From a female LIB reader;
I am contacting you because your platform is the only thing my husband reads and because of the diversity of the opinions I am hoping this helps. If you wouldn't mind, I would like you to make a post out of this so I can get people's view as I am going insane.
I've been married for six months but my husband won't stop texting girls and exchanging pictures and the reason is because he wants to feel desirable and he sees nothing wrong with it. I am tired of talking about it as it seems like I am jealous and becoming a nag.
Is it not wrong for a married man to keep texting girls and exchanging pictures?
d bitch nigga is cheating on ur naive ass
ReplyDeletexyz(dara-ima/aittyfinest)
Make out time nd talk to him
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Let him cheat we men cheat, u should be lucky u got the ring
DeleteI know that feeling dear and what he's doing is very wrong. U have every right to speak up and never apologise for that. Mr married man, its high time to stop living like an 'irresponsible bachelor" and start living right, like the married man that u are!
Delete#TeamBlessed#
Same old shit
DeleteWhat am gonna advice you, it's keep praying for him for a change, because the rate at which married men flirts this days, it's only prayers that is gonna change them, though am not yet married but instead of you to see the married ones Extremly happy, you find them sad, always badly in pains, all because of their flirting husbands. Remember you can lie to ur wife here on earth but can u lie to your father in heaven wen judgement day comes?
DeleteDnt say dat..@lwkmd_naija...some don't cheat n it's very wrong for a man to cheat in marriage even to d knowledge of his woman
DeleteI feel so sad for the writer. The marriage is still so young for this manner of trouble. Pls ignore his actions, don't discuss it with him again. The natural reaction would be for you to revenge but instead, get on your knees and cast your cares upon Him. Only God can change your husband.
DeleteVery stupid comment
DeleteIts in der blood, u can't do notin 2 change him, beta cheat as well. Hehehe. 2 ge 4. Toh ye maa je niyen#happymonday
Delete@lwkmd,u re a retareded individual,that's how u end up getting married to the wrong women that will drive u insane..so,getting married to a lady is now a favour? U re a fool infact,I wish ur sisters the same fate
DeleteAmen
DeleteIs there really anything to pray about concerning your husband......well I bliv prayer can do all things, but on the other hand dear shld I say I blame u Dont tell me u never knew ur husband was like this before u married him which makes me feel ur purpose for marrying him was not well defined maybe u actually liked his look or his money but am sure if you both truely defined ur purpose for getting married such will not occur a lesson to the unmarried too I inclusive let us marry for the right purpose not bcos he is only handsome rich or for sex the purpose of marriage should be well defined by love and let us not leave God out of it cos he sees and know wat we dont know my dear it is now ur cross carry it I pray God look upon u with mercy so ur home will not be destroyed.
DeleteYes it's very wrong,but the canal men are like this...it would take quite a while for them to adjust,most cases till they become fathers,You should be jealous that's his purpose for that,don't be stiff and too mature about it ok..tell him you gona resume texting ur self jokingly.when he's around chat with ur girls not guy o but make it seem like your enjoying it real good...make him jealous,tell him you are desirable too....if he still doesn't change,I doubt he wouldn't...Call him a baby,a secondary school boy that is seeking attention,tell him how only boys act this way and all that.....or Wenrver he's chatting seize the phone and suck his D n Fuck him lol...don't make case out of it,he's only doing it to get U scared n wanting him more...tell Him Mr BoB says it's only for boys to do,not married men...I wish you guys well,please don't ever cheat on him,his heart is soft,he can always love
DeleteAmen..
DeleteAt lwkmd,may God punish u for dt statement,cow!!!!!....tchew,ds comment better be publishd
DeleteMy dear d lord is ur strength,prayer is d only solution,dat married men for u,ur CAse we be settle if only u can call upon ur creator
DeleteMen though! Mine too chats with one babe late into the night, and he's claiming jez friends. D idiot girl even had d guts to tell him that she greeted me and i did not respond.
Delete@lwkmd_naija, u a simply disgusting. God is watching you.
DeleteMy husband does the same thing and it is frustrating me. We have been married for only 4 months but all the girls on his Facebook list he has asked for their number or visited them. He even recently visited his ex in another village. When I confronted him, he said it was mere chat, so I tried chatting with boys too and when he saw my messages he was furious and I told him they were mere chats too...ever since, he has stopped giving me money for food...I am tired...we stay in Nasarrawa and I have no one to turn too because my parents are in benue...
DeleteJust be prayerful dear, Thats it.
DeleteTalk to him about it and tell him its wrong and how will he feel if you text guys and send pics to them? And I'm sure you knew he does this before marriage and thought he was going to change. Just talk to him and pray also.
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My husband flirts with all the girls on his Facebook list, he even travels to visit his ex, when I started the same thing, he got furious and stopped giving me money for food or tfare to go out...it's energy sapping o...
DeleteSorry
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Give him a blow job once a day.. It works faster than prayer.
DeleteKpele....u don marry womanizer b dat
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteYea it's 100% wrong as far he is now married
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Lmao, to do what with it oga shekau?
DeleteHehehehe....
DeleteLoool, what dyu want to do with it? Loool
DeleteSince u know what he want then what r u waiting for? Make him feel desirable. Pure and simple. ...
