Lol, just like we automatically became sinners at birth without committing any sin, with jesus, we can automatically become saints even while we sin. obviously her good girl was just self righteousness and her born again was just formality.
Jeez dt sent chills down my Spine! Queen Ure if I were u,I would have remained in the states find one mumu oyinbo have his kids and live a life free from Nigerian Criticism and mentality!after all J Lo and her fellow Cougars are having a blast! Even Nia Long just had a Son for our very own Naija man! Shez a Cougar and has hooked him(meal ticket I mean) kai some women can make mistakes sha!
sooo sad full of depression.. shes obviously living a life full regrets. shes a nice person tho God will compensate her for all the times she was bornagain... It is well Ure
Eiyahhhhhhhhh. . . Your dad was a minister in Gowon's govt. eehh? He together with Gowon and all his cronies ripped Ngeria off after the civil war. shebi? You see that what goes around comes around? You lacked nothing because of the sweat and blood of Nigerians. Nigerians are suffering and dying today because of the fact that your dad and Gowon's govt squandered money acrued from Nigeria's oil boom. I wish you happiness, but I will also remind your that your happy childhood is based on the blood and sufferings of Nigeria. Nothing lasts forever. Where is your dad's riches? I wish u the best of what you wish yourself.
I admire her honesty at least she is not living in bondage. Wow, a lot of young women should take a leaf from this woman and understand that true love and happiness does not lie in selfish ambitions or men with money.
TMI (too much info)...she should have saved it for a book. Would've made a good read.
Don't blame her, I think the folks back in Nigeria are becoming restless, being home for days now with the strike and all. More gist like this is in perfect order for those of us abroad...
O ya, who is next?
A beg you guys should relax don't make too many babies o!. Biko, go easy on the love making. Here in WDC, when we have snow blizzards we usually end up with a baby boom the following year.
Naija resources no fit carry the population explosion.
But sha, those of you dating other people's husbands, O biiii :b (tongue out) their wives have them for now.
One of the many advantages of Occupy Nigeria protests.
This same attitude made me lose my virginity. Please don't be tired of your principles no matter the pressure. Remember your doing it for God. I have since gone back to the path of righteousness. God is with you!
Who told her she was ever a good girl?? She was good up till the point she was at the university after that she became a typical bank worker, wayward people.
wow..wow..wow(so touching)i do believe her..for a lady to vent her frustrations on facebook means something is terribly wrong.. successful women(like myself..lol) are often victims of unscrupulous gold digging,cheap ass,lazy cheats called men.
there is no harm in loving one beneath ur financial class but please shine ur eyes,be a lil humble coz she might also have some bad sides to her... anyway URE,men are listening..ur knight in shining amour is around the corner,,he def aint SOUL E or Tubaba.. so as a first step,remove that tubaba pic from your profile picture..lol
The lord would be with you and give you wisdom i really feel your pains , marrying for the very wrong reasons. First of all try and love yourself , love your singleness , do wthings that make you happy and do not pressure yourself into getting married again . pls no look for my husband oooh if you try me and my sisters hmmmmm we go occupy your body oooh.
I know Ure and she's quite intelligent and works REALLY hard. Something i've always admired in her. All the money she ever made was from her hard work but one weakness she does have is always giving out too much info. Who posts info of abortions online. I think she needs to stick to herself, keep working hard and get herself a shrink already!
FYI, you're not the type to be a mistress for some rich dude cos you're too independent for that crap.
Abeg who she be?? How she be good? Look at her Facebook account, see as she's all over Baby Daddy (Tuface). Like people say, Good girl get level, Asewo wey nack 1 customer per night good pass one wey dey nack 2,3 customers every night.
Nigerians stop being so judgemental, just people in general. When someone pour their hearts out, people automatically label her or him as being crazy. Everybody has gone through one thing or the other or currently going through but people wants to act all perfect, like I don't go through stuff. Then when some people keep everything to themselves, get hurt later or hurt themselves, people start saying, oh, what happened? Please, please, stop with the possessed or witchcraft generalization. It's stupid.
My point is, when someone is going through stuff, just be a little sympathetic because all they need is just an encouragement, advice, that things might be tough now but it will be okay or it will get better.
I totally feel where she's coming from. This is an example of when bad things happen to good people. I was just having the discussion with my sister the other day, how come bad people or just people who do crazy things always have good things happen to them but ones that are trying to do the right thing, bad things happen to them.
What I have learned in this complicated life is, stick to who you are, good principles and even though it looks like it's not worth it sometimes it will be worth it at the long run. The more you do crazy things, it might feel good at the moment but it will eventually come back to bite you in the butt. So, Queen Ure, don't go out doing crazy things, use this time to find who you are, what you want, know what you are looking for, patiently wait and it will come sooner than you know. God bless.
i like her...God bless her heart,not because i have done any of these things but because she's down to earth and doesn't care what people think of her anymore. she's been through all that yet hasnt committed suicide. i pray true love finds you. Amen
lm not commending her for her past, we"ve all sinned and are not better than her.
dis woman desperately needs mental help.. Somebody pls help her b4 she completely loses it..b4 she enter market o abeg...
for her to take out time to compose a long essay of her life history and publish it on air means she is very lonely, bored and probably psychologically n mentally unbalanced...she cud be suicidal or just an attention seeker....
nevertheless naija people i kw u are gud people ....Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeellllllllppppppppppppppppppp...
This girl is very funny, she's had 2 abortions, slept with multiple men, divorce once b/4, hanging with multiple face guy (Tuface)etc....And she said she is a good girl?? SHE'S A TWO-TIME MURDERER!! Who named her Queen to begin with??
