A part-time Business Administration Student of Lagos State Polytechnic, Miss Olayinde Bournes, 22, (pictured above) has allegedly been beaten to death by her boyfriend, Abuchi Cyril.
The incident happened yesterday Thursday February 21 at Shorinmade Street, Aguda-Ogba area of Lagos State, southwest Nigeria.
According to Miss Titilayo Fagbamila, friend of the deceased girl, she always complained to her that her boyfriend, Abuchi always beat her at the slightest provocation.
She said that on Thursday when the tragedy occurred, Abuchi invited Olayinde to his house along Shorinmade Street, to see his travel documents. Titilayo said nobody knew what happened when the lovers were together but it is believed that they had a misunderstanding which may have led to a fight.Read more after the cut...
Sources at 17, Muibi Street residence of the deceased told P.M.NEWS that after the fight with her boyfriend, the victim was rushed to G&S Hospital where she was confirmed dead before the corpse was taken to Ikeja General Hospital for autopsy.
Abuchi was immediately arrested and taken to Area 'G' Police Command, Ogba, for interrogation.
When our correspondent visited Area 'G', Ogba, Friday morning, the suspect was seen writing his statement.
When contacted for comment, the Area 'G' Commander, Assistant Commissioner of Police, Mr. Ishola Abdulahi, declined to speak on the issue, saying it was too early as investigation was going on.
Speaking with P.M.NEWS, the 55-year old father of Olayinde, Mr. Akindele Bournes, said his daughter was not a troublesome person, adding that the government must ensure that justice is done.
here we go again. And my boyfriend has beaten me b4 oh. Make I run joor o.
ReplyDeleteGuys r bad. How can a guy be so mean?
DeleteAbeg sharrap joor. If. Ur own mean, na u sabi. I'm a gal nd I can say not evri guy is bad. @ least, I can say d@ bout my dad.
Delete***JANTA***
My boyfriend hit me severl times. And appologised like a man fighting for his breath. I have decieded to run before he kills me. I can't believe I was in that kind of relationship all in the name of love. Girls if a man lays a finger on you run.
Deleteyes its true ma fellow ladies if a guy has beaten once please run 4 your dere life bcus if u die he lives
DeleteIf he beats u and u stayn u are a GOAT. Love is not suppose to be violent..
DeleteThe next time he beats u, kick him as hard as u can in d balls and say its over.
No matter the begging, don't go back o. Otherwise, u body will be transported in a wooden box called coffin.
Oh u still dey wait? Dem go soon kee u
DeleteWas it not on dis same blog we saw how a man poured acid on a girl when she called quit her r/ship with a guy, anoda man also went after the whole family when his girl said she won't marry him again.its not about running away. Its about doing d right thing @ d right time,asking God for direction and also being sensitive in d spirit
DeleteGals u all shld be ashamed of urselfs if u find urself in a relatnship wit a guy dt shows off hs strngth by beating a female.
DeleteGuy dat beat gals r cowards and av complex issue a real man doesn't beat his woman he simply leave dat place in order not 2 provoke or if she d troublesome type he walks away from d relationship unless she pleads and is ready 2 change add me 4 one or 2 advise "wink" 22F514E0
DeleteHow sad! Ladies should learn from the fact that if a man hits you once there is a high probability that he would hit you again, no need staying with him again after that. If only she knew she would have left the dude from day one he started beating her. RIP girl.
ReplyDeleteThink I have a crush on u. Lol
DeleteSo sad. And prince charming Linda ought to send u an autographed polo and face cap kos u'v made her blog ur preoccupation.gosh!
DeleteAnon8:23 shattap there! *tongue out let my Prince Charming be.....
DeletePls leave Prince Charming alone ooooooooooooo!is it ur fone or pc he is using 2 browse?concentrate on d issue n comment n stop taking anoda persn's panadol!
DeletePrince ulgly should be banned from this blog; he has become a nuisance. Shit head. Moron
DeleteShut up der! I lik PC jare....he's so enlightened...I hop u re handsome tew *blushin* lol
DeleteMy Prince, you are here too? Welcome o
DeleteYeye prince charming must u always comment.i can see u are jobless.get busy ram
DeleteThis Prince Charming dude is so smart... When you make a bad comment about him he then uses the "anonymous" tag to give himself 10 good female comments...
Delete#Oghenerukwve
@Anonymous 8:28; I also ought to send you an autographed polo and face cap because you have made me your preoccupation.
DeletePrince charming, abeg no mind them jare. Carry go.
