Dear LIB readers; I checked my wife's phone and I died...
From a male LIB reader
If you don't want to die of heartbreak, I think it's best not to check your spouses phone. I did over the weekend and I haven't recovered from it. I went through my wife's phone and I saw a text she sent to her ex, a man she had a baby with where she told him he denied her the fairytale life she'd hoped for. That they would have been so happy together but he decided to chose someone else over her and that their son is a remainder of a great love that could have been but never was. She said she would never stop loving him and hoped in another lifetime, God will give them another chance and he would choose her. She sounded so heartbroken. She's been married to me for two years and we have a son together. So it means she's not happy with me and is only with me because the love of her life rejected her? I'm heartbroken. Don't know how to confront her about this. This is so painful
Confront her cheating is not only when someone sleeps with another she is already cheating with him in her heart ur jus stepping stone to what she hope for one day she will fuck him and that's if she is not already fucking him don't forgive her if you be ready to buy shock absorbers more on d way
I'd not know the cause of someone going back to his/her ex. It's disheartening to read stories like this... If y'all know u want to be with him by all means and in the long run it didn't work out, why not stay single for the rest of your life rather than hurt another persons feeling. It's just so dumb!
I usually don't comment on LIB..but i had to address this...i think u need to win her over...the fact that you are married to her does'nt translate to automatic love..people say i do for various reasons...you need to get to the innermost part of heart...i know it hurt but getting heartbroken isn't the solution
You're a moron. If it were the other way now, we'd hear things like "divorce his sorry ass" "dump him". You're indirectly putting the blame on him sef. Rubbish!
You need to confront her o.....you need to know where you stand and why she is with you if her heart is with someone else. You have an equal right to being happy
Lmao! Funny d part he said so it mean shes not happy with me? Sorry oh take heart. She needs to be called to order asap! B4 u know it de'll do hotel reservation. Ehee naa!
You have taken a rare stance on this issue (reconcilatory). Approach her like you have LIB readers and tell her you understand and would like her to "move on" with you. A lot of women never forget their first love (which sometimes is their true love).
It's really sad, but you still have to confront her, about the issue, and hear what she will say.But just calm down. It's really wrong of her, she shouldn't have married you if she felt that way about her ex.Talk it over.
This woman is a killer even after getting married to her. when you confront her she will say it is the devil. I am sure the guy must have good money the is why your so called wife is still longing to be with him. She must love money so much and since you don't have enough to satisfy her she will always go out to meet other men who have. Try to watch her she will probably be going out with other guys who have money. She is in love with money and nothing else.
I feel your pains bro. I have been in your position before and i knew how it was to pass through this scenerio. Just dnt ask her. Let it go. Becos if you ask her,it will bring more hurts than now.allow it sly. We all have first love and last love. Take heart bro and be the man that speaks less and act more. Never go near her phone again cos it will only get you hurt. Thanks
I wish I had better words for you bro, but just focus on the life that you both have started (I mean your son) give him the best of parenting you can muster and as for your wife, better bring that to the table. Talk about the whole thing and work a way out, your children shouldn't experience a broken home.
Truly heartbroken. Anyways, I believed once a man or women is married; all contact with exes should be avoided or else it brings back the old mutual feelings in such exes which could even lead to cheating n adultery. Well, If it were me; I will make her fairytale come true by chasing her out of my home. So she could go back to her ex n not wait for another lifetime.
My sympathy goes with U. Just be very careful cos women go through alot of emotional/psychological changes that men wuld never understand. If you want 2dicuss it please do all in your power to see her as a friend going through somfin so be as loving as can be wif yur approach. Do not tell anyone U both know/friends/family of it or U would become fully to blame for the outcome.
Love is love, if she ever was honest about loving him before she wit U, then that should last forever even without speaking to him for decades, the issue here now is to find out what is igniting her to NEED him in her life right now.
So U didn't see d warning signs while U guys were dating? Anyway, it's just 2yrs, you guys have a child who still has time to adjust to separation, call it quits.
Maybe u ain't treating her right, confront her and hear what she has to say.
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That is a woman for u...Honestly I've got some ex-girlfriends married now. They still profess luv n even still try arranging hook ups with me privately. I've always turned them down as it got me thinking if my wife wuld also be doing same to someone. Best advice...don't drop ur guards for any woman. Expect anything from them as they are the best pretenders
I thought u had died..?? Y confront her again?? Next time u leave ur hands in ur pocket.. It's better to know less my brother. #expectanythingfromhumans
That is a woman for u...Honestly I've got some ex-girlfriends married now. They still profess luv n even still try arranging hook ups with me privately. I've always turned them down as it got me thinking if my wife wuld also be doing same to someone. Best advice...don't drop ur guards for any woman. Expect anything from them as they are the best pretenders
NO BODY IN LIB SHOULD SAY CHILDISH THINGS ON THIS POST BCOS THIS IS FOR ADULT MINDS..IT IS A SENSITIVE ISSUE..AM MARRIED , I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. MY ADVICE: TELL HER WAT U SAW AND TELL HER YOU VE FORGIVEN HER..DONT FIGHT HER BCOS THERE'S NOTHIN YOU CAN DO..THIS IS A EMOTIONAL AND FEELINGS ISSUE.. SO JUST KEEP ON SHOWING HER GREAT LOVE..TAKE HER OUT..TEXT HER SWEET MESSAGES, MASSAGE HER ON WEEKENDS..SHE WILL DEFINITELY FORGET THAT MAN SERIOUSLY..SHE IS A HUMAN..SHE CAN STILL LOVE YOU OVER THAT MAN..BELIEVE ME..FROM AN EXPERIENCED MARRIED MAN WITH TWO KIDS.
Ehya! I pity you o, bcos she's ready to cheat on you if her ex consents to it. I'll advice you to have a discussion on this issue with her, to know if she truly loves you enough to continue with the marriage or not. I bet you as long as she's still in love with her ex, my dear your marriage is at stake. I wish you luck.
Ehya! I pity you o, bcos she's ready to cheat on you if her ex consents to it. I'll advice you to have a discussion on this issue with her, to know if she truly loves you enough to continue with the marriage or not. I bet you as long as she's still in love with her ex, my dear your marriage is at stake. I wish you luck.
This is not an issue...I even thought they would be sleeping together. He should also remember that he has a past as well and sometimes it's not easy to let go.
Heart broken for you, too, bro! Well, you've got no choice but to man up and confront her with your discover... But do so when you are much calmer and in a warmer mental frame... Cheers...
What do u expect bro! U married tokunbo and expect untouched engine, don't you know she married out of convenience not love, she needed a partner not emotional attached hubby so deal with it, you are just emotional dumping grounds, when next u are about to check others phone think twice, mind you I'm a guy like you!
Lmaoo.....i just can't help laughing cos m just doing exactly dis ish now...mine is sex..not satisfied but ex is machine now m gonna clear d message b4 boo ego finishes
I feel for u gaskiya...I feel like that about my husband too. Their is always the love of ur life somewhere not always ones married partner. But know this, it doesn't mean she loves u not but her heart wanted the other.
Nothing wrong with checking your spouse's phone,.. she's your WIFE. Just sad you had to see what you saw. The thing that moved you to check the phone did not start that day, the way i see it, the trust issue had been brewing over time and you just wanted to confirm what your gut had been trying to tell you. My advice: confront her about it and find a way to make it work because passing judgement and acting rashly will only lead to more regret. You are already in the marriage for better or worse.. and well, this is the worse part.
