Dear LIB readers; my dad told me to limit the way I spend on my wife
From a male LIB reader
I went to visit my dad recently and what he told me shocked me. He told me that I should limit the way I spend money on my wife simply because each time she visits him or goes out with our less than two years old baby, she goes with a taxi.
And my dad thinks it should not be happening, that she should be taking public bus and that it's unnecessary luxury.
As in WTF!? How can he even say that? I quickly cut him that yes my wife can take a bus but not when she's with our child and if I can afford it, why not?
So what will now happen if I buy her a car? Seriously this is just selfish. But then he was trying to make me feel it was a wise fatherly advise. I don't know if this is a common thing but I was really disappointed.
God forbid me to even mention this to my wife. Parents should stay clear from their married children's business.
There is more to the story, maybe d guy can't afford it! And His dad knows his pocket, and warns him to cut his coat according to his body! Youngman say the truth jor! Stop forming
Its a good thing U av advise urself already.........Ur dad seem nt to like ur wife.....if nt he wont suggest public transport for her nd his grand child... What concerns a man abt hw his son spends on his wife?????What will d woman now say???
If uv got the money spend it on her, better still buy her a car, I think that will look more cool and economical. Nothing should stop you from giving your family a comfortable life if you have the money. #mytake.
Just as he said its just fatherly advise, and no harm wit saying yes or no for dis is sth personal 2u, and ur family. So u mak ur choice how u want it as long as it doesn't affect u negatively.
Just as he said its just fatherly advise, and no harm wit saying yes or no for dis is sth personal 2u, and ur family. So u mak ur choice how u want it as long as it doesn't affect u negatively.
What an elder sitting down sees,a young man/boy like you standing on an iroko tree will not see it. I think ur dad didn't put his words right or u're misunderstood him unless ur dad is jealous of ur love for ur wife.
Nawa oooo some parent sha,dont even knw what to say to dis buh like seriously if d guy should buy d lady a car d father can killed her self.hmmmmm lif is so cruel.
Your dad is a classic jerk. He probably did the same to your mom he is not an honorable man. Please do not listen to him this is by no means common behavior. Buy a car for your wife if you can afford it. I also pray God blesses ur wife with her own resources. He will come crawling to her. He is a wicked man. Your nice wife makes a mistake by visiting him. She should stop. Believe it or not ur dad might actually have a crush on her. Nasty man.
Poster, you are a jobless man. What is this your whole write up all about? Stop being a poor lazy man. Go and buy car for your wife. Stop being a fool.
Truth be said..now, if your child was with her, fine, she can use a taxi. I'm talking to you directly now, its not a comment, let's believe it's a text from my phone to yours,OK. ...But if na so she uses taxi on a regular. Two things are involved, its shows you get money, dont knw what the fare is like right now but last time I chkd, it was on the high. OR..she don condition you say she no fit go public. Check yourself mate, ask, yourself, if I have bread and I can afford a taxi per trip, then let me get her a car...OR...if nah say she condition you as said above, then she's not considerate. As for daddy, hey, pop knows your purse, if you have it, he would rather say get her a car, but the wise man know say if the taxi cruise is regular, you go wreck. Don't be annoyed with him.. But above all o, if the lady uses her own money for her trips, then , no one get mouth o. Na you naw go edit yourself and get it right !
Rubbish, it's nobody's business how husband and wife operate so whether father or mother, they should get their noses out of their business. The man that's giving his wife cab money pending when she gets a car is he complaining? A man will take care of his wife world pple will complain, he asks her to jump bus they will still complain.
OMG, how do some husbands even reason? You are yet to buy a car your wife at least for the sake of the new baby. Yet, shame allowed you to even write this piece. Smh
Very wrong! It's non of his business and secondly why should your wife enter public transport when you can clearly afford to put her in a taxi... At least you are a reasonable man, some men would have taken it as an advice and began to indirectly ruin their marriage. Keep Inlaws and parents out of ur marriage! I would expect your mum to have been the one giving this advice but for your dad to say such, it's quite absurd. If that's the way he treated your mum, he should know that it's not right and let you handle your own wife properly and as you wish
OMG, how do some husbands even reason? You are yet to buy a car your wife at least for the sake of the new baby. Yet, shame allowed you to even write this piece. Smh
I'm proud of u for standing your ground. You're right. Ur dad has no say. Gone are the days. Public transport like bus can be dangerous even for your wife. Only if ur wife worked. Or did ur father tell you to stop your wife from working? Be a man!! Dang. Ur dad has his own wife to order around. Ur dad must be Yoruba cus that's how my mom's in laws be making orders in her marriage.scares me off marrying Yoruba men completely!
