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Wednesday 8 April 2015

Sitting next to the man who raped and made her pregnant, Afghan woman forced to marry her attacker to avoid prison

Afghan woman known only by her first name Gulnaz, (pictured left) was just 16 years old when was raped by her cousin's husband, a man named Asadullah (pictured right), in 2008. She fell pregnant as a result of the rape. But in Afghanistan, sleeping with a married man is a crime, and it doesn't matter if the married person forced themselves on you. How sad! Rejected by her family and facing 12 year in prison for 'adultery by force' and falling pregnant for a married man, Gulnaz had no choice but to marry her depraved attacker. That was her only hope to get a reduced sentence. She later gave birth to the girl in the photo above.

Talking to CNN about her life, Gulnaz said she only agreed to marry her rapist so that her daughter - named Smile could live a shame-free life in the Afghan capital's 'traditional' society. 

 
 Gulnaz married the rapist in 2013 after her family told her she couldn't return home because she'd 'shamed' their family. Gulnaz said marrying her attacker was her only choice
"I didn't want to ruin the life of my daughter or leave myself helpless so I agreed to marry him. We are traditional people. When we get a bad name, we prefer death to living with that name in society,' Gulnaz said.
And through out the interview, she refused to look her husband in the eye. The man, Asadullah - who was jailed for the rape in 2008 but later released, said the woman owed her freedom to him.
'If I hadn't married her according to our traditions, she couldn't have lived back in society. Her brothers didn't want to accept her back. Now, she doesn't have any of those problems." He said.
Asadullah is still married to Gulnaz's first cousin - with whom he has five children.

143 comments:

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    1. Madness! Something needs to be done about these people..

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    2. Too sad and unacceptable!


      OKORO UPGRADED**

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    3. This tradition is so lame.....

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    4. Choi..........ewoooo......I'm speechless!



      #TeamBlessed#

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    5. Bullshit!

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  2. No na. This won't end well is just a matter of five years. Someone will kill someone. Engr Emy

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    1. Like me killing u Emy! U can only run... bt u can't hide! It's a tradition dat doesn't respect women, just lik u don't Emy! Horror!!!

      Just Julia!

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  3. Dis is so wonderful, and how I wish they wol bring dis tradition to Nigeria. Definitely it wil b abused.

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    1. You are already cursed for uttering such words! So many idiots in here.

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    2. Priesthood, u must be a rapist for saying such rubbish idiot. Anumanu

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    3. I can't stop laughing ooo, lols

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    4. You r just a foolish fool an idiot very squid omg I don't know what to call goodness u irritate me

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    5. The most stupid comment for de year @ priesthood.

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    6. Idiot @priest u a big fool I swear

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    7. Is there something about priesthood and rape?....just wondering...

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    8. @ royal yes n men will end up rapin ur sisters,ur daughters n evn ur mother.Ewu,aturu nmeeeee.idiot if u dont hav anytin to say den close u guter mouth.

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  4. So Sad . What kind of life is that

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  5. All these islamic countries. Can u imagine? What a pity. God pls fight for our women all over d world.

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    1. ds idiot i am sure u wia amng dose dt wia condemin d oba of lag n u com hia on social media postin (reliogion) hate comment cos dts wat i term ur comment to be.....d write clearly n repeatedly used d term"TRADITION" n u carelesly n uselessly changed it to religion....dia is a difference btw a language n a religion cos i hanvt seen wia d word ARABIC means ISLAMIC

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    2. if u lyk dont post d comment

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    3. But it is only Islam that imposes such sick shit!

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    4. @Anon. 8:01, u're an idiot too! Who cares, Islamic n Arabic r d same! Arabic is an Islamic language, wats d diff! Smh, wat a tradition!

      Just Julia!

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    5. Some people are just very stupid, grace, don't you knw the diff between Tradition and Religion???!!!

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    6. Tnx for educating dat igbo fagot

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  6. Linda you de carry last these days. This na old news na.

