From a male LIB reader. I laughed!
I am an avid reader of your blog and I need advice from LIB house on this issue. I work with a prestigious bank and am OK. I have
been dating a girl since January and we are really serious. I have
introduced her to my parents and I know hers too, most especially her mom ad
sister. Last weekend she took me to her brother's house for
introduction, when leaving, her brother gave me transport fare in an
envelope which I politely rejected (don't know how much was in the envelop sha).
The brother took no harm with the expression on his face. For 3 days
after the visit my babe condemned me for not collecting the cash from
her brother though it's been settled. But next weekend we are visiting
another brother's house, if I am given transport fare again, should I
collect?
Don't collect, na setup
ReplyDeleteMan caught staring at Popular Naija Blogger's Boobs
Break up wit her. Na bad wife she be. Bad ideas. Bad home.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there is anything wrong in collecting the money, but it should not become a pattern, like a regular thing
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LMFAO.....Una no go kill person 1 day 4 dis blog.....biko if u don't need d money, collect it and buy recharge card n distribute it here 4 us....LOOL
ReplyDeleteMy Guy Swallow ur Pride/Ego and collect the IGHO sharp sharp.
ReplyDeleteIf I were in ur shoes, I'll respectfully decline
ReplyDeleteBro, if you don't feel comfortable collecting transport money offered to you by your in-laws, don't collect it!
ReplyDeleteIf your girl wants it, she can quickly collect it whenever it's offered to you. Afterall, it's her family.
Good point
DeleteNext tym collect it.. dey knw u don't need it. It's just a kind gesture welcoming u to d family.she knws ha family n iif she says collect pls doo so dey don't feel insulted
ReplyDeleteLadies can collect money (gifts) from their in laws,not a guy,please hold on to ur pride,even tho u lover her and u may not want to hurt her,collecting money may put u in a bad place,even if na GIFT!
ReplyDeleteSmh.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha i swear u are a foooooool 4 dis question!! Haba...sum people sha...lmfao
ReplyDeleteSo why ask? If u feel its not right don't collect. If u feel its normal and u are broke at that moment please feel free to collect and move on. Cheers. ENGR E
ReplyDeleteNo collect Abeg make see finish no enter. They will use it against u in d future.
ReplyDeleteU be big boy nah, so no lele. But if nah some odar naija guy... Trust me!
ReplyDeleteBros collect the money! You didn't ask for it,if it was a test ,accept to fail it willingly.Drop your ego
ReplyDeleteLinda dear! You are taking too long to release comments, and its kinda making it boring, the comments and replies makes this blog fun, with all sincerity please, release comment on time, hope say u no vex for my statement, just saying how I feel
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Hehehe abeg say no again my brother. Tomorrow now dem go use am yab u
ReplyDeleteLoooooooooool....kia linda some of this post can be funny sha. They are looking down on you or what pls. I laughed too.
ReplyDeleteDon't collect biko,warn your girlfriend too.be a man joor. A real man cannot even ask this kian question self
U mst bee a big MUMU for even coming here to seek for advice on such useless issue
ReplyDeleteno harm in that.
ReplyDeleteHow is how you too can always make that legal extra pay for yourself
Lol,Linda I laff too O! Maybe d girl should just colt it on his behalf so dey won't hv issues wit dat agn! Women n Money,odiegwu O
ReplyDeleteDon't collect biko....that was very manly of you..abi them think say you dey hungry ni....??
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha... ppl & their wahala... dis is so funny.
ReplyDeleteGuy, You don't have a car? And you msay you are ok? They will keep offering you transport fare until you are OK azzin very OK .
ReplyDeleteLinda o, U will not kill me o, where do U get all this stories from. Guy I would advice you to dress and act the way you want to be treated. You probably are not presenting yourself as a confident person. Even if you don't have a car, just try to act more confident
ReplyDeleteYou got this from stellas old posts. If you like don't post my comment. Biased Linda
ReplyDeleteNo
ReplyDeleteMumu lele yi o. How u go collect transport fare from ur inlaw. U wan sell ur respect? Y is he even giving it a tot. Ode osi. U shld hav a stand on issues lik dis. Abeg u dey waste my time.
