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Monday, 19 May 2014

"I'm not a cooking kind of woman and my husband is fine with it' - Joke Silva

In a recent interview with City People magazine, Nollywood screen legend Joke Silva talked about her lack of cooking skills and other ways she takes care of her husband, screen legend, Olu Jacobs..
"I have never lied about this, I have never been 'a doing the cooking kind of woman'. When my husband met me, he knew. He was the one who used to do the cooking because he is good at it. I used to do the cooking when I felt like. Sometimes, it comes out to be a huge success and sometimes a failure. Some years ago, I cooked vegetables and it was terrible and my husband is such a gem, he ate it like that. It is not as if my mum didn't teach me. For my husband, cooking is a therapy and for me it is a chore and yet he will always tell you that I look after him so much, I do that in other ways. We have somebody who does the cooking. I have taught them to cook the way I like and we have people who do the general cleaning."

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  1. Wts imprtnt z deyve a blissful home. Dts all. Life is simple. If u cnt do it, u cnt do it. If u can do it?, do it.

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    1. That's understanding. And that's the drive to a successful/ happy home.

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  2. nd u guys re still togeda rockinglife... kudos.......... dats d main tin

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  3. Western world life.... If you can afford, y not?

    *My R1.50c comment *

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  4. Mummy joke,ur husband is exposed and educated!!!

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    1. My dear not all educated men r this reasonable. Some of them just passed thru skul but still reason like villagers....I know many who don't believe a man shd go into d kitchen for any reason.

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  5. na you sabi that one o

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  6. Me I don't mind as long as she's a freak in d sheets..bt my wife must knw how to pound yam....................#King

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    1. Do you mean as long as she can fuck well *wink* I like that but some men can't fuck. Am a woman and I like fucking. For the pounding yam na wa for you.

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  7. When couples truly understand each other, things will always go well between them. I love this couple. But me can;t fit allow another person do my hubby's cooking o


    CoolDiva speaks!

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  8. you don't know how to cook but you have taught dem to cook the way u like....I no understand madam

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    1. My husband doesn't know how to cook, but that doesn't stop him from suggesting how he wants his meals to turn out. The mechanics of bring vision to reality he leaves to me. So same goes

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    2. Should said she doesn't like to cook.

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  9. LUCKY WOMAN.I HOPE UR CHILDREN ARE GOOD WITH D THINGS DAT HAPPEN IN D KICHEN OR FINISH WILL BE D TOPIC 4 TODAYS MAN OR FOR ME PER SAY.

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  10. What can I say?wen a man loves u ,he won't care abt ur flaws....while sum women works their asses off in the kitchen for their unsatisfied husbands mummy joke silva feels it is a chore while daddy olu jacobs feels it is a therapy.ow luck works for sum pple sha..anyways I know it cant happen wit the guys of dis generation bt me!am lucky wit ma stud muffins.we know ow to take care of ourselves bt nobody will cook for ma husband sha cos I feel cooking is therapy n a chore..I love them bt can follow dis path

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  11. Married is all about understanding! Who cooks can be secondary! Loving someone is to loathe the odiousness of pride, to assuage the eagerness of spite, to prevent the vengeance of quarrel, to reap the sweet fruits of temperance and to enjoy the felicity of contentment. Let moderation restrain licentiousness, discretion abandon unity, mildness assuage choler, meekness allay arrogance, consideration reclaim rashness, indifferency attemper passion, courtesy mitigate, charity appease, and unity atone debate. All the best to these lifelong lovebirds!

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    1. Chai...prince u don kill me o,lollLllll. We know you to be Mr grammar,dont teLl me you are now a poet too

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    2. Out of point.

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    3. Prince charmin don kill me ooooo,laf don tia mai bele,untop dis mata na hin u write all dis grama....Aye dey do u

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    4. What are u saying gaan paapaa?!

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    5. U jst made me locate my dict

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    6. Ok, this is just really ridiculous dude! Smh

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    7. Prince just made my evening! ... I haven't laughed this hard for sometime; not because I understood half of what he wrote, but, because ................. Lmao

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  12. Oh Realy?? Thats Very PITIFUL!!

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    ¤GROWN MAN IN A YOUNG BODY¤

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    1. Mr grown man in a young body,am I free to call u dwarf abi na imp.................#King

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  13. Well fact is not evry woman enjoys cooking or knws hw to cook.

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  14. ride on my dear you married right

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  15. Do whatever suits ur home,afterall,there's no laid down rules on how to run a marriage. Nice couple.

