The C.E.O of So-Plain Entertainment /Naija Music Movement said his passion to help the youths overcome masturbation kept him awake for researches on the issue.
Don Saint says:
“80 % of the youths from age bracket of 10- 45 do masturbate and this they see as normal. But when I did my research I found out that Masturbation is very dangerous to our health, especially to boys as they grow into Men. So I took up the course to let the people know about the harmful effects of masturbation and how one can be free from the addiction.”
He also added:
“Once
you finish reading the book, you will never go back to the act again,
unless you want to destroy your life and future. The book analyses the
term Masturbation, the causes, the harmful effects and how one can be
free from Masturbation addiction.
“I will be organizing Emancipation Awareness Concerts in every State and I will give out the book free to everybody that cares …
This is good, keep up the good work. I would like to read the book myself.
ReplyDeleteLiber's , i would like to know how often women masturbate.. Like in every 10 women, how many masturbate? Honest opinions please
DeleteI masturbate like 3 to 5 times a day, I swear down.. Oh and I'm a girl..
DeleteEmancipation from doing runs! A must read
DeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteIs that evidenced based conclusion or personal opinion mister narrator/author..?
Does it matter which one. Forget about the reason and read the book. Mumu
DeleteVERY VERY good my dear! This is wat the country should be about! Good job!! Quite impressive!
ReplyDeleteHe should have analysed some of the effect on LIB
ReplyDeleteAbi oo!
Deletesomething positive!!! (y)
ReplyDeleteOk nah!
ReplyDeletelolz @ when I did my research.what type of research?
ReplyDeletebtw am so in support of my spiritual director Pastor Chris as it pertains dis issue. Vaseline see bad marketoo!
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
what did Chris say about masturbation?
DeleteMumu Bona so na vaseline ur mate they use abi.
Delete@bonario *in alaba marketers' voice* grab ur vaseline nooooow!!!
DeleteHahahahahaha! Waste of paper n ink! My friend take big bench! If dem teenagers dnt wank, Nigeria will suffer from 'massive' over population n d no. Of Hiv patients will 'sky-rocket' teenagers dnt mind dis hypocrite uncle he just wants to sell books, Stay in school, read ur books, wank moderately and achieve ur goals........T.....
ReplyDeleteSo on point........lol
DeleteNdi ara...
DeleteJesus Christ. Na wa ooooo. Naija
DeleteU dis aNon 23 10.09pm, u ar rily crazy! LMAO!!! But Τ̲̅ȍ be candid its actually not gud(mastubtn) at all
DeleteLmao!!!
DeleteThere is a huge divide in the world comprising of religious and moral divides which have different takes on this masturbation issue, let everyone just go with any side that he/she she's more sense in. I would love to read his take though, from his research and all.
ReplyDeleteDo u wank?
DeleteGood question. ... lmao
DeleteOfcourse he does! He wanks his brain-out dats y he is an asshole!
Deletethumps up don saint. Masturbation is indeed a terrible act.
ReplyDelete“80 % of the youths from age bracket of 10- 45..............lol 45 year old youth?
ReplyDelete=))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º=)) ...the tin tire me sef! You call a 45 years old man youth? Well it depends
DeleteHU̶̲̥̅̊ b dis one again abeg?
ReplyDeleteGood job, at least you are doing something to make an impact in the youths of today
ReplyDeleteIf masturbation would cause reduction in rape, they should not stop it o..lol
ReplyDeleteGuy I'm in2 dis heavily. Hmmm. I need dis book no matter d cost
ReplyDeleteNothing but d blood of jesus!
DeleteOmo. How we go feel aii wen babe dey form
ReplyDeleteThanks my brother. It's good you came up with this and I wish I get this bc I need help myself. I can maturbate for Nigeria. I have not had sex for 2 years but I masturbate every day and I still dont think am ready for any boy friend yet.
ReplyDeleteOnly U̶̲̥̅̊ can help urself my sis!!! I used 2 b a gr8 mastubater bt d day I stopd was d day I placed a curse on myself....afta I had gotten 2 orgasm, I became sad!!! I den askd God 2 strike me wit leprosy if I eva mastubate again!!! Sinc den, I v bn so clean
DeleteEeyah! Tell it Τ̲̅ȍ d Lord!
