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| Late Titilayo, with the man who killed her, her husband |
Kolade, who claimed to be a born again Christian, and Titilayo had been married for two years and had a daughter. No one knows exactly what transpired the day he killed his wife, only, family and friends got worried when Titi didn't show up at work or contact anyone for days. The police were called in and when they got to the couple's home, they found Titi's dismembered body and a distraught Kolade there. He has since been arrested.
Friends say Titi had left Kolade sometime last year, after he beat her mercilessly, but went back to him, only to be killed. The late Titi was a staff of Skye Bank, Victoria Island. May her soul rest in peace...amen.
This is so heartbreaking.
I very much think he wants to use her for money! Or what do you think..
ReplyDeleteI just went through his facebook page, you would think he was God's right hand man judging from his profile pictures and wall updates.
ReplyDeleteSMH!!!
Makes you wonder, Why heinous crimes like such are always committed by people of such calibre??
I keep saying it,
extreme fanaticism of anything is BAD.
It Inevitable turns you into a psychopath.
*sigh*
It is indeed a really sad situation.
Domestic violence is Not a joke!
A man who continuously takes you for a punching bag can def kill you.
I hope they have no kids cos that's just traumatizing.
It's one thing to kill someone but to go as far as dismembering the person??
I dont know! That always blows my mind. Like I see people who do such as the devil itself.
May she R.I.P
p.s- I am sure very soon we will be hearing "it's d devil's handwork."
>__<
Most people do not investigate and really know who they are intending to marry. It is not about the gifts, going to the cinemas, traveling abroad together, WEARING THE RING TO ANSWER MRS.etc. IT IS ABOUT KNOWING WHO THE PERSON REALLY IS. MOST PEOPLE PRETEND TO BE WHO THEY ARE NOT. THIS IS A WARNING TO ALL. I AM SURE SHE SAW THE SIGNS/RED FLAGS BEFORE THEY MARRIED BUT IGNORED THEM IN THE NAME OF LOVE. GOD BLESS HER SOUL. AS FOR THE MAN, HE WILL REAP WHAT HE HAS SOWED. MY HEART GOES OUT TO THE DAUGHTER.
ReplyDeletewomen should say no to any form of violence am sure dis started from just one or two slaps.. may her soul rest in peace....
ReplyDeleteHe's gay. See Alimi Bissy on his profile. He also has photos of 'abs'/ six packs on his profile! Thats what happens when we dont allow gay men be and the society forces them to marry.*sad
ReplyDeleteSo sad. let me just sit back and start watching the comments flow in about Christianity and Domestic violence against women.
ReplyDeleteDat man is heartless. God wil juge him.
ReplyDeleteAnon June 29, 2011 9:28 AM; such a crass comment.
ReplyDeleteBizarre and shocking. May she RIP and where there's the death penalty, may he get it.
This is so sad, really terrible news. Poor woman and her child, I fear domestic violence so much.
ReplyDeleteP.s. @Linda, your headline is a bit off given that the incident happened in Naija & you're reporting from Naija. Mentioning his nationality is really not necessary?
Judging from the story I would´nt be surprised if this man has mental illness issues going, but ofcourse this does excuse anything. A society like ours where womens´rights are in the gutter, you are bound to see things like this happen.
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad. Ladies if you marry or are (with) a man that physically abuses you, the first time is enough for you to pack your bags, because it is not worth it. If he hits you once, he will surely hit you again and probably one day kill you as we have seen in this case.
May her soul rest in peace. Amen.
ReplyDeleteWAT A BIRTHDAY GIFT HE GAVE TO HIMSELF! ***shocked*** 'The heart of man is desperately wicked...only God knoweth...'
ReplyDeleteThis man may be under a spell or curse! No man in his right state of mind can do such a horribly wicked thing to his lover and wife.
ReplyDeleteThe law must take its course anyway...
i know dis guy very well n im totally in shock.he was my childhood friend n we attended d same church.i have been tryn his num n its not going.linda,we still spoke last month.im so shocked.abeg i no fit type again
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad. There are two key issues highlighted here, the first is domestic violence. Many women are in relationships or marriages where this occurs all the time. You need to seek help and fast. You cannot change someone, only yourself. Secondly, is the act of the husband. There must be something fundamentally wrong with his mental health and surely, someone (his family, friends or church member) must have noticed but swept it under the carpet because I guess, people hide behind the guise of church and therefore, practical solutions are not undertaken. No anger can make you stab your spouse to death..........if this happens, the shock of the aftermath gets him but to then proceed to mutilating her body takes is not what a mentally stable person would do. I pray for strength for her family and friends at this time.
ReplyDeleteWhat?!!Really sad when you hear these stories becuase it could have been prevented. Men like these don't wake up one day and kill their wives. There's always a history of abuse. Beat me once and i'm out of there! May her soul rest in peace, poor kids!
ReplyDeletethis is so bizarre,either he is crazy,a cannibal,or even gay doesnt justify his action.....why didnt he cut of his own finger,but he can pieces a human being abi?
ReplyDeleteTHE MAN HAS BEEN FOUND.
ReplyDeleteHIS FAMILY MEMBERS HID HIM.
LETS PRAY JUSTICE WILL PREVAIL.
MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE.
AMEN.
OMG!!!! I know this guy oooo! From fellowship back in unilag!!! He didnt seem violent o. JESUS! Whatt!?!?
ReplyDeleteA lawyer colleague sent the information to me a couple of mins ago. said the guy lost his job abt 2 yrs ago and the wide has been sustaining him by splitting her salary between them. i hear he beats her but she did not tell her people, but confided in one of my lawyer colleagues. she got home one day and saw that he had sold her car, when she confronted him he said he needed money. it caused a seriou issue that made her leave the house. her father told her not to go back but she refused. on friday last week she started her leave and told her people she will be coming for the weekend becos her dad stays in ifako but she stays in isolo wit her husband. she even paid the rent in isolo N1.3M recently. they didnt hear from her again that evening they called her but she didnt pick, her husband called back to say they had a small misunderstanding dat has been sorted out. they asked to speak to her but he said she was doing something and will call back in 2 mins, they didnt hear from them again. the neighbours saw d husband jump thru d window with blood stains and drove off but since there was no scream or quarell they thought all was well. it was d next day they discovered her body. she was stabbed severally in d face, neck, chest, cut off her breast and left d knife in her neck. he is in police custody and they are following d case up according to my learned colleague who sent the gist. I pray Titi gets justice.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul find peace and joy as she continues her existence on another realm. Amen.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, some of the comments are full of hypocrisy. Some say "leave the man the first time he hits you". I left my husband after 5 years of verbal, physical, emotional and financial abuse, and after posting my story on this blog some of you commentators said "hmmm...divorced after only 5 years" and hurled all sorts of abuses at me. Well, if I go back, like this woman does, who knows whether I'd be alive today to take care of my child?
I'm happy and I'm wiser and I'm dating...but this time I cut off ANY guy who cannot control his temper and who cannot treat me like a lady ALL the time.
Believe me, it starts from him not listening to you or respecting your opinions. If he shows you he doesn't care about your feelings by lying, cancelling appointment at short notice with no real excuse, just being a jerk...LEAVE HIM...DO NOT WAIT FOR HIM TO HIT YOU.
WORD!
same thing almost happened to me in march 2011, i and my husband of 3 years has been having issues since i delivered my daughter and his mother came to stay with us. in short, she destroyed what we built in more than 10 years under 6 months. he started abusing me physically with his mothers approval. in all he battered me almost 10 times before i made up my mind to leave him. few days to my leaving him, i didnt feel save enough to sleep in our apartment with my daughter that night as his mother was not around, about 12.30 midnight he wasnt back and i decided to go pass the night at his mothers friends place which was a walking distance from our own place, i got there and i started hearing his voice from outside bragging to the people inside the house how he plans to kill me so that he can marry his girlfriend. when i entered the house he knew i had heard him and he left hurriedly.till morning nobody in that house was able to say a word to me except one of the womans sons wife who happens to be a lawyer and the only statement she told me was that " if i think my life is under threat, i should leave him". and that was exactly what i did. after i left, his friends started calling to congratulate me that i made the decision to leave him. its been more than 3 months now and i am happy that i am still alive to take care of my daughter. women always see this coming but bcos of the word stigma, we stick our neck in a marriage and it ends up leading us to our early and untimely grave. may her soul rest in peace. it should be an eye opener for all other abused women. leaveeeeeeeeeeeeee nowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
ReplyDeleteI am bot surprised that this happened neither am I surprised that the husband is a genuine Christian. The bible says get rid of ALL anger. Jesus talks about anger in the same breath as murder. This should be a warning to all of us Christians. Satan is looking for who to devour. Let's not make the job easy for him.
ReplyDeleteYou can tell a Man likely to hit you from a mile off.
ReplyDeleteITS NOT BY FORCE TO MARRY OR STAY MARRIED
He had been hitting her for a long time, she should have walked, she should have run!
Now she's dead.
According to what I hear He had been out of work for a while now, She was taking care of the family
,was breadwinner and he couldnt handle it, so he hit her at every opportunity, she had been advised to leave, had been taken away by her dad but she kept going back Till finally he killed her.
there are a whole lot of women out there going through the same things titi went through.
when are YOU going to walk?
May her soul rest in peace...
ReplyDeleteHe's gay. See Alimi Bissy on his profile. He also has photos of 'abs'/ six packs on his profile! Thats what happens when we dont allow gay men be and the society forces them to marry.*sad
ReplyDeleteDidnt know being guy gives one the license to beat and kill. hmmmm interesting!
May she RIP truly.
ReplyDeleteI think a man who beats his wife is the lowliest form of coward! I hope this man, if guilty, dies painfully....slowly. May his wife R.I.P.
ReplyDeleteThe act is heinous. Fact. The comments I have read so far have passed judgement on the Man. Ok. The deceased has been made out 2 be a Saint. Blameless. Devoid of fault. She took care of him. Paid the rent. Now,Life has shown instances where this occurs n the woman strays 2 find a "real man"outside d home...any Man who has been cheated on will tell u this is the lowest blow a man can receive. However,it isn't enuf to kill anybody based on that...but emotions are really funny n do not listen to commonsense...ask Jesus when he saw pple trading in the church. The man should be tried in a court of law and not on any blog. If guilty, he must face the music. Only GOD know what must have driven a fine gentleman (from eyewitnesses accts)over the edge. May she R.I.P. May Jesus exorcise his Demons. My 2penneth.
ReplyDeletePeople are always so fast to comment and make all manner of ridiculous statements under stories like dis. In the 1st place, what 'extreme fanatism' is Dith talking about cos there is no indication of extreme fanatism from all the stories available?