ReplyDeleteDr s
What makes u think d next brother will give u Tfare? Lol, unless ur hoping he dose.
ReplyDeleteIf u really don't want it, collect and give it back to d girl when you ppl leave d house.
Na true, the guy want money.
DeleteJust pray it doesn't happen, but take it no harm done. Maybe when you're leaving, give a couple of bucks to their kid if they have any, so y'all are even. Don't forget to bring a gift too. Nothing too fancy.
ReplyDeleteBest comment here so far.
DeleteDON'T DO IT O. THEY WILL USE IT TO SING FOR YOU IN FUTURE.
ReplyDeleteNo it was a trap. You did right. Your girl is a fool! If you collect transport fare from them it clearly shows that you will not be able to take care of the girl without her family. DO NOT take any thing from them. Politely decline each time.
ReplyDeleteWhich kind Mumu question u dey ask.....Abeg carry ur medicine drink ...Linda pls stop posting crazy post
ReplyDeleteWhy should they give you transport fare? It doesn't make sense ...so politely decline it. They shd give their sister, not you.
ReplyDeleteHow many times will you post this Linda?
ReplyDeleteIf u r not comfortable with it, politely decline!
ReplyDeleteU are funny
ReplyDeleteUNLESS U WANNA HAVE ANOTHER ISSUE WITH UR BABE AGAIN THEN DON'T COLLECT.
ReplyDeleteIts commendable that u have self pride...but these i presume are older siblings..who see u guys as a young couple just starting out...so go ahead and collect it..its kind of part of our culture to give money to visitors...and family members
ReplyDeleteWhen I went with my fiance to my uncle's house,my uncle gave me the t-fare,but my bobo thanked him...but in this case,u shld av collected it sha,that doesn't mean ure begging or wretched..you wld av collected it for good relationship sake make dem no think say u get pride.I think uve got pride though..small one.
ReplyDeleteNope no collect...na set up lol..ask ur babe why she wanted u to collect sha abi she wants u to look like u can't provide for urself in front of her fam ni?
ReplyDeleteHUMMMMM..BROTHER HE WON'T EVEN GIVE YOU AGAIN...BUT IF HE THOSE COLLECT IT TO AVOID ISH WITH YOUR GF..
ReplyDeleteIt depends on which family you are looking at. Collecting it might be good with some families and collecting it might mean something else with another family. Try and talk to your fiancee to know how her family thinks...but on a safer side it's better politely refused. If the person offering you the TP is much more older, there should be no harm.
ReplyDeleteRead on
The Ten Commandments for all ladies and wives
What you need to do is find out if its their culture just so you are sure it wont be an insult to their cultural practice. But in my own opinion, still refuse it as politely as possible. You are a man now not a boy. You get? Goodluck though and congrats.
ReplyDeleteJanuary and we are really serious. I have introduced her to my parents and I know hers too, most especially her mom ad sister.??
ReplyDeleteSee Pretty Absu Female Student; Oluchi Shared Her Own Private Pics Online And Begs For s*x![pics]
Hahahahahahahahaha! this is hilarious..Was d broda angry or just Ur chick? pls collect o.and say a big Thank you Sir.
ReplyDeletepls wen next you are going call me let me go with you i think i need the far. loool
ReplyDeleteBros if u dnt want to accept it or avoid similiar occurences, discuss with ur babe why u are against it and she can help you out when it occurs again. The first was a surprise the next one be prepared.....on a lighter note, bros for all u wil collect and dos u av rejected, u wil pay back in 100folds when paying Her Brideprice. #shinesteeth Shoutout to Ojiego Adaku...my kopiko
ReplyDeletePls dnt try it ooo!u don't know wat he or she is upto.Disgrace and embarrassement might be the next thing.or even a trap.
