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Tuesday, 24 January 2012

Girl imprisoned for 9 years in dark rooms by her father, beaten, barely fed and only let out at night

 Baraa Melhem
A young Palestinian woman who was imprisoned for 10 years in a series of dark rooms by her father revealed today she survived the ordeal by listening to the radio, dreaming of seeing sunshine again and finding small pleasure in an apple she was fed each day.

Baraa Melhem, 20, said she was enjoying her first taste of freedom after a decade of isolation and threats of rape and abuse, and she hopes to use her experience to help others.


'I have joy now. My life has begun,' the young woman, dressed in red sweat pants, white shoes, a black shawl for warmth and a headscarf, said.
Miss Melhem was rescued by Palestinian security forces in the West Bank town of Qalqiliya on Saturday after an aunt notified police. Adnan Damiri, a Palestinian police spokesman, said she was in 'deplorable' condition.
Her father and stepmother, both Arab citizens of Israel, were turned over to Israeli authorities. Locked up in Israel, neither could be reached for comment. The father, Hassan Melhem, 49, is expected to appear in an Israeli court on Wednesday, said police spokesman Micky Rosenfeld. The stepmother's name wasn't available.

Speaking softly but confidently, Miss Melhem said she was beaten, barely fed and let out only in the middle of the night to do housework. She was given only a blanket, radio and a razor blade by her father and stepmother, and both of them encouraged her to kill herself.

'I don't hate my father. But I hate what he did to me. Why did he do it? I don't understand,' she said.
Miss Melhem said she was first locked up in a bathroom after she ran away from home when she was 10. Police brought her home, and her father forced her to sign a statement saying she didn't want to go back to school. Miss Melhem's parents divorced when she was four years old, and her father received custody.

Miss Melhem is now living with her mother, Maysoun, in an Arab neighborhood of Jerusalem.
Miss Melhem she said she was finally happy in her new home - a shabby, purple-painted room with pink curtains, four mattresses on the ground and a red blanket. She clutched a large doll that her mother gave her as a gift.
'This is heaven. Because you have always been free, you don't appreciate it. But for somebody like me, who has tasted the bitterness of a prison, this is heaven.'
Mrs Melhem, who has remarried, refused to give her last name or age. She said she was so eager to divorce her first husband that when he insisted on keeping their daughter, she agreed. She took their son because the father used to spray perfume into his eyes. She said he was not violent toward the daughter.

I was so young when I was getting a divorce. I didn't understand anything. I was just so desperate to be rid of that man,' she said.Miss Melhem described her father as a violent man who also terrified her half brother and half sister. Although their conditions were better, they, too, were not allowed to leave the house when the father wasn't home. She said the siblings, who are believed to be staying with relatives now, were mentally disabled and were not sent to school.
'Fear, fear, fear - that was the basis of my life,' Miss Melhem said.
Miss Melhem said she kept sane by listening to a small transistor radio that her father gave her in the past five years. The young woman was up to date with news and current affairs and named her favorite radio hosts.
In one instance, she said, her spirits were lifted when she heard on her radio that her astrological sign was Leo, meaning she had a fiery personality.
Over the years the family moved twice more. Each time she was locked up. In her final home in Qalqiliya, she was kept in what she described as a bathroom that measured 3ft-by-3ft.

She dreamed of fleeing, but Miss Melhem said her father threatened to rape her until she became pregnant if she tried to escape. Then he warned he would kill her and justify the crime by saying that she had shamed the family - what is known in Arab society as 'honor killing.'
She said when he was angry, he regularly beat her with electric cables and sticks. He poured cold water on her when she asked for her mother, and sometimes shaved her head and eyebrows. She was let out only late at night to clean the rest of the house. Before dawn, her father then locked her back inside. He gave her bread, oil and an apple every day.
At one point, her father gave her a razor blade, telling her it would be better if she killed herself. Miss Melhem said her stepmother urged her to do it, telling her she was a nobody.