Deletegood! That's thoughtful of you. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteOk we don hear. Rapping no pay now na book? If I wan know about these things I'll rather make google my friend. The internet can give me all I need to know about the disadvantage of masturbation. Abeg make I go back go wank to Cossy's pics joor.
ReplyDeleteAnuofia! Only an idiot of ur type will make this kind of comment. Ur case my friend, is so helpless and u don't knw it yet.
Delete@ anon 1:29. Shut up. Cos he preferred to wank instead of banging ur mother that is why ur cursing him. Idiot,swear say u neva masturbate b4. Ode oshi
DeleteI made a comment and I see no reason why u should come here to insult me. Anumpama like you. Deny say u never masturbate before? Idiotic goat
DeleteAnonymous 3:13 Y bring someones mother in2 dis? I'm sure u were nt kiad 4 by ur mother u born throway beast
DeleteGuy u no well....hahahaahahahahhahaha! Wank on!
DeletePeter na u be dat?? Lol
Delete@ anon 7:25am ur generation need glasses. Im sure u gat to left eyes. Ur comment was meant for who nw. Smh for ur entire family.
DeleteYesooo! Masturbation is both social and moral vice. Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed as a result of this sin. Pple should be care and avoid the occasion of the sin of masturbation. Don't listen to deceivers.
ReplyDeleteOde nie. Sodom and gomorrah was destroyed cos of gays n lesbians. Olodo oshi
DeleteIncluding masturbation
DeleteS&G was destroyed because of hostility not for sexual immorality as you might want to refer it. Since you know your Bible so well...read Ezekiel!
DeleteNice.....
ReplyDeleteThis guy has ibo written all over him !
ReplyDeleteOk o......... Man must chop!
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with masturbation my friend. As long as you dont over indulge in masturbation. 1 to 3 times of masturbation per week is fine. It is better than putting your precious dick in chlamydia infested,shaggy, loose fitting and smelling pussies all ladies are carrying around these days.
ReplyDeleteOlu.
All ladies? I hope u know all the women in ur family are included? Stupendous inhaha!
DeleteU r a pig mouthed fool. Remember u came from same smellin nd loose pussy
DeleteLook at this dirty silly boy oh! You must be very stupid to make dat kind of comment about every woman. Anyways, I believe you know your mother, sisters, future wife & daughters are included.
DeleteStupid boy.. I'm sure you can't even get any girl to look your way as its so obvious you must be ugly & dirty, that's why u're hating.
What Olu wrote it true . Truth is bitter. Sorry to any one who is offended.
DeleteSorryyyy. Calm down ladies. All your responses makes me laugh but to be on a more serious level, what I wrote is very true. If we start examining pussies right now, you will see that most will be shaggy and ill fitting. Also most will be afflicted with Chlamydia trachomatis. It is a known fact that most , if not all sexually active ladies carry this bug without them knowing that they are carrying it. Because people rarely have symptoms with this bug. So I am correct in writing what I wrote, but anyone who is not convinced can bow down and take a look down there and I am sure that person will agree with me.
DeleteWhere can someone buy this New Book?please send us the address,phone number and web because it sounds interesting.
ReplyDeleteAaaaaaw FAB!!!! Good One, some men need that book tho*
ReplyDeleteA rapper with brain
ReplyDeleteu don run am fınısh he no favour u u wan use am sıng for my ear oga musık man go fınd another way when u go take popular
ReplyDeleteSe this one too will fall under thinking outside the box ni?
