My boyfriend of three years proposed to me just this Thursday night with the cheapest looking ring I've ever seen. He said the ring is expensive but it looks cheap and I hate everything about it. He said his sister picked the ring out for him. I'm not surprised she has no taste. Can I sell my ring and get another one for myself? I've seen a ring I want, should I discuss it with him or just get it without his knowledge?
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ReplyDeletediscuss it with him hun
but make sure you choose your words carefully
Does engagement ring mean he will even marry u? U neva even enter d man house nd u don de make demands of "i like nd i nor like". I pity dat ur man! Yeye girl!!!
DeleteOpe it isn't that beauty queen dt just got engaged to her BF? Nyways, d ring doesn't matter, but if he can afford it mk him get u another simple
DeleteBeware of cheap rings...I was proposed to with one...I loved it..wore d cheap ass thing proudly..meanwhile the guy was a gold digger and a player always looking for d next better thing..that's his style he proposes with cheap rings cos he is not serious...scam rings are usually cheap.....if he loves u he shud buy a classy ring..wedding gown can be cheap , weddings can be simple . The ring however shudnt
DeleteU be mumu.. Shikena
ReplyDeleteIf u get a new ring u probably proposed to urself. Be contended with what u have, what matters is what's in the heart not the ring. Keep itttt!!!!!
DeleteU took dat ryt outa my mouth. She no thnk God say she even get ring,sme gals will b grateful 2 even hve a plastic ring
DeleteUr jst too dumb and materialistic! If u love him u shudnt b finkn °ƒ hw ur ring looks...like u wnt change it wen u gettin married....I hope his sister sees ur post
ReplyDeleteYou are funny!u even get ring and u dey choose. The ring is a symbol not the gate way to a successful marraige.
ReplyDeleteHoney ,that's a real dilemma.depending on the kinda guy he is,you should tell him,you don't like it nd see what he says.
ReplyDeleteMy dear some1 ure getting married to should knw ur taste.if the engagement ring is wrong,what else could b wrong?just thinking out loud really
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha*faints* dis Blog will not kii me..thanx for the humour..comedy Blog..dis made ma sunday.
ReplyDeleteIf u dont appreciate d little thing now,how would you appreciate the big one?although,his sister picking it ticks me off***
ReplyDelete1st of all congrats babes. I tink u shld tell him u dnt like d ring instead of selling it. Hear what he says. Maybe he can suggest u guys go pick out sumtin u'll like. Oma baby
ReplyDeleteSome girls are praying for their boyfriends of 8 yrs to propose, you are complaining about the ring. Don't change the ring, change the boyfriend na!
ReplyDeletena wa for some people sha oh! how does the ring affect both of you happiness.
ReplyDeleteWell if you must change the ring, discuss it with him in a subtle way. But na wa oh!!!!
Its engagement ring not wedding ring. Be contented.its not even d ring dat matters @ all.
ReplyDeleteu no even appreciate,u are ungreatful n i mean it.Y must u get another ring even if d ring is 1naira u should appreciate d fact dat he gave u a ring.Do u know hw many people wish a man can even put a kobo ring in their finger.
ReplyDeleteThis is crazy!the ring am seeing is awesome,u hv to be contented wit wot u r given.However if u insist on changing it,den respect d man who gave it to u and tell him b4 doing dat.
ReplyDeleteSee comment!!! Please keep up.
DeleteWhich ring are you seeing? So you believe every picture you see on a story is directly connected to that story?
DeleteDats not d ring above o! Since its engagement ring, linda jez put dt as a significance
DeleteMumu, it didn't cross your mind that the ring in the pic is most likely one of those internet images Linda uses for her stories.
DeleteIf every1 is to think like u then d couples in images used by linda when people are asking for marital advice r the people having issues in real life.
Msssscccccchhhheeewwww!
Greed! Be content... Take my advice if this is the attitude you have towards gift given you by your fiance save yourself the headace and look for one who can get you all the goodies your thirtsy throat needs..
ReplyDeleteYou are such ungreatful human being
ReplyDeleteUngrateful*
DeleteExcuse you.
Don't think that is right or neccessary. Most ladies I knw get a new engagement ring along with their wedding band making that a perfect opportunity to discard d one u don't like. Hopefully d wedding bells r ringinging soon sha....
ReplyDeleteBest comment so far!I really dunno y people r criticizing her for her choice.....if u dnt like smtin,u dnt like it!period....it is neva a crime,shez jst asking for advice. My dear,u can buy anoda 1 wen u are buying d wedding band n discard dis 1
DeleteIt is an engagement ring not a wedding ring how can u even think of selling a ring he gave u anyways u can always pick ur own wedding ring it not abt d ring it abt marrying d man u love
ReplyDeleteKai! Dis man shld just end the engagement!!! U'll make a terrible wife!!!
ReplyDeleteΑ̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ U̶̲̥̅̊ in love wit him or U̶̲̥̅̊ α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ J̶̲̥̅̊υ̲̣̥ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇τ̲̣̣̥ carried away with ΨђåƮ U̶̲̥̅̊ α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ receiving from him? Cos I Ơ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡ no reason 4 U̶̲̥̅̊ complain abt engagement ring....if U̶̲̥̅̊ really love him D̶̲̅αts sldnt be urpirority...afterall he has propose
ReplyDeleteShe shld be happy 2 get a ring, a lot of ladie are lookin for dat eida. Cheap or xpensive.. U beta accept and stop complainin..
ReplyDeleteFor the guy to have gone as far as saying "it's an expensive ring his sister picked out" shows that u have probably said in a very rude manner (which he's Prolly used to by now) "WHAT KINDA CHEAP ASS RING IS THIS". I dare u to follow d advise of most pple here telling u to tell him you don't like the ring, and ask for an exchange, and let's see if you will still be making any marriage plans. Ashawo! You don't love the man, and u obviously hate his fam. Thunder fire ur head. Slut!
