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Wednesday, 20 February 2013

Dear men, do you stay with a woman ONLY because she's good in bed?

It's not me that asked o...it's from a LIB reader :-)
Do some of you men really stay with a woman ONLY because she's good in bed? Not because you love her, or because she stimulates your mind, but because she gives good head? Are there men out there that shallow?
My colleague broke up with his girlfriend and when I asked him what happened, he told me sex with her was a bore, that he wanted to try something new. 
When my boyfriend and I broke up, the first question my brother asked me was 'weren't you giving him good head?'
Then just recently, a friend of mine told me that the only reason he's dating his girlfriend is because she gives him the best sex ever! Are these three fools the last of their kind or are there more men like them?
Lol. Oh trust me, there are! :-)

261 comments:

  1. lmao.. abeg am waiting for my fav part... the comments. oya people start oh.

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    1. Not really but I tink is d 90% reason y I do it

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  2. I dont think so. Am not so waoh in bed yet he sticks to me glue. though he feels i am.

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  3. linda i have a question for you if your boyfriend is not good in bed will you still be with him?

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  4. There are men dt stays wit women for lov,these ones ka na agba oringo,dnt mind them,lov wil soon catch up wit them

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  5. Stupid, retarded question! No, there ain't, all we want is sex and head cause we don't have a life.
    When you girls love the bad boys, you want fun, money etc.. and end up with jerks, you generalize that "all men are bad".
    Twerp! Common sharap and go upgrade your bedroom skill.. Ori eh!

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  6. lol, lol, lol.....(3 fools indeed)... you need to be in charge of your own game... I mean your own Game Game Game!!! (read my lips)

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  7. Sex isn't the integral part of a relationship but it has crucial significance. But the thing is that, it all has to do with the man, if from day one he doesn't have you in mind to be his soul mate, whether you turn 360 degrees in bed and turn his rod into your lollipop and all, when he has had enough of you he will still leave! So it has to do with the goal of the mindset of the man towards the relationship.

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    1. Perfect analysis. There are girls that are absolutely good in bed but are no wife material.

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    2. Ogbeni ki lo nso..u just dey talk rubbish..am sure u re just as confused as ur comment.

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  8. Tim says....
    Good sex is part of what strengthens d bond of a r/ship.While some guys wld brk-up 4 lack of it,I wldn't if I really luv d chick.I mean,life or a good r/ship entails mo' than good sex.Itz a plus to me tho',if present.*wink*

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  9. I think men like good sex(hot one) than luv..
    Just saying my own mind

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  10. LMAO @ 'are these three fools they last of their kind.

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  11. ITS both ways. Women do it too

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  12. you nova see anything no f**k your guy wella you go fine him for b r t lane .....

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  13. Linda you are smiling too much these days

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  14. Hell yeah!! This generation of ours, if you not good in bed, just know your husband will get tired of you and get the fun elsewhere. Me, I can't get married to any girl if she's not good in bed, no matter how sexy and beautiful she is.

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  15. Don't mind the confused fools...the thing about men is they are so confused and trust even when u give them good head eventually when. They want to drop you they come up with one excuses or another!!women Love should be in the mind and not heart. Drop them immediately u notice some unpleasant change and don't be a hoe trust they will still come back...even the married ones a worse..dogs

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  16. There are some things you can never understand. Alot of men can't resist good sex. its just like going to an unfamous canteen that are known for their good Egusi or Oha soup even when Nourisher is next door

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  17. Before. Is tht one a Q? Na today. If only u knew hw large the size of a man's brain dedicated to sexual satisfactn is, u wnt be askn.and I'd advise u to go back to ur drawn board and get sm work done if u dnt wnt anoda girl to open ur mouth and take the food thts already inside.

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  18. Dear it doesn't matter if its funny to you or the choice of words you choose the main thing here is that men know what they want so its either you shape up or ship out and wait for a nun what she can offer in deed!

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  19. We know women are dickmatized so why won't men be pussitized too?

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  20. i dont think there is any crime in loving a woman because she is good in bed, the way the World is going now you cant really tell if someone even loves you or not. Once you like some few things about a lady that should be enough.

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  21. Lmao @ three fools...

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  22. i dont think there is any crime in that at all. the way the World is going right now, you cant even truly tell if someone loves you or not. Once one is able to like some few things about his/her partner i think that is enough.

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  23. Well Linda let me ask u one simple Question,if ur man don't satisfy u on bed would u be happy?,say d truth,d truth is u both must be sexulay connected if not it won't work.

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  24. "Shallow"...linda, by who's standards?

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  25. OH YES THEY DO!!!!

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  26. There is more to a relationship than sex. Not all men stay in a relationship because of good sex. You can as well teach other how to be good and communication is very essential. From a married man.

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  27. I don't think so but it matters my dear, you stay with a woman who flows with you in every area. So if you are hott in bed she should also. Men like fun and women do like it even more.