ReplyDeleteIts not about desirability! The hubby simply has a problem which has to do with low self esteem and pornography! He needs help.
DeleteHis behavior is not acceptable. Especially dis early in the marriage. But my sister, am sure he had displayed dis behavior before u got married to him. It didn't start within dis 6months, it started way before dat. My advice is to pray to aGod, be as sexy as u can....and if he ain't changing, take his fone and throw it into d toilet. Also take cover in case he wants to beat u for dat action...lol. The violent taketh it by foce. It is well with ur home
DeleteMy sister you are not married, you are just in a married relationship with a flirt and a womanizer.
ReplyDeletelol.
DeleteAbsolutely wrong!! call family meeting for the alagbera man.
ReplyDeleteIt is very wrong my dear!!! Very!!!!! He's not a serious person. And he has tons of insecurities. He should get over it and face his marriage 100%
ReplyDelete@Khemorah....whats up?
Delete@Khemorah....can you buzz my line on 08037576976....let us talk ol
DeleteCome get your husband @hilary here darl, he's on this matter now
Deletelolzzz...some men sha.....maybe U shud do d same tin to me and see is response
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm it's absolutely wrong and he got to regards for you that why he is doing such.threaten you would leave him if he continues.Sirslim
ReplyDeleteKill him biko
ReplyDeleteVery wrong! He's no longer on the market.
ReplyDeleteOKORO UPGRADED
In my eyes it's wrong, my husband of 6months also did the same. When I found out I went ballistic on him. He now assures me he has stopped and that hes sorry
ReplyDeleteNo b ma biznesss
ReplyDeleteIts very wrong , what is it his looking for outside ? Except theirs something your not giving him
ReplyDeleteWe've heard her own side of story. I strongly believe there's something she's not doing that spark up this act in that man. That's attention, she's not giving him attention, that's why he's acting up. Point blank, the man does not want to cheat on his wife, but he's tired of seeking the attention of the woman he love and married. My advice is that you should give him more attention, call during his lunch break, sit down and talk with him during dinner, buy movie tix and watch with him. Do the same things you did before that drew his attention to you first time.
DeleteHe needs counseling.
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My dear you have married a womaniser only God can touch his heart so pray he has a divine encounter with him
ReplyDeleteIt is so wrong especially exchanging pictures. Don't fuss about it dear. Report him to someone he respects & see what happens.Meanwhile,pray for him.
ReplyDeleteOgbasarommmmmmm
ReplyDeleteSeems wrong to me, If he truly care then he shouldn't be wasting his time with other girls, Your man does not have respect for you.
ReplyDeleteIt is very wrong, keep prating for him
ReplyDeleteMy dear lady, forget about what ur man is doing and continue doing ur own normal house wife activities in your home. Only doing this will make ur Husband forget those olosho outside if u belief.
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oga u try o bcos we b slave abi,we dnt deserve happiness nor b so?we go die bcos of marriage shey
DeleteHer husband's texting them and sending them pictures(and possibly lying to them about his marital status) and they are the oloshos abi?
Delete@Nkemdilim, lol, don't mind Mr olaleye, he doesn't. no anything about married people
DeleteTotally wrong! U should be the only one he admires.
ReplyDeleteSee all these girls dating married men advising a married woman. Common get a life.
DeleteArrant nonsense! Washe doing dat b4 u got married to him? My dear u married a baby husband! Well start praying cus u married a player and playing is still in His blood! Keep talking to him about it, not fighting him! Its so wrong! Its so annoying self! I am sure u know from the unset he was like dat b4 u married him and u went ahead to marry him, sweetheart carry ya cross!
ReplyDeleteIts very very wrong my advise is u do d same also I see his reaction, he ll stop cos men lyk ur hussy are d jealous type dy won't stand such.
ReplyDeleteYou Dont post my comment jare
ReplyDeleteAm a guy nd d fact is dat once a guy start sending his pix 2 his female chat mates he is surely cheating on you. So dear dnt take dat 4 an excuse
ReplyDeleteThis serious! I feel u should have known ur husband very well b4 u both tied the knot. However, since u have informed him times without number and no change seems to happen, i'll urge you involved an elderly whom he listens to or a Pastor that's if u're a christian that he listens too.
ReplyDeleteMore importantly, wasn't he doing this even when you were in a committed relationship? What made you think it would stop suddenly. Madam, take a chill pill, relax and do the same. Put up sexy dps on your bb and instagram and completely ignore it. A man like that isn't worth the hassle you're putting yourself through, please trust me when i say this! In fact if he wants your attention, continue chatting and let him know it's a new guy you just met who thinks you're very sexy! But you need to ignore it/him!
ReplyDeleteI sooo much love this comment... u earn my doff
DeletePut up sexy pic on bbm and Instagram for what reason though? To fall for another man? Please don't be teaching another married woman to be wayward just because you are. If you are going to advise her, advise her wisely. What arrant nonsense are you typing? And this follow follow is doffing her hat off to you? Birds of the same feather..
DeletePlease my dear poster, two wrongs never make a right. I agree with ignoring the crap out of your man, but all that put up sexy pix would only attract unwanted attention (I mean only of it's what you want, then you carry your cross) but do things that makes you happy, dress sexy let your man see you, feel sexy, spoil yourself silly, chat away with your friends (female) I bet you still have them. Go out just do things that would distract you. When he notices you are not nagging, he'd wonder what's going on. He might even think there's a man and hopefully, he'd come back to his senses. Don't forget to PRAY as well.
