Dr Festus Ojagbemi, 49, known as ‘Wally’, who had a surgery in Strood, Kent, lived with long-term partner Jackie Hammond in the week and lover Bamidele Ayeni on weekends - for seven years.
He fathered a child with Miss Ayeni - a popular Nigerian singer known as Dele Achiever (pictured above) - and said he would wed them both, while racking up thousands of pounds worth of debt taking them on holidays.
But when the secret was discovered by Miss Hammond he stabbed himself twice in the chest at his surgery, St Mary’s Medical Centre, the inquest was told. But he survived that attempt on his life.
While recovering in hospital he told police and both women he was attacked by a stranger. But he eventually confessed the truth to officers - only to take his own life four days later on February 12.
Miss Hammond later found him at the detached house they shared in Hempstead, Kent. A note signed with his nickname was on the TV cabinet near where he was found in the conservatory.
The cost of leading the double life emerged after his death, the inquest in Maidstone, Kent, heard. Miss Hammond said a credit card firm phoned after he died, claiming he owed them £10,000.
She said: ‘I started phoning and everyone told me how much he owed them. By the time we got to the 10th or 11th, the bill was huge. We just couldn’t get our heads around it.
‘I work, I get paid, so we don’t talk about finances. If we go on holiday he would be the one that pays.’
The couple had planned their wedding for this May after almost 20 years together.
Miss Hammond said he killed himself because he felt guilty after the double life was uncovered, adding: ‘He just wanted me to notice he was hurting because of what he had done to me.’
Miss Ayeni did not appear at the inquest but the hearing was told of evidence she gave to police. She claimed Dr Ojagbemi proposed last October and that they were planning a wedding in April.
They had a child, he rented a flat for them, visited on weekends and they would talk six or seven times a day, she said.
Miss Ayeni, who sings Juju and pop music, said she knew about the other partner, but he told her he ‘did not love her any more’. She told officers: ‘I would call him “baby” because he was my baby. I would also call him my "husband".
He would have been so proud and boastful about it was in Nigeria.Unfortunately, it happened in UK where he would have been shamed and if possible sent to jail.
ReplyDeleteIt's a shame he took his life...he would have allowed the backlash to simmer and then start a new life...Too young to die at 49.Hmmmm, what women would cause in this life sef.....
The Doctor no try at all.He should have asked his fellow Yoruba brothers in London on how to manage this kind of scenario kpa kpa.
ReplyDeleteHe should have returned to Nigeria and collect a chieftaincy title - 'The Baaale of Ijebu Ode'....It's a normal thing to have more than 10 wives and 100 concubines in Yoruba land.
I wanted to right sumfin to u before Bt on second thought u AR NT even worth it, u lack courtesy n m sure as hell DAT u AR so gullible,
Deletehe just took a first class flight to hell bcos there are people in worse situations. there's no reason why anyone should commit suicide
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Nooo bruh of all d whole lies in dis world u can tell to get urself off d hook,u choose to pay d ultimate price,how sure is he d women are not cheating too. No there's more to dis,tell me its because of d huge debt,imma believe a bit. Anyway RIP Dr.
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i smell somethng fishy...i think the hammond woman killed him when he fessed up and was about to leave her, and because his african nigerian, the cops didnt inquire anymore and just took her words for it that he committed suicide..smh..nawaooo... oyibo self... i no trust them sha. She killed him.
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely ignorant.you are the type of person that blames all your downfall on being "black" .bloody dimwit. The man confessed that he stabbed himself twice on d chest r u blind and den killed himself after. Bcuz u dnt know white people in jail r more than blacks?
DeleteHmmm hmm! Na wah for your brain o! E
DeleteThink b4 u talk, the hammond woman is ghanian and is as black as u are
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ReplyDeleterubish. Linda pls i wil lyk 2 knw abt doz sick ppl we contributed money 4 dia hospital bill. Pls hw r de?. The cancer victimz.
ReplyDeleteAvery strang story! I don't know if it is the hole truth!
ReplyDeleteI think there is more to it!