DeleteIf u say prince charming is jobless it means u r jobless too cos u r monitoring his post as well....else how wud u hav known he is commenting on evry topic if u urselves have been doin thesame? @scubaposh
DeleteBefore we say Jack Robinson now , some people will say the lady is from the sea and provoked d guy that was y she was killed.There thinking is obviously warped and they may need some space in the zoo.
ReplyDeleteTook the words right out of my mouth!
DeleteStrange woman-jezebel- delilah- athaliah-yemija...lwkmd...I feel for her n most esp her family.may her soul RIP
DeleteTilapia,catfish,crocodile,obokun fish all of them will drown fanny kayode!signed:wide eyed!
DeleteHmm,nawa Oo.the way guys beat there girlfriend now is really getting too much.its like they enjoy doing it.and really,its needs to stop.
ReplyDeleteYou b olodo..simple English u no sabi..."guys enjoy doing it"...wat re they doing oh...sha use a condom bcos na una no allow d national cake go round...Madam Doing...rainy season is hia
DeleteNo run oh,stay der u hear?!
ReplyDeleteSome ladies can be sooo foolishly in love tho. How can u still be dating a guy who beats u almost all d time @ any slight provocation? If he can punch or slap u. @ all, den trust me he can kill u someday. Girls should try and be wise in making relationship decisions. D guy maltreating u like dat is obviously not d best for you, so get out of d r/ship b4 u death do u guys apart...
DeleteThis is pathetic. Rest in peace girl. A lot of ladies are passing through this thinking it will get better but for worse. Be brave to work out of any such relationship. Like this facebook page-Flat belly & Weightloss Tips for Nigeria
ReplyDeleteOh dear, not again!
ReplyDelete*sad*
maxi haha so you and your husband did not conclude that she must have provoked him? That she was with him for fame and money? Happy men are not God cause some people can judge stupidly. When it was oscar's own you said the girl deserved it.
DeleteUnfortunately for the father of the deceased, Nigeria has no government.
ReplyDeleteOma se o.
Babes,don't wait til dey kill u oooo
ReplyDeleteIs Abuchi Ibo? What are we going to do about this people?
ReplyDeleteAn Ibo boy Killed a Yoruba girl, are you inviting another civil war?
This is a very shallow thing to say! And by the way, I'm yoruba.
DeleteHe needs to go join his mates in eating grass. Goats that is...
DeleteI remember when that yoruba guy killed that igbo girl, there was nothing the igbos in this blog didnot say. Till today they warn igbo girls not to marry yoruba men cus they marry several women, they flirt and they beat women. Please what would u ibos say about the man who killed 7 members of a family in cold blood and now this one. Do u still think your tribe is bigger and better than every other tribe? Please think before u comment. Every tribe have their good and bad parts. No tribe is superior to any minus the hausas! Hahahaha! Lol! (Am sorry)Please let's mind d way we insult tribes cus people commit atrocities every minute. Its because the south-west holds the Ngerian press. So many things happening in the south west will be published more than other regions. Meanwhile other tribes commit the same atrocities that's why I buy sun newspaper which is more or less an eastern paper, u see different atrocities commited in the east. We are all d same. Some are just crazier than others! Linda pleasepost my comment, if u insult me, right back "at cha"
DeleteSpot on well said... no one mention about what the lady did to warrant beating. I am very sure her death is an accident. The guy did not mean to kill her. He did not shoot her now!!! Abi he shoot am? Don't get me wrong, I am not supporting the guy. Just taking a non biased view
Deleteabeg abeg abeg Tf is dis nw ehn.... wen we r just tryin to take a breather from dis oscar parole,, nw a nigerian wannabe.. Y'all shud chill abeg 0//
ReplyDeleteP.S. linda u beta post my comment bcos i no undastand ur own parole sef gan.... I'm Cheekah_btw
Here we go again Our Oscar Pistorius case... Abi is it because he no get good lawyer to say it was accidental ??hiss..I really hope she gets justice ..we have not heard anything from ALuu4 oooo
ReplyDeleteaunty linda post my "COMMENTI" O
ReplyDeleteChina chill am first to comment.
DeleteAnd some girls will still not learn thier lesson, they will still run after one useless boy all in the name of love
ReplyDeleteWats happening to Nigerian men these in this generation. Women are to be protected not battered. Na wa o. When will the story of battering ever end.
ReplyDeleteWhen my boyfriend beat me the second time.. I pretended to him that I had forgiven him, the moment I left he didn't set his eyes on me until 2 yrs later.. Don't tolerate it for any reason.. Judge Judy said they do not change! I love my life and myself too much to allow any nimcompoop to harm me.
