Amaka had been dating Amobi for six months now, they were so much in love with plans of the brightest future ahead. Their meeting was kind of destined after a mutual friend did their introduction and the pair had remained inseparable.
One Morning, Amaka woke up with a strange stomach ache, she had always experienced an irregular cycle and so she thought it was the same old experience. That morning her period was excessively heavier than normal and apparently two sanitary towels could not take her. She decided to see a doctor...
At the
hospital, After consultation with Dr. Alabi, he requested an ultra-scan be
carried out to ascertain her ailment. A follow up appointment was scheduled two
days later to review her scan result. to
her surprise, a mass was reportedly found in her uterus. Trembling and sweating
profusely, She asked the Dr. "Am I alright/Am I gonna
die.................?"
The Dr.
looked into her eyes smiling and said to her that a Surgical session is all
that is required to remove the mass.
The
histology report showed she had Ovarian cancer. She broke down in tears and
felt her world had crumbled just when she was about to start her life. Dr.
Alabi tried to console her, telling her she had a good chance since it was in
its early stage and another surgery would be required to remove her womb to
stop the spread. how would she tell
amobi that her womb would be removed or
they can’t have kids, would he understand? they had always dreamt of having
kids together.
After
the surgery, she told Amobi what she had done, to her surprise his response was
positive, He had promised to stay with her because he loved her so much and
believed God was the most superior and nothing was impossible for him to do.
Three
years later, he proposed to her, she was so happy that the man she loved was
ready to make her his own finally. for a
very long time, she had dreamt of that being a reality. She had always bragged
to her friends that she had the best boo whose love was unconditional.
Amobi's
friend Tola had convinced Amobi not to marry her. So Amobi called her after three months that
he couldn't marry her because she didn't have a womb and could not give him
children. Her worst nightmare had finally become her reality.
Do you think Amobi should have married her or
not? Does she deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally? What would you
advice Amaka to do? Can you marry a lady like Amaka?
Please advice. This happened to me...
Please advice. This happened to me...
Is this a movie
ReplyDeleteE reach to ask oh! This linda na drama queen.
DeleteThey can adopt. I married a husband n a year later I realize he couldn't get me pregnant cus he has some medical problem, but I am okay and healthy. 4yrs later we adopt 2 beautiful babies, they were 3months old when they were adopted. My life is complete n am happy. No one knows that they were adopted cus of stigma. God decided to give me children through another woman n I've never been happier.
DeleteGod bless you Ma'am. Adopting a child is being a bigger blessing to the world, God will continue to bless you. Ppl even have children and still adopt
DeleteThank God 4 ur life. Really happy 4 u.
DeleteShe didn't think this true well and her doctor didn't properly advise her.
DeleteShe could have seen a fertility doctor and harvested her eggs prior to the womb removal.
Then whenever she married ....her eggs and hobby's sperm could be planted in another woman (surrogate) to help them carry to term. If they planned it well....no one would have known and they could have had a biological kid.
Let's think like its 2014! God has already provided solutions to most of our problems.
U guys are great, sure u all have great hearts, adoption is beautiful esp. When a loving partner need u most.
DeleteIf u ask me,na who I go ask?
ReplyDeleteDosado nnukwu ajuju.....doromi ijurum ka nza? Doremiredo ika na ajurito? Domi dosado! Mma nzanata! Silly question n post.
DeleteLmaoooo. I don't know what that means but, you're a tyrant.
DeleteMoses oooooo LMAO choiii dis guy
DeleteIs this a movie,personally I believe there's nothing God cannot do
ReplyDeleteLinda, is this ur story?..; confused by the last sentence.
DeleteAnyway, if Amobi truly loves Amaka..he'll marry her and they'll adopt a child, and if they both treat the child right, God will provide her with her spare womb to have more children..
*My R1.50c comment*
Will advise u after service....in church nw..*shines teeth
ReplyDeleteFirst.Amobi is foolish,for not knowing what he wants,was he out of his mind when he proposed.secondly Amaka is being selfish,u can't drag someone u claim to love in such race it's not nice,u should advice him to move on if u loved him.amaka can adopt a couple of kids get a job n live her beautiful life...but,if u guys have d strength some1 can make babies for u while u pay..propose dat to him,if he doesn't buy it stick to my 1st advice...dnt worry ur self love will surely come along the line.i could love u sef lol
Deleteshe didn't drag him.. she was scared at first cos she was prepared to take d blow.. dis guy still accepted her only 2 wake up in 3 f**king years n realises she's nolongr ok for him.. his actually d one mad.. coz she would ve moved on long ago..now he made it difficult
DeleteYou chose not to read and understand,and yur so pretty :(.when he/she said drag it simply means...the character Amaka accepting to marry him knowing her condition and the fact that she is complaining after the character Amobi's change of mind is Dragging him to it,she wouldn't do that to a brother
DeleteYes I can marry a lady like her, she should hold on her on man is on the way. Twitter/@dj_smartt
ReplyDeleteWho in their right sense would marry a woman without a womb. No sorry cant do!. Amaka shd just accept her fate and move on to enjoy life
ReplyDeleteAnd you are very stupid ...haven't you heard of adoption?? Bush rat...people like you are what's wrong with the world today
DeleteSomeone who truly loves her will marry her. Let me educate you now Mr "Toronto" there are other ways to have a baby. Google it.