She shld go for mature men & quit fooling around wit small rats who use & dump her. Moreover,no self-respecting lady in search of true love wld ever think of dating\sleeping wit Tuface,Nigeria's most celebrated baby daddy of illegitimate kids.so QueenUre,do yourself a favour & delete that profile picture of you & Tuface. That's the bitter truth.
if ure tired of being a good gal, try being a bad gal and bsides y re u labeling urself a good gal, ure just a normal girl so dont make a story out of nothing, Just look to God to help u overcome ur struggles cos only him can.
How can any1 seeking a man put it out on the Internet that she's looking for a rich man for selfish reasons? Won't that attract more of the fake ones to take advantage of her punani? If I catch her I go subtly knack her APAKO! #Just saying
Anon 5.04 i love u jare. Christian my ass, please say that you went to church but you didnt knw Christ. its bad enough that you got preggy then you now added MURDER t the equation.
Anyway God is loves you Ure no matter what! and as a result i will not judge
It's funny when judgemental ppl point fingers at others. No one is perfect and there is absolutely nuthn wrong with being human or making mistakes. I admire the lady for the guts to put herse;f out there. Bring out your own skeletons, let us see na. Abeg, abeg only God is the judge. *clicks tongues* Na who holy pass? Abeg o #HeW/oSinShouldCastTheFirstStone
linda if u know her, please put her in check because i can sense DEPRESSION from the note which might lead to SUICIDE so they need to start watching out for her
i feel her pain and i have bn in similar shoes thou am not a divorcee but at almost 40 am not married all becos i want to be a good gal...me sef no do good gal again i want to enjoy my life now
At least she did abortion n told us,how much more people dt sneaks to the Dr,nigerians r quick to judge far from bn sympathetic,leave the poor girl,we all v things we r going thru,learn to listen n learn n not to judge,shikena!
Naijas are the greatest pretenders, it makes my skin crawl. I'm going to vent. A friend of mine showed me this post. She's the queen of gossip. She went on and on to bash this woman, I don't know who she is, apparently my friend knows her better than me, since she lives with this woman 24/7(rolling eyes). The way my friend attacked this woman, you would think she's the most innocent person, never done anything wrong in her life. She has the innocent face too(watch out for those ones). Knowing/living with my friend, I know all her dirty laundry, REALLY DIRTY. What she has done before and after she got married. And let me tell you, she should be the least talking right now. I had to remind her about her dirty laundry, of course she got really mad, it got heated, she hung up on me and I don't give a DAMN. She will be the first to proclaim how good or christian of a woman she is like she never made a mistake before. ENOUGH ALREADY. I'm glad, I called her out because naija women like to walk around like they can't hurt a fly and quick to judge others when they have done worse than ones they are judging. UGH, I HATE GOSSIPERS WHO ARE QUICK TO JUDGE, ACT ALL INNOCENT, ALL GOOD JUST BECAUSE YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY IS NOT PUBLIC, GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE. At least, this woman is putting her business out there and being vulnerable. Who knows, she might really be a good person who made some mistakes in her life, just like everybody.
Ure you are who you are. you do not pretend but you need some level of diplomacy when it comes to washing your undies in the public cos inasmuch as some guys will like to see your undies, some will be put off. You have always wanted the best for yourself and you have always made informed choices but have been unlucky. But who says you cant be lucky next time. Do not live falsehood, live real and you will attract real and genuine people around. You deserve a good husband with two or three kids to be fulfilled. life is not all about money as you have seen yourself. I wish you all the very best.
I think she just needed advice and love not judgements!
I hope out of the 100 comments she found people that gave her proper advice that will soothe her.
And please there is no clear definition of good or bad girl. If you are not a virgin, or even if a virgin,The virgin that has hate/jealousy/lies/steals/maipulates/cant forgive others in their heart or uses the back door for sex so as to prevent pregnancies is not in a position to judge her Even the bible says 'ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of the Lord'
Queenure. All that was in the past. Forgive the people that hurt you and forgive yourself..Then this idea of going with married men or going with men bcos of their money may not bring you the happiness you desire, especially if those are the only qualities in men that you seek.
1) Jesus loves you, he did so before you were in your mothers womb so pour out your heart to Him. Nothing is too dificult for Him
2)Be careful with some Nigerian men, the harsh economic situaton seems to have killed true love in our society because these men (especially if they sense desperation) indeed intend to either milk hardworking women, impregnate them and run away or are prepared to be layabout husbands, lazing at home, neither helping build the home nor being a breadwinner, quite content at collecting money from their hardworking wives. Too many examples exists. That said, some bachelors are still real men, good men, Godfearing, patient, caring, hardworking men who are equally searching for a woman like you, pray and be patient they will find you out.
3) You are not alone in all this,there are many sngle women and men facing the same challenges you do. Also people have their skeletons in their cupboard but pretend to be holier than thou especially in our country. Just be yourself so if Mr Right comes calling, you wll know he loves you warts and all.
4) Engage in other activities or hobbies so these thoughts dont cloud your mind.For instance take some time off work, to travel out of this country to places where you wont be judged and enjoy yourself by engaging in activities unique to that area and do them with the people (not our naija people!) whilst there. So many activities are available depending on which country. i.e scuba diving, mountain climbing, camping outdoors, go on a cruise trip or just soaking in their culture. Not only will you have fun, you may realise that getting married is not the end all and be all that warped Nigerian society will pressurize you into thinking..Also you wont be judged if you choose to share your story with friendly strangers,many people in first world countries are very realistic, open about their own life's challenges and openminded. They will happily listen and share theirs. Just too many opportunities and possibilites to get rid of the state you seem to be right now.....Obviously with the current strike action its harder to plan properly and travel out. But you can still be busy at home, planning the trip or group of trips till the strike is called off.