Best of luck. P.S: Im no relationship expert and im not even married.. this is just my 2cents and you dont have to heed. Do what u feel is right.
Life is hard but which ever way it turns up, we must live it, it still sounds awful to me everytime I hear pple say couples shldn't go through their fones, in my head, I have a picture of how I want my marriage to be & not being free to check my hubby's fone or my hubby doing same isn't part of it but ofcos, one man's food is another man's poison.. Find the right time to confront her abt it & also find it in ur hrt to forgive her, let go & move on.
Hope the Ladies always saying Cheating is a Man thing on this blog get to see this Story. It is really sickening remaining with such woman. I can imagine Your Pain Bro. My advice is You follow your Mind. I THINK IT"S REALLY BITCHY OF HER
Sorry dawg! Lesson learnt: never snoop around your spouse like an alley cat cos alley cats get killed errytime! Back to advise, wait till a moment u can articulate your feelings calmly without being agitated. I'm sure it can be resolved without bitterness. But please don't keep it locked up in your head cos the consequences can be lethal!! #Joshe
This post will gather enough comments so let me type shap shap and post. Such similar case in with 90% men today. Women settle for those that want to marry them, not those they love. And we men keep wasting our love on some one who about 1 TB memory of secrets.
Okay. You just have to talk to her. I'm a single lady,yeah and sometimes feel the need to get closure from an ex even though I'm dating. It doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend but just wanted to get off all that happened with the ex. I mean he used to be someone I loved and I can't just start hating him. It doesn't work that way.. Talk to her in all sincerity and ask questions...just be ready for anything at all,it's all gonna worth it..at the end. You're hurt alright but don't hurt her while trying to know what the issue is. I wish you what God has planned.
Y u go check her phone,u wan kill ur self ni. The day I checked my hubby's phone I nearly passed out but tank God I did not and I vowed never to touch it again, please don't try dat it can give u high BP
Eeyaa you have to talk to her,make her understand that you will love her more than her ex and you'll never hurt her. It won't be easy cos she already gave her soul to her ex but with time,she'll get over him and face reality.
Choiiii... I can't even shout.. Probably shouldn't have gone through her phone.. but you should speak with her and tell you are heartbroken because tbvh I don't see you guys lasting
Choiiii... I can't even shout.. Probably shouldn't have gone through her phone.. but you should speak with her and tell you are heartbroken because tbvh I don't see you guys lasting
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My dear friend, you need her love to love yourself. It is her regret and not yours. If she does not let her woes affect your relationship with her... you have no problem but it does then I'll advise you to be of good cheer, take care of your heart and someone will come to care for you. Trust me... I know what it feels like to be just a replacement and available option after rejection.
Such a pity you are a spare tire, my dear! Many of us find ourselves in the situation of being with someone who does not love us, rather if they were given the chance, they would be with someone else. The other guy has rejected her because he is loves with someone else and as a result she was left alone being a single mother. At that point, you came into the surface and loved her with her child and concluded in marrying her. Unfortunately, your wife does not reciprocate the love you have for her, rather she fakes it and if she does not come out of the closet, this will bring unnecessary frustration into the marriage and she will cheat or leave at the first opportunity. Don't be a doormat and confront her!
Aww dis is painful I feel ur pain bro! I guess she married u just for marrying sake cos I can see from ur statement that she married u but her heart is elsewhere, I hope God wil turn her heart around, bcos heart of men/women is in God's hand
I am sorry man, but the truth is you have to understand women love differently from men! This woman loved and had a baby with this man and probably will go to her grave loving him, all you can do is feel lucky that she ended up with you and show her that she is a fool to still carry a torch for her ex, make yourself the new love of her life. Do not see this as a set back but a challenge, win her heart and crush the memories of her ex.
This is a though one, and my heart really goes out to you. However it is not the end of the world, neither should it be the end of your marriage. I don't see anything wrong in checking your wife's phone in the first place, because the two of you are meant to be one, and nothing is meant to be hidden. I check my wife's phone once in a while, not because I don't trust her, but just for the fun of it and vice versa. To keep quite will do you no good, as you will be eaten up with insecurity and jealousy. Am sure you are not ignorant of this past relationship; and that is what it is, in the past. We all have a past, the challenge is not to let our past hinder our present and future however it takes time to get over some things but your wife needs to severe every contact she has with her ex, and that is why you need to confront her with it. You both need to sit down face to face and she needs to make a commitment to give her all to you. Tell her how hurt you are, and be ready to forgive. It is well.
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That one neva reach make u die na...av u checked ur spouses fone and found erotic txt msgs btwn her and a married man?..telling him she cant wait to come tear her apart....DATS DIE!!!...lol
Dont be like dt. My exboyfriend felt d same way abt me. I rejected & kept rejecting him, even a day till he married his wife. I also later got married. He has children wt his wife but kps calling me(his married ex) & wanting me. Truth is our marriage wld have bn hell cos i know him & i know myself perfectly. My husband is d right one for me. Dt is probably what her exboyfriend also thinks.
These feelings are delusions in her mind & her mind only & are not real. Forgive & tell her it hurts u. Move on wt ur goals & ur life but dont withdraw emotionally, she will eventually wake up from her fantasy slumber.
THIS HAPPENS A LOT. SEEMS YOU WERE USED AS "PLAN B". DON'T THINK THERE IS ANYTHING YOU CAN DO COS YOU WILL ALWAYS BE COMPARED TO THE OTHER GUY IN EVERYTHING & YOU MAY NEVER MEASURE UP.
YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NEVER WORK BECAUSE HER MIND IS SOMEWHERE ELSE. IT'S A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW BUT THE REALITY IS THE SOONER THIS UNION IS OBLITERATED AND YOU MOVE ON THE BETTER. BUT WHAT OF THE CHILD, UNFORTUNATELY HE WILL SUFFER MORE BECAUSE HE WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND TO TH OTHER LOVE CHILD YOUR WIFE HAD WITH HER EX. LIFE IS PAINFUL, BUTYOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL ACCEPT YOU.
Am always on the side of not checking ur spouses phones or wanting to know all her secrets,but hmmm didn't you know she wasn't happy with you b4 u took her to the alter,and for your wife,she dey craze?for the man to live her for another woman means he doesn't want nd have theat rel love on her
Bros, This is a wake up call to a sleeping man. Life and marriage is not a do or die thing. This is substantial evidence for me to know i am walking in the valley of the shadow of death. With this evidence, i dont care if we have been married 20 years, she can never get the best of me NO MORE...
Awww....sorry for your heartbreak....I understand your pain. Really though, it doesn't mean she is not happy with you, it just means she's wondering what her life would have been like if she was married to her ex. Sometimes, we humans like to dwell in the 'what if' aspect of our lives. I think that you should tell her your concerns and hear what she has to say. Also, I think you guys should also talk about areas of dissatisfaction you have in your marriage and working towards making them better. All the best.
Bro. you don't need to be heart broken over this. Remember " that their son is a remainder of a great love that could have been but never was."
Probably that man was her first love and things like this do happen. If you really love her, you should concentrate on making her happy so she can never think of that man again. Try to understand her and listen to her complaints. Try doing the little things that make her happy.
