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Tuesday 20 January 2015

Angry mum explains why she invoiced 5yr old for missing birthday party

Found this story online and thought y'all should read and let's debate. Was the mum right to send the invoice to the 5 year old? But first read the story below, culled from UK Mirror
A heated row between two mums over Facebook has revealed how a five-year-old ended up being invoiced for missing a birthday party. Derek Nash and Tanya Walsh were stunned when they found a bill for £15.95 inside their son's school bag.
Alex Nash (pictured with his dad), aged five, decided to go on an outing with his grandparents instead of taking up an invite to attend the friend's birthday bash at a snow centre. But delivery driver Derek was horrified when Alex came home with an invoice in a brown envelope from party host Julie Lawrence in his school bag last Thursday.
He is insisting Julia (pictured left) and husband Simon Lawrence "won't be getting a penny" of the money they are asking for.

After the story made headlines, a Facebook conversation has emerged in which Ms Lawrence explains her actions.

It begins with Tanya asking about what happened - below are some extracts form the lengthy chat.
She wrote: "I was very shocked to see the invoice in Alex's school bag. I did not realise that you had to pay for each child, as you never mentioned anything about money when we spoke....

"I apologise for not letting you know, but I did not have a phone number or an e-mail for you to let you know the situation (I also didn't know your first name, or I would have looked you up).
"If I had known that I would have to pay if Alex did not go, then I would have paid you the money, no problem. I do not like fighting with people, and would prefer to settle this amicably."

Julie replied: "I didn't mention the money when we spoke because it was a child's party, it doesn't matter if you have to pay per person or for a group if people agree to going.

"I confirmed that with all parents on the Thursday before the party that they were going as I had to pay that day, and Derek told me Alex was looking forward to it and would see us there, to me that is confirmation.

"My phone number was on the invitation that was sent out to Alex...

"This is not the first time Alex has not turned up to a party that he has been invited to, either. The amicable way round this I believe would be to pay me the money and let a lesson be learnt, I hope this is agreeable ?"

But Alex's mum was not pleased with the response, explaining that she wasn't aware of another party he hadn't turned up to. She added that the school wasn't happy that the envelope had been placed in her son's bag.

Tanya wrote: "Alex was very excited to go to the party. I didn't know until the day about his nan and grandad, and he decided he would rather spend the day with them. Like I said before I didn't have your number to let you know.
"And exactly what lesson would I be learning. I am not a child, so please do not speak to me like I am one. So, to answer your question, unfortunately no. This is not agreeable."
Julie then goes on to explain what the invoice was for.

She wrote: "You are paying for 1 x child's party at the ski slope including snow tubing and tobogganing and lunch, to with you said Alex was attending on the Thursday."

Tanya then explains that  taking the matter to a small claims court would cost £60 just to start a claim, adding that she wasn't prepared to pay 'for something we didn't use'.

She wrote: "I don't know why you are out for our blood and slandering us....

"Maybe if you actually spoke to me rather than making your own mind up about what happened then none of this would be happening right now."

104 comments:

  1. Mothers should please answer this....I can't give my opinion because mothers have their different ways of handling their kids misdeeds
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    2. pls wht was d kid's misdeed? if u cnt afford a party for ur child, dnt throw one n expect people to bear d costs. this cannot happen in naija sha... namsense







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    3. My dear these oyinbo people na wah. Different society different culture. I beg i prefer our naija way joo

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  2. Unto werin nah?!Madam don't pAy shit!!#lindi change ur profile picshure#:)

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  3. This people have time. What rubbish!!! Try it in Naija first. Both invoice and Outvoice will be issued.

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  4. Hehehehe seems US Lindiway is always travelling to is now taking its toll on her.
    What's the business of a Nigerian with this long story?
    That's their cup of coffee,as if its going to help bring back our girls.

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    1. Shut ur self righteous, pompous mouth!

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  5. Smh...is it by force?

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  6. Na person wey get time deh sieve fufu..
    She should have just asked them nicely that she needs money, as per a beggar.

    If I find such nonsense in my five yr old's bag, I'll squeeze and toss it into the recycling bin..

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  7. Was surprised to see this issue on BBC too. Them get worry gaan o

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  8. Oyinbo are not busy sha,because a friend did not attend a birthday party,this is ridiculous...Guess it's just a clip in a new movie.

