"Don't wait for any man to marry you if you haven't had a child. Go and have your baby. I chose my child's father. When I met him, after a few months I said yes, this is the one that would give me what I need. If anything happens to me, I know that my child would not suffer. This one na better person".
Asked if her
baby daddy is still with her, Elvina said "He is not with me anymore. We have been separated for
four years now".
Asked why he left, she laughed and said "He is a man". Elvina said she's never really been interested in marriage and doubts she will ever be. Who agrees with her?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
No hmmm...let's get real. if husband no come and u are approaching menopause, u no go born? Especially if u want to have kids without adopting
DeleteLike seriously, she chose d father of her child? I feel so terribly for d man because he was just a sperm donor...
DeleteWrong advice . Dont follow. God will locate your missing ribs.
DeleteGod will locate your ribs na so I take wait reach today !! Abeg
DeleteI totally agree with her. I don't think it's in everyone's destiny to get married. But having children is so important. You can't fully comprehend this unless you are a parent.
DeleteGrowing old without a man or a child is as good as a life sentence.
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Abegi truth no talk say make dem no talk am.......... she is so right even those of us that are married how many of us are enjoying it huh? constant heartache, headache all in 1 if i had known my dear na weti she talk mi 4 do..........
DeleteOnye na way ya
ReplyDeleteDat her leg is a no no 4 me.#legoflife
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ReplyDeleteWrong advice.
Do not follow
She spoke the bitter truth. She didnt say dont marry. She is saying dont let time pass you by and deny yourself the joy of being a mother by waiting for a man to marry you.
DeleteIs that an acess to heaven! Do not be deceived!
Deletesorry, cant help you here. My sister is soo against having kids without getting married first but a part of me just feel why should unmarried women not have the joy of motherhood if that's what they really want.
ReplyDeleteI do aagree wif her 100 percent...wen u gt to a certain age omo na to. jes consider aving children.
DeleteI agreen with her. Period! Marriage is not for eveveryone. So Linda go and get pregnat.
ReplyDeleteIf you like swallow my comment.
Wrong advice,wrong councel.. This kind of advice ends up creating my problems in our society,more marital problems, more emotionally strainned children plus more broken homes. My 10kobo opinion. #streetwise#
DeleteI agree with her jor. If i am 35 n not married, I will go ahead and have my kids
ReplyDeleteSad mentality. Na your type dey drag boys with younger girls. Oloshi cougar in the making.
DeleteNext pls
ReplyDeleteLinda u Don hear am abi
ReplyDeleteThings have turned upside down! #SeunLondon
ReplyDeleteLmfao
DeleteIn our society, marriage makes u a woman. For us women, we r made 2 feel inadequate if we r a particular age and still single.
ReplyDeleteOn dis blog 4 instance, whn ders a story of some of our unmarried actresses, some uninformed pple are quick to say "go and marry".
Be complete first and hope for d best. U cld be married and frustrated or single and happy
Everyone just dey give relationship advice..it is well!
ReplyDeleteNo wonder single parenting is on d rise
ReplyDeletestory not clear.
ReplyDeleteIf you are disgraced, you can defend yourself. But when you disgraced yourself, no man on earth will defend you. God help you Madam.
ReplyDeleteYea she has a point tho.bt Godz tym z d best..lyk ibinabo z a testimony naw.
ReplyDeleteAnd did Ibinabo wait for marriage before she had her four kids for four different men?
DeleteShe is entitled to her own opinion, if it is ok by u adopt it, if not drop it. LOBATAN
ReplyDeleteShe should Consider losing some weight though. From the leg I'm seeing there, kai!
ReplyDeleteNo man can marry her and i guess she is pompous
DeleteShe chose her 'child's father' not 'father's child' Linda! You are not thorough anymore, hire me na
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, what do I know??
ReplyDeletePlease click on my name for Fashion/Fitness/Beauty tips
Abeg na only her leg be that?
ReplyDeleteyeah i agree with her ,go have a baby you can take care of,or you offer free bride
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Her opinion though and i dont agree with her...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
She has a point.
ReplyDeletetotally agree with her
ReplyDeleteright advice jare,i totally agree
ReplyDeleteYes I agree with her , when u reach to a certain age u know that husband is no longer coming , then look for a way to make babies cus u can't lose two side
ReplyDeleteI agree! Marriage is over-rated. Why would i want to be sleeping & waking up to see the same person every goddamn day? like bitch,come and be going abeg..Gimme some space..