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  16. Hmmmm!No comment

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  17. My wife must know how to prepare Ofeakwu stew, Banga and bitterleaf soup. If not OYO
    I wouldn't mind doing the pounding of yam or foo foo

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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  18. Abeg that's her own cup of milk free coffee


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  19. Awww, i love u Aunty Joke! You have a wonderful and understanding hubby and thats all that matters.

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  20. Ok... Wateva rocks ur boat!

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  21. Ain't no shame in that game! Afterall it's creation of employment.

    Work hard and pay someone else to do the work is how it should be, marriage is about way more important areas than culinary alone

    B

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  22. U ought to be ashamed of urself. U failed as woman if u can't cook. Shame on u joke silva, u r a joke indeed.

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    1. @ curvy, uhmm, is everythin ok?

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    2. Anonymous fools....if u have guts show urselves...anony olodoss

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    3. Curvy u r very very stupid to have insulted Aunty Joke!If not cos of blog who r u to poke at her??It shows d kind of home u came from dats y u talk anyhow&have no respect for ppl far old enuf to be ur parents!Smh!u rpathetic!

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  23. I don't believe this trash dat women belong in the kitchen..

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  24. Hoho!
    This won't go well.
    I can foresee angry comments

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  25. So candid! I can relate to this.I cook becos I have to.I don't particularly enjoy it.If I can afford a cook, then so long with cooking! I love my husband to bits.it hasn't affected our relationship.

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  26. I really do not understand what she meant. The most important thing is that they love each other.

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  27. Well if ur husband love yu for that then there is no problem whatsoever..... But mehn me and this type of woman no fit stay for one house bcos na clash of the titans on a daily basis....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  28. proper benin girl19 May 2014 at 12:25

    This is love, not all the ones jay and bey r trying to portray. Love is not perfect, u can't be flawless. Love is knowing ur partner's flaws and still love them for who they are. I just love this couple.

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    1. Wat has the power couple got 2 do with this? U guys r so mad @ the fact that Queen B doznt air her laundry(dirty or not). Na wa o

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    2. She doesnt indeed but breeze blew d cover from fowl's nyash evetually,forming perfect all d time!rubbish!After dat trashy incident how is she so much classier dan Kim??yet she keeps treatin Kim like she is so way beneath her!!None of Kim's younger sib will av d audacity to do to Kanye wat Solange did to Jay Z cos they r not razzz!!But Almighty Queen B!How art d mighty fallen!mstchew...perfect hubby&wifey ke

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  29. Na wa ooooo...

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  30. As long as your husband and inlaws are not bothered, ko kan aye. As for me,I can't marry a woman that cannot cook.

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  31. As long as he is happy with that. Case closed

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  32. I still ♡ u n ur husband!!!!!

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  33. Dis woman no dey dis country, she acts so out of dis world, anyway I think I admire pa olu, he is wonderful

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  34. Clap for yourself. Just raise your daughters like that if u have any. Though they may be lucky to marry your kind of husband, if not, back to sender.

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  35. But linda, I nid ur help , u know a lot of pple and places, can u hook up with modelling/ ushering agencies, I nid a partime job till d corporate one pulls thru, dis is my email, veralucy8@gmail.com, thank u

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  36. Dis woman no dey dis country, she acts so out of dis world, anyway I think I admire pa olu, he is wonderful

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  37. And u are not ashame to say that, it is bcos of women like u dat men run after other lady outside. And u call urself a "WOMEN"

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    1. Silly anon,hw e tk concern u?they r happy!

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  38. Wen u ar a celebrity, anytin u say seems to b right and acceptable in ppl's eyes even if it isnt naturally... I dnt think agree with u on dat ma

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  39. Fake oyibo ....weldone o.

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  40. I duff my hat for Mr Olu Jacobs cos 90% of Nigerian men would find big fault in what she said. Meanwhile Yeni Kuti says Nigerian men are too controlling and she doesnt believe in Marriage

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  41. Young gals wil read dis nw n say its d way 4wrd.....here goes a role model

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  42. Wow! Ds ppl r like my fave couple in nollywood...to think of how long dey've been together and they're still ds close,really cool. Wish 'em the best

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  43. I better marry a cooking woman oh! I mean I love to cook and do house chores but I don't want a wife who sits on her a** and watches me do them! I know I sound like I am from the 50s but that's what gives.

