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Sunday, 1 June 2014

Gender discrimination at Spice Lounge. Kemi Adetiba tells her story

TV personality/music video director Kemi Adetiba tells of how she was turned back when she went to dine at Spice Restaurant and Lounge on Adeola Odeku in Victoria Island yesterday because she was alone but the restaurant allowed single men to enter. How stupid is this? See more of what she wrote after the cut...



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  1. Are u kidding moi? V.i of all places? Gosh! Nigerians will always b Nigerians!always tinkin a man mkes a woman

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    1. Linda how about getting in touch with spice, try to find out the basis of their policy. Gender discrimination is a NO NO, but I will equally love to know why they have such policy in place.

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    2. This is the most sensible comment you have made on this blog

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    3. victoria osuagwu2 June 2014 at 11:24

      Oh kemi its not a first! My female friend n I went to hv a late lunch at churassco (dunno if I spelt that right) and we were refused service, after seating for like 30 minutes we had to leave, its funny cos two more couples came in n they were attended to, me thinks that they feel young ladies eating alone are lookin for magas or sugar daddies, but thats really silly

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  2. I can't believe she went in after being bounced, she should have just walked away.

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    1. My thoughts exactly. @swerve

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  3. Nawa oo even in nigeria? This is stupid,very stupid

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  4. lmaoooooo #painment

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  5. No big deal the restaurant are not encouraging prostitution if u are a single man if you bring in a prostitute that is your own cup of tea they have seen some embarrassment from some single ladies who prostitute before, you only need to identify yourself.

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    1. Does that now warrant treating every single lady like a prostitute? You must either be a fool or the manager of that shank.

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    1. And it's an Indian restaurant I think.Dirty people. She sud never hv bothered entering the place..

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  7. Do u blame dem? Wen sum single ladies go out alone to hunt 4 men.......de must have their reasons though dis method isn't d best way shaa. Catholic amarokwa na ofu onye abiaro uka.

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    1. Mheeeeen! Your igbo dey kill me! Chai! Classic! Be my friend please! Ka anyi na atapu igbo ofuma! Where are you from, btw?

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  8. No big deal the restaurant are not encouraging prostitution if u are a single man if you bring in a prostitute that is your own cup of tea they have seen some embarrassment from some single ladies who prostitute before, you only need to identify yourself.
    YS

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  9. No big deal the restaurant are not encouraging prostitution if u are a single man if you bring in a prostitute that is your own cup of tea they have seen some embarrassment from some single ladies who prostitute before, you only need to identify yourself.
    YS

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  10. That's crazy. Only in Naija.

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  11. That is the most stupid thing that happens in Lagos especially Island.it so untutored

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  12. Abeg na spice resturant u go face, not me, not any1 else... Linda wich kain news b dis on d first day of a new month for God's sake????

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  13. What rubbish is this? Only in Nigeria they insult single women like this!!!!

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    1. Have you heard of a country called INDIA?

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  14. Is this a joke or what? This is d height of stupidity and highest level of insult to women. The owner of the place must be a lunatic. If you can't allow single ladies, then same should apply to men. ( which still doesn't make sense to me thou)... Hello spice management, if u were re really trying so hard to do something outside the box... U should just make ur miserable restaurant COUPLES ONLY! Sick people!

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  15. That was how I had a date with my bf at Radisson blu and I arrived earlier than him. The kept me at the gate for so long and wouldn't let me drive past the gate until I call who I'm there to see to come identify me. My bf drove in about 30mins later. Needless to say the drama that ensured that day was no childs play. They eventually apologised though and claimed the security guard was new.

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  16. Lol!She needs t come to abuja where many single accomplished women r treated same way at hotel entrances.clubs.bar.resturants.D Hilton is notorious for this!They bliv once u r single n unaccompanied by a man,u r a prostitute!

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  17. Wow, they are really bleeding, kidding bla bla blah!

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  18. those men ain't acomplished like u are...as if she followed dem to dia house or sumfin...

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  19. Hmm... Thts totally ridiculous!!...that's naija shaa.
    I always make a scene when things like this happen to me.. Manager ends up letting me eat anything I want for free..wldnt try tht in naija tho; to avoid embarrassment.

    *My R1.50c comment *

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  20. Gender discrimination is really something that has eaten deep into Nigerian society, and must be frowned at, at all levels


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  21. it would be about gender discrimination if there were male prostitutes trying to get in and vandalise the image of the restaurant as well.

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  22. This isn't anything new this has been happening n is still happening in some restaurants/bar's I guess u knw how dem runz girls usually go to a bar unaccompanied sit down buy water or maybe Snapp n wait for a male customer to approach em quite disgusting, She should be grateful she was recognised n let in u cnt actually blame some business owner's dem runz girls don spoil every lol

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  23. What a ridiculous restaurant.

    Hope it shuts-down soon.

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  24. WTF? Dats rubbish....went to dar club last friday and it was so cool.

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  25. If its true then na wa for them o......

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    1. Its so true. I was invited for a gig there once. They're so insensitive when it comes to issues like that. A lady can't have a nice time in that lounge...plus they guys they let in are perverts.

