Brother shares story & photos of his sister who died from domestic violence
I found this on Facebook. The young man shared it on his Facebook page warning other victims to tell someone and leave if they are in similar situation. His sister died leaving 4 kids behind. So sad!
“The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse.” #SaNoToDomesticViolence!
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said.. . I have always say it, if any man tries to man-handle my sister all in the name of marriage e go see me and hate me join.. RIP... . . ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Oh God... yet pple preach against divorce wen such tinz happen... If d victim dies nw, Dey'd b dia to pay d last respect... * * * Linda's 1st Daughter * * *
I wonder what some babes think or how they feel when they are being "hit" by thier man gosh! And the same man would beg for forgives after which, they are @ it again. Ladies get wisdom and acquire knowledge theirs no love with swollen eyes,nose,face maybe death. Rip babe.
Last saturday night my husband and I argued and next thing I Knew he starting shouting vehemently "I will kill you" repeatedly with his fist pointed at my forehead.i was scared and screamed my sisters name but she was asleep in her room. Eventhough he has never beaten me before he keeps threatening me. On monday morning I went to report at a Police station near the house. The DPO called him and cautioned him,he never believed I could report him. We have been living in peace since that day everybody mindful of their utterances. My twin babies (9 mnths old) need their mother so I'm not joking at all.
my dear if at all this ur story is true,u need to call ur husband and talk to him personally, there is no peace in ur house,what you are experiencing is the calm before the storm,ur husband probably hates u deeply now,and the peace u are talking about is a gulf that is going to continue to grow,talk to ur family and his family to settle ur issues properly so that love can reside in tour home again,and if it ain't working,I advice that u pack out and save ur self.l
He has never beaten u before. Which makes him at least an average decent guy.
You fail to tell us what you did to provoke such utterance from him. I bet you have been taunting and making his life a miserable hell in that house aswell as making him feel useless and powerless.
I dont in anyway condone domestic violence I hate it but it's wrong to paint men as the only culprit women abuse men to even to the extent of violence I ve seen a woman slap her husband on multiple occasions men die of hypertension and all just because his wife is horrible, Linda just because pride don't allow this men come doesn't mean men don't get abused too
I think often times some women fail to speak up not because they are afraid (a majority of people who are in abusive relationships are) but they keep quiet because they are ashamed to admit that their once rosy relationship ain't so anymore, that the perfect guy wasn't so perfect. Others keep hoping and praying that the situation will change and God would arrest these men but the truth of the matter is that they ought to run first and pray later, cos only a healthy person can live long enough to pray. Do not suffer in silence, do not mind your Pastors and Priest, leave that man. Pray for him in the comfort of your father's house.
THIS IS A LESSON FOR ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO FEEL YOU SHOULD STAY WITH A MAN REGARDLESS. SPECIALLY PEOPLE WHO SAY YOU SHOULD STAY FOR YOUR KIDS......SHE STAYED, NOW SHE IS DEAD. SHE LEFT HER KIDS WITHOUT WARNING. NOW HER KIDS WOULD LIVE AND GROW UP WITHOUT HER. .........NOW ISNT THAT SAD
BETTER FOR YOU TO LEAVE A BAD MAN AND STRUGGLE IF YOU HAVE TO....... LOOK AFTER YOUR KIDS AND THEY WILL GROW UP BETTER WITH THE HELP OF GOD RATHER THAN STAY AND BE MISERABLE AND MAYBE EVEN FACE DEATH FROM A USELESS MAN.
Good job @FearNigerdelta man. God bless you and keep you for your kids. But I'll also advise you restrain from arguing with him. When your discussion is getting out of hands, just be quite. God will help us all o. AMEN.
Men submit to God, they'll say no in their hearts BUT they foolishly believe a woman wether Godly or not MUST submit to them..even men of " god"( sex god) claim right to fornication, adultery, mental and sexual abuse etc, then what do you expect..?