5) There is no perfect man just as you are not perfect either. Keep that in mind
6) Focus on your positives while working on any negative traits. You have a lot of achievements unique to you, most women even your age dont have that so be proud of it.
All u fools dat were so quick 2 throw d 1st stone r no better. Queen ure has a trait whch is so rare in nigerians so I don't expect dead nigerians 2 understand honesty. Those stupid men dat r insulting r married 2 wives dat have done 10 abortions. Surprised? 70 percent of d girls in my uni r worse than her and those girls marry fast so there's a likelihood dat u married a slut. I prefer sum1 who tells me dat she is d devil rather than a snake who pretends 2 be an angel. How many of u have d courage 2 air ur dirty paedophile,asewo carrying lives in public?
She is definitely crying out for help. If her friends know what is good for her, they'll find her a properly trained psychiatrist. She's a public figurev(?)....she shouldnt be posting things like this up (damage control). Reminds me of Charlie Sheen.
She's made me cry. Very real. God will give her a guy who will love her for real. She should not despair. There are some good guys out there, though very few but she'll find one.
all these sanctimonious comments are making me aaangry, rubbish. most peeps here have had countless abortions and all, or have their gal friends do same. so who are u to judge? She is hurting, seriously. dont know why peeps cant see that, i must add that most gud gals have these same issues.She shld seek help, hope she has gud friends too. she sounds like she has been bottling it up for long and suddenly seen an outlet. so those of u judging her, SHUT UP AND GET A LIFE!!
they dat continue to put their trust in God shall not be put to shame,pls as u have been trusting d lord pls dont give up. Every1 has his or her own challenges in dis life and cross we r carrying at one point in time,dis is d devil at work to turn your faith and hope away from GOD. see d way he helped u in outlining all your pains n sorrows if u have traded it to d lord continue to trust him in bringing the very best 2 you Ure
ITS SAD HOW PEOPLE SEE THE NAME 'BORN AGAIN' AS A MERE TITLE OR TO APPEAR 'GOOD' AMONG FOLKS. IF QUEEN URE TRULY UNDERSTOOD THE TRUE ESSENCE AND MEANING OF BEING A BORN AGAIN I.E LEGALLY BECOME A CHILD OF GOD,SHE WOULD NOT HAVE MADE WRONG TURNS IN LIFE FOR SHE HAS THE HOLY SPIRIT TO GUIDE AND DIRECT HER EVERY STEP FROM HER WORK LIFE TO HER LOVE LIFE.
BUT THE FACT REMAINS THAT SHE STILL IS A BORN AGAIN(CAN ONLY ACCEPT CHRIST ONCE)SO NOW WHENEVER SHE ASKS THE FATHER FOR FORGIVENESS FOR HER MISTAKES, SHE IS INSTANTLY FORGIVEN AND NOTHING IS HELD AGAINST HER BECAUSE GOD WILL ONLY SEE THE RIGHTEOUS OF JESUS WHEN HE LOOKS AT HER. THIS IS UNLIKE A NON BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN WHO CAN NEVER BE VIEWED AS RIGHTEOUS BY THE LORD EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVE ONLY MADE 1/3 OF THE MISTAKES URE HAS MADE.
QUEEN URE SHOULD NOT BE SIN CONSCIOUS AND DWELL IN THE MISTAKES OF HER PAST, SHE SHOULD REMEMBER AS A BORN AGAIN SHE IS PRECIOUS TO GOD AND SHE HAS BEEN MADE RIGHTEOUS THROUGH JESUS CHRIST AND HAS THE LIFE OF GOD IN HER,HENCE ALL SHE NEEDS TO DO IS TO WALK IN PATH WHICH THE HOLY SPIRIT LEADS HER
My dearest rue,,I will always luv you,regardless of whatever,but just like you always taught us,Jesus give us peace and you have him already.I will always luv u.
I understand how she feels but in my opinion,she gave out too much info. But at the end of the day,its her life and we all deal with crisis or problems differently.
I pray God gives her peace and joy so much so that she will forget her pain,and me too, IJMN, Amen.
"O ti mu mi gba gbe, ibanuje igba kan, ase were ni se oluwa...."
we women all have issues but when we hear another woman express hers,we tend to judge her. Who among u women have not aborted, used condom or taken contraceptives? And who among u men have not given their girlfriends money to abort or ejaculated outside d vagina or used condom? I categorize all of them as the same. Please we should be our brothers keepers instead of judges. I pray she gets fulfilled in her ventures.
urenna okezie who gave u dat name queen in d 1st place? is dis wat u hv turned urself in2 in lagos? ur elder brother pastor Nnamdi okezie should come & see dis madness oo. chineke nna muo.anyway i dont blame u though u guys have mental problem in ur family so im not surprised. since u hv decided 2 wash ur dross in d public may God help u.odikwa egwu ooo. maybe i shld go to ur house at bende road umuahia & show ur family dis crap
That woman is shameless oooh, she took a regular picture with tuface after his london concert at the O2, and tried to make people believe they were dating! There she goes again trying to justify her behaviour, she faced troubles in her life, really??? unlike the rest of us??? na wa ooo She should really seek a good therapist, it's never too late ... Meanwhile, let's pray for her *sincerely*
MOST OF U BAGGRS WHO R DISSING THIS OPENED HEARTED SOUL HAVE WORSE SKELETONS IN UR BLACK CUPBOARDS SO SHUT UR DIRTY MOUTHS. MAY U FIND A DIRECTION MISS QUEEN URE. GOD DEY
I agree with you LIZ, no matter the pressure, stick to your principles. Anyone who doesn't like you for the good rules you made for yourself should use the door.