ReplyDeleteThe words of an unfortunate woman
ReplyDeleteBecause she is not married makes her unfortunate? Your head is in your ass thats why you are talking shit.
DeleteAnon 4.48, u are d most unfortunate person here. U are a damn idiot if u believe that a man completes a woman. I am in d process of doing what she said and I am so so happy with my decision. For ur information, men plenty around me but not all man be man.
DeletePlease ladies don't mind get married and v kids
ReplyDeleteDumbass , did she tell you not to get married?
DeleteIf you dey supply husbands, abeg send one my way. Abi dem dey pick dem from road?
DeleteSHE is just a failure who cant move on but leave the life... its highly not moral and not in our culture... A brat has no insight for her generation
ReplyDeleteWhere is the so called husband now? Am sure the intelligent ones will take precautions. Nott everyone is lucky. It easy for her cause their is money.
ReplyDelete....what do you expect divorcees to say??? i watched the program too and i think its a way women with broken marriages seek to produce more women with broken marriages.....
ReplyDeleteExactly! I totally agree wit u
Delete@ Kayo
sh is a wayward woman that think money can do it all...ask her if she nor they enjoy sex or she nor they hide fork...come out to deceive people.....Dafemoritz.blogspoot.com jare
ReplyDeleteSelfish advice. Guess she never thought of the effect on children. Does she know what they will go thru. Abeg! the old ways are the best ways. Don't start what u can finish.
ReplyDeleteso if in 38 years of your life you haven't found the right man and you know you only have 2 - 5yrs left, do you want to tell me you'd rather give up on having kids forever?
ReplyDeleteIts not about her being unfortunate we all know there are more men than women in this worls, it is either her way or you become second wife. I'd rather chose the former, the child will grow up better with me in a single parent home than in a polygamous home where i have no control of the peace and people the kid will be exposed to
2 - 5 years left on earth? Lol. Nigerian women have been putting an expiry date on their womb for a lifetime.
DeleteI agree with her totally,a woman shld especially if the lady really wants a child otherwise u won't need to bother,u may wait to be married before having a child then enter menopause and won't be able to have child when you eveentually get married.our soceity frowns at single motherhood but who cares, the most important thing is your happiness and fulfillment.
ReplyDeleteI agree with her, my tot since day one.
ReplyDeleteI BELIEVE SHE WAS ADVISING CERTAIN WOMEN WHO FIND THEMSELVES IN AN ADVANCED AGE BRACKET. NOT ALL WOMEN.
ReplyDeleteWEIGHED ALONG MORAL OR RELIGIOUS LINES HER ADVICE FALLS SHORT OF THE STANDARD IN A SOCIETY LIKE OURS.
IF YOU HAVE A CHILD NOT BEING MARRIED DOES NOT MAKE THE CHILD LESS A HUMAN BEING. THE MOTHER ONLY FALLS SHORT OF ACCEPTABLE STANDARD.
What's wrong with her leg? Leave her leg jare.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for all these women.. May God help us with all these people
ReplyDeleteThis lady is not interested in marriage. I watched part of the programme. If u can make out time to work hard in other areas and u cannot work hard to keep your marriage, then you are in trouble. I do not buy such idea. Your marriage comes b4 other things and if you think that working hard to keep your marriage does not worth it, then marriage is not for you. Any lady who wants to get married and raise responsible children should not take her advise seriously. The way I see that lady, she can NEVER be under any man. Let her keep it to herself. Everybody is not like her. I wonder how somebody can advice another to have children out of wedlock, tufiakwa. That's my take.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you !!!
DeleteShhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteFaceoflib
does not work with aLL
ReplyDeleteDOES NOT WORK WITH ALL
ReplyDeleteLife is a choice and definitely one cant make a choice what would hurt. so i guess shes done the best thing she could. our society is so full of hypocrites, those same people asking you to wait for marriage before making babies would be the same to castigate when u marry late n cant make babies...
ReplyDeletesee her leg like yam...nonsense woman
ReplyDeleteHer opinion though and I sincerely don't agree with her, this is the type of advice you get when you seek one from a daughter of a billionaire! Nonsense
ReplyDeletefrustration can make u say dumb shit on television,,,
ReplyDeleteLife is a choice and definitely one cant make a choice what would hurt. so i guess shes done the best thing she could. our society is so full of hypocrites, those same people asking you to wait for marriage before making babies would be the same to castigate when u marry late n cant make babies...