One slap alone and am headed for the door mbok and if u come begging I will give u dat slap back! I pray we neva marry violent men but men who can kip dier cool n rada punch da bed, seatee or door n toilet seat or drive out or go for a walk! #MBOK#
THE SHOCKING TRUTH IS THAT WE ALL DO THIS BUT NOT DIRECTED TO OUR LOVED ONES. ANY TIME YOU HUMILIATE A PERSON BASED ON YOUR PHYSICAL STRENGTH, FINANCIAL POWER, CONNECTIONS ETC YOU ARE AS MUCH GUILTY AS THAT SCUMBAG WHO KILLED HIS WIFE. THE TRUTH IS, NOBODY CONFRONTS A MOVING TRAIN. SO WHEN YOU, A MOVING TRAIN CONFRONTS A MERE HUMAN, BE IT YOUR WIFE OR ANYBODY ELSE, YOU BECOME A BEAST.
Shame on men who beat their wives.. Bigger shame on single women who mke these men insensitive to the plight of their family especially their wives.. Statistics show that most men who have the effrontery to beat their wives are obviously seeing another women.. Biggest shame to such men at the end... MISS UNDERSTOOD *Linda well done o, keep eating my comments that has to do with your personality oooo but one day you'll look back and say "dat was deep"*
Some will still stay in an abusive r/ship for one reason or the other....d one that annoys me most is cos of some kind of hormone....mmttchheewW....they say there's a thin line b/w love and hate.....look for it and cross it if it's gonna keep u alive.....or like u block painful memories, block d damn thing.....whether emotional or physical abuse, run and dont look back...be u a man or woman
I'm in a abusive relationship too. I stay because I have no means financially to move on. I in the process of getting a job ans by God's grace a place of my own. Ppl look at me and ask why do I stay with an ugly and abusive man...the thing is when a pretty girl gives an ugly man a chance he will start to feel like a king and abuse the privilege.
I can't deal wit a violent man for one second
ReplyDeleteI pray God grant his family d fortitude to bear their loss.
DeleteGod is able
DeleteJust UNACCEPTABLE!!!!
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“The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse.” #SaNoToDomesticViolence!
DeleteI don't why someone will still stay and die all because of marriage and love.
DeleteRun from domestic violence o!
Dis is so sad, RIP 2 r
DeleteWe have too many of them in black skin.
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Some women no dey hear word na. They will stay there and want to die there cuz of what people might say. Such a stupid excuse!
DeleteEyah so sad!!
Deleteomg... so sad... www.Viewngr.com
ReplyDeleteDis is so sad
ReplyDeleteAbi now
DeleteHow sad
ReplyDeleteVerY verY SAD
DeleteThis is fucking heart breaking. Juz shoot that guy dead already.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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I have always say it, if any man tries to man-handle my sister all in the name of marriage e go see me and hate me join.. RIP...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
so sad.. speak out ladies let's stop dying in silence
ReplyDeleteToo bad.May God protect and guide the chidren she left behind.
ReplyDeleteI am speechless, and so cold during, and after reading dis post. Aha! Dis act is unacceptable, and domestic violence must b condemned.
ReplyDeleteOh God... yet pple preach against divorce wen such tinz happen... If d victim dies nw, Dey'd b dia to pay d last respect...
ReplyDelete* * * Linda's 1st Daughter * * *
Tough call, what kind of man hits a woman. #Coward
ReplyDeleteReally sad. May her soul rest in peace! Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteReally sad. May her soul rest in peace! Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteIf only women know that they are divas that impress not damsels in distress, no man will ever make us concubines to pain.
ReplyDeleteSome Wordplay.
DeleteImpressed.
She's among d sensible few in dis blog
DeleteUr comment are always educative*making women proud*
DeleteComments I mean
DeleteUr comment are always educative*making women proud*
DeleteGod save us
ReplyDeleteI wonder what some babes think or how they feel when they are being "hit" by thier man gosh! And the same man would beg for forgives after which, they are @ it again. Ladies get wisdom and acquire knowledge theirs no love with swollen eyes,nose,face maybe death. Rip babe.