My brother u said u opened her phone and died ? Then u don't need any advice jooorr after all dead men have no need for such things, anyways my brother ull have to pray for her regularly, expose her to some teachings on marriage and books + videos of some credible men of God like Pst Sam Adeyemi, Pst. Mathew Ashemolowo,late Bimbo odukoya , Pst. Sam Iheanacho etc, then make sure u show her extra ordinary love constantly.. Win her heart cos the guy she is talking about must have once done somethings to her so pls formatt the old memory and install new programs, then if all this still doesn't work ull have to have plenty patience and endurance and after she is very soaked in the marriage with say 4kids she ll never remember that her ex cos she ll be too busy loving u and her kids trust me.. But for now don't confront her , don't use force some years lera she ll get to knoe that u long knew all this yet u still loved her while she was busy loving another man, then it ll be to ur credit..... For jesus loved us even while we were yet sinners.... If not that she is ur wife an average person ll tell u to allow her go and live with her ex for just a month then she ll realize how special u are but pls don't try it except u want to die again ,... Hahahaha #Oyego !! Linda return my ring !!
My brother u said u opened her phone and died ? Then u don't need any advice jooorr after all dead men have no need for such things, anyways my brother ull have to pray for her regularly, expose her to some teachings on marriage and books + videos of some credible men of God like Pst Sam Adeyemi, Pst. Mathew Ashemolowo,late Bimbo odukoya , Pst. Sam Iheanacho etc, then make sure u show her extra ordinary love constantly.. Win her heart cos the guy she is talking about must have once done somethings to her so pls formatt the old memory and install new programs, then if all this still doesn't work ull have to have plenty patience and endurance and after she is very soaked in the marriage with say 4kids she ll never remember that her ex cos she ll be too busy loving u and her kids trust me.. But for now don't confront her , don't use force some years lera she ll get to knoe that u long knew all this yet u still loved her while she was busy loving another man, then it ll be to ur credit..... For jesus loved us even while we were yet sinners.... If not that she is ur wife an average person ll tell u to allow her go and live with her ex for just a month then she ll realize how special u are but pls don't try it except u want to die again ,... Hahahaha #Oyego !! Linda return my ring !!
Send the foolish woman on her way. It is this sort of nonsense that annoys me. Women will make themselves out to be the most innocent people in the world and then publicize their victim status when a man does anything to them. When you people will be begging them morning afternoon and night, how won't a woman marry a man as second option? It is clear that she married you to answer Mrs. XXX and her real love is still in the market. I tell men, if a woman is not 100% loyal, its not worth it. Don't become putty filler in another man's building.
I feel your pain. The fact is that not everyone got married to their first love. shez just been emotional or maybe the ex wants to eat the forbidden fruit of another man. Either way caution her about it but don't take it to heart.
U should comfort urself first b4 thinking of comforting her and I also think u should ask her about the text but apologize first for going through her phone
you should have known better not to check a woman's phone! you were suspicion of her, and now that you have verified the facts that she's not giving you "her all", things will hardly remain the same....
it takes time for a lady to get over such feelings, she need your love and time, she might still say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. so i encourage you to still love and care for her, don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but you will enjoy it afterwards. thanks
When u realize that women generally have issues bigger than themselves u'd almost never take any woman serious relationship wise. Women cheat way more than men in every aspect they r good @ hiding it n r never sincere about it even if u catch em red handed. Men cheat openly and they are almost neva good @ hiding it. I once lived with 4 different females for months and it totally opened my eyes to the women folk. @ d end of d day if u decide to judge every woman/man because others in ur past haven't been truthful u'd probably b d biggest twat that ever existed.
Man that's rough. I can Imagine how much it'll tear you up inside. You have to realise though, you deserve better than a woman who is settling for you. You should confront her about it and let her know that you know. And then you should dump her ass.
That bitch doesn't deserve you as her husband. If her heart is with someone else, why is she wasting your time and confessing fake love to you. There are lots of them around, bunch of hypocrites everywhere. I know my wife will see this and she will know I'm the one. Flirty around with married men in the name of having personal discussions. Make we dey form fake love dey go now....
Keep/store/save the text as evidence and file for a divorce...the convo btw her and her ex will serve as grounds so she won't get any of ur properties... conduct a DNA test for the child u have together to ascertain if its yours or not... Believe me...if u stick with her YOU will never be happy. some women can be sinister...likewise men
Oturugbeke! Snooping gone sour! Oga sorry o! But u men send raunchy msges to una side chic all d time and una wives dey see am and dem never die.. So deal with it and stop whining..
Oturugbeke! Snooping gone sour! Oga sorry o! But u men send raunchy msges to una side chic all d time and una wives dey see am and dem never die.. So deal with it and stop whining..
its hard for some ladies to get over such feelings, but i encourage u to still love and care for her, i believe that one day shes gonna say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but i promise you that you will so gonna enjoy it much later. thanks
its hard for some ladies to get over such feelings, but i encourage u to still love and care for her, i believe that one day shes gonna say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but i promise you that you will so gonna enjoy it much later. thanks
Unfortunately this is a story that re - occurs like 98% of the time. I should know. I have heard stories. And have had a personal experience. I saw something similar when I looked through my wife's phone (i will never do that again by the way. Not worth it). Guess what, man up. Don't show any sign of weakness. None whatsoever. Relationships are "balances of power"; you should always maintain the equilibrium that puts you in control. Guess what I did? I woke her up in middle of the night one evening. Told her I saw this and that. Told her she's welcome to follow her dream man if that's what she wants But that she should kindly give me at least 6 months advance notice whenever she wants to make the move to enable me make alternative arrangements. I said this in a matter of fact voice. No anger. No emotions. That was 6 years ago. We are still married.
Bros, you can ask your wife about it, communication goes a long way in every relationship, the other man might have been her first love and things just dint go their way, most guys and babes don't find it easy leaving their first love, all the same, she shouldn't let the past erode the present and future joy. All the same, talk to and with each other, God will help your home.
Like say love na beans. Don't be surprised if there is a chick somewhere having similar feelings about you. She'd get over him someday. That should not stop your love for her.
This sound touching! She actually married u cos she was jilted by her true love. Would advice u confront her. They say true love never dies! That's d case of ur wife.
Oga, maybe you are a poor man. Women don't love poor men unless they have no choice. Don't confront her. Work hard and make money. She will forget her ex when you become rich. Thanks
I can see that many men are retarded. You caught an unfaithful woman and you are asking us what to do. Anyway go and organize a big party and celebrate her. Mumu, I thought by now you would have chased her far away from you. It is because the today ladies understood many are Mumu that is why they dare the men. Maybe you don't know she will soon cause your death since you are not good enough for her.
Serves you right. Next time you mind your business. If she's not happy with you,she never showed it to you before. Now because of your busy body, you want to ruin a good relationship.
GOD BLESS THE PERSON THAT SAID THIS "NO BODY IN LIB SHOULD SAY CHILDISH THINGS ON THIS POST BCOS THIS IS FOR ADULT MINDS..IT IS A SENSITIVE ISSUE..AM MARRIED , I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. MY ADVICE: TELL HER WAT U SAW AND TELL HER YOU VE FORGIVEN HER..DONT FIGHT HER BCOS THERE'S NOTHIN YOU CAN DO..THIS IS A EMOTIONAL AND FEELINGS ISSUE.. SO JUST KEEP ON SHOWING HER GREAT LOVE..TAKE HER OUT..TEXT HER SWEET MESSAGES, MASSAGE HER ON WEEKENDS..SHE WILL DEFINITELY FORGET THAT MAN SERIOUSLY..SHE IS A HUMAN..SHE CAN STILL LOVE YOU OVER THAT MAN..BELIEVE ME..FROM AN EXPERIENCED MARRIED MAN WITH TWO KIDS" ALL YOU CHILDISH ONES SHOULD SHUTUP. I ADVICE YOU TO THIS, IT WOULD NOT BE NICE IF YOU GUYS GET SEPRATED. THANK YOU.