ReplyDeleteThis is just an unfortunate incident but the details are still too sketchy to draw any conclusions.
Finally, I also join my voice to admonish all Christians to watch and deal with that bad temper before it fatally deals with u, otherwise u are no different from an unbeliever!
Joshua
who is Alimi Bisi and how does that mean he is gay? Enquiring minds wanna know!
ReplyDeleteDis is bizzare, nd dey say divorce isn't bliblical. In my dictionary, for better for stay, for worse for go. May she rest in peace. Justice must prevail
ReplyDeleteYou see why some of us are happily UNmarried? I will never let Nigerians force me into this scam called marraige especially because humans are getting worse by the minute.
ReplyDeleteAlso, Naija mothers are to blame too. They encourage their daughters to go back to their abusive husbands because they want to save face from their friends and society at large. Well, they will keeping burying their daughters, that's all!
May the young lady's soul rest in peace. Marraige no be by fire by force.
Uh hum! I don't even know which angle i should start talking from, so i'll just say let this be a lesson. Marriage is not by force o! All you Nigerian women that won't let someone see road. It's not the end all and be all. If the thing no let you do, comot. I bet a lot of people talked her into going back to this monster all in the name of saving her marriage. Well, now she's dead!!!! What next?
ReplyDeletegoing through this guyz fb page he looks to me like all those "brothers" in the church i'm shaking right now,seriously we ladies need to wake up and our society doesn't seem to help matters like when a husband hits you you're to suffer in silence cos its a shame to come back to live with your parents bearing in mind what people would say to me that's arrant nonsense that's the cos of all these,this shouldn't be taken lightly with this guy this was no mistake and must be allowed to face the consequences of his very foolish and stupid actions
ReplyDeletei said it he's a pastor in the RCCG i think Christ Church Gbagada
ReplyDeletei know ds guy and am totally in shock
ReplyDeleteMy story...I was a victim myself. The first thing is why would a man who claimed to love me turn me into a punching bag? The worst thing that could drive a man mad is a cheating wife...so wat if d wife is not cheating? wat else could make a man mad? I thought I married my best friend until insults started, from there to slapping, kicking and d use of belt.My mum witnessed it but advised me to stay put. Well, i thank God as he couldnt stand my patience and still drove me out in d end...Im happier for it...4yrs of marraige. As has been said, women, think twice before staying in a violent marraige or relationship. May Titi soul rest in peace!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad story for a young lady of titi may ur soul rest in the right hand of the Lord
ReplyDeleteAnon1:04 you are talking from both sides of ur mouth
ReplyDeleteWhatever reason that made him kill his wife is immaterial, even if she was cheating on him, the only thing would have been to send her packing. The way i see it, it was his insecurity that made him do what he did as a lot of men don't like having their wife earn higher than them. He deserves no pity as he showed none to his wife, I only wish that women who are passing thru domestic violence in the hands of their husbands will learn from this and take a walk while they still have breath in them. Marriage is meant to be a union of Love and companionship, and not brutality.
ReplyDeleteWHAT KIND OF MAN WILL DO THIS TO HIS LAWFULLY WEDDED WIFE?I PERSONALLY THINK HE IS CURSED FROM BEYOND. THERE IS MORE TO THIS THAN THE EYES CAN SEE. MAY HER SOUL REST IN PERFECT PEACE. AMEN
ReplyDeleteweh to me idon't count dis one to be a christian, is just a pretender.His date of birth is June24 and he killed his wife on June24 and all his wall ful of xtian words,no any other words can b seen dere.
ReplyDeletebut dis is bad, just nt 2 judge, i know God wil do the psble best 4 him 2 suffer 4 it 2ru human being like him. HEARTLESS HUMAN BEING..............
i know this is all wrong but we women too should know how to respect n act towards our man. who knows what she could hav said or done to prompt a sane man to go to such extreme. pls women lets try to control our nagging and insultive tongue. we know we are weak wen next to a man so pls. and dont marry for marriage sake, be sure who he is n how he feels abt u b4 goin into marriage. we hav so many bad marriages now due to this 'marriage craze'. its so SAD!
ReplyDeletewen i din't believe dat dis is a gud xtian, is just a pretender bcos wen i luk into his wall i see never any oda wrds dere apart 4rm d wrd of God. AH AH dis is strictly madnes bcos wat is it dat d woman has done dat his husb.. will sab him 2 death????.
ReplyDeleteJust nt 2 judge, i know & strongly believe dat he wil surely suffer 4 it..........HEARTLESS HUMAN BEING...
NA WAOOOOOO! 4 SOME NIGERIAN MEN,WAT WON'T THEY DO IN THE NAME OF ANGER AND ITS "D DEVIL'S WORK",AS HE FINISHED SLICING HER Y DIDN'T HE EAT HER NW?? OH!!! I GUESS HE SUDDENLY LOST HIS APPETITE WHEN HE REALISED D HEINOUS CRIME HE HAS COMMITTED AGAINST GOD AND HUMANITY.AS 4 HIM MAY HE GET D PUNISHMENT HE DESERVES AND MAY TITI'S SOUL R.I.P.
ReplyDeleteO ga oh. Its by the grace of God. Most of these religious fanatics use religion to mask a lot of underlying issues. We see this over and over again. This is why i am an advocate of being with someone that has the right balance in thinking, approach, asociation and attitude. Someone that comes from a home where such behavior is abhorred and the men know how to treat their women. At least if the man misbehaves the family will call him to order. It is not how soon you marry, but how well. Go into any relationship with eyes wide open. If any behavior shocks you and makes you have a rethink, move on. If you kiss many frogs in the process of finding the one for you, all the better. Most abusive men pick weaker women, because i have known some women that can tie men up and beat them. Those women, their husbands never ever abuse. It is weak and mentally unstable men that beat their wives. If they have this history in their family. BEWARE! And always ask many questions about a person. Ask him, friends and strangers. Then make your own conclusions. Life is too short and sweet oh. At the end of the day this man may spend max 5 years in jail, and the women gets to rot in a grave while he moves on to another gullible woman. May God help us. It is time for women right awareness in Nigeria.
ReplyDeletewho knows if the man forced the lady into marriage
ReplyDeleteAs per the Pics, they seems to be good couple, Only God knows what has gotten on him to stab his wife, I feel sorry for him...Pele, Sogbo? LOL
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in Peace....pls lets love wt our eyes open,wen evr u notice any violent traits pls flee becos men that batter dont change,lets not live in the euphoria of wishful thinking that he wld change.pls ladies if u are experiencing such abuse from ur husband or lovers jst let them go so that you can live to tell the stories oooooo,May we nt die by mistake in Jesus name(amen)
ReplyDelete@ Sush you are disgusting for your comment! Are you kidding?
ReplyDeletethe most messed up and unstable nigerians i have encountered, are avid fanatical christians...so this story doesn't surprise me
ReplyDeleteWicked man, he should be cut into pieces, the same way he killed his wife.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't understand y that anonymous person is calling my name. If u didn't understand wat I meant, u should hv asked. To read is one thing, to comprehend is another. D fanaticism I am clearly speaking of here is religious fanaticism as is evidenced from his fcbk page & d some of d comments left on this post. Pple who are extreme fanatics of anything whatsoever usually become psychopaths as hv been proven by several instances. Or Should I start listing examples for u?
ReplyDeleteAnyway moving on, d fact that some comments here are even trying 2 mk excuses for this devil sickens me 2 death. What on earth can someone possibly do to deserve getting sliced up like a piece of meat?
Oh yea! According to some pple, NAG!
May u not get sliced up by ur husbands sha cos best believe EVERY woman "nags." Some just take it to extreme lengths. If u can't "nag" ur man, then more than likely u are in an abusive relationship.
he looks like a core RCCG/ MFM dude.
ReplyDeleteTHIS MAN IS POSSESSIVE AND IN-SECURED.
ReplyDeleteI WENT THROUGH TITI'S (Arowolo Omozoje Titilayo (Oyakhire Omozoje Titilayo)) FACEBOOK PAGE http://www.facebook.com/arowolo.o.titilayo
I NOTICED SHE DIDN'T SPEND UP TO 3MONTHS THERE. MEANWHILE THE HUSBAND HAS BEEN USING HIS SINCE THE WORD GO TILL THE DAY HE KILLED HER.
SHE OPENED HERS ON THE 23RD OF AUGUST AND THE LAST SHE DID THERE WAS THE 28TH OF OCTOBER 2008. WHICH WAS CHANGING HER MARITAL STATUS.
IN THOSE 3 MONTHS, SHE HAD PUT UP THE PIX OF THEIR DAUGHTER.
ITS SHOWS OUTRIGHT JEALOUSY AND INSECURITY ON THE PART OF THE HUSBAND.
SHE MUST HAVE BEEN THROUGH A LOT.
I WISH SHE HAD A FRIEND WITH WHOM SHE CONFIDED IN.
THIS ONE THAT SOME IDIATS ARE ALREADY SAYING SHE MAY B A FLIRT..
JEZZ..............
@sush are you kidding me, this is just ridiculous i dont care if she insulted him or any such rubbish you just wrote, nobody deserves to be abused in anyway not to talk of being killed... If you find yourself in an abusive relationship pleaseeeeee STAY and respect your man until he kills you..... Nonsence!!!!
ReplyDelete@Sush....you need to SUSH! How can you even attempt to put the blame on the woman? She is sustaining him financially, and being a working mum in a bank...and bank jobs are stressful...she comes home to his depression and tries to cope...at a point it will come out...that DOES NOT GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO KILL HER...nor does it give anyman the right to hit anywoman going out into the rat race to keep the family going. SHe is doing her job...homemaker and mother and doing HIS job...provider...the least he could have done was to appreciate her and show her extra love and understanding and ultimately get his lazy ass out and GET A JOB! Not taking out his frustrations on her.
ReplyDeleteWhere is the daughter? Please someone should take her to the woman's relative preferably in another country where she can have a normal childhood...free from all this negative stigma
a few points:
ReplyDeletethe first thing i asked when i heard the story,how can a sane man do this to his dog,never mind a human,not to imagine his wife.
how can bloggers build a theory on marriage based on this one albeit heinous incidence.Chronic spinsters (i have absolutely nothing against it) are coming out of holes to justify why they don't want to give up their independence and build a union with a significant other.
You don't want to be married,fine.Just leave it for those who want to and go take a walk in the park and get some fresh air.