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  28. Yeah!!!!! Good Sex can keep me in a relationship.... Akomitipoju

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  29. Absolutely yes, good sex makes a good girl to m. I jst met good looking lady, who fuck cum out m n I love it than my real gf. I can't resist her sexual request cuz she takes m to places everytime we meet. dadebambo@hotmail.com

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  30. Sorry dear. You are the fool. Learn to please your man. If a man will go out of his way to learn new tricks in bed then you should too. Ladies try to spiritualize these things but good sex is very important to men. If you are looking for a man not too interested in the sexual part of a relationship my advice is date n marry a virgin,a guy with little experience or low libido. Can't eat your cake n keep it. Women want a guy that will turn heads yet expect him not to be demanding. Don't you think he has sampled tons of girls who wanted a head turner too? Yes we love for many reason. Some cos she is a homemaker n Godly and others cos she is good in bed. -PLS DON'T CALL THEM FOOLS FOR KNOWING WHAT THEY WANT IN A WOMAN-NEWYORKER

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  31. dey there dey deceive urself by calling the men fools....its simple: if he ain't getting good sex from you, he either has erectile dysfunction or he is getting it somewhere else...most likely the latter. LOL

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  32. Sorry girl but beauty, brains, nice curves and a good character may just not be enough. If u dont want to share ur man with other girls or lose him completely, u better stop being a log of wood in bed else I'm afraid u will be the 'fool' u talked about in ur letter

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  33. I can't wait to hear the men on this,despirately waiting,lol

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  34. I think we all know there are a lot of men like dat! Its ur job as a gal 2 stay clear of them. Chikena!

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  35. Oh yes dey are o!broke up wit my so called bf(Niyi) last month,noticed that dere wasn't any connection btw us but only in d bedroom and dere was a statement he said that made me think real hard if he was for good"tot I was randy until I met u,u make full"guys r looking for ladies to satisfy their ANIMAL URGE!!!ladies pls reshuffle ur cards when deres a need too

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  36. Are these three fools the last of their kind or are there more men like them?...hahahahaha...ochi atogbuo m.Duh...lemme relax n read d comments Biko.

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  37. Oda dan wantin gud sex, some men breakup wit dia gf cos dia gf won't allow dem to f**k dem in d asshole......MEN

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  38. LMAO the last part slayed me!!! Lwkmd!! Men pls answer I want to fortify my eyes biko.

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  39. You must be good in bed o... As for me am so romantic dat my bf feel like avin me more n more.... *Wink*

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  40. Sex!!sex!!sex.....let's do sometin inspirational n let give sex a rest*dont insult pls*

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  41. look, guys only stay with you if the sex is crazier than your so called virtues.. dont let em decieve you with i like/love you cos ur smart, virtuous, intelligent, understanding etc BS..

    even the ones that donot like head thain, like madt sex with minimal qualities...

    trust me.

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  42. Chai linda u sef!

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  43. Well for me, I look for intelligence and mother-like features not just sex because no matter how good she is on bed, it still gets boring after but some women are really boring in bed though.By the way you didn't mention food, I like me a meal every now and then, so I will prefer great cook over sex bore. She will learn how to stimulate after...

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  44. At d end of d day,sex doesn't guaranty marriage*No matter d style n head u dey give*

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  45. They go for looks then bedmatics and go a-sorrowing when they find out there isn't much else. I warned my bro about this when he stupidly decided to leave a good girl. He married his new lady last year. Omo, come and see complaints now..." She can't do this, she doesn't know that". I told him to bear it.

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  46. WHENEVER A WOMAN STAYS WITH A MAN BECAUSE OF SEX, SHE IS NOT DESCRIBED AS SHALLOW. BUT WHEN A MAN DOES SO, HE IS SAID TO BE SHALLOW.PLEASE WHAT IS GOOD FOR THE WOMEN IS GOOD FOR THE MEN.

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  47. I'm with my Motun cos, she's the best in character, patience, understanding and she's the caring type. Oops! Sex.... Well, we're waiting for marriage. #Don'tlaffMe

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  48. BOYS like women who gives them a wow time in bed, knows how to give head and how to ride all the positions. But MEN loves women who gingers them to greatness, motivates and brings out the best in them. The type woman who is sexually okay but intelectually, emotionally and spiritually sound. Maybe the three you mentioned here are all boys. Try out the MEN

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  49. O ya.....let the comments start flowing,,,

    of course,,,there are many more men like that,,but trust me,,,a man who will love a woman will love her whether she is good in bed or not,,,,a man can teach his woman what to do to satisfy him in bed....

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  50. Its shameful. A man should love a woman because of who she is to him and not "sex"..though important, but can sex take u years in marriage? after a while u get tired so watz d fuss about it!

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  51. Gud sex is gud 4 a relationshp,hw can U̶̲̥̅̊ b datin a lady dat is borin in bed?sex is †ђξ most important stimulant in a relationshp ☺º°˚˚°ºoo .Al U̶̲̥̅̊ ladies dat ar complaining,wː̗̀☀̤̣̈̇ː̖́n't U̶̲̥̅̊ brkup wit U̶̲̥̅̊r guy if he isn't gud in bed?

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  52. my dear, i realised the extent of good sex with the head madness when each time i give it, my silly (i love him though) bf spends like he's been charmed..

    the mumu would even start confessing many things when i stroke the right places well..(like the bonus he recently recieved @ work, how he wooed a lady n hid the details from me, how he went thru my fbk inbox on bbm, as in plenty mad mis yarnings)..good thing is i dnt ever use his confessions against him cos he loves me anyways!

    be good in bed, add it to so many other qualities, then ur good to go! i have never been dumped.. na me dey dump seff

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  53. Count bed out of it, even thou part of it......Any woman I can effectively communicate with or long for even after sex, is the kind of woman i stay with

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  54. Dear women do you stay with a man ONLY bcos he's good in bed or has that big thing that always makes Linda Ikeja say #enjoymenttinz ?

