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Sunday, 9 November 2014

Dear LIB readers: He isn't fine but can I manage him?

From a female LIB reader
One of the things I look out for  when I consider when I am about to enter into any relationship is that the guy must be drop dead gorgeous because I love fine boys and I want to be able to date him and love him enough not to ever consider another man as fine. However I have not dated anyone in the last three years because the ones that have been coming my way are not that fine.
Anyway, there is this guy who my Pastor just introduced me to as she is worried about my single status being that I am old enough to be in my husband's house. The guy she introduced me to is tall, a Pilot, very Godly but the only thing is that he is not fine.
He says he wants to get serious with me and looks forward to us getting married but when I look at him, I don't want to look again because he isn't handsome. My girlfriends are saying I should just manage him and that I would develop the love for him as time goes by. The question is, would I ever be able to love him and can a woman really manage a man who isn't up to her own personal standard?

294 comments:

  1. Pls don't marry him send me his contact and look for finer one

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  2. By the time you are 40, your body go tell you

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  3. N let d insults start rolling in,i trust u LIBers always quick 2 insult.

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  4. why do I av a feeling dat dis is linda?? anyway 2 d real deal,i don't tink dia is anitin like 'managing a man' we r talkin abt marriage here;a lifetime tingy..if he's not up to ur personal standard den loving him wil be difficult,plus evritin can be managed,NOT LOOKS..d person u wil live ur entire life wit?sleep nd wake up wit? see everyday? my dear tink twice!

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  5. GO TO GOD IN PRAYER. DON'T MIND WHAT UR SO CALL FRNDS ARE SAYING. PRAYER IS THE ANSWER

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  6. pls I need comments cos I'm in d same dilemma

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  7. That's how aunt CARO reach 60 looking for fine boys... is ur father a fine man or is he is pilot?.. pray u grow old and single

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  8. Linda pls his he d 1 der ?if dt is d person dnt look again mbok .....jeeez dt dude is very ugly

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  9. That's why you are still single ode menopause is knocking on your door I pity your black ass, what else do you want he is Godly, you shouldn't be considering this at all good luck with your choice

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  10. My dear, if u continue 2 select men... u may end up being single 4 d rest of ya life.

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  11. Lmao, Linda dis picture is crazy funny. Ure wicked oo

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  12. This is a very funny story oo, if he wasn't a pilot and was a hustling man, would you ask ni??

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  13. Ahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaahahahahahaahahahahah....choi
    Nne we hav d same problem,u berra manage him oh...dese fine Bois ain't loyal,n ugly gals attract dm d most.
    Ahahahahahahahahah

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  14. If u kw babe's prayer points and. How babe's dey find hubby u for no even send d is message to Linda ikeji smbody's prayer point Na him u dey publish so u no kw # prayer god pls giv me my own romeo even if e fine or e wow I go manage am like Dat. Lol

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  15. U can wait 4 d next 3yrs for a handsome dude

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  16. my dear pray to God #prayforahandsomehusband

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  17. my dear pray to God #prayforahandsomehusband

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  18. Hehehehehe....No Comment



    Linda Please post my comment

    call_me_zlatan@yahoo.com

    #ZLATAN D TITAN

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  19. No o, u can't love him @all...err, but I think when u r abt 54yrs, dt shld be a perfect time for u to love him,okay. *smh

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  20. My dear, if u continue 2 select men... u may end up being single 4 d rest of ya life.

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  21. Oshi dey worry u n u'll die single while looking for fine boy. Wey all d fines ones u've dated?

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  22. Mumu na hin u be...when the money start to dey roll in for u, u go com LIB com tell us say your "not fine husband" give you money? Manage am as ur friends yan na, make una join manage d money.

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  23. If i be you i go kuku manage am ooo..cos husband scarce

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  24. If i be you i go kuku manage am ooo..cos husband scarce

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  25. Maybe by the time u get to 42 you will find handsome man.
    If he's good looking(attractive), you're good to go.

    BORN TO SHINE!!!

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  26. Its nt all abt d looks my dear....All u need is to ask God for directions..