DeleteI would marry her. U have to think broadly. There are many women that wld be willing to carry our pregnancies in their womb. Some may do it for free but I wld be willing to pay
DeleteBut there are so many women marrying infertile men and nobody is saying they're not in their right senses so what difference does it make if it is a man or woman who is incapable of having a child? If you doubt what I'm saying, just go back to the 2nd responder to the first comment, anon 1:25pm's comment. If she had your kind of backward attitude, she wouldn't be happy and contented today. And Toronto finest or whatever you call yourself, by the way; you don't know tomorrow, you might just end up being the one with the problem. Just remember that. ..........Just Saying
DeleteThis is no marriage.you idiots seem to have neglected that...I will never quit on my wife cos she's Barren.never,when she was ok when I married her or never knew.either case..my point is..she wouldn't marry me if I told her am impotent.no 1 chose to jump into fire cos he/she got a drum of water,ur family wount let u do that..even u wount let ur child do dat.why? Cos u love him and wants the best
DeleteDear Mr. Toronto you really are very silly and shallow minded.
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
If i was amobi i will not marry her as simple as abc.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
No wonder ure still in jupiter... Mscheew! ode!
DeleteBetter remain in jupiter
DeleteIf Amobi marry her , There is no way the marriage won't later crash . I think she should look for a man with similar problem like low sperm count .
ReplyDeleteIf there is one thing I know, it is that we are good at opening our mouths and talking. Just like Amaka, u are whole today but how about tomorrow. If I was Amobi, I will marry Amaka. The success of that marriage depends on both of them. Everyone deserves to be happy. Amaka deserves to be happy and if Amobi isn't hers, then hers is on the way.
DeleteLol...
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DeleteI won't marry amaka...
ReplyDeleteFor me, being the only boy my parents have, I would tell her from the onset that I won't marry her. I wouldn't want to marry her out of pity amd later on start cheating on her. She deserves to be happy..no doubt. But I won't marry her.
ReplyDeleteReally! You are so not serious! Do you think being the only son of your parents gives u automatic 'possibility' to have kids? Be careful what you say. We may have the right and privilege of sleeping with another person to have kids but ultimately it's God that decides if we will conceive or not!
DeleteGbammest!! Anon 4:59pm
DeleteAnon 4.59 pls tk it easy. The young man just used that line to say that even if he agrees to marry her, he will surely face a bigger problem frm his parents (who he knows will not permit such). To them the status of his future with her will remain questionable which is a regular occurrence in this part of the world. So calm down n stop reeling out stupid talk.
Delete#Fizz
So sorry to hear that. Like you might already know, lay ur burdens in God's hands and let him do the rest. It is well.
ReplyDeleteThis tale ehnnn be as e get o...sounds fake
ReplyDeleteAnyways its gonna be hard cos children are the fruit of a union
Bt if I really love her, I wud go ahead and marry her n we go adopt pikin shikena
Why do people like you always say situations like this is fake? Wther its real or fake, give your f-ing comment and bother less about whether its unreal.
DeleteOr rather stfu.
Why do people like you always say situations like this is fake? Wther its real or fake, give your f-ing comment and bother less about whether its unreal.
DeleteOr rather stfu.
A woman without womb got pregnant and gave birth to twins in my church. There is nothing God cannot solve he will give her a fresh womb and she will surely carry her kids
DeleteThere is God! And HE only can handle every issues of life we have, what seems impossible to us is just possible to God!! A man shld marry for love and every other thing shld be addede!!! Rmber there is God
ReplyDeleteIn this case, I would advise Amobi to marry Amaka if only she agrees to a second wife coming in.. But as for Amaka I would advice she prays to GOD and make sure she's on the top chain (Rich).... GOD help both of them!!
ReplyDeleteAnd you will also advice her to pray, really? To which god? Does the god she'll be praying to also allow 2wives in a marriage? Ur own get as e be o!
Deleteso sad, convince him of adoption. not that easy for him too to marry u. may God bless U
ReplyDeleteexcessively heavier than normal and apparently two sanitary towels could not take her.
ReplyDeleteOmg!See hackers leaked nud,e photos of actress megan good doing things with her pastor husband on cam!
Linda pe Amobi loori fone ... Ko lo fe baby yen oo
ReplyDeleteLoool...ur a clown!
DeleteChai!!! So pethetic,let him marry her...God is d giver of kids and not man.
ReplyDeleteGod created womb also Kc
DeleteIt's his loss. What was meant for you will never miss you, and what misses you wasn't meant for you. Trust in God, he knows why and he knows best.
ReplyDeleteYou never know, after all, the first womb transplant was sucessfully done and a baby produced.