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  55. Good head and satisfying him on bed

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  56. I just had to comment. Yes! Linda some guys are that shallow that's y they keep more Dan one gf to serve diff purposes. God help us all. Olowojoba

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  57. Prince Charming, oya answer o cos it seems the ONLY reason you're constantly on LIB is bcos you have orgasms from it..

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  58. ordinary sensual kiss seff dey make men desire u not to talk of good f*kc..

    i know one gurl, i used to admire her from afar cos guys like her die..
    i and my friends insinuated that she was into some kinda mind manipulations of some sort ..

    we got close to her somehow only to discover that underneath her accommodating gentle and fun to be with self was a monster in bed.

    her dad is even a pastor oh! she's intelligent too.. not so good a cook though but mehn, guys can kill for her

    so no be her virtues na correct knacking with head.. i used to gork but am sharper now!

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  59. As 4me am above sex but need my image I mean sombdy who can make me feel happy and the absence of my mother oh! infact I need to get married abegi
    Not 4sex offcos cause love from seX doesn't last like real lovE from God............................OgaooooooO

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  60. Of course there many of them.

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  61. smh, Nigerian Men and Toto!!! dats all they know,Sex! Sex!! Sex!!! and then some of them that are so stupid wld then say their Toto dey smell after they don smarsh am finish,smh,Ghanian Men ROCKS!!!! i know some of the oloshis im talking about would come after my post,well dats cuz ur one of them:p SEUN

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  62. How can that be ? Any prostitute can give a man a night to remember . It is the mental connect that keeps a man ! Put it this way , good sex is the icing on the cake ; NOT the cake!

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  63. show me a chic dat gives good HEAD...i will wife her....personally!

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  64. You asked and answered the questions! Not fair

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  65. Lmao at 3fools. Uno wat its end time no more love. Lust is all dey hv nw

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  66. show me a chic that gives GOOD HEAD...i will wife her...

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  67. Hahaha this has got to be the funniest question ever asked on this blog. I just had to burst out laughing. Girlfriend, most men allow that thing there to do most of their emotional reasoning. Na so we see am. No vex. Just pray say make God give u ur own. Hehehee! Can't stop laughing. IAI

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  68. na true oo. it is bcos of sex i havent left my gf. she is damn good. and sex makes you love a woman

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  69. You shouldn't expect any response from anyone since u're so fast at using insulting words!!!! What nonsense!!!!
    Should u really care to know, if I were your boyfriend and you remain a FAILURE sexually, I will elope a day to our wedding!!!!

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  70. Well that is not mostly the reason but I think its an added advantage if one's babe its actually dupe in that area. Believe it or not it helps cement the relationship one way or the other cus when u are not its a bad thig. Sample oponion and u would be amazed .

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  71. Did u just call your friend, brother, and colleague fools? Lol.

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  72. Go and learn how to give head.Stupid question. Did you not read this blog when someone wanted to employ a headmaster?

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  73. lol she lucky say she no see d taste nd waka guy seff . of the ones wey to dem ur good enuf to F*** but not d marriage type (nd na 4yrs later dey realize). hmmmmm.

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  74. My ex is "WORST" in bed. She's not acrobatic. I like turning my girls upside down. Giving them from the back, front, down, up, and around. She's always saying I don't like that, this. Whenever she does that, the memories of sex with my ex flashes. We broke up tho cos she was boring. Ladies! you girls need to be adventurous in bed to keep your man and me especially. Else we go out looking for real bad ass side chicks. Its wrong tho but that's the trend right now.

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  75. U who is asking this question should knw that the ans to that question. Relationships is actually not defined by one sexual expertise but believe or not its the maggie

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  76. Who is the 3rd fool Your brother or your boyfriend? loool

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  77. Nice question,men are like all they want is bed activities and if u cannot satisfy they take their leave.

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  78. Ah Lindiway, I'm nt sure dts d only reason men stay wt thr patners, its part of it buh not the only reason. Will luv 2hear 4rm em. Waitin.......

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  79. Well if you ask me, am gonna have to tell you sex is very important in a relationship, albeit not the ultimate..A relationship with a good sex life tends to thrive, compared to a relationship where the sex life is nothing to write home about...Guys like to experiment when it comes to sex, and the ladies should know this...Except the guy is pretending, and probably screwing someone else outside..basically a good and healthy relationship shouldn't lack a great sex life..Head is Gooooooooooooooooood

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  80. Sorry to say, but if a man or a woman is in a relationship just because of physical attraction or money or sex or any other superficial thing, the relationship will definitely become boring as the "glue" that binds them together thins out.

    Thats not to say that relationships cant develop further starting from mere physical attraction etc but it must actually grow deeper roots because if not, it will just die.

    nuff said

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  81. Yes there are a lot of them infact I think only 5% of men are real

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  82. My dear, dere are lots of dem out dere. Relationship turned into marriage like that dun last... At thesame time dere are guys dat jus love u for you nt cos of the sex part nd my man happens to be in this category. #Iamblessedndiknoit.

    Happy Girl.

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  83. I and my boyfriend have been going out for 21months now, we have not had sex, trust me he isn't getting it from Someone else neither am I. (I'm still a virgin and he respects that, thats why we aren't involving sex now). So dear LIB reader there are still good guys out there.