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  27. If you think handsomeness is all you wnt in a man then u are making a huge mistake. There are so many handsome men that are purposeless and do not have the slightest clue of how to handle a relationship but nevertheless less to every rule there are exceptions but don't date or marry a guy out of pity or solely on love cus there are time love is not just enough( we don't run a fairly world). Just be convinced and not confused and most of all seek help from God

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  28. Haven't u seen basketmouth nd his wife. Looks don't last. Love doesn't keep a relationship in d long run. Trust me personality matters most. U can help style him to look better. Fine boys r not d best

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  29. If you think handsomeness is all you wnt in a man then u are making a huge mistake. There are so many handsome men that are purposeless and do not have the slightest clue of how to handle a relationship but nevertheless less to every rule there are exceptions but don't date or marry a guy out of pity or solely on love cus there are time love is not just enough( we don't run a fairly world). Just be convinced and not confused and most of all seek help from God

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  30. If you think handsomeness is all you wnt in a man then u are making a huge mistake. There are so many handsome men that are purposeless and do not have the slightest clue of how to handle a relationship but nevertheless less to every rule there are exceptions but don't date or marry a guy out of pity or solely on love cus there are time love is not just enough( we don't run a fairly world). Just be convinced and not confused and most of all seek help from God

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  31. Idiot! Keep managing. We men don't manage ugly chicks. The same thing I tell my sisters, never settle below their standards, bcos men wouldn't.
    Think about it, how many men will settle for the following?
    1. Ugly girl
    2. Uneducated (only when he is same_
    3. Sick girl
    4. A girl with a child
    5. A girl not independent( except weak men)

    Girls be wise! The fact your over 30, does not mean you will settle for anything!
    Only a strong man will tell you the truth.

    Men don't marry anyhow chicks o!

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  32. If you think handsomeness is all you wnt in a man then u are making a huge mistake. There are so many handsome men that are purposeless and do not have the slightest clue of how to handle a relationship but nevertheless less to every rule there are exceptions but don't date or marry a guy out of pity or solely on love cus there are time love is not just enough( we don't run a fairly world). Just be convinced and not confused and most of all seek help from God

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  33. Since ur old enough, u have to manage him...u love fine guys true but ask ur sef is it the will of God for u to marry one ...u have to manage him beg

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  34. Since ur old enough, u have to manage him...u love fine guys true but ask ur sef is it the will of God for u to marry one ...u have to manage him beg

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  35. Since ur old enough, u have to manage him...u love fine guys true but ask ur sef is it the will of God for u to marry one ...u have to manage him beg

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  36. I pity you!dey there they look for fine boy and let dis golden oppurtunity pass you by because of you stupid fantacy,who knows this guy might be d last suitor u will have.

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  37. If looks mean so much to you then don't marry him. But if you ask me, what if you marry a fine guy and he ends up with bad disfigured face... somethings are simply more important than others.

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  38. JAY Z AND BEYONCE IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE. LOVE DOESN'T HAVE ANY BAREER. GO FOR IT MY DEAR.

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  39. There is nothing like manage him, can you manage a car with faulty brakes?

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  40. JAY Z AND BEYONCE IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE. LOVE COMES WITH NO BARRIERS. Give him a chance my dear.

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  41. Miss poster your stupidity no be for here..keep waiting for fine man and u'l reach menopause....smh

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  42. i can't blv this is coming from an adult...You sound like a child in high school and so fuckung shallow for your age bracket! RUBBISH!!!

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  43. Marry him, he is ok. He looks like snoop doggy. Beauty is not everything. Some are married to most handsome and yet no joy. Na handsome I go chop? Abeg make all handsome men pack one side jare.

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  44. God fearing is one of the most important quality a spouse should possess.

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  45. Lmao @manage him... You really are naive at your age and stage... Keep waiting for Mr fine boi and I'm sure years of Saturdays would pass by and u wld remain the way you are. Get real!! Smh

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  46. Dear, sorry u cant manage. Look elsewhere

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  47. Let's keep it simple! " look before u leap" it will bad for u to cheat in ur marriage. But mind u, marriage is beyond looks ooo!

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  48. Listened to a message about this the other day. There should be physical attraction at least for it to work.

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  49. Can someone define menopause for me again?

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  50. That dude up is to be used in Avatar movie. Well..you will grow grey

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  51. If you appreciate beauty so much then you have to make up your mind if you truly want to marry him.There are so many challenges in marriage, so you don't want add fornicating with handsome men to it. Be wise and also pray about it.

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  52. Oboy if him look like this mamba way I dey see so na to just run be that na haha I no fit laugh

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  53. My dear... u have no standards l;u r a big fool to think handsomeness is a major standard... it shows how shallow u are... Dey there dey find fine boy; u never old reach. mumu woman feeling young.