DeleteEverything Ω̴̴̩̩̩̥a ashawo or slut abi? Women v suffered sha. ♍ sure its a guy dt posted dis redundant post Olodo!. Dnt change ur ring o, its just an ornament n hw terrible cn it b. Sids i fink d only reason ur agitating is cz ur a show off pls pls pls nt ery1 can own an engagement ring retailing fr a million dollars. He hs given u a ring a symnol of his undying love n tolerance dts worth more dan any othr diamond out der, chill n b happy wit it ok
DeleteWere d insults necessary?sad to tink pple can't drop deir comments witout insults!slut?really?dats quite low anonymous person!
DeleteIs it about the ring or the intention behind it?? If its me dat gave you the ring and you raise up such I will gladly take it back and give to someone else!
ReplyDeleteMay God not let him hate u and want to trade u off, like u do his ring. You greedy selfish pofo!
ReplyDeleteD@ is d saddest thing eva I fink u shld confront him nd tell him hw u feel about d ring and suggest he trades it 4 a better lukn ring.
ReplyDeleteI think you should discuss it with him and hear what he has to say. If you are going to be a couple soon i don't see any reason why you can't tell him how you feel about something. Selling it and getting another would really upset him imagine if the reverse ΨåS̤̈̊ the case i don't think you won't want to be consulted first.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, wear it like that or you'll reqlly hurt his feelings. You can always ask for a matching set with the wedding ring and never wear it again once you're married. He will be really hurt if you change this ring or buy another one because of all the effort he put into the proposal.
ReplyDeletePoint of correction after proposal he has been upgraded from boyfriend to Fiance...
ReplyDeleteIt would be very silly of you to get another one without discussing it with him, then if he doesn't agree you have to manage&stop complaining. Atleast its nt d ring you gettin married to, u would get a new ring for your wedding. Be happy joor, many babes are dying to have a guy go down on one kneel and propose even wit rubber ring self, lol. Congrats all the same.
ReplyDeleteWarri Girl.
Some girls, una hawala too much
ReplyDeletemuch more than just a wahala
Right now am confused, is it the ring you're interested in or what it means or stands for???? Chai, Naija girls, tooooooo materialistic
ReplyDeleteU guys will pick ur wedding rings together. U can always get a set. So ur engagement ring should be the least of ur worries. Unless u wanna flaunt it about and show ur random friend who don't give a ratass but r only interested in gossiping about u. In that scenario u can tell ur partner u wanna change it.
ReplyDeleteDiscuss it with him and get him involved with selling it and buying the one you want. Let him know that you hate the ring which means you are not going to be wearing it and will result in people assuming you are still available.
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Guess you don't want to get married!or are you materialistic too! Get married first ! before d wedding when both of u go to buy ur wedding band, u can now get a set of three dat is plus a new engagement ring! Wisdom my dear! Wisdom!! ƪƪ
ReplyDeleteLMAO...this woman has no problem I swear. Lady sell it and sell your love. The ring can be replaced after your wedding. Not now.
ReplyDeleteI swear this is exactly my wahala .... But I figure his emotions are more important and don't wanna hurt him
ReplyDeleteSome girls are out there begging for a guy to propose. If i'm ur guy, i wl collect it frm u n give to anoda girl.
ReplyDeleteYou are going to be wearing the ring for a long time, so i advise you speak with him and tell him how you feel in a nice way. Both of you can go looking for a ring together, you should have fun doing it.
ReplyDeleteSorry! That must suck. You have to tell him first he'll want to make you happy so he'll be happy if you suggest that to him but a guy who doesn't get the engagement ring is worrying #justsaying
ReplyDeleteJust discuss exchanging the ring with him. He shouldn't have a problem with that. But definitely don't sell it and get another one without his knowledge. Wrong move!
ReplyDeleteIf u lyk no tel am
ReplyDeleteDiscus it wif him
ReplyDeleteMy dear young lady, sorry he got u a ring u don't like (or do I say "a ring u won't b proud enough to show ur friends). U guys have passed d phase of getting an engagement ring, u should b more focused on being happy that the man of ur dreams (my humble assumption) popped the golden question and u've said yes to him (or so I think). Emmm, if u r too ashamed of showing off ur engagement ring, u can show off ur man (whom I assume is of higher value). That's d man u chose and dat's his taste, at least he said its expensive which means he got it with d best of intentions which really should b wat counts. My kind advice is sit down, relax and enjoy ur new status, don't worry his sister won't b there to choose ur wedding ring for u. U'll have ur say there (consider his pocket sha ooo!), and if u still hate ur engagement ring at dat time u can get those wedding band sets dat come with an engagement ring too.............. Just my 2cents from a guy who'd feel uncomfortable wit my girl rejecting my ring but will understand well enough to make it up to her later. I don write finish...
ReplyDeleteI love your comment
DeleteNicely written.......you can choose a wedding ring set that comes with an engagement ring later.
DeleteUngrateful much! Is there contentment in your dictionary? With attitude like yours, you are not likely to stay long in that marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear thank u oh. If u love someone how does ring matter . Gosh please women .
DeletePls don't o...tell him dat u dnt like it n dat u wnt it chnged.he wld understnd.
ReplyDeleteno pls dont sell it, just tell him u really do not like it. but d tin is enh d guy will vex oo.. cos next time we wont want to buy u anything cos he wld tink u wnt like it. so maybe u can go with him and exchange it ... u can do dat in every bride store... or u can manage it cos once u get married u wnt hav to wear it again anyways.but dont sell and dont make him feel bad about it!
ReplyDelete9jadeltapikin... Appreciate whateva Ȋ̊§ being given Τ̅☺ U̶̲̥̅̊, there Α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ people out there looking 4 ds ring afterall U̶̲̥̅̊ will not take t Τ̅☺ heaven †̥ånKz God 4 whateva has bn given Τ̅☺ U̶̲̥̅̊
ReplyDelete"No man can satisfy any woman"-Tony Montana
ReplyDelete9jadeltapikin... Appreciate whateva Ȋ̊§ being given Τ̅☺ U̶̲̥̅̊, there Α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ people out there looking 4 ds ring afterall U̶̲̥̅̊ will not take t Τ̅☺ heaven †̥ånKz God 4 whateva has bn given Τ̅☺ U̶̲̥̅̊
ReplyDeleteIs that why you married him? For a ring. Please tell him. Let him know you for the gold digger you truly are.