ReplyDeleteas far as they are older than you and your wife to be collect!
ReplyDeleteNo! Don't take. U r suppose to be the giving them and not collecting from them. After all u said u r ok. Pls for intergrity sake, don't collect. Habba! Ur babe shld knw its wrong nau, what picture of u is she trying to paint b4 her brother? Don't collect and talk sense into the girls head.
ReplyDeleteLooL If He is an IBO boy I am sure he will not bring to linda ikeja he go don collect am tete #Mankind
ReplyDeleteReject it. But if they insist, u can collect.
ReplyDeleteCoolDiva speaks!
Hell no, don't collect. it might be with good intentions, but please, don't collect it. just do your business there and leave with your dignity and self esteem.
ReplyDeleteNO!!!be a man my brother,you are a man and to maintain ur self esteem pls dnt take money from ur inlaws pls
ReplyDeleteLinda i wil advice u to adopt 2 cute baby girls that wil look after u in old age. Marriage na gambling ths days o o. Besides, i dnt want any gold digger to come break ur fragile heart for us... Hmmm! When wil u even have time to post comments again? U go dey 2 busy with marraige things na.
ReplyDeleteThis a very childish question..
ReplyDeleteThey can see you don't have a car, but why should they give you transport fare?, that's an insult/ a test!
Keep rejecting it politely.
*My R1.50c comment *
Lmao. Sorry for that. Too funny
ReplyDeleteyou sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
ReplyDeleteyou sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
ReplyDeleteyou sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha lmao...o boy plsss don't collect it ooo...dats the bigest insult ever..anyways try and get a car so they won't be giving u tp back home...can't just laffing looool but seriously I thing there nothing wrong sha if they mean no arm in doing that maybe they are just being generous by giving u money...but if anything they should give it to their own sister And not you...#dont even think of collecting it ooo lol
ReplyDeleteMy dear, might be a test, might also be an innocent gesture. ur a man, if u don't need It.....don't take it n stand ur ground with her dat its not pride, but u want to prove to her brothers, that you can take care of her. After marriage, if you need it, they wld give gladly witout you askin. Now is d time to make an impression, be wise.
ReplyDeleteDo NOT collect!!!
ReplyDeleteOoh! And this is a question meant for Libers.
ReplyDeleteCollect and give it to Afro Candy
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Lol.. Collect it brother.. loyalty is the number one rule. No matter how much
ReplyDelete=))˚˚°ÂºÐ½aĦaнaº°˚˚=)). Emi o mo o
ReplyDeleteLwkmd, very funny question.
ReplyDeleteMy candid advise is do not collect, they maybe testing you. If they have transport fare or whatever to give, they should give it to their sister. You are not in laws yet you know?
ReplyDeleteSeriously, i laugh when i read this post... Well, yu rejecting the money is an indication that yu are trying to save ur pride which ladies will never understand and if this brother of hers want to offer yu money again kindly reject again, if ur fiance frowned at ur action, let her knw yu simply dont like the idea and be serious about it but if yu really want the asistance, then accept the money....
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Shah, nobody fit try this nonsense with me...
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See ego ta mo bus dey talk. If any future in law make the mistake of offering you 1 naira, na quick you go accept am. See him come here dey form big boi ontop your teacher salary. Abeg go siddon somewhere jare make I see road. Olodo.
DeleteHell No!!!
ReplyDeleteNo
ReplyDeleteYou are a capital MUMU, why did you reject an envelop that you don't know what's is inside, u want to proove to your to be inlaws that you have money abi? Oya get ready for the dance
ReplyDeleteyea you can collect the money,it does not make you less of a man...just that you have to be careful so they don't get to take advantage of you....#PEACE
ReplyDeleteI wll advice not to cos they might be test u
ReplyDeleteWhat u did waz matured.even in ur next 10 visit to the family plzz dnt collect a kobo from any of them and make sure u don't sleep over in their house too,it gives u a lot of respect..tlking frm experience
ReplyDeleteMan is not bd collecting TP fair from them, they are just trying to be nice to you,accept there kind gesture.
