Dear LIB readers: Is it wise to resign my oil & gas job and focus on my husband's biz?
From a female LIB reader
"My husband has just advised I resign my oil and gas job so I can focus
on a business he started years before we met and married. It is our
belief that every family should own at least one business of their own.
As much as I buy into that belief, I am hesitant to resign my oil and
gas job as I don't know whether it would be a wise decision for me as a
wife to abruptly just resign. Would it also be wise for me to insist
that we have a legal framework where we have equal ownership of the
company? Am thinking this would cause a friction between us. I'm also making a lot of money where I work now and I don't know what things will be like working with my husband. I really
need your advise.
If for any reason you decide to resign,please please and please let there be a legal agreement between the both of you to avoid stories that touch. But then again why does he want you to resign all of a sudden?
1) Is the business that big, that it would require both your contribution?
2) Is this business a going concern?
3) Would you be happy doing this business and what would be you role?
4) Income generated from the business would it be enough to cover household expenses and also have enough left for savings?
These questions and others needs to be addressed,before making a desicion like this.
If you decide to resign, just have your lawyer draw up ownership,employment and payment agreement. I know he his your husband and all and you need to trust him but we are talking business here so family/sentiments/personal issues should never be mixed with it because it causes friction in both.
Young woman, so you mean you dont have a mentor within or around your family that can give you a heart-to-heart advise on this matter? I believe when you and your spouse dotted the lines of marital vow page either before a Registrar or a clergy, you had both agreed to trust one another in all matter in every circumstance. So why are you exposing your very clean linen in the market when you have a rope to hang them within your compound? Is it a rash decision or you simply just want to show off? I believe your husband should be displeased with this development if he reads this or any of his friends gets to inform him about it. Anywhere, any time, all over the world, no one would dispute that the best employment is self employment. My friend, except you want to tell the world that you do not have confidence in your husband; you have no reason to even contemplate going to settle share cuts before a lawyer for you to tell him your mind. Drop this and go settle out things with the man who obviously has confidence in you to help manage the family business .
follow ur intuition... you are hesitant... is that not a sign abi?
It's his business and he should employ a manager. And during the weekends learn the business as well. Tell him when you are comfortable you know the business you will make a decision.. In the mean time, learn and save. Also make sure the legal documents reflect your name...
nna, i beg you, don't resign that job oh. I run a communications consulting business while my wife does a 9-5, i can't count how many times my wifes monthly earnings has bailed us out from things as little as Nepa Bill or Cerelac. Biz is good as when the money comes it comes but when it dries, it dries for a while. Your income can help your husband build his business, invest in it not quit to run it. Good luck
Don't try it. Even when the business is doing well. You need to get away from him because he will get tired of you n hang out with friends male /female. You might never get the change of interacting with friends. So going to work every day is very important, apart from monthly salary, you need to learn from interacting with colleague.
Well, I think you should seek expert opinion, about the feasibility of the business venture. Thereafter you can seek for legal advice. In all your doings get wisdom, and with wisdom get understanding.
It won't be wise to resign, I know ur duty as a wife us to support ur hubby, but look at it dis way, if d business goes through a rough time, like almost every business does sometimes, then u guys dont won't have any income to fall back to
Most people hold good paying 9-5 jobs to raise/save enough capital and build a good network of contacts to either start or support a private business. Unless you feel enough capital and/or contacts have been made, resignation may be unwise. Also, there is nothing wrong in being part or equal owner in a business with your spouse. Infact, your spouse should propose it in order to motivate you and encourage your participation in the business. This being said, you must however be tactful in proposing this so it doesn't rub off the wrong way. Just be 'matter-of-fact' about it. Goodluck.
Why should you resign? Can he pay you what you were earning in the oil and gas firm? Or are you going to be equal partner? Even if you are a part owner are you going to be able to build it up to what will satisfy you? Get him to answer these questions well before resigning. Jobs are not easy to get like that
Whatever you decide just make sure you safeguard your financial future and that of your children make sure any investments you jointly purchase are also in your name. Whatever you buy with your money must be in your name and your name only or your children's name. If you are to join the business then it should be professionally and legally done with legal paperwork to back up ownership before his brothers come and take everything should he die before you. These men cannot be trusted these days. I think your husband is jealous of your job and salary he wants to make you financially dependent on his business and him. Your future is secured in oil and gas while business go bankrupt all the time be wise. While still pondering your decision i hope you have tangible savings in a bank account with YOUR name. Stories I am hearing lately tell me that even the most educated successful Nigerian woman living in Nigeria is so bent onto holding onto the Mrs title that they make stupid financial decisions "just to keep peace" which they come to regret later be wise. Nigerian men and their families aka your in laws cannot be trusted even the most exposed of them be wise.