Don't die, because no woman or man is worth dying for. Do what she like best in this world, make her laugh so much on that day, help her forget any pain in life and at that moment of joy and laughter. Tell her sincerely that you love her and ask her if she feels the same. whatever she says then should be what you should hold on and the determinant of asking her about the text and her ex. Make her understand that checking her phone was what matter but what you saw. If she can lie to you on whether or not about how she feels about the guy should determine if she is worth the trouble.
If truly the ex is her first love then they are hard to forget. Only and only if you fill that space the ex created in her. You really need to know what it was like with her ex. Listen to her tell you about him and let her say her story with all the passion she wants to let out. If you love her then you will learn to fade that out of her life and when it leaves it will leave for eternity. I say this because I wore such shoes of ex love that couldn’t be, I still wear it and painfully it weighs me down because the marriage I have been in for 5 years it’s I shadow to me.
Don't die, because no woman or man is worth dying for. Do what she like best in this world, make her laugh so much on that day, help her forget any pain in life and at that moment of joy and laughter. Tell her sincerely that you love her and ask her if she feels the same. whatever she says then should be what you should hold on and the determinant of asking her about the text and her ex. Make her understand that checking her phone was what matter but what you saw. If she can lie to you on whether or not about how she feels about the guy should determine if she is worth the trouble. If truly the ex is her first love then they are hard to forget. Only and only if you fill that space the ex created in her. You really need to know what it was like with her ex. Listen to her tell you about him and let her say her story with all the passion she wants to let out. If you love her then you will learn to fade that out of her life and when it leaves it will leave for eternity. I say this because I wore such shoes of ex love that couldn’t be, I still wear it and painfully it weighs me down because the marriage I have been in for 5 years it’s I shadow to me.
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ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm. Confront her abt it, and try to show understabding, and maturity in dis matter.
DeleteLetting go d past does a lot of good bcos holding on to it brings wit it a lot of past memories dat hurts d hearts.
Most times dis tins wit ladies has to do wit communication issue they hav wit their hubby.
DeleteWhen a woman communicates frequently wit her hubby concerning certain issues it goes a long way to mak her love d man dearly.
So hubby luv ur wife dearrly, and also creat d room to communicate wit each other concerning ur feelings.
Confront her cheating is not only when someone sleeps with another she is already cheating with him in her heart ur jus stepping stone to what she hope for one day she will fuck him and that's if she is not already fucking him don't forgive her if you be ready to buy shock absorbers more on d way
ReplyDeleteTake heart bro
ReplyDeleteDon't confront her, women are good with twisting words deceitfully.
ReplyDeleteI'd not know the cause of someone going back to his/her ex. It's disheartening to read stories like this... If y'all know u want to be with him by all means and in the long run it didn't work out, why not stay single for the rest of your life rather than hurt another persons feeling. It's just so dumb!
ReplyDeleteTell them
DeleteNow you know. That's better than fantasies.
ReplyDeleteIf na man phone them seethis message. We no go hear word agin for this life
ReplyDeleteI usually don't comment on LIB..but i had to address this...i think u need to win her over...the fact that you are married to her does'nt translate to automatic love..people say i do for various reasons...you need to get to the innermost part of heart...i know it hurt but getting heartbroken isn't the solution
ReplyDeleteThis has been the only reasonable comment so far. Nice one @truevinemedia.
DeleteYou're a moron. If it were the other way now, we'd hear things like "divorce his sorry ass" "dump him". You're indirectly putting the blame on him sef. Rubbish!
DeleteEhya, sorry abt that bro. It's just a thought n I think it's not that serious
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Don't worry.
ReplyDeleteLinda has told her. After she's done reading it here, she will come to you.
Na xo..... Linda don tell am truely
DeleteYou need to confront her o.....you need to know where you stand and why she is with you if her heart is with someone else. You have an equal right to being happy
ReplyDeleteLmao! Funny d part he said so it mean shes not happy with me? Sorry oh take heart. She needs to be called to order asap! B4 u know it de'll do hotel reservation. Ehee naa!
ReplyDeleteYou have taken a rare stance on this issue (reconcilatory). Approach her like you have LIB readers and tell her you understand and would like her to "move on" with you. A lot of women never forget their first love (which sometimes is their true love).
ReplyDeleteThat is not a big deal. She wanted closure. Let's hope they are both of matured minds and not pursue it further
ReplyDeleteu satisfied ur urge to peek.....see it to the end.
ReplyDeleteIt's really sad, but you still have to confront her, about the issue, and hear what she will say.But just calm down. It's really wrong of her, she shouldn't have married you if she felt that way about her ex.Talk it over.
ReplyDeleteThis woman is a killer even after getting married to her. when you confront her she will say it is the devil. I am sure the guy must have good money the is why your so called wife is still longing to be with him. She must love money so much and since you don't have enough to satisfy her she will always go out to meet other men who have. Try to watch her she will probably be going out with other guys who have money. She is in love with money and nothing else.
ReplyDeleteJust let it go.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pains bro. I have been in your position before and i knew how it was to pass through this scenerio. Just dnt ask her. Let it go. Becos if you ask her,it will bring more hurts than now.allow it sly. We all have first love and last love. Take heart bro and be the man that speaks less and act more. Never go near her phone again cos it will only get you hurt. Thanks
ReplyDeleteE yeahhh. Sorry is ur name. But I wonder why love birds dont finally get married to each other? Na wah oo
ReplyDeleteWhen you snoop you must find. Nigerian women are also not smiling .
ReplyDeleteConfront her!She is your wife!
ReplyDeleteDont know what to say.
ReplyDeletejacksoninem@yahoo.com
I wish I had better words for you bro, but just focus on the life that you both have started (I mean your son) give him the best of parenting you can muster and as for your wife, better bring that to the table. Talk about the whole thing and work a way out, your children shouldn't experience a broken home.
ReplyDeleteI think I am FTC yaay!!!!
Hmmmmmm *lips are sealed*
ReplyDeleteTruly heartbroken. Anyways, I believed once a man or women is married; all contact with exes should be avoided or else it brings back the old mutual feelings in such exes which could even lead to cheating n adultery. Well, If it were me; I will make her fairytale come true by chasing her out of my home. So she could go back to her ex n not wait for another lifetime.
ReplyDeleteThis sucks...
ReplyDeleteFeel bad for you bro. Talk to her. That is the only way you will know what to do.
Take it easy.
Pele the truth is most women go into marriage knowing de don't luv their partner wrong ones love u right
ReplyDeletePele the truth is most women go into marriage knowing de don't luv their partner wrong ones love u right
ReplyDeletePele the truth is most women go into marriage knowing de don't luv their partner wrong ones love u right
ReplyDeleteMy dear jst chiil
ReplyDeleteYou love her when you let her go
ReplyDeleteJust that??? Mtsheewww. . .. don't come here again to disturb us.
ReplyDeleteOh Wow...
ReplyDeleteMy sympathy goes with U. Just be very careful cos women go through alot of emotional/psychological changes that men wuld never understand. If you want 2dicuss it please do all in your power to see her as a friend going through somfin so be as loving as can be wif yur approach. Do not tell anyone U both know/friends/family of it or U would become fully to blame for the outcome.
Love is love, if she ever was honest about loving him before she wit U, then that should last forever even without speaking to him for decades, the issue here now is to find out what is igniting her to NEED him in her life right now.
.....anywayz, i wish You all the best.
Wow! Daz bad really..try n ask her so u hear 4rum her simple
ReplyDeleteWhat a pity.
