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Tuesday 6 January 2015

Mother-in-law vs daughter-in-law by flamboyant psycholoist Adejoro Olumofin

Letter to the Ladies Vol. 11. This article was written by Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin.

(Learn Assertive Training and Diplomatic means with your Mother-in-law)


What is Assertive Training?

This is a Psychological process in which you learn how to express your views without being rude or suggestive to second or third party. This being said, the Mother-in-law/Daughter-in-law "beef" or dispute is a Universal Phenomenon which has caused a lot of problems and ended a lot of happy marriages and relationships. Some of these disputes have led to verbal abuse, shouting matches, fights over territory in the kitchen, disagreement over naming of children and even Physical confrontations between Mothers and Daughters-in-law. 

For you to understand any situation you have to go to its origin, ladies take note, before you came into the equation, the apple of your bae's eye and his number one protector was his mother who he showered with love and affection and then you came into the picture and suddenly all the attention shifted from his mother to you. This change is a process, naturally there will be some tension because it takes some time for mothers in-law to get used to the fact that their sons are no longer 100% theirs and they have to share him, or permission has to be sort on certain things in his life which they usually did directly or without question. 


Ladies, you need to learn to be diplomatic with your mothers in-law because you have more to lose than them. Pick your battles, most times, your boyfriend or husband will take his mom's side if any dispute arises. Let me also say that no amount of Diplomacy or Assertive Training will help you if your man is a "Mommy's Boy" and can't handle his mom or if his mom doesn't like you. Therefore, if you're in this situation where your man can not defend you or hold your hand, you need to develop a thick skin, have patience and most importantly PRAY. Studies have shown that the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is one of the most difficult in social psychology and there isn't any clear cut solution or approach towards this, because the variables always differ i.e different mothers/daughters-in-law have different cultural backgrounds, personalities and family structures. Dear Ladies, may you not fall into a bad mother-in-law situation. However, learn to adapt to your environment and also learn how to manage such delicate relationship in a diplomatic way. Dear mothers in-law, with due respect, I appeal to you to use your wealth of experience to deal with your daughters in-law in tactful ways, for the benefit of your son towards maintaining a happy married life..


Read More Articles on Adejoro Olumofins Instagram : @joroolumofin


Adejoro is also giving out 1500 of his star studded "Doktor" Mofin SnapBacks to his fans and well wishers from February 14 2015..
at 1/06/2015 01:38:00 pm

159 comments:

  1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:40

    First. Ib

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    1. Unknown6 January 2015 at 19:12

      Ok

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    2. Anonymous7 January 2015 at 00:31

      Spotted another well dressed guy that likes to pose and take selfies like ladies do. True definition of someone in touch with he's feminine side, in other words he got Gay mannerism. I'm sure he's married to a man in d usa

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    3. Anonymous7 January 2015 at 19:41

      Fortunately, joro, as much as I love the topic of this article, unfortunately, you have missed out a lot of key points in regards to this MIL and dIL relationship.

      What about MiL's that are using jazz on their sons to be able to control who he dates/marries?

      Trust me...some women are pure gold to a man. Unfortunately, due to the jazzy MIL who sniffs that her wicked ways will be revealed through the gold wife...begins to look for every way to get rid of her

      How do you tell your man that his mum is a witch and out to destroy his life without him trying to get rid of you as the gold wife? In turn, she has caused a beautiful and successful marriage or relationship to go down the drain...and yes, some mothers are out to destroy their sons as they have used them as covenants in their devilish world. Some, it's just to flex the power and hold they have over their sons.

      It's either one of two things...either the guy loves you enough to fight for you if he's spiritually strong enough or he let's go because his mother has reigned enough curses on him forbidding the relationship, to last several generations to come.

      As the golden babe, you decide to stay God fearing and be praying along with the patience. Remember, the golden girl could turn into a witch too just to fight the MIL.