All these husband's family just want the women to be suffering. In the 90s my dad will filled the gas cylinder for my mum and also visit his father and mother on his way back, to give them some food stuffs they end up saying why can't she cook with fire wood when they see the cylinder in the trunk of the car. Holy Ghost fire will fire any of my husband's family that dare say such to my husband concerning me.
All these old people and the way they think sha *smh* Shey your wife should be struggling inside danfo with a toddler, when you can afford a better option. Oga o......I was even thinking its materialistic things you are taking about and not comfort
Your father doesn't have the right to dictate what happens in ur home. What u do for ur wife is nobody's business cos u are ur wife, ur wife is you. I suggest u buy her a car if u ar spending much on taxi. Pls dnt allow anybody tel u hw to run ur home.
Na wa for that ur father oooo, hope no be say na d way he suffer ur mama, imagine which kind reasoning be that, when he is suppose to even tell u to try and buy her a car sharpedly
such a wicked and selfish father.Thank God you are not the type that will listen to him.He probably did the same to his wife or maybe still does. www.cheecheelive.com
If u can afford it,its ok,d old man is only looking out for u...entering a pub transport wnt kill her,sone people lives larger senseless life...lik som that pay millions as rent instead of putting up with a smaller one n building his own...if she works n earns it,no p,but if it's all ur pocket bro,check urself
U sound like a true dumbass . If she wants a car let her hustle her own money n buy her own car. Sorry to say , most women r green snake under green grass n God forbid something happens 2 your finances 2morrow , u'll see their true colours .
You feel she "loves" u nw because, basically things r good with u but just pretend 4 say like 2 months that u no longer have the money 2 pay the bills, then your once respectful, sweet-talking angel turns into your worse nightmare ! Think I'm lying, try this experiment . They won't remember hw u did everything for them.
Manage your finances, don't let your wife brainwash u into unnecessary spending (they're gud at it). U can spend on your kids , your wife, not so much. If u feel your wife must ride something , buy her something cheap , maybe an audi or ladies bike ,or better still, buy her a bicycle. Simple as that !
You are just an immature brat who poverty is battling with. Poster being good to your wife will always make her have your back even when things go tough she will always be there to hustle with you.
Bicycle...I take it that you are joking right??That's why Nigeria is not moving forward. Many men that are supposed to be outstanding leaders are so backward that they extended plans of retrogression even to their own offsprings. I am still tired....Men need house maids and not companions I swear. Linda a think u r reading wt am reading lol.
If u think plantain is too much for d beans den u can't handle prosperity,why shld ur wyf be jumping from one pub bus to anoda,with or without a child. This same fada of urs wil complain wen u buy a car for ur wyf,be a man and be diplomatic.
Since u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
ince u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
ince u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
That he maltreated his wife does not mean you should maltreat yours. All these old nigerian men without respect for their wives. Good that you know it is stupid to make your wife be jumping bus when you can afford a taxi. Women biko, have your own so these inlaws don't start dictating how you should live.