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  7. All these traditions, tofiakwa

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  8. Rubbish!!! That their useless law is bullshit.

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  9. This Afghanistan and their laws,
    Which favours only men.
    What a wicked law.
    A woman who is suppose to get justice for the evil done to her, is now suffering from someone else's sins.

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  10. Wow! A society that has no regard/respect for women, that see women as inferior and disposable; such a shame. I feel so sad for her because rape is possible one of the worst things that can happen to any woman; then to be forced to marry the animal that took your pride as a woman forcefully is saddening. We have a long way to go to be civilized all over the world

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  11. All dis pple nd deir tradition

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  12. Wonders shall never end. What does dis imply dat every victims of rape will marry those that rape them or wht?

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    1. Excellency you for get 19000 husbands as soon as you enter afghan....no near there oo

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  13. Shackled by the rules of men... how sad!

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  14. Islam is satanic aswear! Wat kinda life is dis, wickedness @ it's peak... He practically ruined her life & says she owes him, idiot!

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    1. i wonder y ds linda girl usually pist som useless comments n i tot ur rules r "comment are posted after approval..so hw dare u aprove ds hate comment,??? if ur rules r usrless den dia is no need to set dem..n i gues ds person lacks al d available morals in ds worl eg domestic n religous.....

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    2. Reading your comment gives me a headache, Islamic anon

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    3. Dont you people know the different between Tradition and Religion.
      You complain about Oba's hate speechh to Igbo, wot about your hate speech to Islam. Know more about Islam before you criticise it.

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    4. Islam is the devil himself. I don't talk to Moslem. I don't care how peaceful the pretend to appear. Underneath every single Moslem is a terrorist. Wicked demons. God punish all of them.

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    5. Seriously, you're more satanic and evil if you have such hatred for your fellow human being. Think of your comment" I don't talk to moslem. I don't care how peaceful they pretend to appear. You are part of these hate problems. You all need to get yourselves together and see the wrongs in you. Stop bad mouthing and think of your hereafter.

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  15. Baad country baad policy

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  16. Women are just commodity in muslim. Very stupid and usless religion.

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    1. Read more about Islam. There was emphasis on TRADITION in d story.

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    2. Even yu?...as old as u are...u shld b clocking 50 by nw if am not mistaken...well am not expecting les from an igbo rapist lyk u..the likes of u make me to hate igbos..

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    3. Oga, u sabi read at all. Dis has Notin 2 do wit religion, it's jus der afghan foolish custom.

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    4. Oga Chukwura, I think you guys should always proofread stories before you comment. It sad that you can only respond to issues because of your feelings towards some sect. Even Jesus our Lord preached against judging others. Is it in the bible to call others religion stupid. You know less. God help you

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    5. It's Islam ooo even in Saudi if u get raped u get flogged ..or imprisoned..didn't u read how a girl was killed cos she killed her rApist in self defense..women are commodities in islam

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    6. Women are deficient in Islam..they are commodities..if u get raped u get arrested

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  17. Stupid country, useless tradition!!

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  18. Imagine, bad culture n bad tradition. Rubbish

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  19. Imagine, bad culture n bad tradition. Rubbish

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  20. ATYMS I GET CONFUSED ABT DES PPLES LAW..HW CAN U IMPRISONED SMONE DAT WS RAPED?? DAT MEANS SME MEN WIL JST B GOIN ABT PERPERTRATIN EVIL KNWIN DE OUTCOME WNT B A PRBLM TO DEM..WILL DS WOMAN EVR B API IN HER LYF??WITH DS MAN??Y NT JAIL D MAN, FROM DS ONE HE WIL GO ABT RAPIN ODAS KNWIN DEY WIL B COMPEL TO MARRY HIM...SHAME ON U PPLE...DS IS SO ANNOYIN. TOMJERRYSWIT

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  21. What a world.. can it be possible?