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  44. I don't blame Joke Silva, Imagine Olu Jacob was a cheat' he will sleep with the female cooks" Then Joke Silva will be fine with it "

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  45. I love this post, my ideal kind of man. God please show me this type......Amen. Some men be acting like a woman's life starts and ends in the kitchen.

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  46. Love is beautiful... It has no boundaries n limitations.. But a woman that can cook is a major plus for a man like me even though I love cooking. Linda post ma comment oooo

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  47. Sure all dz things re small as A,B,C,D. When u had money u have everything. Can't stop luving dz family, understanding n Adorable family. mauh ur smile remand me of sumone.#l luv you mum joke#


    ~CYNTHIA~ commenting from my TOYOTA CRICKET

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    1. Plz,wot is ur problem??Ur English ehn it drains my blood..Yu mustnt comment,yu cn jst b more of a reader n save ursef d stress.Blesyn

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  48. @ Prinnce Charming, only ur grammmer sef don cook d food, congrate to d most unnderstanding hubby. Hope ur children will be ur opposit.

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  49. Well no p as long as ur hubby did not complain,but 2say d fact as an african woman Æ”☺ΰ should be able 2do d best of cooking for ur hubby ur self.am a good cook my self so anytime my wife cooks for me she always makes it right and I appriciate it alot dat I can't eat outside.

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  50. Dats real love.. sm1 musnt knw hw to do evrytin

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  51. That's a real man right there.

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  52. ewu igbo coming out to say she cant cook at her age some men sef Capital foools

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  53. What a beautiful, understanding relationship

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  54. PC doing what made many ppl feel his absence on LIB! As for mumy Joke,u re lucky,but its because of this reason that,i hv not wished to be anyone!u dont know shit abt many ppl u idolize n follow o,some of their lifestyle can be yr worst nightmare n doom!

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  55. That is nice she is a lucky woman she got a man/husband that is educated and well exposed

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  56. This is a joke right?

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  57. As long as u av a peaceful marraige no problem

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  58. I don't tink men of these days will accept dat 4rm any woman.

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  59. That's clear understanding. Some men can take that crap. NEVER! Is all about compatibility and getting the right spouse that suit you. Make your relationship a learning groove and not for irrelevant things.

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  60. Lolzzz.pc we see you!

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  61. Matured minds. As far as there is love nd peace, wu cares abt ur flaws. Young couples shld learn from ds. God bless ur marriage more jare

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  62. She's. Even celebrating it,not ready 2 learn wonder who ll tach ur kids how 2 cook *fashionista LeOnOrA*

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  63. Wot ever works for u maami...so long hubbyz not complaining...

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  64. Ummm good couples but dis aint working fr me.I cook my hubby's meal but all da same goodluck

    ~Debbieva~

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  65. Her husband is not barbaric like half of these men.

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  66. her husband is so understandng.i wish to marry such cos i dont like cooking

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  67. Stupidity is when a woman, a mother don't know how to cook.. how stupid and telling it to d world... Hmmmm aunty Linda hope u sabi cook oh! abeg does this woman have children.. FROM ME!

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  68. Why would dis woman say dis... na wa oh!!!

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  69. That's what marriage is all about. Understanding.....

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  70. BLESSED SISTER NOELLA19 May 2014 at 14:45

    I JUST LOVE THE GENTLE MATURITY AND CHEMISTRY OF THIS COUPLE...THEY ARE JUST SO CLASSY AND VERY UNDERSTATED WHY CAN'T SOME OTHER PEOPLE TAKE NOTES AND SEE WHAT IT MEANS TO BE CLASSY..POLISHED BEAUTIFUL EDUCATED PEOPLE..

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  71. So far it suits both of them they are both happy. For those of you that want a woman that will be pounding yam please make sure you are a millionaire so that she would sitting at home and be ministering to your every need. And woe betide you, you do not have that kind of money and she has to work, then your expectations I believe are unrealistic.

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  72. Please her not liking to cook is not a flaw. It is a choice and they have been living together happily.

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  73. Can you see that !!?? When people will be praying "God i want Joke Silver kind of woman for a wife" .. ME I DON'T OO !! . Now i know being a screen diva doesn't mean a wife material.

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  74. @ Prince Charming; Marriage not married insightful piece though. in my opinion, cooking for the family should not be restricted to only the women. Married men pls take time out to help your wives, we both go to work early and return late anyway! so whoever comes back earlier should do dinner.