ReplyDeleteBros..that's women for you
ReplyDeleteBro retaliate,revenge is the sweetest joy,hook up with your ex aswell or any girl that got crush on u,make her feel jealous
ReplyDeleteSo U didn't see d warning signs while U guys were dating?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it's just 2yrs, you guys have a child who still has time to adjust to separation, call it quits.
Good for u, puknoser
ReplyDeleteLol....
ReplyDeleteMaybe u ain't treating her right, confront her and hear what she has to say.
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I checked my galfrnds phone, and it still hunts me till now. Girls are girls, never trust any. Engr Emy
ReplyDeleteThat is a woman for u...Honestly I've got some ex-girlfriends married now. They still profess luv n even still try arranging hook ups with me privately. I've always turned them down as it got me thinking if my wife wuld also be doing same to someone. Best advice...don't drop ur guards for any woman. Expect anything from them as they are the best pretenders
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ReplyDeleteI thought u had died..?? Y confront her again??
ReplyDeleteNext time u leave ur hands in ur pocket.. It's better to know less my brother.
#expectanythingfromhumans
That is a woman for u...Honestly I've got some ex-girlfriends married now. They still profess luv n even still try arranging hook ups with me privately. I've always turned them down as it got me thinking if my wife wuld also be doing same to someone. Best advice...don't drop ur guards for any woman. Expect anything from them as they are the best pretenders
ReplyDeleteNO BODY IN LIB SHOULD SAY CHILDISH THINGS ON THIS POST BCOS THIS IS FOR ADULT MINDS..IT IS A SENSITIVE ISSUE..AM MARRIED , I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. MY ADVICE: TELL HER WAT U SAW AND TELL HER YOU VE FORGIVEN HER..DONT FIGHT HER BCOS THERE'S NOTHIN YOU CAN DO..THIS IS A EMOTIONAL AND FEELINGS ISSUE.. SO JUST KEEP ON SHOWING HER GREAT LOVE..TAKE HER OUT..TEXT HER SWEET MESSAGES, MASSAGE HER ON WEEKENDS..SHE WILL DEFINITELY FORGET THAT MAN SERIOUSLY..SHE IS A HUMAN..SHE CAN STILL LOVE YOU OVER THAT MAN..BELIEVE ME..FROM AN EXPERIENCED MARRIED MAN WITH TWO KIDS.
ReplyDeleteEhya! I pity you o, bcos she's ready to cheat on you if her ex consents to it. I'll advice you to have a discussion on this issue with her, to know if she truly loves you enough to continue with the marriage or not. I bet you as long as she's still in love with her ex, my dear your marriage is at stake. I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteEhya! I pity you o, bcos she's ready to cheat on you if her ex consents to it. I'll advice you to have a discussion on this issue with her, to know if she truly loves you enough to continue with the marriage or not. I bet you as long as she's still in love with her ex, my dear your marriage is at stake. I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteThis is not an issue...I even thought they would be sleeping together. He should also remember that he has a past as well and sometimes it's not easy to let go.
ReplyDeleteDat means she married u out of pity No love @all wht a heartbroken man I pity u
ReplyDeleteif u died u wouldnt have write this...checking her phone was a fatal error...so next time,in you next world,stay clear
ReplyDeleteEya,.
ReplyDeleteHeart broken for you, too, bro!
ReplyDeleteWell, you've got no choice but to man up and confront her with your discover...
But do so when you are much calmer and in a warmer mental frame...
Cheers...
Sorry oga
ReplyDeleteI feel you pain
But marriage is for better for worse, try talking to her.
What do u expect bro! U married tokunbo and expect untouched engine, don't you know she married out of convenience not love, she needed a partner not emotional attached hubby so deal with it, you are just emotional dumping grounds, when next u are about to check others phone think twice, mind you I'm a guy like you!
ReplyDeleteSorry.. She might not be serious about it and its beta u ask her before dis creates a big distance and crashed d marriage..
ReplyDeleteLol.. These hoes ain't loyal
ReplyDeleteLmaoo.....i just can't help laughing cos m just doing exactly dis ish now...mine is sex..not satisfied but ex is machine now m gonna clear d message b4 boo ego finishes
ReplyDeleteYou brought the heartbreak upon urself...
ReplyDeleteI feel for u gaskiya...I feel like that about my husband too. Their is always the love of ur life somewhere not always ones married partner. But know this, it doesn't mean she loves u not but her heart wanted the other.
ReplyDeleteI am team snoop...I don't care what I see
ReplyDeleteI am 100% team snoop
@Galore
Thank God He is still alive. Some didn't leave to tell their stories. God save Men.
ReplyDeleteShe need help to over come her past relationship. She ain't bad, seek counseling.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with checking your spouse's phone,.. she's your WIFE. Just sad you had to see what you saw. The thing that moved you to check the phone did not start that day, the way i see it, the trust issue had been brewing over time and you just wanted to confirm what your gut had been trying to tell you. My advice: confront her about it and find a way to make it work because passing judgement and acting rashly will only lead to more regret. You are already in the marriage for better or worse.. and well, this is the worse part.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck.
P.S: Im no relationship expert and im not even married.. this is just my 2cents and you dont have to heed. Do what u feel is right.
Snooping kills faster dan cancer. Be warned o. Take heart sir
ReplyDeleteNaa u go find trouble by snoopin! Wat u dnt knw won't kill u.
ReplyDeleteGuy man na 1chance u enter so I no go lie u. Quite a pity sha. Only God can guarantee a good wife or husband. D rest are bunch of fakes.
ReplyDeleteGuy man na 1chance u enter so I no go lie u. Quite a pity sha. Only God can guarantee a good wife or husband. D rest are bunch of fakes.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaah I cnt Stop laffing ; Bro so u'v been a great abeleje yan for 2years evn thu u gat the fish in ur possession ??? So h@brkn ...
ReplyDeleteLife is hard but which ever way it turns up, we must live it, it still sounds awful to me everytime I hear pple say couples shldn't go through their fones, in my head, I have a picture of how I want my marriage to be & not being free to check my hubby's fone or my hubby doing same isn't part of it but ofcos, one man's food is another man's poison.. Find the right time to confront her abt it & also find it in ur hrt to forgive her, let go & move on.
ReplyDeleteHope the Ladies always saying Cheating is a Man thing on this blog get to see this Story. It is really sickening remaining with such woman. I can imagine Your Pain Bro.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is You follow your Mind.
I THINK IT"S REALLY BITCHY OF HER
It is sometimes like that, don't be heartbroken. Take heart and show her more love than you have
ReplyDeletepele but i think you should still talk to her.
ReplyDeletepele but i think you should still talk to her.
ReplyDeletehe must have seen the signs when they were dating but ignored it.
ReplyDeleteSorry dawg! Lesson learnt: never snoop around your spouse like an alley cat cos alley cats get killed errytime! Back to advise, wait till a moment u can articulate your feelings calmly without being agitated. I'm sure it can be resolved without bitterness. But please don't keep it locked up in your head cos the consequences can be lethal!! #Joshe
ReplyDeleteSnooping kills faster dan cancer. Be warned o. Take heart sir
ReplyDeleteawwwww.....I feel you...so painful....That your wife no try at all......No need for comfrontation jor.....
ReplyDeleteMoye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB......
This post will gather enough comments so let me type shap shap and post.
ReplyDeleteSuch similar case in with 90% men today. Women settle for those that want to marry them, not those they love.
And we men keep wasting our love on some one who about 1 TB memory of secrets.
Okay.