If you resign, you are fool. Don't mind that man, you will just become dependent on him. Shock will so hit you that you won't believe it. please don't resign your job, if your husband has a complex as I can sense, he should deal with it. Women please be empowered.
To the first olodo commenter "Dear Lib readers has been a feature here wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy wayyyyyyyyyyyyy as in almost two three years before Stella came here with her advice narratives abeg park well jor!
Please dont resign except you want to regret ur actions, please keep your job, make money and set up a system that will make the business run, Dangote has big businesses and never has to be around b4 the biz can work, believe me im talking from experience, ive been married for past 8 years ,im currently runing my biz for 2 years now with my spouse,I repeat, keep your job, develop systems, start the biz .best of luck, if u want us to talk more, u can reach me on mbeautyharvest@gmail.com ill give you a full lowdown on how to manage the situation with your husband.
Please dont resign except you want to regret ur actions, please keep your job, make money and set up a system that will make the business run, Dangote has big businesses and never has to be around b4 the biz can work, believe me im talking from experience, ive been married for past 8 years ,im currently runing my biz for 2 years now with my spouse,I repeat, keep your job, develop systems, start the biz .best of luck, if u want us to talk more, u can reach me on mbeautyharvest@gmail.com ill give you a full lowdown on how to manage the situation with your husband.
Pls dont resign now, Let ur husband's biz grow bigger first. The bis should reach the point where u will be needed seriously. Also u ppl should have legal backup to proof that u are a co-owner of the company
I don't think you should,its usually a bad idea atimes to mix family and business, I will only say u should chip in anyway u can,advise on projects or financially but pls don't resign o...
This is coming from someone who once worked in the oil and gas sector. DO NOT RESIGN YOUR JOB. A personal business will always run into hitches at some point and your husband will be glad you have an alternative source of income. Even if the business makes millions now, do not throw away a career that you built independent of your husband. While I wish you the best in your married life, always remember that marriages are not guaranteed to last forever. A business that is founded on marriage is only as strong but not any stronger than the marriage. So you should not throw away your fall-back plan should your marriage run into hitches tomorrow. If your husband needs help, he can recruit professionals to assist him in the business, while you concentrate on the career you have slaved for all your life to get to. If your husband insists you resign, then you may want to reconsider that marriage. Also remember that an oil and gas job in Nigeria is one of the easiest jobs you will get anywhere in the world. Again, this is coming from someone who has first hand experience.
ok,dats a gud one,b an obedient wife ok?,emm,wots d name of d oil company nd location so dat wen u resign wil apply sharperly nd de wont say no vacancy as usual cos wil just tel dem a frnd of mine just resigned ,plz leme knw,tnx,lol
Some of these " ill adviced" advisers.. ..@anon 9.32.....smh.... Obviously you consider her job more important than her marriage right???... And instead of her resigning from her job she should resign from her marriage???? Lawd! ....some pipo sef!
Dear poster, money is not everything...atimes a wife can defer to the wishes of her husband for peace to reign and the home to move forward......it has happened before and it will still happen!!!
Pray about it, sitdown and have a heart to heart discussion with your hubby and have faith that whichever direction the both of you agree to take will turn out for good!
I repeat, IGNORE advice from people like anon 9.32....who value jobs more than the happiness of their homes.......it is a recipe for divorce... Thats all!
Depends on the Job you are resigning for? I wouldn't advice you to leave oil and gas for what is not worth it, besides, why does it sound cool describing what you do for work and can't what he does! You sha no go dey follow am dey''bomb site'' lol..BJF
Reading some comments here, I come to understand that there's no trust in marriage any more and that real love doesn't exist in many marriages today, its quite unfortunite, women re now more interested in their career, husbands are now substitute to them, this is something to worry about,cos we have so many broken homes today. Its good to be a career woman but not at d expense of ur home, the funny part is that, when a woman is looking for husband, it will be like her world has finished, but once she gets 1, she'll want to treat him like a substitute. My only advice in this case is that, u should know the kind of man u marry, wht prompted him to say that?does he have a good intention for saying that?hw close are u with ur husband? Some people are husband and wife, but are not friends. And also check whether the biz worth it or not. From Mr Eva
When hungry beat una for sometime before the business go get opportunity take pick up, you go dey resentful, then una go divorce. Any proceeds from the business when go reach your hand (even if una sign paper now) nor go full your eye. Then you go dey disturb your children ear when dem don grow up, of how their papa take wicked!
DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT! You will be shocked your husband will change when you resign since you have to beg him for money. Being independent is key and earns you respect. Face your oil and gas job please. Do not give up anything for any man especially your career.