ReplyDeleteMasturbation is a thing of the mind! I amm a lady, and 99.99% of the time, I don't hv orgasm during penetrative intercourse so watch porn and touch my clit, then I cum! At a point, I knew I had to stop, and I did! Some say its spiritual, and u hv a spiritual hubby blah blah blah, but its a thing of the mind, and anyone can stop it....TC
ReplyDeleteI am a lady too,and I'm guilty of masturbatn charges cos I watch porn n touch my clits,n e dey sweet well well.Can I stop emmmmm thinking#
DeleteAsk dat due to lick d clit
DeleteU would cum 99.99% of the time
U don't av orgasm during penetrative sex ke,who av u been sleeping with?I'l make u cum if I put d 'D' into u after runnin ma tongue ova ur clit...u'l not only cum ur nose will also bleed...no disrespect intended though just statin d fact.dey don't call me 'd grilla in manilla' for nothin.
DeleteDon Saint...write one for women too..
ReplyDeletelinda pls how can i lay my hands on this book?
ReplyDeletenyc 1
ReplyDeleteI hope that his book is full of banalities
ReplyDeleteam a victm o. God bless u my broda. Pls i need d gbook. In jamaica.
ReplyDeletenice one.u don try
ReplyDeleteVery good...I like this guy already - even though I know hardly anything about him...God bless you. Masturbation is no good. Indulge in exercise such as jogging or go to the gym. This man would make a good parent,I think. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteU r lookin for a hubby? The guy no dey available,so stop indirectly advertizin urself.
DeleteThumbs up man... Preach it! We're right behind you.
ReplyDeleteLinda pls get a copy for bonario....cos d rate @ which he grabs his vaseline is alarming
ReplyDeleteLWKMD....craze people for this blog
DeleteMasturbation is perfectly normal and not harmful in anyway to the body, Its even has numerous advantages. So dude, don't know where you got your facts from & btw U aint a doctor!
ReplyDeleteMen una don hear nw,run and grab urs nw b4 e finish
ReplyDeleteawwwww,nice...true that! a lot of young men masturbate and they see it as a norm nowadays
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good & commendable crusade this Rapper is championing! More grease to his elbows.
ReplyDeleteTell dem o.they make soap more expensiVe.
ReplyDeleteShey ole fi chinese balm masturbate...ssshhhh
ReplyDeleteTaaaaar!!! Am i Mad?
DeleteNooooo....pls Use ABONIKI
DeleteA really nice book to read, I must salute his courage.
ReplyDeleteHow To Deal with Sexual Temptation
Lmaooo at the masters degree after naeto c.
ReplyDeleteThere is notin dat doesn't hv de gud n bad side cos in as much as it pleasures u,its a disaster wen u bcom addicted so plz dnt say masturbation is perfectly normal
ReplyDeleteI am writing a book after this titled Emancipation from igbo smoking, this dude needs it too, see his lips..smh!
ReplyDeleteInfact I'm writing one on emancipation from dating married men
Delete@Bonario one sense u nor get. who's talking about spritual here? Don Saint said it is dangerous to helath, Pastor Chris said its not a sin doesnt mean u should do it. Pastor chris also said its an addicting & a bad habbit. He didnt advice anyone to do it. abeg dey use your sense small small. be masturbating there istead of u to be thinking of how to stop the act
ReplyDeleteNa wa o wetin do masturbation again. Una wan make blue balls kill person. Abegi
ReplyDeletestoping masturbation is not an easy thing..but one has to strive for change..
ReplyDeleteDude, masturbate safely, dont break no rule, don\'t kill ur sex life, en there\'s nothin that will ever go wrong. As long as my brain\'s stil hotter than urs, I\'m not blind, and ma Peter still \"stands up tall\", all talkz bout masturbation bein bad, bla blah, are myths... scary tales u shuld tell dem kidz @ moonlyt.
ReplyDeleteDis guy cant fit suit up en take a gud picture 4 his buk sef. smh
I hope it tells about female masturbation too, coz itz more dangerous... i heard.
okay, cos a nigga got msc from anambra or shit like that in africa, thinks he's intelligent enough to write a book, man's got some sort of guts uno... wasteman, wankstar... about research, for within ur village abi? go back to school jor, or go work for zoo...
ReplyDeleteHere's the thing,can a woman whose labia mjaora and Minora has been cut off as in circumcision feel anything when u masturbate with her??
ReplyDeleteGreat work there Don Saint. Keep Up The Good Work. Research On More Topics Please.
