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Wednesday, 18 July 2012

Question of the day: TMI on a first date

Someone said to ask LIB readers
How much personal information should you be giving on a first date?
Please share you thoughts

54 comments:

  1. i hav a big problem with being too trustin...loool...plus i hav nothing to hide so wahreffa!.....i like being honest with who eva i meet..plus id hav known alot bout the person from google-in him..loool..yh im twisted like that hehehe

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    1. I was thinking the same. Only disclose your name and dob anything else tell dat nigga to axe google

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  2. very little, like ur ful name, the school u went to, if u are single or dating, no "i broke up bcos of this or dat", u certainly owe that person no explanation of any type. first dat is just to have fun in a very caual way cos u might not see the person again or it might not work out if the person knw ur bad side with out experiencing the good part.

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  3. Enough to make the other party interested OR uninterested in you.

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  4. I think a little ? Should be asked

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  5. anything that would not be found in your personnel/admin file in the office should not be shared on the first date. But there can be some exceptions if you both have been communication for a long while before the date, and your chemistry on meeting too.

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    1. chai, my dear u go skul wella oh, if both of you have been communication before, oh my God, wetin my earx no go hear for hear..
      Engrish na by force????

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    2. Hmmmm! See kettle calling pot black,u too check wat u'v written....earx instead of ears,hear 4 hear instead of hear 4 here,engrish instead of english...o ma se ooo

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    3. idiot! That ain't a mistake or whatever, he just wrote it to correct that other persons dumb mistake, who doesn't know how to write english? Mumu! Or hear in place of here, go suck his/her ass, pssss!

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  6. Linda what are you trying to do? Blind us? Go back to the red curtain background. This is no time for changing the things that work. Look, I can't even read the name of the blog sef. That should tell you.

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  7. personally it depend on individuals going on a date with the person but for me i love been real and knowing your genotype and blood group........cos am blessed type(AC)

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  8. NONE O! Especially from a girl to a guy. The never get past ur past besides its useless information to both parties.

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  9. not much


    depends..


    my birthday...what gifts i like...lol

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  10. Enough to accord respect and not give up bad signals.

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  11. Reveal little but get more

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  12. whenhe would buy my bla berry and brazile hair

    on a serious note just your name and number not even address sef

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    1. Bia, are u sure u know the meaning of "first date" ? Name and number ke? And I guess u get to be on that date by magic abi?

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  13. Just basic stuffs yu can tell peeps randomly..if he gets interesting yu can actually share an experience of ur friend (ofcourse its ur own experience)to him just to see his reaction....TRUST ME NEVA RELEASE DEEP DETAILS OF U..chances are there mite not b a 2nd date...also guys love unpredictable women...it intrigues dem..so talk less n listen more...

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  14. the way you met or spoke with him/her in the past will determine what discuss. otherwise, a litle bit of your present and intro will do. your date might wanna lure & actuate you, you gotta be chary with your response. bit-bit will do. wanna/love to hear your view linda mi!

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  15. First date should be as light as possible after all both parties are still checking each other out and there are no guarantees for the future yet.....

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    1. Couldn't agree more. Keep it simple and casual..

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  16. the way you met or spoke with him/her will before will determine what to discuss. otherwise, a bit of your present and intro will do. you date might wanna lure or actuate you, you gotta be chary with your response. bit-bit is enough. wanna-love to hear your view linda mi.

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  17. Common sense should tell you that. t all depends on you. No exact amount.

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  18. the way you met or spoke with him/her will before will determine what to discuss. otherwise, a bit of your present and intro will do. you date might wanna lure or actuate you, you gotta be chary with your response. bit-bit is enough. wanna-love to hear your view linda mi.

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  19. #jst dey talk my own#18 July 2012 at 12:51

    No matter how little, jst the truth! A guy shouldn't tell a girl abt his achievements on a first date I.e I have 4 hses, 2 car, bla bla bla

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  20. Enough to make d person come back for more lolz

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  21. As much as u can! It will not hurt!