ReplyDeletesound like a loose to me. the problem most girls have today is being materialistic, not ready to be submissive and they want to be independent. A woman that ditches these characters and is ready, will certainly get her man. If it doesn't work with one guy,you won't get to the third guy before you are taken. Bad girls and ugly girls get taken fast,have you ever wondered why? Check how they play their cards.
ReplyDeletei'll simply put...THE DEVIL IS A LIAR>
ReplyDeleteI agree, beta nt loosing both. Atleast, avin a child dats from u nd calls u mum is a consolation
ReplyDeleteStory for the gods
ReplyDeleteVery correct, keep waiting until you menopause
ReplyDeleteHow selfish...about the children having a father figure
ReplyDeleteStill shocking with that advice. "Just A pen in the hand of the creator
ReplyDeleteI think she should work harder, she might eventually gets the man.
ReplyDeleteCan't you read, she is not interested in getting Married. Gbam
Deleteshe is only conpensating herself because she had no one to marry her
ReplyDeleteTotally totally agree
ReplyDeleteThe saying dat men are polygamous in nature makes me hate marriage everyday n jz wanna av kids
ReplyDeleteThe lady is simply a fool
ReplyDeleteI DO. I Don't feel the need to have a man. but i've always longed for kids. personal opinion.
ReplyDeleteLinda in few weeks u will enter your 35years and that's 5 yrs to 40 no go find man marry dey listen to Elvina Ibru
ReplyDeleteBut srzly, y r u dense like dis? Is it natural or u acquired it over time? How does dis story and linda's life relate na! Pls stick to ur dense life abeg!
DeleteI agree
ReplyDeleteSorry is her Case.. Looking for wanna be like..
ReplyDeleteEediot! Go have a baby when you don't have a job. You will no that hunger doesn't have a tribal mark
ReplyDeleteI agree with her
ReplyDeleteShe be rich man pickin make you no follow as money dey cover her nyash.
ReplyDeleteStupid advice, she is just trying to console herself,who says you can't marry at 40 why advice people to go into adultery and fornication, if you are having problem with that aspect of your life then fix yourself or adopt,remember the bible makes us to understand that one must marry Isiah 4vs1
ReplyDeleteArthur speak on ur self don't try to insult linda. Dat lady said her mind ,u hv to say urs simple. I thnk God am married and blessd wit kids. I m not against anyone who wnt to hv a kid if hus didn't knock on her way. As for me I can do it if I am almost at my late 30's, d reason is dat I lov children.
ReplyDeleteAll the Ibru Sisters are not married from Elvina,Gloria,Obukome the truth of the matter they are used to freedom and plenty money to spend they can not live under any Man rule .they want to be in control party like its 1999,get drunk and scream when they get home in wie hours of the night for the cook to prepare food for them,they can not cook.
ReplyDeleteThey take men home the way Guys take Babe home and compare notes in the morning about the performance of the men they brought home.Honestly for this set of Ibru babes Marriage is not in their dictionary - Elvina Chang xxxx
You go girl!!!!You do not need a man in your life to be whole, seperate and unique...Nigerians have just got that fucking mentality of getting married at a certain age, like they would live with you after marriage. No fucking man deserves me. I am a strong badass woman. Louisa says so
ReplyDeleteTo me except u dnt kw d God u serve, every lady born on dis earth she is born wit her own husband and unless u dnt kw hw to approch ur God,been Menopause wen God say is ur time for him to settel u no man under dis earth cn stop him .so dnt stop trusting God dere's Nottin to big for him to do
ReplyDeleteThe suggestion Elvina raised is selfish. It is taken by the woman and her choices with no regard to the child and its choice. Adoption however may be a better way to have companionship and yet not be the origin of social challenges. Just my thought.
ReplyDeletehonestly i buy her idea,i hv bn very unlucky wt men nd each tym it ends wt tears,am 38 yrs nw,i need kids,i'm goin 4 dem b4 i reach menopause.
ReplyDeleteSilly advice!!! #onelovefromSnow#
ReplyDeletebomb don blow for this one head.
ReplyDeletehe is a man? na true
from the way you spoke obviously shows that u are a nagging controlling & difficult freak.
devil pikin
bomb don blow for this one head.