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pain,but pls my luv don't sale it,just let it b
ReplyDeletemchewwww ur an ingrate ...if he didn't propose now you'd start crying that he's cheating or playing with you....some girls right now won't really mind if their boyfriends propose to them with a fish as long as they just get married to the guy they love..ur here blaming ur future sister-in-law and the poor guy who thought he was getting something nice for you, you sound like some gold digger if you ask me and you really don't deserve that proposal ..amusu!!
ReplyDeleteI guess that's why you married him. For the ring. Then we wonder why marriages don't last these days.
ReplyDeleteIf u discuss it wit him u might end up been single so learn 2 love it don't like it. LOVE IT
ReplyDeleteAm beyond amazed @ ladies this days. Am a lady and I think you just might be too materialistic, for Godsakes a ring is a symbol of love n commitment and not a fashion accessory. You should be more interested in your future wiv ur man dan askin 4 an expensive ring, a ring doesn't say how long u 2 will last together its the love. Unless u don't love the man your with and want only his money then that's d only reason you will be concerned for a ring.
ReplyDeleteLol pls do change that ring.tell ur sister inlaw that the ring is a coctail ring n not an engagement ring plus be fast about the discussion before he buys the wedding ring oooo.
ReplyDeleteMtchewwwwwwwww........nonsense!!! So u don't even like his sister, all I hear is me me me me me me....selfish!!!
ReplyDeleteAre you getting married to the man or the ring? Ungrateful hoe, people barely have enough to eat in the villages,yet there are happy husbands and wives.
ReplyDeleteWho told you they are happy. Is it not in the same villages you see women with children from different men while their husband are still alive. Stop making assumptions abegi, assumption is the lowest form of intelligence.
DeleteReally? You nor wan marry abi?
ReplyDeleteYOUR MAN BETTER RETHINK HIS ENGAGEMENT TO YOU.
ReplyDelete1, HE DOESNT KNOW YOU. YOUR OBVIOUSLY MORE SHALLOW THAN HE THOUGHT
2.USUALLY THOSE THAT GIVE THEIR WIVES THE BIGGEST DIAMONDS EAT THE MOST CHOOCHA IN TOWN, AN OBSERVATION I HAVE MADE, KIND OF A COMPENSATION TO HER AND AN EXCUSE FOR HIM.
I HAVE COME TO REALISE NIGERIANS ARE STILL NOT WESTERN ENOUGH FOR THE MARRIAGE THING.
That a man didn't get a ring d woman likes is not equal to not knowing her.lots of people don't like their engagement bands.change it if u can afford it, but first discuss with him
DeleteUNGRATEFULL BITCH!!
ReplyDeletePpl r looking 4 or praying dat d one dey have will propose and u hav d ryt 2 complain abt ring! If I was d guy ill slap ur face and collect my ring back.Rubbish!
Billie Jean
Lol. I tire oh. From what she said, the guy sounds nice. I always wonder how/why nice guys end up with these kinda girls (yes girls, not women). Me I dey pray for husband here, this one dey complain for ring. There is no justice in this world. Choi!
DeleteThe ring is cheap abi? Then you deserve what you got; shows u are an ingrate imagine, are you marrying the man or the ring. You should have just discussed it with him instead of coming to this blog. because if you don't, he might just pick a wedding ring which you will hate for the rest of your life. Wise up, talk with your man.
ReplyDeleteChoi!*in linda's voice* nwata nwanyi a ekwu o aru!! Meaning dis girl has talked abomination! Am here prayn to God to make my boyfriend propose to me even if its GL and u re dia saying u don't like d one urs gave u? Dats it nah, ndi nwere ike no sabi siddon. Ask God to forgive u nnem
ReplyDeleteIf I were ur boyfriend I'll call off the wedding...this shows how ungrateful u are.
ReplyDeleteDis lady cannot last in dis marriage!!!gbam...just ring and she acts lyk dis...wat if sumtin goes bad during d wedding??wedding is supposed 2 b 4 better,4 worse!
ReplyDeleteIngratitude
ReplyDeleteU are so bloody shallow,it was about the cost of d ring not so much as d beauty for you
ReplyDeleteAnyway,Wear d ring like that&when it's time to get married,suggest that you need to buy a new engagement ring so that it matches your band perfectly...u can then suggest selling the ring to save cost......
it nt d price of d ring dat matters more, d engagement wiv d ring is as much important...
ReplyDeleteYou should appreciate what your man has done for you dear. Be content with what he prosposed to you with.
ReplyDeleteWell,I keep saying it that ladies,and please permit me to say "Nigerian ladies" are into relationships for different reasons this days! The case of our friend here is a typical one,a guy has proposed to U,and in less that a week U are condemning his symbol of love!
ReplyDeleteThis is what the guy has,probably that os all he can afford now,or maybe its even a test of her commitment or if she is even in this for the material reasons,
Really this goes to speak a lot about this lady and it shows who she really is,I will advice she takes the so called ring like that,and show appreciation,a man that bought U a cheap ass ring today maybe rich enough to buy U the most expensive jewel U can think off in future!
Selling the ring or replacing it with 1 of her choice may be the genesis of their problems,so I strongly advice her not too.
Billie jean you are so on point abeg. What an ungrateful shallow babe she is. Sheiks obviously marrying for the wrong reasons
ReplyDeleteYou didn't tell us much, is ur guy rich? U feel or know he can afford something more expensive? Be careful u don't loose this man esp if u do love him. If u blv he can afford it, find a way to communicate how u feel abt d ring w/o coming as an ungrateful girl. Just be guided.
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go window shopping with him, n when u see a ring you like, tell him how u wish u could have that ring, then sign and walk away with him, if he loves u, he will get u that ring...(just talking from experience)..
ReplyDeleteYOUR VERY STUPID HUMAN BEING
ReplyDeleteDnt discuss it wit him,a ring dosentt define marriage.btw,u cld change it wen u get ur weddin bands. Focus on d future not d ring. Some pple got married without d initial engagement ring.
ReplyDeleteThank u jare!focus on d marriage,d future...for pple like me who didn't get the initial engagement ring,I shud jump in2 d ocean or Wat.....pls focus on more important things abeg!!!!
DeleteMy dear,accept d ring,its jst a matter of time.