@January 16, 2012 7:25 PM "Who among u women have not aborted, used condom or taken contraceptives "
ME!!!!!!! Please don't generalize there are women out there like myself who actually value themselves to much and won't give anything up to anyone other than their husbands
If Ure was a christian as she said, she should please go back to her first love- God, He will definitely take her back. Amidst all these beef, Ure the only way you will ever find true happiness is to go back to God. Flirting around wont give you happiness, you will rather end up regretting your life and even go to hell. For those who say that every lady has aborted or slept around, mind you there are still ladies who havent defiled themselves in anyway for the right reason - fear of God. God is the only giver of peace. If anyone needs peace, God is the only answer, give your life to Jesus and be saved here and in the life beyond.
@Annon Jan 15 5:08pm.........u must be kidding for u to say God will compensate her for all the times she was born again..........she made people around her believe she was born again,,,but all that was secret to people then was open to God,,,,she was a born again,,yet she involved in sexual sins,,murder,,divorce and all sorts.......what other things do unbelievers do that she has not done???? there's nothing like half righteousness,,,its either u are right with God or not....
@Ibo boy and label.....well said,,i agree with u.....
Repent, continue to follow Christ, continue to work hard, treat yourself with respect, get your self esteem up so you won't be falling for men who are only there for your money. If you start doing opposite, it will come back to really hurt you. Stick to God's principle, and the good man will find you.
Hi Ure, If you ever get to read this, know that the greatest thing you can experience is the joy of growing old and looking back to say 'though it seemed like I was defeated but alas!I have overcome' Then your story will be sweeter. I believe in you just like many others you don't know about.
Just cos ur a Christian dont mean u wont make mistakes. But girl u made some whoppers. Still, finally u mite b redi for wot Gods got planned for the rest of ur life.................................................
Wow! Ayam short of words.
ReplyDeleteWAIT THEY ARE NO MORE TOGETHER?
ReplyDeleteawww. touching. if its true, den her story is not different from what many ladies are xperiencing
ReplyDeleteLol, just like we automatically became sinners at birth without committing any sin, with jesus, we can automatically become saints even while we sin. obviously her good girl was just self righteousness and her born again was just formality.
ReplyDeleteds girl sure have issues. strikes me like someone possessed.
ReplyDeleteArrant nonsense.
ReplyDeleteJeez dt sent chills down my Spine! Queen Ure if I were u,I would have remained in the states find one mumu oyinbo have his kids and live a life free from Nigerian Criticism and mentality!after all J Lo and her fellow Cougars are having a blast! Even Nia Long just had a Son for our very own Naija man! Shez a Cougar and has hooked him(meal ticket I mean) kai some women can make mistakes sha!
ReplyDeleteNne nka bu life history!! D abortion bit shocked me though!! WOW!! 'Christian' emena nke oma !! SMH
ReplyDeletePlease, who is she??
ReplyDeleteThis is really pathetic, and a desperate cry for help..... Someone pls send a psychologist her way, she needs it right about now.
ReplyDeleteMay God Grant Yu Ur Heart Desire Of Finding True luv
ReplyDeletesooo sad full of depression.. shes obviously living a life full regrets.
ReplyDeleteshes a nice person tho God will compensate her for all the times she was bornagain...
It is well Ure
ashewo don dey regret am...kpsseeww.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for u oh, can't u be sensitive? Look beyond her words, she's crying out for help and she may not know it herself!
DeleteGod please intervene!!!
@label i agree, TMI in my opinion!
ReplyDeleteEiyahhhhhhhhh. . .
ReplyDeleteYour dad was a minister in Gowon's govt. eehh?
He together with Gowon and all his cronies ripped Ngeria off after the civil war. shebi?
You see that what goes around comes around?
You lacked nothing because of the sweat and blood of Nigerians.
Nigerians are suffering and dying today because of the fact that your dad and Gowon's govt squandered money acrued from Nigeria's oil boom.
I wish you happiness, but I will also remind your that your happy childhood is based on the blood and sufferings of Nigeria.
Nothing lasts forever. Where is your dad's riches?
I wish u the best of what you wish yourself.
Lol,ure mean sha!
DeleteNot nice to hit a man when he|she is already low!
must say that her story is quite intriguing bt den u cant make right by doing wrong.kip trusting God dt d only way.
ReplyDeletefor real & genuine job:www.justjobsng.com
55% of women in our society are in such mess , I don't blame her though
ReplyDeleteI admire her honesty at least she is not living in bondage. Wow, a lot of young women should take a leaf from this woman and understand that true love and happiness does not lie in selfish ambitions or men with money.
ReplyDeletetuface run ohhhhhh! SHE don turn despe looking for who to hook weda for the right or worng reasons.
ReplyDeletebut her personal cv get as e be ohhh!
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DeleteBloglord!!!!!!
Ure nt serious!
its official, Queen Ure needs help. Her family should please step in cos their daughter is dying.
ReplyDeleteI feel terrible.lord have mercy
ReplyDeleteTMI (too much info)...she should have saved it for a book. Would've made a good read.