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  54. Yes u can
    www.ameriestyle.blogspot.com

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  55. you dey wait for fine boy abi?
    you be idiot!! you go grow white hair just dey there dey wait for fine boy
    MUGU LIKE YOU

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  56. TAKE IT FROM A GIRL WHO MADE THE MISTAKE YOU ARE ABOUT TO MAKE, DON'T DO IT.

    I'M LITERALLY SCREAMING! NO MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE. I'VE BEEN IN TORTURE FOR THREE YEARS AND WAITING FOR MY MIRACLE BREAK THROUGH ABI BREAK OUT.

    BUT IF YOU DECIDE TO MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE'S A NICE GUY, DATE HIM. YOU HEAR ME, DATE HIM FOR AT LEAST ONE YEAR. KNOW HIM THOROUGHLY, HIS FAMILY, HIS PERSONALITY ETC.

    IF YOUR HEART IS AT PEACE, THEN MARRY HIM, IF NOT, ABEG WAKA PASS.

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  57. Like srsly? Ur looking out for fine in a man? Issorai! God will gv u a fine man bt pray nothing happens to him in future or probably wen he strts shrinking nd d beauty disappears u'll stl be in dt marriage. So long as is fine ur looking for in a man u nor gt wahala be dt. Jst wait e go cum u hear??

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  58. give it another 6-7 years, you'll find a fine boy.. dont worry

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  59. Sipping on mohito waiting for the comments..may it rain!!!!!hehehehehhehe ..can't wait!!!!!

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  60. No comment...as in no reply for this post.

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  61. Sweet heart if you can't stand him now, you won't even love or respect him. At the end of the day, you will be having extra marital affair which your so called friend will mock you for. Marry who you are proud of.

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  62. Hold up! Hold up! Hold up! Since when has good looks been a base for Love? Its obvious that u sincerely wouldnt love a fine guy too if one comes across your way, all u gonna do is just fall for the pretty face n goodlooks.
    But come to think of it, is Jay Z fine? Or is Kanye Fine? But checkout Kim n Bey.. Am sure u r not half as fine as either of them..
    Reorientate yourself babe.. U need wisdom.

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  63. Dumb broad! Next question please

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  64. My dear don't Manaqe him oo.. Dnt listen to anyone dat says u should... What u should do now is to qive me his phone number or better still tell him to add me on fb "Ann Ibhade Marz" ... Make i help u access am... Wait for ur choice o. Evn if it takes 50yrs to find d mr fyn boi.. U qo old for house

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  65. you better accept him oo,money is the handsomeness of a man..i wonder if you will eat hansom..btw,this picture makes me laugh loud!


    #GodblessNigeria

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  66. Please leave the poor guy the hell alone! Manage another woman's son??!!!! You are a fool! Are you God that created him? GO AWAY! He will find a girl that will appreciate him. MUMU! Put yourself in his mum's place ANUOFIA!!!

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  67. linda u are not nice at all, what sort of picture is this? d guy cant be this bad

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  68. Lady you are a BIG FOOL,what do u mean by ugly?are u drop dead gorgeous lady?if bey can marry jayz,who are you????you prefer looks more than your happiness in a relationship not minding your advancement in age,I tink you are possess you shuld go for prayers.linda d story sounds fake.haba!!!

    Vick_chizy

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  69. My dear is not abt d luk but d personalty dat Matters. my own resolution b4 I got married is dat: my husband mustnot b handsome but he must b presentable bcos I want him 2 b d lucky guy, nd I really want 2 knw if I genuinely luv him and nt crazy abt d luks I.e luv and not. Lust. My sis Marrriage is nt abt d luks but if u knw dat if u marry him u r still goin 2 mess wit any oda fine guy dat comes ur way. Don't.. Just marry sombody dat u knw u can spend d rest of ur life wit

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  70. e never red yet! If e red u go run enter bush grab monkey

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  71. Choi! Aunty Linda...Looool. The image you've chosen though...Hahaha. Can't stop laughing.

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  72. Half bread is better than none moreso u r getting to menopause. So, wht r u complaining of? Is it when u pass d age of child bearing u wil b seeking handsome man to settle down wit?

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  73. It's looks you want to eat abi?? So you would rather be married to a fine ass cheater, pauper and woman beater than a man that God prolly chose for you who would love you unconditionally giv you all yu want and never lay a finger to beat yu...I pity yu yu wil stay single forever. Berra at least giv himma chance before yu choose based on looks...it's girls lik yu dat wil end up coming bak here to say my husband beats and cheats on me wat do I do. Smh silly girl

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  74. Forget d fact that he isn't handsome nd if u truly love him then u can marry him..beauty will fade away nd face will wrinkle but a caring nd loving heart will always stay good forever......Linda that's y u never marry wen most of all ur mates have stopped childbirth..na nonsense dey ur body nd u go old for house...eyin mama e sempe..if u like don't paste my comment..