Don't just sit behind your pcs and phones and just build marriage theories based on this one heinous incident.
pls wats disgusting abt a true fact? this is why we kill ourselves unnecessary. u have heard 4m 1side n u all jumped into conclusion. yes he was wrong but pls lets be thrutful alot of us push pple to the extreme lik d mundane anonymous who just called me disgusting.as much as i feel for her, i still feel she should have seen it coming. we rush into marriage knowing well dt he use to beat u during d relationship, knwing he had a bad temper, knwn he flirts n then u expect him to change? pls. lets all stop pretending n check ourselves. som of us dnt evn knw how to handle a relationship, lik d low iq anon who without undastnding my statemnt jumped into a silly comment. 2ladies here knew their men were abusive n stepped. am sure some of the untinkable comments here r from women with bad xters who r insultive n disrespectful to both humans n their spouse. pls, lets be trutful, som women push their men to such extreme. it take a strong, God fearing man not to retialate. i've seen it so many times n i wonder d kinda home d women come from lik d mundane peep dt made dt comment. i rest my case.
ReplyDelete@Dith abeg please heinous crimes like this are also commited by people of NOT this calibre, not ALWAYS by people that SEEMINGLY are of such calibre.
ReplyDeleteAnyone can claim to be anything and there are lots who commit crimes who dont neccessarily profess any religion or affiliation
I am not sure y that comment came out as anonymous. Probably cos I'm using my fone.
ReplyDelete-Dith
There is so much to say.1stly, putting up religious posts doesnt make u a fanatic. it only means ur spreading the gospel, through every media. secondly, alot of people ave been sayin marriage isnt a do or die affair., the bible admonishes us to get married so as to keep away from communication, but if u trust in ur ability to keep from sin, den u can remain unmarried. so inadvently, marriage is important,. We just gotta be extra prayerful when chosing our partner. I believe wateva problem they were having wasnt bigger than God and could ave benn tabled before God.
ReplyDeletepeople profess different things. if he wasn't a christian or anything, what comments would people make i wonder?
ReplyDeleteAm so short of words,May her soul rest in peace.it shows the heart of men is terribly wicked.it is only God that sees and knows the heart of men.very vital for we WOMEN to put God first in our relatnship and to pray for the spirit of discernment in any relatnship.
ReplyDeleteand that you are a christian or muslim doesnt prevent you from becoming crazy enough to do such a thing.
ReplyDeletesush, wtf? are you saying the lady deserves to be stabbed to death by her hubby(the same man who swore b4 God and men to protect,love and cherish her)?
ReplyDeleteso i guess when you disrespect your husband or upset him, he should take the kitchen knife and hack you to death? mscheewwwww
no sin deservees violence against you spouse(in case you have that broken mentality)
the guy should face the full brunt of the law
may she rip and may God strengthen her family
well i am a man and i dont and have never beatem my wife or raised my hands against her for 8 years plus.
ReplyDeleteWhat i know is this Being born again has become a fashionable thing so its very difficult to know who is actually born again from just the face.
it takes God to reveal a humans' heart, be sincere with urself when making a choice about who to marry it is more than he is handsome, beautiful, he has money, his family is rich he has a good job etc. Is God in the relationship and pls do not throw aside completely other pples comment abt ur to be partner they see the person neutrally while u supposedly are in love (blindly).
And to the pple who believe they can change their partner after they get married. Pls and pls God really changes men but Man cannot in anyway change another Man. so if he hits u, shouts at u, abuses u, disrespects u, b4 marriage He will definitely do it to u after u get married.
oh pls, let us leave all this she might have been doin this or he was doin that, no human being should kill another human being, him bein a born again christian, he should know that, no matter how angry u get! im not sure he was really a born again cos no real born again will do something like dat. if he wa so angry, why didnt he stab himself? its like when people say some1 is depressed and dey go and kill another person, why noy kill urself and go. he is a wicked man but all in all, only God can judge. women dont take any kind of violence from a man, its better for you to walk out n let ppl say what they want than for someone to kill you, whether you walk out or stay put, people will still talk. save urself!
ReplyDelete@ Sush are you for real? i wont even address you SMH
ReplyDeleteLord may this woma's soul RIP. I pray that God would give everyone is currently in an abusive relationship the strength to walk away.
@SUSH. You are so simple minded it is mind boggling. I had no idea they still made them like you.
ReplyDeleteI fear for your daughters.
Nigerians are going nuclear ooh. We have quickly picked up suicide bombing and now chopping up spouses into pieces. Even a mad man on the streets would have no guts to do this. This is simply the handwork of an evil man completely in control of his evil senses. It is a pity that he is in police custody. With our yeye judicial system, he may end up getting a death sentence which could be commuted to life sentence by some useless governor some years later. Such a man deserves to be burnt at the stake. The woman's relatives should follow up on this matter and send the man to his grave.
ReplyDeleteThis also serves as a cautionary tale to women undergoing spousal abuse. A man who beats you for whatever reason will never stop till you are dead.
i knew kolade for 16yrs.we went to the same church,right frm childrens department,he was a teens leader at a time,and more like a pastor.not until 2yrs ago,after he married her,he started putting up suspicious comments on fb.well,they had issues,very serious issues which for the sake of privacy n respect to the dead i wouldnt want to talk abt.i and a couple of friends close to him spoke to him,he said he was in a forced marriage due to the circumstances b4 the marriage.i begged him to go for counselling,praying that one day they would love each other.we spoke again b4 my wedn and the way i saw it was they wer gonna divorce someday .but after d wedn,he became more spiritual on fb so i thought all was well.hes comments wer so motivating i believed they had found peace.i t looks like a spell was cast on him.im sick to my stomack,kola cud have walked out of this marriage if it hurt so bad.im sad,dis appointed n in shock.u will answer the question WHY? someday.i prayd d story was a lie.but naw we know.titi,im so sorry.if i had known,we wud have warned u.RIP titi
ReplyDeleteGosh! she was my classmate,Roomate,my friend.....oh RIP girl
ReplyDeleteThis is really disheartening. why would a man stab his wife and even cut off parts of her body? Are you sure he is not a ritualist? this one pass me o.
ReplyDeleteI know this guy from childhood and we went to the same church when I was still in Nigeria. To say I'm in shock is an understatement!!!
ReplyDeleteAbeg, someone post the link to his fb profile
ReplyDeleteI am so shocked @ all i am reading here. Sincerely i dont see anything wrong in wat Sush said. I feel wat she mean is dat women should not nag cos it might be dat d day he decides to hit u dat d lady lives d world. Well abt the handsome dude, he gave himself to be used by the devil. We all have instances where d devil speaks but we all have d power to control d devil in us. wen we cant control it, dat is wen we say he gave himself to the devil to be used. d man is totally mean here. I will never say he shld be crucified but sure the law says whoever kill someone will........ All i will employ us is dat we shld be careful of wat we say or do in our various homes. I still believe dat a genuine relationship shouldnt bring up insult. U should correct with love. Anger is a terrible thing i must confess. I cant even marry a man dat insults me not to talk of beat. Tho we all pretend until we get inside before the true u comes out. So pray hard before u get into it. God is always there to answer.
ReplyDeleteand re- my first comment.
ReplyDeleteMeant to write *inevitably*
R.I.p Omozoje.
ReplyDeleteKolade,u duck up terribly.
@Sush you are the kind of woman that cause men to be abusive. The fact that you think there is any reason for abuse to be justifiable. if you think your wife is too abusive or too difficult to live with how about divorce? Marriage is not a life sentence! There is always a way out.
ReplyDeletewww.c5wk6.blogspot.com for an update on the story
ReplyDeletethat is why people should no staty in abuseive relationships (male or female) May her sould rest in peace and I hope the law is thrown at him
ReplyDeleteMay God help BOTH families heal after this tragedy because BOTH have lost their children. One to death and the other to life in prison/guilt/shame. May God give them the wisdom and insight to do the right things and say the right things to one another in order to promote peace even in the midst of the storm.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, somethings mouth no fit tok sef, this is very sad.
@SUSH, you need a deafening slap. Ika ni e o. You must be a wicked woman for such a cruel comment on the murder of a wife by her "juju" husband.
ReplyDeleteThey are Yoruba people and it is easy to suspect that the cutting of her breasts may have been for money making rituals since he was jobless.
Thank God that he was caught on time otherwise he could have cooked up a missing wife story and become a billionaire overnight. Do you think all our millionaires and billionaires have real wealth?
Women out there! If a man is beating you up, dump him and save your life. Don't listen to family members who are not ready to house you and prefer to send you back to a wife abuser/killer.
I can just see what musta happened...
ReplyDeletefirst, him being out of a job for over 1 year and watching his wife take care of him musta slowly driven him insane. hence, the reports of earlier beatings.
Then, watching her walk out on him and her having the the backing and support of her loving family musta added fuel to the fire.
Perhaps, when she returned to her husband there musta been some angry words exchanged and i guess that was the last straw for him cos the stab wounds to the face clearly show fury, jealousy and hate. perhaps over time he had come to resent and hate her and when he had the smallest excuse, he gave full reign to his anger and the mutilated body of a fellow sister is the end of the story. I mean, these are scenes from a scary hollywood movie... not things you really hear about happening in your average neighbourhood!
Like some comments above rightly said, he was a professing christian who never really let the words of Christ dwell in him richly! he never dealt with his anger and now here we all are wishing poor Titi a restful sleep; a young woman cut down in her prime just because she was 'trapped in love and duty' with the wrong man who obviously didn't care for her devotion and love. Perhaps, he hated her more for it! hence, the stab wounds to her chest.
And the cutting off of her breast was clearly telling her 'no other man will find you attractive should you ever survive this assault, b@#*h!'.
And in response to a comment above that women shd 'control their nagging'... well, it is 'Judas Iscariots' like this among the women folk that have permitted this similar treatment on womankind all these thousands of years, howbeit in smaller doses! becos we excuse their weaknesses of not holding their tempers in check for whatever reason! Granted, women should in wisdom, admonish their husbands and all that... but don't post tasteless remarks like that on such a forum like this almost like saying, "the chick had it coming becos she thot she had too much money and mouth"
God will continue to help the rest of us live lives that will glorify Him and keep us from evil (Amen). My prayers go out to the poor girl left behind after all this disco.
I can just see what musta happened...
ReplyDeletefirst, him being out of a job for over 1 year and watching his wife take care of him musta slowly driven him insane. hence, the reports of earlier beatings.
Then, watching her walk out on him and her having the the backing and support of her loving family musta added fuel to the fire.
Perhaps, when she returned to her husband there musta been some angry words exchanged and i guess that was the last straw for him cos the stab wounds to the face clearly show fury, jealousy and hate. perhaps over time he had come to resent and hate her and when he had the smallest excuse, he gave full reign to his anger and the mutilated body of a fellow sister is the end of the story. I mean, these are scenes from a scary hollywood movie... not things you really hear about happening in your average neighbourhood!