ReplyDeleteBoyfriend!!!hian!!!some girls are jes so STUPID!!!wat are you still doing in the relationship if he beats you? Its jes sad...blind love led her 2 her grave...SMH...may her soul RIP...TRUDY
ReplyDeleteLadies pls if U̶̲̥̅̊я̲ bf beats Ʊ once, run away. Ʊ don't hav 2 b beaten 10 tyms b4 Ʊ uno U̶̲̥̅̊я̲ in a bad relationship. Abi is he a panel beater? I can't endure such oh
ReplyDeleteLol @ panel beater....he beats u once, shame on him, he beats u again shame on u cos na grave matter go follow...
DeleteVery sad!
ReplyDeleteI'm waiting for you idiots supporting Oscar Pistorius for murdering his girlfriend in cold blood to also come here and say,"INNOCENT BEFORE PROVEN GUILTY"!!
I hope your sister, mother, girlfriend, or daughter will NOT end up killed by these evil monsters!!!!
He is such a despicable idiot, Only an animal does this. Here i am condemning igbo girls for going out with yoruba guys and this animal igbo man kills a yoruba woman,bringing shame to our tribe!
ReplyDeleteA beautiful one for that matter. May her soul rest in Peace.
Shut the hell up with your myopic sense of reasoning
DeleteAlicia shut up to! You asshole. You are part of the people always abusing yorubas in this blog! What would u say about this? Hhhiiiidiot!
DeleteI just recently started visiting this blog again last week after being away for months, so shut the fuck up if you don't know what you're talking about.
DeleteI'd prefer you back up your claims with evidence. I don't have tine to bash other tribes, but i do defend Igbos when we are being unnecessarily attacked. If it intimidates you, then go and cry.
Pea brain
Oh and btw, your "H" factor is showing. ;)
DeleteBwahahahaha
Alright guys, no tribe bashing. We are suppose to be one Nigeria. Let's pretend to be that so our children don't pick up on disgusting tribalism.
DeleteAlicia, welcome back dear!
DeleteAlicia ur stupid self did not notice that the H factor was intentional. Wimp! Stupid liar. Who gives a fuck if u went to the moon! Nuisance
DeleteWe are one Nigeria? Go and say that to a boko haram guy. Naa bomb he go take blow you off
DeleteNo run stay make him kill you,becos of stupid love. A man that truly loves a girl will not beat her. Mumu love.
ReplyDeleteFani Kayode will soon blame d girl for being an Ogbanje.Depraved minds
ReplyDeleteI can't comprehend y a lady will stay in an abusive relationship. Could dis b LOVE or Madness. Pls ladies when a guy abuse u physically, pls and pls RUN for ur life before it get out of hand. May her soul rest in Peace and I hope d Beast will be brought to book and rot in Kirikiri
ReplyDeleteFrom one Oscar to another. After, some idiots will be saying innocent till proven guilty.ladies better shine your eyes o, if u re in an abusive relationship better run don't try and work it out because at the end of the day when that man kills u, he is either granted bail or some male chavinists will be calling the deaceased a jezebel.Kai we women have suffered o.
ReplyDeleteMaybe they where into violent sex..
DeleteDoggy
Y will u ever rise ur hands to beat a child u did not give birth to?.. Things we do for love!.. Women,.. De cross we bear in a world dt de men claim to own!.. May de Lord rest her young soul!.. Amen!..#sadface#
ReplyDeleteGbagaun!!!! "Rise ur hands"
DeleteIts sad. Girls if you are in a Violet relationship, leave it cos no guy is worth it...
ReplyDeleteI HATE AFRICAN MEN!!!
ReplyDeleteFine, go marry European now. Dumb ass... People excuse my language. The this person provoke me. She hates afican men. She no be African? fool!!!
DeleteAnon 7.54 PM u're a tribalistic fool. wat does dat have to do with anything? oloshi
ReplyDeletesad sad sad...and these females never leave when they see traces of an abusive behaviour in a guy
ReplyDeleteA boyfriend has no reason WHATSOEVER to be beating his girlfriend WHATSOEVER.. she deserve to be respected! She's NOT your daughter or younger sister..If you really love her, then treat her with respect! God knws i cant stand a beating boyfriend NEVERRRRRRR!!!!!!!!! when i have a better option called "BREAK UP" why should i stay for you to kill me all in the name of LOVE?? Biko.. my parent still love me! BTW May her soul RIPP
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ReplyDeleteDis guy is not a real guy and the girl is a fake girl 4 dating dat guy now she is dead and maybi she has gone 2 HELL FIRE
ReplyDeleteGod have mercy....... Linda i beg no let ur man beat u like dat oo
You are so inhuman, stupidity and senseless
DeleteShe must have provoked him n she is from the sea like uncle fani whatever said. The rule is never get killed as a woman or else you get blamed? The man can never be at fault, hmmmmmm. God dey
ReplyDeleteGosh!!! Sadness... Many gurls are passing tru D̶̲̥̅̊Ȋ̝̊̅§ shit o.. ℓ̊ don run o b4 one boy go butcher me.