ReplyDeleteguy collect and notify me wen u do, cos i we be sendin u my account
ReplyDeleteDis is funny... U did well by rjecting it nd make sure u rject it again u are a man. Lin post my comment o I don tire 4 u
ReplyDeleteMayb cos u r a guy...IMO, I think there's nothing wrong in it. Its a sign of appreciation, dat u r accepted. My MIL to be gives me too...even though my fiance takes me dere in his car. No harm....
ReplyDeleteIdiot......d monie was meant 4 their sista but was given 2 u cos u r d man.....abeg collect d sh*t n stop askin question dat will make me punch u out.......ekpa(fool)
ReplyDeleteDon't collect it n don't act offended, just bros thank. You so much u r took kind. If you collect it the will not. Respect u, trust me. U will always be a boy boy in that family if u. Collect it. U only collect when u r in great need of the money
ReplyDeleteOga why are you dulling. Men and ego sha. collect the money jare
ReplyDeleteNo don't!!!! Respect yourself o.
ReplyDeleteAbeg don't collect ooo.ur girl is being sentimental over the issue but you proved to them that u r a man n can take care of yourself n ur girl.and to note,a guy offering u money n u reject it shows that u r man enough.so as long as it is nt her mom(as a female who might get sentimental over it),dnt collect abeg..
ReplyDeleteThis is very funny!are u that broke?una treck go there?gudluck sha
ReplyDeleteHell NO
ReplyDeleteReally what is LIBer business with this?
ReplyDeleteNah see finish oh if you collect...still say no
ReplyDeleteU r a learner
ReplyDeleteAre u really doing well?
ReplyDeleteYou don find dowry money be that. Make u dey collect am nisho. Na every weekend we go dey go her brother house. Na so my palm go spread, make them put the envelope inside am. Before you know it, wedding money don reach, dowry don reach.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahhaha.
ReplyDeletepls don't collect. maintain your dignity and respect.
ReplyDeleteyou are quite a shape guy, and I like the that, Lol
ReplyDeletePls, do not only collect T-fare money, also collect food money
that would not be bad as your babe likes that
oh, am i forgetting something?
PLS, also collect money for her hair as she would be needing it.
boy oh boy, your question shows how matured that you are.
Dnt cllct
ReplyDeleteChai,nothing person no go see for here, when food hungry you come ask libers weda make you chop or not.
ReplyDeleteMost times u are addressed the way you are dressed,did you take your car to the in-law's place?what kind of a car?where ur clothes starched and ironed?LOOK,its another ball game if u go and tell ur inlaw ur marriage plan and he gives u money,.....but this DON'T accept it.becos,he ll take u for a kid.
ReplyDeleteWhich kain stupid talk be this one? This one na gist? Bia Linda, kpa cha kwa anya gi o!
ReplyDeleteMy brother, according to my own culture, its not right but some people do it. I wont do it and its not pride, its just the things that come with it. So be yourself and follow your heart. Buy something when you are going and give the inlaw.
ReplyDeleteGuy, I thought you sent this mail to another blogger. Abi the answers you got there no do you? Pple be seeking for attention.
ReplyDeleteDon't collect it bro! Don't do it. Maintain your self worth and dignity.
ReplyDeleteI thought u said you're ok,so why contemplating taking transport fare from others?
ReplyDelete*vanchuks*
Don't!!! U r comfy wit wat u earn so y collect stipends? Berra 2 disappoint her dan ur in-laws. U may discuss it wit her b4 going sha. Hope u wont come back here 4 solutions wen u r married to her, cos by den she'll....... (LD)
ReplyDeleteDon't!
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe you should start giving urself the much anticipated respect before ur inlaws on time. If they want to help u let them help their sister since u two are going to be one soon.
ReplyDeleteYou be hungry man? Na wa o. Don't collect it if you are serious about the girl. Its not just right.