Some men act like a fool when ever they are inlove with a woman,man if your father was not right why you never buy a car to your wife? your father knows that you dont have much for now and wen ur wife get use to it it will effect you and ur home tomorrow, na wen a man no get money he go sabi say woman no dey chop love...from swiss
all these unmarried novices making comments of what they know nothing about... Lemme now educate you... First notice how it was all women coming to comment that thunder fire the man... etc etc etc that he should buy the wife a car, later they will come and be preaching feminism and independence... why cant the woman buy her own car... anofias Ehen lemme now balance and start the insults the poster is a biiiig fool... and idiot for that matter... you are the head of your home and should determine how the resources are used and not your father. And all the dumb*sses preaching wetin concern father inlaw have obviously not participated in marriage rites or else you will know that in Africa it is the man along with the family of the man that comes to ask for the woman's hand in marriage and the woman along with the family of the woman that accepts so the families ARE involved from the beginning and to the very bitter end. when children are born they will be involved, when birthdays come, they will be involved, even at the burial of the couple, they will still be involved... that is the reality! u can keep some things private but your family and that of your spouse are inseparable from your marriage whether you like it or not. What can be limited is the DEGREE of involvement and that should not include personal issues such as whether your wife enters a cab or bus... 2. Aproko father inlaw, mumu of the highest order ... ur advise should be on how your son can spend money better not particularly against your daughter inlaw and grandson. But yet again, we cannot even tell whether the mumu poster does anything for his family... mother, brothers and siblings and maybe spends all his money on his wife and her son... that is the recipe for bitterness and hatred to the unsuspecting woman. So in summary, if you can afford it make sure you take care of both your parents and your wife. Why should your wife be entering bus up and down with your son if you can afford to do better??? that is really the big question confirming that you really cannot afford it. u just dey make mouth.
Remember the proverb that says what the elderly man seen sitting a young man that is standing cannot see it,don't advice yourself by saying parents should stay clear remember one day youu West will need
Some ppl want to go back to medieval times. Can ur dad accept it if it is his own daughter that is trekking up and down with a child... Won't he call family meeting?? I'm tired....
Hmm...that's probably the way he treated ur mom. 2nd class citizen. Now u can appreciate ur mom better and make a balanced decision in ur own family. You are an adult and I believe you know the truth deep down. Act wisely.
Better don't allow ur dad run ur home for u.
ReplyDeleteJust as he said its just fatherly advise, and no harm wit saying yes or no for dis is sth personal 2u, and ur family.
DeleteSo u mak ur choice how u want it as long as it doesn't affect u negatively.
Ur dad's remaining brain dey for village.
DeleteThere is more to the story, maybe d guy can't afford it! And His dad knows his pocket, and warns him to cut his coat according to his body! Youngman say the truth jor! Stop forming
DeleteVery true talk from you Oluwaseun.
DeleteI support you brother. He left some truth out
DeleteSo......what are u saying...are u looking for advice or what?
ReplyDeleteQuestion..with dt plenty teeth wia u pack full 4 mouth,better go find solution abt it
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DeleteU have adviced yourself bro, lobatan.
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Its a good thing U av advise urself already.........Ur dad seem nt to like ur wife.....if nt he wont suggest public transport for her nd his grand child...
DeleteWhat concerns a man abt hw his son spends on his wife?????What will d woman now say???
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Nna na wa for your father o! Why is he still in the stone age. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteNna na wa for your father o! Why is he still in the stone age. Linda take note!
ReplyDeletego get a car for your wife and stop making noise about affording anything,end of story
ReplyDeleteMumu.
ReplyDeleteWhy gossipin about it?
Dumb Fuck.
U must b very stupid for dis comment
DeleteFuck Off u imbecilic Fool.
Delete@ rare specie z,u are really rare.ur foolishness is legendary, is dis gossiping? Don't u know when one gossips. #mamaj
DeleteDon't listen to him
ReplyDeleteSorry to say not tryn to be rude ; but that a mediocrity advice from ur father .
ReplyDeleteIf your wife should hear about this she will feel so bad and this could make her Unhappy, and not feeling so Safe when evr she's with ur father .
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If uv got the money spend it on her, better still buy her a car, I think that will look more cool and economical. Nothing should stop you from giving your family a comfortable life if you have the money. #mytake.
ReplyDeleteKeep up your stand
ReplyDeleteOh!
ReplyDeleteAs u said *if u can afford it why not* carry on boy
ReplyDeleteLinda can't wait to see u marry
U r a good man... God bless u
ReplyDeleteso ur wife should suffer bcos she married u.
ReplyDeleteCan u imagine dt
DeleteI wonder oooo
DeleteVery funny...na so he dey treat ur mother, if the girl na his daughter will he complain about d way her hubby sending money on her? Agbaya
ReplyDeleteWetin concern ur papa..e be like say ur papa na woman wey like aproko.
ReplyDeleteJust as he said its just fatherly advise, and no harm wit saying yes or no for dis is sth personal 2u, and ur family. So u mak ur choice how u want it as long as it doesn't affect u negatively.