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    2. I don't care if you have problems with hoes and olosho's but if your sense of judgement can't make you decipher ladies from hustlers, then sorry you've many customers.

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    3. So many joints do it these days because some of these single girls/prostitutes go their to hustle. Sometimes they turn a decent place into a brothel and thereby scaring away responsible men who patronise such places.

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    4. See why Lagos girls steal people's husbands!

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    5. Well, it's obvious they don't know you Kemi, don't get pissed. Moreso, it's your first time there! Ask other Celebs if they've allowed them in before you spit venom

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  26. Lin lin re u just knowing,d reason is dat single ladies wit no male company only came 2 mingle with men.

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    1. Ms Linda in her usual Gender sentiments will take sides with Kemi without analysing the situation.

      Those managing Spice Lounge take such "Measures" to ensure their Business Premises are not taken over by Runs Girls/Ashawo. It's a simple measure High-Brow Eateries/Restaurants take to keep their Business premises in check.

      Kemi should understand simple measures like this and stop seeking unnecessary attention. Atleast she was allowed in after introducing herself.

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    2. Are you high or retarded?

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    3. Ms Linda in her usual Gender sentiments will take sides with Kemi without analysing the situation.

      Those managing Spice Lounge take such "Measures" to ensure their Business Premises are not taken over by Runs Girls/Ashawo. It's a simple measure High-Brow Eateries/Restaurants take to keep their Business premises in check.

      Kemi should understand simple measures like this and stop seeking unnecessary attention. Atleast she was allowed in after introducing herself.

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    4. You are daft if this is your opinion.
      I have been married for 12 years but every now and then my friends both married and single like to hang out for some girl time.
      Why would some ass swipes think all single ladies are there to mingle.but even if they did,what about the single men entering without partners.most of them are also there to "mingle"..

      I'm bad mouthing spice bar hence forth.

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    5. Preposterous! At this globalised and sexually equalised age and time? This is outright discrimination of the highest degree. I think Kemi should sue, I mean a legal action should be imposed on them. This is only getting this much awareness because the victim is a celeb, how many more respectable ladies have been so humiliated and publicly mutilated by this Spice lounge and co. They should have been aware that pulling a move like this is publicity suicide in this socially driven media age.

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  27. Nsogbu! Go to another restaurant madame

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  28. See gone for spice restaurant ooo... That is very bad of them though... I get it that they probably want to discourage girl who go to such places to scout for rich men but c'mon....

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  29. I think the word Linda was looking for in the story's headline is 'unaccompanied?' Many highbrow restaurants bounce unaccompanied ladies to ensure that their place of business does not turn to an ashawo haven- not judging these ladies in the world's oldest profession though as our economy and ignorance are not helping issues at all at all. Kemi no vex that they did not recognize a star like you. They were probably just protecting their investment.

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    1. Do you know how many unaccompanied men are there to pick up boys and girls?????

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  30. Not only gender discrimination but marital status discrimination.What nonsense! Apparently this people haven't read Regina Askia's post on all this rubbish.Some people are still living in the stone age.mtcheew

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    1. Stupid Brainless People like you will always Read and swallow Linda's opinion.

      Your Brainwashed Brain should understand that Many highbrow and classy Restaurants bounce ladies who visit such Restaurants A'times to protect their business from been taken over by Ashawos/Runs Girls.

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    2. Stupid Brainless People like you will always Read and swallow Linda's opinion.

      Your Brainwashed Brain should understand that Many highbrow and classy Restaurants bounce ladies who visit such Restaurants A'times to protect their business from been taken over by Ashawos/Runs Girls.

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  31. I think all women should stay away from that place, and anywhere else there is discrimination. This sorts of unnecessary discrimination against women cannot continue.

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  32. Maybe dey think say na RUNS girl and u can never tell.

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  33. But this is bunkum na.What sorta nonsense policy is this.Its not only gender but marital status discrimination.Mtcheew

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  34. I think she is over reacting. It is a standard policy for a lot of big restaurants abroad not to allow single or unattached ladies into the facility. It is aimed at curbing soliciting and other such practices if you know what I mean.

    They would however make exceptions for known faces or ladies recommended by regular patrons.

    She should be glad she was let in after she introduced herself.

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    1. THIS IS A LIE? Which abroad? Where human rights exist? And that restaurant won't gt shut down? Have you left Nigeria or nah?

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    2. This is a very big lie, I visited the Uk and Scotland and I went to several restaurants, pubs,etc unaccompanied. Nobody will even prevent u from entering.they are happy to get customers. No gender discrimination. this only happens in lagos.Linda, me and u get serious beef against each other, dats why u hardly post my comments. I dash u. its ur time. SINGLE LADIES SAY NO TO 'SPICE Whatever'

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    3. Lol @ Eva. Visited "UK and Scotland"? Are you sure??? Last time I checked, Scotland was in the UK. Abi you collect 2 different visas ni?