ReplyDeleteyeah, thumbs up to u so handsome young writer, but u should touch ur beards somehow to look more... I luv ur book. De only disadvantage is that its a straight way to hell fire, cos u wont have a single chance to repent from it. Pray well if u are in such act.
ReplyDeleteNice book.it is a must read
ReplyDeleteStopin masturbatiin no easy, especially for an unmarried person dat probally don't indugle in fornication....and its indeed sometime painful too..when u over do it....so if the book can really make u stop and still keep u away from fornicating...then its a thump up!....niyinugar says so!
ReplyDeletemy bros, a million thanks for researching on this topic. i need a copy of d book. Linda, how can i grab one?
ReplyDeleteProstitutes go see better market oooooo_
ReplyDeleteI was a victim for 16 years and i did not stop because of any damn book.To me honest,Habitual sins like smoking,masturbation and fornication,dont just go because of information you get from a book,it's a personal decision to quit that matters.People see smokers are liable to die young on a cigarette pack and still smoke.
ReplyDeleteAnyways,effect of Masturbation varies on individuals.I know over 50 of them and have none.They include,watery sperm,prematuture ejaculation,high libido(always having erection),pains on the left side of your waste,blur vision,bad breathe,shrinking of penis,like going from a 6.5 inches to a 5 and many more.The good news is our body can change when we decide to change,so stopping masturbation or reducing the rate of masturbation is very good.
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Buh women masturbate 2 nowwww_all dis girls wey dey comment 4 here seff_most of dem have various ways of brooking demselves ooooo_
ReplyDeleteOoh...anyone who want to raise a campaing in favor of masturbtn shuld go ahead, infact include it as a skill on ur C.V may b a fellow wank will employ u. Dnt let's drag it far,who wan stop shuld stop, who doesnt...contnue. Smokers increas daily despite d obvios danger. Don Saint no dey claim saint frm wank,him want tell u hw him stop wanking ni...***effiyaazo***
ReplyDeleteIt's actually nice that someone actually took his time to write this book, but abeg Ba, u settle down get masters degree and use it to study masturbation, I wonder how he must av researched it, as a fellow academic, lemme correct you. Masturbation has no side effects except for mental addiction, but even so it's the most (can I say) mild of the addictive vices. So guy park well and go do something better with your masters degree. Thank you.
ReplyDeletewow, so so interesting, linda whats you take ?
ReplyDeleteNice book, would really love to knw the positive and negative effect of masturbation. Becos it's a cankerworm that has eaten deep into the minds and life of the average nigerian.
ReplyDeleteLmao u guys!Whether he masturbates or not he is doing good by advicing people to youths. Lmao @youths from 10-45 yrs...=))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º=))
ReplyDeletehin no go research on the tattoo wey dey hin skin... na wanking hin get time for.. bloody Ex-wanker..
ReplyDeleteola, ur mother and sisters are also infested, stupid wanker like u...
ReplyDeleteMasturbation is the stimulation of the sexual organs usually by a person himself, to obtain an orgasm. Though masturbation can be done by partners on one another, the term is more commonly used when sexual satisfaction is provided by self. Most people use their hands to masturbate, but instruments like vibrators and dildoes may also be used. These imitate the movements of the hand and provide sexual pleasure.
ReplyDeleteMasturbation is a way of releasing pent up sexual energy. Most people start masturbating at the time of puberty. With changes in an individual's hormonal profile during puberty, there is a surge of sexual energy which can be released with the help of masturbation. Masturbation is reported more in males than in females. More than a physiological difference in libido, this may be due to sociological taboos on females. Females also tend to discontinue or reduce masturbation when they form sexual relationships.
Is masturbation harmful?
This is the biggest myth surrounding masturbation. If indulged in moderation, masturbation, on the contrary, is a healthy practice that releases sexual energy. According to certain religious practices and beliefs, masturbation is harmful since it results in the loss of a man's "seeds" and makes him weak. Masturbation in women has largely been ignored in the religious texts. Other myths surrounding the act are that it reduces virility by making the semen less thick thereby reducing the chances of a man to bear children. This is totally untrue. Masturbation does not cause any loss of strength or virility in a person.