ReplyDeleteJust as he said its just fatherly advise, and no harm wit saying yes or no for dis is sth personal 2u, and ur family. So u mak ur choice how u want it as long as it doesn't affect u negatively.
ReplyDeleteWhat an elder sitting down sees,a young man/boy like you standing on an iroko tree will not see it. I think ur dad didn't put his words right or u're misunderstood him unless ur dad is jealous of ur love for ur wife.
ReplyDeleteUr last sentence shows u know what u r doing. I will summarise this as poverty is a bad thing
ReplyDeleteYou should reject poverty right to his face! Instead of him to advise you to buy a car for your wife he is talking nyanyapum!
ReplyDeleteThat papa no want make the wife enjoy
ReplyDeleteBuy her a car
ReplyDeleteYou be real fool for even bringing here. Idiot. I believe this stupidity runs in your family. Ode oshi!
ReplyDeleteNawa oooo some parent sha,dont even knw what to say to dis buh like seriously if d guy should buy d lady a car d father can killed her self.hmmmmm lif is so cruel.
ReplyDeleteWhy God can't just touch someone to help us. m.somadina@yahoo.com. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteYour dad is a classic jerk. He probably did the same to your mom he is not an honorable man. Please do not listen to him this is by no means common behavior. Buy a car for your wife if you can afford it. I also pray God blesses ur wife with her own resources. He will come crawling to her. He is a wicked man. Your nice wife makes a mistake by visiting him. She should stop. Believe it or not ur dad might actually have a crush on her. Nasty man.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are a jobless man. What is this your whole write up all about?
ReplyDeleteStop being a poor lazy man. Go and buy car for your wife. Stop being a fool.
It seems like you have the answer...buy your wife a car. Sorry to say, but your dad has poor man's mentality. Sufferheadlife##
ReplyDeleteSome parents thou....... . What happens when you buy her a car?
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ReplyDeleteHe's thinking from his own pocketbook not yours so just bear with him.
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DeleteWife not girlfriend, agbaya ni baba yen
ReplyDeleteTruth be said..now, if your child was with her, fine, she can use a taxi. I'm talking to you directly now, its not a comment, let's believe it's a text from my phone to yours,OK. ...But if na so she uses taxi on a regular. Two things are involved, its shows you get money, dont knw what the fare is like right now but last time I chkd, it was on the high. OR..she don condition you say she no fit go public. Check yourself mate, ask, yourself, if I have bread and I can afford a taxi per trip, then let me get her a car...OR...if nah say she condition you as said above, then she's not considerate. As for daddy, hey, pop knows your purse, if you have it, he would rather say get her a car, but the wise man know say if the taxi cruise is regular, you go wreck. Don't be annoyed with him.. But above all o, if the lady uses her own money for her trips, then , no one get mouth o. Na you naw go edit yourself and get it right !
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Rubbish, it's nobody's business how husband and wife operate so whether father or mother, they should get their noses out of their business. The man that's giving his wife cab money pending when she gets a car is he complaining? A man will take care of his wife world pple will complain, he asks her to jump bus they will still complain.
DeleteNow this is a reply to you! What are you even saying??? It's no body's business what the man want for his wife. Haba! Na wa o for some men o'
DeleteOMG, how do some husbands even reason?
ReplyDeleteYou are yet to buy a car your wife at least for the sake of the new baby. Yet, shame allowed you to even write this piece. Smh
Very wrong! It's non of his business and secondly why should your wife enter public transport when you can clearly afford to put her in a taxi... At least you are a reasonable man, some men would have taken it as an advice and began to indirectly ruin their marriage. Keep Inlaws and parents out of ur marriage! I would expect your mum to have been the one giving this advice but for your dad to say such, it's quite absurd. If that's the way he treated your mum, he should know that it's not right and let you handle your own wife properly and as you wish
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford luxury, why not? But going out with a child(ren) in a taxi is not luxury or spending too much.
ReplyDeleteJeez...what a cheap family, I pity your wife.
ReplyDeleteOMG, how do some husbands even reason?