Not all hope is lost
Your comment really really makes. A Lot of sense to me....the best comment so far
DeleteI am so sorry about losing your stomach poster. I pray you see a man that loves you for who are and gets married to you. God will bring your husband at the appointed time.
ReplyDeleteYour comment will be visible after approval
She lost her womb, not stomach plssss
DeleteFool she didn't loose her stomach she lost her womb...u comment a lot but your so dumb
DeleteAlloy, you are sorry she lost her stomach kwa?
DeleteLosing your stomach? Seriously? U didnt do biology at all at all? Na wa
DeleteThis dude is very stupid ooo
DeleteHe's not stupid...he's absolutely dumb.really,a very dumb person smh
DeleteDo not put your trust in a man. With God, all things are possible.
ReplyDeleteEvery perfect gift is from God.
May God put your love in the heart of a man who will genuinely love you till the end. amen.
Phew... Its so pathetic.. May God strenghten you... SIMPLYELEMIC
ReplyDeleteIt wasnt Amaka 's fault and she deserves to be happy tho i undastnd y d guy did dat bt he shudnt av proposed to her. Amaka wud find her own man, true love is not based on weda u gat kids togeda or not.... pele Amaka.
ReplyDeleteWhy lead her on in the first place if he knew there would eventually be the slightest chance he might not marry her?.. Yes,everyone(well not exactly everyone) wants to have children.,and that's understandable on his part,..but then he should have ended things upfront instead of letting her believe they would still be together through thick and thin...now,that's just inhumane unkind and outrightly wrong. As for the lady,prayers and absolute faith in God would heal her wounds physically and emotionally.. Happy Sunday!
ReplyDeleteSerious! Only a couragous man can marry her.
ReplyDeleteofcus! we can always adopt. Don't pray 4 such sha 4 myself or any Lady
ReplyDelete$parkle
He should go ahead and marry her their is nothing God can not do for his children.
ReplyDeletewith God al tins r possible, bt becos of d world we r in today nd amobi nt being a christian itl be vry difficult for him to marry her, av seen cases wherr d couple waited for 13yrs nd God did it, if he truly love her he shld marry her..... he shld apric8t d fact dat d girl was sincere, wat of she didnt tel him anyfin nt until dey were married.... true love conqure al things.
ReplyDelete13yrs without womb or with womb?...dnt be biased in judgment
DeleteMy dear don't think so much as nothing you could do but to believe in God and just live right. There is no impossibility before God.
ReplyDeleteSays window phone.
As much as no one prays for this, it has happened. The primary reason for marriage is companionship. Kids are secondary. You can marry someone else and have kids but lack hapiness and companionship but There's always the option of adoption. Pray, may the holy spirit guide you!
ReplyDeleteLinda am begging u in d name God u ppl Shuld do somtin in d name of God OK... Ystaday Star d winner is.... Didn't go down on me at all pls dat Job guy need to b helpd
ReplyDeleteVery sad!
ReplyDeleteLinda am begging u in d name God u ppl Shuld do somtin in d name of God OK... Ystaday Star d winner is.... Didn't go down on me at all pls dat Job guy need to b helpd
ReplyDeleteI'm actually crying right now cos it's a really sad story. It's not Amaka's fault that she lost her womb and YES she deserves so much love. Wait o, I don't understand d "this happened to me" part Is linda saying it happened to her? *confused* No insults pls.
ReplyDeletedis question past me
ReplyDeleteMy dear, pray for guidance from the holy spirit!
ReplyDeletei mean pass me
ReplyDeletedis question pass me
ReplyDeleteWicked generation............
ReplyDeleteWicked generation.
ReplyDeleteWicked generation.
ReplyDeleteWicked generation.
ReplyDeleteMust u write the same thing 4 or 5 times, ehn, Nwan Nsukka
DeleteMust u write the same thing 4 or 5 times, ehn, Nwan Nsukka
DeleteU kwa for delete 1 na Nwa aba
DeleteDere is something dey call womb transplant.....dnt know how expensive it ld be....buh maybe you and ur boo can try it.....nd if he isn't convinced......adoption works perfectly for me
ReplyDeleteLinLin, You sabi form Story sha. I will marry her o. Children are gifts from God. if God wills, she wiould still give birth. however, she can adopt. since the purpose of God is to raise godly offsprings, there are many weeks or month old babies she can raise for God.
ReplyDeleteOur idea of marriage here in this part of the world needs to change. Not every marriage ends up having children. The question is, if it was the other way round how would the guy want the lady to treat her?
ReplyDeleteAs for me I can't marry any girl without a womb, no matter who she is...Obama daughter, bill gate daughter, carlos slim daughter, mark zuckerberg daughter, dangote daughter...no I can't....omo la wo ran eye...bibi lon bi mi, and is very compulsory for me too to give birth to my own children...@blissful_jay
ReplyDeleteSo sowie Amaka buh dis Africa in fact 9ja the joy of any mother is a grand child so just move on. Yacham
ReplyDeleteYes he would have marry her because life is beyond just giving birth to children. Just accept ur fate and b happy and also believe God there is nothing too difficult 4 him to do.