ReplyDeleteLinda please make a like and dislike button for comments, there are so many comments i want to like on this post. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteIt's a complicated situation because he/his sister picked it out for you! So my advice would be to keep it and grow to love it! Or pick a really amazing wedding ring to compensate. My Husband let me choose my ring but our budget was very tight at the time due to the wedding coming up, so I ended up getting something that wasn't exactly my "dream ring". After the wedding once our bank accounts recovered, He gave me permission to pick a new one :) Bottom line, if he loves you, he'll let you change it eventually! Don't rush it!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure the babe in question never got her heart seriously broken before she met her fiance. Cos any lady who has would be thanking God and rejoicing over the fact that she has found a man who loves her. Honestly, I think u are shallow. Focus on the Important thing here: ur man! With this mind set of urs, how u wan handle marriage? Please grow up.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who called me up not too long ago with the same 'headache' I tried advising her to wear it since ultimately she would drop it after the wedding but for where my babe refused o!!! And sent money to me to buy her 'dream engagement ring'. Sometimes we are often carried away by the things that should not matter. I think the pressure of having many unrealistic friends does not even make it any easier.
ReplyDeleteI didn't like my engagement ring either. In fact, I was embarrassed by it. My family was too (I grew up wearing very expensive jewelry) but I wore it for 3 years & bought a new one when we travelled out recently.
ReplyDeleteThat's me. In your case, I suggest you manage it too like I did. You are about to be married & you will find patience & tolerance are virtues you need to possess to make your marriage work. & there will be many things you have to manage. Start learning now. You mentioned his sister picked it out for him. My dear, you don't want to start this long journey by stepping on toes. Especially your in laws toes. She will find out you bought another ring, very likely a more expensive one. Oh, she'll mention it to the family who in turn will start to judge you. Be humble. After you are well settled into your marriage, you can discuss it with him then & get another one. My 2 cents.
I have a friend who called me up not too long ago with the same 'headache' I tried advising her to wear it since ultimately she would drop it after the wedding but for where my babe refused o!!! And sent money to me to buy her 'dream engagement ring'. Sometimes we are often carried away by the things that should not matter. I think the pressure of having many unrealistic friends does not even make it any easier.
ReplyDeleteIs dis babe 4 realllllll??? Chaiiii, babes like dis makes guys conclude dat babes have fish brains. Let M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ ask, will †ђξ beauty or cost of †ђξ engagement ring determine if ur marriage will ßξ a bed of roses? Babe, u̶̲̥̅̊ α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ just immature, pls grow up, accept the engagement ring, there's nothing here to discuss wt ur Boo. P.S. u̶̲̥̅̊ ain't gonna wear †ђξ ring 4ever!!!
ReplyDeleteOlodo...its just an engagement ring....keep it but tell him the type u want so he can buy it 4 u
ReplyDeletehehe is it just me or some people are very rationale! she doesn't like d ring people !!! seriouslyyy"!! na wa o for nigerians o !! y wld u wanna wear something u absolutely dislike jezzz.. dis is nt abt been contented or greed!! she doesnt like it people ... and stop insulting the poor girl , my dear discuss it with him and dont let some people make u feel like a looser. i would never wear wat i dnt like its simple as dat!! pls people lets start appreciating ourselves! and go 4 tins we love not managing wat wld make us feel bitter..linda pls post dis comment i beg u in Gods name... we need to start doing tins that wld make us happy and nt tins to please other people. if d man truly loves and care about her he would respect her opinion about wat actually makes her happy. in dis case d ugly ring..hmmmn
ReplyDeletechie some women sha na wa some pple havent cn bf not to talk of someone to engaged them u r complainin. it just shows that u r more interested in showing off instead of bn grateful oya throwey the ring na yeye
ReplyDeletei smh for ya kukuma throwey the ring na omo jati jati
ReplyDeletelinda post my message o
ReplyDeleteShut up all of u she has a right to hate her ring my dear u re nt materialistic oh if these mumu pple re satisfied with wearing nonsense ring dats their bizness,if u hate ur ring u re d one wearing it discuss it with him and change d fucking ring to ur taste not all guys knw hw to shop for girls
ReplyDeleteChai laffing my ass off 4 dis idiot gal.imagine her sayin her sister inlaw has no taste,my dear plz get an xpensive daimond ring nd end ur marraige in less dan 3months like kim kardashian,WTF ur jst an idiot cnt stop laffin,itx obvious s gals like u dt push a man 2 stealing jst 2 satisfy ur ass SMH.....poor dude,la thunder scatter ur mouth wiv fire
ReplyDeleteSo the common theme in these comments is that "she should be grateful that the guy proposed and therefore accept whatever he gives her". Therein lies a problem in Nigerian society - a woman's intimate goal in life is to get married at all cost and therefore accept whatever she's given and whoever proposes to her. Until we know our worth and learn to value ourselves men will continue to believe that they hold all the power.
ReplyDeleteMaterialism aside what's wrong with this lady communicating with her fiancé that she would prefer a different ring, provided it's done sensitively? After all marriage is about communication and both parties should want to make eachother happy. I don't think the guy's ego and feelings should be so delicate that he would be hurt by her suggesting they go shopping together for something they both like. After all she'll be wearing the ring for the rest of her life.
Now I can understand y pple say "speaking gud eng is not equivalent to being intelligent". So in ur small mind now, you're making sense?
DeleteIt's doesn't take a genius to know that this bitch doesn't like the ring, not bcos its ugly, but bcos it doesn't look EXPENSIVE.
You dey form intercessor... What if u were the dudes sis? What if the guy cannot afford the kinda ring this ashawo has set her mind on? Should the ring be a determinant in their marriage success? Can't you sense how she's already making enemies among his family for prolly no good reason? Awon oni iranu nla!
I pray the dude gets to read this, or his sister one way or the other. Ashawo! Ur pussy worth diamond ring na im u never fit land ur self correct maga. Nansense!
Anon 4.21 pm: Cheap things can look expensive and expensive things can look cheap. She doesn't want a cheap looking ring full stop. The guy could easily tell his sis that he decided to select another ring for her for whatever reason. He doesn't have to mention that she hated the ring. After all he's not a child and should be tactful. Although the ring is not a determinant of marriage success it is about personal taste.