      Going the prayer route...you dream, you have visions, you're told left right and centre that this is your husband but his mum doesn't want to make life easy for you and the only time you'd enjoy each other is if she's dead. Tell me why you wouldn't be praying for her death every second of the day?

      Yes, the aspect is there that that means the female siblings don't get to have their mother at their weddings etc. but what will it profit every one to have an evil MIL alive?

      What about the MIL's you appeal to with gifts, patience, kindness and love and still chose to have a heart of stone?

      When the son eventually becomes a wreck due to his mothers actions, poor and lonely, what say you then, joro?

      Some would ask...shouldn't the guy know by now that his mother is the one "doing him?" Maybe not...depends on the intensity of the jazz which is probably being topped up regularly

      You also have the aspect of girls who use jazz to tie a guy down for whatever reason. In this instance, a mothers instinct or research will automatically turn on operation "chase out" by the MIL.

      Some mothers...the only reason why they are nasty is because the daughter was out of order ONCE and find it very hard to forgive but yet, claim to be a Christian around town rather than to correct in love.

      Some MIL's are not interested in their own marriages because they've turned their husbands into a mugu. So anything she says goes.

      There are many more aspects joro. This volume will need several sub articles to help the real ladies out there. A lot of men end up marrying a woman who has pretended to be quiet till she gets into the home. Not all can be like that.

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  2. Steady6 January 2015 at 13:40

    Hmmm, sense making letter... Thumbs up

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    1. Unknown6 January 2015 at 16:19

      Mehnn this post over make brain.. *noted

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  3. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:41

    Ok

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  4. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:41

    True words!

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  5. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:42

    Dis is just ur own opinion but gone are the days wen husbands used to take their mama's side.

    Wen my mother in law tried it with me, I put her exactly where she belonged and my hubby didn't take sides

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    1. Favour belle6 January 2015 at 19:26

      @gracie offor, really??? Good that it works for you. One man's meat maybe another man's death trap. Not all mother-inlaws are daft, some could just be looking out for a thing to use against you. Cool but not so cool an advice by "doktor". I wonder if this is from experience?

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  6. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:42

    hmmm.....

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  7. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:42

    God bless U.....is all i gat for U.

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  8. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:42

    Some mother inlaws can be over bearing

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  9. ujunwa6 January 2015 at 13:42

    Hmmmmmmm

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  10. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:43

    you this guy again...
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  11. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:43

    Okay..seen.
    It is "sought" by d way...not sort.
    I think both parties should stay within and learn to respect boundaries. Afterall, mother-in-laws too once "stole" their "husbands" from their mothers!!

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  12. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:43

    Very true but women are thier worst enemies..when the son marries some mothers in law want to rule and control but if its thier daughter, they tell her how to control her MIL..if you marry a mama's boy, na one chance you enter...no woman wants to be bossed in her territory...when your son marries, respect the fact that its not your control to tell them hiwxto sleep or eat biko..

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 20:41

      Thank you Chi. A mother in law wants to rule in her son's home but teaches her daughter to rule in her own home. It is a very frustrating dynamic. I teaching my daughters not to marry a man who cannot respectfully stand up to his mother. Your husband should support you in the public eye. You can disagree behind closed doors.

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  13. H S C6 January 2015 at 13:44

    Lol why always the "flamboyant" before his profession Lindiway?

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  14. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:45

    Dats. War dat will go on forever

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  15. Davido's driver6 January 2015 at 13:45

    Ok..next

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  16. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:45

    Some mother inlaws have an estate in HELL,especially d patience ozokwor kind of mother inlaws,,, and d writer is very right,d wife has alot to loose if she pass her boundary,no guy will leave his mom for his wife,especially naija guys! Taah,can never happen

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  17. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:46

    NICE ONE...



    #Royal Priesthood#

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  18. BONARIO NNAGS6 January 2015 at 13:47

    Nice piece ladies need to be diplomatic with their mother inlaws.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 22:15

      Bonario and Onyx please take note, it's *Mothers-in-law*.