ReplyDeleteCommon gera out, linda pls stop asking us nonsenses. R u not a man, wetin dey no go us person here
ReplyDeletehmmm brov its twisted I think turning down the offer politely is NOT a bad one however you need to factor in the gap between you and the said brov inlaw (age, social wealth and material wealth)be fair to your self if it was Dangote who offered you an envelope will you reject it.... smile. on the other hand ask you babe to accept the envelope each time the offer comes and don't drag it with her when you leave there wink
ReplyDeleteYes o...collect. Don't slack! Collect the money along with all the insults you will receive later in life. Just make sure you don't come back here to seek more advice. Is that a question? No be only collect! Men these days, smh!!!
ReplyDeletei'm sure he wouldnt..but if he offers u, reject it, bro.
ReplyDeleteu r a man..not a girl
no grudges nor offence.
reject politely and try explain to ur girl why it has to be like that
#shikena
hmmm brov its twisted I think turning down the offer politely is NOT a bad one however you need to factor in the gap between you and the said brov inlaw (age, social wealth and material wealth)be fair to your self if it was Dangote who offered you an envelope will you reject it.... smile. on the other hand ask you babe to accept the envelope each time the offer comes and don't drag it with her when you leave there wink
ReplyDeleteHope tomorrow you won't go back to your vomit!b4 that I hope you WOULD NOT BE EXPECTING any contribution towards the wedding!
ReplyDeleteHope tomorrow you won't go back to your vomit!b4 that I hope you WOULD NOT BE EXPECTING any contribution towards the wedding!
ReplyDeleteLol...so did I Linda. stupid question, dis is just a case of boredom
ReplyDeleteLol...so did I Linda. stupid question, dis is just a case of boredom
ReplyDeleteYou no get car?
ReplyDeleteWhy you ride Okada go your in-law?
You for borrow pose nau.
Lol
Dumb Question!
ReplyDeleteD broda shud hav given her sista d moni not yu
ReplyDeletena tfare be ur wahala??
ReplyDeleteJx passing...
ReplyDeleteDon't collect
ReplyDeleteDon't even think of it
ReplyDeletehmmmmmmm,b4! pls do.Since they know u didn't beg and ure working.Pls LINDA upload my comment plz
ReplyDeletehhahhahaahaahahaahahaaaahhhahha nna size the money and collect something joor...wot are inlaws...but God go punish devil if say na 20 naira notes make the envelope big sha...i fear envelope tinz sha!
ReplyDeleteD answer is NO,u r a man and u nid 2 ve ur self esteem and pride within u.nd rmba 2 always go wit a drink n nt jst empty handed n pls don't look cheap 2 dem takin d money seem like u cnt tk care of their sister so b careful wen dealing wit in-Laws
ReplyDeletePlease do NOT collect it.You will need the self respect in future.
ReplyDeleteDon't collect
ReplyDeleteLMAO chimo.....nothing I no go hear for LIB
ReplyDeleteWat sort of arrogant famliy z dat don't take any tf from anybody did u write to dem trash if it cums as a weeding gift beta buh tf doorrrr me as a woman won't even take
ReplyDeleteMary says so
Please don't collect it from them so that you can keep your pride and also to show that you can take care of their daughter and sister.
ReplyDeleteNo! Throw way am. Linda stop forging stories abeg or rather stop posting senseless stories
ReplyDelete$$k@y$$
Hmmmm. My dear, deres ntn wrong in rejectin d transport fare. I tink it shws hw responsible n well behaved u'r. Ur babe shld undastand dt ur a man wit principles. Howeva, rejectin deir gifts myt b misundastood as being rude, condescendin, proud etc. So I'd advice u to politely say no at first,den after much persuation,collect d money!
ReplyDeletePlease don't collect it from them so that you can keep your pride and also to show that you can take care of their daughter and sister.
ReplyDeleteI laughed so hard at dis post.Anyway since u ve started rejecting TRansport fare,I suggest u continue sha.No harm in dat.