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  75. So linda, u had to use that poor man's picture huh? Lmaaaooo

    Honey

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  76. Don't do it girl! I was introduced to Mr. right just when I had decided to settle for another guy. But for the timing I don't know what my situation would be right now. Attraction is important.

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  77. You cannot manage him, u can try to know him better you might like him, but don't put his hopes up only to let him down

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  78. Mtcheeeeeewww!!! Yeye, Nonsense!!!

    Stay there and be looking for wiz kid to come and propose for you! By the time u get old, Even if gorrilla wey no get money come ask you out sef, You will gladly say YES, You won't even mind his looks or his pocket then!

    This is the problem of the girls of these days, They don't know what they want,Looking for wiz kids up and down,That's why they used and dumped them!!

    Abeg linda,Next news jare,Who get time for iranu?

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  79. when you now get fine boy you'll come an be battling with different women for him. stay there and be dulling next thing you will reach 45. lets see if you'll still be looking for fine boy then mscheeww!!!

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  80. love is not by what you see...but by what you feel. At first if you start asking your self, whether to manage him? Then you dont love him at first

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  81. Where did you find this picture Linda????. Too funny

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  82. Women and their wahala. Why can't they understand that money itself is the 'fine'?

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  83. Linda this picture is super funny#God forgive me but Why does he look like a dog so much? LMAO..... To poster you sound very desperate, how Long do you intend to'manage' him for miss manager? Or will your girlfriends help you with that? If you like no go marry wetin sweet you for body be there forming manager. ...Sometimes You actually know if you can live with someone when there's no money not when the person has money#Be true to yourself

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  84. Well my dear Linda, put your trust in God and he will surely make a way and grant you your heart desire. Remain blessed.

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  85. For what it is worth, I want to hope and pray that you are drop dead gorgeous because this right here is an example of fucked of priorities.

    You are meant to be a christian sister looking for Mr Handsome (aren't we all made in Gods image) excuse me but will Handsome guarantee 3 square meal?

    You pastor is wasting her time worried about you. (You are your own enemy/problem)

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  86. If you won't be having nightmares.....go head and marry the love of your life. Lol

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  87. Your man is coming please...This is not your heart desire Babe...I must tell you,as much as guys around you,everyone loves you . your man is coming.The same way,God first love you and shall grant you your heart desire.I beg you wait,many guys are eyeing you. I will also tell you to marry a young man if they come your way;don't look at his age,thinking that you're older than him.you don't love this guy and besides,he is a pilot who would not have time to stay around his family . love you,stay yet.

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  88. Keep waiting for fine men o..., you go tay for there! Anyways that is what you want.


    Ladies check this out 5 reasons why you should date/marry a man with beard

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  89. Nigerian ladies and their yanga. Just ignore him and keep waiting for a handsome guy till when u reach 40 then u will start looking for anybody to marry.

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  90. @lindaikeji .... you never ready yet. Never judge a book by the cover but by the content of the heart, in all your dealings. It would never burn you my dear!

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  91. Don't ignore how you feel. Physical attraction matters. Time will change him enough as he ages. However, you shouldn't have to psyche yourself into liking him too hard in the initial months. Something should draw you to him if it isn't looks. Don't waste his or your time if the sparks aren't there.

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  92. You never old reach, you go soon hala after this one go, na monkey go come next, wait ooo the fine boy is on the way... abeg pass me my kuli kuli make i chow

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  93. 1st to comment. Linda gimmi money! Lol

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  94. Obviously, you do not deserve any sensible man.

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  95. better marry who u are proud of exhibiting,if not shame go catch u for the rest of ur life and ul b e forced to live with it. U may love him bcos hes ur hubby but u may cheat when the opportunity comes. dont go for second best.

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  96. R u serious. Na fine u go chop. Tell me all dey fine guyz u dated y did dey leave or y ain't dey still with u. Nonsensical. If u like dnt bring ur sef down n settle down. God doesn't give u wht u think is good4u but wht he knws is good for u. Better give dt guy a chance, he might be dey only one. A word is enof for dey wise.

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  97. the problem with too many people - looks fade! and you looking for someone fine?-so if he beats you and abuses you - you'll stay cause hes fine?