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  19. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:47

    Next post pls...

    #Royal Priesthood#

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  20. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:47

    True talk.
    $.
    $.
    @Mr Endowed via Lumia phone

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  21. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:47

    I just love this guy. He talks lotta sense. Keep it up bro, u have a fan here.

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  22. justJ6 January 2015 at 13:48

    What does free cap have to do wt marital advise. Nigerians and their free publicity tactics. Oga gan sit down!

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  23. Blaq6 January 2015 at 13:48

    Yea that's y some ladies pray make their mother-in-law dies b4 them enter house but that's not the solution. It has to do with being prayerful and having a lot of patience cos he is right when he should the daughter -in-law. Is the one that has a lot to loss.

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  24. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:49

    I'm so grateful to GOD that I have the best mother in law in d whole world... she's d best thing that can happen to any lady in marriage.

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  25. CHERRY6 January 2015 at 13:49

    Nice!

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  26. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:54

    Lol. This post does not even begin to capture the problem at all. The mother/daughter in-law issue is an age old battle, its been there for eons and probably won't go away regardless.

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  27. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:54

    well said my brother well said. honeydo

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  28. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:54

    Hmmmmm

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  29. Unknown6 January 2015 at 13:55

    The writer didn't mention the way forward
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  30. Uche Emma6 January 2015 at 13:56


    Ok

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  31. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:57

    Realistic Article!!!! Nice Job

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  32. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:59

    Nigerian mother's are witches!!!!! I'm happy you wrote about this.. My friend saw Hell in her marital home. It was disgusting

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  33. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:59

    Congrats Joro!!

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  34. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 13:59

    Cool Article Sir

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  35. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:00

    Good advice

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  36. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:00

    Nigeria mothers no sabi Diplomacy oo.. See this big fool.. Commot

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  37. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:01

    Very mature way of thinking Busayo.. Nice Job

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  38. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:01

    Good.......
    ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

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  39. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:01

    100 Kobo snapback.. Lmaoooo

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  40. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:02

    Fine Boy.. Hehehehe

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  41. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:03

    Nice one! Well said

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  42. Lewis6 January 2015 at 14:03

    Beginning 2 like diz dude

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  43. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:06

    Some young ladies have no respect.. This article is one sided pls

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  44. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:07

    Good Job!!

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  45. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:07

    First article that isn't ignorant.. Lol

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  46. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:08

    No Pot Belly issue today..

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  47. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:08

    All na packaging.. Lool Flamboyant lomo

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  48. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:09

    Dead!!

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  49. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:09

    Daughters in-law should possess all d patience in d world if they are to live amicably with their mothers in -law. Its vry possible for peaceful coexistence between the pair. If u want d best from your hubby, then tolerate d mother. If u don't pray for her to be alive when u married her son, then u won't be alive to witness ur own son's wedding. Its as simple as that.









    @SOPHIA STEPHEN

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  50. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:10

    Love this!!!!!!!! I've been waiting for someone to speak about this.. Well written Mr Adejoro

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  51. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:10

    Thank you for this

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  52. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:11

    That relationship is very delicate.. True

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  53. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:12

    Biko naija sha.. Why would mother and daughter in law fight? After what?

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  54. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:12

    This guy again.. Mr instagram

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  55. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:13

    Assertive Training doesn't work in naija abeg.. Carry your theory throway

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  56. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:14

    Fresh!!!

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  57. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:14

    Val's day bonanza

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  58. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:14

    Interesting Read!

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  59. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:14

    Excellent writeup...may God help our mothers and daughters.

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  60. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:15

    Olujoro Adebusayo.. Foolish Boy oshi

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    1. Chi chi6 January 2015 at 17:01

      Why so pained!

      Dr mofin this is an improvement from your previous article. Keep doing it, u can only get better.