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  84. Lwkmd @ three fools ahahhahahah but those are very stupid break up with a woman cos of sex that is how some of them loose good women and then they end with a jezebel as a wife sex na beginning and ending life ni some guys are just idiots if a guy is with you cos of sex then u are not a wife material only good for fucking na women i blame if only women will learn to say no to sex b4 marriage so let them keep spreading their legs..NOTE MY FELLOW LADIES NO AMOUNT OF SEX WILL STOP A MAN FROM CHEATING JUST TELL HIM NO SEX TILL MARRIAGE IF HE DOESN'T WANT IT THEN HE SHOULD GO TO HELL STOP LETTING MEN USE YOU AS THEIR SEX OBJECT LEARN TO GIVE YOURSELVES A LITTLE RESPECT KNOW YOUR WORTH.

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  85. Na so o! Its just too bad that after years of being married to a sex vixen, the men will still look for another vixen. So if u r a good intellectual and gifted lady out there, just be yourself. Don't change for a man cuz they don't even have static preferences

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  86. Let's start this way,can a girl marry a guy who is terrible in bed,it goes both ways,if a guy wants a girl good in bed,u can't fault him,but really the sex was a bore to him,do u want him to marry her cos she is a good cook with great attitude,but her idea about sex is for making babies,then @ d end he steps out of his marriage to have good sex,I am tired of we girls complaining about men's irrational attitude,if u are a girl,it takes all to keep your marriage,if u want it all from him,be prepared to gime him your best and all,are u a virgin?,if u are not den gv him that good sex and let's hear word,why sleep with him,if u can't make it worth it,I agree that some men are dogs,but all guys want good sex jare,even we ladies want d same,I have seen friends break up with bfs,cos their D**k is small or e is a one min man excuse,so stop acting like its only men who complain,both male and female complain.I am a girl,and I am sorry if ur guy complains u are a bore in bed,check urself well and ask urself aw many bfs already left u,no man wants a stiff or boring girl in bed,for u to have sex with him,u must do it well,what is worth doing is worth doing well.

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  87. Gerrout! wat is prick and toto for?

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  88. You should ask, are these four the last fools because your brother is apparently of the same school of thoughts. Idiot!

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  89. lwkm! she included her brother with the fools ...or she meant her ex ni? but her ex ddnt say he broke up with her cos she no give better head , na her bro ask.. well sha i dntfink guys will stay with a babe only becos shes good in bed, it cld just be 1 pf d top major reasons. a guy once told me that most guys have major pre requisites if lady A has 5 good qualities which includes d 3 main qualities he wants for example, and lady B has 20 good qualities and has just 1 from the main qualities he wants, despite d fact that she has 15 extra qualities than A , the guy will leave B and definitely go for A . might not be a general rule tho....don diddy

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  90. I won't lie see plays a huge role. If a girl's sex game is wack then I'm moving on to the next. Some girls can't even move and are not even adventurous in bed. Nobody wants a boring fuck

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  91. You are daft idiot for calling men fools because they expressed how they feel, that is why you couldn't hold down a man. Better wake up before the train passes you by, ode oshi.

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  92. Nna eh men are just unpredictable.my sisters.let just give in our bst nd clear our conceince .even if we cook chicken in diamond sauce or do gorilla style on bed .if no be u! No be u.

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  93. OK, GUYS DATE GALS FOR MANY REASONS INCLUDING SEX. OFTEN TIMES (95%) OF THE TIME IT’S NOT MARRIAGE (Unlike women). Reason y we date include:
    Free sex, slight possibility of marriage, she could be interesting and fun, she could fill the void of no gal around, good cook a times, trophy chick (the ultimate stuff to brag about with your friends), erm rich chick (that was then sha), confidant, lastly good sex, good sex, wonderful sex.
    DATING FOR MARRIAGE FOR GUYS IS NOT VERY COMPLICATED,
    TYPE 1: first choice is often the guyz that wahala the chick for marriage.
    TYPE 2: Second choice, or type, THE FALL BACK CHICK, wen the first choice is married, surprise second choice with a ring,
    TYPE 3: The third type: HOOKUPS, it hard to understand y a dude wants a hookup from his mother or cousin etc!!!! Its simple in some cases, the guy has slept with too many women to trust any1 he picks for a wife. So he hopes that he can trust some1 that his mother trusts (Sadly)-------Most guys are here who are rich, good looking and are single after 33years!!!!
    Too tired to read what I typed busy day

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  94. Honestly, great sex is a huge plus.

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  95. Yes! Yes!! Yes oooo!!

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  96. Damn right. Sex is a big part of it.

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  97. U are a big loser hia, Linda. anyways if this make u feel any good, let it out more.

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  98. As long as I love my babe if she stops knacking or any me go free.its part of the love I have for her. I show it inside her

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  99. oh, it is a major factor, most men that still endure women that do not satisfy them will definately keep options B even if not C and D. My advise for you is to sharpen ur sword.

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  100. No me I no follow,likewise my brothers.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  101. Linda,those people are not MEN but Boys.
    Agreed,Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship,and YES,it can be a reason for breaking up or cheating.Yes I said it!
    When it comes to sexuality, Men DON'T GO BACK ....If our new gf cannot fuck us or blow job us really good like our ex,two things are likely to happen....either we teach her to be our bitch in bed, or we stray.It's a two way thing...just like a woman who has experienced a complete orgasm with her ex, and now can't experience it with her new beau.If she cares, she would teach him, or she stays because of his money,and still cheat.
    Now ladies, whether married or single,be honest...., there is that one DUDE that has fucked you really good that you never ever forget the experience???That's how we feel too....there is always that one chic that drives us crazy that always remain in our head....even when married, you still want to do her anytime you see her, and wish our wives/gfs would fuck us like that.
    The only thing that keeps us from not walking away is MATURITY....But do we miss and long for it, oh YEA, we all do.But for those who can't deal with it, they have the right to break up and find happiness elsewhere.
    Me, as am talking to you here now, if you are circumscised and I cant see any clit to eat, na only your good behavior would keep me in the house.
    I don't know wetin dem do me with uncircumscised Clitoris.....