Like some comments above rightly said, he was a professing christian who never really let the words of Christ dwell in him richly! he never dealt with his anger and now here we all are wishing poor Titi a restful sleep; a young woman cut down in her prime just because she was 'trapped in love and duty' with the wrong man who obviously didn't care for her devotion and love. Perhaps, he hated her more for it! hence, the stab wounds to her chest.
And the cutting off of her breast was clearly telling her 'no other man will find you attractive should you ever survive this assault, b@#*h!'.
And in response to a comment above that women shd 'control their nagging'... well, it is 'Judas Iscariots' like this among the women folk that have permitted this similar treatment on womankind all these thousands of years, howbeit in smaller doses! becos we excuse their weaknesses of not holding their tempers in check for whatever reason! Granted, women should in wisdom, admonish their husbands and all that... but don't post tasteless remarks like that on such a forum like this almost like saying, "the chick had it coming becos she thot she had too much money and mouth"
God will continue to help the rest of us live lives that will glorify Him and keep us from evil (Amen). My prayers go out to the poor girl left behind after all this disco.
Yoruba man?????? This came as a surprise. But I still insist that90% of the time, crime of this nature were committed by people of Igbo origin.
ReplyDeletewww.c5wk6.blogspot.com for an update on the story
ReplyDeleteThis is a sad story! It's only God knows what made a sane man to act in such an evil manner. Let us not be quick to judge. We all need to pray for the two families involved, the husband, the dead wife. I pray that anyone of us will not fall into devil's hand or his agents power. My prayers goes to the husband, his family, the dead wife and her family. It is only God that can heal their wounds.
ReplyDeletei feel so dishearted. currently my mother is experiencing the same thing in her marriage. we r all grown up girls and ve advised her to leave the menaic but she just wudnt.
ReplyDeletehe hits her, stalks her, embarasses her, interfer into her conversation, gives her curfew, tracks her car, shouts on her and d driver, stops her from seeing her friens, stops her from going to weekend outings, times her in church on sunday, gives her instructions and mandates. i just weak and tire. at first i though it was cuz of us she stayed but its obvious she is in d spell women are in and probably fear of starting her life over again. i see her very unhappy but i just wish she knows better than to live a miserable and unhappy life with a man that cares only about his sorry ass. he is so rude, abuses her family and even her dead father, gossips about his wife around, accuses her of infidelity yet wud refuse to send her out, snatches her fone when shes talking. the menaic even hits us his children anyhow
as for titi shes a younger version of my mums scenrio just that she didnt live to see her daughter.
grow rather unfortunate.
i know dis things r real and pple go thr it for different reasons. but based on the advises so far on this thrend, women it is not worth it. because my mum stayed ove 20years probably hoping thing wud b betther but i must confess she is living a carmouflauge. women dnt look up to ur husbands as god dat u cnt do without, yes u entered a convenant but ur life taken wnt continue dat convenent.
i cnt wait for things to change in my family.
but its d man with d problem, let him leave his sorry arse in a lonely word. love is bonding but if he cnt compromise u sure hell have reached ur peak.
it is well with us all
Folks, get off of Sush's back. She didn't condone the act. She only gave her womanly perspective as to what may have triggered the man's insanity. One of the major problems with us in Nigeria is our inability to candidly decipher what may have transpired in any given situation so that we can use the uncovered facts to prevent future occurrences. We most often either support or condemn without any concern whatsoever about the grey areas. What the man did is clearly a horrible and dastardly act. Our job is to objectively dissect the situation after knowing all the facts and make a case study of it to help others.
ReplyDeleteI read all comments here...and it saddens me read some comments about the woman nagging or cheating...we are talking about a young woman dying an agonising death here...can you imagine how many stabs she received?what immense pain she went through before she died.
ReplyDeletewomen who stay in abusive marriages are often stubborn..am just so sad for her...what a loss...to think she still got parents...they will never sleep well...constant nightmares of the gruesome murder of their child
what can warrant a painful death like hers?infidelity...constant nagging...not enough to take life in the way he did
@sush....you really need to STFU..no woman deserves to have to die like that no matter what she said or did...whatever happened to self control..the guy clearly has anger issues, we ladies need to be careful about the kind of men we hook up with...no point rushing to be mrs somebody only to end up dead or broken
ReplyDelete@ Shush u talk stipid, a life is lost here. what give any one the right to take another one's life.
ReplyDelete@ Sush: u need to hv ur head examined. I seriously wonder about ur childhood.
ReplyDeleteTitilayo, u are safe now, rest in d bosom of the Lord.
Is this a true story??? the man in the wedding pix is different from the man in the car. hope this is not an indictment or something?
ReplyDeleteAll I know is no one deserves to die like this even if you in a relationship or in a marriage
ReplyDeleteIn the Western world it's a criminal act to kill/maim an animal..remember the story of Mick Vick..a very successful US Football(not soccer) star who not only went to prison but lost most of his endorsments 'cos of dog abuse/fighting..
Dude is mentally unstable and he most probably diverted that negative energy and temper/violence towards the church...from what I heard about his FB status u see similarities between his religious fanaticism and propensity to violence..same intensity...
Unfortunately the church covers up for a lot of their dedicated members seeing unusual behaviour as the doing of the devil or a family memeber..thinking they have a cure..how???..when enough of them are charlatans...can't cure common cold!!
Please ladies choose wisely(relationships/marriage) its been mentioned enough times..
@ Sush. I had to go see your ugly face after reading your ugly comment. Like comment like face. I am a guy and I terribly feel nauseated with the comment you made. How dare you? If Titi were my sister, I can only imagine that I would as well take him the murderer to the Hagues. Maybe you are even Arowolo's girlfriend. Olosi. Omo buruku. Open your mouth again and I will come back here for you. Don't worry, he would need a wife in prison. I will arrange to send you there. Were (mad gal). In short, I am so pissed and I feel like using the toilet now.
ReplyDeleteSush...i pray that the day you express anger or ur opinion in ur marriage, you make the news like this cos by then. you'd be breaking your own rule that "a woman should know her place" anuofia...chineke a po gi. ewu
ReplyDeleteAnon June 29, 2011 7:40 PM; you are a cretin and you must be noticed with your cretinous comment. Tribalistic moron.
ReplyDeleteExtremely sad and may his ass never see the light of day again.
Linda..u should try posting this comments when the HEAT is on..some have probably posted like 4 hours ago..this should be like an ongoing dialogue 'cos there's a lot to learn from this..just seems like one big anti-climax...
ReplyDeleteStill u doing a fab job..don't get too comfortable like Fashola who's doing a fab job too..
to the foolish anon who said since they are yoruba, he must have wanted to use her for money ritual - your head is not correct at all. money ritual is done by ALL tribes. igbos do it, yorubas do it, even hausas use almajiris for money ritual so what are you talking about.
ReplyDeleteI am not here to go back & forth with anyone. Cos for starters it won't bring her back 2 life & secondly, I just don't hv d time.
ReplyDeleteBut let me break a few things down...
Alqaeda is as a result of what?
Nigeria's very own Boko raham or whatver nko?
D guy who tried to blow up a plane?
D pastor guy who burnt 5 of his members alive?
A guy (here in d states) who decapitated his wife cos he was having an affair with d pastors wife?
I can go on & on really if u want me 2.
Yes! There are many murderers out there who are not religious fanatics but not many go as far as dismembering their victim & besides I SAID Fanaticism of Anything whatsoever. Not just religion.
Just like d situation in Vancouver was as a result of sports fanaticism.
When u become borderline fanatical voiding ur brain of any sense of reasoning whatsoever, U INEVITABLY BECOME A PSYCHO.
End of!
-Dith
when I read the forwarded message on bb i screamed, bcos just yesterday my sisters and I where talking about our cousin in an abusive marriage, they have been married for 8years now and have 2kids, this man me i call him "the animal", he is so jealous that even when his wife goes to work he calls her all the time, when she doesnt leave work on time he bombards her phone with calls insulting her "you prostitute you have gone to meet your men, you want to say you are still at work by this time" when she comes home insults will continue he will slap her abuse her in front of the kids ooh. kai.on many occasions he will stone her wit the closest thing he can grab. the most annoying part is they leave in the UK, when she can easily get him arrested, and this foolish man on the other hand has his own business but he come back late in the night (ask me what i=he is doing ?) once its weekend heyyy, he is off to the club from friday to saturday asin, he never misses it he must club every weekend, but if his wife is not home like few mins after work na trouble. very selfish fool, I hate him more than anytin.... he doesnt even play with his kids, asin abeg the animal's faults are too numerous to mention
ReplyDeleteNow the recent 1 this weekend he beat her up, and now the whole family is telling her to leave the fool, but no she is saying what of "my children".... just yesterday we were telling her she has to leave him, as I saw the bb message i emailed it to her , if she doesnt advice her self then na she sabi. I will even make sure she reads all these comments here.
1) Sush is stupid and is one of those fakely pious women that think it is only them that has home training.
ReplyDelete2) If she really has home training (she says she doesnt know what kind of home those who opposed her are from) - then how come she cannot discern that it is not in such circumstances that you voice tales about nagging, pride etc.
3) Sush is stupid
This is so confusing. And sad. Men are beasts and women are demons. In this case a man was at fault but what of cases where a woman drives a man to suicide? Haaa.. sometimes I feel never getting married is a good option. Thank God there'll always be orphanages around. Adopt a child save a future
ReplyDeleteThis is so confusing. And sad. Men are beasts and women are demons. In this case a man was at fault but what of cases where a woman drives a man to suicide? Haaa.. sometimes I feel never getting married is a good option. Thank God there'll always be orphanages around. Adopt a child save a future
ReplyDeleteIt's very sad to hear about this wicked act.Religious fanatism or not nobody has the right to take another mans life, especially in a crude and barbaric way like this.I belief no religion preaches dat.If we can't live together in love,it is better to live apart in peace rather than committing murder.It is my opinion dat that lady does not deserve dis no matter what her offence may be.I hope all wife beaters will learn from dis.
ReplyDeleteIt's very sad to hear about this wicked act.Religious fanatism or not nobody has the right to take another mans life, especially in a crude and barbaric way like this.I belief no religion preaches dat.If we can't live together in love,it is better to live apart in peace rather than committing murder.It is my opinion dat that lady does not deserve dis no matter what her offence may be.I hope all wife beaters will learn from dis.
ReplyDelete@Sush: Na wa for u o! Yes she might have been in an abusive marriage but that doesn't mean she thot she was going to get killed and what's with you blaming the victim? From your comments i can tell you are an ignorant, small minded female. God will help you to learn and know better or better still start to help yourself today.