My sister dnt try it ooooo. Men can change @ any given time & u'll be on ur own with regrets. Then he'll tell you his d head of d home and he makes all decision, u dnt have a say.
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Did he(ur husband) ask u 2 resign nd bcum huz wife? Offcuss nt he only wnt 2 knw more abt the family business nd i see dat as a great idea, u neva can tell wht will happen d nxt minute. So 2 me i think is worth trying u shuldn't be a novice in ur family business jst as i stated ealier u neva can tell wht will happen d nxt Minute. Good luck wit that
Your hubby loves u and doesn't want to loose u to worldly wealth. He feels insecure. Find a way to reassure him of ur love for him and family value. Tell him how happy u are with ur own job. Ask him the problem he is faceing in his business and together, u two should solve the problem. But never quit ur job for ur hubby's business cos things will never be the same for u again. It won't favour u much. No matter what.
Nne plssss borrow me ur oil nd gas job so ul have enuf time to work for ur husband since u don't know what "men" are made of by now.my dad did it to my mom.....she left her sweet job bcz of "I want to keep my home" slogan.my dad later opened his company nd kicked her ass out (not divorce) he mks millions per month nd she gets nothing asides feeding money of 50k. She remembers him telling her "You can't b bigger Dan your husband naa" so if at dis stage u come here and ask Rubbish den ua a mumu.dat ur husband will mk it tomorrow with your help nd later kick u outtttttttt nd anOda woman will enjoy it if at all d oda woman won't claim d company from ur hubby's hand.plssssss borrow me ur oil nd gas job'im married too.lemmi see if my husband will ask me to leave.God has blessed u with a solid job....go out and see educated vibrant youths begging for "cleaner" position in nlng bonny.dnt allow me konk u.Ibu Ewu??? Are u a goat???
My name is Engr Femi Johnson. Please do not resign your Oil and Gas job for now, he can employ some people now to work with him and probably join him latter
You are the person who knows best in this situation.But if you do not trust him enough and need legal documents to be sure of he's motives then maybe you should just explain to him that you would like to stay safe in your job. But also remember that you can also get sacked from your present job. At the end its all your choice and you know your husband best.
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Resign kwa? for what and for who? You better don't try that oh madam, You cant work with this husband of yours, I am certain it is not something that you are looking up to. It's better you do yours and he does his, what if something happens to his company or industry, then you can have your oil job sustaining the family for the time being. Pleas do not put all your eggs in same basket oh, they can all get broken, a word they say...
Dont you dare! Before you know it, you become financially dependent on him! Hammer house of horrors! Leave men and their wicked devices!Keep your job! Support him any way you can but do not leave your job no matter what. Next you'll leave the job become dependent on him and that is when his true colors will come shining through! Eish what scheming species!
Well i dont know what the business is or how profitable it will be. But many couples have companies and most times its the husband that is active while the wife is a silent partner. So i will advise you not to resign. Getting a well paying job is not easy. But if u insist... mbok lemme replace u o!
Madam stick to your Oil and Gas job, when a Nigerian man starts to misbehave and you dare try to correct him, he will look for any avenue to deal with you.
Don't work anything for your husband, I don't trust men generally, the way we women view love is not the way they do, for him to ask you to leave your job, I smell something fishy unless you are an accountant and it seems he cannot trust anybody with handling of his cash except you his wife then you might consider the fact.
I just feel is becoming insecure about your financial independence.
And may be your bank balance is getting bigger and bigger by the day. That is what is giving him sleepless night.
at least this one make sense.. not all that ''she slept with my sister, should I sleep with his brother business''.. YES! depending on what you are putting into the business, draw up an agreement, nothing wrong with that, you just dont know what can happen with any relationship these days, you have a right to protect yourself and your future especially if you do decide to resign.
Pls stop taking it immediately and see a gynecologist. Concraceptive drugs increase your risk of ovarian cancer, tumors, infertility, ectopic pregnancy and other things. Ur period is already irregular, so u can see somthn is wrong. U guys should use condoms, withdrawal method or just abstain. Goodluck.
Pls stop taking it immediately and see a gynecologist. Concraceptive drugs increase your risk of ovarian cancer, tumors, infertility, ectopic pregnancy and other things. Ur period is already irregular, so u can see somthn is wrong. U guys should use condoms, withdrawal method or just abstain. Goodluck.