What are the other myths surrounding masturbation?
Only males masturbate – this is not true. Females masturbate as much as males do. However, they tend to report it less than males due to the social stigma attached to it. Also it has been observed that females tend to reduce or discontinue masturbation once they get into meaningful sexual relationships.
Masturbation is unhealthy – masturbation per se does not cause any health hazards. It is not an unhealthy habit. However, it may be mentally unhealthy if it assumes obsessive proportions and the individual is unable to think of anything else. It may also have physical repercussions if the instrument used to masturbate is dirty or infected.
Only adolescents masturbate – though the practice usually begins during adolescence, almost all adults practise it at some time or the other.
Masturbation does not provide as much satisfaction as sexual intercourse – sometimes masturbation is more satisfying than the sex act. This is because, during masturbation, an individual is in control of his own movements and can maximize the pleasure according to his or her needs. During sexual intercourse, the degree of satisfaction may, to some extent, lie with the partner.
People masturbate only if they have unfulfilling sexual relationships – people also masturbate for self satisfaction, even when they have fully satisfying sexual relationships.
Can one stop masturbating?
One can stop masturbating if one wants to. Just as one can live without indulging in sex, one can also stop masturbating with some will power. However, since the activity has nothing to be ashamed of and most people do it, there is no scientific reason to discontinue it. If one still wishes to discontinue, then the sexual energy may need to be channelised into alternative physical activities.
Lol at d anonymous who wrote on d emancipation from igbo smoking, lmfao, anyway I like it wen we share our body chemistry, I thot I was d only one who hardly ever cums durin penetration, so I watch porn and play wif my clits jst 2 have an orgasm. who does d scissor sign anyway?????
ReplyDeleteHmmm! Am not convinced until I read the book
ReplyDeleteGod help u.
ReplyDeleteMy friend lets get something straight because I don't know where you have done your research. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, in fact it can be good to release the pressure that some have attributed to prostate cancer. It allows the prostate to clear itself of carcinogens. In other words, masturbation may literally clean your pipes. Check google or
ReplyDeletehttp://m.askmen.com/sports/health_400/410_4-fun-ways-to-prevent-prostate-cancer.html
Or
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm
So masturbation seems to be good for us by medical account.
If you say porn or anal sex I hear you. The dangers of those two need to be dealt with, but not masturbation ( and bear in mind that you can masturbate thinking about your partner as opposed to your colleague)
Don't write unnecessary books. What next, Wet dreams?
not bad... nuff said
ReplyDeletenot bad... nuff said
ReplyDeleteLmao!!linda dis ur blog is sumtin else...hehe!so yall actually masturbate uh huh??tell me more!!Niceone don smith!keep up d good work
ReplyDeleteMy masturbation is a grieve spiritual sin, infact u cannot stop it without the help of Holy Spirit. I masturbate for 12yrs until i encounter Holy spirit on the new year eve 31 Dec 2012, i was watching live service of Bishop David Oyedepo in my room. Since then till now i never have the urge again, i felt that something is out of my body. Before i can't live without masturbating but i thank God today for setting me free from this sin that want to ruin my life and future. Now i am a free man. Im asking God also to bless me with a good christian lady for a life partner. Amen ivanmihela83@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteTestimony time....sumbody shout halleluyah
DeleteI am not a hater or whateva it is u guys call it, but if u buy this book, you are a very stupid person and have no sense whatsoever! This guy is confused and desperate. I don't wank but i read a lot, i mean a whole lot, so whateva imaginative adverse effect he is talking about, trust me i should have seen it. The only tentative disadvantage to masturbation is the addiction that's all! I cud ve added premature ejaculation also, but then again 65-75% of men(including those that don't masturbate) suffer from this, so dat wudnt count. If u think ur addiction is gettn chronic, then u sud put a check to it. But stopping masturbation especially when u cnt/dnt have sex, would increase ur susceptibility for prostrate cancer for men and fibroid for women! And also read the "i.likenaija..." culled comment dat wud also help with the enlightenment.