ReplyDeleteThis issue of men killing their lovers is getting too much now!it seem some ladies are tolerating abusive relationships more now just in a bid to say they are in a relationship!its now a life and death matter not only beating.
ReplyDeleteThis is quite sad dou,may her soul rest in peace=
Common gurls, I am a guy n seriously, I bliv its even more of a crime 2 remain wit a guy dat beats u dan d crime or act of beating itself, any guy dt raises his hand on u while dating u, will def soak ur head in water wen u marry him. Cut all such tie n plsssss run....I 4 one believe any guy dats capable of beating a lady can easily b identified 4rm deir attitude, so get ur instincts up n pray 4 a discerning spirit...Godbless u all......ish ur boy SLEEKYDEE
ReplyDeleteGod bless u darl. Pls tell them
DeleteGirls are stupid, sory to say how can a guy be beating the hell out of u and u are still going to meet him what kind ofstupid love is that a guy be
ReplyDeleteMaybe he will say he thot she was a burglar. Mscheeeew
ReplyDeleteIGBO MEN BEAT THEIR WIVES!! IT IS SAD!! MY MAN HAS HEAT ME TWICE THOUGH WE ARE CURRENTLY GOING THRU A FIGHT..I BELIEVE IM DONE! GOD HAS MUCH MORE GUD STUFF IN PLAN 4ME..MY OWN, THE ONE GOD SENDS MY WAY WILL NOT BEAT ME/SLAP ME/PUSH ME..ANY FORM OF "BEATEN" HE WONT DO IN JESUS NAME! ITS JUST SAD!!
ReplyDeleteMadam,it's not only igbo men that beat their wives. U fell into d wrong hands dat's all.
DeleteMadam,it's not only igbo men that beat their wives. U fell into d wrong hands dat's all.
DeleteI don't blame him too much for beating on ur ass,the way u spell is atrocious!
DeleteWoman stop behaving like a Saint. What did you do to the guy. Makesure you do not repeat same actions with a yoruba or hausa or white man. If you do it will result in slaps, fool
DeleteGirls r falling into d'wrong hands men. Bring this babe to Texas and i will treat her like a queen!
ReplyDeleteSorry.. Too late, she's dead.
DeleteHey you are looking for woman? Opeke no dey texas?
DeleteWhat is the meaning of all this? Is life this cheap to be taken at the slightest privocation! This is barbaric. This bf and gf thing an wa o. Friendship is by choice not by force if u are not satisfied get out if u dont want to suffer the fate of the beautiful girl now dead. This is tragic!
ReplyDeleteAnon7:37, don't run o. We shall be reading ur obituary soon
ReplyDeleteyeah 60yrs after we read after own obituary. Ode
DeleteWhat makes you think you have any right to hit a woman?
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for the lady and on the other note I don't... I don't understand why some ladies choose to stick with guys who hit ..this habit should not be tolerated under any condition, she had a choice to dump this man before it got this far. Meanwhile, the guy should rot in jail.
ReplyDeleteIf U are around Abuja, be very very careful cos boko haram have promised to make Abuja bloody this weekend so avoid where there is crowd, one of their target areas is WUSE MARKET, Be warned pls send this to all ur contact cos U must save somebody. Information gotten from an Intelligent security Agent...Beware
ReplyDeleteNa wao wey l dey find one and guys beat up girls to death . Girls self so blind to see good guy with pure mind .r.I.p
ReplyDeleteAm engaged, we love each deeply N he worships me,but he hits me sometimes ,den he starts crying den blame me for pushing him, its sad but I can't Imagine ma life without him, its a crazy World we living in. RIP Gal. #domesticviolenceneeds2stop# miss sunshine.
ReplyDeleteBabes you need to start imagining a life without him or he will continue to beat you and he will continue to beg, its a viscious cycle. Surround your self with women that don't tolerate abuse and never make excuses for him and soon you will find the courage within you.
DeleteWAKE UP N SMELL D DAMN COFFEE,anyone that bullies u is a weakling n they find a safe haven in u to hide their fears so they'll keep doing it till u stand up to them or walk away.
DeleteI have a friend dat is going thru d same shit,d guy beats her up,she is d bread winner of d family,she cooks for d fool,buys clothes for him n still shags him,he's just a jobless fool dat depends on d girl for everything n yet he treats her like a piece of trash. D other day he destroyed her blackberry fone just because she added an old friend. Cn't start explaining everything dis girl has gone through cos of dis guy. Pls girls shld know that it's not compulsory to be in a relationship. You can be single and still be happy.