ReplyDeletefucking story.... you are an imbecile if u actually believe this... linda pls upgrade a bit and stop tormenting your readers with all this obfuscatin storie
ReplyDeleteR u high? Who told u things like dis dnt happen? Yeye with smelling mouth cmin to tell Linda wat to do
DeleteAmaka you did the right thing by telling Amobi the truth. Dnt worry GOD has not finished writing your story it will end in a positive way#sexypem
ReplyDeleteThis is Hard. I could decide to marry her and adopt lovely children but the society we're in would condemn such, I can already hear my relatives narrating to me the fact that My Mom gave birth to me, same must be done by me if I truly want to make her have her own grandchildren. This is not even about pressure, it's a demand... That aside, women cannot be trusted these days. Speaking from experience, I once met a lady and things were going on very smoothly for us until She told me She doesn't have a womb and gave the exact reason here as ovarian cancer. I later learnt She was (is) into 'corporate prostitution' if you know what I mean. The bad eggs have polluted the good ones... CTLSS, I'll stick to my guns and have me a woman that can bear me kids!
ReplyDeleteThis is Hard. I could decide to marry her and adopt lovely children but the society we're in would condemn such, I can already hear my relatives narrating to me the fact that My Mom gave birth to me, same must be done by me if I truly want to make her have her own grandchildren. This is not even about pressure, it's a demand... That aside, women cannot be trusted these days. Speaking from experience, I once met a lady and things were going on very smoothly for us until She told me She doesn't have a womb and gave the exact reason here as ovarian cancer. I later learnt She was (is) into 'corporate prostitution' if you know what I mean. The bad eggs have polluted the good ones... CTLSS, I'll stick to my guns and have me a woman that can bear me kids!
ReplyDeleteYes I can marry her unditionally gv her my pin 7a948a3f and the secreet will b btw us
ReplyDeleteWow!!!! So touching. Yes Amaka deserves to b happy and loved unconditionally by d right person.
ReplyDeleteAmobi, has been influenced by peers whch isnt a new thing in our society. If he left u cos of what he never saw as an issue initially, my dear move on. All dis is a Testimony in d waiting. deserve better dan Amobi. Its nt like she put herself in such condition. Who says d woman he is goin to marry will give him a child?? Even wit her womb intact. D ways of the Lord re simple buh profound. Amaka, b calm and know dat God knows abt ur plight and will not forsake u. Not now or Ever. Its well.
Wonder if the stories on LiB are real. Anyway, somethings are very simple in life. Once a single lady accepts to have a hysterectomy done, she can as well say bye bye 2 a blissful marriage with any man especially in Africa where the sole aim of marriage is to raise a family and not necessarily companionship.
ReplyDeleteRefusal to also have the hysterectomy too might possible lead to her demise. Hence, the simplicity in the decision making. Save urself and lose any hope of a successful marriage.
Issues like these make induced abortion illegal and unethical in the eyes of many doctors cos u don't know if or when the lady will require a hysterectomy b4 she's ready to start a family.
Nothing is impossible for God though.
This is a difficult situation ooo, but God will see her through,human are dynamic in nature...but d guy loved her so much dats y he proposed but sentiments has came tru friend
ReplyDeleteYes I will.....if I love her truly
ReplyDeletehmmm this really a test of faith.
ReplyDeleteWhich faith abeg...they r not a union yet.the young can actually leave if he chose to
DeleteShe should keep her head up & pray for God's intervention........ Nothing is impossible!!! Life is the ultimate••••linda weytin i do you naaa.....abeg try post my comment
ReplyDeleteSue Amobi 4 breach of promise of marriage. Wat he did was illegal nd he deserves 2 pay.
ReplyDeleteSome of the biggest people on earth do not have kids of their own, they adopted! Yea we are Africans and still getting used to 'adoption' but 'family is not whose blood you share but who you love and who loves you back unconditionally.' But they again, it is your choice and you need to make decisions you can live with, so it doesn't really matter what all LIBers say, all we can do is point you in the right direction, it is your decision to follow or not.
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DeleteOff-course she deserved to be married and loved. Amobi is a shame. i have heard and seen women in church who gave birth without a womb.What happened to surrogacy or adoption? Abeg move on with your life, he doesn't deserve you. Get close to God....you know with God all things are possible.
ReplyDeleteAll these kind of troubles work out only for those who has faith in God. If I am Amobi, I would marry her, so far as I love her and she love me. God can do the miracle.
ReplyDeleteLove is foolishness so if u want to be foolish den u can go ahead, If I truely love her I would marry her but still av my own kids from another lady after 5yrs.
ReplyDeleteGOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!
YesTBH, if I were to be in his shoes. I would go ahead. God is powerful
ReplyDeleteI honestly would have no problem marrying a woman who can't give birth.