ReplyDeleteThere you go again.someone has put his hardwork to play and all some people can do is run him down and justify the act.masturbation is wrong morally and otherwise.I don't know about other religions but in christianity,it's also wrong and if not repented of can lead to hell.it falls under the category of sexual immorality. As for you who mentioned pastor chris,I wonder since when he became the standard and God's mouth piece. Nothing can justify masturbation be it rape,HIV or otherwise. Strive to stop it. It's not at all easy but can be done. Good luck to all who have genuine intentions in putting an end to this very shameful act.I support the writer 1000%!
ReplyDeleteI can't believe the ignorance of most people commenting here? It's just a stupid book. Which research has this fool done? Where did he get his data from? Has his finding being peer reviewed? C'mon people don't let your ignorance make you too lazy to find out things yourself. There's nothing wrong with masturbation!!! NOTHING WRONG WITH IT!
ReplyDeleteIn 2009, the UK Government joined the Netherlands and other European nations in encouraging teens to masturbate at least daily. An orgasm was defined as a right in its health pamphlet. This was done in response to data and experience from the other EU member states to reduce teen pregnancy and STIs (STDs), and to promote healthy habits
It is held in many mental health circles that masturbation can relieve depression and lead to a higher sense of self-esteem. Masturbation can also be particularly useful in relationships where one partner wants more sex than the other – in which case masturbation provides a balancing effect and thus a more harmonious relationship.
ReplyDeleteMutual masturbation, the act by which two or more partners stimulate themselves in the presence of each other, allows a couple to reveal the "map to [their] pleasure centers". By watching a partner masturbate, one finds out the methods they use to please him- or herself, allowing each partner to learn exactly how the other enjoys being touched. Intercourse, by itself, is often inconvenient or impractical at times to provide sufficient sexual release for many people. Mutual masturbation allows couples to enjoy each other and obtain sexual release as often as they need but without the inconveniences and risks associated with sex.
In 2003, an Australian research team led by Graham Giles of The Cancer Council Australia found that males masturbating frequently had a lower probability to develop prostate cancer. Men who averaged five or more ejaculations weekly in their 20s had significantly lower risk. However they could not show a direct causation. The study also indicated that increased ejaculation through masturbation rather than intercourse would be more helpful as intercourse is associated with diseases (STDs) that may increase the risk of cancer instead. However, this benefit may be age related. A 2008 study concluded that frequent ejaculation between the ages of 20 and 40 may be correlated with higher risk of developing prostate cancer. On the other hand, frequent ejaculation in one's 50s was found to be correlated with a lower such risk in this same study.
A study published in 1997 found an inverse association between death from coronary heart disease and frequency of orgasm even given the risk that myocardial ischaemia and myocardial infarction can be triggered by sexual activity.
ReplyDelete“ The association between frequency of orgasm and all cause mortality was also examined using the midpoint of each response category recorded as number of orgasms per year. The age adjusted odds ratio for an increase of 100 orgasms per year was 0.64 (0.44 to 0.95). ”
That is, a difference in mortality appeared between any two subjects when one subject ejaculated at around two times per week more than the other. Assuming a broad range average of between 3 to 5 ejaculations per week for healthy males, this would mean 5 to 7 ejaculations per week. This is consistent with a 2003 Australia article on the benefits against prostate cancer. The strength of these correlations increased with increasing frequency of ejaculation.
A 2008 study at Tabriz Medical University found ejaculation reduces swollen nasal blood vessels, freeing the airway for normal breathing. The mechanism is through stimulation of the sympathetic nervous system and is long lasting. The study author suggests "It can be done [from] time-to-time to alleviate the congestion and the patient can adjust the number of intercourses or masturbations depending on the severity of the symptoms."
Masturbation is also seen as a sexual technique that protects individuals from the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Support for such a view, and for making it part of the American sex education curriculum, led to the dismissal of US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders during the Clinton administration. EU Nations include masturbation in their sex education and promote the practice. (see above)
Sexual climax, from masturbation or otherwise, leaves one in a relaxed and contented state. This is frequently followed closely by drowsiness and sleep – particularly when one masturbates in bed.