      However can you always provide more solution, e.g what can the daughter inlaw do other than bee patient. Thank you

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    2. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 19:53

      Take your personal beef elsewhere biko.

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  61. AbokiDaWarriBoy6 January 2015 at 14:15

    Well said.

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  62. Daralohi6 January 2015 at 14:15

    We have heard u oga

    Miss indomie says so

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  63. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:15

    This psychopath of a psychologist is paying so much for attention

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  64. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:15

    We've heard.. Thank you! Mr Adviser

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  65. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:15

    Oshi

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  66. AbokiDaWarriBoy6 January 2015 at 14:16

    I believe every words he said.

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  67. The Swan6 January 2015 at 14:16

    JESUS CHRIST!!!! My mum raised us up all alone, shes our support system, shes our world and everything we are today we owe to her.
    So hell NO!!! Am not having that wedding on that day cos part of the plan was taking alot of selfies and dancing around with her. That day will be a day of mourning all through.

    Dear lord please dont let this happen to me ooo...Mum will be with me on my big day and she is sooo taking me to the altar.

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    1. Princess G6 January 2015 at 15:20

      Babe slow down and check the post under which u are commenting

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  68. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:16

    Real life talking.. Real life

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  69. AbokiDaWarriBoy6 January 2015 at 14:16

    Daughter inlaw take note.lol

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  70. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:17

    Every naija guy na Mommy's boy.. No exceptions

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  71. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:17

    Lovely Sir

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  72. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:18

    This Ode is the number one Mommy's boy oo.. Lmaoooo

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  73. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:18

    Hmmmmmmmmmmmm
    This is a class that mums and ladies shld attend.........

    »»Says De-Champion««

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  74. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:20

    Ladies gat problems..ya its natural

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  75. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:20

    Everybody wants to be a celeb. Abeg e

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  76. Nikki Billz6 January 2015 at 14:20

    Gud of you 4 d lovely messages!

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  77. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:23

    Nawa ,dis na suspense na jst bit around d bush, next told us to go chk some places,is well tho

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  78. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:23

    True talk

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  79. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:28

    Okiie o, u shld try being a daughter-in-law den u go understand. Linda take note!

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  80. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:30

    Wow.. Lovely!!

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  81. Eniwealth6 January 2015 at 14:30

    Nicely written.

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  82. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:32

    An Atom of truth.. Nigeria mother's are very self absorbed and selfish, they should face their husband's instead they will be focusing on their sons marriage.. Nice Article

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 17:12

      That is ehn, they should face their own marriage and not be prying about in their son s house all in the name of helping out. Mtshew

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  83. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:33

    Joro Nigga raw.. Gbammm!!

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  84. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:33

    U wrote an intelligent article
    Wats with the face cap and all
    Ur character mr mofin contradicts ur writing
    Hence making it unbelievable u wrote all this
    Work on ur self first dress and act as matured as ur writtings are if u tend to climb ur psychological career ladder with ease
    Nice article

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  85. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:33

    I'm happy for you Joro

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  86. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:33

    Really good.. Nice work!!!!!

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  87. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:34

    Pick your battles.. Love that, so much sense

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  88. J3nnif3r6 January 2015 at 14:34

    Well said... I have learnt from thiss article.

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  89. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:34

    On Point!!!!!

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  90. Ladi Okeowo6 January 2015 at 14:35

    Massive!!!!! Mr Dapper

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  91. Unknown6 January 2015 at 14:35

    Errrrr..... remind me who this guy is again.

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 19:54

      Errrrr. ...A psychologist!

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  92. Chioma Okonkwo6 January 2015 at 14:37

    This happens only with Yoruba people.. Igbo mothers are well behaved and mannered..