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  75. #laughing#prince charming is back! I swear I luv ur oyinbo wia u learn am 4rm? Mi lik u sha

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  76. #laughing#prince charming is back! I swear I luv ur oyinbo wia u learn am 4rm? Mi lik u sha

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  77. Love dem so much, she is Ma role model but disssssssss......... Cnt dat learn frm her coz finish na ma name considering ma hubby doesn't eat out and hates it wen someone els does d cooking no mata hw tasty it is.....

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  78. Love is a beautiful thing

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  79. I wudnt mind too...like she sed...she lukz after him in other wayz...like makin hiz house a home n raising responsible kids...lovin n takin care of him...they r soo cool dey dnt even bear the same name n there love is heavenly...we all deserve understandin ppl in our lives....God bless my GF 4 me

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  80. Lol. I no understand too

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  81. Thank God you can afford to pay people to cook and do general cooking. Many women have destroyed themselves with their failure to learn to do anything.

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  82. You are Lucky then...

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  83. Moral, girls don't bother learning 2 cook. So long as u find love dat is secondary. U may not b as lucky, so don't try it.
    D story is not of love alone but dat of a spoilt previlaged girl who was lucky 2 c some1 who cares less of her flaws.

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  84. They understand each other, that's what marriage is all about

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  85. Now you are all praising her because its Joke Silver, had it been its an up and coming actress that says 'I don't know how to cook well' you all would have crucified her. Anyway I can authoritatively tell you that they do not have a happy home. They live in a separate world in their home. You are only seeing what they want you to see. They don't love each other one bit.
    Another shocker, did you know that Joke Silver is a female Sango? As in, she smoke fire.

    So my people, don't be too quick to judge from the outside.

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  86. Truth be told! How many women really knw how to cook these days? Or rather how many women still enter kitchen? If u can afford stewards and good cooks, why not? It's only in Africa that pple still have primitive mindset that women must cook or knw how to cook

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  87. Im sorry to say this but shame on you ma....hian...

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  88. Please tell them o! Marriage works when there's understanding. Full stop! There's nothing like 'this is the responsibility of woman' or 'this is the responsibility of a man'... When thats established,,,carry go! Whatever works for you,,works for you... Whatever doesn't,,,,doesn't... Arrange your life to suit you and your partner....and live life!

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  89. Oh this reminds me of my parents,but in my case my mum loves cooking as well as my dad and it was not a one person responsibility,when we were younger i used to prefer my dad's jollof rice to my mum's,i and my siblings called it 'party rice' lol...i on the other hand cooks not because i love cooking though my cooking is excellent but becos i no want starve for school and it is economical.big ups to mr and mrs olu jacobs,they are definition of true love and have embraced there flaws.

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  90. This is very fake, i can say it with all sense of responsibility. Will Joke herself allow her own son marry her type who doesn't cook or like cooking? If i pray for all you ladies lauding over this woman, that your male children would marry her type; would you say aman? Let's call spade a spade.

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  91. I realy heavy u ma how I wish moat of our men can have that understanding may the Lord keep on blessing it marriage

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  92. Good for u. lucky u have a very 'understnding' african husband.

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  93. That is good for you Mrs Joke silva, but then , keep this to yourself , i cant imagine how many ladies will let this go upside their heads and decide to stop cooking for their husbands,after taking this in and then shit hits the fan, the relationship will be strained or even worse....

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  94. This is the kind of comment that will mislead these gullible ladies and they wont be able to get a Husband for them selves , when youre silently introducing indomie ideas

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  95. Its same with me. Though I cook really well but my husband loves cooking. I'll say he's a better cook than I am and I let him have his way every now and then. This week it's me, next week for a diff taste it's him and our home works great that way. Whatever rocks ur boat ma'am.

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  96. There is no 100% perfect Marriage but the ability to understand & tolerate each other makes it perfect. Tnx for been frank madam.

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  97. Inspiring couple and nollywood actor and actress.

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  98. She's doing okay...she has kept hi, this long hasn't she

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  99. Look at coments, a lots of street girls and women just thinking thats it all, look at them talking about understanding and education even if the husband does help her she should be ashamed of her self for not beingable to cook thats not a pride, girls/women its ur duty to know how to cook stop to apoint blaims on men when u know you are a wawald girl or woman come to think of it how many girl or woman would come out to say the problem i hv with my man am at faulth? Just almost none
    so preety ladies or girl prepare urself well against any unforseen circumstances

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  100. i believe its good for a woman to cook for her family. this even strengthens the family bond. a man can help occasionally, but a wife should cook its very important.

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