DeleteSo anon òpònú òdè please infuse some sense into your vacuous head.
It is amazing that some people think that you should be happy you even got a ring. Please women if you know what you are worth, a good man would find you and appreciate you when and he feels the time is right, he would propose to you and give you a ring because he loves you and cannot live without you not because he wants to DO YOU A FAVOUR (trust me, I know because I have been happily married for 15 years). And if you do not like the ring, find a nice way to tell him. If he is your friend and he truly loves you, he would understand and you can both pick another ring. DO NOT start your marriage in pretence. If you do not like the ring, you do not like it PERIOD. Women should learn to love themselves and see their men as their friends, partners and lovers. A marriage proposal is not a favour it is a mutual agreement and both parties must be excited about it. I sincerely hope that you have an issue with the style of the ring and not its price beacuse if its the latter, then you ll be missing the point.
ReplyDeleteJust wear it and learn to love it. My sister ring was like 100 dollars for d set, it was really ugly but what was most important was the symbol and not d value ....one their 5th wedding anniversay, her husband saved up and together they went an brought a breathtaking set . This was after 5years.... Even now, she is still attached to d ugly ring and alternates wearing both
ReplyDeletedia is noffing way person no go hear 4 dis con3
ReplyDeleteOw shallow. It is the love that matters so don't break his heart. Diamonds are not a girl's best friend.....true love is.
ReplyDeleteBe contended
ReplyDeleteY d insults on d poor gurl? She doznt lyk d ring, must y'll insult her lyf cuz d ring isn't nice 2 her? & d person saying rubber ring n bla blah! Let ur bf gv U̶̲̥̅̊ rubber ring n mk sure U̶̲̥̅̊ accept. Ey1 2 his or her tastes abeg! Den doz saying U̶̲̥̅̊ 'll tk d ring bk if she complains, do dt 2 ur wife, k? Let her not ve a say in ur marriage. 4 crying out loud, if I don't lyk wot my bf is wearing, I tel him & he asks y n he usually undastands my reasons. D guy shudnt ve asked his sis 2 k d ring if d girl isn't close 2 his sista enuf 4 her 2 knw her taste...shikena! My dear writer, pls jez talk 2 ur fiance n tel him U̶̲̥̅̊ not rily diggn d ring dt U̶̲̥̅̊ won't mind smfn cheaper buh more beautiful. Or as sm1 rightly said, go windowshoppn or chill till wen U̶̲̥̅̊ gettn ur weddn rings, pk 1 wiv engagement ring den beg him 2 buy dt. Who says U̶̲̥̅̊ can't ve more dan 1 engagement ring sef?? #okbye#
ReplyDeletejust know that after today, there won't be any proposal for u because he'll find out about this one way or the other and the whole family will turn against u.. enjoy being single for life!! (everyone wants a million dollar ring, influence of dumb celebrities like kim kardashian... smh)
ReplyDeleteSmhhhhh better fool. Na de ring u wan marry abi na de guy? How some of my fellow girls can be so stupid & greedy... Next plzzzz
ReplyDeleteSeriusly???? I think you should be more than grateful. This guy has gone a step ahead and made you a life time offer. Some girl don't get this kind of offer from 5yrs boyfriend. Its an engagement and not a wedding ring. Wear with with pride and soon ull be wearing your wedding ring that you can choose ur self. Be grateful dear !
ReplyDeleteU must be after dat guy's wealth, u dnt really luv him cuz if u do. U won't complain even after he told u its expensive despat say na de sista buy am. Anyways give M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ back de ring & watch anod correct babe take am. Notin personal my gal but u're damn selfish #causemeback
ReplyDeleteThis one lucky..she even collect ring!!
ReplyDeleteode..u can't fuck the ring can u??
ReplyDeleteMy dear u're suffering from too much E! Channel addiction, I guess u prefer d ring Kris gave Kim. Be contented with what u have,before u get 48hrs married life.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
ReplyDeleteWell unless ur family is worth millions in dollars or pounds then u should totally complain cuz that's ur level but if ur from an average family u better shut it and wear ur ring.. Naija girls smh
ReplyDeleteALL OF YOU CONDEMNING HER SHATTAP YOUR MOUTHS!!!! HIS SISTER PICKED IT AFTERALL...SO IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE THE RING WHAT SHOULD SHE DO... SHE'LL HAVE TO BE LOOKING AT IT EVERYDAY....
ReplyDeleteA RING SHOULD ALSO BE SOMETHING TO BE PROUD O NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD HAVE TO MANAGE.....I SUGGEST YOU TALK TO YOUR MAN, AND GET WHAT YOU PREFER TOGETHER WHICH IS AROUND THE SAME VALUE...COS CHANGING IT FOR A MORE EXPENSIVE ONE MIGHT LOOK MATERIALISTIC.............OPTION 2, IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO HURT HIS FEELINGS, WAIT TILL YOU GET MARRIED AND THEN YOU CAN WEAR YOUR WEDDING RING WITHOUT IT.
If dem check now, u r ova 40 and single. Biko si eba puo! Anumanu isi nkita.
DeleteHmmm...i recently proposed to my girlfriend of 3yrs with a 'pretend' engagement ring because the real one is being custom-made and my sister suggested i use the fake one in the interim to test the quality of our love.I hope and pray you didn't send this letter to Linda
ReplyDeleteFamzer spotted :-) bros pack inside gutter abeg.
DeleteY shud U̶̲̥̅̊ b testn d quality of ur love afta 3yrs mr confused groom 2 b. Luks lyk U̶̲̥̅̊ rily confused. Wetin concern ur sista wiv ur relatnship sef....oh! I get it now, U̶̲̥̅̊ donly boy in d midst of 2 or more gurls, shey? U̶̲̥̅̊ men want a strong woman dt can talk 2 U̶̲̥̅̊ no mata wot, accept ur fiancee 4 who she is. If shez d writer...she doznt lyk d ring, shikena. Y enforce smfn on her cuz ur sista doznt trust her? U̶̲̥̅̊ are entern in2 marriage wiv ur wife not wiv ur sista, k? & if she wuz soooo shallow, donu fink she wuda gvn U̶̲̥̅̊ d ring bk immediately instead of debating d issue, obviously she loves U̶̲̥̅̊ enuf not 2 hurt ur feelns. So pls gv her d real ring n stop playing games. Trust n communication shud b d basis of ur relatnship, not fake ring #rollingeyes#.....oh! & I'm a psychologist so U̶̲̥̅̊ gettn gud advice.... Linda dear pls post dis reply.