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Mehn this chic ehn! What happened to the 'e' in Strange and 'w' in whole? I hope that's not ur face in pic because u keep showin urself here.
DeleteMiss pitang u have come again ooooo!
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DeleteLooool miss pitang, rid on jar
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ReplyDeleteOne word #SPEECHLESS
ReplyDeleteGood riddance!
ReplyDeleteHey sweetie Com'on! Good riddance? Isn't that too harsh? I'm not applauding his actions but I feel bad a soul is lost.
DeleteDouble dating is not good how can one single man promised to marry two diffrent women @ d same time. Guys learn frm dis cos is so disgusting
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DeleteI can't feel sorry for him. Miss Ayeni, happy now?
ReplyDeleteThe bleaching issue comes up again. Look at those horrid knuckles. This kind of bitch won't care about any other woman but herself. Bloody concubine. Quick quick she had a child. Too sharp. I shall not digress on a tribal note.
ReplyDeleteAsshole u have already! Oloriburuku omo ale jatijati.
DeleteHmmmmm! May he RIP
ReplyDeleteWhat a messed up life. I don't know what some people gain by living a false life.
ReplyDeleteOmg! I can only imagine the amount of stress he was under. Most of us live double lives to an extent. For example most working class married women with children have to play the role of an employee or employer @ work, loving wife to their hubby n a caring mum to their kid(s) all three roles have different temperaments. This Dr. On the other hand took it to a psychotic level! He seemed very troubled, I only wish his loved ones could see the tell-tale signs because there always are. Unfortunally most people are preoccupied with activities from their daily lives to be that observant. Sad! Eternal rest grant him oh Lord, amen.
ReplyDeleteHe really seemed very troubled!
DeleteNo sympathy from me...,the evil that men do. Single men in their late 30s and 40s are always bad news. There is a reason why these men are single at that age and women should be very careful with Such men.
ReplyDeleteif truly he committed suicide then he done too chop oyibo food and drink oyibo water,suicide bcos u were caught in a lie?not nigerian at all.for obodo naija here wey be say ur hubby fit get like 5 girlfriends in ur neighbourhood,shiooo kelembe tuee!!!
ReplyDeleteNo sympathy from me...,the evil that men do. Single men in their late 30s and 40s are always bad news. There is a reason why these men are single at that age and women should be very careful with Such men.
ReplyDeleteTrue! They ® always bad news!
DeleteWHat can I say...its Sad really bad...
ReplyDeletevery sad,
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ALL I NOTICED WAS HOW THE WHITE WOMAN SAID "WE DONT TALK ABT FINANCES, I WORK AND PAY MY BILLS" YET THE BLACK WOMAN SAID "HE IS NICE, HE RENTS MY FLAT AND BUYS ME LOADS OF THINGS" SMH! BLK WOMEN, THIS IS WHY YOUR MEN TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT. INUGO?
ReplyDeleteYour head dey there joor...*chop knuckle* I tot I noticed that alone.
DeleteShe is ghanian not white
DeleteA terrible way to end what should have been a meaningful life. No situation is worth killing yourself after all problems are for the living.
ReplyDeleteHe jst ended wat he started dat he cldnt finish. Wat a way to over estimate oneself n tk odas 4 a ride. Wat u sow, u reap. U r equal to d value u place on d society.
ReplyDeleteOMDZ that woman performed at my sis wedding 2 yrs ago
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh.. Ehen Linda I just saw fresh news that Kim and Kanye West are planning to wed on an Island.. Is it true? Please confirm.. This means they are still together and the news of their relationship cooling off is a rumour.
ReplyDeletetypical Yoruba lifestyle...man cheating on 2 women at once.One of them a typically bleached Yoruba woman. If it was another tribe, u guys would single them out.If a yoruba commits a crime,it becomes a "Nigerian" affair. You guys make me sick. And before y'all start rattling,I'm Anaang and not Ibo. Good you can't say much about my tribe. dirty and loud Yoruba pigs.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry u and your tribes men will forever be slaves to igbos!