ReplyDeleteDon't blame her, I think the folks back in Nigeria are becoming restless, being home for days now with the strike and all. More gist like this is in perfect order for those of us abroad...
O ya, who is next?
A beg you guys should relax don't make too many babies o!. Biko, go easy on the love making. Here in WDC, when we have snow blizzards we usually end up with a baby boom the following year.
Naija resources no fit carry the population explosion.
But sha, those of you dating other people's husbands, O biiii :b (tongue out) their wives have them for now.
One of the many advantages of Occupy Nigeria protests.
She's very lonely and confused....
ReplyDeleteTrue love is hard to find when you killed two true-loves that God sent down...I Pray you be forgiven though
ReplyDeleteThis same attitude made me lose my virginity. Please don't be tired of your principles no matter the pressure. Remember your doing it for God. I have since gone back to the path of righteousness. God is with you!
ReplyDeleteWho told her she was ever a good girl?? She was good up till the point she was at the university after that she became a typical bank worker, wayward people.
ReplyDeletewow..wow..wow(so touching)i do believe her..for a lady to vent her frustrations on facebook means something is terribly wrong.. successful women(like myself..lol) are often victims of unscrupulous gold digging,cheap ass,lazy cheats called men.
ReplyDeletethere is no harm in loving one beneath ur financial class but please shine ur eyes,be a lil humble coz she might also have some bad sides to her...
anyway URE,men are listening..ur knight in shining amour is around the corner,,he def aint SOUL E or Tubaba..
so as a first step,remove that tubaba pic from your profile picture..lol
Sorry, I just had to share this story.
ReplyDeleteThey finally caught the guy that has been going to shopping centers to slash people butts(yansh) here in the US. He ran to Peru.
All kinds of weirdos in America O!
http://edition.cnn.com/2012/01/14/justice/peru-virginia-buttocks-slashings/index.html?hpt=hp_t2
The lord would be with you and give you wisdom i really feel your pains , marrying for the very wrong reasons.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all try and love yourself , love your singleness , do wthings that make you happy and do not pressure yourself into getting married again .
pls no look for my husband oooh if you try me and my sisters hmmmmm we go occupy your body oooh.
Well to me she was never a true born again just pretence.
ReplyDeleteHaba! People have issues and they backslide!
DeleteShe was disvirgined at 23, I bet that's above average.
Please cut her some slack!
even in someone's complete honesty some people still have to conform to being judgemental.
ReplyDeleteSMH at some of the very useless comments!!!
I know Ure and she's quite intelligent and works REALLY hard. Something i've always admired in her. All the money she ever made was from her hard work but one weakness she does have is always giving out too much info. Who posts info of abortions online. I think she needs to stick to herself, keep working hard and get herself a shrink already!
ReplyDeleteFYI, you're not the type to be a mistress for some rich dude cos you're too independent for that crap.
Abeg who she be?? How she be good? Look at her Facebook account, see as she's all over Baby Daddy (Tuface). Like people say, Good girl get level, Asewo wey nack 1 customer per night good pass one wey dey nack 2,3 customers every night.
ReplyDeleteHas she got a mum? She needs help because she is frustrated and should see a 'shrink' ASAP.
ReplyDeleteI could actually help her. All she does is in the same circle. She falls for the same type of men over and over again.
She is very stubborn and may not take my advice. She is very childish and spoilt and only wants what she wants and not what suits her.
The day she starts to date men that really like her and not the other way round then she would be OK. Stop dating small boys and grow up.
Date men that have more money than you. She uses money to control men and is not aware of it. It is a mental block...
I missed the "good girl" part.
ReplyDeleteshe just owned up 2 being guilty of abortion, isn't that a punishable offence? just saying.....
ReplyDeletePeace, lasting peace is found only in God! That's all I can say to queen Ure!
ReplyDeleteNigerians stop being so judgemental, just people in general. When someone pour their hearts out, people automatically label her or him as being crazy. Everybody has gone through one thing or the other or currently going through but people wants to act all perfect, like I don't go through stuff. Then when some people keep everything to themselves, get hurt later or hurt themselves, people start saying, oh, what happened?
ReplyDeletePlease, please, stop with the possessed or witchcraft generalization. It's stupid.
My point is, when someone is going through stuff, just be a little sympathetic because all they need is just an encouragement, advice, that things might be tough now but it will be okay or it will get better.
I totally feel where she's coming from. This is an example of when bad things happen to good people. I was just having the discussion with my sister the other day, how come bad people or just people who do crazy things always have good things happen to them but ones that are trying to do the right thing, bad things happen to them.
What I have learned in this complicated life is, stick to who you are, good principles and even though it looks like it's not worth it sometimes it will be worth it at the long run. The more you do crazy things, it might feel good at the moment but it will eventually come back to bite you in the butt. So, Queen Ure, don't go out doing crazy things, use this time to find who you are, what you want, know what you are looking for, patiently wait and it will come sooner than you know. God bless.
i like her...God bless her heart,not because i have done any of these things but because she's down to earth and doesn't care what people think of her anymore. she's been through all that yet hasnt committed suicide. i pray true love finds you. Amen
ReplyDeletelm not commending her for her past, we"ve all sinned and are not better than her.
Like!!!
DeleteWhen was she ever a good girl? Just asking
ReplyDeleteSounds like a wounded/hurting soul. She is self destructing. Please go back to Jesus
ReplyDeletedis woman desperately needs mental help.. Somebody pls help her b4 she completely loses it..b4 she enter market o abeg...