Mr husband if you are reading this, what is wrong with you? It's not a must to marry mbok! If you knew you were still looking for attention, you should have stayed looking instead of marrying
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DeleteOga married man please face your marriage and stop making your wife feel bad
ReplyDeleteThe tales we hear about marriage scares the shit out of me!!
It gives no hope at all!!!
asin no hope at all
DeleteHow did she kw he's talking to other ladies if she's not spying on his phone. Mrs wife face ur bizness as and wife and stop doing police work, u will drive him to d other girls if u don't take time
DeleteTotally wrong. But did u notice dis while in courtship? U both need counselling. D 1st 5yrs of marriage is d most difficult part bu if ur both determined, it Ll work
ReplyDeleteChai!!
ReplyDeleteWhat am gonna advice you, it's keep praying for him for a change, because the rate at which married men are flirting this days, it's only prayers that is gonna change them, though am not yet married but instead of you to see the married one Extremly happy, instead you find them sad, always badly in pains, all because of their flirting husbands. Remember you can lie to ur wife here on earth but can u lie to your father in heaven wen judgment day comes?
ReplyDeleteHaha! Funny guy. I think he doesn't feel for you like he used to. So he is finding possible options. I guess you should search deep and find out the cause; it could be from you or his peers.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm d guys of dis generation tho, y get married when u stl wnt other girls attention, Biko stp giving dat woman hearth ache b4 ogun kill u o
ReplyDeleteYu don't enter am betat.. kpele *Batsh say so* Lobatan.
ReplyDeleteIs obvious he is a womaniser
ReplyDeleteEeyyaah! You married an oke mkpii without knowing it! Choi! What has your desirability got to do with exchanging pix with other ladies when you married? The idiot is still sowing his wild oats ojare!
ReplyDelete#GozManuel Says#
#Let The Best Man Win#
It is very wrong
ReplyDeleteIf he knows he wants to be texting other girls and he is not ready to stop it
Then why did he get married
By the way, hope you know he's already cheating on you. Hope you're not deluding yourself that he isn't!
ReplyDelete2 can play. Do same to him! Enjoy urself with other guys!
ReplyDeleteIts absolutely wrong for a married man.....try to talk more sense to his already low sense and see what he will say.....
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u knew he was like dat and u still went ahead to marry, women will neva learn,once u knw u cant deal with sumfn or nt comfi b4 u settle down y go ahead,once u r comfi wv sumfn b4 u say i do neva assume dey will chnge, so deal with it grl, ur cross.onli prays can wrk nw
ReplyDeleteHow sad. Prayer is the key.
ReplyDeletehe must be cheating on you and now is better than latter, find rest i your exit from him no responsible man will do that...if not you'll regret till you have hypertension
ReplyDeleteMy advice here is that, before you went into the institution of getting married to your husband, i am very sure, you know him to be a good follower of ladies, so sad that after marriage he still keep on with that bad habit,my advice is that, Ignore him, pretend as if you don't observe anything, it will get to a time, he will stopped by himself, i know it is a difficult thing to do, you will do yourself much good by ignoring him once in a while make jest of him with the behaviour but no quarell.
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when you marry a kid as husband. Your husband still think he is single. He is yet to feel the impact of marriage. Get pregnant and let the kids flow to give him more responsibilities and he wont have the time to exchange pictures with girls. Feels like giving him a slap mstwwwww
ReplyDeleteI don't think she should bring kids into that home yet. That will be too much babysitting as the man himself is still a kid. Some men though
DeleteSorry dear,i know how u feel,men who hv insecurity issues r the ones constantly seeking attention 4rm oda girls,weak men who feel dey need women drooling over them to convince demselves dt dey r good enough,to remind dem dt dey r still in control,weak men! My dear act indifferent,get urself busy wt a hobby,dont act like u notice wht he's doing,get so absorbed in urself he'll start getting worried,u can even start dressing hotter n register in a gym or smthn,just be happy,u'll see he'll come around,n pray too
ReplyDeleteSince he wasn't ready 4 marriage, y did he marry? 2 tingz r involved ma'am, itz eida u rushed him to get married to u against his wish or he can't let go off old habits. Madam shine ur eyes oooh! Talk to him, if he refuses to change den Go meet ur pastor wit him for councilin or report to a responsible elda dat he listenz to in his family. Use wisdom
ReplyDeleteJust ignore him and keep being the virtuous woman you are supposed to be. He will stop it with time, Apparently he isn't busy enough with other things
ReplyDeleteYou can make him jealous by sharing your pics with guys too.
ReplyDeleteBad advice.
Deleteshameless men,mtchheeeeeeew,bloody cheats
ReplyDeletePrayers changes everything 4 gud...... Talk to God
ReplyDeleteDo all u can 2 mk him feel desired. Nva quit praying. Lts c hw it gets!
ReplyDeleteHe is a real flirt
ReplyDeletena waa
ReplyDeleteits too to be stressed out mi dear, stop talking to him about it and start testing, sending your pics, wen he is not home send a pic of your sexy self to him while you pray along, he is yours.