ReplyDeleteSorry my dear, u deserve 2 be happy nd loved unconditionally. May God heal ur pains give u another womb give u gud husband dat will loved u more dan amobi, in dis life in jesus name amen. Bestbobby19@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteSorry my dear, u deserve 2 be happy nd loved unconditionally. May God heal ur pains give u another womb give u gud husband dat will loved u more dan amobi, in dis life in jesus name amen. Bestbobby19@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteI don't know how to say this nicer but girl if Amobi who knows your situation decides to back out off marriage be cos hid friend told him so..then you don't need it or him..suppose you were fine and did marry him and yet no kids cos he turned out impotent, what would he expect of you. Painful as it may be the best thing is to let him go if he wants to. Cry for some time and put your life together and be a damp good success story.. Thank God for the era we are in, you have options of adoption and the likes and someone out there is waiting to call you mama....you never know, but a good man is around the corner waiting for a chance meeting to wipe your tears and put a smile on your face ...
ReplyDelete"No man is worth the aggrevation" circa Disney carton.....Hercules. !
This is a serious issue dat involve a lot of reasoning before taking d decision!!amaka deserves to be happy and amaobi equally deserves his own kids,so I think d best is for dem to go deir separate ways.Amaka will definitly be happy again witout amaobi but amaobi can't have his own kids with amaka.
ReplyDeleteI can as far as there is love btw the both Of us, we can as well adopt kids as much as we want.
ReplyDeleteAmobi shouldn't be crucified.He decided not to.Amaka should thank God for her life and carry on.God is still God.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!! POTABLE VIV
ReplyDeleteWow I dnt fnk he truly loves her,1thg v learnt is wen a man truly truly loves u nofng n no1 can chg his mind towards u.i fnk he shld v married her cos it's nt an easy decision for her eidr she had to save her life cos wts d point if dieing wit a womb? In dis world u can live peacefully without kids n u can alws adopt as humans we love kids wedr ours or nt,his loss cos she wil surely find sum1 else dt wil marry her regardless
ReplyDeleteLong story
ReplyDeleteIf Amobi want to marry her, it's up to him.
If she want to be happy, it's up to her too cos she knows that her condition is critical & Any man that would want to be with her can also break her heart anytime cos of her condition.
Amaka should be happy cos she will find someone that will love her with her condition.
BORN TO SHINE!!!
Yes I will marry her an we will adopt children
ReplyDeleteI would advice her to stay strong and pray for nothing is too big for God.another thing is that,everybody has a partner. That man will come soon.I will if I were the one.
ReplyDeleteLol,me I go mari am o becos of love buh I go jeje go make babies elsewhere cos me no go allow my generation pass away like dat and I guess and knw she would understand dat too...#IRESTMYCASE
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you just write the story in the first person then? I thought it was an advert.
ReplyDeleteKimmy*****
This is indeed a tough one, cos every man wants to hv children of thr own. Buh if he had truly loved her unconditionally , he wld hv gone ahead wt d marriage , not taking to friends advice.
ReplyDeleteI think he shld hv married her, make her understand that he will hv kids outside later, so she could learn to deal with it and be understanding. p4dworld@gmail.com
This is so unfortunate! Life is so uncertain and as such anything is possible. Well true love they say, never dies. If Amobi really loves her unconditionally then he should prove it now. Some people love so much that they cant allow anything come in btwn them and the one they truly love, not even childbearing. So it all boils down to whether he, Amobi truly loves her and is it truly unconditional? I dont wanna sound cocky and naive but the truth is, not being able to bear a child is not a reason for me to back outa a relationship. As long as she truly loves me faithfully we are gonna be okay and fine. The only thing that makes me stop loving is unfaithfulness. I am the that guy every lady desiring true and real love longs to have.
ReplyDeleteMy sympathies to Amaka. However Amobi's decision should not be seen from a wicked perspective. He is only human and is merely acting his feelings. I advise Amaka to face realities and forge ahead in life. Afterall some people have womb but cannot conceive.
ReplyDeleteMa advice for her is, let evrytin go nd yeah she deserve to be happy nd to be loved unconditionally. Her man is stupid enough to let her go
ReplyDeleteI think Amaka deserves to be Loved unconditionally and Amobi doesn't deserve her after all, in Nigeria we always make kids to be a big deal but in many other countries the case is not the same, For me I choose Love over any other thing, the pursuit of happiness is sometimes a long journey but once we find it we take it for granted, As far as I'm concerned Amobi might not be able to Love another as we go on in life but he has found it impossible to marry a girl who can't bear him kids. God sees, Gid knows and God rewards.... I'm a man that thinks Love is above all things which is what we lack in Nigeria where we only look for what will divide us instead of what should unite us, tribalism, religion e.t.c I have 2 friends that had an accident way back on 2 different occasions and their finances left them......
ReplyDeleteMove on and be yourself, yes, is not easy to swallow the good times you both have......things go wrong when we never expected. but in everything let's give God all the glory......
ReplyDeleteMove on and be yourself, yes, is not easy to swallow the good times you both have......things go wrong when we never expected. but in everything let's give God all the glory......
ReplyDeleteMove on and be yourself, yes, is not easy to swallow the good times you both have......things go wrong when we never expected. but in everything let's give God all the glory......