DeleteHow u take get access to internet u did bloody houseboy! Oloshi! Abeg park well. Who be u! Tribes they talk u sef dey open mouth. If na lagos u or ur family dey stay na molue go kill of una. Fool! 3rd hand citizen like u! Wetin I dey talk, u no even get settlement na! U will always be a minority!
DeleteBut if it was ur area fucking dog eating rat shit brained people, you'd have killed one of the concubines instead of taking the fall for the wrong u did. Don't even go talking about yoruba men cheating.... We all know it's the Essiens and the Akpans of this world that pussy troll even to the pussy of a goat. Their dicks know no loyalty..... Always trying to screw ogas wife. So please, when others are talking about excessive sex or sleeping around, don't insult ironies by joining d band wagon cos we all know you calabar and akwa ibom people are the greatest 'f*ucking' DOGS on d face of the earth. #okbye
DeleteYou are very myopic in your reasoning. Fallacious statement I must say. So all Anaang men are faithful? I am not Yoruba but your comment struck me as really dumb. Unfortunately your sickness has no cure. Need you call them names? I want to believe Anaang people are not like you because you are an embarrassing example.
DeleteNeed I say more?! I don't think so... Thanks to all those who replied to dis moron's comment... Well said guys!!!
DeleteWONU: @anons 11:40 u had me in stitches. Lol
Deletehe should have been open about it, yorubas are allowed to have more than one wife and both the yoruba and the english lady should know that.
ReplyDeleteHe probably killed himself over the debt.
ReplyDeleteTwo bad, who sent him to live a double life in the first place
ReplyDeleteMe, I can smell fowl play here. There is no way this guy will kill himself. Kill himself for what? For spinning two women at the same time even one of the women admitted to have been aware of the other woman.
ReplyDeleteNo way. This man did not kill himself.
This man could not have killed himself because of his debt too. He could have declared bankruptcy. He could have relocated back home. He is a doctor, he will be fine at home with any woman[women] of his choice.
I believe the police did not do a thorough job in this case as usual.
Can anyone remember the Nigerian football star that was seen hanging by his neck in his house in USA and the police said he committed suicide without doing any investigation and the police later changed their story when the wife hired a powerful attorney insisting that her husband did not and could never have committed suicide. It was later discovered that the police did not secure the crime scene, they did not interview the neighbors. In fact the police did nothing. They just declared the guy committed suicide. They did not even do the autopsy before they declare the guy killed himself.Their reason no manpower. I know the guy was buried at home in Nigeria. But dont know if the police eventually did anything to to find out what really happened the guy.
Very sad may his soul rest in peace.
ReplyDelete@ksampokoto,I noticed that too but I think there's more to this story.the debt is huge and might have led to suicide sha.Jazmin.
ReplyDeleteAnd lest I forget.Why is it that Yoruba people's marriages never last. I have like 8 Yoruba friends and none of their parents are together. It's either they live in the same Lagos but none of them are seeing each other or one partner is in Europe or America and the other is in Nigeria. They would not divorce...but they will be living separate lives. Why?
ReplyDeleteIts because of education. Unlike some other tribes the women are very educated and fight for their rites. Rather than sit down and die In a marriage like ur tribes people do because u have been bought wiv money and some of ur people are illiterates. Sorry most of them! They can afford to be a single mother cus they have resources to take care of themselves. Gbam!
DeleteShaaaaArap there. Over sabi no go kill u. Mind ur own business ode oshi!!! Am sure a yoruba just broke ur miserable heart. Everyones ignoring ur sorry ass. Can't u c. They're talkn about a doctor that killed himself ur talkn bout yoruba marriage n ur Frnz. Blah blah blah omo calaba jati jati. Oponu
DeleteWhy don't u ask ur "friends" Mr. Groundnut sized dick feeling funky.
DeleteThis essien guy is stupid sha.. Its very obvious dat U're jobless.. I pity ur children!!!
DeleteShow me ur friends...I can figure wat ur marriage too will look like
DeleteThe suicide is not because of the lie joor...after all its one sided, the naija woman knows there's another. I feel the huge debt drove him to it.