ReplyDeletestay married and enjoy...
Nawaa oooh some men wount change or stop!!!if he wanted to keep tecting and exchanging pictures he sjould have remain single then y dud he hot martied??? Rubbish JC
ReplyDeleteIt is so wrong .....and he knows, just too proud to admit it. Pray about it and talk to him afterwards.
ReplyDeleteIt is totally wrong and disrespectful of him to even be flaunting it in your face. He wants to be desirable to girls outside when he's married!!! That's f**ked up mehn. You need to stand your ground and talk sense into him because it is all shades of wrong and pray for him as well. That's all. I can say.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should start texting and exchanging pictures with male friends.
ReplyDeleteIgnore him. Switch on your sexy button, flirt endlessly and anonymously to frustrate him. Prize your peace over his shity piece.
ReplyDeleteAsewo kobo kobo! Runz girl oshi
Deletemy dear, this is not cool....
ReplyDeleteit is a bad sign.... u need to bring in the elders of your family involved and let them know what you are going through
VERY WRONG,talk 2him let him understand it hurts u nd do d@ in a polite way.if d@ doesn't change him ignore him men hate being ignored,it wl scare him he wil start feeling ur seeing some1 else try it.I pray it works 4u. Marriage a life time institution u can run away 4rm
ReplyDeleteGf I really feel your pain & understand what you are going through, bliv me wen I say its not easy but prayer makes everything beta. Just go on your knee & talk to God. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteGf I really feel your pain & understand what you are going through, bliv me wen I say its not easy but prayer makes everything beta. Just go on your knee & talk to God. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteGf I really feel your pain & understand what you are going through, bliv me wen I say its not easy but prayer makes everything beta. Just go on your knee & talk to God. Linda take note!
ReplyDeletemaddam,didnt you saw the signs b4 saying i do?Women should know that marriage is no guaranty to happiness.
ReplyDeleteToo many shallow mind on this blog I dont even know all these messages got the blogger's approval. Someone in need of help is seeking advice and all you people could do is to insult her. God bless everyone of you guys
DeleteToo too soon to complain plssssss
ReplyDeleteIt is wrong for married man to be so occupied with such non-sense. There are better things to do with time other than sharing pics with random hungry bitches.... Just pray fr him
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with all these 6months old marriage? IGNORE that part of him or should I say Watch and Pray that part of him... choice is yours
ReplyDeleteBabe calm down,stop complaining n try as much as u can to ignore him...make sure u look good everyday,if u don't hv a job u need to get one asap or go bk 4 masters or start a business,whatever don't sha be idle then go to d studio n take plenty pictures,beautiful pictures and kip changing ur dp esp on FB whr he can see ppl's comments,ur husband has complex issues
ReplyDelete@ Anonymous 10:27 am.
ReplyDeleteTrust me, your husband hasn't stopped. He is only being much more discreet.
But still on still, LIBERS LOVE AND HAIL THEIR KING.
Just ignore him and do same to him he will come calling bk
ReplyDeleteMy dear is only God that can change him for you, so go on your kneel n talk to God
ReplyDeleteits a pity wen I see young marriages wt dis kind of challengies. he knows wat he is doing,,ode
ReplyDeleteso wrong married men should stay married please
ReplyDeleteIts in their nature but he started it very early, ur marriage is too young to experience that. Just commit everything to God's hand I hope he will Change someday nd realize he's now a married man.
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NA HIM KNW WEDA NA WRONG THNG HIM DE DO..U TRY DO SAME IN PRETENCE AND SEE WAT HIS REACTION WIL BE TO KNW IF HES DOIN RYT OR WRNG...OR AINT U DESIRABLE BY PPLE??..TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteDear be steadfast in your prayer life and keep praying for him, he will definately change with time, and pls dnt querrell wit him just ignore him, pretend you dnt see wat he is doing and he wil be so surprised dat he wil den have to call himself to order, do not go d wrong way as well, cus two wrongs dnt make a right.
ReplyDeletei'm backkkkkkk! yeah i know i was missed. being off from internet connection and missed LIB so much it hurts. Well im back and thankfully on Monday giveaway.
ReplyDeleteMy advise to the newly married is to ignore the guy and make yourself happy without committing sin and any appearance of sin. He will get tired of it and will probably grow up someday. It can be hurting but what can you do? leaving your marriage is the last thing that should be on your mind.
Some marriages take some years before it takes shape. So give him time to grow up.
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Better reply! God bless you jare!
DeleteAwww so wrong of him to do dat, but come to think of it d pixs are they sensitive? But no matter wot pixs it's absolutely wrong, sit him down & talk to him reasonably & maturely & if he fails to change, make him jealous too but not misbehaving by hooking up wt guys on social media, chat, laff to his hearing but don't act stupid & see him go berserk, I bet he can't stand it.
ReplyDeleteStart texting and exchanging pics wv guys also. Mk we know whu go craze pass.
ReplyDeleteIf am d man, she will leave my house if she starts to exchange pix, simple.
DeleteI would suggest you stop checking his phone. What you don known wouldn't kill you. He might be doing it because you keep checking his phone.
ReplyDeleteSerious Gobe
ReplyDeleteYou don enter am already so just keep praying. 6months ke? Thatz too early!!!!