I don't av advise 4 u bt I av something 4 u, pls don't take advice frm blog, here is lyk taking ur matter to d devil to discuss on. Follo ur Mind pls use ur discretion 2 folo it up. I blv thr r more 2 ur marriage u can't say here.. So ppl would only judge according 2 what u said. C dis, as a Man I wud say obey your husband he is the Head. Bt 2 situation of tinz global age don't make unnecessary sacrifice 4get culture sentiment! Folo ur heart n mind
OK HERE IS WHAT I THINK, YOUR HUSBAND IS THE ONE AT RISK HERE, HE IS INVITING SOMEONE THAT HAS LITTLE OR NO FAITH IN HIS DREAM AS A PARTNER SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIM. AS FOR YOU, THE WAY YOU GO ON AND ON ABOUT THE WORD "OIL AND GAS" SHOWS YOU ARE THERE BECAUSE ITS IN THE "OIL AND GAS INDUSTRY AND I DOUBT YOU MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS YOU CLAIM. IF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN HIS "SMALL BUSINESS" DREAM PLS CARRY YOUR "OIL AND GAS ASS FAR AWAY FROM IT. HOW PEOPLE PREFER TO WORK FOR OTHERS AGAINST OWING THEIRS. YOU COULD BE LAYED OFF TOMORROW (GOD FORBID) AND YOUR EFFORTS FORGOTTEN IN A FLASH BUT WHATS YOUR HUSBANDS IS YOURS FOR LIFE SILLY! WITH THE WAY YOU SOUND YOU WILL TAKE YOUR CONFUSION INTO THAT BUSINESS SO SWEETIE DO ME A FAVOUR, STICK TO YOUR OIL AND GAS NOT BECAUSE YOU OVERQUALIFIED FOR THE BUSINESS BUT BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FAITH WHATSOEVER IN ITS GROWTH. YOU RE SHARING A FLYING BIRD BEFORE SHOOTING AT IT, YOU WANT EQUAL OWNERSHIP FROM THE OUTSIDE CAN I ASK WHAT YOU RE BRINGING TO THE TABLE MRS OIL AND GAS? WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT IMPROVING IN THAT BUSINESS? ALOT OF PEOPLE HERE BE ADVISING YOU TO QUIT ONLY WHEN THE BUSINESS HAS GROWN, YES THE SPIRIT WILL GROW THE BUSINESS THEN YOU QUIT AND TURN FIRST LADY, TYPICAL NAIJA REAP WITHOUT SOWING. YOU MARRIED THE MAN SO I SUPPOSED YOU LOVE HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN, I SUPPOSE YOU BELIEVE IN HIM AT SUCH I BELIEVE HE WILL INVITE YOU ONLY IF HE SEES POTENTIALS IN YOU THAT THE BUSINESS NEEDS TO GROW AND HE NEEDED THAT HELPING HAND OTHERWISE HE WOULD HAVE BEEN AFRICAN ENOUGH TO ORDER YOU TO STOP WORKING AND LOOK AFTER THE KIDS TO WHICH I WILL SUPPORT YOU TO RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. IF YOU LOOK INTO THE BUSINESS AND HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER TOWARDS ITS GROWTH PLS DONT GO ANYWHERE CLOSE, ALLOW THAT MAN BUILD HIS EMPIRE ON HIS OWN, DONT GO MESSING THINGS UP AND TURN AND REMIND HIM YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER OFF IF YOU KEPT YOUR OIL AND GAS JOB. BARE JOKES! IM OUTTER HERE! --MIKEYLONDON
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Don't do it. You'll regret it. You don't have to live his dream. Supporting it should suffice.
That true
Pls don't yet? Pray about it first. And have a focus of what u think might be the end result if u make the decision or otherwise
My dear please dnt or u should if he's dangote
B4 u resign make sure there is a legal biding on the company's ownership. Bc the day the marriage ends. U will get nothing
If for any reason you decide to resign,please please and please let there be a legal agreement between the both of you to avoid stories that touch. But then again why does he want you to resign all of a sudden?
1) Is the business that big, that it would require both your contribution?
2) Is this business a going concern?
3) Would you be happy doing this business and what would be you role?
4) Income generated from the business would it be enough to cover household expenses and also have enough left for savings?
These questions and others needs to be addressed,before making a desicion like this.
If you decide to resign, just have your lawyer draw up ownership,employment and payment agreement. I know he his your husband and all and you need to trust him but we are talking business here so family/sentiments/personal issues should never be mixed with it because it causes friction in both.
IamBeauty.
Hmmmm
Seems like u don't need the Job,abeg resign so that I can replace you.i need the oil and gas job
If u are sleeping wake up..dnt mind him
Dear, pls informed that you can't be richer than your boss, so being your own with a lot of work pays off
Young woman, so you mean you dont have a mentor within or around your family that can give you a heart-to-heart advise on this matter?