ReplyDeleteLook at the nonsense you are writing here. Ha! Shame for yourself.
If a man hits you, leave!!! Or you may not live to tell the story. A violent man needs to get help. Unless you are a shrink, you are not the one to help him. Do not endanger your life and that of your child(ren) by staying with him. LEAVE!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAs for the person named SUSH, you truly are an embarrassment to womanhood. 'Respect your man' or you run the risk of him murdering you in cold blood??? It is wrong for a woman or man to disrespect their spouse or anyone else for that matter. But if that happens, i do not think disrespect and murder are 2 words that should be placed side by side. Girl, you need to have your head examined! It is women like you that give the rest of us a bad name.
ReplyDelete@ Anonymous 7.40, what do you mean by Youruba man??? y are you surprised? youruba men are just the worse, they can be overly pumpus and jealous and progress to beating their wives. I know so many youruba men that are abusive towards their wives.... especially the guys with mothers with local mentality. and the thing I hate about Yoruba men is that, when they see their local mothers worshiping their father they feel ooh thats how their wife must do, if they dont do the same problem. they will start abusing and beating etc.Yoruba men ... I hate them.
ReplyDelete@ anon 7:40pm just thank God that i am in a good mood oh! asin what has tribalism got to do with an important matter like this one? ehn ofe nnmanu like u! anuofia..kmt
ReplyDeleteBy the way i hope this is not the work of a shape shifter asin rem supernatural series??? cos this i have been trying to understand this story but its just not getting thru. Asin what would ever provoke a husband to stab and dissect his wife! ooo...!
Disclaimer: I think domestic violence is evil. I do not know the man or woman involved.
ReplyDeleteHowever.....
Nigeria is a free country and our law does not convict a man until a court of law finds him guilty. Otherwise, he is presumed innocent. So far, I haven't seen any evidence to show that this man killed his wife, except for the fact that he beat her. While it may be true that he was a violent fool who beat her, that does not mean that he killed and butchered her. Unfortunately, public opinion has already convicted him. I wonder if the police is even investigating other leads. Please google the "innocence project" for stories of people who have spent 50 years in prison because they were at the wrong place at the wrong time. The fact that he beat her or was found with the body does not mean he killed her. Let's wait for the police to do their job.
@Sush: u r definitely one of those women who preach what they don't practice. How can u see all these gory details and still wrote the comments u wrote? U need a mental examination, hypocrite!
ReplyDelete@sush, so bcoz some women push their husbands 2 d wall,is dat a reason 4 wife battering.dis must b ur way of tellin ur man thank u 4 being in a r/ship wit u.i mean u ar goin 2 such great lengths 2 exonerate d man.pray tell,how many women can u count who ve murdered their cheatin,lyin n stingy no gud men?get a life coz ur self esteem obviously comes 4rm ur a man.
ReplyDeleteSo what if he's gay? Should that make him kill his own wife? Even if she was over bearing, dismembering her is out of this world man. That has got nothing to do with him killing his wife. And as for that gay dude seeking gayism to be legalized, let me just tell you, your will be next to be dismembered in like manner and even worse and I will gladly do it and feed your snakelike wrinkled earth like worm you call a penis and feed it to my dog U curses mistake for a man. Idiot.
ReplyDeleteI got out of a 13 year old marriage earlier in the year after serious beating by my so-called husband. History of physical, emotional and pyschological abuse all through yet some so-called family and friends 'peacemakers' want me to go go back to a man who is not even remorseful. I am happier and stress-free since I took that bold walk and it sickens me to hear people preach about going back because of the children. Utter rubbish!!! We live in a very hypocritical society and the earlier womwn rise up against domestic violence, the better. I lost a friend a few years back to domestic violence and her so-called husband is 'happily remarried'. Some comments here are sickening while most are truthful. Ladies and women in any abusive relationship should take a bold walk out of it. Like someone commented, marriage na by force?' Let's not be hoodwinked by religious sentiments. May Titi's soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThis is story is something else. May her Soul Rest in Perfect Peace. I have read almost all the comments and people are acting shocked. If he was beating her why r people shocked that he killed her. Abuse in marriage is a serious matter that is not taken seriously in Nigeria. It is almost seen as a Taboo if a woman leaves her husband for physically abusing her. For all of you who said she should left society would have judged her. As a society we need to create the idea that is ok for women to leave their abusive spouse. I know the bible encourages us not to divorce our spouse but i am of the strong belief that God did not put any woman on this planet to be a punching bag for a man. As a society we need to break the mentality that a husband hitting his wife is ok. Maybe back then husbands did not kill their wife but as the we become a more internet based word the evil from oversees will creep into Nigeria and the violence will escalate. And for those who said women can like to NAG imagine if she was your child chopped up like she was a chicken. i also prey that he finds peace and that God should touch his heart. Something is clearly not ok with him.
ReplyDeleteSad story,pls spend some more time editing,1at u wrote saturday 24th june 2011,friday was 24th so wch day/date did it happen?2ndly u wrote she was a staff "on" skye bank,shouldnt that be "of".Now to the real srory,how could any1 be so mean?Lord have mercy...
ReplyDeleteThis is soo sad. I believe that ignorance is a major problem we are facing in naija! Women need to know their rights; the fact that you are married and submissive does not make you a slave / punching bag to your husband! Was surprised to see a comment questioning the girl's actions. no matter what would have transpired between them, he certainly does not have the right to lay his filthy hands on her! Also, im sure a lot of mothers will learn from this. If your daughter comes crying to you with blood shut eyes, then tell her to flee!!!!!! JUSTICE HAS GOT TO PREVAIL.
ReplyDeleteI just pity the poor child of this should I call it marriage? D girl wld probably be a year old now and would grow to find out that her father killed her mother. Na wa o!!! I just pray God grants her rest and is merciful to her in judgement
ReplyDeleteIt’s a pity battered women are often dumb to advice until tragedy that will cause pain to all their loved ones happens. Can anyone say there was no red flag, a clear warning for her to have left the man for good? Sure, there were red flags but they often turn deaf ears. Oh, yes, “for better, for worse and ‘til death do us part”? Listen, ladies, God hates divorce but He doesn’t say it will not happen. It’s not God’s choice but yours to remain in an abusive home. God hates divorce and marriage is not for you to be abused and battered. If you stay with an abusive man by choice it is definite death will do you part sooner at unripe age.
ReplyDeleteIt’s a pity battered women are often dumb to advice until tragedy that will cause pain to all their loved ones happens. Can anyone say there was no red flag, a clear warning for her to have left the man for good? Sure, there were red flags but they often turn deaf ears. Oh, yes, “for better, for worse and ‘til death do us part”? Listen, ladies, God hates divorce but He doesn’t say it will not happen. It’s not God’s choice but yours to remain in an abusive home. God hates divorce and marriage is not for you to be abused and battered. If you stay with an abusive man by choice it is definite death will do you part sooner at unripe age.
ReplyDeletepoor sush, u didn't know what u were getting yourself into, did u? pele
ReplyDeleteALERT, ALERT, ALERT!!
ReplyDeleteSomebody has deleted his Facebook Profile o. I still saw it this morning but it's gone (Arowolo Akolade L.).
LINDA, please let the world knows this. Somebody did it for him since he is supposed to be in police custody.
@Annon June 29, 2011 4:59 PM
ReplyDeleteIt is you who needs to take a chill pill and take a walk in the park. You sound like those bloody Naija men who get very angry once they hear a woman does not want to get married. I guess St Paul in the bible was a chronic bachelor too right? At the rate with which you Nigerian bastards beat, kill and maime your wives (In Nigeria and abroad), is it any wonder why some women want to stay single or to borrow your term remain "chronic spinsters?" It is better to remain a chronic spinster than have your life cut short by a stinking African male monkey with ego the size of a house.
It is clear that most Nigerians have no respect for the institution called marraige and that is why we hear about domestic violence every few weeks. I also pray this trend continues so that more women will wake up and decide not to get married. This has nothing to do with wanting to be independent. It has everything to do with the fact that most Nigerian men are abusive and being married to one is signing a death warrant!
The scam called marraige will eventually faze out and when it does, effing losers like you can go and play with yourself in traffic! You know fully well that many women have nothing to gain in marraige sincerely speaking that is why you are intimidated by the idea of women staying single. Look at the loser who killed this poor girl, he had no job so he could not even provide like the bible has instructed him to do. Most of you Naija men are a burden. You are good at nothing but scam, domestic violence and ego trips and give Nigeria a bad name wherever you are/go (home or abroad)Get a damn life!
Sush-----Youre retarded for your comment. That's a comment I'll expect from a man. Never blame the victim. Real men walk. They don't stab.
ReplyDeleteI have been following this story since it broke, and found myself on this page where I have read very interesting comments. I'm quite interested in what happened. This is a man who clearly had psychotic issues. Went on his fb page, and found he was an accountant who had what seems to be his own company. For a man with such qualifications and the entrepreneurial spirit, his not working to me appears to be by choice. He was a lazy man who was content to live off the sweat of his wife. But what could have triggered the violence on that fateful last day. Some clues from the comments on this page. As I said, I think he was psychotic. Answering her phone when her father called that Friday is an indication of his feeling in total control of his wife. He was arrogant enough to feel he could face down anyone, including the late Titi's father. Also, its interesting to note that her parents were expecting her in their home on that Friday. Did they not know it was her husbands birthday? Surely they must have known, which might support a notion that she was leaving and leaving finally. Maybe she broke that news to him and he snapped. Lost all control and went into a devils rage. Nothing though can ever excuse the level of depravity he went to if the stories of what he did to her are true. Finally, another angle I looked at is the Blackberry Messenger. One of the posters said he was a member of their church and someone they knew well. He apparently said he was in a forced marriage (which says she was pregnant when he married her). If that be the case, could it open up the possibility that she was having or toying with the idea of having some form of extra-marital relationship? Could it be that on this special day (his birthday) he discovered the ugly truth and being an insecure and lazy man, who was content to live off the sweat of his wife, he snapped because the 'good' life he knew was under threat. that is the only way I can explain the cutting off of the breast. It was a firm statement of ownership from a deluded man with serious mental health issues. Now she is gone and gone too soon. I wish he was at Panti police station. Apparently, for the right fee, they can arrange and do regularly arrange bail in the middle of the night where the suspect will be released into the hands of the victims family, so they can take him somewhere and do to him what he did to their daughter. He deserves that and even worse. Animal!
ReplyDelete@ Sush, what exactly is nagging? Complaining about things you dont like in your own household?Does a woman not have a right to voice out her opinion about her relationship?How dare you?HOW DARE YOU!If it was your mother or sister that this happened to, will you ask her dead body if she was nagging? You really are full of shit and stupidity. We need to respect our men but they dont need to respect us abi? Olodo, ato le!