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  22. its all about the individuals involved. But common sense should tell u what and what not to say. And if u lack common sense then....u deserve whatever u get after that.

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  23. Hmmmm...very very little or noti sef(runs under my bed).little shaa..inshort,I talk less,as I'd rada observe...

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  24. I think you should keep a first date sweet and simple.

    http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2012/07/lifes-choice-end.html

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  25. Your favorite sex position,though it depends

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  26. And wts TMI????...help pls LIBers...

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  27. My name, account no, emails, phone nos,facebook, bb pin, house address and many more thanks. All these I will do on the first date if she will agree to go home with me shaa.

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  28. NUBIAN QUEEN™18 July 2012 at 16:00

    i am usually economical with the truth on the first date heck i may not want a second date...but just share enough to hold his/her interest and withold enough to make him/her interested in finding out more on future dates mystery is the key

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  29. The following is considered TMI for a first date:

    Under NO circumstance are you to disclose that you "fell for" him or her at first sight - this is a red flag that says "POTENTIAL STALKER".

    Why you and your ex broke up! This road leads to no where but a step fall off the cliff of dating never land!

    If you have a drug/drinking problem? Save it for rehab meetings.

    Nobody wants to know about your family dysfunctions...your father likes to sleep with the maid? Keep that on the low? Your mother makes out with your step brother, keep that to yourself?

    How many people you have let see your Victoria's secret or Hanes His Way, keep that in your diary.

    Keep your single life escapades to yourself. If you and your girls like to touch each other once in a while, save it! If you and your boys take home the stripper after a night on the town, save it!

    Save your personal past/present dramas for your therapist! Your father used to beat you? Your mommy didn't hug you enough? Your boss doesn't like you? Your siblings took your toys? Please, see the therapist or your priest.

    How much you make for a living! Unless you are planning on putting your date on your pay role, shut up!

    If you have an arrest record! Please, let the police and the judge who sentence you be the only persons privy to this information.

    If you have ever had or currently do have a sexually transmitted disease! Let's leave this strictly between you, the doctor and pharmacist.

    THE ONLY INFORMATION YOU SHOULD SHARE ON A DATE:


    Name
    Occupation
    Nationality
    Interests

    Think of it as a job application as well as a job interview. You will NEVER go to a job interview and tell your interview embarassing stories about your life or why you left your previous job, abi?

    And please mind how much you drink on a first date because na so drink go open your mout before you know it, you are talking bongkoms!

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    1. Well said sister, with seriousness and humour to it. I v not stopped laffing even as I de type.

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    2. Couldn't had written better

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    3. Loooooooooooooooooooool

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    4. Thumbs up lady...well said

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  30. Ask Google what TMI means. Stop being lazy!

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  31. Your past sexual sexual encounters, plans about marriage and children are no nos.Those can wait till later

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  32. Well depends on what both parties intentions are, then I believe all info can be given on a 1st date, but hey its just a 1st, so doesn't mean if it will continue or not.

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  33. B plane n tactic

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  34. Depends on the chemistry jare. If U guys dont have similar values / systems, it will be as little info as possible and conversely.

    Some first dates do feel as if you've known the person forever.

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  35. Sketchy cos you never can tell. A first date does not mean a going relationship and it should just be on the surface.

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  36. I think its ok you open up on the frist date so as to know if he is a good listener.

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  37. I think one should be honest and open but there are certain things you don't divulge until there is a greater level of commitment and trust. May God give us the wisdom to discern appropriately. AMEN.

    Blueprint for a successful courtship- http://princessofzion.wordpress.com/2012/07/14/courtshipwhat-is-it-how-do-i-do-it-right/

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  38. I think only supply as much info as they give back to u...my take on things are that if someone is trying to get to know u yet doesnt ask enough questions then they simply are not that into you!!

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  39. Chichi luv o hahahahaha. Well said abeg

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  40. Tip: A first date should be up beat and full of positive talk. So, save your baggage for later on when you have built foundation and then unload.

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  41. Chichi luv has said it all.
    Disclose little or nothing

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