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  22. OMG such a depraved soul. Isn't that incest on some level?

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  23. Such stupid tradition. Why would a woman have to go through all these?some cultures sha!

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  24. Your headline is super misleading. I watched the interview, she wasn't forced to marry him to avoid jailtime. It was one of the previous conditions for her release, but later scrapped. and her brother's disowned her because she married her rapist. They wanted her to come and live with them in Pakistan, but she refused and married him so her daughter wouldn't be shamed andd such growing up in their comunity.

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  25. Monster, may God deliver women 4rm wicked men. Dis is real bondage, God 4bid

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  26. It doesn't matter if the married person forced themselves on you.. This is deeply disturbing. ----C21

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  27. D bastard still has d guts to talk.all dese countries sef,God have mercy oo

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  28. Some traditions eeh, how can someone that was raped receive punishment for been raped Odiegwu ooo

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  29. God will not forgive him for what he did

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  30. Chai....so much abuse in d world

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  31. What a culture! Its a pity.

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  32. What a shame!!! These people are animals

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  33. these middle east countries have anti-feminine laws.its so sad.why wont the men continue to commit these crimes wen they kno they will walk free. there are some places i will neva step foot in. na them claim holiness pass n they are so evil

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  34. God 4gv mi, am gonna poison him no b lie geeeez ds is humilating afta bin raped u ll nw tel mi 2 marry d he-goat God forbid ha women don suffer. Pele ooooooooooo

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  35. Some laws in ds Arab countries r just heartbreaking.

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  36. hmmmm...this bad...really bad

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  37. Depraved human beings living in a religiously backward society. I weep for the women who have to live with these animals

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    1. This has nothing to do with religion, this is purely about their lost culture, islam actually permits you to abort a baby conceived through rape as far as u are in your first trimester. So nothing to do with religion!

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    2. I have no time for religious arguments. Your comment says it all

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    3. In Saudi if u re raped u get flogged

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  38. Cruel religion.I wonder the kind of hatred she has for him.
    Faceoflib

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    1. Madam ella John, did u c dat she wrote tradition, foolish religious bigot

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    2. Yes oh @Anon, it's an Islamic tradition, or a tradition in Islamic countries e.g Afghanistan! Stop all dis insulting defence oooh, it won't change our minds dat Islam lives, loves n thrives in violence!!! Al-qeada, Al-sahaab, Boko Haram, Jihad, d list is endless oh! U beta open ur inner eyes!

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    3. Why is ur prophet not like Jesus..u say he is the last prophet why does his character not resemble any of the previous prophets of God

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  39. OMG! Wat a tradition. Mtchww

    Pamscrib.blogspot.com

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  40. Things dat happen in dis world.....cn u imagine d nonsense..all dis arab countires cn be so inhumane with dia laws

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  41. some traditions need serious interventions. this is totally sickening.

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  42. Outragous..




    ...JOSHSAYSO...LIB..FAN

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  43. There is untold wickedness going on in this world.
    Who says one gender is less than the other smh

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  44. What nonsense! Where are those people raving about gender marginalization nd injustice? This backward country is a good place to start! How can men commit such evil and d women folk are forced to pay for it? My goodness! This is d height of it. And d damned man is even gloating about marrying her...so in other words, he's saying he's her messiah when he shuld be rotting in jail along with d inconsiderate morons dat made dat law! #so pained



    #linda's apprentice says

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  45. No wonder there is no comment!

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  46. What a tradition! Take heart dear

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  47. Linda enjoys these postings so islam can be abused. Well sorry to disappoint you, they are afghan traditions not islam. Just like how a living igbo man can inherit his late brother's wife. Thank you.

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  48. Muslim..... The Center of Fools. The people of Satan. The End of the world. The Terrorists, The Rapers, The Killers.

    The Muslims... The Dead of Humanity.
    Allah.... A god of Rape, Death, and Evil Warlord.