ReplyDeletehe is a man? na true
from the way you spoke obviously shows that u are a nagging controlling & difficult freak.
devil pikin
Been thinking of this lately, but how can a virgin who has kept herself for 30 yrs been praying and waiting for a husband and the husband has not come now go out and sleep with anybody to get pregnant. This is the situation I find myself. I love children and I want mine..
ReplyDeleteMY DEAR, BEING A VIRGIN ALONE IS A PASSPORT TO A DECENT HOME.KEEP PRAYING WHILE EXPOSING YOURSELF TO DECENT PLACES, UR GOD GIVEN HUSBAND WILL COME.
DeleteIts sad the thought perception of our women nowadays.
ReplyDeleteWell, i agree with her, children are very important. I love children.
ReplyDeletewhy are u people mentionibg linda? shez happy where shr is,husband will come
ReplyDeleteShe chose her father's child???
ReplyDeleteAdvice ngwanu ladies grab ur copy nooooooow
ReplyDeleteFirst Elvina has to know that this is not God's standard. Sex outside marriage is wrong. Deliberate sin is totally wrong. Our bodies r the temple of the Holy Spirit. Children that will look after u in old age? How many of us can guarantee tomorrow. God's time table is different from ours. A certain lady got married to a church G.O at 65. For the matured singles, hold on to God. He will fulfill his word concerning u
ReplyDeleteFirst Elvina has to know that this is not God's standard. Sex outside marriage is wrong. Deliberate sin is totally wrong. Our bodies r the temple of the Holy Spirit. Children that will look after u in old age? How many of us can guarantee tomorrow. God's time table is different from ours. A certain lady got married to a church G.O at 65. For the matured singles, hold on to God. He will fulfill his word concerning u
ReplyDeletei agree with her goog suggessions
ReplyDeleteComing from a broken home myself, I can only add that if a woman is considering becoming a single mum due to age,she had better be careful who tha baby daddy is. A child needs a father figure in his/her life and it's not a good idea to pick what we Igbos call "Efulefu" (useless human being) as a baby daddy who won't bother being in the child's life,just because of the desperation of wanting a child. Another thing women should ask themselves is why are they leaving it too late to settle down? After all,it's not like there's any shortage of eligible bachelors in Nigeria. But if a woman has unrealistic expectations in life or is waiting for 'prince charming' while times flies by her then gets up one day in realisation that her biological clock is running down fast,a child shouldn't be her answer to bad life choices. In more developed societies,women are asking men out on dates,some even popping the question first. To each their own
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just easy for her because the money is there not considering that a lot of ladies out there don't have. it is not easy at all for a single parent even when there's money talk of when there's no money.
ReplyDeleteEveryone know how promiscuous the Ibru girls are especially those 3 fat telly tubbies what sort of sick advice is this? This is TERRIBLE advice for a defeated soul
ReplyDeleteSOME PEOPLE SAY GO AND MARRY AS IF THERE IS A GOOD MAN STANDING FEW METERS AWAY ASKING TO MARRY A WOMAN AND SHE IS REFUSING, YOU PEOPLE DON'T JUST GET IT.
ReplyDeleteNIGERIAN MEN ARE THE MOST IMMATURE SPECIES ON EARTH, SPIRITUALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND OTHER WISE.
AM A WOMAN AND NOT MARRIED, BOY AM I HAPPY,I COME FROM A POLYGAMOUS BACKGROUND AND GUYS I WELL TELL YOU I GREW UP IN A REALLY DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME, WHEN I MEAN DYSFUNCTIONAL VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL, I WAS EMOTIONALLY VERY UNHAPPY DEPRESSED FOR A VERY LONG TIME GROWING UP IN A HOME WHERE MY FATHER WENT AND GOT ANOTHER WOMAN BEHIND MY MOTHER'S BACK, HE AND HIS FAMILY STARTED EMOTIONALLY ABUSING MY MOTHER, IT WAS HELL, WHILE GROWING UP I HAD ABOUT TWO SERIOUS SUITORS THEN, ONE WAS NOT FULLY EDUCATED HE WAS VERBALLY ABUSIVE AND HAD NO RESPECT FOR THE FACT I WANTED TO COMPLETE MY EDUCATION, HE ALWAYS ACCUSED ME OF SLEEPING AROUND IF I REFUSED TO FOLLOW HIS DRIVER TO HIS HOUSE WHILE IN THE MIDDLE OF EXAMS IN SCHOOL, THE SECOND ONE WELL EDUCATED ALWAYS INSULTED ME ANY WHERE, ANY PLACE, HOME WAS HELL THE SO CALLED SUITORS WHERE EQUALLY ABUSIVE, AT A TIME I JUST CONCLUDED THAT I NEEDED MY SANITY AND TURNED TWO OF THEM DOWN.