ReplyDeleteY wait 4 him to raise his hands on u d second time bfr u realise u re datin a beast?...once a man hits u once..babezzz...d guy na sure beast..jst pretend to hv 4given him nd take to ur heels!!
ReplyDeleteD heart of man is wicked. Linda pls update us wit d two north America student in Benin rep dat used der girlfriends for ritual but wer arrested by d police.
ReplyDeleteI am referring to anonymous poster February 22, 2013 at 7:47 PM, shame on you for that stupid comment. what has IBO and YORUBA got to do with this. It is people like you that cause discrimination in this country. Instead of u to condemn what the guy has done, you are talking about Ibo killing a Yoruba, civil war nonsense. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF.
ReplyDeleteI kip teln ppl. Dnt b so in luv dat u can't walk out of an abusivee relationship. I rmember ds girl in my hostel. Her bf wl beat her blue-black ol d timee and she's light-skinned. D day ds girl treat him case ehn. She drugged his drink and broke his knee cap with a pestle den left. Time no dey.
ReplyDeleteJus found my 1 true love in dis ur friend #nohomo# if he hits u drug him nd break hez knee cap no excuse @ all treat 4k up wif 4k up shikena misskay
DeletePls am not tribalistic here, IGBO Men beat dere wives, ma husband is Igbo N b4 we got married dats d only fin ma parent warnd me abt N I lookd around it s true, for me in Love Enoff is neva Enoff. Dou I won't watch A man kill me ooooo. Sophie.
ReplyDeleteIts this culture of buying a woman from her fathers house that is killing the igbos. See the amount they use for bride price. A woman is like a property so they can unleash their anger and disgust on her at anytime. I still wonder why an educated igbo lady will marry an uneducated business man, maybe he was d one who funded her education, you do not expect anything less than a king to servant relationship. Illiteracy is a disease.
DeleteLinda abeg get ur facts right Abuchi nd dis girl broke up a long time ago becos she cheated on him severally. Also Abuchi turned himself ova to d police his friend drove him down. The gal wasnt invited it was wen she heard that he wld be travelling to Malaysia on saturdat that she ran to his house meanwhile she told her mum she was goin to the bank.Autopsy result isnt out so pls lets nt judge. Abuchi is a very quiet person well known in oke ira as a gentle boy
ReplyDeletePlease what ever happened between them nobody cares. The question is did he beat her? U must be stupid to say because he is quiet and well known therefore he is innocent. Do you stay wiv him when his girlfriend is around? U must be stupid. He turned himself in because he beat her and she died! So all the other things ure saying na story.
DeleteSpoken like a true woman-beater! It seems ladies that we have one in our midst! Look out! He's coming!
DeleteSo what? She was promiscuous and so she deserved to be beaten death? He beat her! She died! There is nothing more to say, he is a murderer and should never again be allowed to see the light of day.
I have a friend dat is going thru d same shit,d guy beats her up,she is d bread winner of d family,she cooks for d fool,buys clothes for him n still shags him,he's just a jobless fool dat depends on d girl for everything n yet he treats her like a piece of trash. D other day he destroyed her blackberry fone just because she added an old friend. Cn't start explaining everything dis girl has gone through cos of dis guy. Pls girls shld know that it's not compulsory to be in a relationship. You can be single and still be happy.
ReplyDeleteNa wah ooh...now som pple bring tribe into dis huh??? anywayz, pls babes...any man hitting u shudnt be tolerated ooh,from saying i love you to killing u..it cud b any1 really, wen dis madness called love hooks u, esp ur 1st bf/gf..u wud tolerate crap!!! buh pls ladies wisen up, no man should hit u under any circumstance.
ReplyDeleteShe chose dat path! She's been complainin to her friend dat he beats her b she still remained in d relatnship bcos d boy na Obama! RIP
ReplyDeletey shud a guy beat a girl he has not paid her bride price? Real men dont beats their girfriends no matter what. My advice 2 guys dat are mean, ''when u r tempted 2 loose patient with some1, THINK how patient God has been with u all d time.
ReplyDeleteMay God av mercy on d guy(abuchi) and grant eternal rest 2 d deceased. Amen
So if her bride price has been paid, she can be beaten, liberally???