ReplyDeleteYou just have to talk to her. I'm a single lady,yeah and sometimes feel the need to get closure from an ex even though I'm dating. It doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend but just wanted to get off all that happened with the ex. I mean he used to be someone I loved and I can't just start hating him. It doesn't work that way..
Talk to her in all sincerity and ask questions...just be ready for anything at all,it's all gonna worth it..at the end.
You're hurt alright but don't hurt her while trying to know what the issue is.
I wish you what God has planned.
Mide
A woman knows whr her heart belongs. She might be happy wit u and love u but there might be someone who tickles her fancy more.
ReplyDeleteAwwww Pele ooo
ReplyDeleteY u go check her phone,u wan kill ur self ni. The day I checked my hubby's phone I nearly passed out but tank God I did not and I vowed never to touch it again, please don't try dat it can give u high BP
ReplyDeleteEeyaa you have to talk to her,make her understand that you will love her more than her ex and you'll never hurt her. It won't be easy cos she already gave her soul to her ex but with time,she'll get over him and face reality.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry poster,this doesn't mean she is not in love with you,you have to make her forget about that guy,but be rest assured that It will not be easy.
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She is a yeye woman, pls don't read her phone again so that you won't commit suicide
ReplyDeleteJust poison her pls.
ReplyDeleteChoiiii... I can't even shout.. Probably shouldn't have gone through her phone.. but you should speak with her and tell you are heartbroken because tbvh I don't see you guys lasting
ReplyDeleteChoiiii... I can't even shout.. Probably shouldn't have gone through her phone.. but you should speak with her and tell you are heartbroken because tbvh I don't see you guys lasting
ReplyDeleteSorry but call your wife to order and let her know you love her n care about her
ReplyDeleteHehehehe! Deadi body dey talk??? My brother sorry o! I hope you recover from the shock. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteOkiie, notice to all LIBERs. Didn't want to do dis before but I gex I just have to do it as a disclaimer. One idiot on dis blog stole my identity, my name & signage. So please any negative comments on dis blog is not coming from me but from the thief cos I would neva say anything bad about someone or wish anyone evil. So I have gone back to using my old pix & my email address is (julie3er@gmail.com). Linda take note!
Is a pity
ReplyDeleteI feel your pains
So sorry oooooooooooo
You and Toke should take heart
Is well
You and Toke should take heart
ReplyDeletePls Libers, i'm in need of a job. I'm relatively jobless at the moment and of which i have loads of responsibilities on me. May God grant your heart desire as you help me.
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ReplyDelete*Linda's best friend*
Wow really sad,I feel ur pains bro#but like they say YOUR FIRST LOVE IS ALWAYS YOUR TRUE LOVE#jstpassinsha#
ReplyDeleteMy dear friend, you need her love to love yourself. It is her regret and not yours. If she does not let her woes affect your relationship with her... you have no problem but it does then I'll advise you to be of good cheer, take care of your heart and someone will come to care for you. Trust me... I know what it feels like to be just a replacement and available option after rejection.
ReplyDeleteSo painful indead!
ReplyDeleteU asked for it man, so man d F up and ask her. I am very fragile and over emotional, can't do what u did. My life matters to me and those who love.
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteSuch a pity you are a spare tire, my dear! Many of us find ourselves in the situation of being with someone who does not love us, rather if they were given the chance, they would be with someone else. The other guy has rejected her because he is loves with someone else and as a result she was left alone being a single mother. At that point, you came into the surface and loved her with her child and concluded in marrying her. Unfortunately, your wife does not reciprocate the love you have for her, rather she fakes it and if she does not come out of the closet, this will bring unnecessary frustration into the marriage and she will cheat or leave at the first opportunity. Don't be a doormat and confront her!
This is really sad indeed. Hmmmm... (speechless)
ReplyDeleteSure dat woman will still sleep wit her ex if shez give n opportunity... dee
ReplyDeleteEhya sowie
ReplyDeleteI can imagine. I don't bother going through my GF's phone.. Don't wanna have a cardiac arrest.
ReplyDeleteLinda cogitate
mtcheeew..I thought you saw her naked with another man,u better no kill yourself
ReplyDeleteEYAH!!!! GBAFOLORUN.CO.UK IN YOUR NEXT LIFE DON'T EVER TRESSPASS YOUR BOUNDARIES.
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity. This is the worst thing that will happen in a marriage. U have to discuss with ur wife to know what's in her mind.
ReplyDeleteAsk Toke
ReplyDeleteAsk Toke
ReplyDeleteEhya sowie
ReplyDeleteToke will tell you what to do
ReplyDeleteU got what u were looking for,now the truth will set u free
ReplyDeleteAww dis is painful I feel ur pain bro! I guess she married u just for marrying sake cos I can see from ur statement that she married u but her heart is elsewhere, I hope God wil turn her heart around, bcos heart of men/women is in God's hand
ReplyDeleteSorry. But forget am bros she GATS Love for u too. As far she no change attitude towards U #Lobatan
ReplyDeleteToke can help you
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!!sorry ooo
ReplyDeleteI am sorry man, but the truth is you have to understand women love differently from men! This woman loved and had a baby with this man and probably will go to her grave loving him, all you can do is feel lucky that she ended up with you and show her that she is a fool to still carry a torch for her ex, make yourself the new love of her life. Do not see this as a set back but a challenge, win her heart and crush the memories of her ex.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you go through her phone? I'm sure if goes through your phone too, she would die twice.
ReplyDeleteSAD
ReplyDeleteThis is a though one, and my heart really goes out to you. However it is not the end of the world, neither should it be the end of your marriage. I don't see anything wrong in checking your wife's phone in the first place, because the two of you are meant to be one, and nothing is meant to be hidden. I check my wife's phone once in a while, not because I don't trust her, but just for the fun of it and vice versa. To keep quite will do you no good, as you will be eaten up with insecurity and jealousy. Am sure you are not ignorant of this past relationship; and that is what it is, in the past. We all have a past, the challenge is not to let our past hinder our present and future however it takes time to get over some things but your wife needs to severe every contact she has with her ex, and that is why you need to confront her with it.
ReplyDeleteYou both need to sit down face to face and she needs to make a commitment to give her all to you. Tell her how hurt you are, and be ready to forgive. It is well.
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Start sucking her pussy
ReplyDeleteShe will get over the other guy
Start sucking her pussy
ReplyDeleteShe will get over the other guy
That one neva reach make u die na...av u checked ur spouses fone and found erotic txt msgs btwn her and a married man?..telling him she cant wait to come tear her apart....DATS DIE!!!...lol
ReplyDeleteShow her more love
ReplyDeletepele, take heart..you should confront her, tell her she doesnt have to be with you if that is d way she feels.
ReplyDeleteI can understand dat, it indeed hrt broken,....... Let u two talk abt it, cuz it beta aleast u will gt it off ur mind....
ReplyDeleteSorry
ReplyDeleteDont be like dt. My exboyfriend felt d same way abt me. I rejected & kept rejecting him, even a day till he married his wife. I also later got married. He has children wt his wife but kps calling me(his married ex) & wanting me. Truth is our marriage wld have bn hell cos i know him & i know myself perfectly. My husband is d right one for me. Dt is probably what her exboyfriend also thinks.
ReplyDeleteThese feelings are delusions in her mind & her mind only & are not real. Forgive & tell her it hurts u. Move on wt ur goals & ur life but dont withdraw emotionally, she will eventually wake up from her fantasy slumber.