ReplyDelete@ essien u r so stupid, its obvious frm d way u reasoning, y r u bn tribalistic @ dis time n era, u need 2 educate ur self, av u nt come across otha tribe dt keeps 2 or more women, even in religious dis days, its nt only d muslims dt keeps more dan one woman otha religious do too, its common with d africans plus it depends on d individual, any ways I think it cld b debt dt made commit suicide
ReplyDeleteWhat has this story got to do with Yorubas marital problems. Why do some Nigerians hate other Nigerians like this? OK, A yoruba doctor killed himself. Okay. so no person of another tribe ever killed himself?
ReplyDeleteWhy see a bad story and you start displaying tribalism?
It is only Yorubas who has marital problems?
@Essien....serious JAMB question. Ask ur friends na u seem to have alot of em.
ReplyDeleteI do not believe this guy killed himself. The woman he lived with must have initially stabbed him when she discovered his affairs and the poor guy was probably trying to cover up for her at the time. She finally lost the plot and finshed him off subsequently. Commiting sucide for such a trivial issue is totally out of character for a Nigerian man who seemed to have good thing going for him. It wasn't as if he'd committed bigammy and his name was to be struck from the General Medical Council register. There is a big cover up here by the UK police simply because he's African. I hope he has relatives who would refuse such cock and bull story and make a fuss and demand for thorough investigation.
ReplyDelete@ Essien.
ReplyDeleteWould you just shut ur mouth.
As dumb as you are, u had to bring in tribal issues. Whether annang of 'afang' who really cares?. SMH.
‘He’s intelligent, loving,
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what else would have made him loving. SMH for girls.
People taking dia lives are rily trying O弡 .. i avnt seen wot wil mk me tk my own lyf,damn,my life is 2 precious! God pls do not lemme b in a situation whr takin my lyf wil b d only option 4me..
ReplyDeleteSuicide is never a way out of any problem... Sad story yea.
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The guy is a fool, killed himself over women matter, 6months from now they will hv new boyfriends.I have 2 serious gfs for 3yrs now n happy as can be
ReplyDeleteThis miss ayeni sef. Na by force to be sexy?? E no go better 4 u as u come use ur bleaching cream face scatter another woman relationship of 20yrs!!
ReplyDeleteall of u saying typical yoruba lifestyle r genuine illetr8s, anyman can cheat b it white or black ...stp bin foolish
ReplyDeleteBiko, no mind d useless people.
DeleteI smell a rat!. Dis guy was killed.
ReplyDeleteThe white woman killed him. She discovered her partner of over 20 years had not only been cheating on him but also planning on wedding another woman, so she killed him. That's the truth. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned woman . She did a very clean job and him being black won't help matters as the police don't care if one successful niggar kicks the bucket. So they won't bother carrying out a thorough investigation.
ReplyDeleteRIP to him...
Most men cheat but Yoruba men surpass them. Go to most yoruba men's funeral, you'll see foreign women and children trying to struggle for his property with his legit wife(ves) and children. They are good at playing away match and pumping up kids outside marriage like no man's business.Mbok.
ReplyDeleteEssien I take God beg you, stop bringing unnecessary attention to our people you fool. Concentrate on your job. or are your parents siblings? Mbok.
DeleteHahahahaha...... Now I get it. Yo mama was a side chick to a yoruba man, and didn't get nada for ur sorry ass during ur fadas funeral. Hehehehehehehe.... Ebin lo ma pa e. Omo HOEloshi.... Eleru ibu. Hehehe.
DeleteI believe Miss Ayeni is a big partaker in the Dr`s death, maybe she was pushing the guy for a marriage and the guy was still commited to his partner of 20yrs, otherwise why did the Dr. asked Dele not to tell pple about their impending wedding.A man would do anything to have a woman and a desperate woman would do everything to have a husband. Dele should be ashamed of herself for saying publicly that the Dr. told her he no longer love the partner, even though he commited suicide he should be allowed a deserved place in the long term partners heart and Dele would forever be remembered as a singing homebreaker/ suicide enforcer and hope she tell the story to her child in future.