DeleteYeh!!!I really pray she wasn't the one if not,that wld b sooo sad!!
DeleteChilddd!!..there's a recession..besides this is the type of woman that would rather spend all the savings on having a lavish wedding and still end up in a rented apartment!!..and what follows..nagging..divorce!!
ReplyDeleteMy sister u shld be happy u got a ring. I dated my ex for 4yrs hoping to get even copper, I didn't see anything. Been with my present bf for 3yrs plus and honestly even if I see rubber band on my finger I'll be grateful. Pls o! HALF BREAD IS BETTER THAN CARBIN BUSCUIT... Maybe its just a test to c if ur materalistic.. Don't fall for it!
ReplyDelete@Anon who said she's just dumb and materialistic, you're either an insensitive man or a very very stupid woman. How will a woman get a rubbish ring. The girl knows she loves the guy and she knows the guy loves her, how do you want her to show the world the guy really loves her? With a tacky ring?? If I were her, I'd already have been showing him the kind of rings I wanted.
ReplyDeleteIn any case, I don't suggest you (the writer) sell the ring and buy another behind his back. What kind of marriage do you want to have? Just tell him you don't like it and be tactical. You should be able to discuss this if you're comfortable enough to marry him anyway
ALl of u are just typing nonsense. Like getting proposed to is the greatest gift a woman can ever get. Marriage is a decision 2 pple make and not the guy saving the girl from disgrace. Ah ah, which 1 is 'u shld be grateful' did he donate his kidney to her? As for the ring, if she doesn't like it then she doesn't like it. If she pretends that she does then the marriage is already built on pretence and she'll continue to accept everything she doesn't like. Marriage is about being open and honest and telling each other ur hearts, not pretending, haba. Nigerians sef
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment!
DeleteAll dis people insulting her, i jst dont get u guys. She doesnt like the ring, she doesnt like it. I think the guy should even know her taste by now if they have been dating for 3yrs. So i think she should tell him in a very sensible way dat she doesnt like it and wants 2 change it.
ReplyDeleteI would definitely not want 2 wear a ring i dont like about. Not that i'm materialistic but i jst wont feel comfortable. So if if u dnt feel comfortable with it. Tell him sweetie.
ReplyDeleteSee as them dey push this girl button from village...change the ring na...na another boyfriend you go soon dey find...shallow!
ReplyDelete@anon..therein lies the problem..she doesn't need to show anyone jack!!..
ReplyDelete@anon..feminist rant on her taking whatever a man gives her...
Well equally buying her a expensive ring...shows he bought her!!..and u know the conseqences of that burden!!
u must be a greedy soul,,i wish i know ur bf,,,my gf has being going to many church for prayers,hoping for me to give her any kind of ring,is better u leave that guy now,not tomorrow after marriage,u will come back here to lindaikeji,and give another fucking storry
ReplyDeletePlease tell him you prefer another ring Abeg! You are the one going to wear the ring, voice your opinion. If you cannot say your mind now, how will you do so in the marriage? If he really loves you he will want you to be happy and this will not be an issue. Good luck and congratulations!
ReplyDeleteNA RING OR PERSON U WAN MARRY????? GIRLS OF NOW A DAYS.....
ReplyDeleteDon't mind 'em cheap ass guys. My ex boyfriend tried engaging me with a #30 naira ring. I rebuked him and d rubbish. Lizbeth
ReplyDeleteDon't mind 'em cheap ass guys. My ex boyfriend tried engaging me with a #30 naira ring. I rebuked him and d rubbish. Lizbeth
ReplyDeleteLike criously,she doesn't like d ring.period!!!stop insulting d gal,stupid comments from senseless peeps..so cos he proposed she shd b grateful.plzzzzzzzzzzz.@ anonymous 3.33.I feel u al d way
ReplyDeleteNa wah.Na real wah!For a while i thot there was something wrong with the whooole world ooh,then I started to see people who thought like me.
ReplyDeleteSome men,my hubby included are not the most 'stylish'people out there.Do I love him any less for it?No,because beyond all that,is a kind,generous gentle man who will go to the ends of the earth for me.
When he proposed,it was magical...the mood,the settings everything was on point!There was one thing...I did not like the ring.I absolutely didn't.It had nothing to do with greed or materialism(we both come from comfortable homes sooo),I just didn't like it.And considering we were going to have a long engagement,I knew i'd have to wear it for a long time.
I talked to him in the nicest,calmest,puppy dog eyed way about it,we laughed and he said"that's why I'm marrying you ooh,our children get to at least have a stylish gene".We went shopping a few weeks later and picked out a ring that I was comfortable with.End of story!
If you're getting married to a friend,who gets you....things like these are the small stuff,don't sweat it.Talk to him o jare,and be happy with your ring.
#happilymarriedsince03!
What really does the price of the ring has to do with the purpose for which it is meant? Girls take little things and very unnecessary things too serious! Its simply PRIDE
ReplyDeletecomplete rubbish, y would you wanna sell the ring?
ReplyDeleteC'mon y'all, why judge the poor girl like so? I think she has a point. Choosing an engagement ring should be something for both parties to share. After all, she is the one who will be wearing it all her life! Imagine your boyf surprising you with a wedding ring. That wouldn't be a surprise at all, it would be a shock, becos he didn't even think you had a right to be part of the choice. Hun, I think you should tell him about it. I'm sure this isn't about how much it cost, its abour your taste. If he gets angry, then maybe he doesn't value your opoinion as much as he should. I think I'll end here.
ReplyDeleteI see comments on here and I'm like chill losers! I don't get the big deal in her saying she doesn't like the ring. She has to look at it for the rest of her life not you miserable people. It is NOT in the least materialistic, it's a clear sense of preference. I suggest you talk to him, having his sister pick the ring is just....
