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Sunday, 6 July 2014

Why I married Ese Walter - Benny Ark opens up

Benny Ark, the Coolfm Abuja OAP who married Ese Walter, the young lady who exposed her affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA ministries in 2013, says her forthrightness to speak out about her affair with the married clergyman endeared her to him. What Benny told Sunday Sun below...
"Amazingly, the people around us were supportive and understanding. It was some outsiders who were not privy to a whole lot of stuff that were making some kind of remarks. But the truth is, we were just friends when she told me about what happened. I was pained and hurt because here was a man who I held in high esteem. I only told her to do what she had to do because she felt like she was enslaved by something she didn’t have control over. And when she tried to reach out for disclosure that would have led to her healing, she was treated badly by some people who sent the message that some person is untouchable. I can tell you that she reached out not once or twice. Continue..
In the end, she did what she did for her peace of mind and to encourage others who are in a similar situation. She opened up not because she is the boldest person; she knew that she was taking a big risk. But she opened up because she is someone who has a conscience and will not stand for something wrong. Her making that bold move endeared her to me. When she came out with the truth, I believed her, having heard the same story two or three times from other women. When she spoke out, she was attacked. But I believe that with her simple act of speaking the truth, she not only liberated herself but also other women in a similar situation" he said

129 comments:

  1. Nice and understanding husband. GOD bless your union!

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  2. Wow,such an understanding hubby.

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  3. OK. Am not in a position to judge!! Goodluck in your marriage..

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  4. Ok o congrats!

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  5. I can see he has a small dick in the weddn pics

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  6. Hmmmmm...kool story bro.....

    Www.dondumex.com

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  7. Okay girls you heard him, go bed a pastor, be forthright about it and you land and OAP husband. How to get an OAP manual written by Benny Arik.

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    1. U r obviously dumb... fish brain

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    2. @hilary, your comment is absolute rubbish!

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    3. Shut up Hilary. You're too old for this sick joke. And it's 'Ark' mofo!

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    4. Hillary, that's very silly. Must you comment!

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  8. nyz hubby. Ogunaomi@gmail.com

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  9. CharlesEndy a.k.a Dr. Pepper6 July 2014 at 12:26

    Ok. Fare thee well.

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  10. Good for them #bright bravo#

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    1. Onyx I don't want to believe you're truly gay. I see no reason why Benny's bulge in between his legs will be more important than the content of this news/post. Snap outta this juvenile behaviour as soon as possible. Please.

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  12. Good for una.

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  13. My Broda I understand u in all totality, after all let he who is without sin cast the first stone...

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  14. hmmmm... nkemdirimeverista111@gmail.com

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  15. Bcuz she's a scholar in Bedmatics "I will teach u a level of grace dat u won't undastand".Spiritual

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  16. She was bold indeed.

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  17. *in mama peace's voice* Ok, continu!
    *** forst to comment ***

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  18. K

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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  19. Das wot I call a good woman

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  20. hmmm..wish u luck all d same

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  21. Superb. Pretex4luv@yahoo.com, 08063645540. Mi email is nt functional at d moment.

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  22. nice.. patoswife@gmail.com

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  23. Nt lyk she was a kid wen she had d affair or she was rapd.. wishn dem well bt stay out of media. . Sm pple av evn forgotten abt it

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  24. Plsssssssssss some1 should recommend a soap on telemundo 4 me with short summary of wat it's abt...thanks. Tasha!

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  25. LMAOO. THIS is the reason why you marry someone ? Lol THIS. Nawa..HML again.

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  26. Well, u had better not do somtin crazy to her, cus she might just use dat outspoken character of hers' (dat u so admired) against you

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  27. Nice one! We are still waiting 4 d robust reply frm dat Coza pastor

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  28. congrate girl n hml,really like u for ur boldness n for speaking out.





    timozo say so.

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  29. Benny Ark am so proud of u, n glad that Ese was blessed with a man of ur ilk. God bless both of you

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  30. You both look good together. At the end of the day you're both making this journey together and I wish you both all the happiness you deserve.

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  31. I believe she shld v said it and not expose d pastor..wisdom is profitable to direct. nw wat is her gain.

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  32. Guy, your wife went to f..k man of God with her eyes open so stop trying to make her a saint...did the pastor rape her? Anyone can marry a prostitute but stop trying to make your prostitute to look holy.Carry your madam, enter into your house and keep quiet.birds of the same feather...that cant seem to keep shut.