I believe when you and your spouse dotted the lines of marital vow page either before a Registrar or a clergy, you had both agreed to trust one another in all matter in every circumstance. So why are you exposing your very clean linen in the market when you have a rope to hang them within your compound?
Is it a rash decision or you simply just want to show off?
I believe your husband should be displeased with this development if he reads this or any of his friends gets to inform him about it.
Anywhere, any time, all over the world, no one would dispute that the best employment is self employment.
My friend, except you want to tell the world that you do not have confidence in your husband; you have no reason to even contemplate going to settle share cuts before a lawyer for you to tell him your mind.
Drop this and go settle out things with the man who obviously has confidence in you to help manage the family business .
Think deeply about dat
It is not advisable to do business with family. You can be a major stake holder in the family business, but not work full-time. Keep your current job.
follow ur intuition... you are hesitant... is that not a sign abi?
It's his business and he should employ a manager. And during the weekends learn the business as well. Tell him when you are comfortable you know the business you will make a decision..
In the mean time, learn and save. Also make sure the legal documents reflect your name...
nna, i beg you, don't resign that job oh. I run a communications consulting business while my wife does a 9-5, i can't count how many times my wifes monthly earnings has bailed us out from things as little as Nepa Bill or Cerelac. Biz is good as when the money comes it comes but when it dries, it dries for a while. Your income can help your husband build his business, invest in it not quit to run it. Good luck
Don't try it. Even when the business is doing well. You need to get away from him because he will get tired of you n hang out with friends male /female. You might never get the change of interacting with friends. So going to work every day is very important, apart from monthly salary, you need to learn from interacting with colleague.
Well, I think you should seek expert opinion, about the feasibility of the business venture. Thereafter you can seek for legal advice. In all your doings get wisdom, and with wisdom get understanding.
@Anonymois 4:04pm, I haven't read this on sdk blog. Don't cause confusion.
It won't be wise to resign, I know ur duty as a wife us to support ur hubby, but look at it dis way, if d business goes through a rough time, like almost every business does sometimes, then u guys dont won't have any income to fall back to
Most people hold good paying 9-5 jobs to raise/save enough capital and build a good network of contacts to either start or support a private business. Unless you feel enough capital and/or contacts have been made, resignation may be unwise. Also, there is nothing wrong in being part or equal owner in a business with your spouse. Infact, your spouse should propose it in order to motivate you and encourage your participation in the business. This being said, you must however be tactful in proposing this so it doesn't rub off the wrong way. Just be 'matter-of-fact' about it. Goodluck.
Why should you resign? Can he pay you what you were earning in the oil and gas firm? Or are you going to be equal partner? Even if you are a part owner are you going to be able to build it up to what will satisfy you? Get him to answer these questions well before resigning. Jobs are not easy to get like that
no try am o
resign ke.
anosbabe
It depends on the 'oil n gas' ure into....if na d correct one mama no quit o,men can disappoint o!
u think it tru and pray for God's grace to make the right decision
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Whatever you decide just make sure you safeguard your financial future and that of your children make sure any investments you jointly purchase are also in your name. Whatever you buy with your money must be in your name and your name only or your children's name. If you are to join the business then it should be professionally and legally done with legal paperwork to back up ownership before his brothers come and take everything should he die before you. These men cannot be trusted these days. I think your husband is jealous of your job and salary he wants to make you financially dependent on his business and him. Your future is secured in oil and gas while business go bankrupt all the time be wise. While still pondering your decision i hope you have tangible savings in a bank account with YOUR name. Stories I am hearing lately tell me that even the most educated successful Nigerian woman living in Nigeria is so bent onto holding onto the Mrs title that they make stupid financial decisions "just to keep peace" which they come to regret later be wise. Nigerian men and their families aka your in laws cannot be trusted even the most exposed of them be wise.
If you resign, you are fool. Don't mind that man, you will just become dependent on him. Shock will so hit you that you won't believe it. please don't resign your job, if your husband has a complex as I can sense, he should deal with it. Women please be empowered.
Na grass una go chop when you resign!
Pls dont at all,he is jealous of you,when you do,you are going to be miserable.Trust me.
To the first olodo commenter "Dear Lib readers has been a feature here wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy wayyyyyyyyyyyyy as in almost two three years before Stella came here with her advice narratives abeg park well jor!