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  9. Oyinbo are not busy sha,because a friend did not attend a birthday party,this is ridiculous...Guess it's just a clip in a new movie.

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  10. Na ba force to attend party,that's why I like naija,dis can't happen here

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  11. Lol cnt stop laughing. Oyibo people self. She should hav knwn tht not everybody she invited would show up.

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  12. I read this and the management of the party venue stated the invoice wasn't from them and they only charge for those present ion the particular day.she will end up spending more going thru the courts so tough luck on her if it's worth it!

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  13. The decent thing is to decline or accept an invitation as we pay per child in the states too. I normally give parents a grace period to accept or decline. Would never charge a child for not showing up. Na by force?

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  14. Only in UK.. Linda u dont post my comments! God is watching u!
    This is one of the many reasons why i love naija..nobody charges u for silly things like another person's party.
    I remember when i was still a newbie in London nd my cousins invited me to their friend's bday ''party'' at an Italian pizza restaurant.
    After serving us yucky pizza (in my opinion) which i didn't eat sef. When d bill came they had d nerve to split it equally among everyone.
    My pizza wasnt even up to 20quid nd i no even chop am, some peeps ate 40quid worth of pizza! And i had to pay 35quid for crap!! Omo i vex dat day o.
    So if i wasnt a creature of habit that'll always take money with me to parties 'just in case' na so dis ppl for embarrass me?!

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  15. #StoryForThegods Make them two go siddon...me i still dey look for wetin i go chop tonight jooor

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  16. Nawa oooo. This world sef!!!

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  17. this story is two days old, do better blogger

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  18. stop dumbing down your audience

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  19. Well, the boy's parents should have sent out an rsvp if the boy wasn't going to attend, besides the bill would be taken care of by the boy's parents, not by the boy.

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  20. I understand that you don't understand that I understood what you understood. Haba! Festus Iyamu sort them out.

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  21. MtcheeW, they paid for the kid and he didn't turn up. Take it in good faith, he's a child. Besides, they didn't explain all this to the parents in the first place. Alex' parents don't owe them anything.

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  22. Da fuq? Ndi ocha and ndi ocha wahalas! Pay ko, pay ni! In another situation, to rsvp and not go,maybe...but a child's bday party? Mrs Julie chill! Moreover the terms were not explicitly stated.

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  23. Da fuq? Ndi ocha and ndi ocha wahalas! Pay ko, pay ni! In another situation, to rsvp and not go,maybe...but a child's bday party? Mrs Julie chill! Moreover the terms were not explicitly stated.

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  24. Nah wah fins are happening under heaven,I go with the option of alex's moda she shouldn't pay a dime.the baby has right 2go 2anywhere of his choice

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  25. There's nothing one won't hear! These people and their way of doing things shaa.... Oya mama bomboy pay the woman or go to court.

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  26. white & their mentality, baffles me most time



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  27. Na their business.

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  28. Na wa oh,oyibo and their wahala.

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  29. Diz is plain wickednex notin more notin less





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  30. Diz is plain wickednex notin more notin less





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  31. Diz is plain wickednex notin more notin less





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  32. Diz is plain wickednex notin more notin less





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  33. Oyibo...: how can u invite me to a party and want me to pay even if I turned up. There was no verbal or written agreements that a no show would mean the person would pay so it would be thrown out of court. Get a life. I ain't paying nada.

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  34. Abeg Alex mum should pay pls. Ubanagum

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  35. Mtcheww.. White People don't have work. What kind of story is this one? They should live in Nigeria for one week. They won't invoice anyone in their lives again

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  36. D woman went far joor. She could have easily contacted the boy's mom na. And besides its a children's party if he doesn't show up after invites then stop inviting him. Me, i won't pay.

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  38. Meaning????? All dis oyibo's boring story...*yawns*haaAaaaaaaaa!

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  39. See serious gobe o, biko nu to attend person bday na by force? Linda take note!

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  40. See serious gobe o, biko nu to attend person bday na by force? Linda take note!

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  41. See serious gobe o, biko nu to attend person bday na by force? Linda take note!

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  42. See serious gobe o, biko nu to attend person bday na by force? Linda take note!

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  43. Hmmm Oyibo wiith their wahala,how can u pay 4not attending a party?

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  44. So ridiculous...

    As long as d child wasn't present@d party, there is no morale ground to bill d child.