Eyya sori
ReplyDeletei hate women thats why i crush them any how
ReplyDeleteTHIS HAPPENS A LOT. SEEMS YOU WERE USED AS "PLAN B". DON'T THINK THERE IS ANYTHING YOU CAN DO COS YOU WILL ALWAYS BE COMPARED TO THE OTHER GUY IN EVERYTHING & YOU MAY NEVER MEASURE UP.
ReplyDeleteTHE REALITY OF LIFE.
ReplyDeleteYOUR MARRIAGE WILL NEVER WORK BECAUSE HER MIND IS SOMEWHERE ELSE. IT'S A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW BUT THE REALITY IS THE SOONER THIS UNION IS OBLITERATED AND YOU MOVE ON THE BETTER. BUT WHAT OF THE CHILD, UNFORTUNATELY HE WILL SUFFER MORE BECAUSE HE WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND TO TH OTHER LOVE CHILD YOUR WIFE HAD WITH HER EX. LIFE IS PAINFUL, BUTYOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL ACCEPT YOU.
ReplyDeleteNa who send you? OYO is your case.
ReplyDeleteAm always on the side of not checking ur spouses phones or wanting to know all her secrets,but hmmm didn't you know she wasn't happy with you b4 u took her to the alter,and for your wife,she dey craze?for the man to live her for another woman means he doesn't want nd have theat rel love on her
ReplyDeleteBros, This is a wake up call to a sleeping man. Life and marriage is not a do or die thing. This is substantial evidence for me to know i am walking in the valley of the shadow of death. With this evidence, i dont care if we have been married 20 years, she can never get the best of me NO MORE...
ReplyDeleteMy dear, chill. An average lady may say that, but trust me when I say, she doesn't mean it. She's just *washing* her ex.
ReplyDeleteAwww....sorry for your heartbreak....I understand your pain. Really though, it doesn't mean she is not happy with you, it just means she's wondering what her life would have been like if she was married to her ex. Sometimes, we humans like to dwell in the 'what if' aspect of our lives. I think that you should tell her your concerns and hear what she has to say. Also, I think you guys should also talk about areas of dissatisfaction you have in your marriage and working towards making them better. All the best.
ReplyDeleteTnk God U made a gud Lead as U wrote d story... Xo stick to it... Neva check Ur spouse's phone d nxt tym... Did I Just Comment ???
ReplyDeleteBro. you don't need to be heart broken over this. Remember " that their son is a remainder of a great love that could have been but never was."
ReplyDeleteProbably that man was her first love and things like this do happen. If you really love her, you should concentrate on making her happy so she can never think of that man again. Try to understand her and listen to her complaints. Try doing the little things that make her happy.
Enjoy your life together.
hian, ds one na gobe ooh
ReplyDeleteMy brother u said u opened her phone and died ? Then u don't need any advice jooorr after all dead men have no need for such things, anyways my brother ull have to pray for her regularly, expose her to some teachings on marriage and books + videos of some credible men of God like Pst Sam Adeyemi, Pst. Mathew Ashemolowo,late Bimbo odukoya , Pst. Sam Iheanacho etc, then make sure u show her extra ordinary love constantly.. Win her heart cos the guy she is talking about must have once done somethings to her so pls formatt the old memory and install new programs, then if all this still doesn't work ull have to have plenty patience and endurance and after she is very soaked in the marriage with say 4kids she ll never remember that her ex cos she ll be too busy loving u and her kids trust me.. But for now don't confront her , don't use force some years lera she ll get to knoe that u long knew all this yet u still loved her while she was busy loving another man, then it ll be to ur credit..... For jesus loved us even while we were yet sinners.... If not that she is ur wife an average person ll tell u to allow her go and live with her ex for just a month then she ll realize how special u are but pls don't try it except u want to die again ,... Hahahaha #Oyego !! Linda return my ring !!
ReplyDeleteMy brother u said u opened her phone and died ? Then u don't need any advice jooorr after all dead men have no need for such things, anyways my brother ull have to pray for her regularly, expose her to some teachings on marriage and books + videos of some credible men of God like Pst Sam Adeyemi, Pst. Mathew Ashemolowo,late Bimbo odukoya , Pst. Sam Iheanacho etc, then make sure u show her extra ordinary love constantly.. Win her heart cos the guy she is talking about must have once done somethings to her so pls formatt the old memory and install new programs, then if all this still doesn't work ull have to have plenty patience and endurance and after she is very soaked in the marriage with say 4kids she ll never remember that her ex cos she ll be too busy loving u and her kids trust me.. But for now don't confront her , don't use force some years lera she ll get to knoe that u long knew all this yet u still loved her while she was busy loving another man, then it ll be to ur credit..... For jesus loved us even while we were yet sinners.... If not that she is ur wife an average person ll tell u to allow her go and live with her ex for just a month then she ll realize how special u are but pls don't try it except u want to die again ,... Hahahaha #Oyego !! Linda return my ring !!
ReplyDeleteSend the foolish woman on her way. It is this sort of nonsense that annoys me. Women will make themselves out to be the most innocent people in the world and then publicize their victim status when a man does anything to them. When you people will be begging them morning afternoon and night, how won't a woman marry a man as second option? It is clear that she married you to answer Mrs. XXX and her real love is still in the market. I tell men, if a woman is not 100% loyal, its not worth it. Don't become putty filler in another man's building.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain. The fact is that not everyone got married to their first love. shez just been emotional or maybe the ex wants to eat the forbidden fruit of another man. Either way caution her about it but don't take it to heart.
ReplyDeleteSo so painfull
ReplyDeleteU should comfort urself first b4 thinking of comforting her and I also think u should ask her about the text but apologize first for going through her phone
ReplyDeleteyou should have known better not to check a woman's phone! you were suspicion of her, and now that you have verified the facts that she's not giving you "her all", things will hardly remain the same....
ReplyDeletehmmm.... omashe o
ReplyDeleteThis is a heavy heart matter.
May the Lord give you wisdom and peace.
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ReplyDeleteAwww I feel for u..
ReplyDeleteHuman beings always think the grass is greener on the other side. if she had married her ex, she would be saying the same to another ex!
ReplyDeleteThis is deep! You need to confront her near cheating ass. Who knows if they're not even sleeping with each other. Control that woman
ReplyDeleteSo ur a Substitute 4d rEaL thinG..sorrY O
ReplyDeleteOMG. This is really touching hmmm seek God's divine wisdom to confront her.
ReplyDeleteTerrible hmm I advise you seek God's divine wisdom to confront her
ReplyDeleteit takes time for a lady to get over such feelings, she need your love and time, she might still say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. so i encourage you to still love and care for her, don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but you will enjoy it afterwards. thanks
ReplyDeleteWhen u realize that women generally have issues bigger than themselves u'd almost never take any woman serious relationship wise. Women cheat way more than men in every aspect they r good @ hiding it n r never sincere about it even if u catch em red handed. Men cheat openly and they are almost neva good @ hiding it. I once lived with 4 different females for months and it totally opened my eyes to the women folk. @ d end of d day if u decide to judge every woman/man because others in ur past haven't been truthful u'd probably b d biggest twat that ever existed.
ReplyDeleteMan that's rough. I can Imagine how much it'll tear you up inside. You have to realise though, you deserve better than a woman who is settling for you. You should confront her about it and let her know that you know. And then you should dump her ass.
ReplyDeleteThat bitch doesn't deserve you as her husband. If her heart is with someone else, why is she wasting your time and confessing fake love to you. There are lots of them around, bunch of hypocrites everywhere.
ReplyDeleteI know my wife will see this and she will know I'm the one. Flirty around with married men in the name of having personal discussions.