ReplyDeleteI jst hate it wen men beat up dia wives. And heaven knws I jst cnt live wif such man..
ReplyDeleteLib freak
May her soul rip......i cant deal
ReplyDeleteIt's so sad. Shame on abusive men and women.
ReplyDeleteSome sad news that is sure to spoil my weekend.
ReplyDeleteSo sad.
Say NO to domestic violence. #marriageisnotadoordieaffair
ReplyDeleteIts not a do or die affair ohh y stay wen a man turns u to punching bag..
DeleteThis is so sad I just can't understand why some men choose to beat up the women they claimed they love dearly
ReplyDeleteSo sad! RIP.
ReplyDeleteand someone will say for better for worse..fuck for better for worse
ReplyDeleteAnd sum will say 'i'll endure becos of my kids' pls walk out if u find urself in such cos d kids will live their life if u die in such... dee
ReplyDeleteLast saturday night my husband and I argued and next thing I Knew he starting shouting vehemently "I will kill you" repeatedly with his fist pointed at my forehead.i was scared and screamed my sisters name but she was asleep in her room. Eventhough he has never beaten me before he keeps threatening me. On monday morning I went to report at a Police station near the house. The DPO called him and cautioned him,he never believed I could report him. We have been living in peace since that day everybody mindful of their utterances. My twin babies (9 mnths old) need their mother so I'm not joking at all.
ReplyDeleteGood r u dear... Nd Plz dnt drop ur guard. once a violent man is always one.... be cautious plz.
DeleteNice one jare, strong lady.
DeleteGood for you!
DeleteGood for you! Ladies, learn from this.
Deletemy dear if at all this ur story is true,u need to call ur husband and talk to him personally, there is no peace in ur house,what you are experiencing is the calm before the storm,ur husband probably hates u deeply now,and the peace u are talking about is a gulf that is going to continue to grow,talk to ur family and his family to settle ur issues properly so that love can reside in tour home again,and if it ain't working,I advice that u pack out and save ur self.l
DeleteHe has never beaten u before. Which makes him at least an average decent guy.
DeleteYou fail to tell us what you did to provoke such utterance from him. I bet you have been taunting and making his life a miserable hell in that house aswell as making him feel useless and powerless.
You got what was coming.
Women... pressing men`s buttons since 78BC
Wow that's a bold step woman cuz that's how it starts- raising of voice + issuing threats. Kudos
DeleteI dont in anyway condone domestic violence I hate it but it's wrong to paint men as the only culprit women abuse men to even to the extent of violence I ve seen a woman slap her husband on multiple occasions men die of hypertension and all just because his wife is horrible, Linda just because pride don't allow this men come doesn't mean men don't get abused too
ReplyDeleteWords sister. But I say no to wife beating.
DeleteBusy Fingers.
This is bad. I can't take it
ReplyDeleteWhat a short life and kids have to grow without their mom.. Shame on abusive men and women.
ReplyDeleteSo sad..
ReplyDeleteI think often times some women fail to speak up not because they are afraid (a majority of people who are in abusive relationships are) but they keep quiet because they are ashamed to admit that their once rosy relationship ain't so anymore, that the perfect guy wasn't so perfect. Others keep hoping and praying that the situation will change and God would arrest these men but the truth of the matter is that they ought to run first and pray later, cos only a healthy person can live long enough to pray.
ReplyDeleteDo not suffer in silence, do not mind your Pastors and Priest, leave that man. Pray for him in the comfort of your father's house.
THIS IS A LESSON FOR ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO FEEL YOU SHOULD STAY WITH A MAN REGARDLESS. SPECIALLY PEOPLE WHO SAY YOU SHOULD STAY FOR YOUR KIDS......SHE STAYED, NOW SHE IS DEAD. SHE LEFT HER KIDS WITHOUT WARNING. NOW HER KIDS WOULD LIVE AND GROW UP WITHOUT HER. .........NOW ISNT THAT SAD
ReplyDeleteBETTER FOR YOU TO LEAVE A BAD MAN AND STRUGGLE IF YOU HAVE TO....... LOOK AFTER YOUR KIDS AND THEY WILL GROW UP BETTER WITH THE HELP OF GOD RATHER THAN STAY AND BE MISERABLE AND MAYBE EVEN FACE DEATH FROM A USELESS MAN.