ReplyDeleteYou're so right. Her music was prolly a cover. She was getting all she has from the man. 20 years? And she came to crash it. Ko ni da fun.... Very useless woman.
Deletena only ronke, dat commented at 10.48 7/10/12 talk wetin really happen hia. that dele woman and her bleached knuckles is a typical strange woman in a home, a home breaker that will rot in hell. most married cheating men lie about the situation of things at home. she was pressuring that guy into leaving his wife of 2decades, after getting him into so much debt, the mans conscience wont let him and so he decided to kill himself, i hope the oyinbo woman isnt mourning his sorry ass in hell, and if she actually did it, kudos to her, enough of men thinking infidelity is their birth right, meanwhile, u.k ladies, watch out, dele the jezeebel spirit is on the prowl again, looking for another marriage to sink her fangs into and destroy! as for the tribe this lifstyle is common with, una know una sef.
ReplyDeleteI actually went to youtube now to watch this Linda, i have never seen you loose your temper. I am shocked beyond words...this is one day where i regret being a nigerian. My husband said he will never visit Nigeria again and rightly so too. Justice must be done please!!!
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha! I laugh in pidgin! Y'all Yorubas see how it feels to mock other tribes? I've been an ardent LIB reader since she started blogging.I can't help to notice how you guys convert every negative Nigeria story that's got other tribes in it into a tribal issue(especially if they are Ibo or from Benin).I'm not from any of those places but y'all Yorubas like feeling like a bunch of toothless bulldogs.As for ur insults, it doesn't touch me one bit...just wanted to give u guys a taste of your own medicine. Until you stop your stupid tribal wars...you shall hear more from me!
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha.... Ur comments are like dust to us... We're just insulting ur life so u know we ain't mute. I hope u've seen the link down there, where ur fada was caught straffing a goat. Hehehehehehe..... @ least, so straff woman (human) better pass pussy trolling a goat..... You will hear more from us here too, and very soon, ur groundnut sized dick will be added to the dp of ur comments... Stay tuned. Linda post abeg. I'm enjoying this :-)
DeleteThis Essien though! If you had bothered to develop yourself mentally you would have realised that this article has nothing to do with tribalism but apparently your stupidity has far surpassed my very very low expectations of you. Do me a favour. Drop madam's phone and humbly retire to your gateman post.
ReplyDeleteI'm Yoruba and I agree that infidelity runs deep in yoruba men. Thy are bad news. They lack th patience to make a relationship work. Any little issue at home, their solution is to find a mistress. Stupid narcissistic losers
ReplyDeleteI swear if u are any other tribe and ure commenting as a yoruba. Ur days will be cut short! Hhhhiiidiot.
Deleteu bitter women shd chill @ dele, partner for 20 years not wife for 20 years. y would a woman decide to be a partner for 20years with no child and no marriage and she's probably nearing menopause. the doctor had two other children and had probably always cheated on his so called partner. Dele didnt wreak a home, its like saying Rihanna wrecked Chris and karrueche's relationship. @ Linda post my comment *winks*, its my first
ReplyDelete& @ all you tribalistic igbo people, i would rather prefer my man to sleep with another woman with a condom (that is if the need for that ever arises....... cos i give it to him really very good) than sleep with a donkey or goat abi na sheep your kinsman slept with.................. check out that story here http://ejiekemka.blogspot.com/; the calabar girl Essien, am sure you grew up sleeping with your father, brothers and uncles ..................nonsense.
ReplyDeleteYou people are always quick to mention Yoruba this, Yoruba that. Biafrans been tribalistic who could have imagined ooo, mtcheeewwwwwwwwww
Yoruba for life, so proud of us and what we have been able to achieve so far
Essien...A.K.A attention seeker! Don't even let us start wit calabar/akwa ibom lifestyle!!yeye dey smell.
ReplyDeletesomething is not right i owned more than £10,000 myself.why should i have to kill myself because of debt that why i love U.K even is million i can never kill myself just call the credit card company and arranged how to pay it.one of the women kill the man.