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  98. You are very stupid indeed! Fine man kill u dere. Is it about being handsome? I pray u marry the handsome guy u looking for dat will always beat u black and blue everyday. Senseless bitch!

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  99. wow i am surprised at this comment. Is fine ness everything? I mean yes you should be attracted to a guy physically. however that is not all in a marriage partner? What of character? Does he treat you well,spil you and is kind to you? Does he listen to you when you are down and encourages you to reach your best potential? Can you tell him your worst fears and insecurities and he still loves you all the same and makes you want to be a better person. Is he able to provide for your needs? and MOST OF ALL, IS HE GODLY? those are the questions you should be asking..not whether he is fine or not. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder anyway and you can always teach someone to dress fine,so that is amendable. The question you should ask yourself is if you are ready for marriage,because looks don't even begin to complete the requirements for a partner.

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  100. If na the guy be that on Linda DP I advise u to run, buh then again hw important re u to manage a human beings like u?#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

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  101. Na snoop doggy brother him be?

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  102. First of all, why is your Pastor playing matchmaker? I hate when 'men of the cloth' meddle in relationships, because when push comes to shove, they will be the one asking you to stay, no matter what! Secondly that you are old enough to get married is not reason enough to get married, other things are involved yet! Thirdly looks can be deceiving! Whether a man is fine or ugly, if you like him you like him, I hate when people say 'you will grow to love him', that is not love sister, that is you becoming comfortable with a bad situation! We might not all find love, but I'd advise you to wait, do not rush into a relationship because your Pastor introduced you, wait. Plus do not judge a man solely by his looks, a man can look like Shrek but have a heart like Jesus! I am just saying!

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  103. Linda where did u see that guy's picture on this post,he looks like a masquerade. Well for the lady,you better run for your dear life,if not you will be miserable ehn,and in turn make him miserable and then end up having a miserable marriage.Never manage someone you will marry,forever is a long time to manage a spouse

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  104. ....Pls send me his contacts....I have a guy that's drop dead gorgeous for marriage...

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  105. my dear,consider d content nd not d cover..beauty nd gorgeous will fade away bt luv is wat will keep u goin..

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  106. Mma nwoke bu ego... stay there till you clock 50..

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  107. Nooo u shuldnt manage wen it comes 2 marriage so dat u dnt hv regrets all ur life

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  108. I hope he reads this.

    You do not deserve him. Go and continue waiting for a fine boy. I am sure you yourself are not that beautiful that is why the fine boys are avoiding you. I hope he finds a lovely woman who will appreciate him for who he is.

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  109. Omotola says she was not in love with her pilot husband when she married him but now she is head over heels in love with him. Go on n marry him. Time wait for no women

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  110. Lmao, your fine man will soon come

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  111. Hahahaha Omo mehn this is funny. I can't remember when last i heard a girl turning down a guy cos he's not fine. But i appreciate her realness tho.. I dont have any advice for you sister. Follow your heart, go get yourself a fine boy. And IF you later regret it, hope you'ld take it as part of life.

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  112. you are quite shallow if looks is all you care about

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  113. Hahahahahahaha lindodo u bad ooo d girl say d guy nor fine nai u jst go use dis caricature pic. or she send u d pic? My dear d ways of God r not d ways of men. Most times we dnt get wat we think it's ryt 4 us bcos God has better plans 4 us. I'll say u shudnt look @ d fact dat he is not fine n start showing him attitude. gv him a chance n get 2 knw his character(his gud n bad side) to see if u can move on with him. Cos I knw bcos u said he's not fine,u won't even want 2 get 2 knw those things n he might end up bin d best u ever had. Good character is better than fine face oo

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  114. Physical attraction is paramount in a relationship but unfortunately, it isn't a major yardstick to quantify a successful relation. Simply put, a fine face isn't all there is. Do you gal...

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  115. Quick question dear, what if you get married to a Trey songz look alike, and 2years into the marriage, hot water mistakenly pours on his face and destroys his look completely, would you still stay married to him? Or you'd divorce him. When you answer this question, you can answer you own self.

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  116. Love should not be based on personal appearances alone, if he meets way over 60% of what you want in a Man. I advice you carry on.

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  117. Pls my dear girl move forward. Try someone else or u wait for somebody else.
    ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

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  118. U are very very Stupid.u don't care if the man is living comfortable. You only care about looks.mumu.
    Faceoflib

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  119. Hmmm GM linda...I will only tell you to follow ur mind either ugly or hansum...love z d greatest but for me HELL NO

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  120. My dear dont manage . if your aint feeling it then dont get in it.