ReplyDeleteyou prolly shuda told him earlier the diamond cut yu want and shii...dont come out offensive tho, but do ya thang..:)
ReplyDeleteOlojukokoro, jegudu jera is a good term to describe you. is it the ring you are in love with or the guy. Na your type dey cheat in marriage. you better tell him you cant marry him before you leave am follow richman after 'three years' of managing your marriage. sheeaaawwww
ReplyDeleteLmAO!!! I Love this Blog Site Shaa .... Babe ! Just relax and park well as a sure girl ooh ... Wedding ring should be berra !!! They don dey push yur button make u discuss wit him... Just Know , No Matter How Soft Yur Homeboy is ...once you discuss mkpakam with him!! YOU WILL CREATE AN IMPRESSION , you can't clean ooh ... Hian!! @morlardybaba
ReplyDeleteu r an idiot....u even see ring u dey complain.....women sef.
ReplyDeleteI won't be comfortable wearing a ring I don't like and am not materialistic o! So u guys should let her be, she no like am, she no like am. if it's me n ma guy, we will talk it over n he won't feel bad buh I don't know abt dis guy now. Make she shaa choose her wedding ring o, Hian b4 u will end up with a ring u hate.
ReplyDeleteits unwise i stick to that step of em selling. that in your perception it looks cheap doesnt make it one. i'll advice,keep it,learn to love it,cherish it.... just for him.
ReplyDeleteBut why d guy go use hm sis get engagement ring
ReplyDeleteI would advice talking to him about it,there's absolutely nothing wrong with not liking the ring, the best thing is to be open and honest with him. Afterall he didn't personally pick out the ring so it might not even be that big of a deal, going behind his back and getting a new one will definitely cause problems.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmnn.. Well i have been in ur shoes before and my dear all it takes is WISDOM. I love my fiance to death but he proposed with a ring that i dint like. I probably wouldnt hv felt as bad as i felt about the ring, bt i saw the receipt he bought the ring with believe me it ws heartbreaking to find out that he bought me a £10 ring because he definately could have done better. But my dear, even though i saw the ring and receipt before he proposed i said a big YES and flaunted my ring everywhere. Nobody knew it ws a cheap ring because of how i portrayed it. So i got the first step right! To make it known to the world that i was taken, the second step i needed to take was to be happy about my ring. What i did ws i called my fiance and came out clean to him, i told him how much i was happy to be engaged to him but that i really dint like my ring. Knowing fully well that my fiance has great taste, i asked him in a subtle way, why he bought me such a cheap ring. Then he told me he was misled by the attendant at the store where he bought the ring. Seeing that i was wearing the ring even though i dint really like it made my fiance extremely happy. I wore the ring for 5months and he took me out one day to warren James and asked me to pick any ring i loved. Believe me i ws really happy and that was how i changed my engagement ring. Pls dear, do not sell that ring talk to ur man in a subtle way. I had friends who made jest of my ring and even told me the price, it hurt me but i couldnt be bothered. So pls pls and pls be wise concerning this issue.
ReplyDeletejust tell him...that this very important insignia of ur love should not be picked out by a third party....that with wearing it u'll feel like u are engaged to his sister and not him......
ReplyDeletePS: ...have the pwetty please look.. ..it works..**wink wink**best of luck though.
Abeg am single mk da guy collect da ring come meet me,I no mind dose aboki ring my brother,as long as we r heading to da altar...were dat gal u go dey form now as if u don't like da ring if dat guy changes his mind n collect da so called ugly ring.u go cry blood.better luv da ring.
ReplyDeleteIt is not the beauty of the wring that matters but the spirit behind it
ReplyDeleteAccept what he gives to you with love.
I wish you happy marriage in advance
U r even lucky u got a ring. A lot of gals are still looking for someone to put a ring on their fingers u r there complaining. Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Beta leave the ring.
ReplyDeletena wa ohh hummm there are some women who don't even have anyone to take them out not to talk of engage them and this yeye woman dey hear dey complain say she no like the ring chei asin women dey craze. if you love yourself ehhh just accept what he has given you and be proud of it what nonsense
ReplyDeleteREALLY?????!!! So she's materialistic/ungrateful etc because she doesn't like her ring?? WOW!! Deep!! People stay jumping into conclusions without knowing the full story.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, the guy shouldn't have gotten his sister to choose the ring, people have different tastes, he should have done it himself to at least show that he cares. He should know his gf's taste better than his sister so why should he let her choose???
Please, talk to him about it..show that you appreciate it but be gentle in the manner you tell him you don't like. Don't be scared to be called materialistic because you don't like your ring, why would you want to walk around with a ring you don't like at all, all your life...No sense in that please.
Ladies need to relax abeg, because you sha want to marry tipa tipa you'll settle for the ring, then one day when you people argue you'll end up saying "thats how you got me this rubbish ring" and you know thats how some women talk.
As people have said sha the ring isnt the most important thing, but a marriage that is built on the solid foundation that is Christ.
Yarr, bye.
the engagement ring is wrong? u dont like ur ring? i've honestly never heard of such an INSIGNIFICANT COMPLAIN, if u dont like the ring, then give it to someone who would appreciate it and drop the marriage, some pple are looking to wear any ring at all, u got one and u dont like it?? you need to make a list of sensible priorities of things that actually matter in your life!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteLili , where is my comment ? I bia kwala ozo ooh b
ReplyDeletehe has proposed now u are complaining that the ring is cheap. girls sef! o serious gon!
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo .... talk to the guy na .... U wan start to dey make enemies with ur in-laws .. U guys can engage n disengage soon if u go abt it wrongly
ReplyDeleteThank him and flaunt it but talk tot him later
You b PANT!!!Anu ofia! Go and sell it na,Ewu! That means u'd be xchanging every single thing he gives u!!Materialistic U!..As 4 me,I luv my engagement ring,b it cheap or xpensive..As a matter of fact,I luv d man dt gave me d ring&in oda words luv d ring..d ring signifies him!!Beta grow up&wear dt cheap ring!
ReplyDeleteBad wife in the making
ReplyDeleteVanity! Retun the ring to him and turn down the proposal, eediot.
ReplyDeletemy hubby gav me a gold engagement ring which wasn't too nice but dat is all he could afford and i was too happy that the man of my dreams had proposed fast fwd few years later when things picked up for him financially he surprised me with a huge rock as replacement ...please be a bit patient my dear.......w/out patience the marriage may be very brief....goodluck
ReplyDeleteDiscuss it with him...