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  35. is it not the fault of your female sisters?....you want all the prostitutes in Lagos to come there and run the place down....spice bar is frequented by expats and indians...henceforth ladies of the night try to swarm on the place hence the no single girl policy...

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    1. And you give credence to these "expats and Indians".
      Yuck!!!!they are the ones that patronize the flesh trade the most.
      Like I said,do you know how many male ashawos are swarming our streets and bars?smh for this my country.

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  36. To think that after you stopped you,you waited and begged for them to let you in,they did,you entered,ate,paid then came on social media to Vent?? The Ain is defeated.once they made that statement,you should have turned back to show your stance,not afterwards,so pls darling Kemi go and cook at home and eat....if a restaurant say they don't want single girls,they must have a reason,and we all know the reason,but there shld be times when protocol can be broken.esp.if it's a known and Reputable individual.thing is they didn't know you..but it's okay girl,these things happen.dont start swearing that nobody u know will go there.if I like the place and enjoy their food and I am ur friend,you can't influence me oo.true.thats how I roll.but then if your friends don't have a mind of their own then u can influence them....

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    1. U people just open mouth n talk, so if she is closing milion dollar deal in d place she should allow dis stupid policy block her blessing,a lady was embarrassed once in exams hall for putting on v- neck, she sharply collect a guy shirt, so she shuld av gone ohm n get xtra year abi?

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    2. God Bless You a million times!!!

      It's a very simple Logic those managing the Spice Lounge Restaurant are using to make sure their Business don't get adulterated with Runs Girls that will come there and sit down with a Bottle of "Bottled" water for over 6 Hours.

      Ms Linda in her Annoying Gender sentiments will as usual take sides with Kemi without analysing the situation.

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    3. Kemi should relax jo. That's their policy and if you are not cool wt it, don't go again. I'm sure you also have your own business policies. Pele. Ma binu.

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    4. I agree.kemi you should NOT have entered.not then not ever.

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    5. U r obviously use to being mistreated so it's ok for u. The girl aired her mind based on HER experience and u r talking about how she can't influence u if u were her friend. Bitch/mitch pls!

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  37. Dear Kemi, what you are trying to do is ABUSE OF POWER. You have a platform as an OAP and you want to use it (probably) to run someone else's biz down. This EXACTLY what we accuse our leaders/politicians of -ABUSE OF POWER/POSITION. At this level and influence you have you are so ready to use negatively; wonders what you will do if given a bigger platform! Not allowing single ladies in is Spice Restraurant biz plan and I think he has the legal and moral right to chose any biz plan he wants so long he isnt breaking any law. In Europe there are malls that are strictly for nudes, there are clubs that are strictly for gays... So pls Kemi what you about to do is WRONG and in my understanding ABUSE OF POWER...

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    1. U r absolutely ridiculous! I hope one day u experience discrimination...but yet again u might not recognise it as that cos u r so used to being maltreated so it's the norm for u now. Alias Zombi

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    2. Yes, there are gay and strip clubs abroad but such clubs are most times labelled such. That way, there is no confusion. If Spice bar or whatever it is called wants to be a couples only venue, then they should state it clearly! Shikena.

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  38. Its very simple to avoid such..cook in ur own house..finish..


    ~MR EDDY~says so via www.facebook.com/eddywhiz

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  39. OMG! In this lagos, wonders shall never end

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  40. Nigeria. Very sexist. The end.

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  41. Loool, na today. Same thing happened to me n ma friends at Sip VI...dey refused to let us go in simply bcs we were abt 5 in numbers n jus girls bu. Dey allowed d men go in groups....one of d bouncer almost wanted to beat ma friend bcs she challenged him happened same night karen igho got slapped...stupid people

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    1. Shut up Ʊя mouth you stupid Sex Article. You and Ʊя wide Nyash friends went there to Hussle and were rightly bounced!!!

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    2. But you and your girls be ashy nah.

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  42. Like.....SERIOUSLYYYYYY????!!!!!

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  43. They must have a reason for that, you can't judge without knowing why they made a rule like that! It's not so cut and dry.

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    1. Shut ur filthy mouth!!retard!what useless reason can justify such inequality

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  44. It's a gay club. Which place does not allow girls into it???

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  45. Like seriously? Imagn, am I goin to c God inside dia

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  46. Thats how they start,look at Saipan gating ladies who didnt come with men especially us Nigerian where are they now....closed....its word of mouth that kills a business...Spice Route forget that Lagosians are fickle,when are new lounge opens the crowd moves....they would soon be Route of the Past....and those stupid bouncers do they not know the difference between ashawo and decent girls....

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    1. You made sense till your last sentence.ashawo no be for face nor dressing.

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  47. They are so stupid, so a woman cannot go and eat on her own! I'll never go there

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  48. im a feminist yes! fcuk spice im not stepping foot thr again.even thot to do my birthday thr kater this year. bullsht im so pissed. no one i know can go thr either.