ReplyDeleteYou are yet to buy a car your wife at least for the sake of the new baby. Yet, shame allowed you to even write this piece. Smh
So y is dis mumu sharing diis with us
ReplyDeleteI'm proud of u for standing your ground. You're right. Ur dad has no say. Gone are the days. Public transport like bus can be dangerous even for your wife. Only if ur wife worked. Or did ur father tell you to stop your wife from working? Be a man!! Dang. Ur dad has his own wife to order around. Ur dad must be Yoruba cus that's how my mom's in laws be making orders in her marriage.scares me off marrying Yoruba men completely!
ReplyDeleteAll these husband's family just want the women to be suffering. In the 90s my dad will filled the gas cylinder for my mum and also visit his father and mother on his way back, to give them some food stuffs they end up saying why can't she cook with fire wood when they see the cylinder in the trunk of the car. Holy Ghost fire will fire any of my husband's family that dare say such to my husband concerning me.
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DeleteAll these old people and the way they think sha *smh* Shey your wife should be struggling inside danfo with a toddler, when you can afford a better option. Oga o......I was even thinking its materialistic things you are taking about and not comfort
ReplyDeleteTank God u didn't succumb,,,,,,u re a real man,,,,***odikwa risky nd tyt***
ReplyDeleteThat's our lifes and the double standards. Am sure he wants his daughter's hubby to buy her a car. We are such wicked pple. I never c
ReplyDeleteYou are a good man...
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Now I'm starting to think ur making all this ur story up
ReplyDeleteNow I'm starting to think ur making all this ur story up
ReplyDeleteYour father doesn't have the right to dictate what happens in ur home. What u do for ur wife is nobody's business cos u are ur wife, ur wife is you. I suggest u buy her a car if u ar spending much on taxi. Pls dnt allow anybody tel u hw to run ur home.
ReplyDeletePlease don't to lisiten to ur dad
ReplyDeleteGo forbid! What a stupid fatherly advice.. don't know men to be unreasonable though
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ReplyDeleteNa wa for that ur father oooo, hope no be say na d way he suffer ur mama, imagine which kind reasoning be that, when he is suppose to even tell u to try and buy her a car sharpedly
ReplyDeleteAre you asking for advice or what. Taa! Comot for here jor.
ReplyDeletesuch a wicked and selfish father.Thank God you are not the type that will listen to him.He probably did the same to his wife or maybe still does.
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If u can afford it,its ok,d old man is only looking out for u...entering a pub transport wnt kill her,sone people lives larger senseless life...lik som that pay millions as rent instead of putting up with a smaller one n building his own...if she works n earns it,no p,but if it's all ur pocket bro,check urself
ReplyDeleteTimes have changed tell him that.
ReplyDeleteU sound like a true dumbass . If she wants a car let her hustle her own money n buy her own car. Sorry to say , most women r green snake under green grass n God forbid something happens 2 your finances 2morrow , u'll see their true colours .
ReplyDeleteYou feel she "loves" u nw because, basically things r good with u but just pretend 4 say like 2 months that u no longer have the money 2 pay the bills, then your once respectful, sweet-talking angel turns into your worse nightmare ! Think I'm lying, try this experiment . They won't remember hw u did everything for them.
Manage your finances, don't let your wife brainwash u into unnecessary spending (they're gud at it). U can spend on your kids , your wife, not so much. If u feel your wife must ride something , buy her something cheap , maybe an audi or ladies bike ,or better still, buy her a bicycle. Simple as that !
You are just an immature brat who poverty is battling with. Poster being good to your wife will always make her have your back even when things go tough she will always be there to hustle with you.
DeleteBicycle...I take it that you are joking right??That's why Nigeria is not moving forward. Many men that are supposed to be outstanding leaders are so backward that they extended plans of retrogression even to their own offsprings. I am still tired....Men need house maids and not companions I swear. Linda a think u r reading wt am reading lol.
Deletewell u shld b a man nd tak decision on ya own if possible sef no go see dat ur papa again *lol*
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ReplyDeleteCrying already for d lady dat will mistakenly marry u,cos na one chance she enter.mtchewwwwwwwwwww
DeleteIf u think plantain is too much for d beans den u can't handle prosperity,why shld ur wyf be jumping from one pub bus to anoda,with or without a child. This same fada of urs wil complain wen u buy a car for ur wyf,be a man and be diplomatic.