    But what do we want as a life partner ? it should be beyond looks. Like me i luv beautiful ladies hot nice curves that can get my mind racing. But i tell you all the fine babes wey i don date dey crase for head oooo and how long will i continue to brak up and make up?

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  121. He should manage you i think! Hes a pilot, who are u again ? So, to the guy, we know u aint handsome but you av a great career, kindly manage our picky sister who doesnt know what she wants but handsome men. i hope you are drop dead gorgeous too, otherwise, i think there r loads of dishes in the kitchen to be washed #yawns

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  122. Hmmm dis girl ur own don finish o,u need deliverance

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  123. Babes dont think for once dat cos he was introduced to u by ur pastor den he's best for u. See if u cant look at him twice abeg dont marry out of pity or managment,dude this marriage we talking bout here,u gon look at dat face for life.

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  124. Ur reason is so childish and please give me the guys number

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  125. U beta dnt manage cuz regret will b ur name.

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  126. Madam u be professional, bonefide mumu. Oya pass d ugly guy come my side my I teach u how to date & marry him. Idiot stay there, na so u go old 4 house

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  127. Hahahahahahahahaha!! Cant stop laughing

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  128. Madam poster, wait for the fine one that would beat the fuck out of you and cheat on you in front of you without a care in the world! Biko leave this Godly pilot alone for a woman who doesn't consider facial features or structure to be with somebody as long as the person makes her happy.

    BTW who told you that you are fine? Abi you don't know he might be managing too, if you're so fine, one "drop dead gorgeous" guy would have seen you since and wifed you, biko park well jare and leave the man for another woman!

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  129. Be patient.you might find your mr handsome when u are 50 years old.

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  130. Hmmmmm.....ya funnny ...u go chop fin man....a guy bin fine doesn't rilli count oooo....u beta drop dat idea....n hold him wella

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  131. lol, linda the guy u put up is coming for you..........

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  132. suit urself..., d choice is in ur hands

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  133. Do you know your problem it bcos you're just a fool, i blame that your pastor mumu. Don't worry keep waiting for a fine boy that will kill you wen you're 45 maybe one will come your way

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  134. No dear! Life is too short to manage! Trust me. I am a sucker for FINE BOY'S. My family used to tease me that it's half caste am waiting for that's why I was single for so long. I was compelled to date this guy who wasn't blessed with good looks. As in far from it. They told me to give him a 6 months trial which I did but imagine It was the moSt difficult thing breaking up with him after a year. He was the kindest person ever. Thriving in his career. Spoilt me rotten. However, I could not imagine making out with him. Anyways I recently got married to the most handsome guy ever who has also been my friend for a while and I am so grateful to God I did not settle with the other guy. I got Absolutely everything in ny long list. But It took my patience and trust in God to believe His word, "I will grant you ALL your heart desires". DO NOT SETTLE GIRL!

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  135. Wow,see as you degrade one of the creations of God.Well,you sound so worldly.Don't date a guy for facial beauty.Check him out for his inner beauty.Love covers all ugliness.

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  136. U r not serious. Lo fe faworaja n gbayen.

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  137. Manage?
    Accept him the way he is
    Love him the way he is
    Cherish him the way he is
    DON'T MANAGE HIM.
    Marriage is far beyond looks

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  138. hmmmmm, na marriage ooo, no be one night date. marry the person u love and u are comfortable with. the journey is too long for u to start managing from now.thank me later @opyfasco

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  139. My dear do not try it ooo, am married to man who is not fine, according to my friend I would love later years has gone by still can't love him And it causing serious problem.

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  140. Ok, I wl b right back! Wait u hear?

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  141. My dear your explanation about this man shows that you will have to move mountains before u can love him. That will never happen. As at present, u cannot stand the sight of him.
    It's a good sign for u not to move forward with him. You may love him later but anytime he falters, you will remember what led u into it and that u were only doing ur body a favor and not ur mind.

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  142. Personal standard ??? Omo alotta people have gone mad .

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  143. we need to see your picture lets see how pretty you are before any advice for you.oloshi

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  144. Lmao @ d picture Linda Used.

    Well Poster, Me sef like Fine guys. There is nothing Wrong with that at all.
    I will just add that you weigh your Priorities. If na 'TDH' be ur Spec, carry go. Be reminded that Heart connection(attributes that have Value) is superior to Head connection ( attributes with little or no Value).
    Sometimes Our Heads connects and then Later we realize that the Heart ain't in agreement. But when the Heart connects, the Head will likely follow suit.
    Give him time n see if your Heart will feel anytime for him...if not, abeg Stroll Out.
    Wish u the best.