ReplyDeletesee how his face looks like a killer!
ReplyDeleteMust chick marry by force??
Better to be single and alive oh!
It is unfortunate that a thing like this happened. It is most likely a situation that can be blamed on frustration and depression, especially when the bad character of the man became obvious after losing his job. These are often challenges for young men with great hopes and goals in live, especially finding himself being fed by a wife he probably had enough to take care of before. The signs are obvious of his later action - killing the wife and staying in the home - he is already a victim of drugs and insanity. People who intentionally commit murder usually plans the cover up, which he did not do. I pray he could pull through all this unfortunately. Much more we have so much to learn especially from the over-lovingness of the wife in not crying out at all. People ought to seek help when they find challenges that causes depression on their spouses. She ought to have called her family members and close friends of her husband about the changes and concern, and all efforts would have been deplored to save this dasdardly act. We should recollect the song of Ebenezar Obey - Ninu Obi eni ati Oko eni, e wo lose pataki to se koko. In all situation your family would never desert you willingly. God save our homes.
ReplyDeleteSush,you need advice for ur own personal life.Ur uncritical acceptance of male dominance is injurious to you.U need complete re-education & ur mind set needs a re orientation.It may surprise u that even if u worship ur man like a god,that does not make him LOVE u.He will only see u as a docile,mindless dummy to caress his over-bloated ego.But d day u start having a mind of ur own & expressing it ,u are in trouble cos ur dolity was d attraction to you in d first place. Of course,Titi was human & could av said or done things that wouldnt please her hubby sometimes, but that is normal in relatioships cos nobody is perfect.Even if Titi is pronounced guity on ur Sash's charges, shd she receive a penalty of death by mutilation?Not even a disloyal pet dog deserves to die Poor Titi's death.Iam worried sick about daughter, I pray that this terrible pedigree will not haunt her.
ReplyDelete@anonymous 8.41, pls how is d man in d wedding pics different from the man in d car? eye dey pain u? even those dat know d guy personally did not say so...abeg go borrow goggles n shush if u hav nothing to say...
ReplyDeleteWhat a way for man to show appreciation. We really need d holy spirit to help us with life's challenges because such events happen when one feels its by our might alone. Don't act religion, live Christianity!!
ReplyDeleteWe really need the help of the holy spirit to face life's challenges. Such events occur when we think "its by our might". Christianity isn't 'acting religion', it is a way of life. May God help us in this life.
ReplyDelete@ Shush... "you know women are weak towards men". nah boo YOU are weak towards YOUR man. your comment is pretty IGNORANT! ugh women like u disgust me. #THATISALLLLLLLL!
ReplyDeleteAnywayz, this whole thing just bothers me.. i am speechless really.
why are you guys replying this Such character with her badly sewn ankara outfit and low IQ! Get this into your thick stull, no one deserves to die for whatever reason!!!!
ReplyDeleteSUSH IS SOOOO RETARDED FOR THAT COMMENT, i'LL EXPECT THIS FROM A MAN....NEVER BLAME THE VICTIM....A REAL MAN WALKS AWY FROM A NAGGING WIFE...
ReplyDeleteThis comment is geared towards Sush.
ReplyDeleteI tried to comment on your blog but I couldn't since you won't let anons comment. Anyhoo, here is my comment to your latest post called awaken suicide bombers (That title is so disgusting)
hahaha very funny!
I can see you are quite a character. I just had to come here and see the brain you must have for you to have posted that silly comment on women not nagging so their husbands won't kill them.
So sucide bombing = voicing out = good change for Nigeria???
Wow you have real serious issues. I hope you don't have a boyfriend. If I were him, I'd be scared of you for you might try to kill me in my sleep.
You need serious help my dear.
lmfao! The new age of reality my ass
Bike get help before it is too late
@ ANONYMOUS WHO SAID THE MOST MESSED UP PEEPS HE HAS EVER SEEN IN NIGERIA ARE FANATICAL XTAINS. WHO ARE THE PEOPLE BLOWING UP AND KILLING INNOCENT PEOPLE ALL OVER THE WORLD. PLS OPEN YOUR EYES, YOUR BLINDNESS IS MINDBOGGLING.
ReplyDeletei typed a comment to reply this "sush" of a lady yesterday but deleted it and was waiting for someone to give her her expected reply she sounds like a lady who would be enslaved or feels less of her self in the name of love
ReplyDelete@LINDA- AROWOLO KOLADE L'S HAS BEEN DELETED OFF FACEBOOK HOW IN CHRISTS NAME DID THAT HAPPEN IS HE NOT TO IN POLICE CUSTODY? again people should remove OWO AYE from this this dude was in his right mind and as analysed by my family yesternite THE SAD THING IS THIS DUDE MIGHT WALK AWAY A FREE MAN IF HE GETS A GOOD LAWYER AND THEY ARGUE IT OUT THAT THE GUY IS MENTALLY UNSTABLE,SMH for this country
Anonymous 7.40, are u for real. as in seriously. igbo origin? u r so so stupid
ReplyDeleteNNa na wa o,!!! Usually its alicia who gets all the bashing on LIB but it seems to be Sush today. well 1. there are always 2 sides to every story. Just a pity titi isnt here to say her side. 2. She never deserved this kinda death, especially from someone who claimed he loved her. May she rest in peace and may he get wht he truly deserves
ReplyDeleteI can see lots of Orowolos and Titi's on this thread. People do you have brains at all? Or could it just be ur inability to process and comprehend info. That was mere analysis from Sushi - in her own opinion. She did condemn the act, she never condoned it!! She was only being objective, and at the same time admonishing women. Yes, We acknowledge that no height of wrong deed on the part of Titi is enough to slay her. But as people who God have bestowed with ability to think and reason logically, Sushi meant to say that so much must have transpired between the couple which Titi may not entirely be blamefree. So how is she in the wrong here? What did she not say right that earned her all the abusive comments on this threat. Is she wrong because she decided to stand out from the crowd of hypocrites that have infested this thread? So many of you would probably do worst...if there is anything worst than this. Stop feigning what u probably are not. Orowolo committed heinous evil before God and before man and will face the full wrath of the law. No one has condoned this evil!!...not even Sushi. Just for the record, I do not know Sushi from Adam. I think it is smart to be objective and analytical of incidents, it does is help to forestall reoccurrence
ReplyDeleteMs or Mrs. Sush, you must be high for what you said. This is a dude that tried committing suicide in secondary school by drinking bleach (FGC Ijanikin) and got expelled from the same school. This guy was not ok and his other conditions compounded his "not-ok-ness" so forget the respect talk you are talking about
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone else think he might have used her for rituals? He had financial problems, you know...And most money ritual killers usually dismember the parts of their victim's body...
ReplyDeleteNa wah!
As in -- I don't know what to say. This is very devastating. How can a human being do such a thing. It is not our custom as Nigerians to engage in such atrocious act. God only knows what happened. Man can't judge but i will say "Let justice prevail". RIP Titi.
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad.....we can go on and on to criticize the guy but this will never bring back Titilayo(a beautiful lady filled with promising future) but i still say it that this is beyond ordinary.....how can you kill someone who is your companion ,not just that ...u still went ahead to dismembered her body....we wrestle not against the flesh but against unforseen spirit......ladies,i think we need to give more time for our spiritual life,let's do more of prayer.....it is well with all of us.
ReplyDeleteSush..you are in serious need of help both emotionally and psychologically. So you are saying another human deserves to be killed just because they nag...marriage is not by force oh, the man could have walked, he could have even married the "so-called " girlfriend, this is Nigeria, polygamy isn't frowned upon. why take another wife....
ReplyDeletei advise that you changesuffered immensely, your warped ideology that a man is a god. He is a human being and has the same rights as a woman. he was not put to dominate women. God said man will ahve dominion over animals, not women..or do you have your bible turned upseide down..biattchhh!
the woman suffered immensely, do you know what it means to have your breasts cut off and stabbed in the face, try cutting off your finger and see how painful it is..and you can sit there and type this crap.
may you never have daughters cos its someone like you that will encourage her husband to sleep with his daughters and allow your daughters to marry retards..cos you think a man has the right to hit a woman...
foolish illiterate...
omo oshi buruku!
this is really sad.....nobody no matter what deserves to die like this,who else can one trust,if someone you claim to be your companion can stab and dismembered your body....this is really terrible...we can actually go on and on to criticize and debuke Akolade but this will not and will never bring back Titilay0(a young beautiful lady with a promising future)..this is more than ordinary and we must know that we wrestle not against the flesh...this is more spiritual...it is absurd....how can anyman do this...please ladies let's do more of prayers ,more of chat with our creator ...THIS IS THE TIME TO BE MORE ACTIVE IN OUR SPIRITUAL LIFE.
ReplyDeleteplease let's forgive sush,please let's just forgive her...
ReplyDeleteRIRI - Mehn ... you have been to harsh on your words to SUSH. It was simply her opinion she gave. Let's and respect other peoples opinion. What we can aim to do is to encourage eachother with our knowledge and experience.
ReplyDeleteAll the personal attacks and insults heaped on SUSH by many folks here just for offering an objective perspective that doesn't suit their emotional outrage reveals a lot of the flaws that we as a people consistently display across the country. Most Nigerians can't stand dissenting views.
ReplyDeleteFolks, if you don't like her views, feel free to objectively counter her opinions but not her person.
And we wonder why our politicians goes to NASS and start bickering and fighting each other over meaningless personal and egotistical drivels instead of attending to the pressing issues facing the nation. WAKE UP PEOPLE.
This guy had issues from way back in secondary school.We knew him as lookman then.He actually tried to kill himself by drinking bleach in Ijanikin(FGC).This is too sad!
ReplyDelete@ Sush, next time you think before you open your mouth.
u all are funny, thats why we'll never improve in thsi country. i'm talking of a way forward n u guys r still nagging on what has happened. Its obvious some of u are worse than this guy with ur opinion cos i'm sur if u had a gun or a knife u'll butcher me like he did his wife. as the bible says remove the spec from ur eyes we are all capable of this giving the wrong circumstancen attitude. that's all i'm saying. dont push someone to do this to u. yes she mite be loving n sweet but did u all know wat transpired dt day? pls look b4 u leap. n if i must remind u, i'm entitled to my opinion jst lik u so pls...let me be! Well, as i always say, this is the nigerian factor-trying to push blames n all. If u see snake will u go play with it? havent u heard stories? i knw even with this titi story some of he foolish babes dat commented today will still marry an abusive man bcos u r quick to judge than assimilate.