I don't know anyway. ,Take it to God in prayer... #inShekcowsVoice
who does that
please dont resign.... Not a good idea
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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That man no want ur progress i swear....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
never.never,u will be a big fool
Please dont resign except you want to regret ur actions, please keep your job, make money and set up a system that will make the business run, Dangote has big businesses and never has to be around b4 the biz can work, believe me im talking from experience, ive been married for past 8 years ,im currently runing my biz for 2 years now with my spouse,I repeat, keep your job, develop systems, start the biz .best of luck, if u want us to talk more, u can reach me on mbeautyharvest@gmail.com ill give you a full lowdown on how to manage the situation with your husband.
no dont
Please dont resign except you want to regret ur actions, please keep your job, make money and set up a system that will make the business run, Dangote has big businesses and never has to be around b4 the biz can work, believe me im talking from experience, ive been married for past 8 years ,im currently runing my biz for 2 years now with my spouse,I repeat, keep your job, develop systems, start the biz .best of luck, if u want us to talk more, u can reach me on mbeautyharvest@gmail.com ill give you a full lowdown on how to manage the situation with your husband.
A lot of money lol
Pls don't resign dear... At least even if... You should have something solid in your bank account...
Pls dont resign now, Let ur husband's biz grow bigger first. The bis should reach the point where u will be needed seriously. Also u ppl should have legal backup to proof that u are a co-owner of the company
THIS DISCUSS IS STRICTLY BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. "What God has joined together no one can give directional opinion".
No think am
Don't try it!!
Just think about it every well before you resign from your find paying job. May God help you.
Nooooooooo, i will not agree
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I don't think you should,its usually a bad idea atimes to mix family and business, I will only say u should chip in anyway u can,advise on projects or financially but pls don't resign o...
Depends on your speciality in d oil and gas industry, if na groundnut oil and kerosene, U fit leave am join your husband.
This is coming from someone who once worked in the oil and gas sector. DO NOT RESIGN YOUR JOB. A personal business will always run into hitches at some point and your husband will be glad you have an alternative source of income. Even if the business makes millions now, do not throw away a career that you built independent of your husband. While I wish you the best in your married life, always remember that marriages are not guaranteed to last forever. A business that is founded on marriage is only as strong but not any stronger than the marriage. So you should not throw away your fall-back plan should your marriage run into hitches tomorrow. If your husband needs help, he can recruit professionals to assist him in the business, while you concentrate on the career you have slaved for all your life to get to. If your husband insists you resign, then you may want to reconsider that marriage. Also remember that an oil and gas job in Nigeria is one of the easiest jobs you will get anywhere in the world. Again, this is coming from someone who has first hand experience.
Madam, follow ur heart.
Don't dare it
pls dont resign o,y cant he take care of the business?u can do dt part time nao!(my candid opinion)
Pls do not resign! I beg of u cos dat wil be a deadly mistake. Work and make ur money! Dats why you are a woman
If the biz pays far beta than ur job,u cn just twice
ok,dats a gud one,b an obedient wife ok?,emm,wots d name of d oil company nd location so dat wen u resign wil apply sharperly nd de wont say no vacancy as usual cos wil just tel dem a frnd of mine just resigned ,plz leme knw,tnx,lol
Pls dnt
Abi? I d feel u
Lol
Some of these " ill adviced" advisers.. ..@anon 9.32.....smh....
Obviously you consider her job more important than her marriage right???... And instead of her resigning from her job she should resign from her marriage???? Lawd! ....some pipo sef!
Dear poster, money is not everything...atimes a wife can defer to the wishes of her husband for peace to reign and the home to move forward......it has happened before and it will still happen!!!
Pray about it, sitdown and have a heart to heart discussion with your hubby and have faith that whichever direction the both of you agree to take will turn out for good!
I repeat, IGNORE advice from people like anon 9.32....who value jobs more than the happiness of their homes.......it is a recipe for divorce...
Thats all!
On 2 the Next!
Depends on the Job you are resigning for? I wouldn't advice you to leave oil and gas for what is not worth it, besides, why does it sound cool describing what you do for work and can't what he does! You sha no go dey follow am dey''bomb site'' lol..BJF
Your husband should cool down first. Do not dare quit that job. Remove Naija definition of submission o, and use your head.
...My advice would be DONT RESIGN
...But pray about though
...Balu
Just incase u resign,I can take ur place oo. Just a jobless graduate. Pls contact me ASAP
Abdulkareem well done,mr adviser so stupid how pple advices others whereas if it was 2 be dem dey won't even be thinking of their advice
Reading some comments here, I come to understand that there's no trust in marriage any more and that real love doesn't exist in many marriages today, its quite unfortunite, women re now more interested in their career, husbands are now substitute to them, this is something to worry about,cos we have so many broken homes today. Its good to be a career woman but not at d expense of ur home, the funny part is that, when a woman is looking for husband, it will be like her world has finished, but once she gets 1, she'll want to treat him like a substitute. My only advice in this case is that, u should know the kind of man u marry, wht prompted him to say that?does he have a good intention for saying that?hw close are u with ur husband? Some people are husband and wife, but are not friends. And also check whether the biz worth it or not. From Mr Eva
Lmaooo mumu
U don the madt abi..oil and gas for who..hus Wetin
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Don't even think about it. You will regret it. I did biz with my husband and I regret it.