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    1. The man of God that slept with her is a prostitute by your definition dafty

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    2. Erm madam no vex o! Pastor knw say e na ashewo! D guy don lock up since den (robust reply loading........) na ur hubby suppose lock up based on say e carry pastor ashewo + runs gel thingz put for house!

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  33. Hmmm! Wishin u guys a blissful home!
    Mamafunkky@gmail.com

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  34. 1 John 1:8:'If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us'.

    Benny Ark is cool!
    Ese Walter is cool!

    Two cool people!

    The moral of this interview? Some men don't like fakes. Ese is not a fake lady and Benny is a real man.

    Don't claim to be what you are not. Say the truth, and the truth will set you free.

    Wishing Ese and Benny a happy married life, with lovely kids.:-)

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  35. I Respect Ese Walter anytime and anyday. She represents the growing face of change in the Nigerian Culture. God has vindicated you

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  36. Kk noted bt dis issue is dead nd gone bt den again is non of ma business...

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  37. Very good.

    And eleven months after, we are still waiting for a robust response from Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.

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    1. Abi o
      Some people are still calling him man of God
      Not saying he is not o
      But he should stop sleeping with girl in church
      That was not Jesus-conduct

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  38. I'm just happy for ese..... God. Bless your marriage

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  39. Ok heard. Happy married life.

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  40. Let it rest mr Ark, you're beginning to seem like a fame whore!

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    1. Is the pastor a fame whore too.
      Stupid double standards

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  41. This is a 100% true because I once wore Ese's shoes, I know women in church who did, some are still there others left for the peace of their mind, no one is saying what she did is right, but trust me it's d way he blatantly comes on u that throws yu off guard... ud b shocked the kind of power play he wields, guys may not get it, but women do... I do pray he has changed.

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    1. He has, and I know your type mumu girl like you. You see fine boy pastor you loose your gaurd. Do you want me to mention your names? I can start fro ilorin days to after Ese Walter......me and you know he is called and that's an attack on the body of christ.

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    2. So what you're concerned about is the church's image? Keep it under wraps, let everything look good to the public.

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    3. It is not an attack on the body. The man is an ashewo who has confessed Jesus but is not converted. How many of you heard of the 12 disciples sleeping with 400 girls about, would the gospel have spread. Having the anointing is no excuse for a lack of character. He is in danger of hell.

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  42. na wa oh.so dat pastor actually shag dis pretty gal n dump her.

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  43. After spreading her legs for a married man she now claims to be a victim abi!?! Abeg go and sit down

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    1. So that married man, is he a victim.
      Judgmental idiot.

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    2. Ese why u d fool urself d comment? The married man is the victim! Think, u fucked him for one week! Den u suddenly realize that u shld start telling d whole world of ur nonsense! SMH. Ur act has victimized him! He has a church n family! U had nothing to lose by exposing him! Is only ur drunk hubby wey dey find frame come marry u! U nor even fine!

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  44. Story for the gods....



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  45. Really ? You are a courageous man Benny

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  46. Oh well... no one cares but good for him sha

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  47. U both look realy beautiful! Coza na una n God!

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  48. Fine dude...Lucky Ese.. best of luck to u both

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  49. Guy park well! Did COZA pastor meet Ese a virgin? Wasn't she fucking him for a week in London? She may as well report all the men she slept wit before and after d pastor! So y is d pastor so special? Guy u r nt thinking! Ese said d story for cheap gains and to boost her blog!
    Thinking every character in the story expect u gained badly:
    1. Ese: she was enjoying fucking the pastor for a week in London. 2. She reports the story and her popularity soars!!! 3. Ese marry her "mumu" hubby (dats u) even in these days of no husband she gained
    2. COZA pastor: enjoyed fucking your wife for one week (despite the fact dat Ese knew he was married) 2. The scandal didn't affect the church or his marriage rather it boosted his name n career.
    3. Benny: mumu guy dat marries the bad girl turned good, think, u didn't gain anything rather some rebel as a wife dat wld sell u out not minding the consequence. Wen u dey pity her, and she dey tell u nonsense story! Did d pastor meet her a virgin? Wot of the oda men dat had been fucking her b4 n after d pastor! I think they are took advantage of her?. Guy! Park well o! Nor dey talk of ur wife matter! Make d matter rest abeg! SmH!!!