ReplyDelete@ Anon 11:12 am - yes o, the white lady probably did it and if she gets away with it, goodluck to her. Na wa for naija guys in UK, them sabi live double life. One guy was telling me some crap story about his wife and how he wants to leave her. Talking about he wants to come to spend 2 days in my house, imagine leave your wife and kids for 2 freaking days. I was like go work on your marriage, I don't want to be a home wrecker. I have a good reputation, God forbid bad thing. Thank God I didn't sleep with the guy, cos when we started dating I didn't know he was married. These men are sick, he even wanted me to come to his house while the wife and kids were away on holiday. To think some useless women would actually jump at such offers. What goes around, comes around cos karma is a bitch!
ReplyDeletei cant believe a nigerian man would commit sucide,but boko haram have made me doubt the impossibility.anywhich way RIP DR. Please i beg in the name of God,lets stop this tribal talk and face reality.@essien,am not sure you are an annang man because we dont talk the way you do,....Agwo annang ade agwo uko.........an average annang is a man with integrity...............an please my educated yoruba brothers stop commiting fallacy of hasty generalization.in akwa ibom,we have the ibibio,annang and oro people,so ask essien if he is from the other tribes before you insult the annang tribe...thanks
ReplyDeleteHow can a man cheat on u 4 several years without u bn aware? D signs mst be there ofcos..but do women really care, once he pays d bills n gives dem money 4 shoppin evrytin is settled..d nigerian singer cant deny she's not aware..i fink dey both cheated on d oda lady..anyways dey v sent d man to his grave
ReplyDeleted other woman is a black ghanian woman and not a white woman
ReplyDeleteNa oyinbo food cause am! Wat is €10,000? Hian. Dat guy wuz eida murdered or hez jus weak. (Thinking) waht if he had a disease?.
ReplyDeleteEither this man had become Oyinbonized or he was murdered. He did not marry the live in lover so he could end the relationship at anytime. So why would he have a contigency plan for 20 yrs and then kill himself when he could just walk away.
ReplyDeleteWarri girl, you don come back from Italy?
omg i kno dis lady dele achiver..shez a singer awww how did she get heself tangled with dis...so sad..well dis can happen 2 anybody sha..so pple shuld start der usual yoruba talk abeg..am igbo but i kno dis culd be anybody..
ReplyDeleteWhatever colour or nationality the other woman is - black, white, Ghanian. She probably did it and the police thought hey he confessed to suicide once and he probably attempted it again and succeeded. Plus he's a naija guy, so one less naija for the cops in UK to worry about. She probably stabbed him the first time and blackmailed him cos after 20 years I'm sure she has something on him that she can use against him legally eg maybe illegal billing of NHS for patients that don't exist. Probably thats why he couldn't report her for the first stabbing incident. Why would a doctor stab himself when he has numerous toxic medication at his disposal he can injest and have a pleasant death. Plus naija guy kill himself for being caught cheating ke, no they will brag about it. £10,000 is not a lot of debt for a doctor with his own practice. It doesn't add up, I think the guy just f**cked with the wrong woman!
ReplyDeleteLinda please stop posting tribalistic comments and be responsible with your blogging, thanks.
ReplyDeleteToo bad
ReplyDeleteIf he killed himself due to the debts he has.it is as a result of his double life.he kept spending senselessly.this is indeed a sad ending to this web of lies.there's always a solution.RIP!
ReplyDeleteNO 1, the other lady is ghanian not oyinbo o my people, No 2, Dele never had a child for the doctor , dele'child is 8yrs old, she met the doctor while the baby was sick, NO, I know there storry very well, that doctor lied so much to both of them, he dint spend on dele like that, never took her holiday for once, only God knows why this happened to dr OJA, finally do you people know that this doctor took a chieftancy title in his home town in Nigeria in wich he actutly fought for before they gave him , I won't say more than that for now .
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ReplyDeleteI will never accept any reason for anyone to commit suicide and a doctor for that matter.
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