Deleteso sorry, may her soul rest in peace, if she had knwn, am always lucky,i've never be beaten by any guy and i have in mind dt any guy dt try it wit me 'll never go free
ReplyDeleteabeg domestic abuse is nt traced 2 a tribe, background, race, ethnic group or waheva its an individual choice to either b d prey or d predator 4 d past 17yrs since ma parents gave birth 2 me dey've neva laid hands on each oda no mata wat... If u cnt stand d arguement y nt walk away (or galz simply fly away) hian who wan chop slap frm man go chop am o u no fit pull pant finish 4 boy im go com dey slap u or butcha u ma frnd call boiz for am ni *jst kiddin* (make nobody attack me o)
ReplyDeleteIt's in there blood..useles animal" Ibo
ReplyDeleteAl rather have a dog smh!!!!
ReplyDelete@sleekydee:I feel U̶̲̥̅̊ joor Oº°°º
ReplyDeleteI left me ex cos he slappep me.he has wounded me b4 n left d scar.being so foolish,I 4gave him until he slapped me.although I didn't break up immediately,I later did.I took dat resolution cos I love ma self n him 2 cos I wudnt wnt him 2 b killed or rot in jail if anytin bad happens 2 me.all d same may her soul R.I.P
ReplyDeleteAnon 8:54pm. You are a Bastard. Go and tell all dat to the judge.
ReplyDeleteIts unfortunate that she is dead but I wonder why @ 22 she is comfortable with a guy who mal-handled her. Just chip in this " Your boyfriend beats you and you put on Your DM, " He brings the best out of me" the question is, Are you a drum, Eran I ya. Let these young ladies face their studies and embrace the future rather than wasting their time with some stupid guys. I am a man but I don't appreciate a guy beating ladies. Anyway, May her soul rest in peace and God ll grant the families thw fortitude to bear irrevisible loss.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to wait for a man to beat you the first time, any man that does not respect/regard women shows it in his character. If your man insults/dresses down/maybe even pours his drink on a waitress, he is liable tto beat you. If he beats his sister or female relatives, he is also liable to beat you. Check for signs of abuse from any guy you date, also make them realise from the start that you will never tolerate abuse.ladies, pls read up on abuse. It starts from somewhere, and if you are observant, you will with God's help find out in time and take off as if the hounds of hell are after you. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteGosh! This incessant women battering must stop. These beasts of a woman-battering men must be dealt with. Jeez! Cant believe this! Very ridiculous...
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to wait for a man to hit you the first time before you leave,and a man that hits you the first time and says sorry(cries) will hit you again. You aren't helping him aor yourself if you stay with him and you can't stay with him while he gets help. Its in the signs. A man that disrespects/despises women will most likely beat you, a guy that views you as property or is extremely jealous and possessive will most likely beat you, a man that has anger issues will most definitely beat you. If he has dressed down/pushed around/poured his food or drink on a waitress or female service giver, don't feel smug, you are next. If he beats the crap out of his female relatives who he's genetically required to love, he who are you to be left out? If he tries too hard to keep you away from friends and relatives(isolation),take off.Start early, look for signs and let him know from the start that you will not take it, you will fight back(better thru the authourities) and even after that, that you will leave his sorry behind. Please Ladies,look out and read up on abuse.there are different forms of abuse, not only beating. Also men can be abused by the way, there is emotional, verbal abuse for instance. Goodluck y'all
ReplyDeleteExcuse me. Linda I honestly think you should verify your stories hundred percent before you fucking write them here. 1st of all, the deceased was broken up with d guy. They were no longer dating. But immediately she heard the guy was travelling 2moro which is saturday, she called him to say she was coming over. Even the girl's parents knows thee guy and everyone knew they were always fighting, and this made them break up bcos they could never agree. And the fight started bcos the guy (Abuchi) told her to leave his house and she said no way. It was in the process of dragging her out that the fight started, she fell and hit her head on the tiles and died immediately. They were very much in love but could never agree on anything. And let me tell you that the boy immediately took himself to the police station to report himself, he was not arrested. The boys family was arrested immediately, but getting there, police had to release them bcos the boy was already there. So please very first before u tell the world so u don't mislead people. It is involintary manslauughter.
ReplyDeleteIssues like this brings to fore the state of lawlessness in this Country. My only hope is that our law enforcement agecies will ensure justice is appropriately served!
ReplyDeleteAnon 10:29, u are mad. Pray to God you are never in a position like this. At least the guy had the decency to take himself to the police station. Don't judge if u don't know the facts. This was a mistake. You think someone who is meant to leave for Malaysia tomorrow will just go and kill a girl he broke up with in broad day light in his family house? U people just talk and talk any how without thinking. May God help us all and may we never be a victim to things like dis. Amen. Don't judge.