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:37

      I totally agree with you. I've noticed that a lot. You just had a baby and your Yoruba mother in law will never lift a finger to help you. She will be busy trying to find what you're doing wrong and how you're not respectful. ..even with your postpartum bleeding and pains! All my ibo friends enjoy their Omugo because their mothers-in-law are always proactive and supportive with baby seating, cooking and all. Theyou don't break their heads over this nonsense eye service respect that my Yoruba people give

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    2. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:39

      I totally agree with you. I've noticed that a lot. You just had a baby and your Yoruba mother in law will never lift a finger to help you. She will be busy trying to find what you're doing wrong and how you're not respectful. ..even with your postpartum bleeding and pains! All my ibo friends enjoy their Omugo because their mothers-in-law are always proactive and supportive with baby seating, cooking and all. They don't break their heads over this nonsense eye service respect that my Yoruba people give

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    3. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:43

      I second you my sister, Yoruba mothers-in-law are veeeeeeeery wicked! Even the educated ones among them could make your life miserable when they turn Yorurazz on you

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    4. Anonymous8 January 2015 at 00:12

      I can totally relate to this. Very wicked souls. They dont help you with omuguo yet they fight to be the one to come look after baby. They want to control their son's home, yet they have their son in law under their arm. The uneducated are worse. Talking from experience

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  93. Chioma Okonkwo6 January 2015 at 14:37

    Nice Job still.. Bless

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  94. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:38

    Who wants this ones cap? Hisss

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  95. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:39

    Ain't gonna hate.. This fellow is coming up. We'll done

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  96. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:39

    Love the caption.. Ghennnn Ghennnn! Rambo Vs Bruce lee

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  97. Ms Abi6 January 2015 at 14:40

    I was initially happy about this initiative but after reading through, I got disappointed.
    Why must it be a competition between the mother in law and daughter in law. The mothers should learn to love and let go!
    What does Genesis 2:24 say!? Ehn! It was very clear! Not sure what the Quran says, so my Muslim brothers and sisters can help me here. We as Nigerians can be so hypocritical :(
    Almost every mother in law thinks the daughter in law "has come to take my son away"!
    I have way too much to say about this but I will stop here.

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:12

      Thank you, you are right. My mum in law is a devil in human form. She is also very well disliked amongst relatives and friends.

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    2. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 18:11

      my dear...thats d nonsense we find ourselves...take their sons to where sef , when u are busy reseting all d rubbish they taught their sons.
      My own MIL is a devil incarnate...the woman will smile n laugh with me but will be inciting my hubby against me...imagine her telling hubby not to be telling me everything that he does...meanwhile she was angry with her niece's husband because he was keeping things away from her...i was like ooo, so i fit pain u....
      Anyways, im done with pretending, we both know we dont like each other, we are only accomodating each other cus of the common factor we share : my hubby.
      No family member likes her....d ones that accomodates her do so cus of d money dey want to collect from her...all d wives in the house avoids her like a plague...
      Huuby has told me to stay on my lane and her stay on her own...i have told them..dis is my home, hubby n i make decision in this home, she cant rule and control my home. I wonder sef if she knew better than me, she will still be married now....no man wants her under the same roof....God knows the intent of my heart towards her but if she continues planning evil for me...she will reap her evil in Jesus name

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  98. Ore6 January 2015 at 14:41

    well said....

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  99. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:43

    I Love you..

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  100. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:43

    Excuse me are you Bi?

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  101. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:44

    Amen!!

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  102. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:45

    This is one of my biggest fears.. Mother in law wahala.. Not my portion o.. Amennnn

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  103. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:45

    Amen o Biko

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  104. sadiq opeyemi6 January 2015 at 14:45

    Nice write - up. ..I like

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    1. Unknown6 January 2015 at 15:10

      Yes, nice advice, pick ur battles cos if u decide to drag mat things with her then u end up quarreling all the time, some of them re nice while some are plainly difficult to please

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  105. ary6 January 2015 at 14:46

    Some mothers are just plain difficult and it is not just about losing their son, they just love making the life of their daughters in law hell! They strive on it!