When hungry beat una for sometime before the business go get opportunity take pick up, you go dey resentful, then una go divorce. Any proceeds from the business when go reach your hand (even if una sign paper now) nor go full your eye. Then you go dey disturb your children ear when dem don grow up, of how their papa take wicked!
My dear pls don't resign oooo there is nothing like a sure steady income becos d devil u know is beta than d angel u don't know
If u re short of ideas & good counsel, why not shut ur mouth & keep mute, so dat pple will count u among d wise! Rihanna my foot!
DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT! You will be shocked your husband will change when you resign since you have to beg him for money. Being independent is key and earns you respect. Face your oil and gas job please. Do not give up anything for any man especially your career.
My sister dnt try it ooooo. Men can change @ any given time & u'll be on ur own with regrets. Then he'll tell you his d head of d home and he makes all decision, u dnt have a say.
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Did he(ur husband) ask u 2 resign nd bcum huz wife? Offcuss nt he only wnt 2 knw more abt the family business nd i see dat as a great idea, u neva can tell wht will happen d nxt minute. So 2 me i think is worth trying u shuldn't be a novice in ur family business jst as i stated ealier u neva can tell wht will happen d nxt Minute. Good luck wit that
Your hubby loves u and doesn't want to loose u to worldly wealth. He feels insecure. Find a way to reassure him of ur love for him and family value. Tell him how happy u are with ur own job. Ask him the problem he is faceing in his business and together, u two should solve the problem. But never quit ur job for ur hubby's business cos things will never be the same for u again. It won't favour u much. No matter what.
Asking for advise from underaged on LIB!! Best way to ruin your life.
Dont make the mistake of resigning. I wont even advice my sister to resign an oil and gas job for any thing.
Nne plssss borrow me ur oil nd gas job so ul have enuf time to work for ur husband since u don't know what "men" are made of by now.my dad did it to my mom.....she left her sweet job bcz of "I want to keep my home" slogan.my dad later opened his company nd kicked her ass out (not divorce) he mks millions per month nd she gets nothing asides feeding money of 50k. She remembers him telling her "You can't b bigger Dan your husband naa" so if at dis stage u come here and ask Rubbish den ua a mumu.dat ur husband will mk it tomorrow with your help nd later kick u outtttttttt nd anOda woman will enjoy it if at all d oda woman won't claim d company from ur hubby's hand.plssssss borrow me ur oil nd gas job'im married too.lemmi see if my husband will ask me to leave.God has blessed u with a solid job....go out and see educated vibrant youths begging for "cleaner" position in nlng bonny.dnt allow me konk u.Ibu Ewu??? Are u a goat???
My name is Engr Femi Johnson. Please do not resign your Oil and Gas job for now, he can employ some people now to work with him and probably join him latter
You are the person who knows best in this situation.But if you do not trust him enough and need legal documents to be sure of he's motives then maybe you should just explain to him that you would like to stay safe in your job. But also remember that you can also get sacked from your present job. At the end its all your choice and you know your husband best.
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Make him see reasons and invest in his business. Resigning will be the biggest mistake.
So is it LIB readers that will come and advice you?, Reduce your hours see how it goes, if you don't believe 100% in the brand stay!
Resign kwa? for what and for who? You better don't try that oh madam, You cant work with this husband of yours, I am certain it is not something that you are looking up to. It's better you do yours and he does his, what if something happens to his company or industry, then you can have your oil job sustaining the family for the time being. Pleas do not put all your eggs in same basket oh, they can all get broken, a word they say...
Dont you dare! Before you know it, you become financially dependent on him! Hammer house of horrors! Leave men and their wicked devices!Keep your job! Support him any way you can but do not leave your job no matter what. Next you'll leave the job become dependent on him and that is when his true colors will come shining through! Eish what scheming species!
Its a two way thing, my advise is don't resign but what of if you are sacked from this oil job you love so dearly what would you fall back on.
Well i dont know what the business is or how profitable it will be. But many couples have companies and most times its the husband that is active while the wife is a silent partner. So i will advise you not to resign. Getting a well paying job is not easy. But if u insist... mbok lemme replace u o!
Madam stick to your Oil and Gas job, when a Nigerian man starts to misbehave and you dare try to correct him, he will look for any avenue to deal with you.
Don't work anything for your husband, I don't trust men generally, the way we women view love is not the way they do, for him to ask you to leave your job, I smell something fishy unless you are an accountant and it seems he cannot trust anybody with handling of his cash except you his wife then you might consider the fact.