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    1. And u are the judge?

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    2. You've just announced yourself as a die hard member of his church. Good for you.

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    3. "The scandal didn't affect the church or his marriage rather it boosted his name n career".

      Listen to yourself. Carnal Christian. And what does God think about all this?
      Do you think he will enter heaven just because he saves souls? He has made sin a practice. From Ilorin days till now how many years has it been and he has not overcome the sin of adultery, when will he graduate. He is a bloody adultery. He should surrender himself to Jesus as Lord so that he should stop plundering the sheep he is supposed to be feeding.
      God help us fulfil our purpose without destroying millions of soul in the name of protecting ministry.

      Ministry must be protected but Jesus can defend his own name.

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    4. Dunce!!!! I don't knw d guy or go to his church! after Ese fucked him and wrote abt d story was d first time I heard abt COZA ( in did her pussy worked d magic)

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  50. You didn't seek the face of God if she's your wife all you care for was her boldness. Pray she don't use the boldness on you one day. Nonsense

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  51. Yes. I respect her for speaking up. Hypocrites will curse, but nothing beats peace of mind.... I respect him (Benny) also for looking beyond her past and ignoring every other persons opinion.
    It could have only been love, may God bless their union.

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    1. God bless you. We need more people like you and not bloody hypocrites who will still fail in marriage.

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  52. What will be will be. U̶̲̥̅̊ married her not because she said †Ñ’ξ truth or opened up about her affair with †Ñ’ξ pastor BUT bcos she's ur WIFE. God bless ur union

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  53. Owk. *Flora*

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  54. Yeah and trust the hypocrites to have something to say about it. Remove the log in your eye before removing the speck in someone else's eye.

    Many castigated the poor girl but I know it could happen to anyone. Am not also condoning her actions too cuz its wrong to meet anyone (Pastor or otherwise) in a hotel environment but puhleeeeeeze, we ALL have a past and no one has a right to judge!!!

    May your marriage be fruitful. We need more non-judgmental men like u in this world. Same with women.

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    1. Just what I was saying.
      God bless benny Ark for being a true Christian
      The other men think they are Christians
      They are bloody pharisees.

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    2. Naaaaa! Other men love to play it safe by using condoms n avoiding wahala women (Ese things)

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  55. Pls waat is dis half nd half gist I. Want to knw d gist d complete gist,kabishhhhh #bebo

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  56. Linndo I JUst Pray & Hope dat ds dat brought dem together will not separate dem too soon ....!

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  57. Nobody is talking about her saying d truth, we r talking about ur marriage to her! You engaged Rosemary last year after a 5yrs live-in relationship on ur bday bash in front of friends/colleagues nd it was announced to whole of Abj on radio via Coolfm's GoodMorningNigeriaShow through Chika/Gang. Now u married Ese on ur next bday one yr after nd u call it love? We all know nd listen to u Benny, u like hanging ur coat were ur hand can't reach, I hope dis one doesn't burn u! Hope u r enjoying ur celebrity status now cos dats all u always wanted!





    #Ardent CoolFmAbuja Fan/Friend of the family#

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  58. Ok sir. we don hear.

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  59. ITS THE TRUTH...

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  60. He's a good man, it takes nothing but grace to acknowledge ones wrong and act towards making it right. May they find marital bliss together

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  61. Kudos 2 her. Wish dem happiness. Just sayin...D Curious1

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  62. Toh Toh! It's all goodd

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  63. hehehe...I dey laugh.

    I bet he just wants to know what it feels like to ''roll in the sheets'' with the psycho.

    Give them two years and they'll change baton.

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    1. I curse your word in Jesus name
      They will come to nothing. Back to sender in Jesus name, amen

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  64. beautiful couple

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  65. Good that you stood by her... may God bless you both always.... As for Pastor Biodun, I do hope he will truly repent.... Its not about protecting the empire "Coza" but

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    1. It is about putting Jesus first
      Roman Empire fell
      Only what is built on Jesus can stand
      From where I am looking
      He built the foundation on adultery
      Let's hope Jesus has a plan for them.

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  66. Lol bros u owe no body an explanation

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  67. They shld stop making news already.
    $$k@y$$

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  68. Super story. She had an affair with my boss late last year.