    IJAY B.

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  145. Wait till u clock 40,by that time u no go get choice but wait did I hear u say u never f**k for three years now? #storyforthegods

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  146. I dey laugh you, you never start . CHI.

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  147. Along the line you will definitely see him as the cutest man on earth . Date first before you marry, just give it a chance .We always don't get what we want you know.

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  148. Linda picture nka ehnn. Anyways fellow LIB reader. It depends on your definition of handsome. For example I don't see Kanye West as handsome but a beautiful Kim Kardashian is madly in love with him. The guy might not be fine to you but that doesn't mean he's not handsome. Stop saying because maybe he's lacking one or two facial remarks he's not handsome. My dear open your eyes and look well. And then if indeed he's not fine hmmm if you settle for less you might end up cheating on him that's if you are not old sef. If you're old better manage him like that. You no too get choice again if in three months from now you don't see another guy better than him. Better take him like that. Inugo?

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  149. The devil behind your case eats his vegetables, does push ups, bench, weights etc, in on a low cholesterol fat free diet. So u see, it's a very healthy devil and will be on your case for a very long time. Probably outlive you.
    These days girls are happily marrying guys they know are flaming gay sef, you see pilot dey talk say he ugly. Enu e lo wa yen.

    **** forst to comment ****

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  150. I used to have a fine bobo who was so obsessed abt himself he wil buy all sorts of perfumes soap and cream cloths barb 2k hair erry week o stil curl am ontop buh if I ask for recharge card na wahala I met my now urgly bf dis ugly one takia of m like kilode me looking good is his piority am using two good fones thanks to my ugly bf my baby oku bf have a white ipad white iphone white blackbery n I was busy managing my second hand curve2.thank god I dropd him like hot okro soup

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  151. If you will "manage" him then you might not be able to bear it for a long time. Marriage is very serious so if you don't genuinely love him then dont do it. What you can do is spend enough time with him in courtship to know if you can start to see him in a better light, once you get over that then you are gold. Take your time and dont rush

    www.askralph.blogspot.com

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  152. No wonder you are still single! Keep on searching for a handsome man!

    If you are not interested in your pilot boyfriend, please give me his contacts...

    Yeye girl!

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  153. Linda, you are kind off mean sha......i hope the guy is not as ugly as this picture you put up? if not i dont think you will be able to manage him....LIB POSH

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  154. You aren't perfect. ..you dont know if the guy is managing you too cos of love....I think you should accept him, you will grow to love him as long he is a good guy and also God fearing.

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  155. Aunty e no fine e no fine,40 will come knocking, then you will be at shiloh crying your heart out to God"Anyhow e be I go manage am"...He's not fine,does his dressing cover up d worworism,he get swag,attitude,speaks well&neat?

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  156. You can't
    Berra Go nd find ur own handsome man

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  157. You are looking for a fine boy, how pretty are you?

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  158. If u must know most women didn't end up with their heart desire,but in their marriages they ve grown 2 love their husbands,my dear,will advice u court him,give him a chance perhaps u ll end up 2see d handsome_Ness in him..Linda where did u get dz picture?after wks just had my 1st luAgh

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  159. Lols well to the way I c things,1) u don't love him 2) u are wondering if I marry him(pilot) "money money " . Hmm sis I'll advice u life u beta go for what u want. If u don't love him just chill ur husband his coming dnt mind what pple say abt ur marital status. U better go for what u really want

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  160. If u must know most women didn't end up with their heart desire,but in their marriages they ve grown 2 love their husbands,my dear,will advice u court him,give him a chance perhaps u ll end up 2see d handsome_Ness in him..Linda where did u get dz picture?after wks just had my 1st luAgh

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  161. Ur personal standard my blue black ass!..see u in shiloh,. Redeem camp and mountain on fire camp when u clock 45!.. And pls remind me,. U are who again!.. Pson wey no reach round one say make dem do am round two!.. Biko hide joor!..#teamchris

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  162. Yes you would get to love him. There is beauty in imperfection. My bf has broken teeth,oh so obvious,but do i care..? Not really! Even those fine boys you arr after wont give you peace of mind.. Girls chase every boys as long as they see money.. Now a fine boy with money... Nne,they wont give a hoot if he has a wife ! As long as Mr pilot loves you genuinely.. And u cn love him back.. Ild say give him a chance!