ReplyDeleteSince u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
ReplyDeleteince u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
ReplyDeleteince u mentioned that you are married, i believe that should come with a level of maturity. You should understand that parents will naturally look out for their children, even though the approach differs. I advise you view ur dad's advice from a point love, and not hate for your family. I have received some weird advice from parents as regards family and other life's issues, and i received them out of love. I decide to choose which one to take or not. Also remember their generation is quite different from ours and their approach to family and caring was quite different by miles. Your dad doesn't hate you or your wife, he was just acting his role. Some people even wish their parents are alive to advice them sef, you should be glad.
ReplyDeleteElent says. . .and the day you may get broke, be man enough to stay clear of your parents house and even their aids as the case may be, next. . .
ReplyDeleteThat he maltreated his wife does not mean you should maltreat yours. All these old nigerian men without respect for their wives. Good that you know it is stupid to make your wife be jumping bus when you can afford a taxi. Women biko, have your own so these inlaws don't start dictating how you should live.
ReplyDeletePoor father. Ur mother must av suffered. Such a pity. Poverty mentality....
ReplyDeleteArrogance will not allow them listen to simple instructions.
ReplyDeleteYour father seems to know your financial situation and advised accordingly.
You can take it or leave it. Quit being childish.
Some men act like a fool when ever they are inlove with a woman,man if your father was not right why you never buy a car to your wife?
ReplyDeleteyour father knows that you dont have much for now and wen ur wife get use to it it will effect you and ur home tomorrow,
na wen a man no get money he go sabi say woman no dey chop love...from swiss
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all these unmarried novices making comments of what they know nothing about... Lemme now educate you... First notice how it was all women coming to comment that thunder fire the man... etc etc etc that he should buy the wife a car, later they will come and be preaching feminism and independence... why cant the woman buy her own car... anofias
ReplyDeleteEhen lemme now balance and start the insults
the poster is a biiiig fool... and idiot for that matter... you are the head of your home and should determine how the resources are used and not your father. And all the dumb*sses preaching wetin concern father inlaw have obviously not participated in marriage rites or else you will know that in Africa it is the man along with the family of the man that comes to ask for the woman's hand in marriage and the woman along with the family of the woman that accepts so the families ARE involved from the beginning and to the very bitter end. when children are born they will be involved, when birthdays come, they will be involved, even at the burial of the couple, they will still be involved... that is the reality! u can keep some things private but your family and that of your spouse are inseparable from your marriage whether you like it or not. What can be limited is the DEGREE of involvement and that should not include personal issues such as whether your wife enters a cab or bus...
2. Aproko father inlaw, mumu of the highest order ... ur advise should be on how your son can spend money better not particularly against your daughter inlaw and grandson. But yet again, we cannot even tell whether the mumu poster does anything for his family... mother, brothers and siblings and maybe spends all his money on his wife and her son... that is the recipe for bitterness and hatred to the unsuspecting woman.
So in summary, if you can afford it make sure you take care of both your parents and your wife. Why should your wife be entering bus up and down with your son if you can afford to do better??? that is really the big question confirming that you really cannot afford it. u just dey make mouth.
I think you should tell your wife so she will stop buying your dad gifts and reduce her visits to his place shikena!!!
ReplyDeleteExactly Wat am facing now. My sister in law complain dat I spend too much money on my baby. Pls don't let your family ruin your marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmm,na wa o, ur dad sha,dis is ur wife for crying out loud! Can imagine wht ur mum is going tru then....smh
ReplyDeleteHe is interfering in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteRemember the proverb that says what the elderly man seen sitting a young man that is standing cannot see it,don't advice yourself by saying parents should stay clear remember one day youu West will need
ReplyDeleteSome ppl want to go back to medieval times. Can ur dad accept it if it is his own daughter that is trekking up and down with a child... Won't he call family meeting?? I'm tired....
ReplyDeleteHmm...that's probably the way he treated ur mom. 2nd class citizen. Now u can appreciate ur mom better and make a balanced decision in ur own family. You are an adult and I believe you know the truth deep down. Act wisely.
ReplyDeleteNothing is wrong with dat advice
ReplyDeleteTell ur Dad to back off ur marriage.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind your dad
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