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    1. Liar
      Beefer
      bad mouther
      you will never know peace.

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  69. I like this guy.

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  70. d ark of cool.i luv ur courage man.u no send any1 @ all.as 4 d randy pastor,u can not deceive every1.God is surely watchin.4 d remainin pastors,alfa,priest n imams,make una change oo.

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  71. was your wife forced into the relationship. does she not know that the pastor was married. she could have closed this within the church council. pls let the case of your wife not be like Ham & canaan one of the son of Noah who saw the nakedness of his made jest of him gen9:21 -25. Canaan was cursed for it. unless the man in quest is not called by God that is only way your wife will be free of this act Boldness.

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    1. Like they close all others and the pastor continues his bad conduct
      sleeping with all the girls

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  72. Nice
    cute4everpinky@yahoo.co.nz

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  73. The pastor did abuse her. He had a position of power over her and used it to his advantage. Though she was of age, she was still abused. Mr. COZA pastor is a scumbag on the same level as molester Catholic priests. Age is irrelevant when a clergy ends up in bed with someone who looks to him for advice and spiritual guidance.

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  74. God Bless you for standing by her.... God bless you both. As for the COZA pastor, hope he repents!

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  75. mehn! y does he feel he needs to explain to the world? you married a wh*re.....deal with it! whatever she had was consensual so ......adult clause....whatever

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    1. He married a woman, bastard
      You are the whore
      back stabbing, judgmental
      bound to amount to nothing idiot

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  76. not all men of God will make heaven anyway. Pastor flee from fornication.

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  77. like seriously who cares to know the reason why you married your wife,better package your self inside your home before you will hear the worst of it.ADVICE

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  78. Beautiful Couple... haters go hug transformer

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  79. Well said, i wish them goodluck

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  80. This dude's mother in-law and siblings must be the nicest people in the world, some mother in-laws would have fought the marriage. She needed a money bag boyfriend and the pastor played into her hand.Any way, I hope she is truly repented, buh this chick is gat a strong heart to hv dated a married pastor, wasn't your heart palpitating all the while u were in a relationship wt him? why would u agree to such? at most you quit his church.Money money.

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    1. Was the pastor's heart palpitating
      Abi God gave him permission to commit adultery
      Her popsie is rich, she wanted to serve God and the pastor manipulated her with sense
      I have been there, I didn't fall but I was badly bullied. A weaker less protected person may
      have committed suicide, I know what goes on in some churches.

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  81. He married her cos she is from a rich home! Gold digger

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    1. Actually they pay cool fm enough not to bother about money.

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  82. I love you both and you guys did something very brave
    Speaking out was her choice and I am happy she did what set her soul free.
    The blood of Jesus will cover you from the mouth of the wicked because the Lord loves you both
    The glory of God will protect you because he is the one who forgives you and protect you.

    The people whom you can't touch, God will touch for your sake. Remain under the blessing.

    For entrepreneurship: visit http://www.udookonjo.com

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  83. Lmaoo!! All dis comments are just hilarious ... well we all know benny ark is a celebrity wanna be soo ese walter was just d platform he needed to upgrade nation wide..guess d oda lady he dated for 5 years was too weak for him. Anyways No matter wat ese wrote, she wasnt forced in2 sleeping wit a married man forget dat he is a pastor :did she tink of his wife wen she was rolling in his bed for a week imagine 1week of intense Bold Banging hia (deris :God o!) Dis babe is just a home wrecker aristo chic without a job .. very soon benny she is gonna write about you n we d monitoring spirits are waiting to see d drama unfold ... hehehehe (evil laugh) .....@least dey both got free big buzz abt dere wedding on social media .. n after all said n done COZA still stands(now dats higher Grace )........ oh b4 i forget new dictionary word alert ...........hey gal have u seen dat new pastor gosh ! He is soo yummy am so gonna pull an #ESEWALTER on him for 1 week of higher grace ....if u know wat I mean ....*winks

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  84. Anon 12:15 Am, that joke of yours was super DRY!!!

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  85. Instead of washing your dirty linen out on the streets, why not try facing your homes and making ur marriages work? If pastor biodun wasn't a man oof God, he won't face such temptation. So all u haters of the man #esewalterfollowers should get a seat and watch the man grow in favour with God and men.

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