Oh no
ReplyDeleteRIP
Say no violence
SO SAD RIP
ReplyDeleteI was in an abusive relationship too but tank God for my life dat am out of it wit my children...some r lucky bt some her not Rip
ReplyDeleteNo to Domestic Violence
ReplyDeleteGood job @FearNigerdelta man. God bless you and keep you for your kids. But I'll also advise you restrain from arguing with him. When your discussion is getting out of hands, just be quite. God will help us all o. AMEN.
ReplyDeleteWomen say no to domestic abuse, if u say u want to stay bcos if ur children nd u get beaten d died in d process those children will suffer more.
ReplyDeleteReally hrt breaking..... So sry!
ReplyDeleteMen submit to God, they'll say no in their hearts BUT they foolishly believe a woman wether Godly or not MUST submit to them..even men of " god"( sex god) claim right to fornication, adultery, mental and sexual abuse etc, then what do you expect..?
ReplyDeleteThis domestic violence on women must stop is getting hotter every blessed day! May soul in peace amen. So sad she has to go this way
ReplyDeletekai! ds is so sad...some wont hear now,,,they will be callin it love ....wch kyn yeye rubbish love be dat, tcheeww
ReplyDeleteMISSVEE
say NO to domestic violence
ReplyDeleteOne slap alone and am headed for the door mbok and if u come begging I will give u dat slap back! I pray we neva marry violent men but men who can kip dier cool n rada punch da bed, seatee or door n toilet seat or drive out or go for a walk! #MBOK#
ReplyDeleteSay no to domestic violence
ReplyDeleteTHE SHOCKING TRUTH IS THAT WE ALL DO THIS BUT NOT DIRECTED TO OUR LOVED ONES. ANY TIME YOU HUMILIATE A PERSON BASED ON YOUR PHYSICAL STRENGTH, FINANCIAL POWER, CONNECTIONS ETC YOU ARE AS MUCH GUILTY AS THAT SCUMBAG WHO KILLED HIS WIFE. THE TRUTH IS, NOBODY CONFRONTS A MOVING TRAIN. SO WHEN YOU, A MOVING TRAIN CONFRONTS A MERE HUMAN, BE IT YOUR WIFE OR ANYBODY ELSE, YOU BECOME A BEAST.
ReplyDeleteShame on men who beat their wives.. Bigger shame on single women who mke these men insensitive to the plight of their family especially their wives.. Statistics show that most men who have the effrontery to beat their wives are obviously seeing another women.. Biggest shame to such men at the end... MISS UNDERSTOOD
ReplyDelete*Linda well done o, keep eating my comments that has to do with your personality oooo but one day you'll look back and say "dat was deep"*
Some will still stay in an abusive r/ship for one reason or the other....d one that annoys me most is cos of some kind of hormone....mmttchheewW....they say there's a thin line b/w love and hate.....look for it and cross it if it's gonna keep u alive.....or like u block painful memories, block d damn thing.....whether emotional or physical abuse, run and dont look back...be u a man or woman
ReplyDeleteEvil men are everywhere especially in this end time.ladies pls just look beyond a man physics and loaded pocket.
ReplyDeleteI'm in a abusive relationship too. I stay because I have no means financially to move on. I in the process of getting a job ans by God's grace a place of my own. Ppl look at me and ask why do I stay with an ugly and abusive man...the thing is when a pretty girl gives an ugly man a chance he will start to feel like a king and abuse the privilege.
ReplyDeletePlease leave that relationship. Peace is better than vain things any day
DeleteThe moment i sense domestic violence even if you are Dangote am offf , i wont take it.
ReplyDeleteFeeel 4 her fam shaaaaa coz I mean it was soooo unwarranted
ReplyDeleteHer hubby should be jailed for life.
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