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  106. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:46

    Chioma Okonkwo you're very silly for that statement.. Yoruba mothers only have drama.. SmH

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:14

      Yoruba mother in laws are very troublesome. Believe it or not.

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  107. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:46

    Awesome piece!!!

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  108. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:49

    Yagaaaaa... Adejoro I don't know you but i love you for this

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  109. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:49

    Bomb!!!!!!

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  110. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:49

    Beautiful way of thinking.. Good job

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  111. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:50

    Are you based in Lagos or PH? We need to talk..

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  112. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:52

    Oloron ma ke e Adejoro

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  113. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:53

    Big ups Bro!!

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  114. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 14:54

    either this guy is delusional or he has absolutely no idea of what he talks about.

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:10

      Wats exactly are u trying to say???

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  115. Juleslouis6 January 2015 at 15:04

    Linda, some mother in laws r so cruel that all u think about when u see them is murder. D best solution that has worked so far is living far apart from them and showing them all the neccessary love from afar. And ladies, pls forget love, if υ̲̣̥r̲̅ fiance is a mommy's boy, run for υ̲̣̥r̲̅ ϑε̲ãr life. Simple.

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    1. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:15

      I married a mommy's boy and I regret till today.

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    2. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 16:40

      Living far apart? Does that always work? We live as far apart as you can get, well transatlantic still she perpetuates via views over the phone. All her in-laws don run from her side. Impossible to please. The deal is, I'm okay to loose it really doesn't matter to me. I chose sides and I took life over them matter, make them dey there.

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  116. Chidinma Grace6 January 2015 at 15:05

    Ok o we don hear.

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  117. Unknown6 January 2015 at 15:05

    Nonsense

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  118. Unknown6 January 2015 at 15:08

    God no give me bad mother in law sha

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  119. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 15:10

    I am in it already u no what mother in law battle can not separate my marriage not now not ever

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  120. AbokiDaWarriBoy6 January 2015 at 15:19

    Well said

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  121. Subomi6 January 2015 at 16:17

    sorry I dont agree, men no longer automatically jump to the mother's side in times of conflicts, haba, some of us actually do love our girlfriends, some of these girls are actually proper good girls and cos a woman is our mother dont immediately make her a perfect person or a god, me I dont know how to do eye service, I respect and love my mum but when she is wrong, I tell her she is wrong, dont matter who she is fighting.

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  122. Chy6 January 2015 at 18:16

    Tell this flabby fool that he is a lair. How can a married woman with a husband expect 100 percent attention from her soon to her? This Y our society is messed up. This is Y men will continue to suffer inferiority complex forever. To flabby psychologist, tell your mother that you have now grown into the man she wants you to be, thank her and beg her to now pay full attention to your father and her marriage. Her marriage did not end because you were born. But if you want to give 100 percent of your attention to ur mama, please don't lisend to the bible; don't marry because you won't be able to cling to or become one with your wife. FYI... it is a man's responsibility to sit his mama down and tell her he wants to marry and when he does, his attention to mama will decrease or diminish. Stop putting all marriage responsibilities on women. Gosh, what all yall good for besides penis.

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  123. Unknown6 January 2015 at 18:27

    Not all u said is true bro **DOPEY SAID SO**

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  124. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 19:02

    Abeg joro, take several seats back. I hope you have finished psychoanalysing your self before spewing rubbishbfrom your mouth. Asewo oshi, hope you habe stopped buying postinor 2 for all the random flings that you have. Psychologist my ass!

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  125. ebonyz...6 January 2015 at 19:22

    True

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  126. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 20:13

    can you stop referring to him as flambuoyant psychologist. it is becoming cliche

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  127. Unknown6 January 2015 at 20:27

    Good one.

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  128. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 20:54

    Joro Joro Joro. Which kind abe igi psychologist you be? hahaha. I think is it very disgraceful that a psychologist used the word 'PRAY'! It is comparable to a GP telling you to use traditional medicine to treat an ailment (unless you refer to countries like ours that believe in diabolical powers)as doctors strongly believe in the power of science and the fact that they have the answer to everything. He keeps writing the obvious shy of any new perspective or thought-provoking opinion. Dokita Mofin, take several seats and think deep.