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  102. Though shd nt b paramount bt sex is an esential ingredient in mariage nt in datin o

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  103. Dear Women, Do u stay with a man ONLY because he is rich? Lol


    If u call them fools then I have a fool for a friend.

    Zee

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  104. The answer is yes cos 90 percent of men go 4 bed satisfaction(sex)

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  105. Duhh! What other reason did u think guys get into relationships for. Matter of fact giving head isn't even an issue but the kind of head she gives. Swallowing kids is an added advantage and would increase d span of the relationship

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  106. To me, I only stay with a girl when u re good in bed...a backyard snob in bed is a very big NO for me....I can't even go out with u twice when u can't give me a good head

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  107. Hian! B4 nko der r lots of em out der...gud sex is shaa essential in a relationship Buh shldnt b priority like dis men make it seem...if DTS d case ders no love tis all abt d sex....meen! Dey'll Neva change

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  108. Its good enuf for a boyfrnd ..girlfrnd relationship..marriage is more than sex and yet can't do without sex.there will be times as a man when married you will go days with ur wife in bed with u and not have sex,not that she isn't sexy but u r too tired..been good in bed is not enuf for marriage..these same men will marry women who dnt enjoy sex and sleep with concubines..think..its an ingrident but not the totality of a relationship..that wld lead into marriage..but for young youths it might be total ingrident but as they grow..their mindset wld definitely change!

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  109. Though sex is one of d things that makes relationshing going,it should not be done like Apes do,moreover women are not sex toys.I don't mind if a girl is wack in bed sofar she got brain. IKB

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  110. Linda na lie na u ask d question,meanwhile dts not true,but we definitely need 2know how 2dig it so dat they won't look else where*sipping my alomo jeje*

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  111. Truth is Sex is very important to a man. The irony is you can't keep him with good sex no matter how hard you try. When the dust settles,men look out for values that are important to them.

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  112. Really intimacy plays a major role in break up. That's one factor some men are into a relationship. LIKE this Facebook page-Flat belly weight loss tips for Nigeria

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  113. Is it a foolish thin to like good sex? Gals also breakup with guys that hav tiny penis n guys that r a bore in bed,the guys r not fools,if u rnot good in bed,go n learn. Read on how to give blow jobs on google,be more open n whine your waist well!!!!!! Sex is an art,no one was born with the expertise everybody who is good in bed learnt it,learn for d sake of a good marriage and for u also.

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  114. The worrying thing here is ur brother asking if u weren't giving good head!?! Certain lines should not be crossed...this is definitely one of them.

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  115. Lin since u become frds wit all dis 9ja celeb u no dey bring gist abt dem again even if u bring gist abt dem na half baked one u dey bring.dis ur new style na bad market o.

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  116. personally as a woman I believe its important to be able to satisfy your partner every way possible, great sex is one of them, its important for a woman to know how to please her man sexually. My boyfriend treats me like a queen and does what ever I want to make me happy, and it comes naturally for me to do everything to make him happy which includes great sex and the best head ever, some may say it means he doesn't love me if its all about sex but I say I have the full package and the sex is the added bonus, so if you're crap in bed and your man stays with you, its because he's getting great sex else where, besides I don't think any man or woman would want a life time of crap sex, so it goes both ways, if the man is crap in bed I'll be out there

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  117. I left my girlfriend bcs she could not satify me.Even when I tried to teach her,she complained.

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  118. not all men r like that joor

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  119. They r not fools n I'm a lady but babe I can't stay with a man dat is not good in bed ... Nahhhhhh *shaking my sexy head* it doesn't work 4 me so if u must try n step up ur game u will need it

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  120. Are you stupid? Why shouldn't sex matter when you're in a relationship? Women also go about looking for men with larger penises and pockets so shut your trap there! You're the fool.

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  121. I would marry any lady that SQUIRTS. Such a turn on. Back to your question, yes i think some men would settle with a lady simply because she brings magic in bed. But trust it, it has to do with if HER Magic meets up the men limit. Some guys don't need a lady that takes control in bed, while all some men need is a lady to take control in bed. Some men don't need a lady that goes more than 1 round on a go, while some men cant settle with a lady that can't go several rounds. So, it is about HER offer, fitting perfectly with the man's limit. Same thing goes to what ladies want in their man.

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  122. That's what draws the thick line between a woman and a girls..Women deliver while girls just do whatever with no spices...

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  123. Trust me wen a woman is good nd d sex boring dere is 80 percent assurance that she might loose her man cos whether we like it or not sex makes d whole relationship intimate if not we all could av just av friends instead of getting married

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  124. Well dear LIB, I would like to point this out and of course from a personal point of view, it's not so much about good sex alone as it is about other things as well. With us men, sex is extremely important and of course part of the determining factor, but shouldn't be a sole determinant on its own. But if you as a lady has perhaps 1 000 000 yards of "wife material" and you lack good skills in bed, it's like a 7star dish in a 7star restaurant WITHOUT salt! It's either he stays for the other good qualities and cheats on you or he finds other ways of satisfying himself sexually. I'm sure those, especially the former would hurt a lot more than leaving you. So you should count it a bonus if he is honest enough with you to actually quit the relationship and site that as a reason. Atleast then you know how feeble the mindset of your dear sweetheart is. So inorderwords rather seek to improve your skills in 'bedmatics' rather than leaving things to chance. Lol...@rexdavid85

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  125. What r u thinking linda?isn't good sex one of da prerequisites in a relationship!!Besides I dnt know you term good sex....I love good moments though,who no like fine thing.