ReplyDeletei understand u, i don't like simple rings no matter how expensive it is. explain to me. any man i think might be serious wit me, i will start showing him rings that i like indirectly so that he won't make mistake.
So many ladies are praying for a ring ,even if it is made of brass or aluminium, u got a man who gave u a ring and u re complianing. Honestly, I think u re an ingrate, even if u don't like it dars what he could afford and that's what he picked. Start appreciating d little he does now.
ReplyDeleteD proposal ring is only to be worn for a wile am sure a better one wld come wen u guys finalise. Please learn to appreciate nice gestures. Be wise pls.
Rubbish..how can you both choose a ring..when the whole proposal/engagement process is meant to be a suprise???
ReplyDeleteThis man deserves better than you....
ReplyDeletesomething is really really wrong with u upstairs,i am sure u jus making dis up cos if someone really proposed to u, u will shut dat ur mouth and wear anything he gives u. even if na rubber band. mumu!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIs it possible for LIB bloggers to give their comments and advice without insulting or being nasty? i think it is possible. I also think anyone asking for advice or opinions of others means the other person is not perfect and want to improve themselves. I dont know if the insults are necessary. The fact that she doesnt like the ring doesnt necessarily mean she is materialistic, or a bad person. People, lets be human when we write our comments. It is said one mans meat is anothers poison. Now meat in itself is not bad. Linda pls post this. Your bloggers need to be nice.
ReplyDeleteI'm with u on this......
DeleteOk, lemme say, if he's actuly somone wit "change", he shud get u somfn really special. Bt stil, its price doznt matter. I knw personally of somone hu proposed to bis wife wit a "really" cheap ring cos it's wot he cud afford. Now, their marriage is an envy to me n many others.
ReplyDeleteHe was presented wit a car as birthday gift n he handed d keys to his wife!
A man can treasure u even if he proposes wit a cheap ring.
@Anon 10:04 pm, THANK YOU!!! If a research is carried out, you'll see that many of the pple asking her to return d ring are retired hoes or awon arugbo that have missed out on the real men for them, just cos they were being greedy or wanting the man to do more than his powa.
ReplyDeleteMany of them are trying to relive their lost moments through this girls mata. Madam ring hater, I'm not sure u know the meaning of the word HATE, cos its a really strong word for describing sth that was given to you in love. Better open your eyes and be wise so this will not be a matter of had I known.
This is why most relationships crumble.. Lack of effective communication..
ReplyDeleteWhen you cannot find a way to tell your fiance what is on your mind, and you feel more comfortable coming to LIB, it means you and him still have a lot to work on.
Pray for wisdom and utterance, sit him down and explain how you feel, to make it better, let it be the one you would buy with the wedding bands. By the way you would still need the cheaper ring, when you need to go to some not-so-secure places, like the market
Dear Miss Proposee,
ReplyDeletena tree when near tree naim make monkey de smart. shebi he has proposed naw, the ring don turn issue. u nor realy know where de pain u.
YOU ARE NOT IN THE MARRIAGE ALREADY AND HIS SISTER HAS NO TASTE, WAR BOILING.
ReplyDeleteungrateful bitch ur papa fit buy u dis kai ring an luk at wat u re saying bout his sis hw do u nw want him to marry u wen u re saying nasty tins bout his family many pple re out dere looking for who to engage dem even if its wiv rubber ring go an sleep joo ungrateful gold digger idiot i pray he dos nt marry u again
ReplyDeleteAMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God help both of you (couple to be) to prioritize and keep ur focus on the most important things always.
ReplyDeletePersonally, when I proposed to my girlfriend after 4yrs of dating, I didn't even have a ring to propose with! It was kinda spur of d moment, wanted 2 surprise her (even though she was @ least 90% certain we'd be married soon @ d time) etc etc... and not cos I was a cheapskate.
2day, to the glory of God, we r happily married, and apart from having a decent wedding celebration (ova a thousand guests well taken care of etc etc), she picked our wedding bands & her engagement ring (her choice & I paid) - not cheap by any standards; and I don't owe any gbese anywhere. God has been and still is very faithful.
Rings are symbols, some people dont even wear any and their marriages are so beautiful.
Focus on the importants - marry your friend, build a beautiful life together. God help you.
DESPIRADO'S OOOOOOOOO
ReplyDeleteLET THE GIRL BE!! SHE DOESN'T LIKE IT!!
LOW SELF ESTEEM DEY WORRY SOME OF UNA PEOPLE HERE...HAVE SOME PRIDE! DONT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP WITH PRETENSE.
TALK WITH YOUR MAN ABEG!! CONGRATS AND GOOD LUCK.
Girl go for what you want and deserve don't seat there and chill in anger,if he can't afford the ring then he can't afford the married life you will wanna live it's either you are in or out now
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ReplyDelete#reservemycomment#
Really??!?! My engagement ring was crap but I still love it, it's d tot behind the ring darl, woman up.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your engagement! I came across this post a while back - http://bridalmusings.com/2011/04/the-engagement-ring-saga-when-you-dont-like-the-ring/ see if it helps. All the best.
ReplyDeleteMaybe d sista nO dey naija na and he tot will b berra to get his gal a ring frm outside d country, can't fault him der, cut ur guy some slack😜
ReplyDeleteOh Chim o!u see ring u still reject.
ReplyDeleteWhen will naija babes stop being materialistic? It sucks. You'd had rather remain single than claiming to love the guy. **Ole buruku** - prostitute like you. Mtcheew so disgusting
ReplyDeletebabe u r nt contented wit wat u ave at all.even if its an iron ring u shuld learn hw to appreciate things no matter hw little.he is not married to you yet but you are already beefing the sister.babeeeeeee watch it...
ReplyDeleteYoung lady, with all due respect to U, I think Ure just been vain. Its an engagement ring, not ur wedding ring, Ull stop wearing it after u get married. U shdnt have brought it up at all. Its women like U who make men call us materialistic. Pls beg Linda to take this post off and hope his sister or friend hasnt seen it. Wisdom my sister, wisdom.
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