Keep praying and hoping!!!!!
Stop talking abt it. Behav lyk u r nt seeing it. Ignore him nd start urs, u wil c jealousy from him, and he starts complainin den it's tym 4 both of u to talk well. He is feeling desirable while u r nt. Start feeling desirable nd sexy too,u wil c his reactions.
ReplyDeleteLINDA,DON'T YOU THINK YOUR BLOG OVEREMPHASIZES ON TRANSGRESSIONS OF MEN?ARE WOMEN SAINTS?PLEASE BE BALANCED, BEARING IN MIND THAT YOU HAVE MALE FANS LIKE ME.ALL THE BEST.
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Since you are a man,you can also send your grievances about your wife too,so that it can be balanced! You are talking like it's not what she receives that she always post! Think before you comment.
Delete#i am proof that God answers prayers! God is the ultimate! Accept Jesus Christ today!#
Ehn send your own story now. Is it her fault that it's females that send in theirs? Abeg if this story is touching you in sensitive parts, it's time to make changes :p
DeleteMr male fan send your story for her to publish n stop talking Wat u don't know!!
Deleteyour hubby needs JESUS!!!
ReplyDeletethink of something else knowing full this the life style of men... womanizer. do...oo..................
ReplyDeletepray for him my dear, you need God more in this situation only God can change him to what you want. Do ur best to always be a good wife no matter what. God help you.
ReplyDeleteAs yu have talked to him with yur church mind and he says you're nagging. .the only thing left is to give him an overdose of his own medicine! My dear "feel desirable too! "abi aren't yu human?(and pray for patience too) he starts to complain make him eat his words!
ReplyDeleteMy he is sooo wrong..just keep away from his phone for now and stop all the unnecessary laughter and jokes with him.of u want to stay alive pls focus on the positive side of ur marriage....but if I realise u cant cope mentally,move out...shit happens
ReplyDeleteI think your husband is having an affair with other ladies and you should talk with his friend or family members or someone he respects so much to caution him on that
ReplyDeleteI wonder what y"all are pretending at.90% of Nigerian men are never contempted with thier wive's pussy even if she is a beauty queen. Once a player, always a player till God intervenes. Fellow married ladies like me you know, single ladies too you know cos you are the ones they cheat with. Aunty Lee, say somethin else jare! Hi babe, focus on other things he is good for, wait on God's intervention; else you are simply to reducing your life span. Marriage is not a bed of roses.
ReplyDeleteIt's over wrong my dear. That guy is not faithful by my own judgment. U are in for a really tough time by marrying that dude. Linda I hail thee.
ReplyDeleteIt's not only wrong but very disrespectful to you....You didn't see the trait's before you got married to him?Or as usual, you did but hoped that he'l change when you get married to him? It seems to me you're about to have a 'prayer point' that'll be on that your prayer point list for a very long time.Except he changes(they hardly do),No way you can be happy in your marriage knowing what you know now...I feel totally sorry for you because it's either you decide to put up and continue praying and hoping he'l change,or you do whatever it takes to ensure you get your sanity/happiness back
ReplyDelete@Lwkm, just reading your comment,I can tell you didn't grow up in a home#Sad
lol. the man wants to feel desirable. Why did he marry you? I thought men/human beings go into relationship make sure their significant other can take care of their needs. How much insecurity does your man have that he needs other girls to make him feel desirable? All those time he was single didn't he get enough desirableness? And oh, everythng is wrong with him searching for his needs to fulfilled outside of his marriage.
ReplyDeleteWot arrant nonsense..my dear r u ugly or handicapped? ...wot ever happened to two can play that game?!..no go get BP die like chicken cos 1 of his collection will occupy ur space once u drop dead d odas go catwalk over ur grave. Get busy chatting oda guys too n ignore him totally. D attention hez no longer getting will kip him scattered.
ReplyDeleteMr married man,change for d better. It is very sinful and shameful to cheat on ur wife.God is watching u and He will reward u according to d measure of ur sins.
ReplyDeletedatz serious nd early.
ReplyDeletePrayer and communication is the key
It is very wrong #period
ReplyDeleteThe best thing is to forget him and file for divorce immediately,it might be painful but the simple truth,my wife was doing the same after 8years of marriage when she met her former boyfriend that was how they start ,I tried every trick in the book including prayer.When I can no longer stand it I quit.It might be painful,pack your load and leave if he really cherished you,he will come begging if not,God is still in the business of rewarding faithful people,leave the ashawo man now,and stop giving yourself emotional pain.
ReplyDeleteHave nothing to say.
ReplyDeleteTo me cos i want to be very frank with u, i will tell u its normal, very normal for him to text as well exchange pictures, come to thin k of it u guys are still very young in the institution and the more reason he wont throw away his friends irrespective of their sex.
DeleteSweety, all u need do is keep loving him for who he is and not for the flimsy things the devil is throwing at you probably it hasn't dawned on him yet that he will always come back to you every night after work and wake up by ur side every day of his life probably he still has some unfinished business with them which might be some of these nasty things u see him doing.
You know some times to me, i just feel time is very important in marriage, i mean by the time the both of you spend most of ur time together, you will eventually be the only person he thinks of, talk to, seek ur advice etc
Please do not nag him for this, do not act nastily aswell just give him time i believe with time he will change.
