Nigeria if you've spent a substantial amount of time living abroad. There's a very visible myopic concept of the ideals of marriage in this country.
Marriage requires maturity and maturity is not always comensurate with age. I met my husband at 33 and married him within 7 months. Its 3 years later and I can safely say that I don't even like him as a person. Like anon 2:53 I later realised that it was indeed a marriage of convenience for him and his family. I believe that even though when I met him marriage was not on my mind, when the matter came up, I quite possibly, on a sub-conscious level conformed to societal standards, age etc. I think a lot of women marry men who we would not actually want to date.
If the promise of marriage was not on offer,would you want to be with this person? That's a good question to ask oneself when considering entering into marriage.
As for me, I believe that my happiness now far outweighs any fears of lonliness at 70. Who's to say I'll get to that age.
Life is too short to be half-lived.
Every1 has his or her own life to live, so she can do whatever it pleases her... this is bimbo's life we're taking about not ours..i also strongly believe that everybody has an orientation set as default, but i concur to the part that says ' she won't get married because of what people says about her'...thats on point...ahr3pod
ReplyDeleteI might be the one u are waiting for lol
ReplyDeleteas much as people may disagree, i don't believe most people get married because they have found the person they are absolutely compatible with, without question.
ReplyDeleteI believe most people get married because the opportunity cost of prolonging their search for spouses outweigh the cost of what they stand to gain from their current suitors.
Don't worry Bimbo, Jesus is coming SOON!!!!
ReplyDeleteD simple truth
ReplyDeleteAre you a single lady,Divorced or ino na di acho di(married but searchin for husband) Looking for a MAN Who is RESPONSIBLE,NICE,KIND, LOVIN,CARING,FAITHFUL,HONEST, PERFECT and Very RICH? Just Be Very patient JESUS IS COMIN SOON! *Floetry in Motion*
ReplyDeleteThat special, perfect man that every woman dreams to have. But does ... But isn't Mr. Right looking for Mrs. Right also?
ReplyDelete*floetry in motion*
Watch the movie Shrek, it teaches you that no one needs to be perfect to have a happily ever after. *Floetry in motion*
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