ReplyDeleteDrive a nice car and look porshe! It will save u the insults...thank me later
ReplyDeleteNope!
ReplyDeleteMaybe ur girlfriend family is very rich, my dear collect d money coz u didn't ask for it.
ReplyDeleteCollect it now. International mumu
ReplyDeleteDear, collect it. Its nothing Bt jst a free gift. U dint ask 4it.
ReplyDeleteIf he is older and richer than you.... why not?... my thought tho
ReplyDeleteIf possible, don't collect pin( even BB pin) frm them
ReplyDeleteLmao! Church agbasala!Nothing we no go hear for LIB.Ok nw. Am gonna wait for d comments to roll in.
ReplyDeleteY are they giving u T fare?pls don't collect.
ReplyDeleteWhat u did was right by not collecting the transport fare. Plz keep rejecting it. It shows ur a man
ReplyDeleteThe last time I checked, 75% of bankers re broke ass! Ur news has gone round the family already! Its hi time u drop ur pride and accept help!
ReplyDeleteStupid question fa! Suit urself abeg... Dat ur babe sef na by force to collect money ni. Maybe she xpcted u to collect the money and give her so wen such repeat Iiitself nxt wk biko collect the money and give her!
ReplyDeleteAre u an errand boy? Don't collect any dim from your in-laws, even now that u are not married to him.
ReplyDeleteDon't collect infact you should give them something for their hospitality lol
ReplyDeleteIf they have kids around them, u can collect the money and give it bk to their children in form of gift. Dats if they have. Don't make the mistake of collecting anything frm them if they don't have kids yet
ReplyDeleteNO, dont collect. Just reject politely. Befor the gist will be u beg dem cash.
ReplyDeleteIts gud u dint collect d 1st tym so therefore don't collect dis tym cuz it ll mak u luk lik u r gettin 2 her ppl cuz u dnt ve d money
ReplyDeleteDats a BIG no no,rather tell ur gf to collect it nxt time
ReplyDeletethis question is funny to me sha....man ego...if u think you need the money why not go ahead please
ReplyDeleteI dnt see any harm in collecting d tfare but why would your woman's people offer to give you tfare, mayb you should up your appearance (fashion wise) weneva you are going there. That's if you feel insulted by them giving you tfare. Another thing is that dey may indirectly be telling you to tighten your belt if you must marry their daughter as she is frm a well-to-do-family.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahahhaaa
ReplyDeleteCAPITAL NO. Respect urself Man.
ReplyDeleteCAPITAL NO. Respect urself Man.
ReplyDeleteyou dont have problem in your life.
ReplyDeleteSO LINDA THIS IS NEWS ? I JUST HOPE THIS WONT REPEAT IT SELF AGAIN OOOO...
ReplyDeleteLmaooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
ReplyDeleteIs this a joke?
No don't, u are a man....
ReplyDeleteNo please, I dnt think it tells good of you. Hold your own, dnt let anyone fool you to thinking it doesn't count bcos it does. I think your gf's broda is testing your possibility of been a liability.
ReplyDeleteguy you should collect cos you did not ask him for it and am sure he knows you have it.
ReplyDeleteU did the right thing man.Stand ur ground no collect money from ur in-law at all except u really dey tight corner. Na small small clap dey enter dance. Before u know person go begin misyan give u.
ReplyDeleteSO YOU WANT ADVICE TO KNOW IF YOU WILL COLLECT TRANSPORT MONEY OFFERED TO YOU BY UR FUTURE INLAWS, AND YOU ARE A BANKER
ReplyDeleteLMAOOOOOOOOOOO!!! I have no words. I just can't!!
ReplyDeleteNO
ReplyDeleteNO
ReplyDeleteMy dear dont worry trust me dis one wnt offer u another one.....jst take it frm me...hahahaha ..between u and i.....u wish abi
ReplyDeleteMy dear dont worry trust me dis one wnt offer u another one.....jst take it frm me...hahahaha ..between u and i.....u wish abi
ReplyDeleteHummm...its somehow arkward anyways...but seriously,tradition or no tradition,i think issues like this has to do with personality,look at how everything goes,and if it goes well and the 'brother' is far away older than you guys (couples)...then you can collect it.....its nothing...