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  49. Hmmmm what's d big deal? #Cherry#

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  50. Useless sexist pigs

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  51. Don't mind them o. The place is for guy guys. Other woman must be accompanied is just for pretense so when you come witout a man, you would have done them a favour. Wetin them de serve there sef wey pass my iya mulika on a good day and on a day I feel frisky, Sheraton buffet

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  52. Common restaurant ni? Na wa oo

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  53. What nonsense?...may b d owner of spice lounge is gay...or has a problem with women...d owner must be very useless and stupid...been der b4 but it was me and two other of my male friends dat went there to have dinner....

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  54. PLS someone, anyone has kemi Adetiba's business contact? Maybe her manager or any number. I love her music Videos n wuld like to negotiate with her. Pls no scammers cus I can smell u from a mile away.

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  55. Lolol doesnt she know wat runs babe r committing n dere atrocities out there

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  56. I love the second message she passed,sarcasm.

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  57. I think is a management policy to wade off city runs girls.. Sorry it affected you but I think is a nice policy when u take into consideration the number of WHITE COLA JOB SISTERS in lagos(runs gals).. Just saying

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  58. Really spice lounge??? At this time and age??? In my dear country Nigeria? That is FUCKED UP! SHAME ON YOU SPICE LOUNGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  59. Same thing happened to me at Southern Sun, I had a dinner date got there around 8pm in a cab and the gate men didn't let me in, they said I should get down and write my name first and I was "nah I can't come down at the gate, do they ask all their visitors to do same?" The guy said no that it is because I am alone, that single girls are not allowed in the evening.
    I was beyond pissed, I asked "so I can't casually take myself out and have dinner" , they said no, that have to come with a guy it's a policy..
    Long story short, they had to call my friend from the gate and he confirmed I was meeting him up so they let me in...
    Funny thing, I have a car now and I drove to Southern sun at around 10pm and they let me in without questions. Lol
    It's so silly, we need to do something about this in Nigeria.

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    1. Am sure you went to see a married man. Ashi oshi. Runs girl

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    2. Your mother is an ashi. Fucking misogynist nigerian men. Think all girls you can't get are prostitutes. Na me and your mama stand for Allen. Idiot

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  60. Wetin that one come mean?is strange.

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  61. Please, do you see men complaining when they have to pay for parties when women get in free. If they prefer single unaccompanied men, let them lose your business, complaining about it is childish.

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    1. Omg. You are so unintelligent. So you think you are making sense? Go and get a real education and some decent exposure. Then maybe your comments might make sense. Choi, see dumb reasoning!

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    2. Anonymous 2:32pm please sharap you are not making sense. If I bounce you from entering somewhere for a stupid reason wouldn't you complain?

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  62. Kemi Adetiba don't worry be happy. #keepcalmitNaija.

    VIA TECNO B3

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  63. Spice is an overrated club usually empty inside but made to look packed from outside. The manager is a proud person who only rides on the name of others. they strategically keep people outside the gate while you waiting the sticky fingers pick your pockets in the bid to get into the club.

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  64. Ohk sorry..NEXT.........................#KingOfKings

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  65. Nne, if this is true, u sure sey no be gay restaurant you de see so? They allowed you in reluctantly, probably make u no suspect anything amiss.

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  66. Well Nigeria is basically a stupid country with a few reasonable folks. The fundamental human rights of people are not respected so what do you expect? I just listened to Obasanjo grant an interview and he said 'Nigeria is a not a secular country but a multireligious country. I would rather see a religious person than an atheist'. What happened to tolerance and respect for people' s choices as long as they are not a danger physically to themselves or others. Hate speech leads to prejudice which leads to ignorant discriminatory acts which lead to xenophobia or racism or tribalism/ ethnocentric snobbery which may lead to murder or suicide. Hence advanced countries nip hate speech in the bud .it all starts with a thought that becomes generalized. A fellow doctor told me that her mother told her that ''Ibo people eat their children in New York and I asked her, what did you say to your mum to correct that impression- she said nothing, and I said 'you never corrected that impression or nipped it in the bud, sad'. To assume that a single woman going into a restaurant is a 'loose girl' is not only illogical but also is a cognitive distortion. When we get ridiculed for having an obsolete curriculum in our schools we get upset but it is true.these are basic things that are picked up in school even if we want to believe 'older ones at home are a product of their times'. Unfortunately many Nigerians don't like to listen to the truth until events like Chibok happen. Meanwhile 59 boys were killed in a school months before and Jonathan sat like a weakling.
    #endfemalediscriminationinloungesnow

    Dr Uch' -NYC

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    1. Na watin bite you for body

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    2. Spot on! ...most reasonable comment yet.

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    3. Spot on! ...most reasonable comment yet.

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  67. It's not a new thing , in lagos where many claim the city is modernise. Singles can't go out, want to spend money. It's sad. Also guest what the worst are the international restaurant here from the itailian to French .

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  68. They do that everywhere......smh . Even at Rhapsody last week, I went with my girls nah so dem bounce us with all our gbogbo bigs girls .....smh

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  69. Stupid ppl prolly tot she was a hooker. That's how it is in naija girls can not have a night out without ppl thinking they r hooking or searchung for men. Ndi ala its happened to me too.