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    1. Anonymous orubebe.

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    2. Seriously?....... ur brain is totally Dead...Allah means God in Hausa/Arabic.. jst lyk d way igbos call chukwu nd yorubas olorun.... I hope God 4givs u 4 dis.........SMH

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  49. Muslims and their stupid laws. What inhuman treatment for a woman that was raped. From getting married to underage girls to silly laws that oppress and intimidate women. I just hope Buhari will not be so stupid to think about bringing laws that will make him die in Aso Rock. The fire of God almighty is protecting Nigerians especially Christians from all this barbaric Islamic laws. May God protect Nigerians from silly laws capable of destroying the peaceful co-existence of all religion and tribes in the country. GEJ remains the best president ever since the inception of democracy. You all will regret rigging him out when Buhari start his own clueless and naive leadership.

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    1. R u a fool?....we have muslims in Nigeria, wia have u hrd of dah? Tradition my dear.... u go skul at all?

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  50. What a weird custom and tradition. The Lord is her strength. Linda take note!

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  51. What a weird custom and tradition. The Lord is her strength. Linda take note!

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  52. What a weird custom and tradition. The Lord is her strength. Linda take note!

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  53. What a weird custom and tradition. The Lord is her strength. Linda take note!

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  54. Pathetic laws!!!

    #FiZz

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  55. What a weird custom and tradition. The Lord is her strength. Linda take note!

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  56. May d so cald Asadullah go dumb. Wat insolence, he stil av d mouth to blab....rapist of a man. Afghanistan shud reconsider deir laws jor,wat a country!!!

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  57. so Nigerian chics should appreciate us to some more. okay

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  58. This man is an HEdiot

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  59. Pathetic! Evil Tradition that needs to be abolished.
    ~Idyllic has spoken~

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  60. Islamically,it is wrong. The afghans are insane for making women scapegoats. This is law has nothing to do with Islam bt their tradition

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  61. na so islamic tradition be. backward and barbaric. dont know why people practice such. ptsheew.

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    1. It is not an Islamic tradition!!!!think with your head for once. I'm sure there are some outrageous traditions in some xtian countries which has nothing to do with xtianity.

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    2. Stop comparing Christians and Muslims..christainty do nt say women are half of men..Christians don't wke up And kill and have u noticed that around the world na Muslim they cause wahala

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  62. Imagine! They should kip dat dat stupid tradition in there fucked up country...fucking people

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  63. Abeg I dey vex. I dey vex.

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  64. Auntie Linda, please how does one "FALL" pregnant?

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  65. Retarded people finding a rape victim Guilty with a stupid law @ Adultery by Force#.
    Can u imagine this level of stupidity.

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  66. N somewhere in America, someone is screaming about feminism simply cus she wants to walk the streets half naked. *sighs*

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  67. N Somewhere in America, someone is screaming "feminisim!" simply cus she wants to walk the streets half naked *sighs*

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  68. To hell with ialam and their evil traditions

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  69. Islam is a religion of the perverts.

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  70. ...A MAN WHO THEY SHOULD CUT OFF HIS BALLS

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  71. Linda, I watched the interview. You forgot to mention that she's pregnant for her third child by the 'husband' right now.

    Also she had the opportunity to leave Afghanistan to the states through a human rights group and a few of her relations but majority of her family members pressured her into staying and marrying the man.

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  72. TF? I no get talk 4 mouth..

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  73. Elitism have finished third world countries like this GOD will be staying all that stuff. I don't have to know this is annoy me, if anyone tried it in general nigeria that point I will send through my mind to the man who did this action.

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  74. So when next you complain about being a Nigerian, remember there is a country where the women are still slaves. God bless my country.

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  75. This people are barbarians.no regard for women.god help us.

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  76. Hmmm like seriously? The man even get mouth to talk instead of being ashamed for his actions.

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  77. This is cruel, God have Mercy!

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