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  126. you and your high school topic ..anyway there are a million reasons guys breakup with girls.....if sex is the sole reason he's with u when he gets some1 with better skills you are out the door

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  127. ur BROTHER wants to know if you're giving your BOYFRIEND good head???

    is your boyfriend DANGOTE?

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  128. Lol,most guys marry gals dey av best sex with n also love.guess d sex brings d love.

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  129. Shallow mch,dnt fink all men fink dis way tho.

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  130. i hope nt, considerin d fact dt i dont intend 2 sleep wif any man 4 nw

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  131. Linda ikeji is indirectly asking us wat she feels...don't give ur husband good head and be expecting a good marriage

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  132. AMAZON,

    YES OOOHH!!
    BAGGERS ARE SHALLOW LIKE THAT!!


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  133. Linda am not gona lie 2 u...wud hang around a girl dat fucks me good,had a one nite stand wiv a girl a week ago and she gave me a massive BJ,dat. I'm looking 4ward 4 anoda exercise...if she continues she has my heart cos I'm practically n love wiv her...so babes give ur bf nd husbands good head cos so many babes can do it outside...*enuf said*

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  134. LMFAO yes o that's most men top priority oo but they always hide it just like some women do,especially a freaky head and mad riding(she must sabi fuck like pornstar mehn!!!!),but as for me na total package I want o,great cook n humour(cos I'm blessed wit both) then respect n humilty (not mumu o) fear of God(woman wey go face any challenge with faith and not running to white garment churches, alfas n babalawo) creative n courageous(in business n general survival,n artistic fit joint sha,u knw if u r creative n not courageous u will be too scared to carryout ur ideas) mad dress sense but no be say she go won buy every new thing wey comeout o!! N I hate those types that wants to join every trend or be part of all what their peers are doing IM SPEAKING THE MIND OF ALL MEN BELIEVE ME .linda I knw all d sex/relationship related questions are frm u okay n they ur serious concerns lol stop frontin! #maddingcrush

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  135. Stay with a woman bucs of only toto, abi I de mad, Shey toto Na food abi bed performance Na degree. Aunty mi Linda, toto and performance in bed is not as delicate to men compared to women cus a man's sexuality is not as complicated as that of a woman as long as he can be satisfied. Although men will always like a woman good in bed it will not stop some from cheating with someone who's not as good as their partner. I think most women get it wrong, always concerned bout looks and stuff related to outward beauty. Most men will always be attracted to a pretty and beautiful lady weather good in bed or not but what will make a man stay with a woman is her inner beauty,men interpret love as respect , honour, peace and obedience but women interpret love as( I no know oo una things de complicated one kind) the truth is there will be a time when being good in bed will not be a priority especially when u getting old or when things get tough,performance in bed can be thought with time easily but character on d other hand cannot be thought. I would rather stay with a woman with(JSSCE) in bed that would mak my life peaceful than one with ( BSc, MSC, PhD, DSc, Opp, PDP, ACn) in bed and make my life a living hell.
    P.S. toto is universal d one wey de naija No differ frm d one wey de Uzbekistan
    Aunty mi Linda pls post my comment O, btw aunty mi Linda dis my first ever comment I came across ur blog last week and read it all up to 2010 mar 29 and still reading cus o sweet Gidi Ghan
    .Omo aunty Linda

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  136. Is like nobody want to comment on this issue. Anyway let me answer you to my opinion, I think it is both sides it applies to men and ladies.ladies do broke up with their men bcos he is not active. So you can see . Do you stay with a man because of how he dig u?????

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  137. Lolz @ 3 fools includn ur bother, mean while,if u r gud, ur man will stick around 4 a while, 2 pple can be sleepn with each other not cos they are in luv buh cos they hv mad sex together, at d long run, it might become luv, buh me, I won't marry a guy that does not give it all to me, mmmhhhh

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  138. CAPITAL NO. becos good behaviour and the respect for your husband allow him to love you more.good in bed is like a good food with aroma without a salt.I told you yesterday that my wife educate more than me still she give me respect. when it come to a point to take a decision in the family she will told me that what ever you say is the final,so all this together when we are on bed I enjoy her more.

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  139. Well.. I love my girlfriend cos she licks my balls every night! That's enough reason to keep her ryt? ;-)

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  140. We all know deep down that we are bound by the same urges. Give women the empowerment to live as absolute equals to men and you will see something worse than men. You think they ate the apple first by mistake. A classic proof is how Linda might find this offensive yet will jump at a man who expresses his OPINION about women when she finds them uncomfortable. What a man can do, A woman can actually do more.

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  141. 5 LESSONS FROM KIM K'S VISIT TO NIGERIA http://t.co/pMFBQT7h hilarious read. U said u were compiling stuff on the matter of kim k in naija. That's a funny one

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  142. Good sex is always a keeper!

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  143. ``Do some of you men really stay
    with a woman ONLY because
    she's good in bed?''