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  163. My dear, i'm not sure u're ready to settle down if at this age you're still putting handsome as a priority in been happily married. Leave him and wait for a hansome man to come by, i wish u luck!!!!

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  164. BAbe,I ll do anything 2b In ur shoes,what u should b worried. Abt is his family background.

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  165. U nva criou,no be person marry mr Ibu abi no be person marry OBJ if a see a monkey pilot I will propose to him.mtcheeeeeeeeew.

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  166. Madam how old are u?u must be in ur 20s for u 2 be talking nonsense. Maybe when ur 40 u will come on LIB and ask us to help you get a husband who can manage you. You better put he's ugliness aside and give the young man a chance. when u eventually find dat fine man ur looking for and get married 2 him what if he ends up abusing u everyday or maybe is unfaithful. You better open ya eyes. this could be a blessing in disguise

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  167. How beautiful r u?
    Do u know if he s trying to manage u too?
    My sis when d prefferable are nt available, den d available becomes d prefferable.

    Olatee_seun@yahoo.com

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  168. Only u fit ansWer Ur ?.Ask Urself Can i live Wit Dis man...

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  169. Haha haha hahaha this one look like goat o. Abeg u can't manage a man. Ur pastor wicked oooo lol

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  170. U can remain single till u find a fine boy ......Lol

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  171. Na u go tire o.
    Keep selecting o, na Jesus u go marry at last.
    And one other thing, abeg Linda, make we see dis gal face sef, cos na manageable ones dey select pass

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  172. oluwasegun oyindamola10 November 2014 at 07:42

    Dont do wat people ask u to do when ur mind dosen't go with it...follow ur mind always

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  173. Time will tell, get to know him, u guys shud hang out often, i mean actually date him, ud know if u r getting to like him as time goes by, somtin similar happend to me, i had to let d guy go because even his personality was below my expectation, i just cudnt get myself to love him after spending some time with him.

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  174. perfect march,ride on girl.

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  175. U aren't ready to get married yet. Keep going on a wild goose chase. U'd prolly get married to an already married, uglier man. Then u'll know what u've done to yourself

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  176. Continue to dey look for drop dead guy while ur mate dey wed every saturday!!!!

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  177. Hian! Na wa oh! Good luck to you, cos I really don't know what to tell you sha...

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  178. Stay there dey OLD! You fine?

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  179. You can develop everything later. It happened to me though mine is handsome but not rich. And coming from a wealthy background, it's like hell but am loving himmore daily and d money is coming gradually. Ur case is manageable cos for guys u don't look out for beauty but how hardworking and caring he is.

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  180. Loool, that's all I can say www.udokajane.blogspot.com

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  181. Pls follow ur heart. if u know u can't marry him plsssssssssss! step aside so that the poor gentle guy can look for someone else. Pray that God gives u ur kind of man. Becos if u marry him u might later leave the marriage which is bad in the sight of God.

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  182. The marriage will bore the casper out of u. Wait for love. Lookaway from the clock. Age ain't nufin wen it comes to hapines n lifepartner.

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  183. Lyn, i think u gotta tread softly on using ugly dudes pics anyhow cos i heard one Jahmel Binion sued Shaq o neal, Waka Flocka n Trey Burke 4 inapproriately displayin his pic on their IG. Dude claimed to be suffering from hypohidrotic ectodermal dysplasia, a condition that causes limited hair growth, missin teeth n facial deformities. U gotta see this dude cos all my compassion could'nt stop me from chortling. Bt i think all these dudes are beautifully handsome when u look at them differently in a unique way cos these SPECIES are RARE.

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  184. Dear Linda,

    This shouldn't be put up.

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  185. Hmmm..babe if u know u won't cheat on him when u guys eventually get married then fine..but if u know u will be tempted to look for fine boys outside ur marriage then don't marry o..since u can't even stand looking at his face when will the love now finally grow enough for u to tolerate the face

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  186. my dear if na ds man wey I see for this pic. lol

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  187. Pls intro me to dis pilot, am interested, looks don't matter to me, I no dey like fine boys n hv not dated any guy dat is finer dan me,i love dem ugly, ugly men value dia gfs wen dia gf is finer. Pls intro mi to dis man biko.

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  188. You should have posted your own picture so we can compare the both of you and know who should manage each other.

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  189. I think the problem is from ur village. Check well. U're welcome

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  190. U are as stupid as ur post & ugly husband. U carry fotoshopped picture come they worry us this morning

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