Not possible, feelings will get hurt. Even the one doing the breaking up, unless you are heartless. Just be as considerate as possible do it face to face even if it takes a while. If angry wait to calm down think it thru and do it pleasantly with all your points clearly stated as to why you are doing it. I could break up on the phone with someone if I can't deal any longer and am in a long distance relationship. But will still have a face to face closure when possible. I hope this makes sense, lol
Though you have to realize it's a process though or else you'll drop a bombshell. Remember you guys didn't get this close in a day so i think it's unfair to just drop the "Quit notice" like that.
This is how i do my own when i see it's not worth continuing...
I Let her know she doesn't need me and i don't need her. I start by saying "do you know what we need in life?"... GOD, fresh air, good health,a vision for life, water and shelter.
Every other thing or person, we can do without.(i repeat that at differnt times on different days)
I tell her gradually and get her to agree.Once she does, i plan to tell her 2days later that i'm tired and it'ain't gonna work.
On the D-day, in a friendly atmosphere, i extol her virtues and let her know she's a good person but....
Linda before I comment, pls tell me this doesn't concern you and/or Mr. F in any way? Anyway, the best way would be a heart to heart discussion between both parties. The fact that you are breaking up should not make you enemies. Talk about why you don't think it'll work... and most importantly, say the truth and don't hide anything - if you want to remain friends. There's no way, both parties will feel some hurt... that can't be avoided. I wish whoever is about to do this the best.
@tayo.this doesnt concern me and mr f in anyway.we are doing beta now than eva b4.i just want to have a mini forum on my blog where pple can exchange ideas, views, opinions on things that affect every one of us.
It is hard, well it is better to stop a relationship u dnt feel anymore, dan u faking the relationship, all dis while. I think dats going to hurt more. Simple say sweet heart(u can also go by his/her first name) i really dnt feel this relationship anymore, or ur main reason for breaking up, nd tell the person , u love him/her enough to be saying dis, dat u dnt want to end up cheating on him/her, so it is better to let go now.
sit them down and just do it, be as compassionate as possible,.. there is no point prolonging the inevitable. Life is too short.
ReplyDeleteNot possible, feelings will get hurt. Even the one doing the breaking up, unless you are heartless. Just be as considerate as possible do it face to face even if it takes a while. If angry wait to calm down think it thru and do it pleasantly with all your points clearly stated as to why you are doing it.
ReplyDeleteI could break up on the phone with someone if I can't deal any longer and am in a long distance relationship. But will still have a face to face closure when possible.
I hope this makes sense, lol
Just tell him the truth.
ReplyDeleteThough you have to realize it's a process though or else you'll drop a bombshell. Remember you guys didn't get this close in a day so i think it's unfair to just drop the "Quit notice" like that.
This is how i do my own when i see it's not worth continuing...
I Let her know she doesn't need me and i don't need her. I start by saying "do you know what we need in life?"... GOD, fresh air, good health,a vision for life, water and shelter.
Every other thing or person, we can do without.(i repeat that at differnt times on different days)
I tell her gradually and get her to agree.Once she does, i plan to tell her 2days later that i'm tired and it'ain't gonna work.
On the D-day, in a friendly atmosphere, i extol her virtues and let her know she's a good person but....
this way i dont get to damage her self-esteem.
nuff story!
all the best linda.
HURTING THAT PERSON IS INEVITABLE WHICH EVER WAY YOU DO IT EXCEPT IF HE/SHE HAD BEEN WAITING FOR THAT OPPORTUNITY TO MOVE ON TOO.
ReplyDeleteLinda before I comment, pls tell me this doesn't concern you and/or Mr. F in any way?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, the best way would be a heart to heart discussion between both parties. The fact that you are breaking up should not make you enemies. Talk about why you don't think it'll work... and most importantly, say the truth and don't hide anything - if you want to remain friends. There's no way, both parties will feel some hurt... that can't be avoided.
I wish whoever is about to do this the best.
@tayo.this doesnt concern me and mr f in anyway.we are doing beta now than eva b4.i just want to have a mini forum on my blog where pple can exchange ideas, views, opinions on things that affect every one of us.
ReplyDeleteif you dont love him anymore send him a text or an email.if you still love him, dont break his heart
ReplyDeletetell them... know at the back of your mind that the other partys' feelings will get hurt but there's no need to prolong issues...
ReplyDeleteNo comment! sorry. :)
ReplyDeletei just cald it quits with a girlfriend of 2 yrs.she's still threatening
ReplyDeleteIt is hard, well it is better to stop a relationship u dnt feel anymore, dan u faking the relationship, all dis while. I think dats going to hurt more. Simple say sweet heart(u can also go by his/her first name) i really dnt feel this relationship anymore, or ur main reason for breaking up, nd tell the person , u love him/her enough to be saying dis, dat u dnt want to end up cheating on him/her, so it is better to let go now.
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