ReplyDeletefor her to take out time to compose a long essay of her life history and publish it on air means she is very lonely, bored and probably psychologically n mentally unbalanced...she cud be suicidal or just an attention seeker....
nevertheless naija people i kw u are gud people ....Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeellllllllppppppppppppppppppp...
Abegi!!! Na today?? Good girl my foot. If she's a saint then I guess Nollywood actressess are all virgins. NEXT!!!
ReplyDeleteThis girl is very funny, she's had 2 abortions, slept with multiple men, divorce once b/4, hanging with multiple face guy (Tuface)etc....And she said she is a good girl?? SHE'S A TWO-TIME MURDERER!! Who named her Queen to begin with??
ReplyDeleteShe shld go for mature men & quit fooling around wit small rats who use & dump her. Moreover,no self-respecting lady in search of true love wld ever think of dating\sleeping wit Tuface,Nigeria's most celebrated baby daddy of illegitimate kids.so QueenUre,do yourself a favour & delete that profile picture of you & Tuface. That's the bitter truth.
ReplyDeleteif ure tired of being a good gal, try being a bad gal and bsides y re u labeling urself a good gal, ure just a normal girl so dont make a story out of nothing, Just look to God to help u overcome ur struggles cos only him can.
ReplyDeleteHow can any1 seeking a man put it out on the Internet that she's looking for a rich man for selfish reasons? Won't that attract more of the fake ones to take advantage of her punani? If I catch her I go subtly knack her APAKO! #Just saying
ReplyDeleteSo after all the abortions you think that you will have peace n a good life, go and ask the dead for mercy and then find peace
ReplyDeleteAnon 5.04 i love u jare. Christian my ass, please say that you went to church but you didnt knw Christ. its bad enough that you got preggy then you now added MURDER t the equation.
ReplyDeleteAnyway God is loves you Ure no matter what! and as a result i will not judge
It's funny when judgemental ppl point fingers at others. No one is perfect and there is absolutely nuthn wrong with being human or making mistakes. I admire the lady for the guts to put herse;f out there. Bring out your own skeletons, let us see na. Abeg, abeg only God is the judge. *clicks tongues* Na who holy pass? Abeg o #HeW/oSinShouldCastTheFirstStone
ReplyDeleteFunnily enough i really feel sorry for her, damn she's only 29 its not old there is still plenty of time for her to find love!!!
ReplyDeletelinda if u know her, please put her in check because i can sense DEPRESSION from the note which might lead to SUICIDE so they need to start watching out for her
ReplyDeleteThis lady seems mentally disturbed.
ReplyDeleteshe needs help,urgently.
i feel her pain and i have bn in similar shoes thou am not a divorcee but at almost 40 am not married all becos i want to be a good gal...me sef no do good gal again i want to enjoy my life now
ReplyDeleteMadam Liz....of course you have become celibate again. After you don chop Cain fininsh. #straight face
ReplyDeleteAt least she did abortion n told us,how much more people dt sneaks to the Dr,nigerians r quick to judge far from bn sympathetic,leave the poor girl,we all v things we r going thru,learn to listen n learn n not to judge,shikena!
ReplyDeleteAm feeling cold after reading all that. Stay well love.
ReplyDeleteWaoh, please don't date married men, it will only worsen matter. Never believe love exist in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteThis story makes me think life is unjust to the queen-y people. Whatever happens you deserved to be happy. And happiness you will find.
ReplyDeleteNaijas are the greatest pretenders, it makes my skin crawl. I'm going to vent. A friend of mine showed me this post. She's the queen of gossip. She went on and on to bash this woman, I don't know who she is, apparently my friend knows her better than me, since she lives with this woman 24/7(rolling eyes). The way my friend attacked this woman, you would think she's the most innocent person, never done anything wrong in her life. She has the innocent face too(watch out for those ones). Knowing/living with my friend, I know all her dirty laundry, REALLY DIRTY. What she has done before and after she got married. And let me tell you, she should be the least talking right now. I had to remind her about her dirty laundry, of course she got really mad, it got heated, she hung up on me and I don't give a DAMN. She will be the first to proclaim how good or christian of a woman she is like she never made a mistake before. ENOUGH ALREADY.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad, I called her out because naija women like to walk around like they can't hurt a fly and quick to judge others when they have done worse than ones they are judging.
UGH, I HATE GOSSIPERS WHO ARE QUICK TO JUDGE, ACT ALL INNOCENT, ALL GOOD JUST BECAUSE YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY IS NOT PUBLIC, GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE.
At least, this woman is putting her business out there and being vulnerable. Who knows, she might really be a good person who made some mistakes in her life, just like everybody.
Ure you are who you are. you do not pretend but you need some level of diplomacy when it comes to washing your undies in the public cos inasmuch as some guys will like to see your undies, some will be put off. You have always wanted the best for yourself and you have always made informed choices but have been unlucky. But who says you cant be lucky next time. Do not live falsehood, live real and you will attract real and genuine people around. You deserve a good husband with two or three kids to be fulfilled. life is not all about money as you have seen yourself. I wish you all the very best.
ReplyDeleteI think she just needed advice and love not judgements!
ReplyDeleteI hope out of the 100 comments she found people that gave her proper advice that will soothe her.
And please there is no clear definition of good or bad girl. If you are not a virgin, or even if a virgin,The virgin that has hate/jealousy/lies/steals/maipulates/cant forgive others in their heart or uses the back door for sex so as to prevent pregnancies is not in a position to judge her Even the bible says 'ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of the Lord'
Queenure. All that was in the past. Forgive the people that hurt you and forgive yourself..Then this idea of going with married men or going with men bcos of their money may not bring you the happiness you desire, especially if those are the only qualities in men that you seek.