ReplyDeleteit is so sad that something like this has happened,before great measures are taken against violence towards women.i cant help but wonder what could have been going on in his mind when he was stabbing and dissecting her.He must have allowed his anger to stew for so long,and allowed the Devil to possess his soul.may the Lord help us all.
ReplyDeletetanks monday midnite for d sensible comment.
ReplyDeleteShush, ngwanu, speak up again now......... defend those crazy comments u were makin'. ANUOFIA!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe truth is simple.....NO MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO TAKE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING'S LIFE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. PERIOD!!!!
So wat if the woman was nagging him? The least he could've done is to walk out if he can't bear the nagging.
And pls i dnt blame d victim nor do i condemn d man. i am NOT GOD! i leave it to him to judge. all i'm saying is we all need to be carefull. it happens even amongst friends wen somone has a hot temper, even amongst siblings. jst cos this came out dnt mean its not happening. pls u all with stupid comments, gow a brain n understand wat am saying plus wat sensible peeps in dis grp hav said. u can never tell if he wud kill u or not jst lik wen u meet robbers, its jst by d grace of GOD so dnt evn put urself in d situation. STEP OUT OF THE MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP BEFORE ITS TOO LATE. no one really plans o kill anyone until it happens.
ReplyDeleteSush shut up!! You are going to be the next victim!!!
ReplyDeleteI am so so pained!! first let's let Sush be. she voiced her opinion.....
ReplyDeletewe need to get away from the mentality that being married and staying married is the ultimate. sometimes it gets sour....and when you have tried to work things out...please leave if it doesn't get any better. my mother says it's only the dead that are not talked or gossiped about. if u leave pple will talk, if u stay they will talk so y not do what is right for u .........i am sure Titi went back to that marriage cos she was told 'u must endure for ur child' she has endured to death!
i will not talk about her husband,...there is nothing to say. my heart goes out to the little angel they had tomorrow....someone will oneday taunt her with this.....
Please let us pray for the child and her family.......it is well.
Well said Noja... My thoughts somewhat...
ReplyDeleteGreat insight from the Unknown Genie...this guy had been crazy for a while...
Sad thing is, there are millions (this is no hyperbole) of mentally unstable Nigerians walking the streets. Unfortunately, we're only just getting started exhibiting the effects of years of...(lost for adjectives to describe the moral and economic decadence afflicting this country).
Brace yourself for more...
At the risk of being attacked by many living in either ignorance or denial, I've believed - for the last couple of years -that Nigeria is at WAR; and this is not just about Boko Haram or the Niger-Delta...
It will (has started already) manifest in a a growing number of disillusioned youth with no hope to cling on to, taking on the State which has lost it's essence and the ability to protect, not only it's citizens, but itself...
Brace yourself...
@sush - infact u are a disgrace to womanhood. and my prayer for you this day is that, the next time u argue with a man be he yr boyfriend or husband, may he hack u to death so u and yr family will know the pain titi must have gone thru in the past 3 years. good home training my foot!!!!!!!!!!!!!. linda u must post this ooooo. that girl needs to shut up!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSush, u re as jobless as Arowolo, u need a review at yaba left,stupid girl.......
ReplyDeleteI think every woman should learn to defend herself...a lot of bad things happen to women in this country and they cannot protect themselves.....so many women have died in their sleep not because it was a natural death ot 'spiritual attack' but their husbands used a pillow on them in the middle of the night...and no autopsy was carried out..(that one is another story)...even women with abusive partners, once you have decided to leave them, please BE WISE!!Do not under any circumstances visit them ALONE, so many women have been killed doing this...Please stop criticizing sush, read her words again and understand them, most of you are misinterpreting her words!!! The man was a beast and I ouldnt be surprised if he intended to use his ife for money rituals...He should not be spared..Please every woman whether married or single needs to realize that a marriage or relationship especially an abusive one is not worth dying for...because once you are dead, nothing can bring you back...May God see the deceased's family through this horrible period..
ReplyDelete@sush no matter how much you are trying to sugar coat it,what you are saying in a nut shell is its ok for a man to stab,kill his wife when she pushes him to the wall..you really need you head examined.
ReplyDeletesouthpaw i totally agree with you,this is just the beginning,i fear that soon we may start having serial murderers and rapists and what-nots.its actually a scary thought,the violence from more developed countries is slowly permitting our country,and i fear we dont have the capacity to bear it.we need to look toGod only He can help us.
ReplyDelete@Sush....sweet heart i am sure u expected this out burst.....in my view u aired your opinion. perhaps this particular situation was not the place nor time....indeed it is true that some of the women who commented here will go ahead in the name of 'love' and marry abusive men....in the name of 'don't want to end up on the shelf' marry the obviously wrong man...
ReplyDeletei am a single parent of a beautiful girl.....the father has married another woman who has turned out childless. he didn't marry me as he said and i quote 'u planned the pregnancy as a trap'. i have despite all attached stigma looked after my angel on my own ...she turns 9 on Xmas day. now this man has come with emotional blackmails which believe me i am not even listening to.... 1. he is not sure the child is his. i should let her come and stay with him so he can do DNA test.2. he does not owe me or a child he is not sure is his any responsibility...i just dey look am o! all the 'baba lo ni omo' no enter my ear at all!!
y???? where was he all thru my 9 months, delivery, running from work to daycare? would he be here now if his wife had issues?
Ladies....what Sush is saying is really simple....look, listen, watch and most of all open your eyes very very wide before you jump on the wagon!!
a man who can ignore me thru my pregnancy etc, can throw me out at anytime cos it's obvious i was not a significant factor. LET'S BE HONEST WITH OURSELVES!!
dat guy will never progress4 wat hev did 2 dis lady
ReplyDeletePlease where on earth or how did sush blame the victim?
ReplyDeleteEnglish dey worry all of una wey dey vex for the babe o
free her biko shes entitled to her opinion no need to be cursing her out.
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@sush
am I the only one here that understands your point of view?
I married a man that literally cant hurt a fly
I was a nag from the pit of the belly of hell
and my husband hit me ,the day he slapped me it jolted me into concsiousness
I realised that if I am not careful he could kill me
Its simple! women watch your tongue
I kept saying "I want to know what this man can do"
everything Ive ever done seems cool he just takes it and walks away
I gave him a mouthful(many things even I cant believe I said)
I hit him and slapped him and emasculated him with my words and then he slapped me and then I saw the look on his face he could've killed me
all you female empowerment and women emancipation have come again
watch your tongues and attitude women
that said I believe this man is possessed
its one thing to kill
but to butcher her ......
damn he must've been under some serious rage
sush i know you are trying to be objective and i dont begrudge you that,but have you considered some cases where the woman is the perfect wife,and doesnt nag at all,instead she prays for her husband,gives him money,respects him and doesnt make him feel less than he is,but the guy isnt satisfied?
ReplyDeletedont say its not possible,it is!
he beats her blue and black and she still prays for him never cussing him or raising her voice against him.
so my dear sush,the man allowed his anger to over shadow his common sense.
even if the woman was a nagging woman,he sholud have just walked away when she started to abuse him.but u forgot that he not only stabbed her,he MUTILATED her body,if you ever readbooks about such things u would know that signifies intense hatred for the woman,so nagging or not,NO woman deserves such a treatment.
Okay!!! enough of the personal attack on SUSH. She didn't kill the woman. She is just voicing out her opinion. Ha ba - My assumption is the blog is to voice out your personal opinion not to condemn other people's opinion. Not that i totally agree with SUSH but it's still her opinion still. Rather than lash out at SUSH, share your experiences and knowledge on such issues like ANONYMOUS has been doing. My people, how can we start mitigating these issues before they become unbearable. That guy didn't have the right to take another man's life but as a lesson learned, let us all be careful of ourselves not lettings ourselves be pushed to the wall where we do things we will regret. I'm sure that guy will regret his actions. If only he had cautioned himself and left the house, none of this would have happened. Again, God bless the dead. If only Titi had restored her love sight, she would have seen the future hence leaving before it's too late. We all need to ask God for wisdom, knowledge and understanding - most especially the spirit of decernment in order to identify things before they happen.
ReplyDeleteMy little sister is married to a man who is emotionally abusive but she doesn't see it! Not up to 6 months into the marriage and my family and I have had to settle their little squabbles many times. We all warned her and are still telling her it's not too late to leave. She seems to be concerned about what people will think. My parents don't mind having her at home and will take her back without thinking twice so I don't know what her problem is.
ReplyDeleteI was hoping that this story would open her eyes but the problem is she doesn't even recognise the abuse. I once emailed her a list of signs to watch out for in order to spot an abusive person but to her if he's not physically abusive then it's not abuse! He fabricates stories about her and tells everyone around her, threatens to divorce her, (They got married 10 months after meeting and have known each other for a total of 16 months) and gets angry over every little thing. It's very sad to watch.
He hasn't hit her yet but everyone seems to be worried that that is the next level of abuse she'll be experiencing. Everyone but her.
it is very easy to make him pay dearly for his crime. No Law issues for this. Just put him in an ion cage and be cutting off 1 finger every day. He is the right man of devil not my God.
ReplyDeletepls which state is dis guy frm?im almost so sure dat he is frm ekiti state
ReplyDeleteesse said.
ReplyDeletethis is a seroius issue, not a joking matter.whelther Sush or what ever. on no account should any man or women pick up a knife a kill his fellow human being for the sake of insult.
this blame goes to the ladies that always shouts for love, when they know that word love does not exist anywhere. please we have to be very careful
Its so sad that Titi ended like this. I nearly lost my life 7yrs ago but I thank God I made it out alive. I've been taking care of my 3 children since then. Its nt easy o but it is better than been dead.
ReplyDeletethere is no reason for beating a woman, nagging or no nagging. If the man want an invisible wife, he should get one from the village... i.e without any form of education or exposure... i assure you that they turn out to be the worst.
ReplyDeleteThis man in question is the devils incarnate and extremely insecure. First he descends as low as raising his hands against his wife and after which, he now forgets a knife in her. May God punish him, in fact, thunder fire him.How can he do that? How many women will stay after a man looses his job.. ?
Please no more oyinbo English... the summary, the man is evil and extremely low in all manners of morals available on earth. i pray that he rots in jail.
So pathetic indeed...a wife who could split her salary just to make her hubby happy and she even paid rent to the tune of 1.3m has proved to be a woman who can stand by her husby even in sticky waters...,,the truth is MEN ARE INSATIABLE,,,,she should have walked out of that marriage but am sure she was considering the topic"WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY if i walk away?"....now that she died in the process of coping with the devil himself,,the question now is WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?many times we ladies stick out our neck to endure with some sort of useless men all because we dont want people to talk,yet we jeopardize our happiness....its not compulsory to be married or remain married,,if the environment isnt suitable to sustain life,,,walk out before it eventually sustains death..may her soul R.I.P and to the man..@Sush,are u human at all??what amount of nags should justify dis inhuman act?If Titi was ur sister,guess u would have made the same comments....be real,,girl....