Also do not rule the cheating aspect out cos he will basically do,Why? Cos hes a man and when he does, its not the end of the world.
i understand how you feel,my hubby does the samething. he even had to exchange nude pics with some lady when our marriage is just two weeks and guess what? he wasnt sorry for it.
ReplyDeletemy advice to you is............just keep on praying,while you are at it,stop complaining(so he wont say its your naggin that made him do it),take good care of yourself,love yourself and be happy with yourself(thats what i am doing). its not going to be easy(no one says it will), all these would make you care less about what he is doing and with time God that owns him would touch his heart. till then.....no send am
y blame d man.... e no force u na.u knw da devil in him.yet u choose to bed him.....so stick wit da outcome.... n pray for revival....
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is well. Marriage is never a bed of roses. It's quite unfortunate that the wahala is coming too early. Any way, don't quarrel him over it. Try and talk senses into him and also dress in a very appealing way. Hand all the troubles over to God. But if there is a pastor he respects, you can report him to the pastor. But remember, you will win all wars on your kneels.
ReplyDeletehere is what you do. Ignore his misbehaviors. Girl, start taking very good care of yourself. Dress very nice/classy/sassy. Look Good all the time for yourself oo not for this imp/baby/overgrown/immature husband of yours. Girl be sure to be looking fly always. Start being a happy person. Find and do things that make you happy(I didn't say do things that will violate the oat of marriage or dress slutty). Let fine men notice you well. No mind this your immature husband. since all the girls he is exchanging photos with are important to him. It should be important to you that you look fly at all times. Let a responsible man that find you desirable notice you . Please, you are free to leave this your immature husband who obviously married for the wrong reasons. Be sure to document his behavior in church. girlfriend you deserve a man who finds you desirable and focus on you and your marriage. Don't tolerate bad behavior from anyone. Threat yourself with respect.
ReplyDeleteu knew d devil in him yet u choose to bed him...stick wit him....u were not forced na .....ur lucky u knw early
ReplyDelete"Feel desirable ".....mtttccchhheeewwwwww.....No be only text and exchange pics...he should wrk on his abs..then go to a crowded pool,have a swim and walk out like "mr sexy"..all sleek, wet and damn".....so all d girls can have orgasms just drooling over that body...so he'll feel better abt himself....ur husband is a sick, insecure, womanizing retard.....and u, strt wearin mini's out or d "short" is obvious in d shorts u wear out....he's nt d only one who wants to feel desirable......or complain to his mom.....she's a woman too.....as for calling d family, that should be as a last resort
ReplyDeleteHe should respect you as his wife now.
ReplyDeletehmmm ve nothin to say ooo,bcos if dont marry a womanizer as a husband den u marry a wife beater.Mennnnnn sha na wa oooo
ReplyDeleteU already knew before u married him, that's your mistake, my advise is that you should let him be instead dedicate all the time you use to follow him up on who he chat and exchange pictures with to loving yourself. My dear, life is to short to live it worrying everyday about things we cannot change. So please channel your attention to things that makes you happy excluding him because am sure you didn't die before you met him. Creat time for other things that matters, remember friends you have forgotten, do activities that makes you happy, get busy. But don't ignore your duties as a wife. Just let him be in that area. Remember you can take a horse to stream but you can't force it to drink water.
ReplyDeleteMy dear... Leave ham he text.. Leave ham make he send pics... He is shallow simple... He lacks self esteem..pls madam buy him plenty condoms... to protect himself n u. BC he will cheat on u... He is even cheating on u... But wanna ask u something , didn't u guy court.. N u saw the sign n u think he will change when he marries u... Smh men don't change... Chameleon never looses it spots
ReplyDeleteyour man is a womanizer
ReplyDeleteit's very wrong for married man/ woman to keep texting opposite sex & exchanging pictures
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He's an idiot! Maybe you should do the same thing and let's see what his reaction is. I hope he reads this.
ReplyDeleteJust too early to cry, dou i can bet my life that u do know this before marriage n still went on. One problem ladies have is that we believ we can change a man or he will turn out different when married. just pray n nag less.
ReplyDeleteHello to this female writer, her husband and everyone LIB reader,
ReplyDeleteI feel the need to err my opinion and hoping it might just help.
To the newly married woman: Personally i think you should pay less attention to it and focus more on other things because talk from now till thy kingdom come it won't make any difference except on his own decide to put an end to it. he is an adult and knows exactly what is right and wrong. If he cherish his marriage he will make an effort to protect it. There is nothing much you can do to make him stop because if i understood you correctly you said you have been talking to him about it. At this point, focus on yourself and the things that makes you happy. I don't know the history before you decided to marry him. Maybe you knew all this hoping it will stop in marriage. well all that is inconsequential right now. But don't make the mistake of trying to do same thing by flirting with men. If it gets to that point just quietly leave the marriage.
