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Sunday 5 October 2014

Dear LIB readers: Please read my story and advise

From a female LIB reader
Amaka had been dating Amobi for six months now, they were so much in love with plans of the brightest future ahead. Their meeting was kind of destined after a mutual friend did their introduction and the pair had remained inseparable. 

One Morning, Amaka woke up with a strange stomach ache, she had always experienced an irregular cycle and so she thought it was the same old experience.  That morning her period was excessively heavier than normal and apparently two sanitary towels could not take her. She decided to see a doctor...



At the hospital, After consultation with Dr. Alabi, he requested an ultra-scan be carried out to ascertain her ailment. A follow up appointment was scheduled two days later to review her scan result.  to her surprise, a mass was reportedly found in her uterus. Trembling and sweating profusely, She asked the Dr. "Am I alright/Am I gonna die.................?"

The Dr. looked into her eyes smiling and said to her that a Surgical session is all that is required to remove the mass.



The histology report showed she had Ovarian cancer. She broke down in tears and felt her world had crumbled just when she was about to start her life. Dr. Alabi tried to console her, telling her she had a good chance since it was in its early stage and another surgery would be required to remove her womb to stop the spread.  how would she tell amobi  that her womb would be removed or they can’t have kids, would he understand? they had always dreamt of having kids together.



After the surgery, she told Amobi what she had done, to her surprise his response was positive, He had promised to stay with her because he loved her so much and believed God was the most superior and nothing was impossible for him to do.



Three years later, he proposed to her, she was so happy that the man she loved was ready to make her his own finally.  for a very long time, she had dreamt of that being a reality. She had always bragged to her friends that she had the best boo whose love was unconditional.



Amobi's friend Tola had convinced Amobi not to marry her.  So Amobi called her after three months that he couldn't marry her because she didn't have a womb and could not give him children. Her worst nightmare had finally become her reality.



Do  you think Amobi should have married her or not? Does she deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally? What would you advice Amaka to do? Can you marry a lady like Amaka?

Please advice. This happened to me...

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Anonymous said...

jjwisely: The story is pathetic but with God all things are possible. The question is if this incident happened after they were married, will they divorce. if the separation is still reconcilable, i will advice there is solution. if they can spend the money, the problem is almost similar to somebody that has a very weak womb as a result a male sample and female sample can be taken and doctored for 9months for the baby to mature to delivery. people are doing it is only when u open ur mouth to tell pple how u make ur own baby that is when you will know how i gave birth to my own child.... wish u the best amaka

Jina Wills said...

I find it difficult to believe that in this 21st Century, people still think the way they do. What are the milestones in science used for...for animal kingdom advancement I guess!. There is something called surrogacy people! as long as she has her eggs harvested and preserved she can have as many children as she wants. All she needs is pay another woman to carry the baby for her. Now thats not rocket science is it? Now don't go making excuses by saying I'm obviously a doctor...no I am not. I am Engineer but I make it a point of duty to stay updated...you guys should try and broaden your horizon...it always pays to know

Anonymous said...

Whats ur problem? Have u heard of the word moderation? Must u press d publish key 10times? Malu malu

Awah michael said...

I have a friend that married his girlfriend knowing fully well that she does not have a womb. Today, they have two kids. This is not them say story. I can give you their details so you pay them a visit.

Anonymous said...

Even a good sister could help her carry the baby, both her egg and her husband's sperm would be injected into a relative.

Anonymous said...

the person who said "if u ask me , na who i go ask"... just killed my soul.Laughter is killing me

Naijarian said...

Very simple Linda...
If he truly loves her, he should marry her and since they want kids, there are surrogate mothers for that..

Anonymous said...

u should not raise some ones hope and let the person down.
that was wrong of him

Unknown said...

Oww so sad

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