ReplyDeleteWives, ladies, mothers, WATCH AND PRAY and i say it again WATCH AND PRAY, such acts are well concluded before the doer realizes it. Watch and pray, trust in God only. God didn’t ask you to trust your husband/wife. looking up to Jesus to make all things well, but if he touches you RUN for your life, You can pray for him outside, Finally, babes go to school-Try!! and be economically empowered oooo!!!
ReplyDeleteIt so so sad hearing dis story infact my hrt is heavy ...... I cant jst belive dis but it has happen ...... May her soul rest in PEACE .... But dat man is evil n wicked ...... D police should do dere work n if d man's family hide him as said, den dey must face d LAW ..... My pity now is on d daughter....
ReplyDeleteThis is such a pathetic story and sad indeed! May God help the families go through what must be a terribly difficult time.
ReplyDeleteTo stress this point as others have;
For the love of God, any woman in an abusive relationship should please LEAVE first before anything else.
Finally I have to say that I totally agree with Monday Midnite...while I also disagree with the comments made by Sush, it is even more appalling how immature and bitter many of you come across with the insults and caustic statements simply because you don't agree with someone's comments.
Who the hell are you guys to pass judgement on her person? If God unveiled everybody's garments at the same time, it would surprise us what we would all see. GROW UP PEOPLE!! SMH
In order for women to feel encouraged to leave abusive relationships our society, where a woman is presumed to have little or no value unless she has a husband, has to change. The stigma attached to single and divorced women has to be removed and there has to be a support system for people when they leave abusive relationships.
ReplyDeleteWhat this man did to his wife is horrifying and sickening, I can’t imagine the pain and horror she must have felt whilst being stabbed multiple times, especially in the face and neck. But what are we going to do about it? If all we’re going to do is gasp at the horror and express our condolences to Titi’s family then she died for nothing. Her husband may be sent to jail or killed for his crimes but that will not bring her back. So what are we going to do to prevent it from happening again???
We can each make a change in our immediate environments. If you know a man or woman who is abusive towards their partner/children, encourage them to get help with dealing with their anger. If you know of anyone who is being abused, encourage them to leave that situation and SUPPORT THEM. Women often stay in dysfunctional relationships for fear of ‘what people will say’. After eating chicken and rice at your wedding party, your guests will go to their own homes and it is YOU who has to live with your chosen partner. YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE UNLESS THEY CHOOSE TO CHANGE THEMSELVES. Like people have said, open your eyes, ears, brain…and make sure you read the signs before you jump into a marriage. Just because all your mates are getting married doesn’t mean that you should marry the next ragamuffin that comes along just to belong. Everyone’s time is different. Marriage is supposed to be enjoyable, not a life sentence!! If people talk about you today, tomorrow they’ll get bored and move on to another topic. NOBODY IS GOING TO GIVE YOU A MEDAL FOR STAYING IN AN UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIP. We each have only one life to live, so we should make to most of it. May we not end up in the wrong place at the wrong time nor with the wrong person.
i always find things like this funny...i dont know his church, but there is a popular church that will tell u to sticker to a killer spouse until u die. when a man continues to beat his wife or a woman continues to cheat on her husband, they will say he is an infidel if any party divorces.
ReplyDeletei dont trust the so called christians in Nigeria....they are worse than murderers (apologies to the good ones).
if she had left, she would have kept her life and make heaven (probably). in this church i refer, if u divorce, u will be told that you are going to hell fire...even when the guy wanna kill you.
many pastors beat their wives
@Sush,,how do u define nag???wen a woman keeps complaining about the same shit over and over again,,men will say "she nags a lot",,,must women keep quiet in marriage and not have her opinions respected at all??must women always be made victims in marriage?if dis is the mentality u have and u are married,,then u are slave in ur own home,,thats the bitter truth and from what i can say about u now,,u cant speak ur mind to ur partner out of fear of been beaten up or butchered like Titi.....I pity u,,Wives are helpmeet to dia husbands not slaves,,,so d bible teaches...
ReplyDeleteyou all shld get of sush's back. she has said it as it is. A soft answer turns away wrath.some folks just can not manage their temper and if you know you have married such a man you have to be extra careful and extra wise. please stop trying to make the wife a martyr, it takes two to fight and once a fight starts its consequences can be deadly, any women that allows room for her physical abuse is an idiot. once is too much. as a man i definitely will neva argue with a soldier coz i know wht the consequences may be so why once u have identified your hubby as a brute should you not manage him accordingly. only a complete lunatic will hit a non-verbal docile gentle wife. if you are fortunate to have married a gentleman please exercise freely your freedom of expression if not abeg respect yourself. the question i ask is this..who gets the black eye, the split lip,the broken bones..who then should have more sense? May God take care of the little girl.
ReplyDeleteOkay!!! enough of the personal attack on SUSH. She didn't kill the woman. She is just voicing out her opinion. Ha ba - My assumption is the blog is to voice out your personal opinion not to condemn other people's opinion. Not that i totally agree with SUSH but it's still her opinion still. Rather than lash out at SUSH, share your experiences and knowledge on such issues like ANONYMOUS has been doing. My people, how can we start mitigating these issues before they become unbearable. That guy didn't have the right to take another man's life but as a lesson learned, let us all be careful of ourselves not lettings ourselves be pushed to the wall where we do things we will regret. I'm sure that guy will regret his actions. If only he had cautioned himself and left the house, none of this would have happened. Again, God bless the dead. If only Titi had restored her blind-love sight, she would have seen the future hence leaving before it's too late. We all need to ask God for wisdom, knowledge and understanding - most especially the spirit of decernment in order to identify things before they happen.
ReplyDelete@ ANonymous 12:26, i dont think you read the first part of Sush's comment
ReplyDeleteHi everyone, I am not here to buy into our different arguments but to draw our attention to a few points.
ReplyDelete1. Violence Against anybody is a crime, it becomes a double crime when it is committed against a vulnerable person.
2. an injustice to one is an injustice to all.
On this premise I want to call on everyone who has access to this platform to make a decision to do the following:
1. Leave the comfort of our PCs, BB's and I phones and step out in the open to demand for justice using this as a case in point. If it happened to Titi today, it could be any one else tomorrow, your friend, family member or even you.
2. Stop this patronizing attitude, where we fail to tell ourselves the truth about our observations especially when it involves marriage and relationships.
How many of us will be willing to walk the streets of Lagos and possibly Abuja to demand for justice and use this opportunity to call for the passage of enabling legislation to protect men, women and children and above all to prevent further occurrences of this type of mishap.
I long for a society that is devoid of this or any form of barbaric violence against persons and women in particular. We should be mindful of the fact that posterity will judge us if we fail to hand over a violence free society to generations yet unborn.
@Sush.. I know that some ladies can be rude, but what can someone possibly say that would deserve being not only beaten but also stabbed to death and chopped into pieces.
ReplyDeleteThere is no justification for your comment, just pray that you wont end up with someone that mad.
Personally I think you are a selfish person because if it was your own sister that was murdered I know you wont say that. You probably have it smooth and think that it is because you are perfect.
Sush...i can't believe you are still flapping your gums...please go and hide ur face in shame. you are a disgrace of a female!
ReplyDeleteI have never commented on this blog but i had to make an exception for sush.
ReplyDelete@ sush, i do hope you arent serious about your first post because if you are, i recommend you get proper counselling in order redirect your thoughts and life. I am truly indeed sorry for you.
yes he want to use her for money,
ReplyDeleteand he is so stupid for doing that to his wife (wedded)
Noja put down that remote. This is not CSI biko.
ReplyDeleteThere is no excuse for sush's comment. There is a time and place for everything. Without knowing the facts of this particular case, you can't just come here and yarn about nagging wives. It's is totally disrespectful. I wish u could see that truth with all the home training u claim to have. It's people like u that hear about a late 30s single and launch into a story about pride. Yet u don't know the real reason in that situation.
One thing left out of your home training is tact and its a form of pride that makes u think ur the best home trained in the world.
This issue even goes beyond domestic abuse to the mental instability that we sweep under the carpet in Nigeria. This man could have as well killed his sister if he bore such deep seated resentment towards her. Didn't a nigerian girl kill her mum years back. It's mental instability that can be medically addressed.
There are men who never laid a finger on their wife yet they smother her with pillow one night. No autopsy, he remarries. Likewise women who steadily poison their husband. Point I'm trying to make is that it goes beyond man woman dynamics. It's possible that in his unhinged state, he could have hurt any neighbor that blocked his way.
Lesson if you see any signs of violence in anyone u have a relationship with, whether husband, wife, friend, colleague, please do your best to protect yourself.
If we are to believe the stories about him drinking bleach in sec sch, then I wonder if his wife knew. Of course since we all watch CSI, I wouldn't be surprised if he had an ingenous defense team planting comments to support an insanity plea.
Very very sad. The Man is an animal! God punish him. As for SUSH... It's ignorance that caused the initial comments. I pray for you SUSH that when you finally get married you don't experience being pummeled.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Anonymous June 29, 1.36pm, our mothers are partly to blame. They encourage abused girls to go on in such relationships just to save face.
The whole society needs to stand up against domestic violence. Ask questions, if we notice slightly black eyes, let us probe (you never know, you may be doing something to save the future of your daughter, your sister, your mother).
Men encourage themselves now at beer parlours etc to slap around their wives even if she does no wrong, so they don't feel bad doing it. It has become terrible. Men who do not beat their wives should mentor those they know who do such.
Linda please use the medium you have to protest violently against this. You will sow good into your own marriage and the lives of your children by doing that. May the Lord grant you wisdom and grace in Jesus name. Amen.
This guy would have successful dismembered her and no one would know. Imagine! He would have been claiming she was missing or kidnapped. It was God that caught him and he couldn't go through with it. Try and imagine how many other women this has happened to and no one got to know.
THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL... let us not ignore it.
To every woman that is abused who is reading this. It is DIFFICULT as I am one myself. We NEED help. I am taking a new step today, and I hope you do too. The Lord will help us all.
Linda, you don try ooh. 172 comments and still counting. Half of them are tribal and ethnic abuses. Naija we hail thee
ReplyDeleteI think we all should remember that anger rests in the bosom of fools (Ecc 7:9)and this is what anger does in the life of a man. If u have any untreated anger, deal with it today
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