To her husband: Well, based on your actions described, it shows you are irresponsible and not even a man that knows his image. You don't even know the meaning of marriage and the blessings that comes with it nor the vows you took. Apparently, you just wanted to have a change of status because you feel that would give you a sense of belonging. You lack self confidence and you strike me as a failure the reason your seeking different female attention. If you are an intelligent and hard working man i don't think you would have so much time on your hands. Anyways, if you care to know you heading towards destruction and don't take the innocent girl with you. I wonder the kind of father you will be to your children. Just for the record. Don't think you are doing the girl any harm because what you sow you will reap. Nature will definitely play it role. You might just loose a good woman to another that would freely cheat on you with your friends and relatives in your very eyes. Enough said. You are an adult who knows what is right from wrong.
To all LIB readers: Marriage is a beautiful institution don't let irresponsible people make you feel otherwise. Even if there are challenges sometimes but you pick your battles.It takes two to tangle one person can't make it happen if the other is not willing. There are somethings that are not suppose to be prayer points. If your yet tone married, this is the time to pray all the prayers of what you want and don't want in your husband so you don't need to pray them again when you get married. Because when you know exactly what you want you won't compromise. pay no attention to happenings around you because while a lot of marriages fails and are struggling ,a lot of marriages are successful and desirable. focus on the good ones. Don't marry because of the status, or because your friends are getting married or because you fell you are getting old.Get married for the right reason because forever is too long a time to be unhappy. It is better to be alone than be in a marriage of pain. marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. Divorce is a huge trauma especially when kids are involved. And the irony of it all is that women are at the receiving end. So it is better you get it right no matter how long. Prayer and Patience is the key.
I leave you with the peace of God. Shalom!
HOW DID BOTH OF U MEET? MAY B TRU SUCH EXCHANGE OF PICTURES TOO. IF SO U KNEW DAT IN HIS NATURE B4 MARRYING HIM. REMIND URSELF WHAT U HAD IN MIND B4 U DECIDED ON D MARRIAGE. U WILL DISCOVER U HAV NO REASON TO COMPLAIN NOW. MAY B U TOLD URSELF U WILL CHANGE HIM BUT NOW U DISCOVERED U CAN'T REALLY CHANGE HIM. IN DESPERATION, MANY HAV DECIDED ON ISSUES WHICH BOOMERANGS AND THEY BEGIN TO COMPLAIN. DON'T EAT UR CAKE AND EXPECT TO HAV IT.
ReplyDeleteOh please! This has nothing to do with him feeling insecure,it has everything to do with an irresponsible man already cheating on his wife of 6months...And why do people always say "maybe there's something the woman is not doing right whenever a man messes up in relationships"? What about cases where the woman is doing everything right and still gets constantly cheated on? The truth is an irresponsible man is an irresponsible man,he doesn't need a 'reason' to cheat
ReplyDeleteHello to this female writer, her husband and every LIB reader,
ReplyDeleteI feel the need to err my opinion and hoping it might just help.
To the newly married woman: Personally i think you should pay less attention to it and focus more on other things because talk from now till thy kingdom come it won't make any difference except on his own decide to put an end to it. he is an adult and knows exactly what is right and wrong. If he cherish his marriage he will make an effort to protect it. There is nothing much you can do to make him stop because if i understood you correctly you said you have been talking to him about it. At this point, focus on yourself and the things that makes you happy. I don't know the history before you decided to marry him. Maybe you knew all this hoping it will stop in marriage. well all that is inconsequential right now. But don't make the mistake of trying to do same thing by flirting with men. If it gets to that point just quietly leave the marriage.
To her husband: Well, based on your actions described, it shows you are irresponsible and not even a man that knows his image. You don't even know the meaning of marriage and the blessings that comes with it nor the vows you took. Apparently, you just wanted to have a change of status because you feel that would give you a sense of belonging. You lack self confidence and you strike me as a failure the reason your seeking different female attention. If you are an intelligent and hard working man i don't think you would have so much time on your hands. Anyways, if you care to know you heading towards destruction and don't take the innocent girl with you. I wonder the kind of father you will be to your children. Just for the record. Don't think you are doing the girl any harm because what you sow you will reap. Nature will definitely play it role. You might just loose a good woman to another that would freely cheat on you with your friends and relatives in your very eyes. Enough said. You are an adult who knows what is right from wrong.
To all LIB readers: Marriage is a beautiful institution don't let irresponsible people make you feel otherwise. Even if there are challenges sometimes but you pick your battles.It takes two to tangle one person can't make it happen if the other is not willing. There are somethings that are not suppose to be prayer points. If your yet to be married, this is the time to pray all the prayers of what you want and don't want in your husband/wife so you don't need to pray them again when you get married. Because when you know exactly what you want you won't compromise. pay no attention to the happenings around you because while a lot of marriages fail and some struggling ,a lot of marriages are successful and desirable. focus on the good ones. Don't marry because of the status, or because your friends are getting married or because you feel you are getting old.Get married for the right reason because forever is too long a time to be unhappy. It is better to be alone than be in a marriage of pain. marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. Divorce is a huge trauma especially when kids are involved. And the irony of it all is that women are at the receiving end. So it is better you get it right no matter how long. Prayer and Patience is the key.
I leave you with the peace of God. Shalom!
pray about it and trust God he will stop....Marriage is God's institution .
ReplyDeletepray about it and trust God he will stop....Marriage is God's institution .
ReplyDeletepray about it and trust God he will stop....Marriage is God's institution .