ReplyDeleteIf she can accept u tak a second wife or beta still u guyz can hav kids thru surrogate. So ur choice ma dear
ReplyDeleteMove on and be yourself, yes, is not easy to swallow the good times you both have......things go wrong when we never expected. but in everything let's give God all the glory......
ReplyDeleteWtf is wrong with u, pls and pls, save space for us
DeleteI dont blame Amobi, what if he wants a children? dear girl you can't deny him that. You should look for a man with kids already, a divorcee or a widower and shower love on his kids.
ReplyDeleteMove on and be yourself, yes, is not easy to swallow the good times you both have......things go wrong when we never expected. but in everything let's give God all the glory......
ReplyDeleteBeing a guy, I will call it off, I don't even need prompting from any friend.
ReplyDeleteWell good news for Amaka as of yesterday womb transplant is now possible , if she has any close frnd or her mum or sister who have finished giving birth , the person can donate her womb for her for the transplant , and as for amaobi he did what any of us would have done under pressure is only the strong once that can withstand that pressure especially those that love kids, so let's take it easy in judging him, if Amaka is interested in having kids I her own without a surrogacy the option I mentioned is one of her choice
ReplyDeleteIf they are DETERMINED, they can arrange for a surrogate woman to have their child with his sperm & her egg. It will be very challenging, but that's life.
ReplyDeleteIt's all the guy's decision to make.
ReplyDeleteIf i was amobi, these are the things that will be going through my mind:
1. If after marriage, it happens that I get another woman pregnant. How will amaka feel? How will she react? I don't want to hurt her.
2. What if I get another wife and keep her outside? Will I be capable of loving them both equally? Will it be ever possible to give them equal importance knowing that constant sex with the other one will result to a child and the other is just like pouring water in a basket?
3. I can't even do adoption. That's out of it. When its not that I am the one impotent.
4. Does amaka even love me that much? If reverse was the case, will she Sta with me?
5. I really don't trust what I am capable of doing or how our lives will be after marriage because of this situation. I don't want to be blamed for treating her bad and then family will say I should not have Married her if I cannot put her first or something ( when there are other women out there that love me and can give me babies)
So if you can give good answers and also talk with him about this. Things might turn out fine.
Besides he made mention that " with God all things are possible" so if u can strengthen this weakened faith of his..
Why do I have the feeling that this is Amobi indirectly expressing his own fears....
DeleteI have a cousin whose ovaries were removed due to ovarian cancer. Prior to the surgery she had been dating a white American for years and they are married now and so in love. The man knows they can't have children and has accepted it. You did not being the cancer upon yourself, if he listens to a friend and decides not to get married to you, he doesn't love you unconditionally. It's best he leaves before you get married and not get another woman pregnant after you get married, bring her into the house and kick you out. That would be more painful. Advice is, don't beg him,this is a big decision for him too and if he wants children and won't consider adoption there is no hope for the relationship, it would be endless pain if you proceed. Please, don't hide this from any relationship you get into, tell the person early enough so as not to get deeply involved and have a heart break. That's the difference between whites and blacks. A white man can marry a barren woman, they'll get a dog and live happily ever after.
ReplyDeleteMa advice for her is, let evrytin go nd yeah she deserve to be happy nd to be loved unconditionally. Her man is stupid enough to let her go
ReplyDeleteif it was the other way round, would Amaka marry him?
ReplyDeleteI won't blame Amobi it's only natural for him to act the way he did, he is human. As for Amaka she should put her trust in God because God is capable of making her smile again #onelovefromSnow#
ReplyDeleteWith God nothing is impossible.. #sigh
ReplyDeleteIt's quite sad. But the truth remains that marriage should not be outta pity. She should console herself. The guy was probably drunk in sentiments when he promised to marry her. What I'd like to ask her though is : " would she have allowed him have kids with another woman elsewhere?"
ReplyDeleteTHIS VERY BAD BUT I ADVICE FOR WOMB TRANSPLANT.
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Dear poster, i'm sorry you have had to go through a situation such as this and as someone who has been through a similar situation, i understand what it feels like for you to be told in the twinkle of an eye that children might not be an option for you anymore.You should not blame yourself for your boyfriends choices. If he is truly your man, he will stay with you, regardless of your ability to have children or not. It is God who gives kids; after all,there are many women with fully functioning ovaries, Fallopian tubes and wombs who have not been able to conceive.I also understand that Its one thing to decide not to have children for personal reasons but its another thing for that option to be forcefully taken away from you due to no fault of your own.There are some pertinent questions that have to be asked though; Were both ovaries removed? Is IVF treatment an option that can be explored? However,i need you to remember that regardless of how hopeless your situation seems, God is on the throne. He is the unchangeable changer and with him, all things are possible. I am a living witness to this. This time last year i underwent two major surgeries(details too lengthy for this comment) and they even drained like 5 liters of acetic fluid from my abdomen, the doctor was telling me something similar to what they told you(i broke down but after i remembered God's promises, i looked him in the eye and TOLD him, he would encounter the best case scenario when he cut me open on the operating table) but i looked to God cos i knew no one would understand; today,God has turned my tears into laughter.I am fine and i just wanted to share this with you to urge you to be strong. Don't give up on God and he will be there for you. He will give you beauty for ashes.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short girl, you deserve to be happy. tina.agori@yahoo.com
ReplyDelete4 October 2014 Last updated at 13:26 BST
ReplyDeleteA woman in Sweden has become the first in the
world to have a baby boy after having a womb
transplant.