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  70. Oh shut the fuck up girl! you're the only one complaining. has any other girl complained that she was turned back when she went there alone? tin doesn't make sense. what if the lady is going to meet a guy that is already there? Kemi isn't saying the truth. there's more to the story!

    #ByeFelicia

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    1. Schizophernia is your problem.

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    2. Bleu when people like you comment, I see why they say common sense is not common. You are foul mouthed and dumb, smh for you

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    3. And this is the part where u feel stupid, as many ppl complained about a similar experience.

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    4. U r a village girl . if you dine at upscale restaurant or visit bars u will know she is telling the truth. Pple like you can't just shut their trap and learn.

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    5. Dear bleu,you are definitely clueless.most joints in lagos such as the place,rhapsody, e bar do the same thing.she is saying the truth

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    6. Bleu you are right. she ain't saying the truth. and those girls that said the same thing they know why they got bounced. runs girls going to hunt for expat! y'all don't be stupid now. people address you by your appearance! no responsible restaurant will bounce a responsible looking lady. she went there with other intentions and caught a fade child! she knows. then she came on social media to rant!
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    7. Abi ode ni eleyi ni? They do it every bleeding time. FYI their bouncers are so ignorant... Its sickening. Imagine me and my friends going their for drinks after work on Friday and after taking off work shoes in the car and putting on comfortable black flats the fool at the door tells us we can't get in until we put on high heels... I was so mad! I swiftly acidly told the clown that the day he can comfortably wear and walk in heels he can have the effontary to tell me that else he'd better get out of my way before all hell breaks lose there. The idiot stepped away quickly

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  71. Wonders shall never end, what the hell, uhmmm, the best thing is for every female to boycott the damned place, nonsense and ingredients.

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  72. Spice: na only you waka come?
    Kemi: yes
    Spice: issorait, where your partnerv
    Kemi: e no folo me come.
    Spice: issorait, but you no go fit enter ma, waka de go back. No vex.

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  73. Dem dey mad wetin dey hpen or wats so speacial dere mtcheew....

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  74. I had this same experience withnmy friend last month. We were turned down cause we were unaccompanied by a man as if its not my money I want to spend. Imagine the insult from ìndians in my own country. Someone need to put this so -called spice route in order.

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  75. nigerdelta girl1 June 2014 at 15:19

    Ladies shd behave like one and stop behaving like prostitutes in their way of dressing or d way dey talk or chew gums

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  76. It's because of runsssss girls oo. Runs girls made the place a mess and they just started this. It's even for trial and error. Girls go in there like classy chicks, get there and they start to harass men. But men don't do that. It's more to do with protecting their customers and making sure they are not being harassed by runs girl than anything about inferiority or about how girls who are not married are low. I'm sure they didn't think it this way when they implemented the rule. After all, even the girls that are entering with men..half of them haven't even smelt a serious relationship not to talk of marriage. Sometimes, we ladies need to look at the other side..it's not always because we are unmarried or not a Mrs.

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  77. I hope they shut down the club in near future.....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  78. Abegi Kemi na only you. No dey overrate the scenerio..madam I am accomplished. Yimu.

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  79. they always get so happy when us girls go thu..strange !no guys will go and spend there if there are no single girls anyways :)

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  80. Blame your specie for the troubles, too many prostitutes harassing patrons at many of those places.

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  81. Everybody that abused nigeria here because of kemis experience has just shown that:
    1) you didn't go to school.
    2) even if you did,you bribed your way through.
    3) even after 1 & 2 you are still not smart.
    4 ) you don't think b4 u speak...
    Because restaurants are not stupid,they are open to make money.when a restaurant says no single girls,there must be a good reason for it.there are scores of runs girls in lagos,some even go to places just to meet some rich men.sometimes a serious rich man just wants to sit and eat without ashawo trying to shadow them.thats how come rules like that.Kemi is just unlucky they didn't recognize it becos there are times when restaurants break rules if they know some1 has integrity and is just there to eat...and who asked why didnt the bouncer know diff.btw ashawo and serious girl? you are funny!! Is there really a diff.btw a runs girl and a normal responsible girl? Of course not..every1 wears good weaves and wears the best shoes and clothes.these days you can never tell anymore.even decent girls look like Runz girls,with all the fake hair,eyelashes,etc.good fine dinning restaurants in Nigeria and everywhere around the world have those rules.I am even disappointed that kemi is complaining on social media,some1 as well travelled as she is should know better....SMH.thats the corruption we are complaining abt in Nigeria,TOM DICK & HARRY expects that rules be broken for them.its time we start to adhere to rules in this country..

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  82. Sorry Kemi that this happened to you BUT to be honest you need to see how Runs ladies and prostitutes who all by the way look clean like Kemi harass expats and married men ...The Manager is just trying to protect his customers after they complained severally to him..... She should have first request an audience with the manager instead of eating there and then coming on twitter to talk..

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  83. na to prevent ashewo's na, she suppose know dat 1 na

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  84. They do this at every club. It's not just spice. If they don't know you, they will gate you. I always go to clubs with friends, usually girls. They let us in but when I first moved back to naij and they didn't know my face, they would gate me. It's not acceptable, but honestly, I don't know how they would filter real women from prostitutes.