ReplyDeleteMy dear he was doing same when both of u were togeda dating or maybe u have developed a difficult attitude he can't stand or u are pregnant and he doesn't find u attractive with all d irritating stuffs dat backs up pregnancy my dear not all pastors can help u but only God almighty my dear,mine was even sleeping with my cousin who now has a son for him and they are married but not withstanding ,,,,beg him and ask him if u have offended him in anyway .my dad will drive u back if u tell him ur husband is cheating he will say as far as he is a good man,keep ur home and stop getting angry pray and don't talk to frnd don't lea ur husband if he doesn't beat u ok and read Lib to clam u down
ReplyDeleteMy dear just go down on ur knees an pray to God for ur hubby.There's nothing that can't be handled with prayers.
ReplyDeleteMen though! Mine too chats with one babe late into d night and he's claiming jez friends. D idiot girl even had d guts to tell him she greeted me and i did not respond.
ReplyDeleteIt's wrong why should he exchange pictures with a girl at the first place?, the samething happened to me but my is boy friend and he said their is not wrong, that is only a village girl would complain about sure. i have shared the matter with some matured men and they said is very wrong of him and why should he have the girl's number... Thank GOD i am out of his life but we do talk once in a while..
ReplyDeleteIt's wrong why should he exchange pictures with a girl at the first place?, the samething happened to me but my is boy friend and he said their is not wrong, that is only a village girl would complain about sure. i have shared the matter with some matured men and they said is very wrong of him and why should he have the girl's number... Thank GOD i am out of his life but we do talk once in a while..
ReplyDeletePele
ReplyDeletefirstly...
ReplyDeleteWhere you married in a church?
Is he committed in church?
You can discuss this with his Pastor.
Secondly, is there anything he wants from you in the home that you are not doing?
Thirdly, did he show any of these traits before you got married?
Fourthly, the bible says the heart of a kings is in God's hands, and does with it as he pleases...Take time off to pray for him. God touches hearts.
Be Strong, and seek counsel from the right people
You are a woman and u need to understand what that means, you are the blessing and the favour to that man in the word of the Almighty. A foolish woman keeps talking. A wise woman understand the power of her words as well as her silence. Nothing unsettles a man better than the silence of his woman. Play a blind eye to it. However, When someone can't make up their mind about you, make up their mind for them, and remove yourself. You're not a YoYo! . You don't have to CHASE what God has sent!
ReplyDeleteYou are a woman and u need to understand what that means, you are the blessing and the favour. A foolish woman keeps talking. A wise woman understand the power of her words as well as her silence. When someone can't make up their mind about you, make up their mind for them, and remove yourself. You're not a YoYo! .
ReplyDeletesocial media (...technology as a whole) will be the downfall of the marriage institution.
ReplyDeleteIt's sooo annoying that the moment a Nigerian female gets married she becomes an automatic prayer warrior.
ReplyDeletePrayers aren't bad but to think someone would get married and rather than the two consenting ADULTS stay committed to the relationship the older one (usually) begins to act like a kid... na wa, how did women loose respect like this?
Am beginning to think some mmarriages these days are distractions cos the time you could have used in interceding for lost souls, people dying and suffering in different parts of the world you dey there dey cry to God about one agbaya *pardon my french *
Anyways pray my dear other ladies please open your eyes before you say yes.any crap you pretensiously take in courtship you should be prepared to keep taking it.
Do the same,return the favour. Send pics to guys too. If he is okk with it then both of u should rethink ur relationship.
ReplyDeletePlease, he your husband sit down with him and talk thing out. Dont fear him.
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All you pots calling kettle black you do worst, is it because you've not been exposed, its a learning curve with time all the excesses will drop away, but she should stay close to him, communicate more and make herself adorable.
ReplyDeleteFire prayer.A married man sldnt b doing that,he wnt lik it if u do d same.
ReplyDeletefeel like I know who sent this in. My opinion.. Its wrong
ReplyDeleteSo sorry dear..dat is men for u dis days, married bt pretending lyk they re nt, cheating wit d single girls here nd there..too bad. Jst go ahead nd pray to God to courage nd wisdom to handle dis situation
ReplyDeleteIT is very very wrong Period.
ReplyDeleteHad same problem with my husband during our 1st year of marriage. He just wouldn't stop flirting with different ladies on bbm, whatsapp n fb and he saw nothing wrong with it as long as he wasn't going all out to f**k them. it was a real battle o. tried paying him back by doing same but just couldn't. Talk about it and pray. Mine is soo much better now
ReplyDeleteIt's wrong
ReplyDeleteHad same problem with my husband during our 1st year of marriage. He just wouldn't stop flirting with different ladies on bbm, whatsapp n fb and he saw nothing wrong with it as long as he wasn't going all out to f**k them. it was a real battle o. tried paying him back by doing same but just couldn't. Talk about it and pray. Mine is soo much better now
ReplyDeleteAny habit a man or woman doesn't stop when your relationship advances to the courting stage (i.e. serious stage), they don't stop when you're married.
ReplyDeleteSorry you had to learn the wrong way. Live with it, and pray. Though prayer now is medicine after death cos you should have prayed before you got married, that's if you're properly aligned to the God you serve.
Hmm just six month and all these troubles Hmm marriage is not child's play at all, well keep praying for him God will change him one day!!!
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