    Seriously, when you start this way you are more likely to get responses tilted to particular directions because your question is a leading one.

    At a particular age I guess that a guy may have as priority the sex thing. If you are a teenager or still in your early 20s it's not unlikely that being with a girl that's good in bed will trip.

    It will however be the height of immaturity if a 30 something 40 something man is looking for that hot lay. Na mammy water e go go marry be that.

    If you win woman lotto wey can shag like kola boof or whatever that her name is and has a combined mind of Hilary Clinton and Okonjo Iweala spiced with some Lady D madness, haba na to retire be that na.

    Fact, give me a woman with a sharp mind anyday don't worry about any other thing, together we go work out the sex. At the end of the day, it will be mind blowing.

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  144. Obo nbe n'idi Awawu...yes,we like girls dat can play...linda u better tell d lady to step up her sex game...otherwise 'awon omo oro' will continue to snatch her bf

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  145. Yeah no doubt men like sex,she shud step up her skills.bonario plaintain head nd prince I ll soon make u guys irrelevant on dis blog..

    Jennyfrm d block says so

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  146. She being good in bed is a plus plus but when her character is negative then it is better to hit the road or throw dice

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  147. I am not a man but as a woman u have to be a friend, caring, understanding and a piller 4 ur man. However, & most importantly, u have to be his lover & 'ashawo'to have a happy home.

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  148. Duh! Why stay with a woman that can't satisfy me in bed? Besides, that's what they were created for.. SEX!!!

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  149. Sex is core in relationship but that shouldn't be the whole essence of a relationship. Attitude is key and sex just play a part. Click here To Improve your Intimacy lifestyle

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  150. Real men don't act dat way only boys do, a real man will know that theirs more to a woman than just bin used as a sex object. It might make u stay only temprorary not permanent, at d end if she is zero in oda areas den she has 2 pack her bags. Infact most people looking for girlfrnds look 4 dat kind of quality but men lookin for wife dnt bother der head with such cos dey knw dat far more important qualities a lady shud av. Ladies if u re dating any boy dat only nid u 2 satisfy his sexual urge,well sorry.
    www.christianavenue.blogspot.com

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  151. Duh! Why stay with a woman that can't satisfy me in bed? Besides, that's the only thing they were created for.. SEX!!!

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  152. Lmao.. But it applies to both sex,some ladies marries or date a guy because he is good in bed...

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  153. She being good in bed is a plus plus but when her character is negative then it is better to hit the road or throw dice

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  154. yea ryt. like it does not matter to ladies too huh?

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  155. oh honey, ofcourse there are other aspects of the relationship that are important but sex is important too. how would feel if you could tell exactly when and what ur boyfriend/husband was going to do next? bored!!irritated!! as women you have to be spontaneous..(well so does he tho its a two-way street)but damn girl u have to bring it! suck tht ish like a lollipop, sing to it if you have to!lol!try new things, positions, experiment i could go on foreva... here...mind u, you shouldnt do everythng save some for a husband ;). am jis sayin

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  156. Lmao..but Linda, can you keep a man who can't perform? SEX matters a lot in any relationship. Let's be real here...we all LOVE sex yea I LOVE SEX nd will learn any new sex style to keep ma man. Head, suck, 69,doggy and co..matters

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  157. YES, WE ARE THAT ''STUPID''. WHY WASTE UR TIME WITH SOME BABE WHO HAVE REFUSED TO LEARN HOW TO GRIND A MAN? LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE BORED IN THE BEDROOM.

    THAT IS Y I LIKE MY CALABAR BABES, THEY ARE PROPERLY GROOMED TO TAKE CARE OF MEN, BOTH IN THE KITCHEN AND IN THE BEDROOM.

    Y DO U THINK MEN PATRONIZE PROSTITUTE, MOST OF THEM HAVE GFs OR WIVES. THEY R IN SEARCH OF WHAT THEY ARE MISSING AT HOME. MOST QUARRELS AT HOME IS A RESULT OF 'BAD' SEX.
    PLS GO LEARN UR TRADE OR U WLD ALWYS BE DUMPED

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  158. Yes a lot of them are out dre

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  159. lol, I'm just waiting to read the comments that will follow.

    new post guys, tell me what you think! www.adainprogress.blogspot.com

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  160. Linda nwa Ikeji i zachala query onye a! U've answered d question! Just as Jesus Christ said 'it is finished!' Dere are more 'fools' out dere! U've 4gotten d importance of sex my dear lady!

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  161. It should also be a reason to consider. Lol

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  162. Chai aunty mi Linda i was so excited to post my first comment I forgot to read d body of the post, any how sha e de happen sometimes , Na so I take fail one time like dat after writing an essay of 450 words on nonsense. Point still de my first comment sha and let me add that some men use that as an excuse while some lack the maturity to understand what a relationship entails.
    Note. Any relationship built only on the foundation of bed room activities can not stand the storm of love or life
    .omo aunty Linda

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  163. Hahaha, got laugh at the thought of calling your brother a fool.....too funny. On another note, my sis am with you o. Me, that don't like or do head....na them want am pass. That's too gross. The thing is some guys are just looking at the current state, not the future.sex isn't it all. When they get ,arrived, that sex would be tiring. So, one ought o get married to their spouse, their best friend. In which, when the sex is not exciting, the friendship will be a foundation and bring them together always. This applies to girls too that are in a relationship becaus elf how good the guys dick is, good head given or hot sex. God bless!