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  85. #maritalstatusdiscriminationhastostop

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  86. Lmao @Amy....lots of talent in here....una can talk for Africa....lol...choi!!!

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  87. Its because of runz girls preying for men jare. They do that in some hotels too. If e dey pain u old girls, make una vex go marry, including u linda :p

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  88. If the point most of you are making is that it happened because of the amount of runs girls around. I'm sorry but do we not also have gigolos in this country. They is no good reason for that discrimination. It is just ignorance at its best.

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  89. ITS CALLED GETTING BOUNCED KEMI...DEAL WITH IT

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  90. This is a very serious matter and you guys are not seeing the negative effect of what those bouncers are doing. Four point, Radison Blu, Eko hotel does the same thing even to decent ladies who sincerely came to spend their money. I experienced it at Eko hotel and I shouted at waiter who said to me that single ladies are not allowed there at 7:30pm, I made so much noise that he started pleading, I saw guys who came there drinking a bottle of beer for an hour, I ordered for pizza and a bottle of Red wine. My sisters and I felt sad about the issue. As for those who said kemi Should go and cook her own food, should know that sometimes you just want to eat food cooked by another caterer than ur self. If you can pay ur bills then I don't see why they should put such laws, is very bad for business. These places should know how important etiquette is. Everyone who comes to patronize them is important. Have gone to places like this abroad, they don't have such attitude . Linda pls trash this issue till they learn to address ladies with respect.

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  91. So how do they take care of guys who go in there to look for ladies or even rich MEN? *hisses. They will never find me anywhere close to their door. Dumb a..holes!

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  92. That e hell like seriously nawa o

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  93. Why will they not bounce you? When all you girls do these days in to dress like runs girls and be harrassing men up and down in restaurants, bars, clubs etc.

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  94. This is pure abuse of human right and women descrimination. Whether private or otherwise.

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  95. Nne go nd cook in ur house. I personally dont ve issues wt dt bcs ds lagos girls r turning into sth else dy r all runs girls including d "celebs" so my dear, if u dont ve man to c wt, u cook in ur house or better stl visit iya Basira

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  96. Lol. Happy she caught the bug too. Cos these female celebs oppress regular girls like us, in club. Just because we aren't known faces. Bia, kemi! Its not news. Many restaurants and bars on d island do not allow single ladies in. On the pretense that they are avoiding runs girls. No matter how many you are or how hot you are. Lagos sef dey try. Go Abuja! Those ones, are worse. So if this is your first experience, congrats. Some of us get this every other night or have to wait and beg a guy to take us in and sit thru their boring conversations all night just cos they helped us avoid embarrassment at d gate. Even if its your birthday, no story. Yeye dey smell!

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  97. Kemi adetiba should know better. Spice was getting overrun with prostitues cos of the white crowd so thus decision is a good one. If you're a single girl Nd want to go out alone or with your friends, call and make a reservation. No one will turn you back if you do that.

    Meanwhile, I personally would never wait to be eventually let in. The shame of standing at the gate while people walk past you is bad enough. I am pretty sure it was club hours cos they will not turn anyone back during dinner.

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  98. Be the smart woman you are and be objective. Discrimination is when your basic human rights are violated or denied,acess to a privately-owned restaurant is not! That's the prerogative of the management.They probably have their reasons and it seems the lesser of many evils in light of what loose women can do to a business.I don't think any business in its right mind would close shop to a group of potential customers for no good reason.there's plenty restaurants in VI(I know atleast 5 on Adeola Odeku).if they don't want you,it's their loss not yours.no need getting personal.

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  99. that is so strange!!!!! becoz anytime me and my girls go there they get so exited at the entrance !!!that is actually how its suppose to be coz without pretty girls there ,no guys will even go there. ;)

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  100. Kemi u be mumu,its a normal routine all over d world,China white in London does that nd no one complained,y Kemi cum dey cry

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  101. Imagine the nonsense so if I don't go dere won't I enter heaven ni nonsense

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  102. Its cuz of the igbo girls that come to lagos to do runz. Its getting out of hands with their asawo work.

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  103. oh Please people should STFU, its not gender bullshit discrimination or blah blah.its the fault of dem runz girls who would just come and sit and fuck all the married men that came to have fun with their guys. im a woman and I know what women can do when it comes to rich men.please Kemi take it or make your own that does not allow unaccompanied men.Spice restaurant has suffered at the hands of ashewos so I cant blame them.they are just protecting their business!

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  104. I MAY BE WRONG, BUT ITS SAID THAT THE WAY YOU DRESS DETERMINES THE WAY YOU'LL BE ADDRESSED. HOW WERE YOU DRESSES?. THE WAY MANY DRESS TODA IN THE NAME OF FREDOM OF SELF EXPRESSION CAN ONLY BRING THIS UPON THEM; BARRING THAT THE PLACE IS NOT RUN BY LITTLE MINDS. IF YOU'VE SEEN WHAT NUISANCE CSW CAN BE TO A DECENT PLACE, YOU'LL KNOW WHY THEY GO TO ABSURD LIMITS TO WARD THRM OFF.