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    1. Anonymous7 January 2015 at 06:09

      THANK YOU!!! Was thinking the exact same thing. That's the Nigerian in him.

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  129. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 21:41

    This Yoruba nigga shud pack one side Abeg... He should write a topic for us about why he's still single and sleeping around with all the single girls on Instagram ... Psychologist my foot

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  130. Anonymous6 January 2015 at 23:23

    Linda This is your bf admit it....stylishly tryna make him a celebrity (NOBADBELLE..)

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  131. Anonymous7 January 2015 at 00:44

    Fortunately, joro, as much as I love the topic of this article, unfortunately, you have missed out a lot of key points in regards to this MIL and dIL relationship.

    What about MiL's that are using jazz on their sons to be able to control who he dates/marries?

    Trust me...some women are pure gold to a man. Unfortunately, due to the jazzy MIL who sniffs that her wicked ways will be revealed through the gold wife...begins to look for every way to get rid of her

    How do you tell your man that his mum is a witch and out to destroy his life without him trying to get rid of you as the gold wife? In turn, she has caused a beautiful and successful marriage or relationship to go down the drain...and yes, some mothers are out to destroy their sons as they have used them as covenants in their devilish world. Some, it's just to flex the power and hold they have over their sons.

    It's either one of two things...either the guy loves you enough to fight for you if he's spiritually strong enough or he let's go because his mother has reigned enough curses on him forbidding the relationship, to last several generations to come.

    As the golden babe, you decide to stay God fearing and be praying along with the patience. Remember, the golden girl could turn into a witch too just to fight the MIL.

    Going the prayer route...you dream, you have visions, you're told left right and centre that this is your husband but his mum doesn't want to make life easy for you and the only time you'd enjoy each other is if she's dead. Tell me why you wouldn't be praying for her death every second of the day?

    Yes, the aspect is there that that means the female siblings don't get to have their mother at their weddings etc. but what will it profit every one to have an evil MIL alive?

    What about the MIL's you appeal to with gifts, patience, kindness and love and still chose to have a heart of stone?

    When the son eventually becomes a wreck due to his mothers actions, poor and lonely, what say you then, joro?

    Some would ask...shouldn't the guy know by now that his mother is the one "doing him?" Maybe not...depends on the intensity of the jazz which is probably being topped up regularly

    You also have the aspect of girls who use jazz to tie a guy down for whatever reason. In this instance, a mothers instinct or research will automatically turn on operation "chase out" by the MIL.

    Some mothers...the only reason why they are nasty is because the daughter was out of order ONCE and find it very hard to forgive but yet, claim to be a Christian around town rather than to correct in love.

    Some MIL's are not interested in their own marriages because they've turned their husbands into a mugu. So anything she says goes.

    There are many more aspects joro. This volume will need several sub articles to help the real ladies out there. A lot of men end up marrying a woman who has pretended to be quiet till she gets into the home. Not all can be like that.

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  132. JOYCHY7 January 2015 at 15:11

    How does his dressing his dressing counter his write-up. How else do u want him 2 dress biko???????

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  133. Anonymous8 January 2015 at 17:37

    Hmmm,honestly after going through the comments here I can't help but agree in totality with the Igbo adage which says dat"ihe di be oke di be ogini" which I can interpret to mean that we have similar cases of MIL/DIL wahala almost evrwhr, I could go on and on,but will rest my case for now.

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  134. Anonymous8 January 2015 at 17:39

    Hmmm,honestly after going through the comments here I can't help but agree in totality with the Igbo adage which says dat"ihe di be oke di be ogini" which I can interpret to mean that we have similar cases of MIL/DIL wahala almost evrwhr, I could go on and on,but will rest my case for now.

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