To cope, Miss Melhem said she often jumped up and down for exercise, cleaned the bathroom, dusted off her blanket, washed her clothes and then listened to the radio all day.
Hala Shreim, a social worker who accompanied police on the rescue, said Miss Melhem was found in the small bathroom with a tiny window. She said the woman was wrapped in a blanket and wore threadbare clothes so old that they were disintegrating.
When she was taken outside, Miss Melhem said she was blinded by the pale winter sun. It was more sunlight than she had seen in 10 years.
'Is that the sun? Is that the sun I was dreaming of?' she said she asked police. Miss Melhem said the sight of so many people startled her. 'Are those the people I was hearing on the radio?' she asked the police.
Miss Melhem said her first request, after she was released, was for hard candy - something she had been denied since she was a child. Then she asked to see her mother.
Miss Melhem's mother, who remarried and moved to a different town, had asked about her daughter, but her ex-husband would make up excuses why the young woman wasn't around and sometimes told the mother to mind her own business, said social worker Shreim said.
Miss Melhem said she paid special attention to mental health programs on Palestinian radio. She believes that listening to voices from the outside world, modest exercise and eating an apple each day saved her. Although she has nothing more than an elementary school education, she said she hopes to study psychology and one day treat people who had similar fates.
'There is no house in the world - look outside the window. In every house, somebody is suffering,' she said.
When asked if she hoped to marry, Miss Melhem was visibly upset. 'If the violence I experienced was between a father and a daughter, what happens between a man and a wife? No, I never want to marry,' she said.

Culled from Daily Mail UK

14 comments:

  1. Ah LINDA, I cried....don't have words...but I thank God almighty for saving this soul. Islamic religion is ful of hate and wickedness and even though they deny it...it keeps showing in their actions.

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  2. God is gr8t..just feel lik crying, wat a wicked son of a lizard- father

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  3. That experience made her so wise. Look how much she values and appreciate life and even the little things we take for granted. A lesson to learn!

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  4. The father is jus cruel,how can u be treated by ur own father like tis even to d extent of suggesting she kills herself. My dad is strict, over-protective and all but he luvs me and wud rather kill d nxt man trying to ruin my life. Pple shud pls try 2 marry who deey can live with 4 d rest of thier lives,cuz the children would always be the sufferers, i blame the mother who never 4 1day checked on her daaughter and its an aunt that had 2 discover ur child's pain....pity

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  5. Wow. This is deep.... Sad.... Brought tears to my eyes. The freedom we so take for granted.

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  6. What a disheartening story. She needs counselling.And the father should be jailed for life

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  7. O.M.G he doesn't deserve to live,how could he be so lethal,its despicable...i wish he could be sent to the gas chamber ASAP..

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  8. these arabs can be so mean smh

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  9. Some people should have been created as animals.They are not fit to be called human beings. The only explanation for this is that the man must have been mental otherwise I can't explain this.

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  10. Her father must be a saddist,,,,thank God she regained he freedom......

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  11. Its too bad we live in a very cruel world where people take life only with a pinch of salt, her last statement about marriage and her views on it says it all....'She can't trust any male again' I'm so happy she finally saw d sun she dreamt of and more happier she wants †̥ help people in her shoes.

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  12. so happy for her and the wicked father and step-mother should be given life-imprisonment! But how was she rescued? who called security? so her mother couldn't mount pressure to see her daughter after a long while? didn't ask friends or relations to check on her? Something is missing here!

    The truth is that when divorced couples are comfortable in their new marriage, they don't want to be 'burden' with 'liabilities!'

    For 10years!!!! No neighbors?? when she does the housework at night, no chance of escape??

    So ,many questions???????

    All the same, am happy for her and couples should think well before splitting!

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  13. Stupid comment about the Islamic religion.... This kind of thing happens alllll over the world, switch on a news channel ignorant person... Religion and being Arab has nothing to do with it... There is evil everywhere, even in ur own home... So educate yourself before posting such ignorant remarks!!!

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  14. I don't remember reading anywhere that the father is a muslim... First comment is a stupid and unthinking attack on Islam. I read about a similar case involving an Austrian man and I never thot about saying 'Christains can be mean'... There are two types of people in the world, Good people and Bad people.

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