Make we dey form fake love dey go now....
Keep/store/save the text as evidence and file for a divorce...the convo btw her and her ex will serve as grounds so she won't get any of ur properties... conduct a DNA test for the child u have together to ascertain if its yours or not... Believe me...if u stick with her YOU will never be happy. some women can be sinister...likewise men
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm! so you want us to tell you to confront her, then what?you answered yourself don't go through your spouses phone.
ReplyDeleteOturugbeke! Snooping gone sour! Oga sorry o! But u men send raunchy msges to una side chic all d time and una wives dey see am and dem never die.. So deal with it and stop whining..
ReplyDeleteOturugbeke! Snooping gone sour! Oga sorry o! But u men send raunchy msges to una side chic all d time and una wives dey see am and dem never die.. So deal with it and stop whining..
ReplyDeleteChai...confront her
ReplyDeletePlz don't wake up o
ReplyDeleteits hard for some ladies to get over such feelings, but i encourage u to still love and care for her, i believe that one day shes gonna say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but i promise you that you will so gonna enjoy it much later. thanks
ReplyDeleteits hard for some ladies to get over such feelings, but i encourage u to still love and care for her, i believe that one day shes gonna say that you are the best thing that has happened to her. don't push her but allow her to get over it on her own. it will hurt now but i promise you that you will so gonna enjoy it much later. thanks
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately this is a story that re - occurs like 98% of the time. I should know. I have heard stories. And have had a personal experience. I saw something similar when I looked through my wife's phone (i will never do that again by the way. Not worth it). Guess what, man up. Don't show any sign of weakness. None whatsoever. Relationships are "balances of power"; you should always maintain the equilibrium that puts you in control. Guess what I did? I woke her up in middle of the night one evening. Told her I saw this and that. Told her she's welcome to follow her dream man if that's what she wants
ReplyDeleteBut that she should kindly give me at least 6 months advance notice whenever she wants to make the move to enable me make alternative arrangements. I said this in a matter of fact voice. No anger. No emotions. That was 6 years ago. We are still married.
Your comment made me comment on LIB though am addicted. Very cerebral and smart move. Reverse Psychology at its best
DeleteBros, you can ask your wife about it, communication goes a long way in every relationship, the other man might have been her first love and things just dint go their way, most guys and babes don't find it easy leaving their first love, all the same, she shouldn't let the past erode the present and future joy. All the same, talk to and with each other, God will help your home.
ReplyDeleteFam, what you do not know would not kill you. Why in the world would you check your spouses phone? Its uncalled for.....
ReplyDeleteso painful
ReplyDeleteLmao.. Good for u
ReplyDeleteLike say love na beans.
ReplyDeleteDon't be surprised if there is a chick somewhere having similar feelings about you.
She'd get over him someday.
That should not stop your love for her.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Lord knws if i was yu i will just dump her ass no tym abeg.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Them bitches rarely get over thier exes!
ReplyDeleteThis sound touching! She actually married u cos she was jilted by her true love. Would advice u confront her. They say true love never dies! That's d case of ur wife.
ReplyDeletethat woman those not deserve u,if u love your self leave her
ReplyDeleteOh my! Stop snooping!
ReplyDeleteOga, maybe you are a poor man. Women don't love poor men unless they have no choice.
ReplyDeleteDon't confront her. Work hard and make money. She will forget her ex when you become rich. Thanks
Their marriage would soon collapse because the man would start spotting the wrong doing of the wife or start suspecting her. May God help you
ReplyDeleteIts such a sorry case..
ReplyDeleteBeen In such position before,
well I'll make sure my next relationship is
real and genuine
ReplyDeleteGOOD ADVICE,BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT MOST LADIES ARE GUILTY OF GOING THROUGH MEN'S PHONES AND ITEMS,SEARCHING FOR EVIDENCE OF CHEATING.
ANDY
Nawa ooo....if u don't love sm1, y get married to them and hurt them? Mtcheeeeew. Ijay.+O
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm thinking real hard👏
ReplyDeleteNext time dont check your wife's phone.
ReplyDelete#Smile
I can see that many men are retarded. You caught an unfaithful woman and you are asking us what to do. Anyway go and organize a big party and celebrate her. Mumu, I thought by now you would have chased her far away from you. It is because the today ladies understood many are Mumu that is why they dare the men. Maybe you don't know she will soon cause your death since you are not good enough for her.
ReplyDeleteServes you right. Next time you mind your business. If she's not happy with you,she never showed it to you before. Now because of your busy body, you want to ruin a good relationship.
ReplyDeleteI just dey pass through ni oooo linda
GOD BLESS THE PERSON THAT SAID THIS "NO BODY IN LIB SHOULD SAY CHILDISH THINGS ON THIS POST BCOS THIS IS FOR ADULT MINDS..IT IS A SENSITIVE ISSUE..AM MARRIED , I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. MY ADVICE: TELL HER WAT U SAW AND TELL HER YOU VE FORGIVEN HER..DONT FIGHT HER BCOS THERE'S NOTHIN YOU CAN DO..THIS IS A EMOTIONAL AND FEELINGS ISSUE.. SO JUST KEEP ON SHOWING HER GREAT LOVE..TAKE HER OUT..TEXT HER SWEET MESSAGES, MASSAGE HER ON WEEKENDS..SHE WILL DEFINITELY FORGET THAT MAN SERIOUSLY..SHE IS A HUMAN..SHE CAN STILL LOVE YOU OVER THAT MAN..BELIEVE ME..FROM AN EXPERIENCED MARRIED MAN WITH TWO KIDS" ALL YOU CHILDISH ONES SHOULD SHUTUP. I ADVICE YOU TO THIS, IT WOULD NOT BE NICE IF YOU GUYS GET SEPRATED. THANK YOU.
ReplyDeleteDon't die, because no woman or man is worth dying for. Do what she like best in this world, make her laugh so much on that day, help her forget any pain in life and at that moment of joy and laughter. Tell her sincerely that you love her and ask her if she feels the same. whatever she says then should be what you should hold on and the determinant of asking her about the text and her ex. Make her understand that checking her phone was what matter but what you saw. If she can lie to you on whether or not about how she feels about the guy should determine if she is worth the trouble.
ReplyDeleteIf truly the ex is her first love then they are hard to forget. Only and only if you fill that space the ex created in her. You really need to know what it was like with her ex. Listen to her tell you about him and let her say her story with all the passion she wants to let out. If you love her then you will learn to fade that out of her life and when it leaves it will leave for eternity. I say this because I wore such shoes of ex love that couldn’t be, I still wear it and painfully it weighs me down because the marriage I have been in for 5 years it’s I shadow to me.
Don't die, because no woman or man is worth dying for. Do what she like best in this world, make her laugh so much on that day, help her forget any pain in life and at that moment of joy and laughter. Tell her sincerely that you love her and ask her if she feels the same. whatever she says then should be what you should hold on and the determinant of asking her about the text and her ex. Make her understand that checking her phone was what matter but what you saw. If she can lie to you on whether or not about how she feels about the guy should determine if she is worth the trouble.
ReplyDeleteIf truly the ex is her first love then they are hard to forget. Only and only if you fill that space the ex created in her. You really need to know what it was like with her ex. Listen to her tell you about him and let her say her story with all the passion she wants to let out. If you love her then you will learn to fade that out of her life and when it leaves it will leave for eternity. I say this because I wore such shoes of ex love that couldn’t be, I still wear it and painfully it weighs me down because the marriage I have been in for 5 years it’s I shadow to me.