Some professionals consider masturbation to function as a cardiovascular workout. Though research is still as yet scant, those suffering from cardiovascular disorders (particularly those recovering from myocardial infarction, or heart attacks) should resume physical activity (including sexual intercourse and masturbation) gradually and with the frequency and rigor which their physical status will allow. This limitation can serve as encouragement to follow through with physical therapy sessions to help improve endurance.
Stupid 'Masters Degree' holder. Why not write about pedophilia, rape, corruption, prostitution and the blatant violation of human rights (e.g. ALUU and the Ekwe Three)? You get no applause or thumbs up from you.
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ReplyDeleteThis guy should go and do more research on masturbation. I don't think it has an adverse effect as he paints it.
ReplyDeleteThe M-word : Marriage Perspective
ReplyDeleteMasturbation. The word that causes grown men to cringe and starts a thousand theological debates in every church in the world. I know that many of you will disagree with my view, but here it is anyway. The Bible does not strictly forbid the act of masturbation, but it does give a very specific warning about lust. (Matthew 5:28). In my experience it is a near impossibility for a man to masturbate without falling into lust. I challenge, that the visual brain that God gave us and how it is wired directly with our sexual desire does not allow us to masturbate without mental visualisations for someone, unless that person is your wife it is lust. Therefore, I do not believe that it is appropriate for a man to "take matters into his own hands", by himself and hidden from his wife.
Masturbation in Marriage, contains an interesting set of principles that should be considered by anyone who desires to continue the practice in their marriage.
Reasons Why
Why does this happen? Why does a husband decide to take matters into his own hand rather then turning to his wife? Here are four possible answers to that complex question.
1. Habit
Call it habit or addiction there are some men who simply can not stop. They have been masturbating since puberty and even when they try, they are unable to stop. Often the use of pornography accompanies this habitual masturbation and only adds to the shame and guilt that the men caught in this addiction are experiencing. They know it is sinful and even hurting the marriage but they are caught behind the shame unable to admit they need help.
2. Frequency
Many men think they would like to have sex daily, but their current intimate time with their wife might be only once a week or less. Rather then dealing with the desire differences and the one flesh opportunities that this creates, some men decide to be content with less frequent intercourse by “relieving the pressure” in between. This seems to work fine till their wife desires intimacy that has already been relieved earlier.
3. Communication
Men are notoriously poor at expressing sexual desire. We tend to either go for locker room methods, or the direct approach. If your come on method is, either pinching your wife’s breast or asking “do you want sex tonight?” then your method needs improvement. Unfortunately, instead of working on communication some guys give up all together. They stop asking and simply turn to masturbation till their wife decides it is time for sex. This quiet desire sends all the wrong messages, that many wives see as a decrease in sex drive.
4. Rejection
Some guys have become so used to hearing the answer, no, that they have stopped asking all together. This rejection or threat of rejection has led them to feel that they need to take care of their own desires. Similar to the reason above, the wife may experience this change as her husband lacking desire.
What’s Wrong with That?
With the exception of reason #1 many of the guys reading this might be saying, “ya, so what?”. The problem is this when a husband turns to masturbation he is turning away from his wife. He is giving up on what should be excellent sexual intimacy, and often giving in to thoughts of lust.
Communication and lots of it is the key If you are masturbating in your marriage your wife needs to know about it. Don’t use it as a threat but, she needs to know you are struggling with masturbation and desiring more intimate time with her Tell her that would would like her help with this difficult issue.
u dnt publish unverified journals in the 21st century and expect ppl to jump up in appreciation for ur dumb research..you need to be self disciplined b4 u can stop masturbation..it has many health benefits especially the cancer aspect. dis dude berra face his music and see if he can make a living out of it..and he should watch wat he smokin on..
ReplyDeleteReally a great blog with a best thoughts and ideas are shared thanks for sharing such an interesting article.
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Wow this is really nice & i really need to get a copy of this book,please enlighten me on how to get the book. Tnx
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