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  105. Spot on! Why would a not-for-charity biz deny a potential 'high profile' client entry unless they were not sure of her id & hence motive for patronage?

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  106. I'm glad someone is finally addressing this. The same thing happened to me on Friday, I was about to get in with a friend who unfortunately is also a girl like me and we were literally shoved out of the way! Until my sister's boyfriend came to rescue us.

    Its sad how much we have to go through as ladies in this part of the world.

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  107. I'm glad someone is finally addressing this. The same thing happened to me on Friday, I was about to get in with a friend who unfortunately is also a girl like me and we were literally shoved out of the way! Until my sister's boyfriend came to rescue us.

    Its sad how much we have to go through as ladies in this part of the world.

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  108. Is this place owned by Boko Haram?

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  109. I have been a victim before. Read my experience here

    http://graciemama.com/2014/04/12/misconceptions-successful-nigerian-woman/

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  110. Who is d kemi adetiba?

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  111. LINDA,AM SURPRISED HOW YOU COULD PUBLISH THIS KIND OF TOPIC ON THIS YOUR VERY POPULAR BLOG SITE,JUST BECAUSE THE PERSON THAT BROUGHT THE MATTER TO YOU HAPPEN TO BE A CELEB OR YOUR FRIEND AND YOU RASHLY TOOK SIDE,THIS WILL AMOUNT TO RUNNING DOWN ANOTHER PERSONS MULTI MILLION NAIRA BUSINESS.IMAGINE SOMEONE GIVING A NEGETIVE PUBLICITY TO YOUR MULTI MILLION NAIRA BLOG ON A NATIONAL DAILY.NB-IT'S VERY DIFFICULT TO SELL A BRAND NAME,WHY RIDICLE IT,WHAT GOES AROUND,COMES AROUND.REMENBER THERE IS GOD OOOOOOO.

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  112. Its spice route

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  113. I can't really believe this is happening in V.I of all places. Rubbish.

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  114. lip sealed..
    have nothing to say



    BORN TO SHINE!!!

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  115. Maybe this will teach her to go and find a husband at her age. #Agbaya. Maybe if she dumps nightclubs for maturity she will find a man. I'm glad SPICE bounced her old ass. Jumping clubs at 40 years old. ##DORONONSENSE!

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  116. to whom brain is given, sense is expected.. ms adetiba aka ms accomplished, because u think highly of yourselves gives you no right to think you have got monopoly of verbal destruction.. facts over sentiment..
    1. runz girls, prostitutes and ashawos operate unrestricted in this country
    2. these girls constitute a nuisance to these restaurants/clubs ( pple like you would be the first to blast these restauranta/clubs if overrun by prostitutes).. u would say, i cant go to that bar, so many prostitues there''...simply put, they are bad business
    3. its a herculean task to differentiate ashawo from an 'accomplished' lady these days... hence the need to identify yourself where the need arises.
    4. this restaurants have high patronage due to some of these checks to ensure sure majority of their regular patrons feel comfortable not just a one time attendee...
    5. there are many single ladies that are allowed in (regular patrons).. and they will tell you they prefer such measures for their own comfort
    conclusion.. its easier to sit and criticize rather than using brains over sentiments... whipping up feministic chants at every opportunity.. my dear, profer a wa out for these restautants or forever hold your peace

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  117. pls dont spoil their market there oo.its d best place i hv been so far in nigeria.probably the girl was nt well dressed or she dint look decent.if u dress like gbovo dem go address you like one.alot of single girls walk in without no issue.abeg make she go rest.

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  118. Transfcorp Hilton Abuja stopped single ladies from coming to the poolside unless you're a guest or accompanied by a man..sometime ago I'm not sure if that's still stands till today...but right before that decision was made you should see what commercial sex workers turned that place to...it. Lost its class completely..I don't blame the restaurant. And Kemi should know better...

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  119. Spice Lounge not for whores . The best Club on the island is Spice Bar. They do their best to ensure rogues and sluts are not allowed into the bar. The babe dey mad for spoiling another man business. Nonsense. If you dont set standards the club will be filled with rogues and opportunist. Spice BAR is club for the Elites.

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  120. Its almost as if single girls shouldn't go out and have fun! Its ridiculous.

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  121. Why would you still go in after been sent back initially??? You would have just walked away. And with your area of profession, you would have asked why they send single ladies back???

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  122. You cant close his business, stop all you know from going there and so??? are you God?? see the way she talks self. go open ur own nah.

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  123. Abeg make una leave Spice Restaurant alone. Do you know how many ashewos, job girls have gone there just to sit and snatch another woman's husband? They are being responsible in my own opinion. Kemi go and look for husband. Stop ranting everywhere. Same goes to you dear Linda.