The 36-year-old, who was born without a uterus,
gave birth by caesarean section last month after
receiving a womb donated by a friend.
Her son, named Vincent, was born prematurely in
September weighing 1.8kg (3.9lb) and was
described by his father as "the most amazing
baby".
A British medical team is planning the first womb
transplants in the UK next year.
SO I ADVICE FOR TRANSPLANT
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4 October 2014 Last updated at 13:26 BST
A woman in Sweden has become the first in the
world to have a baby boy after having a womb
transplant.
The 36-year-old, who was born without a uterus,
gave birth by caesarean section last month after
receiving a womb donated by a friend.
Her son, named Vincent, was born prematurely in
September weighing 1.8kg (3.9lb) and was
described by his father as "the most amazing
baby".
A British medical team is planning the first womb
transplants in the UK next year.
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FROM NWA NKWERRE
I will advise amobi to marry amaka only if there is love between the two partners, nothing is big for God to handle.
ReplyDeleteIf her future hubby can afford it,she could have children through a surrogate mother who could help deliver her fertilized egg(s) to conception or choose the adoption option. Besides there's nothing impossible for God
ReplyDeleteAmaka should keep searching and praying cos someone would surely marry her and for Amobi he really didn't love her if not he would have married her so to hell with him and Amaka keep living life good 😁✌️
ReplyDeletecertainly i can marry her,what matters is the love us
ReplyDeleteWhat a stupid ques.. Does she deserve to be loved unconditionally? !! Is she not human ..if this story is evn true.. Clearly u cnt handle a marraige with her.. So leave it for a man who cam luv her " unconditionally" .
ReplyDeleteWhy pine for a man who would leave you in your worst moment on advice from friends? Is the practice of having kids for old age caregiving done for? In the West, the childless live in nursing homes, assisted living facilities and supportive communities. These are all models that can be adapted in Africa so people have kids because they can or want to, not because they have to.
ReplyDeletePEOPLE PEOPLE HABA. SHOULD SHE MARRY HIM IF THE CASE IS REVERSED AND HE HAS PROSTATE CANCER AND HE IS UNABLE TO MAKE HER PREGNANT. I AM SURE WE ALL WILL WANT HER TO STAND BY HER MAN. WHY NOT AMOBI NOW. CHILDREN ARE GIFT FROM GOD NOT FROM MAN. THERE ARE MANY CHILDREN WITH NO PARENTS IN THIS WICKED WORLD. AN ADOPTION CAN RESOLVE ANY CHILDLESS COUPLE. KEEP FAITH YOUR MAN IS ON THE WAY.
ReplyDeleteStupid story, least u could do is get the symptoms of ovarian cancer right. mtchewwwww.
ReplyDeletei am not surprised he didnt marry her, after all he's an 'african man'. We need to open our minds to new options like surrogacy, adoption etc. and that is for those without faith enough to believe.
ReplyDeleteIs God dat gives children, Wat if he marries another woman and dat woman can't give her a child. We should think before we talk it can happen to any of us, or to our sisters. If u truly luv her just marry her, God can surprise u, he has don before and he can still do it again
ReplyDeleteHe can still have biological children by using donor eggs and a surrogate, she could freeze her eggs before surgery meaning she could still have biological children too. And there is always adoption too. Technology has advanced , there are many options.
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ReplyDeleteI can only say ask God for a confirmation....if he gives you a go ahead he would see you through....that I Knw...I Knw of a woman...a fwnd shared her testimony..she was without s womb..BT after 7 yrs or so...she gave birth to a boy....worm or no womb miracles still happen...and there is also adoption... I have friends with womb..and still don't have kids...some even IVF didn't work for them..some had to adopt... In summary...ask from God...d worse mistake is marrying the wrong person....Linda plsssss post this
different comments from different people with different ideas of marriage. first of all,love knows no bounds or ailment, if a man cannot love you and accept you in your downtime,then he certainly cannot love you if you were whole. there's a reason for everything, now im sure you know what true love means. my dear, move on with your life, put your trust in God and hold on to him as your anchor, he will never disappoint you, your true love is on the way, if u have faith and believe, it is well with you and all the good ladies here.
ReplyDeleteShe should marry a Polygamous man who loves her and who can have children with other women
ReplyDeleteI will and later paid for a surrogate
ReplyDeletedifferent comments from different people with different ideas of marriage. first of all,love knows no bounds or ailment, if a man cannot love you and accept you in your downtime,then he certainly cannot love you if you were whole. there's a reason for everything, now im sure you know what true love means. my dear, move on with your life, put your trust in God and hold on to him as your anchor, he will never disappoint you, your true love is on the way, if u have faith and believe, it is well with you and all the good ladies here.