ReplyDeleteSo if it was ur sister that was "mistakenly"beaten to death nd d bastard turned himself to d police ,u would say no1 should judge him?we should always picture ourselves in situations before we judge.Always ask "what if it was me?or my relative"
DeleteSo he had to drag her out of the house,couldn't he ask her to leave decently or remove himself from d situation if she refuses...I pray he rots in jail
DeleteAbuse of any kind.verbal or physical,should be unacceptable.Run as fast as you can.When they make you feel you r worthless.RUN.your like does not depend on anybody.I was in it for 5yrs.He will cry afterwards,buy loads,but he will never change.I thank God everyday for the courage to run.Found my true worth and found love.If I can,you can.This life does not hav duplicate.
ReplyDeletelol @ all dese comments..RIP to the departed soul...we r none to judge, God is d judge of all
ReplyDeleteHi Linda,av bin a LIBS family for like a year now but dis is my first comment ever I stay on shorimade st I heard abt dis y'day afternoon on my way driving out of the house but the story is not clear to me as I dn't even know the parties involved as av heard diff stories from diff sources but let investigations be done before we conclude on dis and the only reason I wld keep reading ur blog is cos u indicated u culled it from PM news,thank u for the good work Linda bless but the work is paying off atleast saw ur new weep few weeks ago.bless u dear
ReplyDeleteHeaven forbid 'weep',i know u meant whip.
DeleteHeaven forbid 'weep',i know u meant whip.
Delete"wheep"" Lmfaoooooo
DeleteAnon 8.02 domestic violence is a worldwide thing, so stop limiting your hate to African men, if you socially interact around, some white or Asian women have their own cases of domestic abuse...
ReplyDeleteI personally know the both of them and they seemed quite happy together... they sure have weathered several storms together and 5 years together isn't a small thing even though they weren't married... The accused is a friend and like a brother to me... and he is the nicest person i know around.. I however do not support the act of violence against any woman at all... If he is guilty... he should be given the deserved sentence... May Laide's soul rest in peace... Damn.. she was so beautiful and one of the most sought after females around my hood.. I saw her hours before she died .... May God rest her soul
ReplyDeleteLinda shey you have read the comments on this article and seen that some women that read your blogs are still in abusive relationships?.....you psted earlier this month that you want to empower women through your foundation?......so nest time you Post a Rihanna and Chris article and call it love....ask yourself what example and what message are you passing to your fellow women who are weak?.....because anyone with a brain cell both female and male, knows that Chris Brown is just using Rihanna and their dooms day/ relationship would end in tears....so please stip supporting abuse it is not funny......if you were abused im sure you would never supprt what Rihanna is doing...that shes Rich does not mean you should lose your sense...
ReplyDeleteVoilet relationship? How abt purple relationships bozo!
ReplyDeleteAlicia is d demon herself.
ReplyDeleteCharacter of conflicts and crisis. Always fighting with every tribe and everybody on LIB. I tot she had died a long time ago. Roving menace.
Untimely death is definitely not in my destiny but maybe its in yours.
DeleteTomorrow you'll be going to church & calling yourself a Christian.
I have never hit a lady in my life b4,I fuck them, Real hard too!
ReplyDeleteHave the Igbo bashers have forgotten those other stories published by Linda about Yoruba men physically abusing Igbo women? The case where a Yoruba man poured acid on his Igbo fiance, who died months later, is one example.
ReplyDeleteWhen you point the finger, there are four pointing back at you. Remember that!
please try and understand this guy does not know anything about this girl death press is just saying what they only know
ReplyDeleteI personally hate guys dat hits women,God saved me recently from being knocked down by a neighbour who hit her bf with an iron.
ReplyDeleteThey ve been together for years but the guy says the girl is always into men. He has has tried to stop her to no avail. He beats her up any time he knew she cheats on him. But its not helping matters because 1 the guy is not working,so she claim she's always broke.*to cut the story short*
Dat day she was after a guy n the bf saw her and slapped her she slapped back n he beats her. The nxt thing she picked th iron n ..$
NB guys re mean but sometimes girls cause them. Why will u keep a guy n claim u love him n u re sleeping with other guys
Then guys y will u date a girl who thinks u can't take care of her. #my daughter is up#
Then he should break up with her!! Stoo trying to justify violence
DeleteSo so sad that she have to go now to the land beyond!.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul R.I.P
Woe unto any man that lifts his filthy hands on a lady. No matter how much she provokes u. U shouldn't lift ur hand to hit her. It pisses me off dat 60% of girls in relationship get hit by their boyfriend once in a while. Not like d guy even promised to marry u. Abeg, stop fooling urself over love. If ur guy hits u now, he'll definitely hit u more when he gets married to u. Walk out of it and save urself d trouble o
ReplyDeleteMalaysia ko, Indonesia ni. This will serve as a lesson to all women abusers. A lot of people are just about a quarter to their deaths and all they require is a slap or just a push. Don't be a fool to be their transporter to the world beyond just because of ur stupid male ego and pride. Learn some self control and patience my dear brothers.
