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Friday 22 May 2015

Indian mum places advert for a husband for her son

An Indian mother placed a newspaper advert for marriage for her son who is a gay activist which could be considered as noble, the problem with the advert is that gay marriage is illegal in India
India's Supreme Court ruled in 2013 that "carnal intercourse" interpreted as gay sex, is punishable with anything up to a life sentence.

The advert reads: "Seeking 25-40, well-placed, animal-loving, vegetarian, for my son (36, 5'11") who works with an NGO. Caste no bar." (Though IYER preferred).
Harish Iyer, the groom in question, is a prominent gay rights activist based in Mumbai. He was also the only Indian mentioned in Guardian's list of 100 most influential LGBT people in 2013.
"My mother is like any other mother," he says. "She wanted to find me a partner and help me settle down. It became news only because I was looking for a man instead of a woman."
While the Indian newspaper Mid-Day published the advert, 3 other leading national dailies refused to run it. According to Iyer, The Times of India and Daily News and Analysis rejected the advertisement because of "legal reasons."
Hindustan Times gave Iyer a message in writing, which read: "Dear Mr. Harish, Sorry to say but we can't carry this advertisement in HT Matrimonial Section." No further explanation was given.
However, Mid Day's executive editor Sachin Kalbag which posted the advert said his organization did not see the LGBT community as any different.
"A lot of credit goes to the advertising department because they treated this as any other ad." Kalbag said and he hopes other papers will follow suit.
It's being called India's first advertisement for a partner for a same-sex marriage.

Hindustan Times

43 comments:

  1. Gays? *lips sealed* Dave now Daniel Craig

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    1. I am not in support of dis. Its unaccpetable bcos he is an adult, and of age to go for whtever choice he deem please wit.

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    2. Consider the pheromones and endorphins released when starting a relationship, now consider how hard it is to fight the urges you have in those circumstances of attraction and how uncontrollable they are. Consider the withdrawal you face when those feelings are coming to an end. We refer to them as feelings, but the people we are attracted to are based on chemical reactions, we seek out those that are not offensive to us chemically so to speak.

      It's not farfetched since most other animals advertise their sexual availability chemically, though humans seem to pretend not to be aware of these influences on ourselves, even though we are constantly going through hormonal and chemical changes and being bombarded with so many chemicals and chemical signals on a subatomic and subconscious level, that we fail to notice.

      Now consider our sexual orientation defined by our chemical make-up at conception, to be what it is, with no fault of ours, and ask yourself, whether it is possible to use one's will power alone to try to challenge something innate.

      Furthermore, ask yourself if it would be ethical to do so, even if though we do not it were possible to... if we had the know-how.

      We are just understanding how pheromones, hormones and chemical signals function and affect us on a day to day basis. We do not know how everything works or interacts, this is why we need to approach certain things with an open mind.

      I for one know that my brain will not send arousal signals to any part of me, in response to someone I have no perceived attraction towards. Male, or, female. There will not be any reaction unless I fool my mind into believing it should, and that takes effort.

      We all react, naturally to what we are naturally attracted to. It is our nature.

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  2. He should travel to U.S. His gay partner might just be there

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  3. So bizarre, and funny dat d mum had to use dis as a means to get d son married. Wht a world we r living in.

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  4. Hmmm..na wa oo

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  5. Wow!!! Bold woman! Such bravery...

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  6. If a Mother can help her gay son, den ion tink we shud keep condemning it... I juz believe gayz were born dat way, u can't juz wake up and say u wnt to strt loving same sex... juz as females can be born with male reproductive organs, so can dey b born wit wateva makes dem think hw dy think... #confusin buh dahz wah I understand

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    1. To be frank I have started accepting them that way.we had this boy in our street that was so effeminine from 4.he is now 17 and was reported to b a gay.we were not surprised.d question is;did he made himself effeminate at that tender age?

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  7. Mother & son *mental* sssh!

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  8. Mother is every thing,caring mom

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  9. Hahahaha Indian parents abi mess their children up so glad am not Indian at least for Naija na just constant how far any bros or sis

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  10. Hahahaha Indian parents abi mess their children up so glad am not Indian at least for Naija na just constant how far any bros or sis

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  11. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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    Sweet mother....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  12. Can't blame her though....she's trying to be
    a loving kind mother that wants her son to
    be happy.

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  13. Is the mum trying to set him up since its illegal or they want to dare the law.

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  14. I still no understand HOMO but....
    NO DISCRIMINATION

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  15. N HES LIVIN AL DOSE INDIAN FYN GRLS FOR A MAN??LET HIM NOT BE CAUGHT SHA....TOMJERRYSWIT

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  16. Wonders dey say shall never end

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  17. Wonders dey say shall never end

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  18. I don't understand the 'Animal' part. Linda take note!

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  19. I don't understand the 'Animal' part. Linda take note!

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  20. Don't force shit down our throats..ain't nobody's fault u mentally derailed n gay

    Dopeblackboy%

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  21. Rubbish. #Lobatan

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  22. Calling Onyx. Calling Onyx. Your love awaits you.

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  23. Is the groom's name Harish or Iyer?

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