ReplyDeleteWhy unlove when you can rent a womb. Why????
ReplyDeleteits because we all know that amaka cant have a child can amobi have children??? All of you saying you cat marry her cos she "cant" have children are you sure you can??? How many have you had???? barrenness is not only from the woman's part it is a two-way street. Amobi has moved on now good for him, amaka should also move on cos amobi is in her past now but sweetheart its only God dat can make the impossible possible. i know of a man that married a lady that was HIV positive even after the church tried to convince him otherwise because of fear she wasnt promiscuous her exhubby was and had died. they married and have 2 kids now, and couple still young too married and less than a year later the woman had to remove a tumour from her womb they are now waiting on the lord for a child and their love is real, lemme change gear i also know of an old couple the man shud be in his late 60s or early 70s now about 8yrs ago his first wife passed they were childless and my mom had finally convinced the woman to adopt (which is not bad at all i have an adopted baby sis and we are 4 in our family now 5) she fell ill and passed away and Oga moved on and married another wife young lady, fine girl she see money so she marry till today they do not have any child so who has the problem, the man or his wives??? Amaka know God and rely on only him seek his counsel and he would help you in Jesus name. Its only God that can save.
ReplyDeletelove conquer's all things, but.....
ReplyDeletemy dear pray had and work had GOD will see u truly but marriage it"s not in heavenly.
ReplyDeleteSWeet heart. Please read this book it is known as 'Supernatural CHild birth' by Jakie Mize. It will change ur life like it happened to me..Jakie Mize was a woman who was told by the doctors she wld never cooncieve but she ended up with all the children she wanted. Read it and trust God and be open. Tell any new suitor of urs all that happened without lies or mincincing words... God bless
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ReplyDeleteAmaka has to pray to God for her womb to be restored no man will want to marry a woman dat has no womb cuz some men are so faithless.
ReplyDeleteWell its obvious, in our present society, marriage is for kids not companionship. Babe,screw him and the society. You are alive and cancer free.You owe God not society, not him.So rise above the dirt and move on.
ReplyDeleteAmobi marry amaka biko, afterall no be EBOLA she get.
ReplyDeleteWhen you're sleeping with him...did u seek my advice?
ReplyDeleteTo be honest Amaka you need someone who would think about you more than the unborn children you are still planning on having. There are so many ways to get children nowadays. I mean you can do surrogacy or adopt.
ReplyDeleteTanks for all your positive response. But dis story is as real as the sun rises and sets everyday. And its not a fabrication cause it truly appened to me. Though it has been hard. But God is to faithful to fail.
ReplyDeleteOvarian cancer??? Mass found on uterus??? Is d uterine mass a metastatic mass or what nd yet dr alabi said d cancerIis in its early stages?do u hv a hysterectomy for an ovarian cancer with having an ovariectomy?
ReplyDeleteTola is a witch!!!! And Amobi is a fool
ReplyDeleteyou should look for someone else that knows about it from the start, because its not fair on you that you got cancer but its also not fair that he can't have kids and it happened when you were together
ReplyDeleteSome pple wicked Ooº°˚ ˚°ºo dem wan finish person pikin wit insults.......lol babe u hate dis guy shall, dt small mistake u wan run am down. Take am easy
ReplyDeleteSo don't they know of womb transplant? any of her relative or friends who may or may not have stopped child birth could give or loan her a womb to help carry her baby.Is this not an issue.
ReplyDeleteOctober 5, 2014 at 9:10 AM SHUT UP YOU SILLY THING AND IF YOU HAVE NOTHING TANGIBLE TO CONTRIBUTE JUST KEEP SHUT ONIRANU SOMEBODY NANSENSE MSCHEW
ReplyDeleteI think he should have married her.
ReplyDeletein my opinion i believe she deserves happiness like every other person, she should try and pull herself together and carry on. this situation she views as a terrible loss just might have prevented something worse that could have happened in the future. its definitely not the end...www.askralph.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteJust a pity,if is me i will marry her and wait for God's time there is nothing God cannot do.
ReplyDeleteIf the understand was still they and he still loves her then he could have married her then hold unto God for a miracle
ReplyDeleteEmmm...oya wait let me read the story first..
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It's easier said than done, I pray that God gives you the courage to move..i'm glad youve shared your problem on this platform which shows it's half solved. Move closer to God..I pray for a good testimony for you soon. #AwguBoy
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ReplyDeletemarriage is not fun, it is serious business. supposing it is the man, where she knew that the man cannot perform would she stay put? let us be objective.
ReplyDeleteyes i would marry her if she agrees for surrogation from my blood and not ADOPTION of another blood.
For her, she should eye widower which has gotten children or a man that do not care of having children. Contrary to these is regrettable venture with any man.
for those that are saying Amobi should not marry her. what if she didn't tell Amobi about her condition and he went ahead and married her would he had known? or probably he will find out after marriage. Amobi made a big mistake by promising her marriage after knowing her condition. and how hartbreak
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