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  164. Most men can go on in a relationship because the girl is Adventurous. No man likes a boring sex. So I believe that a man can keep up a relationship with a girl because she's good in bed not for love.

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  165. Madam research before u call ppl fools....good sex is a vital factor in a marriage. Can u really stay with someone that can't satisfy ur sexual urge? I can't.however, great sex isn't the only reason a relationship shud stand, but it is very important

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  166. Dear girls,do you stay with a man ONLY because his got the cash????......Answers pls...#ode oloshi

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  167. Good Sex is important.

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  168. can u bitches stop making a big deal out of notin... if u dont want a man dat only stays wit u cos u r good in bed, den go find a man dat doesn't care how good u r in bed, simple!... n 2 answer ur ?, yes der r men who only stay wit a woman cos she is good in bed, just like der r men who only stay wit a woman cos she can cook well, go find d man dat best fits u n stop blabbing.

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  169. Where dem guys @????guys over to u........but wait o its not only guys,ladies too feel the same if the dude isn't good in bed#endofstory

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  170. That's one and important reason for having a woman at all. So if she's not good in bed where else will she be good that will satisfy her partner? Vice versa.

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  171. Sexis part of it

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  172. Smh! More reason why ladies should keep their legs closed till they are married.

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  173. Men stay with women they love...don't be deceived there are sexual vixens out there that never get commitment from men, you wouldn't want to be good in bed but be a poor home keeper or bad cook or a wowogly person...so na balance be d koko.
    Be beautiful inside out and be great in bed...do research, watch pornography, practice with a banana...whatever! Just make sure you can match if not better than d jezebels out there...
    You can thank me later....

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  174. Yes I am like them and I swear down say we many. So go learn or turn lesbian if u no fit deep throat. These days ,blow job without deep throating is a waste.

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  175. Trust me, there are so many men that shallow minded, The reason that more often than not the so called 'bad' girl get hitched quicker than the so called 'good' girl. Life hey. Bad sells this days e.g Like Kim Kardashian, lol.
    Pls check out www.naijaredcarpet.net

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  176. Yes o. Tʰᵉ sweeter Tʰᵉ sex Tʰᵉ longer Tʰᵉ ship...it could sail forever if Tʰᵉ sea breezes smells Good.

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  177. Jeez! I can't imagine my brother asking me "weren't Ɣoΰ giving him ά̲ Ǧőőϑ head?" Btw most guys A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲ wolves...

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  178. Avoid Pre-marital sex at all costs. Dts it! Then, U'll be dated 4 who U are.
    GOD's word still stands best & sure 4 d best solemnization if U'r in tune with HIM. This world is rotten!
    Why sin against your own body through pre-marital sex? Its GOD's temple! Remember? He can't dwell in a filthy environment. Even d holy spirit can't stand dt too. How then can d Holy Spirit/The Comforter direct your paths???!!!
    We've so missed this foundation, dts y iniquity overshadows d whole earth.
    Repent!!! Pls I beg U. The Kingdom of GOD is at hand. JESUS is coming soon.

    May we all make Heaven in JESUS Name.

    Shalom.

    Meanwhile <a href="http://www.boomingjobs.blogspot.com/2013/02/graduate-entry-level-mep-engineers-at.html> http://www.boomingjobs.blogspot.com/2013/02/graduate-entry-level-mep-engineers-at.html </>.

    Goodluck to U all.

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  179. No my dear we don't all stay with a woman only bcos shez good in bed. no doubt there are still a hostt of guys like that but trust me a reasonable amount of us men actually do care and stay because we love her.

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  180. No my dear we dont just stay with a woman bcos shez good in bed, no doubt there are still a host of men like that, buh an increasing amount of us men stay with a woman bcos we care and love her.

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  181. biko chere nu kam gote popcorn tie balance guuba comments.... nkea di uto, hahahahaha

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  182. Weda u give him diff position or not the truth is....some t*t* de wit why som de bitter if ur own na d swit 1 u no nid kill ursef 2 muchh d guy gho die there bt if d tin nor wit weda u climb roof d guy go move..shikena

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  183. its not all about sex of course woman are the strongest in the game of sex. when they are on it they screem and immidiately they are off the game the want more. for guys the only thing that put there dick down is the attitude of the woman before sex. if she does not get it right to put the mood right then the guy will soon be fed up. but for the girls once they are touch at the corner they are wet and ready to do wink

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  184. It doesn't have to be that way. If a man is out in a relationship just for sex then definetly she will not be the only one cos he can never be satisfied. It is degrading to womanhood.

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  185. Good if she is... but not to dump if she is not... But take it or leave it women r the one more interested in good sex,and can mataa(run) if ur no really in charge on top.

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  186. Linda go back to school....poor English.

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  187. Errr yeye dey smell. See for most jobs now dem go ask you, "how many years experience you get? It is the same thing with sex. As for me I no want apprentice wey I go come learn work for my hand, I need a lady with good working experience wey sabi the job well. So you better go and look for where dem go give you internship so you can up your game. I pity you.

    Thank God say the boy never marry you sef, na your house girl for dey help you perform your duty.

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  188. And Linda dint post my comment. Well, na u saka, it's ur blog.

    Happy Girl

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  189. Linda, I am a man and I know what sex is to a man, I don't agree with the fact that you call those three guys fool. Thr are two major determinant in a relationship Money and sex. If you disagree you are in your own.
    Meshy say.....

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  190. Abeg go and work on ur lips and learn how to turn dat Dick to a lollipop.

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