ReplyDeleteMISS BIKINI says...
THIS ONE THEY ARE OFFERING YOU TRANSPORT MONEY INSIDE ENVELOP, NA FLIGTH YOU DEY USE GO VISIT THEM ...
ReplyDeletelmfao
ReplyDeleteLinda seriously u no get stories give us? How is this a question ? Sure this guy is about 18 years old.why should u collect ?
ReplyDeleteTransport fare?? I dont understand, Why should they give you transport fare when you are not a student? May be it should be called another name. I don't understand.
ReplyDeleteHell no, do not collect any envelope. Stick to ur standards.
ReplyDeleteLol. No
ReplyDeleteYou have to let the lady know what your dos and don't s are before you go far, this is part of courtship.
ReplyDeleteNO!
ReplyDeleteThis is serious o. My advise: don't collect.
ReplyDeleteIt is good you refused the money. But na wah you who suppose carry yam,palmoil,rice beans and ugba go your in law house how come his bro is now offering you money? Did you really appeared ok on that visit? Any way you have shown that you don't need transsport. Abeg u no go there with car or some form of transport. Pls don't accept tranport money from you inlaws. Don't disrespect yourself. But why will that bro offer u TP no matter how wealthy he is. Some inlaws ehh
ReplyDeleteDid U trek to ur inlaw to be house? Use ur brain jor. Stop waiting for libers to give U advice.
ReplyDeleteits not a bad thing
ReplyDeleteIn somr cultures its considered an insult to reject gifts from your inlaws. Even if you dont need the money, collect it then spend it on their sister.
ReplyDeleteDid U trek there??? Plx use ur brain. Ur gf has no respect for U, if she does she won't quarel wit U for rejecting the first one. Use ur brain nd leave libers alone for advice
ReplyDeleteOh boi if na me I go collect am sharp sharp
ReplyDeleteSIMPLE ANSWER: NO. WHY? You are a man preparing to marry. One of the requirements/pre-requisites is that you should be financially capable of providing the basic needs for your family to be. Transport fare to and fro wherever you need to go inclusive. As for your girl, reorient her mind before marriage o, or this seemingly innocuous scenario will metamorphose into something else later.
ReplyDeletethey are simply reminding you to get a car cause they dont want their sister jumping marwa wt you when carrying ur pregnancy
ReplyDeleteif u have a car they wld have asked u to fuel ur car wt d money
they are passing a message grab it
HYBunny
Ur inlaws are indirectly tryna tell you that u should grow up...they undstnd ur condition(predicament) buh for d sake of future insults alwys decline their respective offers!
ReplyDeleteFIRST INTRODUCE US THE ORIGIN OF YOUR GURL,SO WE MAY KNOW IF ITS A TRADITION/CULTURE IN THEIR TRIBE/STATE/COUNTRY.THIS WLL EDUCATE US TO KNOW WHAT BEST IDEA TO GIVE.AGAIN,DOES SHE HAVE A SURNAME IF SHE'S A NIGERIAN.I KNW YU KNW WHAT I MEAN?.IF THEIR SURNAME IS OF THOSE THAT LARGER THAN LIFE...WHO ARE YU?
ReplyDeletecollect it ,
ReplyDeleteIf it is not a cultural thing, is it a spiritual thing? I can't understand why you will give a grown man "transport money"
ReplyDeleteConsider it payment for showing interest in their sister/daughter. don't expect more after marriage o! Just joking. I think if you feel awkward about it then don't collect it. Let you lady collect it if she feels the need to.
ReplyDeleteCollect oh if dats what will make ur r/ship stay strong pls bro try n overcome them it doesn't mean u cannot afford a T-fair atleast u dey work
ReplyDelete