    If I were d parents I wil simply ignore d bill. U don't get charged for wht u did not bargain for or get involved in.

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  45. Hahaha, the woman no dey joke ooo

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  46. Hahaha, the woman no dey joke ooo

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  47. Sometimes the whites do crazy stuFfs...first of all its a kid's birthday,not like the papparazi were all agog with it. @least the kid didn't relunctantly stay @home,he subsituted the day with his grand-parents,which I think was a better outing...oyibos just love to make a big deal out of nothing..abi na d boy be the M.C or D.J???..#lolz#

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  48. She should pay! Some parents are so badly behaved and trust me, that kid would have rather gone to the party! Selfish parents!

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  49. Hia! These folks got plenty time on their clock. Don't know wat to make out of this story.

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  50. Dis one I go pack my full family dey cum ur pari oooooo

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  51. 5yr old boy shld pay fine for not attending friends' birthday party? o di kwa egwu

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  52. The invited family was really rude and stupid. On the day she was going to pay, she called to confirm and hubby said they'd be there. When they changed their mind, why didn't they call her so she could invite someone else.
    I'm sure the woman is pissed not because they didn't show, but because they didn't care enough to apologise for the no show.
    You claimed you didn't know how to contact her, but you contacted her through facebook and hubby even went to their house when money talks became involved. Selfish people.

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  53. looooool, She should come and host the party in Nigeria, she would see people that were not invited.

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    1. As in ehn, she sef go tire and next time she'll do strictly by invitation and even be happy when some don't show up

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  54. This oyibo people sef, in here we do pay before service




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  55. if i were Alex mom ,i won't pay a dime .this is absurd

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  56. Oyibo ni dey joke with money... hehe

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  57. Hmmm
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  58. Hmmm
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  59. They should check that woman's brain bfr is too late cos she is goin mad.... Wat nonsense

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  60. I never knew its a most to honor an invite to a party lol, I like the boy he rather spend time with his grand parents than attending a party! she will not get any money from them mteww!!!

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  61. I never knew its a most to honor an invite to a party lol, I like the boy he rather spend time with his grand parents than attending a party! she will not get any money from them mteww!!!

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  62. Na by force to attend person party again?dis whites re crazy






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  63. I kind of get where the woman is coming from.

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  64. Na craze dey worry am. Dat woman should not pay her a dime!

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  65. Na craze dey worry am. Dat woman should not pay her a dime!

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  66. Lolz! Dis can only happen in their country, Ʊ dare not try such in naija, pay 4 a party, not even school party, na by force, rubbish...

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  67. OYIBO PEOPLE WITH THEIR WAHALA

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  68. This white people can shaa be funny.U guys need to come to naija!Haba!pay for missing a bday party?abegi,unto d next one.

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  69. Outrageous! Utterly ridiculous

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  70. Well, I think its logic for Alex's parents to refund for the missed party becos it was confirmed the child would be attending the party. Many may criticize but don't forget we don't have the same culture and believe.

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  71. This is so laughable......hahahhaha. Cannot happen in Naija...

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  72. chenybaby2001@yahoo.com21 January 2015 at 08:31

    Linda odika ara na agba dis woman.ah ah!how can u obtain people like this?

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  73. Honestly, I don't understand what thia is about
    Heading says "Angry mum invoiced 5yr old child"
    Story says Someone else who isn't the child's mum invoiced the boy for missing a birthday party
    If am right tho
    But paying for missing a birthday party? Is that how it's done? Looks ridiculous

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  74. E no fit happen for Naija, period!

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  75. I don't even get it, but it's none of my business. It's white people problem!

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  76. White people and dia problem not applicable 2 blacks tho! #oneandonlynwa@gmail.com#

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  77. Nah by force d child didn't cum who send u to pay for am dats her loss nah

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  78. I think the Julia woman is in debt and she needs some money to take care of that.

    Transfer of aggression I'd call it.

    It cannot happen in naija sha.

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  79. Not as if their parties are fun sef. Thank God I ran away from that Jand sha.

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  80. Nigerians forever ignorant, cant u people read? this is not just about attending a party....it was held at resort and u pay per child....if the woman paid for their child to attend cos they assured her he would then it s only fair they pay back.....i believe her when she said this is not the first time....abroad is not naija...u dont allow someone waste money then just cancell like that....u tell themin advance you cant make it....

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