SO I CHOSE NOT TO MARRY THESE TWO MEN, SOME OTHER ONES I HAVE COME ACROSS WHO ARE NOT SERIOUS AT ALL, I MEAN SINGLE MEN THEY MEET ME TODAY AND AFTER TALKING ABOUT TWO DAYS ON THE PHONE THEY START DEMANDING SEX AND MONEY WHEN I SIMPLY TELL THEM NICELY THAT I JUST MET THEM AND WHERE DOES THE QUESTION OF SEX AND GIVING THEM MONEY COME IN SO SUDDENLY. THEY BECOME AGGRESSIVE AND SOMETIME HOSTILE I QUICKLY BACK OUT, SOME START DELUGING ME WITH INAPPROPRIATE SMS AND CALLS. ONE CAME TO MY HOUSE AND STARTED MAN HANDLING ME INSISTING THAT I FOLLOW HIM TO HIS HOUSE AND HAVE SEX, WHEN THE PHYSICAL ROUGH HANDLING GOT TOO MUCH I WENT TO BRING THE POLICE.
SOME OF THEM I MET IN CHURCH SOME IN MY OFFICE. SO FOR THOSE OF YOU IMMATURE MEN THAT SAY GO AND MARRY, YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN, SO YOU DON'T KNOW THAT ALL OF YOU HAVE VERY POOR ATTITUDE TOWARDS WOMEN AND TREAT US WITH SUCH DISREGARD.
SO I SIMPLY AGREE WITH ELVINA TO EACH HIS OWN. IF A WOMAN WANTS TO MARRY FINE IF NOT FINE.
I totally agree with her.
ReplyDeleteSEE LETS FACE REALITY IT IS A TWO WAY TRAIN
ReplyDeleteWHAT HAS HAPPENED TO OUR VALUES OF SETTLING DOWN AND GETTING MARRIED, IF YOU PRESENT YOURSELF WELL ENOUGH AND HOLD ON TO GOD YOUR MARITAL PARTNER WILL DEFINITELY COME
NOW ALSO WE ARE TALKING ABOUT HAVING KIDS I AGREE IF YOU ADOPT THAN JUST HAVING THE KID WITH A MAN YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO
PLEASE LETS NOT FORGET WHAT IS REAL AND JUST FOLLOW THE TREND
AND ALSO PEOPLE SHOULD SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES SHE IS LUCKY THE MAN IS TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS AND HER
WHAT IF HE WAS POOR OR HAD A FAMILY HE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF
WE MAY NOT ALL BE LUCKY TO GET A MAN THAT CAN FATHER THE KIDS THAT REALLY CARE SO BE WISE.
HMMMMN...I'm 33. I told myself recently, that if by 35 I'm not married I'm gonna have a child. BUT NO! Not her way. I'm gonna adopt a beautiful child. And i kno I'm gonna be very happy. And when the right man comes along, this kid, my first child, will be the eldest sibling of my other children. He or she is going to be my biological first child, will start to bear my husband's name once i marry him. Of cos, my husband is going to be intelligent, mature and exposed enof to accept the child, exactly the same way. That's why he's my husband. That's why i'm not married yet. He's the reason i was waiting.
ReplyDeleteBecause she get money no mean say she get the right to give advise. she thinks she can just open her mouth. onisokuso!
ReplyDeleteBecause she get money no mean say she get the right to give advise. she thinks she can just open her mouth. onisokuso!
ReplyDeleteEasier said than done. All this talk but deep inside her is she really happy saying those things. We are in a world where many people come on air and say their opinion as if it is the truth, misleading others in the wrong path and choice they made. But sincerely... very lonely and side inside. That is why we have so many anomaly today... what will a child raised outside the guide of a father and mother become... think of it! She could not stay under a man or he cannot stand her independence? Don't bring a child into the world...
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