1) Jesus loves you, he did so before you were in your mothers womb so pour out your heart to Him. Nothing is too dificult for Him
2)Be careful with some Nigerian men, the harsh economic situaton seems to have killed true love in our society because these men (especially if they sense desperation) indeed intend to either milk hardworking women, impregnate them and run away or are prepared to be layabout husbands, lazing at home, neither helping build the home nor being a breadwinner, quite content at collecting money from their hardworking wives. Too many examples exists. That said, some bachelors are still real men, good men, Godfearing, patient, caring, hardworking men who are equally searching for a woman like you, pray and be patient they will find you out.
3) You are not alone in all this,there are many sngle women and men facing the same challenges you do. Also people have their skeletons in their cupboard but pretend to be holier than thou especially in our country. Just be yourself so if Mr Right comes calling, you wll know he loves you warts and all.
4) Engage in other activities or hobbies so these thoughts dont cloud your mind.For instance take some time off work, to travel out of this country to places where you wont be judged and enjoy yourself by engaging in activities unique to that area and do them with the people (not our naija people!) whilst there. So many activities are available depending on which country. i.e scuba diving, mountain climbing, camping outdoors, go on a cruise trip or just soaking in their culture. Not only will you have fun, you may realise that getting married is not the end all and be all that warped Nigerian society will pressurize you into thinking..Also you wont be judged if you choose to share your story with friendly strangers,many people in first world countries are very realistic, open about their own life's challenges and openminded. They will happily listen and share theirs. Just too many opportunities and possibilites to get rid of the state you seem to be right now.....Obviously with the current strike action its harder to plan properly and travel out. But you can still be busy at home, planning the trip or group of trips till the strike is called off.
5) There is no perfect man just as you are not perfect either. Keep that in mind
6) Focus on your positives while working on any negative traits. You have a lot of achievements unique to you, most women even your age dont have that so be proud of it.
Wish you the best x
Mena
#occupy Nigeria: Nigerian pastors finally speak up: http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2012/01/occupy-nigeriasome-pastors-finally.html
Love you always Urenna! All is well.
ReplyDeleteAderinola Shonekan
All u fools dat were so quick 2 throw d 1st stone r no better. Queen ure has a trait whch is so rare in nigerians so I don't expect dead nigerians 2 understand honesty. Those stupid men dat r insulting r married 2 wives dat have done 10 abortions. Surprised? 70 percent of d girls in my uni r worse than her and those girls marry fast so there's a likelihood dat u married a slut. I prefer sum1 who tells me dat she is d devil rather than a snake who pretends 2 be an angel. How many of u have d courage 2 air ur dirty paedophile,asewo carrying lives in public?
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. So many righteous people commenting. All that righteousness na filthy rag before God #justsaying
ReplyDeleteShe is definitely crying out for help. If her friends know what is good for her, they'll find her a properly trained psychiatrist. She's a public figurev(?)....she shouldnt be posting things like this up (damage control). Reminds me of Charlie Sheen.
ReplyDeleteGood girl no doubt my heart goes out to her.
ReplyDeleteShe's made me cry. Very real. God will give her a guy who will love her for real. She should not despair. There are some good guys out there, though very few but she'll find one.
ReplyDeleteall these sanctimonious comments are making me aaangry, rubbish. most peeps here have had countless abortions and all, or have their gal friends do same. so who are u to judge? She is hurting, seriously. dont know why peeps cant see that, i must add that most gud gals have these same issues.She shld seek help, hope she has gud friends too. she sounds like she has been bottling it up for long and suddenly seen an outlet.
ReplyDeleteso those of u judging her, SHUT UP AND GET A LIFE!!
I will still advise u focus on God. Going d bad way wont bring u happiness either.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless u Ure. The Lord is ur strength. May God judge those who judge her and condemn those who condemn her
ReplyDeletethey dat continue to put their trust in God shall not be put to shame,pls as u have been trusting d lord pls dont give up. Every1 has his or her own challenges in dis life and cross we r carrying at one point in time,dis is d devil at work to turn your faith and hope away from GOD. see d way he helped u in outlining all your pains n sorrows if u have traded it to d lord continue to trust him in bringing the very best 2 you Ure
ReplyDeleteDis is so nice coming frm a pastor oh I mean ex pastor
ReplyDeleteITS SAD HOW PEOPLE SEE THE NAME 'BORN AGAIN' AS A MERE TITLE OR TO APPEAR 'GOOD' AMONG FOLKS.
ReplyDeleteIF QUEEN URE TRULY UNDERSTOOD THE TRUE ESSENCE AND MEANING OF BEING A BORN AGAIN I.E LEGALLY BECOME A CHILD OF GOD,SHE WOULD NOT HAVE MADE WRONG TURNS IN LIFE FOR SHE HAS THE HOLY SPIRIT TO GUIDE AND DIRECT HER EVERY STEP FROM HER WORK LIFE TO HER LOVE LIFE.
BUT THE FACT REMAINS THAT SHE STILL IS A BORN AGAIN(CAN ONLY ACCEPT CHRIST ONCE)SO NOW WHENEVER SHE ASKS THE FATHER FOR FORGIVENESS FOR HER MISTAKES, SHE IS INSTANTLY FORGIVEN AND NOTHING IS HELD AGAINST HER BECAUSE GOD WILL ONLY SEE THE RIGHTEOUS OF JESUS WHEN HE LOOKS AT HER.