I just feel is becoming insecure about your financial independence.
And may be your bank balance is getting bigger and bigger by the day. That is what is giving him sleepless night.
at least this one make sense.. not all that ''she slept with my sister, should I sleep with his brother business''.. YES! depending on what you are putting into the business, draw up an agreement, nothing wrong with that, you just dont know what can happen with any relationship these days, you have a right to protect yourself and your future especially if you do decide to resign.
Pls stop taking it immediately and see a gynecologist. Concraceptive drugs increase your risk of ovarian cancer, tumors, infertility, ectopic pregnancy and other things. Ur period is already irregular, so u can see somthn is wrong. U guys should use condoms, withdrawal method or just abstain. Goodluck.
Pls stop taking it immediately and see a gynecologist. Concraceptive drugs increase your risk of ovarian cancer, tumors, infertility, ectopic pregnancy and other things. Ur period is already irregular, so u can see somthn is wrong. U guys should use condoms, withdrawal method or just abstain. Goodluck.
I don't av advise 4 u bt I av something 4 u, pls don't take advice frm blog, here is lyk taking ur matter to d devil to discuss on. Follo ur Mind pls use ur discretion 2 folo it up. I blv thr r more 2 ur marriage u can't say here.. So ppl would only judge according 2 what u said. C dis, as a Man I wud say obey your husband he is the Head. Bt 2 situation of tinz global age don't make unnecessary sacrifice 4get culture sentiment! Folo ur heart n mind
Pls resign and give them my cv 2 replace you
pray about it
OK HERE IS WHAT I THINK, YOUR HUSBAND IS THE ONE AT RISK HERE, HE IS INVITING SOMEONE THAT HAS LITTLE OR NO FAITH IN HIS DREAM AS A PARTNER SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIM. AS FOR YOU, THE WAY YOU GO ON AND ON ABOUT THE WORD "OIL AND GAS" SHOWS YOU ARE THERE BECAUSE ITS IN THE "OIL AND GAS INDUSTRY AND I DOUBT YOU MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS YOU CLAIM. IF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN HIS "SMALL BUSINESS" DREAM PLS CARRY YOUR "OIL AND GAS ASS FAR AWAY FROM IT. HOW PEOPLE PREFER TO WORK FOR OTHERS AGAINST OWING THEIRS. YOU COULD BE LAYED OFF TOMORROW (GOD FORBID) AND YOUR EFFORTS FORGOTTEN IN A FLASH BUT WHATS YOUR HUSBANDS IS YOURS FOR LIFE SILLY! WITH THE WAY YOU SOUND YOU WILL TAKE YOUR CONFUSION INTO THAT BUSINESS SO SWEETIE DO ME A FAVOUR, STICK TO YOUR OIL AND GAS NOT BECAUSE YOU OVERQUALIFIED FOR THE BUSINESS BUT BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FAITH WHATSOEVER IN ITS GROWTH. YOU RE SHARING A FLYING BIRD BEFORE SHOOTING AT IT, YOU WANT EQUAL OWNERSHIP FROM THE OUTSIDE CAN I ASK WHAT YOU RE BRINGING TO THE TABLE MRS OIL AND GAS? WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT IMPROVING IN THAT BUSINESS? ALOT OF PEOPLE HERE BE ADVISING YOU TO QUIT ONLY WHEN THE BUSINESS HAS GROWN, YES THE SPIRIT WILL GROW THE BUSINESS THEN YOU QUIT AND TURN FIRST LADY, TYPICAL NAIJA REAP WITHOUT SOWING.
YOU MARRIED THE MAN SO I SUPPOSED YOU LOVE HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN, I SUPPOSE YOU BELIEVE IN HIM AT SUCH I BELIEVE HE WILL INVITE YOU ONLY IF HE SEES POTENTIALS IN YOU THAT THE BUSINESS NEEDS TO GROW AND HE NEEDED THAT HELPING HAND OTHERWISE HE WOULD HAVE BEEN AFRICAN ENOUGH TO ORDER YOU TO STOP WORKING AND LOOK AFTER THE KIDS TO WHICH I WILL SUPPORT YOU TO RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.
IF YOU LOOK INTO THE BUSINESS AND HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER TOWARDS ITS GROWTH PLS DONT GO ANYWHERE CLOSE, ALLOW THAT MAN BUILD HIS EMPIRE ON HIS OWN, DONT GO MESSING THINGS UP AND TURN AND REMIND HIM YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER OFF IF YOU KEPT YOUR OIL AND GAS JOB. BARE JOKES! IM OUTTER HERE! --MIKEYLONDON
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