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  124. There is no gender discrimination here. Just a policy not to allow single or accompanied ladies into their place of business to prevent 'Runs Girls' from turning the place to meeting points for picking up men. Most if not all nice places in Lagos do not allow single ladies. Check and you will notice that places that allow single ladies have turned to 'Runs spots' as runs girls have taken over the place. immediately serious and professional men notice the caliber of single women around, they usually stop coming. Don't blame the business from trying to protect their investment.

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  125. First off, it's a big enough embarrassment to be stopped on such flimsy grounds. To leave would be to accept the injustice of it. This happened to me at Golden Tulip hotel in Ghana years back and I fought it till I was let in.

    This so-called policy is the height of double standards. Would she have been let in if she were married but unaccompanied? What's to say the unaccompanied male clientele do not end up soliciting or being solicited by others inside? I agree with the person who said this joint should boldly declare a couples only policy if that's the way they want to go and stop victimizing and stereotyping women.

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  126. The Ushers / Bouncers didn't know you. sowie. They thot ur a runs girl.

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  127. It is a BIG DEAL...
    Linda please call them out, they practice this gender discrimination at night clubs as well particularly Sip and that eatery turned lounge turned Night Club (The Place in V.I) , A group of girls are not let in but a group of boys... very well then.
    What are they protecting???? They say they are trying to discourage prostitution by encouraging homosexuality and disrespecting females.

    That i won't be allowed into a lounge/restaurant/club because i am a woman alone or with female friends. Whats next?? they won't let us drive or eat in public, they will stop us from working, this thing should not be taken with a pinch of salt, its little actions like this that encourage men to disrespect women and it could escalate to something else.

    The worst part is some women stoop so low as to beg guys to walk in with them. Its appalling and embarrassing.

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  128. Isnt this action similar to that of Boko haram? lolzzzz after they would go on social media condemning boko haram.... why on earth is there segregation? is the owner from Saudi Arabia ....? please relocate abeg

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  129. Isnt this action similar to that of Boko haram? lolzzzz after they would go on social media condemning boko haram.... why on earth is there segregation? is the owner from Saudi Arabia ....? please relocate abeg

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  130. lolsss, buh i think it is a way of stopping prostitutes from coming into the venue, she sef suppose get a guy na, lmao

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  131. yes o!! we dont want you ashawo kobo kobos coming to ruin the atmosphere, as you know in lagos gbogbo big girl tings na wash, Premier league tins.
    So any lady wey wan dine has to be escorted.
    Ply your trade elsewhere Joor o

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  132. saw so many comments that show how little some women think of themselves. there should be absolutely no excuse for discrimination against single or unaccompanied women. either you make it a couples only place or you can even ask for identification. Prostitutes have to eat food as well and is that saying there are no male prostitutes in Nigeria. who is fooling who. Also, if there was no demand for their service they would stop supply. abi

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  133. All d ppl abusing kemi to get married may GOD punish u.wud she marry herself?if she isn't married yet is it her fault?for all u married ladies abusing single girls dat r not yet married to go get husband as if dey sell husband in d market don't worry d girls wud get married to ur husbands as second wives den u wud die of heartache.shebi dey shud get married hennn dey wud marry ur husbands.and for d men abusing single girls don't worry ur wives wud start sleeping wit other men apart from u under ur roof.den u wud knw how to briddle ur tongue.AMEN

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  134. May GOD punish all d ppl saying kemi shud go get married especially d women.SHAME on u all.wud she marry herself.is it not wen GOD says she wud get married dat she wud?dont worry all d married women abusing single ladies to get married d sing ladies wud be second wives to ur husbands then u wud die of heartache.RUBBISH.for d guys abusing her to get married don't worry ur wives wud start sleeping around under ur roof n u wud get d disgrace of ur lives.look at d stupid spice lounge dat I see many runz girls der so wat rubbish r dey sayin?runz girls go der wit pimps dat r male n still gist wit d so called responsible married menn dey end up sleeping wit dem.so wat rubbish r u guys talking about?

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  135. All d ppl abusing kemi to get married may GOD punish u.wud she marry herself?if she isn't married yet is it her fault?for all u married ladies abusing single girls dat r not yet married to go get husband as if dey sell husband in d market don't worry d girls wud get married to ur husbands as second wives den u wud die of heartache.shebi dey shud get married hennn dey wud marry ur husbands.and for d men abusing single girls don't worry ur wives wud start sleeping wit other men apart from u under ur roof.den u wud knw how to briddle ur tongue.AMEN

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  136. I am surprised at this. As a matter of fact, I was right behind her when the bouncers requested to check her purse. He reluctance led to exchange of words. Funny thing is, she was with her friends who all complied. Pls things like this should be verified before being published. Spice Route is one of the best joints on the Island with the right see of crowd. No gender discrimination whatsoever.

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  137. I am never surprised at responses from Nigerians a lot of the time. Agreeing that because the establishment does not want to encourage prostitution makes it ok for single men to go in and not women!! What makes you think in this day and age, that the men are not also prostituting themselves to men and women. If they are worried about that, then staff should be trained to be more vigilant about such practices and how to handle these situations and not turning away customers for the sake of it.

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