THIS IS UNLIKE A NON BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN WHO CAN NEVER BE VIEWED AS RIGHTEOUS BY THE LORD EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVE ONLY MADE 1/3 OF THE MISTAKES URE HAS MADE.
QUEEN URE SHOULD NOT BE SIN CONSCIOUS AND DWELL IN THE MISTAKES OF HER PAST, SHE SHOULD REMEMBER AS A BORN AGAIN SHE IS PRECIOUS TO GOD AND SHE HAS BEEN MADE RIGHTEOUS THROUGH JESUS CHRIST AND HAS THE LIFE OF GOD IN HER,HENCE ALL SHE NEEDS TO DO IS TO WALK IN PATH WHICH THE HOLY SPIRIT LEADS HER
TMI much? The dangers of social networks.
ReplyDeleteMy dearest rue,,I will always luv you,regardless of whatever,but just like you always taught us,Jesus give us peace and you have him already.I will always luv u.
ReplyDeleteI understand how she feels but in my opinion,she gave out too much info.
ReplyDeleteBut at the end of the day,its her life and we all deal with crisis or problems differently.
I pray God gives her peace and joy so much so that she will forget her pain,and me too, IJMN, Amen.
"O ti mu mi gba gbe, ibanuje igba kan, ase were ni se oluwa...."
we women all have issues but when we hear another woman express hers,we tend to judge her. Who among u women have not aborted, used condom or taken contraceptives? And who among u men have not given their girlfriends money to abort or ejaculated outside d vagina or used condom? I categorize all of them as the same. Please we should be our brothers keepers instead of judges. I pray she gets fulfilled in her ventures.
ReplyDeleteurenna okezie who gave u dat name queen in d 1st place? is dis wat u hv turned urself in2 in lagos? ur elder brother pastor Nnamdi okezie should come & see dis madness oo. chineke nna muo.anyway i dont blame u though u guys have mental problem in ur family so im not surprised. since u hv decided 2 wash ur dross in d public may God help u.odikwa egwu ooo. maybe i shld go to ur house at bende road umuahia & show ur family dis crap
ReplyDeleteok i take that back,it's never TMI when its a cry for help, Ure i send u prayers that u'd receive the Help u need, wishing u all the best
ReplyDeleteThat woman is shameless oooh, she took a regular picture with tuface after his london concert at the O2, and tried to make people believe they were dating!
ReplyDeleteThere she goes again trying to justify her behaviour, she faced troubles in her life, really??? unlike the rest of us??? na wa ooo
She should really seek a good therapist, it's never too late ...
Meanwhile, let's pray for her *sincerely*
MOST OF U BAGGRS WHO R DISSING THIS OPENED HEARTED SOUL HAVE WORSE SKELETONS IN UR BLACK CUPBOARDS SO SHUT UR DIRTY MOUTHS. MAY U FIND A DIRECTION MISS QUEEN URE. GOD DEY
ReplyDeleteI agree with you LIZ, no matter the pressure, stick to your principles. Anyone who doesn't like you for the good rules you made for yourself should use the door.
ReplyDelete@January 16, 2012 7:25 PM
ReplyDelete"Who among u women have not aborted, used condom or taken contraceptives "
ME!!!!!!! Please don't generalize there are women out there like myself who actually value themselves to much and won't give anything up to anyone other than their husbands
This is my number call me. 08122624336
ReplyDeleteIt's a cry for help.....
ReplyDeleteSad but her situation isn't hopeless.
If Ure was a christian as she said, she should please go back to her first love- God, He will definitely take her back. Amidst all these beef, Ure the only way you will ever find true happiness is to go back to God. Flirting around wont give you happiness, you will rather end up regretting your life and even go to hell. For those who say that every lady has aborted or slept around, mind you there are still ladies who havent defiled themselves in anyway for the right reason - fear of God. God is the only giver of peace. If anyone needs peace, God is the only answer, give your life to Jesus and be saved here and in the life beyond.
ReplyDelete@Annon Jan 15 5:08pm.........u must be kidding for u to say God will compensate her for all the times she was born again..........she made people around her believe she was born again,,,but all that was secret to people then was open to God,,,,she was a born again,,yet she involved in sexual sins,,murder,,divorce and all sorts.......what other things do unbelievers do that she has not done???? there's nothing like half righteousness,,,its either u are right with God or not....
ReplyDelete@Ibo boy and label.....well said,,i agree with u.....
all the same,, i wish her well!!!
MID-LIFE CRISIS EVERYBODY HAS ONE AS SOME POINT LOL...
ReplyDeleteHey Queen Ure, keep to your faith ur man will find you.
ReplyDeleteRepent, continue to follow Christ, continue to work hard, treat yourself with respect, get your self esteem up so you won't be falling for men who are only there for your money. If you start doing opposite, it will come back to really hurt you. Stick to God's principle, and the good man will find you.
ReplyDeleteGod punish anybody who insults Ure. Ure you are strong baby. Be strong. We love you.
ReplyDeleteHi Ure,
ReplyDeleteIf you ever get to read this, know that the greatest thing you can experience is the joy of growing old and looking back to say 'though it seemed like I was defeated but alas!I have overcome'
Then your story will be sweeter.
I believe in you just like many others you don't know about.
Just cos ur a Christian dont mean u wont make mistakes.
ReplyDeleteBut girl u made some whoppers.
Still, finally u mite b redi for wot Gods got planned for the rest of ur life.................................................