ReplyDeleteWhen a guy hits u,it leaves u thinking really little of yourself,my ex beat me like 5tyms and I dint leave,the last beating was so bad,and he blamed me for it,till date,he's not sorry but thank God for my family,am out of dat relationship...I could be dead now...its always hard to walk away but its always for the best.
ReplyDeletePrince charming add me. I've something to tell u. 2776441E.
ReplyDeleteanother brother to oscar pist....more neews plzzzzz
ReplyDeletemaybe he will use the travelling documents to fly to the prison, shikena
ReplyDeleteDid. He tie her hands up and beat her to death?there's a primal urge to protect urself frm danger in evry human being.why didn't she kick him in the balls or better still use something to defend herself? A pity,may she RIP.You guys shd check out this blog,has some interesting posts.Jah bless http://amwaltzinmatilda.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteWats wrong wt sons of Adam des days d cal men! D in tin 4dem is killin der gfs, n after evrytin, dey wil b let off d hook! May GOD av Mercy on we babes o! We av 2shine our eyes o! I rather rmain a virgin 4 awhile, n pray 4ma heaven snt man o! RIP deariee!
ReplyDeleteThe shit some girls take all in d name of love Ω̴̩̩̩̥α wa. Ooº°˚ ˚°ºoo
ReplyDeleteThe Stupid guy has no right to hit d gal cz he is nt married to her.If any guy dare hit my sis like dt>>I ll F**kn blow off his skull.
ReplyDeleteS̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ in other words you mean he should have waited till he marries her and then beat her to death because then she will be his property abi? Na wa to you o brov
DeleteBest comment so far "if your boyfriend is beaten u all the time,run away from him and find a better man"why would u stay with a man that is beaten u are u a learner?now that the girl is dead who is a loser now...may her soul rest in peace
ReplyDeleteif you are in abusive relationship,whether physical or emotional please leave. it isn't worth it 2 stay nn get hurt all the time.
ReplyDeletepoor Girl
ReplyDeleteSad world! A lot of women never learn until its too late. Once a man lays his hands on u once or twice, it's time to let him go and move ahead Else, jst prepare ur self for even worse things to come.
ReplyDeleteIt is suggested that, in domestic violence at least, the presence or absence of a firearm, or of any other type of weapon, is of far less importance to the outcome than the passion generated in the attacker. The man who has lost control will cause serious injuries in many cases, quite irrespective of the weapon he uses and regardless of the certainty of detection and punishment. -Colin Greenwood. Credit goes to wordquote.com for this quote.
ReplyDeleteLinda pls post dis...dis really cause 4 an in-depth analysis coz I've met a lady dat refuses 2 luv ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ jst bcos I'm 2 soft 2 shout @ her not 2 talk of laying a finger on her...bt seriously,beating sm1 u claim †̥♥ luv Ȋ̝̊̅§ absurd
ReplyDeleteAnother story of love turned sour, and
ReplyDeleteτ̲̅ђε̲̣ problem is that most of these
ladies don't think deep before entering
into a relationship, before you enter
into a relationship you must be able to
give yourself reasons why you are
entering the relationship, and ask
yourself questions like, 1. Is he God-
fearing. 2. What about is previous love
life, find out reasons why it didn't work
out 3. What does he really want from
you, is it sex? Prestige? Or just the fun
of dating a beautiful girl? 4. His
personality... Is he d type that is easily
prone to anger, is he gentle, is he shy,
is he humble? Etc... 5. Ask God for
answers, if he gives u d nod then go for
it, and if he doesn't , then let him go.
When a man beats you while you are
still courting, it shows he has no
respect for you.
N.B: A man who beats you while you
are still dating will continue doing so
even after marriage. Quit that
relationship and pray to God to show
you your mr right. A word is enough
for a wise.
To the deceased, I pray that God grant
her eternal rest and God will give the
family the fortitude to bear the loss.
all these small girls following "boyfriennds" instead of concenetrating on their studies.. too bad. loss a young woman curtsey crazy good for nothing fellas
ReplyDeletesad story. Ladies if he hits you once take a walk cuz he would hit you again. lets join hands and put an end to domestic violence. RIP OLA..MAY YOUR GENTLE SOUL REST WITH TH LORD.
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Despicable
ReplyDeletep.s "chi" in names in not exclusive to Igbos. "Ochigbo" for example is Benue.
not far from my place...am sure they didnt include that the guy is a yahoo boy
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